How to Make Difficult Decisions (without overthinking)

[@aliabdaal]

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[@tonitony3818]

ali my jaana you are the best choice i made.

“The pain of regret is far worse than the pain of rejection” this is one of my mantras…

[@christopherjurawan6990]

use rejection as an opportunity to grow and not as pain

[@sakura-yy]

I hope myself could be more brave

[@topthinkug]

@@christopherjurawan6990 🤝🙏❤️❤️❤️

[@Abdush_]

I am 22 and have enough regrets. I don't want more of it.

[@francisco.j]

that quote seems really adequate for relationships...

[@aurora-88]

I heard a speaker once saying: with any decision, be aware you'll regret anyway. I found that very useful to reduce overthinking.

[@artusfarfalla]

1. The BEST decision is the right decision. 2. The second BEST decision is the wrong decision. 3. The third BEST decision is no decision at all! Don't be afraid to DECIDE! I've been reminded of the roman proverb: prior tempore, potior iure.😉

[@danf4447]

as a pilot i can teell you the wrong decision is NOT a second best decision

[@nigelasipa4150]

The technique I use for decision making is from Struthless: 1)What is the problem/decision? 2)What are your options? 3)Are they mutually exclusive? 4)Time yourself 60 seconds and decide which option would you choose? 5)What did you decide and why? (name at least 2 reasons) 6)Could you live with this outcome?

[@tatianat604]

Thank you so much for this!🙏🏾

[@joshyycute5823]

Bro you kinda saved my life, thank u

[@nmollaei4081]

Dame tnx bro that was really helpful❤

[@guledyusuf6368]

Thank you for sharing.

[@fulldakait1408]

Hahaha thats like so objective and will never solve life problems. Good for professional decisions though

[@dianarustamova8921]

right now I am 16 and I really wanna study in the usa cz it is really boring me to continue living here in my country in which I spend my 16 years without even any small trip to other city of my country now I am learning English I love it cz day by day I am enlarging my knowledge it is never boring and Ali Abdaal is my motivator to keep following my dreams even all my school teachers hardly prohibited me to think about Cambridge...Harward...New York columbian university since we mentioned those universities focus on GPA . I didn't give up cz I know how hard I am doing my best and I am still planning to apply those universities as I wanna have my own free life ...Thank you Ali Abdaal🌸🌸

[@bishnugogoi4520]

Two most Important Journal prompts that I use to ask everyday are 1. In the Morning, what can I do something different today? & 2. At Night, what did I learn something new today? ❤Thanks Ali for encouraging my Productivity Soul.

[@parvathijayaprakash7075]

In my mental board of advisors Ali Abdal will be there

[@TeachingMonk]

Ha ha!

[@Thomasromer2002]

I’m really thinking about moving out, and I REALLY felt that “what is the risk of doing nothing” Great video 🙌🏼

[@ThreeTwentyTech]

The best choice you can make in life is *doing what makes you happy,* so long as you aren't harming anyone in the process

[@3looy]

Something the right chose is not what makes you happy in the short term

[@ThreeTwentyTech]

@@3looy but happy in the long so it's worth it

[@princessjoanabdula1650]

It depends ones situation

[@rusnyg]

Playing videogames all day long makes me happy. Is this the best choice?

[@ThreeTwentyTech]

@@rusnyg honestly? Probably yeah

[@Bugscanfly]

you're literally one of my board of advisors, thanks so much for the uploads and content, it has been nothing short of lifechanging and inspiring.

[@samirkarki192]

Love the board advisors concept. Mine are - Tywin , Little finger, Ned, Varys and Tyrion.

[@musikhamster01]

One thing which I ask myself in the decision making process is: "Why do I want to do this?" If my reason, my "why", isn't strong enough, I'm likely not following through with it or it's actually not really the thing I want to do.

[@ExplorewithZac]

Here's my thoughts before watching this... If you want to make better choices, then practice rewarding yourself for making choices which produce positive results.

[@dynamics9000]

"Stop chasing the money and start chasing the passion." Tony Hsieh, love your video :)

[@michalakdotnet]

Cal Newport would argue: "Stop chasing the money and start doing the work. Become excellent. Watch this turn into passion." :)

[@TrayOfKimbap]

The Mental Board of Advisors is a great idea! I admit mine won't be comprised of famous authors or speakers from the West... because their lives would not always reflect mine (east) So instead, my initial mental BOA are: 1. My maternal grandma (RIP) who survived WW2 (losing a sibling, almost losing a leg from a grenade) & despite never finishing school is smart & confident was able to put her siblings through college thanks to her own business. 2. My MIL (RIP) a widow but worked hard to support her children, excel in her career, made impact on so many people thru church work . They're the ones in my menta BOA for now. Because they're principled, godly, courageous, generous, independent, resilient, not materialistic and not greedy. I think their advice will apply to a lot of things. 😊

[@EkaterinaGolubeva-pr9ih]

Thanks Ali for sharing ❤ Here's my decision making routine : - the Pythagoras square : What would happen If I did it ? What would happen if I didn't do it ? What will not happen if I do it ? What will not happen if I don't do it ? - Split a sheet into 2 columns : pros and cons and write arguments attaching a weight for each ( for example on a scale of 10), then counting the sums on each side to see what has most values for you. - Toss a coin, do it - heads, don't do it - tails. While the coin is still in the air, what do I wish to see ?

[@outlinehappiness]

Ah….run an experiment…..I wish I had heard this before choosing and completing my degree 😂 Your “who’s the person I want to be” section made me think of something Mel Robbins said about acting like the person you want to be as though you’ve already become that person, because you will build upon the habits that make that person become who you are. Great advice 👍🏻

[@maryannem1398]

I would add to the list, "Would this decision take away my piece of mind?". I have found this to be very important.

[@srikrishnadentalcare4416]

Especially if that's in conflict with your Core values 🤔

[@titan6421]

Ali, you just made me feel more confident on what i am trying to do, thanks brother.

[@hyacinthzia9892]

I absolutely love all of this man’s videos

[@redlush91]

Thanks for the video. I am chronic over-thinker and decision paralysis is definitely a thing for me.

[@DearFashionCreative]

I really appreciate the fact that I don’t have to listen to you at 1.25x and 1.5x. Thank you for getting starlight to the point!

[@fnaenglish]

I must tell I'm so freaked out from stepping one step forward, from expressing my feelings & thoughts, from calling an old friend.. fear is trying to paralyze me; but I've learned the hard way that following fear won't give you security. So, why should I follow my fear if the security behind following it is false? I'm trying to teach myself the hard way to lean into my fears while I'm being fearful, It's weird to accept this feeling while moving around. But that's what I've learned.

[@MasonDavis]

The quitting framework lacks the biggest thing for most people, which is that they have to find the time and energy for something else they have decided to do. It many cases the challenge is worth the reward, but something else contains greater potential.

[@sidenx]

I don't often like videos, but this one deserved it. You're so honest, amazing, and talented.

[@beatricedarocha]

Ali, hi, Bia from Brazil here. I would like to say that, because of your amazing videos, you are one of my mental border adviser, and I'm so greatful for that!

[@dashaivaniuk]

I watched 54 seconds of this video and made my vital decision. Thank you😅

[@sophiaisabelle027]

You have to think rationally when making final decisions. People are prone to making the worst decisions by not thinking things through carefully.

[@lanatookmytea4952]

That's right

[@BrendanEvan]

Ali rarely fails to give us actionable tools and frameworks to improve our lives. ❤❤❤

[@hizainshah]

I let life make choices for me and I go along with it happily.

[@JeanSeptember25]

I love the quitting framework. Didn't know I was doing it by default already but it's great to see it written out like that. :) Great video, Ali!

[@JoshJCommons]

You earned yourself a spot on my mental board of advisors 💗

[@BizarreThings7996]

I feel like this is good advice, if you're not traumatized and don't have trauma trapped inside of your body. Because that can make you make poor decisions.

[@nanasabia]

Or stay stuck, procrastinate or make impulsive decisions that actually don’t work for you. Very true.

[@qvcitizen]

Mate you are absolute genius in cracking down how our brains work

[@kge6492]

I ask myself: how much I can struggle to get to the point I am making decision about. Not exactly comfortwise, but more how much exhaustion, pain and obstacles I can fight. Based on that I rate priority of this versus staying on the previously chosen path or searching for another option.

[@HalimReactz]

The main thing is that, if you really love what you're doing, your choice is PERFECT. just keep going...

[@ilibertyi]

I'm an Education Specialist (special ed teacher) and I ask myself, " Is this decision good for kids?" This includes understanding what might help the particular student I'm working with move forward to becoming self-determinant and to advocate for themselves.

[@mwihaki__]

Your videos are always so informative. You have actual frameworks to tackling some of life's challenges

[@NbaLive4ever]

Love the experiment question. I have so many things I wanted to do but don’t cuz it’s overwhelming for me to commit off the bat. Great video!

[@MostafaSameer_2015]

Yes, you're absolutely correct Abdaal. Wish you all the best 🙂

[@dreaddoctorsad220]

fear destroys more dreams then failure ever did. Always remember

[@muhammadsamiul7182]

These are the things I was thinkimg before writing the first post for my email newsletter. I wrote the post because I thought I should start now. I like to know stories of medical science history and I thought it'll be cool to write about them. Thanks to your email newsletter video I got the idea of starting it.

[@etherealrosegold]

The intelligent one is the one who works for his hereafter, he knows he should prepare for his eternity and the hereafter is the real life. When you have the world in your hands and not your heart, you stop chasing the materialistic life,the world has no choice but to follow you.

[@udojetschmanegg]

By doing, I find my way.

[@lukaschumchal7797]

Where was this video all my life? I hope it might help me with my fear of decision 🤩

[@indecisivemd]

I struggle so much with making decisions so it is nice to get input from other overthinkers :)

[@ramjplays1688]

You really pose questions that ate effective in making me decide on things more cautious but in an effective and organized way. Thank you!

[@KatjaKK-fs6yh]

My go-to questions are How would my 5 years older self advoce me? How would me adult daughter advice me? (she is currently 5yo and many decisions influence her)

[@ragibahsan8026]

Oh I badly needed this video exactly 2 years ago... where was it 2 years ago!!!!

[@frankhass7163]

How I make difficult decisions: I have set some factors in my life that I want constant. So, whatever I do I have to keep in mind that I can't change those factor because they are constant. For example, I don't want to make my mom superunhappy. So, my ' mom's happiness ' is a constant of life my life that I don't want to change otherwise. Now , whenever I take a decision I think, will doing this make my mom unhappy? If it's a yes. Then I try not to do it. By this I have avoided smoking, and some decisions that could have been dangerous for me. Some other constant: The wellbeing of my family My happiness Collect new experience Don't try to gain unnecessary attention Make bold presence Don't lower self-confidence. .... Some other constanat

[@robster7012]

Ali, you are of the brightest people I have never met. You could turn your hand to anything I reckon. Appreciate your vids 😃

[@harryssweets8010]

I want to learn how to stop caring about how other people think about me !

[@t5845]

Journaling is so important.

[@krishivsolanki6556]

I dunno why I am more like him... Btw love from India 🇮🇳

[@pj_rwt]

Thank you Ali Abdaal and team for your efforts and this wonderful creation

[@annarinaldi3758]

Hi Ali! First off love your videos, thank you for uploading such interesting content all the time. I'd really love to see you handling the topic of "how much does your degree really determines the life you can have". I think nowadays people tend to think that choosing the right path from the age of 18 is fundamental, but it's actually super early to know what you're going to be doing or what your future dream life will possibly look like! You never know what live will bring you.. I'd love to hear your opinion on that, thanks!

[@StevenFarmerComedy]

Never do anything out of fear or guilt

[@aisha-ye3mp]

one of my favourite videos of Ali !!

[@marinamartin9484]

This came right on time❤️ thank you for all the quality content you make!

[@sunfiwakeup]

Thank you so much, i have terrible time making decision and often feel stuck between different choices. Next one i will definitelly try tips from this video!

[@BK-jw5oh]

My mental board of advisors include Ali Abdaal ❤

[@happyspacebear]

I often come back to the Dutch "Buurtzorg" principles: 1. Humanity over bureaucracy 2. Practical over hypothetical 3. Simplicity over complexity You can ask yourself: Does this decision foster complexity of simplicity, etc.

[@oho0914]

I think it’s very hard to decide continue or not when you always had some achievements like 10k followers. And when you stopped for some reason. It is so hard to re-start

[@TheArtOfAnything]

I Think This Video Was Uploaded By The Universe For Me . Because I am planning to drop out of college . lots of love ali abdaal hope we meet some day in personal life .

[@junghwaahn9077]

Thank you Ali I really appreciate that I can learn this. I really need this. Love your contents always 💕

[@ryunfep]

Cool question I ask in journaling. What is the coolest thing that could happen?

[@Kashif9506]

Love you Bhai I can't believe you're from Pakistan.we need content creators like you ❤️

[@KRY999]

🤩🤩🤩 need to watch this about 5 more times so much information to digest !!! thankful i found your youtube, it’s been really helping me

[@mtjokro]

Am i the only one noticing the order of his questions were jumping from 5 to 2 to 7 to 3 lol, love this video though. found em super useful. Thanks, Ali!

[@aliabdaal]

Whoops 😅

[@zakinabyzada4275]

I have been watching your videos since you had like 600k subs. And it has been an amazing journey and knowledge sharing. Very nice. ❤

[@aspiringpolygot5064]

Best video in 2022. In my opinion.

[@PropaneFitness]

"I can't respond to all the comments, but I often heart them while I'm on the toilet" - I feel seen

[@artoftravelbestselle]

Awesome advice! Almost all I wouldn't thought of myself. The Mental Board of Advisors is gold!

[@락토비]

If you are seeing this video, you are blessed.

You guys should do an event which we can meet Ali in person! I’m just saying 😊👌

[@PeacefulMinds12]

I found this video helpful as I just keep thinking about doing things but never do it

[@Yourbint]

How do you talk so well and sound so natural ma shaa Allah

[@dorchy12]

I found it deeply interesting and insightful. Thank you very much

[@alonewhale197]

Best supportive youtuber ever!!!

[@sayyedzaid601]

You never disappointed bro Best video

[@Batman-yo4hf]

You're on my mental board of advisors :) Along with Alfred, of course.

[@mohamedadnan786]

Wow perfect timing... Lot of things to choose in my life and it's really helpful... Thanks dude💜...

[@what-lz9dl]

Well,I'm here struggling with always bad decision thanks for your video mate...

[@pannaamliwala1]

This is great. I write down the pros and cons of doing something. Then I analyse them. This helps me decide.

[@TeachingMonk]

True. I take down many notes in my Notion and refer them every now and then.

[@Alizavr]

brb just adding Ali to my mental board of advisors📝

[@Toiarc]

Worst case scenario is that you never start your dream career or go to talk to that woman that interest you.

[@NOTmyProblem...]

I usually ask my self "how would this decision make me feel? Which one sounds more like fun?" Because at the end of the day we are emotional creatures and no matter how nice something would be hypothetical speaking, what matters is if you feel good about this decision.

[@kristi1918]

Sorry, not directly related, but please consider cutting the wick each time you relight your candles - the black soot there is way too much. But I love your videos ;)

[@h_sihem]

You're part of my mental board ! :D Thank you for all your work here on youtube and up in there lol you've really helped me calm myself and act consciously and most of all manage my university years without crumbling down like i used to !

[@chhayalgambhir3215]

I'm really nervous because I'm gonna talk with my dad that I want to study abroad, my dad is not that strict but it still makes me hella nervous. Wish me luck guyss

[@akshatdwivedi9306]

I woke up- open youtube - look for Ali's video and binge his entire playlists :)

[@yonasmengs1054]

I am just watching this randomly, and I always want to start a KZbin channel but I am still hesitant. As I said you said I don't want to regret not starting, I will start in the first two weeks of October. Also want to start trading/investing, which I will be starting at the same time. Thank you for the heads up!!!

[@mccartyzoe]

Mental board of advisors! I love that idea ….

[@alanCandanedo]

OMG this video is Gold, thank u so much Ali 🙌🏻

[@bethdimonti]

Def Ali Abdaal as one of my mental board of advisers

[@masamangtao6417]

Wow, these are phenomenal questions, and so many of them. Thank you!!!

[@jayrangani]

Oh, dude, you made life so easy, thankyou

[@MJFUYT]

Those pen flips you do are sick AF 💯

[@CalicoCooperFan]

I like the mental board of advisors idea.