How to make ENTPs feel loved

[@helenshianimation7567]

1. If you do not like us, do not lie: ENTPs are not good at recognising our own emotions, but we recognise the emotions of others, so if you are lying about how much you like us, we can tell 2. Believe in our stories: if we are talking about our problems, we are not here for emotional support, all we need is someone who acknowledges the things that we say (yes I know the immature ENTPs make up stories to test if others protect them or not, but if something is really wrong, we hate it when others misunderstand us, so we start justifying ourselves), we are very intuitive and skeptical we always know if something is wrong 3. ENTPs have a soft spot for someone who just really likes them, if you are the few people who not only think we are funny, but uncontrollably laughed at our joke when we can see how happy you are, then you didn't just make us feel loved, we will also go the extra mile for you❤

[@mojyoqueen350]

I did a free therapy for my ENTP bf just by acknowledging that he has feelings and needs a hug from time to time.

[@youngpoet44hunnies]

False entp don't need your hugs. Lots of kinky sex n you're gonna have to listen to them rant for hours on a regular basis

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

man thsee oldies 'what your early twenties will be like' supporting' AI assistant' thn they go n watch dear kristien gossip to feel young

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

A therapy Session? that is reditculous it's not just boys that has feelings and has needs. Girls give me hug from time ti me it is ridikulous.

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

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[@debilthefirst]

​@@Daniel-jb4oi Sooooooooooooooooo amount of o's doesn't change anything, still no one gets what you mean (thankfully)

[@baronofgreymatter14]

The not "personally" part is important. We as ENTPs are not emotionally attached to ideas. Unlike other types we dont feel insulted if you challenge our position or logic. Alone time is big!

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

The not 'Personally' part is important. WE as entps are not emotionally attached ot ideas. Unlike other types we don't feel isnutlsakjdf; salkdjf as;ldkfj asldfjk ;asldjflaone time ai dsbig !

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

The not personally part is miportant"" We as entps are not emotionally attached ot ideas. Unlike other types we don't feel insulted if you challenge our position or logic. Along itme is Big!

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

The not "personally" part is important. We as entps are not emotionally attached ot ideas. Unlike other types we don't feel insulted if you challenge our position or logic. Alone time is big!😁

[@Stolemybike]

God bless

[@brrmbrrmm]

@@Daniel-jb4oiare you okay???

[@alyssapeterson2004]

ENTP here and I can verify that my top love languages are quality time and words of affirmation. That being said, a man that I've recently started seeing sent me a car phone holder after I made a side comment (last week) that I should probably buy one and keep forgetting. It made me feel incredibly appreciated and happy, because it was such a small part of the conversation that he was able to determine important amongst the chaos and word vomit.

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

alice. here being said i'm big man n car phone hlder I buy one forgot! the determinate importante choas is just a regularly schelduled part of my lifely life!

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

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[@Daniel-jb4oi]

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[@greetjeb6572]

I asked my ENTP boyfriend what makes him feel loved, and he said “when I realise you let me ramble about random stuff and listened” and “when I’m moody and after asking me about it once you make me feel it’s okay and that I don’t have to put on a show and you still stick around” so.. in a similar vein 🥰 thank you Kristin! Best, an ENFP (Yes, 8h+ phone calls are no stranger to us lol)

[@justme4579]

Yes! My ENTP husband and I definitely give each other plenty of space and allow each other to be moody in peace lol we both react to things in a similar way which is helpful so we both understand that we’ll forget about whatever it was as soon as a new distraction pops up and we get caught up in it..

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

YES YES YES

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

I'll get back to you latr

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

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[@brrmbrrmm]

OH SHIT hi my bf and I are an ENFP + ENTP pair too what a coinkydink!!!!

[@malachikhachadourian]

As an INTJ, I am very good friends with an ENTP. He loves messing with people and absolutely loves my dark, morbid jokes. However, he does have a very compassionate side that is not revealed to anyone except those very close to him.

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

mmm have ya seen my death scull yet? mmm I Lovee me

[@AnnieStoxx]

Right, ENTPs are just people pleasers at heart.

[@JonBrase]

I was a smart cookie and I knew it as a kid, and I let my peers know it, and got told off for being a braggart. Words of affirmation are helpful, but they will *always* create an awkward feeling, because I'll never feel I'm allowed to agree with them. ---ENTP with INTP as a coping mechanism

[@DarkFoxV]

8:00 The part about not always remembering what our skills are anymore is on point. Sometimes I'll be walking around and switch languages (to myself or with another person) and then be like "oh yeah, I speak that language, I forgot"

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

NO! YOU Aren'T an INFJ!!

[@doublejayjay]

Words of affirmation being the runner up is so real. Whoever referred to it as "feedback" is so so right - we REALLY want to be liked in our own strange way, and we have a hard time telling what people really think of the "real us" if they don't say it atraight to our faces. Sure, we will turn it into a joke immediately, but the clear communication really matters. Also, as some other ENTPS in the comments have said, generic compliments aren't really enough to feel like "words of affirmation". We are predominantly Ti-judgers, we need you to tell us the WHY. Complimenting us on having a nice shirt or being funny does not land unless you explain WHY the shirt looks good or HOW exactly you find us humorous. It's really hard and kind of embarassing to admit how much we struggle with this, but it's true. We need the compliment to make sense. But we really, really need the compliment.

[@victoriae725]

You managed to explain what I was trying to find the words for. "I love you" is generally way too generic for me, but if you tell me you like whatever specific aspect about me, THAT hits.

[@jentaculophile]

YES! My questions aren't arguments, and they don't mean that I think the way the questions point. It's not about my views, it is about digging around to find the truth, if it's in there at all!

[@robmangeri777]

Well said.

[@brianquinlan5638]

as and entp I find I am the most seen and loved when my loved ones ' commit to the bit'. I am usually dry in these jokes delivery and catching it and playing along is a big loveletter to me

[@TheQwuilleran]

Gosh it's difficult rare and special 🦄 to find someone who can play our specific weird brand of wiffle ball 😅

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

as and!

[@brianquinlan5638]

@@TheQwuilleran listen cant i get a wry smile while i pitch the ball with the holes facing left. Or having that sacred moment of silence after I'm struck with the ball ,but before the argument over the legality of 'bee stings' commences and devolves into the ethics and logistics of the move vs its baseball counter part? Are these things just too rich, too rare ? seems to be the consensus.

[@RC-px6by]

Wow, I'm ISTP married to INFJ with ENTP kid - this video series has helped a lot and explained so much about communication issues we've experienced in our family! Looking forward to the other types as you are able to post them.

[@aru_cha]

Words of affirmation is so damn real. You can show every sign that you love me but if you don't straight up tell me you love me and care about me it makes me feel anxious.

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

Words of affirmation is so darn real. You can show EVERY Sign that you Love me BUt if you don't straight up tell me you love me and care about me if makes me feel anxious.

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

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[@empireentertainmentevents1353]

@@Daniel-jb4oi are you ok ?

[@arkalias3994]

I've got an ENTP dad. I always find it best to be responsive towards anything the ENTP usually says or does; don't ignore it, make some kind of reaction, even it it's a light nod. Sometimes they're starving for a reaction out of you more than anything. Try to listen to what they have to say and play around with the ideas they share- but they'll drop those ideas equally as quickly, so be ready to do that as well😂

[@DarkFoxV]

I would say connexion* rather than reaction!

[@froggarolli-Stolitz]

I've seen this in my ENTP partner too. similarly, it's great when you can match their energy if they're excited about something or tell you something they're interested in. I mean don't be fake with them obviously, but you can make the effort to make it clearly seen/noticeable that you've reacted to what they're saying/doing

[@annarichter484]

ENTP (47y) here: I used to be all about my loved once listen to me, until I found that I can have my rants and ramblings with everyone, even with strangers. I regularly fell out with my family and friends because they could not understand why I loved arguing so much. It was my way of processing. Now I have my geeks, my politicians, my religious folks and can deep dive in all kinds of topics and learn so much. As I also have pretty strong ADHD with time blindness, my family and friends are fine with me not calling or forgetting to answer to a text. Now they understand and call me when they miss me. Which really helps. In my 30ies I learned to appreciate honest hugs but only with people I know or just got to know and feel like they really mean it (have a radar for it). I didn't miss hugs during covid but when one of my best friends came screaming to work that we are allowed to hug again well longest hug of my life. In relationships it became for me most important when people do things for me that don't come naturally to me or are not mad when I forget to clean something up or take the trash down. Words of affirmation are complicated. If they are 100% honest and come from the heart, yeah of course but if it's just a polite thingy I detest it. I also don't give compliments easily unless I mean it - then I tell even the stranger on the road that she looks great in her dress (#nofilter). I love giving presents more than receiving than as I don't like courtesy gifts. I like things I don't expect. But the worst things someone can do is telling me they have a surprise for me next time when we meet (hell).

[@Anonymoustheuser]

When someone tell me they have a surprise I feel a little fake about myself cause I’ll try being polite or make something for them, I’m a 21yrs old ENTP

[@chuanli7526]

The "Actually listen to me instead of assuming" is very accurate. While I can't imagine anyone enjoying being misunderstood, relatively speaking this probably angers me more than it would other people. I have a circle of relatives who treat me nice to score points with my grandma. They'll assume stuff about me just to have an excuse to "help" me, while paying no attention to what I'm saying or doing. I would hardly call it nerfarious and indeed haven't felt any ill intent, but nonetheless the whole thing just pisses me off to no end.

[@Anonymoustheuser]

That goes for me too. Sometimes it’ll be so random too, like I’ll be talking with them about my food preferences and it’ll all go over their heads and they’ll start arguing why I shouldn’t be so blunt while talking to others.

[@NobodysFavourite]

Infj married to an entp for 17 years. Accurate and helpful, thanks for doing this!

[@SongsOfRelief]

Thanks for the breakdown, and congrats on the baby; that's lovely! Here's an ENTP anecdote: I had an ENTP boss. He was ingenious, abstract, and overbearing. He seemed to think I (INTP) was a bit of a dolt. One day my spreadsheet wasn't adding up, the numbers didn't match, but I could not find the flaw, so I was staying 20 minutes late and rechecking everything. He sat down wearily, fiddled with things on the reception desk, and finally asked me what I was still doing there. I explained quickly, wishing he would stop interrupting. He told me to do the thing I had already done twice. He said, "It's not that hard, but I know math isn't everyone's strong suit." Great, he's insulting one of my only real talents, belittling me, and wasting my time. He went on for a bit. I curtly replied, "I know it's easy. I'd get done a lot faster without you yelling at me." He wasn't yelling, really, but his words were needling, and he did that a lot subconsciously when he was tired. He said, "Yelling? You guys (employees) always say I'm yelling at you!" I felt sorry for him and exasperated at the same time, so I turned and said something out-of- character; "You're not very self- aware, are you?" ...He was triggered!!! "You think that was yelling?!! That's not yelling!! THIS IS YELLING!!!" ... And that's how I died. 😅 I had no idea that kind of comment would set him off like that. If people tell me I'm not very self aware, I'd be like, "you're probably right. Tell me more about me." I can laugh now, but I cried super hard and loud right in front of him. He apologized immediately and things were fine afterward. (Yes, fellow nerds, I found the bug. It was a hidden cell with a value. Someone pranking me??)

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

Thanks for the retheorical breakdown, and congrates on a baby! that is lovely. Here is an e n t p anecdota I had an ENtp boss once, he was Ingenious, ABSTRACT, and Overbearingly He seemeeeed eee to think I was an an intp the COMPLETE Opposite type a bit of a durlt read more og god summary I HAS NO IDEA that that that that that that tha t that that that that that just set him off! baby lovely here is an anecodte of an entp boss I had once. He was INGENIOUS, abstract, OVEBREARINGLY DIFFUCULT OF A MAN TO LOVEE. he seemed to think however that I was an intp the complete opposite of him a dult. I had no idea that that that that the the the the the the the the the that thaet etheatht the eth eth teh th eth teh eth eth eth eth teh teh eth teh teh eth eth thath tahatelkj I FOUND A BUG IN MY GARAGEE SOMKEONE PRANKING ME?????? I can laugh now dear disters but he was ABSTRACT oVERBEARING I can someone continue

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

HE WAS ABSTRACT INGENIOUS AND OVERBEARING

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

ABSTRACT INGENIOUS&OVERBEARING

[@Daniel-jb4oi]

my entp boss was ABSTRACT INGENIOUS AND OVERBEARING DOLTTTTTTTT

[@robmangeri777]

(ENTP) Anyone who recognizes that I’m often just building giant pictures in my mind that connect all of the things I’ve learned in order to tease out and elucidate the underlying truth to be found there, and values what I’ve discovered so far, makes me feel more valued :) Does anyone relate?

[@lucasfabisiak9586]

As an ENTP who's dated a lot, I've found that the hardest thing about finding compatibility is that most women interpret my idea exploration as criticism, taking things too seriously, a stating of my own opinions, an indication of trauma or obsession, etc. I'm not exactly sure what other types would be compatible, but it seems that they're exceedingly rare.

[@justme4579]

ISFP here, married to ENTP for ten years and counting.. strangely enough, my natural tendency to contradict and argue everything is what connected us immediately and is still the way we connect and feel closest lol yes, there were definitely bumps in the beginning until we each fully understood the other’s style, like for me to recognize that nothing we argue about is ever personal, and for him to recognize that my challenging him is never coming from disrespect or trying to trip him up, but rather the opposite- I ask and I challenge because I want the truth too and I question him because I respect him enough to fully believe he’ll find the answers somehow

[@IshAmethyst]

I'm an ENTP female & been dating my ISFP partner for nearly 5 years now - interesting someone else also mentioned ISFPs!

[@gorgeouslabu]

alot of INFJs out there looking for their own ENTP

[@user-kt1no7yx1u]

I'm an ENTP dating an ENTP, this seems to be discouraged, but it works perfectly for me

[@Scruffed]

So ENTPs are basically me, but less serious/more humorous, less transparent, and slightly more outgoing. - INTP

[@justme4579]

My ENTP husband has an INTP brother and it’s so interesting to see how similar their thought processes are! But I think that between them his brother is actually the funnier one lol I guess just like less impulsive and more thought out funny.. and yes my husband is way more outgoing and social obviously but also way more transparent. His brother is even more cynical than him, as impossible as that may seem, and even more suspicious and wary of other people.

[@Scruffed]

@@justme4579 I'm personally also quite suspicious of people and don't wear my heart on my sleeve, but I normally give straight and honest answers to straight questions and go straight to the point in my interactions, which (apparently) ENTPs don't often do, as they're prone to playing games or trying to make the interaction something "interesting" before getting to the matter at hand, which in my opinion makes them less transparent.

[@JonBrase]

I test as INTP (with borderline T/F and the other three being quite strong), but the I is a definite mistype (despite showing up strongly on tests). I was quite outgoing as a kid, but was not popular, and I remember the moment that I decided "I won't be friends with anyone unless they're friends with me first". The entire "I" part of my personality is rooted in learned cynicism and suspicion (despite an underlying emotional conviction that keeps sneaking up on me despite being contradicted by my intellectual outlook, my experience of life, and my religion), so yeah, I'm going to be even more cynical than a straight INTP. I definitely have a sense of humor, if I decide it's safe to speak. ENTP seems to be a decently common type for people with autism and/or ADHD (I have both), and autists almost universally have significant social trauma. Three common ways of dealing with it seem to be "Laugh it off and never let them know they hurt you" (ENTP -> ENTP with abrasive humor), "Hide if you're not sure it's safe" (ENTP -> INTP), and "People don't like xNTP, make sure you aren't an xNTP" (ENTP -> ESFJ -> burnout from the effort -> ISFJ). The last one seems to be decently common among women.

[@revolutionfrommahbed4246]

Made friends with an INTP recently. He’s got AWESOME jokes. One of my favorite things is making him laugh because I think he’s got a great sense of humor - so it’s extra rewarding to crack him up. Don’t sell yourself short INTP!!! Love - ENTP 💜

[@JonBrase]

And everything being discussed here is why, in the "through the eyes of the INTP" sketch, the ENTP says "I'm just you after a few shots of hard liquor".

[@tpcmst-h9e]

As an ENTP, I agree with all the shared opinions! I especially related to the first one. Saying that.. um, my friends say and I quote, 'your crazy antics are too draining to hear' or 'you are too chaotic' doesn't necessarily hurt my feelings,(I actually enjoy hearing those comments from time to time.. especially the latter lol) but I sure do feel a lot of joy and love when someone actually hops in to my imaginations and debates! I think it's because I interpret that response as someone showing that they actually care. To a similar extent, words of affirmation make us feel loved!

[@AnnieStoxx]

I enjoy the ENTP chaos … but I’ve never felt truly comfortable around them. Always felt like I had to put on an act around them and pretend like I’m really compassionate and serving in soup kitchens every other day.

[@bobbybalonie7644]

Level of my appreciation when I make a jibe or joke or jidea, in ascending order: 1) doesn’t care 😊 2) 1, + reacts with a smile or laugh 😉😙 3) mocks being offended 😋😚😛 4) builds on the concept 🥰🤩🥸😜 5) roasts me back 😘🥳🥰😍🥺

[@bobbybalonie7644]

More accurate to say, 1) doesn’t take me seriously

[@rachellereeve494]

ENTPs and their jolly jideas. 'I think therefore I jam.'

[@bobbybalonie7644]

@@rachellereeve494 I jam therefore hijinks

[@rachellereeve494]

@@bobbybalonie7644 This is why I love ENTPs 🙌

[@itsanditimevarietyshow]

Thank you for giving us some love. Many mbti youtubers leave us on the waist side when it comes to appreciation and praise for what we DO bring to the table of society. One thing I know of ENTPs as an ENTP is that without some kind of recognition we feel we havent achieved our purpose. Much of the time we feel our value is congruent with our utility. We want to feel useful.

[@trinaq]

Thanks for continuing this series, Kristin. It's one of my favourites of yours, and always gives me food for thought.

[@keitsukishima1852]

Very thoughtful of you to bring out ' how to make any type feel loved' series! Absolutely love all ur videos , Lots of love from an ENFP follower ❤

[@justme4579]

Married to an ENTP for ten years so far.. so yes a lot of this is definitely true! We literally got into a full-blown debate on date #2 and I believe that’s when we both understood this was the one lol and to this day a good (loud) argument/debate is actually the way we connect and feel closest. It took a little time to recognize that every single conversation (argument) he has is only to gain more information or clarity on whatever random topic he’s interested in at the moment and NEVER personal. So going along with that- and not getting offended- is definitely something he appreciates! Words of affirmation are totally his thing, even when he knows it’s insincere lol and he’ll give it to himself if need be, too! Unfortunately I’m really bad at that but thankfully I am very good at arguing and challenging him lol A random genuinely meaningful gift means alot to him but it’s almost impossible to find something he’ll actually appreciate since he never needs or wants anything.. he doesn’t have much need for material things (except a good bed and toilet haha) Overall, feeling respected is probably the main thing for him which luckily isn’t hard for me since he really does have so much to offer. And having five kids together has been amazing, seeing his sense of responsibility develop and the purpose and direction it’s given him (and me!) where we’ve had to solidify our joint values and beliefs.

[@CineShinya]

First things first, I hope the pregnancy doesn't give you such a hard time now. Now about the video, I saw the first one coming from miles and the rest following up, having an ENTP brother. He is probably one of the reasons my Ne is too high for an ISFJ, as I always accompany him into the exploration of Ne and we have endless conversations and understand his mind loops and triggers, sharing mine as well, so we can rant about them for hours. Even if sometimes he can't take the fact I bring the arguments to reality with valid tangible facts ...^~^" Also I appreciated someone mentioning that ENTPs don't have as big of an ego as they look like, as they are open to different opinions and changing their own mind during the argument if their "opponent" is right. They aren't as stubborn. For them arguments are a form of exploration. Personally I also tell him one by one the things I admire and appreciate about him. He acts a little awkward when I do it out of the blue but it always makes him happy, I can tell. Something else that I do and it always works, is that when I sense something is off with him or he feels down, I always ask him but if he tells me he doesn't wanna talk about it, I stop asking but tell him I am here if he wants to tell me anything. Then I stay silent. And little by little his need for conversation will lead to revelations so in the end he tells me what's wrong in his own pace and to the extend he feels comfy about. But overall his instant reaction is mental distraction. And to me he finds a pal that always appreciates his humour. Plus, we have a very Si thing, always watching an anime together weekly. This way we have some fun quality time to do something together and create inside jokes about it. Speaking of anime, there is an anime of 80's named Patalliro with an ENTP protagonist. And frankly, I have never seen a better portrayal of how ENTP's brain but also emotions work. It's a very ENTP anime to start with. Surrealistic, with edgy and marvelous humour, in a spectrum between cancel and woke somehow, so far ahead from its time, debating moral matters, having interesting plots, but also show emotions in a unique way. For anyone that took the time to read all that, thank you dearly.

[@creativenetworkbywyndellle256]

Question do think Entp are smart or as a Isfj you see them as delusional how do view Entps?

[@TestifyToTruth]

W comment, I’ll be watching this anime you’ve named too!

[@abesapien9930]

Not sure if I should chime in, but as an ENFP with just as much Ne as an ENTP, this all rings true for me as well. The problem is that our Fi makes discussions less playful, and we really believe in the ideas we create, or we reject those ones we believe are false and create harm in the world. I have better developed Te and Ti than most ENFP's I know, so I'm able to entertain possibilities in a theoretical space for a while, but at some point I'm going to check it against my value system. I think Ne/Fi is harder to maintain in social circles and causes us to feel rejected, or at least very misunderstood.

[@revolutionfrommahbed4246]

In using the Five Love Languages here’s my POV with regard to which ones resonate best for me. Quality Time: Easily Number One!!! Hang out and chat a while. Eat a meal or have some coffee with me. Sure we both have other things we COULD be doing, but choosing to spend time with me, engage in crazy conversations - it’s the best. None of us know how many hours we’ll get in this life. When you choose to spend some of yours with me - I appreciate and value that. Physical Touch: I respect the boundaries of others so I do not initiate a lot of physical touch - I value physical closeness with people. Not “pawing” but heartfelt hugs, hand on the shoulder taking my arm or hand in a genuine caring way - smiling with your whole face. These things are easier for me to take at face value. Gifts are nice - but they need to be “thoughtful” to make an impact. When you hear - I saw this an immediately thought of you -that’s sweet because someone was thinking about me when I wasn’t around. But if the gift doesn’t resonate - well then we might start making jokes like “Oh a teapot - cuz I’ll boil up about things sometimes and get really loud…😉” I mean - if we don’t “get it” we will try - possibly by making jokes - and then hurt feelings. We don’t want to do that - but also getting the “wrong” gift could be hurtful to us because it could demonstrate to us that you don’t know us as well as we were hoping you did. So gifts are lower on the spectrum. Acts of service - I LOVE small mundane acts of service. Help me do the dishes, do some chopping for me when I’m cooking. Format the stupid file I’m working on. You’ve just made my day. But please don’t ask me what I need, tell me you’ll help and then walk away because “you’ll do it later.” If I DID ask for help - I need it now. If you can’t help PLEASE do NOT offer. Also big elaborate unsolicited favors/acts of service make me uncomfortable. If we’re a married couple- AWESOME. But if we’re just friends, coworkers or family I’m concerned you’re expecting a similar “grand gesture” and that creates pressure/discomfort in my mind. 😬 Words of Affirmation: Again - KISS with an ENTP. We don’t want you to gush. We don’t want you to say things you don’t REALLY mean. “Thank you!” “You can always make me laugh” “You’re the Best” “Love You!” “You’re a life saver!” “It’s great to see you!” Those are all GREAT! But if you start gushing about feelings or going on and on about how great you think we are, again that makes us uncomfortable and even a little suspicious. Are you trying to convince us or yourself? Also if we’re going to talk - let’s talk about something interesting. And PLEASE don’t go on about how I look. “You look great!” Is delightful to hear. But if you start going on about my physical appearance in detail, I’m going to get uncomfortable. I’d rather be valued for my intellect than my looks.

[@gdaytoU2]

I do agree, hugs are very nice

[@lucasfabisiak9586]

Dang, I never really thought about it, but the words of affirmation one really rings true. Ego boosting or not, it feels good when it's genuine.

[@JonBrase]

It's interesting, I'm an ENTP, but the MBTI never would have told me that; I test consistently as INTP (except maybe on T/F, I'm close to the line with a leaning towards T). The problem I find with a lot of personality tests (including MBTI) is that they really don't do any examination of coping mechanisms or trauma responses, so they tend to type you according to your coping mechanisms rather than your underlying personality (and personality traits that are rooted in trauma can *feel* innate, because you feel utterly defenseless without them). The one test I've seen that even begins to address this is probably otherwise not a very good test, but it had certain combinations that weren't supposed to be valid, and it typed me, basically, as "very strong introvert, strong extrovert", and when it was explained that contradictory scores like that generally have to do with coping mechanisms established in childhood, I instantly had a flashback to third grade and a promise to myself not to be friends with anyone who wasn't friends with me first, and that was when I remembered that I was actually quite outgoing before that. I feel MBTI could be improved by having each question probe a single category instead of a pair of opposite categories (e.g, have a set of questions that measure E and a set that measure I, rather than a single set measuring the balance between E and I) with the scores for each category being examined individually before being used to determine the aggregate score for each pair. This would help detect such conflicts, which can arise from coping mechanisms as discussed, or from certain combinations of psychological conditions (e.g, ADHD and autism end up fighting with each other on certain issues; autism wants firm plans, ADHD just wants to wing it, and the two often show up together).

[@sarahnelson8836]

CONGRATULATIONS 🎉 I didn’t know you were pregnant! Hope and prayers that everything goes smoothly for you!

[@indhulekha_with_a_h]

As an ENTP with polar Fi, I struggle with deciding what is good or bad for me, like this time when I got to choose my career I kept jumping to various things with my Ne and it was my ENTJ dad that helped me settle things for me. Iam just lucky that I was born in a family of people who can help me narrow down my thoughts and help me with my chaotic nature. And also an INFJ sister with whom I pair up with so naturally ❤❤❤

[@justme4579]

As an ISFP married to an ENTP, this is actually one way that we complement each other. I usually have a strong sense of right/wrong, good/bad, etc which does help keep him grounded and his mind from continuing to entertain the infinite possibilities lol the second guessing sometimes drives me insane! On the other hand, I can’t tell you how much I appreciate the perspective he provides on every topic, which has taught me new ways to think about and understand everything.

[@waftsofpetrichor]

That’s so wholesome. ❤ I bet you love annoying that infj sister of yours. I am infj and my younger brother is an entp. :)

[@indhulekha_with_a_h]

@@waftsofpetrichor Yeah and even though I enjoy pulling her leg, I still cry for her and protect her from my ESTJ mom. We just kind of defend each other. And like Kristin said,I do hide the fact I am feeling bad and that I care for her. She will not be able to comprehend what Iam feeling sometimes but just guides me through it with her Fe, and tells me I should try to know my emotions more. My love language is gifting my loved ones their favourite things. As an INFJ, what's yours? (Just would like to know, to see if it is anything different and I am not trying to intrude on your personal space).

[@waftsofpetrichor]

@@indhulekha_with_a_h I love that! My entp brother is the same with me. He’s always trying to annoy me, and the more annoyed I get, the happier he gets. 😂 He enjoys watching the meter go up. But, at the same time, he always defends me if someone mistreats me. Ugh, #stjs in general can be agitating, honestly. Some of them are actually nice and open-minded though, and I love interacting with them.

[@indhulekha_with_a_h]

​@@waftsofpetrichorI also had an #xstj friend who was initially fine and did some silly jokes.Time went on but that friend turned unhealthy and went on to be defensive towards anything we say. Now I started ignoring her and life is so much better.

[@teaskovski336]

I think doing new things with me is the number one priority. There is a new Chinese restaurant at the end of our street that might give us food poisoning? On we go. You've bought a book on quantum physics and want to do a speedreading session together? Bring it on! You wanna listen to Bill Evans and starte at the ceiling? HELL YEAH! That sort of thing.

[@arcadianfox8127]

Oooh, information on ENTP's. This gonna be good.

[@Who-Dat42]

I always test strongly ENTP and I agree with these, but I have no problems being completely transparent with people. I find they usually can't handle it, so I avoid being too blunt until I know them well. I also have friends who talk about having social anxiety and I always tell them that it sounds terrible and then try not to embarrass them in public right after. I definitely agree about not being dismissed, that one always turns me into a thorn in their side.... you know... just for fun.

[@UrWeid]

All ENTP answers were really relatable and especially the second one - we really don't get words of encouragement, admiration and affection cause others think we are too confident etc etc which is totally not true and we need good words very much and always. And the shared intellectual space is very important too, cause it frustrates me to no end to make a joke on something we both know and mb watched together and the other party completely ignores it cause they don't remember and it happens everytime with such people who just won't let you create such space with them where they do pick up all of your hints and insider jokes. It's really important too. And big yes to not taking personally banter and teasing and especially debates. Hate when people take any kind of questioning as personal insult (cough ESFJs cough)

[@maggieo1683]

One of my friends is an ENTP, and I would say this is mostly pretty accurate. I typed him that way because we both clearly had Ne. We both liked to rant about various topics and could talk for hours, ignoring details happening around us. Like his rant about the psychology and monopoly of dating apps, or my countless MBTI rants. And when I got him to watch the show Arcane, we talked for quite a while about the development of all the characters in season one, and who was most likely to be the villain in season two. And I could tell we both had a high up introverted judging functions, but that his is more logical while mine is more emotional. And this is, like you said at the end, why I like MBTI so much as well. It's because I have recently made friends with types I probably wouldn't have before learning to understand the cognitive functions. I'm an INFP, and I have one other INFP friend, one who is an ENFP, and one who is maybe an ISFP, but the rest includes this ENTP, two INTPs, an ISTJ, and an ENTJ. I've been able to make friends with "unlikely" types because of the discretion filter you can go into social setting with when you have an understanding of how type works. I can understand why not everyone just wants to talk about our feelings all the time lol

[@zhoucheng7141]

I say weird sht all the time. I overtalk but some times i talk to lets say a coworker and they tell me "i remember the other time you told me you didnt like when oranges didnt have seeds" (or some other random thing) bruh i feel so seen and appreciated my heart races so fast i feel so grateful and blessed tbh. Maybe we are used to be like a "connector" and dont often think people give weight to what we say. When someone remembers i feel really appreciated and good. Just bc we have easy conversation w ppl doesnt mean we dont crave friendship or meaningful connections. Specially if its an intellectual one. We feel fulfulled

[@ZTRCTGuy]

What I think is a real problem for ENTP's is indeed their polr Fi. Of course any Polr function is gonna be a problem for a type but when it concerns Fi, you basically don't know where you want to go, or what your values really are. it's like having a full library of games you have all played and yet you don't know what your favourite is. You do have Fe but this lays the focus on anything except you. Ne likes to branch out and create new ideas but without a purpose or reason there's very little point to do so, for me it's a pretty exhausting proces but you seem to have more energy than I do. If you are doing this for the sake of it, you really are arguing for the sake of arguing. There seems to be a bit of a contradiction here, I hear Kirsten talk about ''don't judge'' But I think you're perfectly fine with people judging your ideas as long as they don't make it personal and don't involve any emotions. If you'd only be able to focus your energy and realise what's important then you'd be unstoppable. And I very much think any ENTP can learn that. It's like a big car with a powerful engine but with no destination. To hell with society, what do *you* want to do? Regards from an INTJ

[@grizzlymcgill4117]

ENTP here - not getting offended at light prods/jokes is a huge one, big turn off when it's met with {blank}/"I'm offended" , and yeah it's also attractive when people are on board with you discussing random topics with some depth too. But basically , the NPC {blank} is a turnoff and it's way more enjoyable to spend time alone than with people who don't get it or are too awkward

[@letfreedomring7330]

I love this series. I hope you can finish it.

[@waftsofpetrichor]

I really enjoyed this video, Kristin. The fact that you want and encourage others to make people in their life feel loved is so considerate of you. ❤ Also, your shirt looks really nice!

[@dearkristin]

Thanks! 😁

[@waftsofpetrichor]

@@dearkristin :)

[@Okgeneric]

this vid is super spot on:) as an entp people will often think that i am attempting to debate or compete intellectually, this is not the case whatsoever! i really do just love conversing with people about interesting or complex or even just generic or simple ideas, depending on the context, and i really enjoy bringing new perspectives and challenging fixed beliefs, especially my own! some people genuinely cannot understand this, and believe i am trying to argue with them or worse yet "win a debate".

[@jameswilkerson4412]

Interesting evaluation of Tertiary Fe as “hard to nail down” or “hard to filter”

[@ArtificialSpacetime]

This is so kind of you!! Thank you very much. I really appreciate when people notice how much I'm actually trying, and how hard things can be. When someone shares something painful with me my instinct is to say "yeah that's hard" and acknowledge how difficult whatever that situation has been for them, specifically. I try to take the individual person's sensitivities and weaknesses into account and acknowledge that different things feel worse for some people than others. I also generally like to recognise people's efforts and reinforce their strengths and encourage positive changes and make them feel seen and appreciated, and I suppose I'd quite that in return. I also like to know that someone has my back. I'll take quite a heavy hit to defend other people against stuff I know targets their soft spots, so I appreciate when other people do that for me. If they don't, that little sims marker above my head goes ♦- - So I like this video a lot lol. And I bet your 💁‍♂likes it to. It's such a considerate thing to do it very nearly makes me want to cry, lol, but maybe that's just your pregnancy hormones rubbing off. Later! xx

[@justme4579]

I think people underestimate an ENTPs natural “people skills” due to their often brash exterior but I’ve found that they have great capacity for empathy, which combined with the ability to remain incredibly objective when dealing with other people’s issues and crises, allow them to act as an extremely effective mediator.

[@ArtificialSpacetime]

@@justme4579 Mm - and I suspect the brashness is itself more often a sign of interpersonal understanding than it is the opposite. Maybe you don't upset anyone by keeping your mouth shut at the dinner table, but you don't change anything, either. Edit: also thanks for engaging with the instructions, lol.

[@justme4579]

@@ArtificialSpacetime oh my ENTP husband’s favorite thing to do is stir everyone up by intentionally bringing up controversial topics. You can imagine the initial reactions of my ISFJ mother and ISTJ father when they first met him lol definitely took a little while for everyone to come to an understanding.. my whole family really appreciates and respects him now and were basically forced to get used to the loud, heated table discussions when he’s around

[@ArtificialSpacetime]

@@justme4579 😂 Forced to get used to you is definitely the grindset

[@matthale5388]

You are wonderful. Thanks for all your fun content

[@hoibsh21]

""LOve is the meaning of life, life is the meaning of love."" From the second greatest band in the world, The Rutles.

[@JohnHenrysaysHi]

You're such a smart, kind, decent awesome teacher, Dear Kristin. My friend saw this video yesterday and, later on, was smiling, and I asked why and it was because of you. And she was talking about you today! Also, you are a woman of and for the people! There was more continuity besides the plenty purple. Following this up with "What is love?" in your recent skit after this. hahaha And cool to return here to read the comments for the "Why?" behind the "What?". Thank you for being so wonderful.

[@denisesiddon7241]

I'm infp and love the funny, curious side of entp.

[@andrewcamarillo5728]

This was fun! Thank you

[@TheQwuilleran]

My love language is you letting me do things for you. You get your needs met, i get to apply creative thinking to coming up with a good gift, i don't have to incorporate my own feelings/rationalities, it's all about satisfying your psyche.

[@effulgENTPossibilities]

I have an ISFJ in the family and as an ENTP, I'm constantly throwing out ideas or hypotheticals. They don't understand that it's brainstorming and that I don't necessarily mean it as a "I will do this." Also sometimes if I state a fact, it can be taken the wrong way. So if people will not asuume things it is a good thing. And yes, I banter and rib just for fun...

[@effulgENTPossibilities]

I figured out if I tell a person who is more of a doer my idea, I'm surprised at how quickly my idea comes to fruition with their help.

[@gorgeouslabu]

This is the most informative and useful video i have come across about ENTP. It is almost 100% accurate on how i view and helps solidified the way i treat my ENTP partner. Now that I am so clear on what they like. I am halfway until i forgot what do i like. -INFJ

[@tamarazann2717]

Learning what makes ENTPs feel loved mostly explains to me why I don't know any ENTPs to speak of. As an ISTP I hate waffling. Pick an idea and stick with it, or quietly think about all your ideas but don't tell me about it. And words of affirmation are my least valued love language. It's a hard one to bring myself to do even when I know others value it. But it's nice to know that the ENTPs are out there, playing in the 'meta verse', whatever that is...

[@JonathanJimbo]

As an INTP this basically applies here too.

[@mariadiva7236]

Before I watched this i thought of: i love when people listen to me. whether it is a silly idea or just ranting stuff. then my second answer is: i love people who give me space to allow myself to focus on my work, not pressuring me to talk/chat/call them all the time.

[@IremovedI]

I discovered that I enjoy getting praised. I recently entered a new environment where I started to receive compliments frequently.

[@liswah6583]

congrats on baby!!

[@Ok-cr8cb]

Side tangent, but is anyone gonna talk about those earrings? They're absolutely amazing.

[@abhinavprabhakar455]

The actual video starts at 3:27. Thank me later!

[@TheUltimateMarioFan]

I don't believe in love languages but words of affirmations are HUGE.

[@concerninglife]

AAAAAAAAAAAAY love this series

[@abhaybehera4464]

11:20 idk why but this is such a good answer

[@JohnHenrysaysHi]

What's This? WOAH MOMMA! You look beautiful. However, the original surprise was because, yesterday morning, I thought about when you asked this, when I was in the kitchen...I was in a kitchen, I think...there was food at least..on the floor, and it's always gotta be somebody's morning (always, unfortunately, someone's mourning...but, surely, not ENTPs after watching your lovely vid!) maybe Australia time since you're always one step ahead of U.S., and I don't remember why...maybe because I look forward to your videos every week and was wondering what you were going to do next since you mix things up. Idk if that was the reason...gotta go! Seriously don't remember but hope you, Andrew, and your baby had a wonderful Easter, Meticulous Magnificent Mother, Especially Special For Personality, Kristin! Showed your ESFJ ranker skit on Easter and...I gotta go! Kristin, you're the best and that's no April Fools' Day Joke! Hope you enjoyed that celebration as well. Wait! If I remember right, and probably don't with my little laughable la la land light lacking light on this mutliplechoice mixed meme machine memory matter...no, nevermind...I was thinking about when you were going to do a podcast but I think that would have been when when I was outside looking at the podcast feed on my phone..Take care! You rock! Hope everybody feels loved because you are (not to sound like Kristin's INFP ranker Lily 10/10, Kristin! in all seriousness, break fourth wall heeere's Johnnnnny character (man, Kristin, I still love that chef's kiss seamless ESFP 4th wall break in the Greeting cards skit!) I know many don't believe but God loves you and cares so much more for you than you care about yourself, and He wants you to be happy with Him forever one day , just, if I may, think of the concept of the 10 commandments and thinking about how someone cares that we follow them! You are loved! And the possibility that no one else but you would follow them, so when Jesus suffered all He did, He did it just for you! And if your heart is ever breaking, hopefully it's consolation that at least you still have love in your heart left to break and you can use that love to help others. I'm praying for everyone here)...Kristin, you're the graceful one! You're way better at acting than me since you're so versatile with your performances. Me? I can only play one single type of character, Stew Pidd (my famous acting brother is Brad Pidd)....and I never break character...Quitttter Daniel Day Lewis, despite the awesome alliterative name got nothing on.... ....Wait, I remember! It was because, no...I lost it...under there!

[@TheQwuilleran]

It was interesting to see the % distribution favors Ne responses, followed by what can be classified as Ti, Fe, and lastly Si responses. I wonder if the other Types will follow this trend according to their own Function Stack 🤔

[@DarkFoxV]

Very on point!!

[@Bk01180]

Hey there, here are some video prompt ideas for ya! The 16 personalities interact on a camping trip The 16 personalities playing a video game The 16 personalities inner monologue in class The 16 personalities interact at a business meeting More video skits of Fe vs. Fi, Te vs. Ti, ETC.... The 16 personalities on or interacting on holiday gathering The 16 inner monologue at a family gathering The 16 personalities writing in their diary

[@ponchoking55]

I heard that if you play the guitar solo from Free Bird near your tummy your baby will come out an ENTP with shades on

[@Gio-G]

CONGRATS! A little unsolicited advise from an ENTJ. Whatever good qualities you want your child to possess, excell in them yourself. 😉 👌

[@itzbeskar]

As an entp, quality time and physical touch is at my top list of love languages, I know why quality time is, but physical touch may be a personal one, idk. Words of affirmation suck--sometimes. Don't do Fe I'll compliment that cus it's what should be done, give real compliments, I can tell the difference. Compliment our intelectual side, but only when we are being intelectual. If you do it at the wrong time it'll seem fake, thereby insulting us, we don't feel the need for words of affirmation so we won't want any fake compliments, which compliments given at the wrong time seem fake.

[@nickmerchant4588]

Good stuff!

[@ZuerstJesus]

Great video, interesting to know what the ENTPs think and need. I cannot open the PDF on the website - I don't know why.

[@Everynameistakenwhy]

ENTP here with an ENTP boyfriend. I agree with most of it. We love to talk about random ideas and then go on a completely different tangent while talking about something mundane. He has an amazing sense of humour too which definitely helps if I'm going on a rant about something. Oh and "hugs are nice".

[@jameswilkerson4412]

“Contrary pills of what is logical and what people around us want”-aux Ti, tert Fe

[@victoriae725]

All of this, but I'll add on one thing that does SURPRISINGLY little. Generic compliments or sayings like "I love you" don't mean much to me. Words are just words. Give me specifics so I know you're actually engaged. And like many others mentioned, honesty is key. I have a fantastic BS filter. Saying something ingenuine is worse than saying nothing at all.

[@bruhmoment8419]

Thank for these videos! They help a lot

[@theofreeman4300]

I was very disappointed when someone pointed out to me that your earrings were crescent moons instead of googly eyes.. :[

[@DarkFoxV]

3:40 as an ENTP -- AGREED.

[@tinniesealjiji]

I personally like touch

[@two2leftfeet]

How to make me feel loved: Give me a cat

[@BlackKnight-x4c]

Congratulations 🎉

[@pluto7275]

As if ENTPs deserve to be loved. *chuckle*

[@rosegladville1935]

congratulations on your pregnancy!!!!

[@ashleycook300]

I love this series!

[@fraserdab]

If only I used Instagram :(

[@youngpoet44hunnies]

Before even listening to the video the main thing without a doubt no debate youre going to have to be able to listen to them rant for hours on a regular basis. Its not really about being intellectually challenged though that's fine every now n then keeps things spicy but we dont want to be in constant Ti battles its more about allowing them to bounce ideas off u in an engaging way. Throw in lots kinkiy sex n dont talk to them too much when they aren't talking to you because we do need our space and you might mostly be okay. Maybe probably not though

[@GBanana-_-]

As an ENTP if you listen and smile to my conversations, of course, I feel happy but because you haven’t engaged I will question if you want me to continue to talk or shut up and I would very, I mean, VERY bluntly ask if I’m annoying you or if you would like me to stop talking. It would be fine if you think I’m annoying or anything, I would feel hurt. Yes. But please tell me why I am annoying or bothering you, so I can tone it down or adapt to you, since I will still want to talk to you nonetheless.

[@DANN-wd7do]

Congrats!

[@worldalicious]

To be honest...being a good listener to me is the best to make me feel loved...I love talking...When I am upset...I need someone to rant it out with... Listening helps a lot...especially because I am not a listener...I don't think entps in general are... I also value people being honest with me...however brutal the truth is...I prefer it over lies... But yeh...an ENTP video is sure gonna get a lot of views...😅😂

[@its.just.me__d8627]

the music in this vid is fire🔥

[@somejoe7777]

ISTJ here. The ENTP is the personality type I understand the least, and is the most difficult to deal with. I'm literally quite fearful of them, because they're 100% unpredictable. There is no telling what's going to be said or done when we meet, it's complete random chance. Anything that they say might be serious, might be sarcasm that you can't infer, might be a intentional falsehood, might trigger a prank or jump scare. There's no way to know and nothing that can be trusted. I literally have avoidant behavior around this type of personality, just speaking with them is almost always too stressful.

[@rayoffuckingsunshine]

😂😂😂😂

[@natesinlalaland]

Best of luck and grats🎉

[@YouilAushana]

2:21 - what a hormone fueled intro.

[@calypsodragonheart]

I am a female ENTJ and my twin brother is a male ENTP, and as most twins we are inseparable and talk telepathically. Now imagine being our INFP father and our ESFP mother.

[@WillKMemoria]

Omg... So I went to a camp and just made this one new friend, although I'm not sure if he really feels comfortable around me 😭. And he's an ENTP (allegedly)!! This is so helpful and like, idk 😍😍 tysm (uh me INFP btw, so like... I felt so nice actually making a new friend. But now that I think about it Fi blind spot, huh 😅) Thank you again for always producing helpful and interesting content like this, hope everyone's having a nice time!

[@indhulekha_with_a_h]

INFPs are the best match as friends for an ENTP.They encourage the openness for different things that an ENTP does while also keeping a check on their chaos ENTPs break the INFPs shyness and improve their social behaviour.They tend to keep them comfortable and also let them express things from meaningful and better perspectives. They perfectly weigh out each other.

[@vikinginspace4881]

Starts at 3:30 - you're welcome fellow ENTPs

[@jameswilkerson4412]

I’ve heard that having a favorite spoon is commonly a habit of autistic people, but I see much overlap between typical traits of autistic people and those of NeTi or TiNe MBTI types