How To Love Yourself as an INTP | Ep 523

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@Personalityhacker 11 ай бұрын

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@KK-mf7we 10 ай бұрын

I love myself when I harmonise my passion with opportunities to create a meaningful project or goal, then automatically I stick to an unbreakable discipline. Excitement takes over. I found my potential with the help of my INTJ friend (my daughter). They are amazing in strategising our potential. In theory I should be able to show love to myself when I stop being nervous around people by sticking to basics becasue I beat up myself for almost everything.

@foday529 11 ай бұрын

Si keeps you humbled. Keeps your ego in check. Moves you from being a talker to a doer or a person who prototype your ideas when you want to show people or talk about it. It lets you prove the usefulness, importance, and function of your ideas. It lets you see if your ideas will solve or fix the problem you trying to solve. I now see the dynamic between Ne and Si. When we prototype an idea we do it to prove the validity of it to ourselves (Ne) and to people (Si) when we show it to "said" people while talking about it. We ask them while asking them "what do you think " to win their validation. A less mature INTP will talk about their ideas to seek validation and approval but a mature INTP will prototype the idea and show it. Also a mature INTP will refrain from from talking about their ideas before they prototype it to prevent people from seeing them as someone that as a talker not a doer. I think the dynamic between Ti and Fe makes the INTP Independent but you also have to not be too independent. The INTP has to leave the house and go out and mingle and push themselves to get in a good intimate relationship and not a codependent one, if a girl plays hard to get by walking away and expecting me to chase her I let her go. If a girl does not play mind games and has the quality I value, like niceness, I make the effort to nurture a relationship.

@jamestoffee 10 ай бұрын

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: Self-observation and proving oneself contribute to self-love by acknowledging accomplishments. Self-love isn't earned but freely given; it's important to maintain a healthy relationship with oneself. Self-love entails removing obstacles to feeling love rather than earning it, embracing love as a continuous flow. Understanding and setting appropriate expectations for oneself is crucial in fostering self-love. INTPs can cultivate self-love by optimizing their cognitive functions, particularly introverted thinking (accuracy), through rigorous logic and skill development. Refining processes, questioning assumptions, and applying skills can boost self-confidence and contribute to self-love for INTPs. 19:54 *Lack of motivation and focus in INTPs can indicate a lack of optimization in their introverted thinking or accuracy function.* 20:36 *Introverted thinking or accuracy is crucial for INTPs as it forms a significant part of their self-definition and how they relate to the world.* 24:03 *The auxiliary function of extroverted intuition, or exploration, allows INTPs to see possibilities, patterns, and new connections in the world, often expressing parental energy in helping others.* 26:48 *INTPs contribute to society not only through their thinking process but also through their intuition, often envisioning possibilities and innovative solutions.* 29:31 *INTPs experience greater self-love by serving others with their auxiliary function or by self-parenting with it, acknowledging their potential and accepting their own weirdness.* 30:54 *The tertiary function of introverted sensing, or memory, helps INTPs track changes over time, seek comfort, and maintain routines, but may seek validation externally due to uncertainty.* 36:31 *Balancing both the auxiliary function of exploration and the tertiary function of memory is crucial for INTPs to manifest their ideas into reality and increase their competence.* 39:45 *Intuition (exploration) in INTPs seeks potential and application, not just information consumption.* 41:21 *INTPs may fear being judged as too weird or irresponsible, hindering self-confidence.* 42:16 *Integrating introverted sensing with intuition creates a "Transcendent function," easing fears of judgment and promoting self-love.* 44:08 *Extroverted feeling (Harmony) is the INTP's weak spot, causing deep uncertainty and self-doubt.* 51:20 *Accepting uncertainty in extroverted feeling, while still striving for competence, is crucial for self-love in INTPs.* 55:03 *Integrating extroverted feeling enables INTPs to avoid unhealthy relationships, fostering self-respect and confidence.* 58:47 *Actions, not just self-talk, are essential for INTPs to demonstrate self-love and build self-esteem.* 59:46: Setting boundaries in relationships is an act of self-love, demonstrating the importance of reasonable expectations and forgiveness. 01:00:00: Forgiving oneself for past mistakes and taking action to remove oneself from codependent relationships is a form of self-love. 01:02:02: INTPs who show self-love inspire by meeting high expectations, becoming competent, and excelling in conflict resolution as pragmatic peacekeepers. 01:05:57: Working on oneself leads to the best version of oneself, exemplifying self-love through diplomatic peacekeeping and inspired action. 01:07:24: The capacity of INTPs for pragmatic peacekeeping may surprise many, showcasing their ability beyond stereotypes. Made with HARPA AI

@nomad1220 11 ай бұрын

I had thought my snuggles with self love, as well as for other INTPs, was due to the fact that Fi is our 8th function. Between the research, the meta pattern summarization, and the actionable advise, this podcast helped me on my journey. Thank You!

@Arcadius-tr8bm Ай бұрын

At the beginning of the year, even before seeing this, I spent 4 months writing down and revising my belief system. I really recommend it, cognitive dissonance is a huge cause of stress and even depression with suicidal thoughts. Write down what you believe to be true, you won't be able to fool yourself if something is written outside your head.

@nosockWd97colon8 11 ай бұрын

All those descriptions are actually very accurate, I'm stunned. I think I may try to add something else about how I deal with social situations (I'm, supposedly, intp). It's very true that the driver Ti is very strong, it basically covers each and every side of my life and is always "switched on", so when I'm in some completely new social situation, that's how I'm gonna start off - with just Ti on. And then I will observe how people behave there, what the rules of this social group are, whom should I pay respect to and so on. And what I'm mainly focused on figuring out is whether it's safe to actively apply my other functions, engage in conversations, throw a bunch of different ideas as a solution to whatever problem arises (there's always at least something they have trouble with, if not from the start, it's still going to appear somewhen), joke around with the same or newer ideas, trying to create local memes or something. So I have like this set of actions that I do when I feel comfortable, and depending on my observations, I'm gonna enable some of them. But that observation never ends, the set for this exact social situation can be adjusted thousands of times, but it's never gonna settle down, it has to be fluid. And it pretty much is, yeah And the term "social situation" doesn't always require more than 2 people by the way, because a conversation or relationship with 1 particular person is the same social situation, but easier one to navigate through

@jaredvaughan1665 11 ай бұрын

Socionics refers to Ni as intuition of time. This means past memories and future projections. Memory is abstract. Through Si comes sensory experiences that Ni later recalls. But the abstract recall is Ni. When your Si body is laying in the grave, your Ni spirit will still be recalling things and projecting into the future.

@jaredvaughan1665 11 ай бұрын

Socionics shows that when INTPs progress, they look more like their ENFP Supervisee in private and their INFJ Benefactor in public. INTP Carl Jung progressed to look more like his INFJ Benefactor in public. This is why some people mistyped him as an INFJ.

@theyetti90 3 ай бұрын

Let the failure be a joyous thing so I can love refining my process. Implies I must consciously put myself into situations where I will fail.

@aparna12242 6 ай бұрын

Being an INTP with ADHD and depression is the absolute worst. I am always stuck in analysis paralysis and functional freeze. It's the same as wanting to drink water to quench your thirst but your hands are tied. Absolutely destroys my soul and it is soo draining. I feel hopeless thinking about all the potential I have that I am not able to work towards because of the other mental health challenges

@HM_00702 4 ай бұрын

Please write more.

@Deb780YEG 4 ай бұрын

I am there too and totally relate.

@annl.5512 4 ай бұрын

If you clean the house you stop thinking if you cook you stop thinking if you do anything in the real world you'll stop thinking

@arlettasloan6453 Ай бұрын

I am an INTP. It took me a long time to understand that. In large part because Ican't answer questions with only one answer, more often than not. That is who I am. Also, the question 'Would you rather be right or happy?" is nonsensical because being right is being happy, even if what you are right about is something you'd rather not be true. And, all the questions like "Would you rather be right or popular?" or "Is it more important to you to be right or to get along with people?' are terrible. If I am right but I have to lie to be liked, then it is not me they like so even if many people perceived me as someone they liked, it wouldn't be me being popular. Me being right shouldn't preclude me getting along with people. I might not express myself as being right if it would ruin the moment. Such as if my friend asks "Do these pants make me look bad.? I love them so much." as we are entering the place we are going to be at for several hours, where she will have no alternative but to wear those pants for the duration. I'm not going to lie to her but I am not going to tell her a soul-crushing truth about how square her butt looks, either. I'm going to tell her the truth that those are not as good as the ... pants, but she looks great. It's not a lie. On balance, she looks great. Most people are not going to look at a beautiful woman and go "Oh, but those pants make her butt look squared. I can't have anything to do with her." That is a problem the beautiful woman does not need to think about in the moment, then. That being said, I never noticed the contradictory nature of a function being wh at I am but needing to disassociate from it, until he brought it up. And, I can understand that he thinks so, but not why he does. When people get deep into their work, they are "flowing" because their function is serving them. They are not enjoying or being aggravated by it. It just is. I am what I am. I love finding accuracy and truth and honesty. I notice it, admire it, strive toward it, do experiments to test it (not on people, except maybe me) so it is me. I had a psych eval that showed I was too sane and had a deep, abiding love of honesty and honor and all that related stuff. That is me,. It is inherent to my nature. I can lie, but I don't like it, at all. Except when it is a joke and we all know it. But, I don't spend my work time seeking truth. I t ype up what needs to be typed up and let someone else wory about if it is correct. For me, it is correct in that I faithfully typed what is there and that is enough. That is my wage work. When I write, when I am flowing, I am not always seeking truth, honor, honesty but I am seeking accuracy as a matter of course, but it is the accuracy of how words play together and moving the story along. It is disassociation. The accuracy is there, but the other aspects of accuracy do not apply and are not touched upon. It is a denial of self. Especially when writing a character who is dishonest.

@KK-mf7we 10 ай бұрын

Brilliant, accurate and helpful analysis. Thank you! I loved interacting with the three-year-old and accepting that she can "handle basic things". Great solution for the most hurtful and vulnerable part of me. I can also see the ten-year-old roguish grin while indulging on gathering useless information ;) good relationship with the children of the family is the way to go. Loved everything about this video.

@ericbrundick8261 11 ай бұрын

I keep ruminating on the notion of us "playing life on hard mode." I resonate with it so much. But I guess I don't understand, what would life look like NOT on hard mode? I guess putting tons of faith & dependence in other people, not having to figure out the world completely through but delegating all the time? (Feels cynical for me to say that, tbh)

@marlynfeliciano3682 11 ай бұрын

❤❤❤I LOVE TO LEARN OF MYERS BRIGGS❤WE OWE IT TO OURSELVES -self love! 💕 love 💕 I AM INTJ! Looking forward to listening about mine! Thank you so much Antonia and Joel! Blessings! ❤❤😇 YOU ALL ARE WONDERFUL! 🩵🩵🩵

@ubon21 11 ай бұрын

looking forward to ISTP self love video♥

@maddiewilliams1324 9 ай бұрын

I'm curious for your thoughts on developing holistic Ti versus analytic Ti. It seems like one could (mis?)read holistic Ti as being borderline "bad thinking". I think a series covering growth for analytic versus holistic function subtypes would be super cool and useful!

@lovechangegrow 10 ай бұрын

At 22:30 dissociating/detached position allows the INTP to objectively evaluate/refine/re-invent their ideas/concepts/premises/beliefs/etc. and themselves. Via detached and equanimious introspection... similar to Vipassana meditation. To some it might seem like they are narcissistic. But just studying themselves. my INTP 2 cents

@jaredvaughan1665 11 ай бұрын

Socionics Model G shows we put 3 times more effort into the 3 year old than the 10 year old. This means the 3 year old grows up, but the 10 year old remains an eternal child.

@EskeAndersen 11 ай бұрын

INTPs need to learn how to meditate. It's the one thing that changed my life for the better more than anything else. Meditation opens up for loving yourself.

@eagleeyemind4800 11 ай бұрын

What are some tips/methods you use to assist in developing the skill?

@EskeAndersen 11 ай бұрын

are you asking about meditation techniques? I found a Buddhist meditation teacher online. I would strongly recommend that you find a good personal teacher. It's very hard to get into meditation without personal instruction.@@eagleeyemind4800

@INTJosh 11 ай бұрын

I'm curious too, bc this hasn't worked well for me yet. What kind of meditation? Empty mind, focus on breath, focus on outer world moment details, visualization, etc.