16 Personalities Answer Questions About Their Dating Lives

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[@TaunellE]

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[@PeterJohnson-rh5hi]

XXFJs: "Love is everywhere." XXFPs: "Love can be anywhere." XXTJs: "Love serves a purpose." XXTPs: "What is love?"

[@claytonpayne4346]

Truth

[@emiliya7]

🎵🎶Baby don't hurt mee Okay,sorry,i'll leave

[@anonymoussomeone3491]

I was just saying what is love yesterday to my friend and singing it in my head because I love Twice-INTP

[@anameig9332]

@@anonymoussomeone3491 same bruh

[@FalconOfStorms]

@@emiliya7 don't hurt meeeee

[@arielcheng6982]

Kristin: "Are you dating at the moment?" INTP: "You mean carbon dating?"

[@sparklenights5421]

budum ch

[@denisesiddon7241]

😂😂

[@rad4924]

"Love is dead and society killed it." Love the subtle Nietzsche reference.

[@ZosiaDabrowski]

My brother is INTJ and loves Nietzsche lol

[@arcadianfox8127]

@@ZosiaDabrowski Have you read his books? INTJ are often found unknowingly quoting him, without ever having read a book.

[@beefee7279]

@@arcadianfox8127 lol fun fact

[@dischqrge4846]

Friedrich (Ni)etzsche

[@edi9892]

@@dischqrge4846 (Ni)e(T)zsche

[@GiraffesOnFire]

As the barista leans in to pour the coffee, he throws a quick glance that clearly says: "I will do this for you for the rest of our lives".

[@Introvertedalpha]

💛

[@micahmock3505]

As cold as an INTJ sounds, they have actually put a lot of thought into questions like these and grounded their expectations in reality

[@CarolineMosesComedy]

As an INTJ, thank you.

[@benjaminwellington8297]

The INTJ still hates TikTok, proving that the scene with the ESFP was from a simulation.

[@TaunellE]

Lol, I'm in love with her Intj. I'm Infj. But, I love them. Honesty is a good thing. I can handle it. 💙

[@MsJPA79]

I'm an INTJ and don't use tik tok and don't plan to. My husband is an ISTJ and that's also true. Lol. We have similar tastes, personality, and interests. We both do love each other. We both have a healthy disdain for crowds and people in general.

[@tiredcatman7381]

I'm an esfp dating an intj, he's the one using tiktok

[@kyurei4478]

@@TaunellE Yeah, I'm an Infj myself so I like it too but sometimes it just sounds more like pessimism than honesty to me. So I like them but not always. Honesty is a good thing right? So I am.

[@beefee7279]

@@tiredcatman7381 oh no... -esfp

[@freregregoire2685]

INTP in the video seems pretty accurate, not quite as opposed as ISTPs or rejecting the concept of "love" like INTJs, but just going "huh, I guess that's a thing that exists".

[@Introvertedalpha]

🙌

[@sylvia470]

True, and that's why almost all ENTJ, ISTP and INTJ are married or dating xD they fight the idea so hard they fall for it. While being INTPishly oblivious to the idea of love really makes you avoid it.

[@drawn57]

Its very hard to identify when you have love aswell it's as if it were a vampire in a mirror very strange

[@dischqrge4846]

As an INTP I discovered that I like kissing when a girl first kissed me LMAO

[@westwinde9574]

The INTJ’s theory on dating hit all the nails on the head: The dislike for shallow media, the phrase “emotions can’t be trusted”, which I have used many times verbatim, and the emphasis on shared values/goals rather than unreliable romantic attraction are a good summary of the approach. In my experience, the INTJ tends to view love more meaningfully as an action of thoughtful choice and dedication rather than a feeling.

[@whocares4607]

I really like it and i agree with that approach. - INTP

[@peachesandcream8753]

This is definiftely how I operate. I want someone who is compatible; love can come afterwards. *Finding* a compatible person, though? Seems almost impossible. - INTJ

[@thepickles8833]

And thus, the bar is set inhumanly high

[@KrillvinPingvin]

INTJ too - personally I’d marry a friend since if your connection is well built up, there’s a lot of common ground and shared ideas for the future then they seem to be the best choice.

[@Introvertedalpha]

Appreciate hearing your insights!

[@gouki4u]

"What do you look for in a partner?" Me, an INTP: "Congratulations on asking me the only question I've never given any thought."

[@m_hall]

I'm an INTP and have given that question a lot of thought, lol surely there are INTPs trying to date. It's all a spectrum. Don't you find personality interesting, and therefore compatablity interesting?

[@gouki4u]

@@m_hall I've never had much interest in dating. Relationships for me have usually been things I fall into without realizing what is happening because the other person liked me enough to pursue me. I'm the classic oblivious guy.

[@Scruffed]

@@m_hall I've had no interest in dating for 99% of my life, though I recently started using dating apps. It currently feels like I have a lot to catch up on in terms of basic texting skills despite being a lawyer that normally has no problems with words, written or otherwise.

[@dischqrge4846]

"What girls do you like?" Me an intp: "Smart girls, and pretty, but mostly smart... and pretty

[@user-ib6ol1ze6v]

@@m_hall Oooooooh boy I feel this way too ! I'm INTP interested in language and human psychology so I've given it so many thoughts. Though I've come to a conclusion that I don't know what I want, just some kind of "friendship" that goes beyond expected, I think. Because I can't imagine dating without being myself so I need to be friend with him first. The only things that matters is that both should share the same value (respect, generosity, depend of yours after all). And of course, a romantic connection.

[@Dr_Tune]

The “are you dating at the moment” for ISTJ is so accurate, they always want to get married as soon as possible when they know they have a good relationship.

[@justanerdyhobbitgirl]

Assuming they're in a place where they feel like they can actually responsibly handle it financially, then yes. At least, that's been my experience with ISTJs :)

[@Introvertedalpha]

🙌

[@edi0157]

Eh, I don't know, I have heard of many horrible stories of people getting married (or in relationships in general) and then start arguing all the time or even cheating on each other and so on so I d like to be really sure of this love thing before I take that step. Then again, I have never actually been in love so can I really be trusted with a viewpoint on that? (male ISTJ here)

[@widewailcorduroy7278]

My ISTJ spouse hates it when I try to sing to her. I wrote a song for her once. Sang it, recorded it, playing all the instruments, then mixed it and gave her an mp3 of it as an anniversary present. She said she appreciated it. Then, when I hinted that I might do that for our next anniversary, she said: "You know, I don't think I'm the sort of person who really likes music." So, next anniversary, she got a waffle maker.

[@LiorTamir]

Waffle maker IS love.

[@edi0157]

Actually, if the lyrics are on point that is pretty thoughtful I think, relationship anniversaries should be more about celebrating the relationship than whatever that person needs at that time. The waffle maker sounds great too. What I definitely hate is forcing ME to sing though. I MIGHT start singing if I am really comfortable with you and we are listening to music I like together but forcing me or doing it in public is a big no-no. That is my viewpoint as another ISTJ, obviously for your relationship the important opinion is that of your spouse but I wanted to throw in my two cents as well. Goes to show that people are different even if they are the same type

[@Me-meow77]

That's so sweet actually.. What is your type?

[@yeaesthetics3195]

No 😅 honestly things like this is the one reason why i don't really want to date istj even though im very compatible with them (as estp), bcs i like to do random fun things and if they don't like it I'll be stripped away from my soul if it happens too often 😅 i can't live like that, man.

[@BillyBob-lt5nr]

Man, gotta say, ENTJ was masterfully performed in this one. Everything, from the way that she carries herself, to the way she's dressed, the things she says and the way she says them. -ENTP

[@adampolyak7418]

I felt called out all the video. She even gave me PTSD sometimes and brought up buried memories. IDK if I liked that but that was 1/1 ENTJ you are right

[@Alex_Is_Not_Here]

@@adampolyak7418 xD

[@OGSilentMan]

Tried to save an ENTJ once from a toxic (notgonnamentiontype), but it was too late. When she mentioned "People can hurt you" I'm kinda sad inside. Hope you bros are doin alright :( -INTP

[@maaiker2977]

@@OGSilentMan It was right on the money based on the ENTJ's I've met. Stoic but as an infj appearances don't fool me and the second they open their mouths all I can think is "who hurt you? Its ok to talk about it you know". I wouldn't actually tell them that....might make him feel exposed and scares them off. But I don't have to ask them. I can make the most stoic guy talk about his mommy issues within a week without asking a single question. Apparently I have the aura of a teletubby...it has weird effects on the ENTJ's. 🤗

[@OGSilentMan]

@@maaiker2977 I know someone irl who might need that Ni-Fe-Ti magic lol. Its pretty cool to see different people radiate their strengths in different ways that affects their irl relationships/environment like that. A lot of people personally said that i'm the most "unique" of my siblings and my dad said i have "potential" though i know its literally just my Ti-Ne speaking in a family full of TJs and FPs Oi/Oe doms lol

[@sidnairain]

INTP here, and I agree only with INTJ's point. Hard to imagine an INTP who "never thought" about something. We have Fe, you know? We love to analyze everything, including emotions and feelings. It's just that feelings and emotions of others interest us more than our own, and mostly from afar, because we don't have desire nor energy to invest in relationships (caring about someone, actually do stuff you don't want just to please them, like turning on notifications to reply asap, etc). I'd rather analyze all love related stuff from a safe distance; books, games, manga, movies - they are great for that. And once you have enough data from your analysis of feelings and relationships, it's easy to come to INTJ's conclusion about it.

[@LK-jg1go]

1 year late but I definitely agree with this, and was looking for a comment like this. I've definitely thought about love and what that means and analyzed it, but compared to the norm I view it a lot differently. Many actively seek out for it and end up chasing after something superficial, while I don't see the point in it, and I end up seeing all the flaws in love and relationships that other people are so blind to

[@dirtyeffers2914]

I certainly care far more for my own emotions than others’ -INTP

[@user-oq2fm9xm3g]

Put a like directly after INTJ said that being in love and finding someone are completely different things. That's what I always say, I mean, think. People wouldn't understand, no sense to waste my energy on explaining this.

[@beerillo]

Relatable 100%

[@peachesandcream8753]

I can imagine the looks of horror I would get from my coworkers if I admitted that marriage is a union built around a specific purpose, to bring stability to your children and the merging of two families, and not for love. - INTJ

[@jameswilkerson4412]

I *may* have told my wife that a bit early, but she’s an ENTJ, so she drives with purpose

[@silverrain530]

I don't think about love, relationships and related matter too much so I had to think a bit about this but it does make sense. I'd like to hear more but you run the risk of me not understanding and consequently wasting energy so I respect that

[@cheyennemcginniss6164]

@@peachesandcream8753 but what happens if an INTJ does not marry the person they love, just the person who happened to be in the right place at the right time? Does the INTJ forget about the person that they loved who “got away”?

[@IndyLaLune]

I am an ISTP and well, I related to all the ISTP clips (it kinda surprised me) but I will say, when I have a crush on someone (which doesn't happen often at all) I transform. I internally become an INFP, but nobody would ever know. Just you. Person on the internet.

[@Jimmy_Jones]

I have the curse of if I do have a crush on someone. They end up being lesbians. It must just be some vibe they throw off that I can't see.

[@IndyLaLune]

@@Jimmy_Jones Or maybe you're into lesbians :p jokes aside, 'eh... must suck. Good luck finding whatever you care for

[@MichaelGrundler]

Oh yes, the inner INFP! I remember him from my younger years, nowadays he mostly hides deep inside of me, but he's still there. (Or maybe it's a she? I don't know how exactly that superego side of the mind stuff is supposed to work. Or if it even is that.)

[@IndyLaLune]

@@MichaelGrundler will I miss it?

[@MichaelGrundler]

@@IndyLaLune I don't know. I think I feel more balanced and mature the way I am now. But I didn't have a major crush (or other emotionally triggering events) in a while, so maybe it will show up again next time. But yes, there might be something missing. Maybe that's why I'm so fascinated by and drawn to FPs in general and NFPs in particular. It's sort of externalizing the need for Fi.

[@JS-wz3km]

INTJ: I think the feeling of love does have something to do with it. Love and a partnership. Why would you want to be beholden to someone without affection? It would be a nightmare. You are never more alone than in a crowded room.

[@whocares4607]

There's a lot of different affections, i actually agree with the approach of the INTJ. I would rather be with someone that i respect, understand and admire than being with someone i ''love'' (it's a fleeting emotion, for me). - INTP

[@sashacat936]

As another INTJ, agreed. I tend to be pragmatic when it comes to romance, but never to the point of erasing love from the equation. Fi comes third, after all.

[@Azdaja13]

@@doublejayjay This is why C.S. Lewis identified four different kinds of love, two of them romantic: Eros and Storge. Eros is that "feeling of love" while Storge is familial love, but is ultimately what Eros effectively morphs into over time with a romantic partner (Eros is the passionate kind, Storge is far more tender). In truth the INTJ seeks Storge, and understands that Eros is fleeting and can be deceptive. At least from what I can say of myself. People just don't understand the concept of love in its complexity.

[@shrimpdance4761]

@@Azdaja13 Exactly! The initial heady, honeymoon phase is supposed to deepen into a stronger, more durable love. For me, marital committment without romantic love would be like having a roommate, not a spouse. Problems occur when people go off the initial high alone and don't have those shared values, etc. underneath. When it fades, some realize they have nothing in common and might not even like each other as people. I'd hate to have that realization after I've married. -INFJ

[@suki5048]

@@shrimpdance4761 soo true

[@trinaq]

ESTP didn't even hesitate at admitting that she loved her car more than her own boyfriend! 🤣🚙

[@asvegas777]

I thought the Estp was maybe the best😂 I’m an entp but I feel them man, especially when younger I was all into cars motorcycles would hate to be accosted with a question about “love” - though as an entp we likely would be fluent even verbose in how we would avoid addressing it, we don’t like to talk about to embody Fi very often and casually either.

[@Yo-pz1em]

I’m an estj with an estp bf who is a car mechanic and a car stuntman. He loves cars more than his own mother.

[@moonlight..513]

The INTJ one was so accurate. I've never met another INTJ in my life. It's nice to know that someone in this earth can understand me.

[@Azz5sd]

yes this is soo accurate 💯

[@L4sz10]

I am an INTP by default, but I learned to play two modes when I feel too much pressed: ENTP and INTJ. I play ENTP when I feel somewhat comfortable, especially when my friends are pushing these kind of emotion-related questions. Not that I think any of it seriously it's just a bit more fun and not getting vulnerable. My other facade is INTJ, I use it when I need a bit more control of the situation, or in the very rare cases when I am actually angry at someone and need a vent.

[@ATinyWarrior]

i think that just means you're an introverted ENTP, cause the INTJ is our shadow type & it's totally natural for ENTPs to relate to INTPs sometimes. Anyway, could be anything.

[@L4sz10]

@@ATinyWarrior well, so far ALL tests of MBTI I have done resulted in INTP, and that is my most comfortable mode indeed. At least if I am let alone enough, I always do INTP stuff, I had to practice to do otherwise. Although I indeed like to play the ENTPs argument games, and arguing for game.

[@kyurei4478]

I totally get you on that. I'm INFJ and when people abuse my patience and I get angry, I switch to INTJ mode and my Fe enters in sleep mode. And when my mind is very stimulated, I enter in a INTP analytical mode and I want to know everything about a particular subject in detail. And when I'm very comfortable with friends, I start joking like an ENTP.

[@anonymoussomeone3491]

Same but when I’m comfortable around people I’m either an ENFP or ENTP and when I’m extremely stressed I give in to Te shadow function

[@bradwilliams7198]

I think a lot of INTPs (particularly those who are trying to be productive) have an "INTJ emulation mode". I tend to test as INTJ, but looking in more detail at the functions, I'm clearly INTP.

[@omologo95]

As an INFP, I don't actually fall in love that often at all. But when I do, I fall extremely hard to the point that it's an actual problem. I recently did, and it's kind of actual torture. I tried to call Amnesty about it, but they couldn't sanction my feelings in any way. Sigh.

[@SimoneEppler]

🫂💓

[@bobdole347]

LoL

[@Tomjrf]

Yep, sounds about right 🙂

[@zinniaelegans3335]

Accurate

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[@Spectacular-Spider-Dan]

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[@trinaq]

"I don't look for a partner." ISTP, once again not mincing words, and telling it like it is! 😂🤣

[@wkpopchannel1128]

ISTP being relatable - INTP

[@Jimmy_Jones]

Well at least I understand myself a bit more now.

[@torkakarshiro5170]

I feel a bit sad because on the one hand I feel like i do not want to miss out, but on the other hand that fellow ISTP speaks from my soul.

[@Jimmy_Jones]

@@torkakarshiro5170 Yep. But it's so much effort. Lol. I tell myself once I'm happy with where I am. Then I will date. (The logical ISTP brain)

[@MichaelGrundler]

The evolution of my would be answers as an ISTP over the last two decades or so: I don't look for a partner. I do look for a partner. I have given up on looking for a partner. I'm fine without (looking for) a partner. I'm not looking for a partner but I'm open to be found. I'm low key looking for a partner. Let's see what the future holds.

[@danicleckley5404]

This reminds me of a convo with my dad and sis about the feeling of romantic love. I (INTJ) said, "I'll know I've found the one when the thought of being away from him makes me want to vomit blood." They didn't know how to respond.

[@yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274]

"Trust, loyalty and compassion... And they gotta fit into the box that I made for them" 💯% INFJ

[@gh8076]

I loved the mood transitions, you nailed the triggered ESTJ (0:36) and ENTJ (6:14) :D

[@crazynconfident]

I was surprised the ENTJ made it so far without getting triggered. But many of us do have 50003245465841651654 excuses before we have to jump ship on the convo XD

[@JamieAsareZiegler]

You're getting really good at this. My only personal interjection is that when INFJs move on, they *really* move on. It's like a door slam on a two-year timer.

[@AmbientDisguise]

INFJ here. No to second chances or to lingering feelings, once it’s off it’s off, hearts are like glass, seldom do you peace them back together and not see the cracks. I am conflicted however as I do understand relationships take work, but once the line is drawn detachment is made.

[@ellinormadsen3471]

Hmm, my two INTP friends tend to be really eloquent when they answer relationship questions. They tend to think deeply about ANY questions and usually have thought about the abstract questions I have. I think a better INTP representation would be, “Hm, interesting question. It depends on what you mean by love. If it is defined by xyz, then my answer to the question is…” (they usually break down the question and answer it with a carefully chosen diction). I also don’t understand why your INTP tends to wear geeky t-shirts because they tend to go for something safe (formal, plain, comfortable) or something their parents bought them, haha. One INTP I know in their late 30s usually wear a shirt and a suit for work and parties. His casual clothes are ALL plain and of usually of the same brand. The other one I know who’s in his early 20s tend to wear plain t-shirts, which I find interesting.

[@ellinormadsen3471]

But one characteristic I’ve noticed is they tend to take time to answer these questions. You can see in their eyes that they are weighing the question and answers in their mind, so what comes out of their mouth tend to be slower paced (so that their answers represent the “truth” by their Ti logic). But if they don’t know you well and don’t want to answer your question, then they would give a really vague reply that does not contradict the truth, but does not give away the truth. I find that INTPs are really good at this.

[@BlueTemplar15]

Haha, yeah, a Rick & Morty tee-shirt is more like something that I would wear in some kind of fantasy situation, not in real life !

[@drawn57]

No yeah no yeah no yep no yeah yep

[@StrawberrySilk]

You have good observation skills. It doesn't make for funny representation though.

[@m_hall]

Ellinor you are 100% correct, could not agree more! Kristen is extremely talented (seriously Kristen don't take this as an extreme critism because you're really gifted at this stuff), but I can't help but feel the INTP portrayls always miss the mark and stray a little towards an extremely shy, bad communicator, hasn't thought through it kind of person. I'm an INTP have thought about relationships and love a lot. I think personality is fascinating and therefore compatiablity is fascinating. I often have the problem of trying to cut down my extensive thoughts on a subject, and try to make it digestable for what is socially acceptable in a small talk converstion. I'd also not typically wear a super nerdy shirts, and would stick to comfortable, and somewhat stylish. I'm 28 thought and probably have come a long way over the years as I've understood myself better. At the end of the day though, perhaps I'm an outlier on the INTP spectrum, and the majority of INTPs relate to the portrayl. Fun stuff either way!

[@TheSimplelifemama]

The ISFP giving a random excuse to get out of an uncomfortable social situation is 100% something I would do and have done in the past.

[@GlitchInUniverse]

Same 😂

[@dimensionalblade2778]

8:31 I legit said the same thing to my friends when asked what do I think of marrying someone. They cut me off before I could finish with 'love fades so don't rely too much on it' and called me childish/immature/heartless when I admitted that I'd marry someone who I didn't love. And sadly I took the criticism a bit too harshly, but I feel validated now. Thanks Kristin. Much love.

[@justacat869]

@@doublejayjay Exactly. Most elderly couples will tell you that their secret is that they made an effort to stay together despite the hardships that they faced. Very few can truly claim that they feel the same way they did in their youth because feelings fade in time. - INTP

[@ramennight]

The INTJ is so spot on, and made me laugh a ton. And yeah, love the emotion can and will flicker, die, get reignited, blaze, and then flicker again. Its the cycle of emotions. Love the action is something else though, and you don't have to feel the emotion of love to do the actions of love.

[@margaretdrumm6658]

I wouldn't marry someone I didn't love, but neither would I marry someone just because I love them. For me, the passion has to be there, but I also ask the question: "Could this person and I maintain a good working relationship even after the excitement fades?" So for me it's kind of both . . .

[@boggremlin892]

A strong relationship built on trust and respect is essential. The hormonal fluctuations of romantic emotions? Not so much.

[@LiorTamir]

I don't think anybody is entitled to criticize (in a devaluing manner) other person's concept of love, or of how they want their relationships to go. As long as you are clear with your partner and do your best to not hurt anyone- people are different.

[@Meg_intheclouds]

Me watching this and taking notes on how to attract the types and be in a relationship with them (and realising my chances are probably slim with XSTX’s which I knew anyways but still 😂) however I love ENTJ’s and the urge to meet one and breakdown their defences with my bubbliness and loving nature and overtime help them see they can love and that they are worthy of it and help them find it! The ENFP questioning what love is and that she needs to stop looking for her soulmate while still romanticising this idea of a soulmate is 100% relatable! Oh and the ISTJ “I probably love my husband” made me snort because I can just imagine my mum saying that. This is also a very nuanced presentation, and all the people in this video are very sweet and it’s just a very wholesome video! Also updates to the DKCU- the INFJ in this video who is waiting for her ex to get back to her is Becky and talking about Brad (the ESTP-you can see the start of this story line in the party video) who the ISFJ is dating! Loving this expansion to the lore lol

[@nickmerchant4588]

I hope this doesn’t cause tension between Becky and the ISFJ…

[@Meg_intheclouds]

@@nickmerchant4588 ooh could be spicy. Presumably this is after +1 to wedding video. OOH maybe the ESTP and the ISFj met at the wedding and now they’re going out 🤔

[@PeterJohnson-rh5hi]

My best friend is an ENTJ married to an ENFP. He never doubted that he could love, but both of their ideas of love are very atypical. In a nutshell, they are both believers in radical honesty supported by radical acceptance.

[@Meg_intheclouds]

@@PeterJohnson-rh5hi I love that!

[@chriswalker2562]

What is your MBTI?

[@shikicat3118]

2:49 "could you love an ant?" 🤣🤣

[@victoriae725]

My neighbors are an ISTJ and ENTJ couple. They met in college and married not long after. At "so I got one locked in early," I just about died. Yup. That right there. That's what they did.

[@chriswalker2562]

Which ones are the husband and wife.

[@ninakim9832]

My aunt and uncle are also an ISTJ and ENTJ couple! They met in college and also got married not long after hahaha My uncle is the ENTJ and my aunt is the ISTJ. Their children are INTP and ISTP. They're a no bs kind of family ^^;;

[@edi0157]

@@ninakim9832 imagine if a feeler makes it there, poor soul

[@allisonscanlan4144]

@@ninakim9832 my uncle and aunt are the same entj uncle that I'm related to and an isfj aunt. I think their kids are maybe an enfj son and isxj daughter

[@farrex0]

As an ENTP, I take offense with this video, I fall in love everytime... I look in the mirror. Ah, one thinks perfection can't be achieved until you meet me. But then again, you have met me, everything else falls short, so how can you not be in love? Just kidding, I rarely if ever have partners, I think what I would search is someone that is very intelligent, both capable giving interesting perspectives to things, is able to prove me wrong but is also openly emotional but stable. And more importantly, doesn't involve emotions to any discussion or exploration of ideas, but can be quite empathetic. I have never found that person. I have tried a few relationships, because I was curious... it is terrible. Specially since I was once with an emotionally chaotic person, it was the worst thing ever. I have been with emotionally cold and distant people, it is better, but at the end of the day, I have tert Fe and do have the need to connect with people emotionally. I have been with emotionally stable people, but the person had nothing to offer intelectually, Ne Ti is above Fe, so i got bored pretty quick. I can deal with emotions, quite easily frankly, I have tert Fe. But because of Fe, emotionally chaotic people might be the oly thing that ever get me stressed. Like I can deal with anything, but emotionally unstable people. I can help a friend once in a while, that is like that, but to have that 24/7 it is hell on Earth. So I have come to the conclussion, that is what I need, I am not much of a physical person so how the person looks doesn't bother me that much. Mostly care about their brain, but must have a bit of heart as well.

[@BillyBob-lt5nr]

I like how she said it better... Less reading. -ENTP

[@ATinyWarrior]

Thank you fellow ENTP, i didn't feel like commenting a lot today & when i do it's usually a para, so thanks for putting my thoughts into words. I'm dating an ISTP rn & it's really fun 'cause you get a lot of personal space + they're just cool people in general. Now if only my financial life was set, i'd love life.

[@farrex0]

@@BillyBob-lt5nr Dunno, your comment sounds like an STP type of comment to me.

[@shameemnilu2694]

@@farrex0 totally

[@randompersonwithinternet1001]

you know you had me until the "read more" thing i do agree with you though

[@rei-kunn]

I'm an asexual ISTP who runs away from commitment and values personal freedom, and dang you nailed this once again

[@Meg_intheclouds]

Asexual ENFP here- but platonic relationships I feel so deeply and I idealise Romance I just don’t really feel it. I find people beautiful and I am just in love with people in general I fall in love platonically very easily- I think apart of me loves everyone I meet in some way

[@vrie2053]

I'm an ISTP who is questioning (I think I'm demi or ace) and I am the exact same way.

[@hiiamjustacoolrandomuser168]

Aseuxual intp here

[@huntedsnark7507]

Oh hey, kittens! Another Ace here! INTP. And, you know, sometimes I don't know where the Aro-Ace stops and the INTP begins.

[@amanda_means_beloved3404]

@@hiiamjustacoolrandomuser168 ayy duskwood?

[@ginocastillo8272]

Yup. As an ENFJ I sort of dread people asking me what I look for in a partner because I end up talking their ear off because I feel the need to explain myself when really the girls I end up liking don't exactly fit that list 😅😂

[@natassiatavares4568]

The "have you ever been in love?" ENFP is me. I'd actually would answer that! Spot on!

[@MichaelHill-sg8ks]

Interviewer: What do you look for in a partner? Me (an INTP): Umm... someone who's smart, has the same worldview as me - which she will do if she's actually smart. Interviewer: Is that all? Just smart and stuff? Me: *sighs* Honestly... I just want someone who wouldn't mind cuddling an overly sarcastic android. Interviewer: Have you ever been in love? Me: Yes. Interviewer: ...would you care to elaborate? Me: No (I cannot reveal my feelings to anyone but my girlfriend because I have a crippling fear of exposing my feelings). Interviewer: Are you dating at the moment? Me: I mean... I'm not sure if I'd call it "dating." Me and my ENTJ see each other every day and hang out all the time but, it's not really "dating," you know? We just kind of met and, after a few months, were like "so, we're in love aren't we?" Interviewer: You see each other every day but don't consider that dating? Me: So, seeing each other every day is "dating?" Does that mean I "dated" my best friend when I was a kid just because I went out to play with him every day? Interviewer: Why are you like this? Me: Why shouldn't I be? Interviewer: *throws microphone at me*

[@richardmartin7904]

The INTJ is filthy accurate here. I also feel like the INTP. Love, dating...how does that work exactly?

[@alemon4530]

“I don’t… look for a partner.” “What is-what… what does that mean?” “Nope. ….Is that all you’re going to ask me?” The most accurate representation of an istp and their “love life”. Thank you.

[@YourNickIsTaken]

I know 4 ISTP and they have dogs. Perfect for oxytocin release.

[@whitneyd6827]

My ISTP brother proposed to his ESFJ girlfriend recently and it was actually really romantic. If you asked me a few years ago if I thought he was capable of love like this I would've hesitated lmao

[@YourNickIsTaken]

@@whitneyd6827there are fathers and mothers with this personality. I guess the difference is that ISTP don't seek love but love finds them and they go along with it. I mean dating is not an ISTP style but meet someone and having good times is definitely what ISTPs do.

[@whitneyd6827]

@@YourNickIsTaken I'm not by any means saying they can't make great parents or partners. It's honestly a shame they don't want kids because he would've made a really good father. It's just been wonderful seeing her teach him how to use his inferior Fe and overcome his insecurity of showing emotion. He couldn't do that 4 years ago

[@YourNickIsTaken]

@@whitneyd6827 oh, I get it now. Thanks.

[@LizApizaa]

Kristin just murdered all ENTPs (including me)! How do you know us so well? Kristin, how many ENTPs have you psychoanalysed to come up with those UK captions! I am too stunned to speak!

[@Meg_intheclouds]

My guess is her brother and friend are the main entp inspirations

[@jameswilkerson4412]

I have one confirmed ENTP on my FB friends. Don’t know if he’s “in love” with his live-in partner, but he had a long dating life leading up to her.

[@thomasswrisky6734]

As an INTJ, the first part about the INTJ’s absolute disgust for Tik Tok was incredibly accurate. I personally do not use much in the way of social media except for work, as I use other forms of divertissement such as reading, and frankly I think using social media overall tends to have a net negative effect on people. I particularly dislike the social medias that feature short 5-15 second clips, as it represents a lot of what is wrong with modern society. Not that I think people shouldn’t be allowed to enjoy such entertainment, but it’s indicative of a society in which gratification must be instant, and attention spans are non existant. It also encourages the unfortunate trend of “influencer” or “Tik Toker” being the most popular “careers” for young people, as opposed to something more productive and useful, like an engineer, or electrician. Don’t get me wrong, I think entertainment is important in the functioning of society, as without it, unfortunately a lot of people would be less productive, and turn to even worse forms of recreation simply in order to make their life worth living (modern society faces a crisis of meaning, and much of what’s filling the void is not healthy or sustainable). Ultimately, as a reasonable person, if a partner was ideal in all other ways, but simply happened to occasionally use Tik Tok, I would likely be able to overlook that. It’s what the use of Tik Tok is often indicative of that is the problem. Disclaimer, despite going through the process of creating a tier list of 30+ traits in a partner, and designing a multiphase guide on how to acquire a partner with another INTJ friend of mine, I have zero experience being in a relationship, as I have prioritized other things thus far.

[@BenLabelle1]

Welcome to another edition of Essays With Thomas in the Comment Section of a Dear Kristin Video.

[@8SaoriKatsu8]

You don't have to be an INTJ to hate TikTok and all the idea of social media altogether... 😉 they are useless, a waste of quality time and full of supercial contents and plain cringey stupidity... even if the short videos CAN be very witty with smart jokes (I really enjoy watching them but ON KZbin) or the content can be useful (like life hacks) almost all the time social media proves to anyone with some cells in their brain that it's indeed the reason why of our society is collapsing... real life is a much better world... 😉 - an ESFJ woman (shocker, I know)...

[@Handleitt1]

😂 sorry but I didn’t expect a wall. I’m not reading this, but I’m sure it’s 💯-intj

[@tatyannafrancis9935]

When the ENTP first came on screen, I thought it would have been ENFP! It’s fun to see ENTP’s more silly side, but still very ENTP and very accurate (especially the UK captions with the behind the scenes thoughts!) 😂😅 Truth be told though, I’d love to find a human, but I’m 20 and never even experienced ✨mutual affection✨ let alone been in any kind of relationship. Am I just that odd that no one’ll approach me? 😅 ~entp

[@PeterJohnson-rh5hi]

Ahh...to be 20 again and live in a constant state of doubting your own self-worth. Don't give up hope, and try to see your quirks as strengths and not weaknesses. If you reach out for the people to whom you are attracted, your life will immediately start to pick up. EXXPs get so much more out of initiation than passivity. There's always the chance of rejection, but you will get far more reward out of the experiences than pain.

[@ninaportoc]

as an ENFP this video is a mix of a personal attack and a punch in the face LMAOOOOOOOOOOO. i'm a 23 year old that has never had a serious relationship 😂😂. it's concerning how accurate this video was.

[@WordPaint]

I am not an ENTJ, but I am sure that if I asked my two ENTJ friends these questions, their answers and their facial expressions and their tone would be EXACTLY as you've done them.

[@missions4hisglory]

1:19 ESFJ: kind, funny, that they somehow know my unvoiced expectations (& feelings). So true! If we're feeling sad we might act super happy/silly to cover it up, but we want you to notice and ask what's wrong. 😂

[@emiliya7]

Is it just me or this video's vibeezz were just... different 😮? IN A GOOD WAY ofc, i loved it sm and you nailed each and every one of types as always

[@nitefise3890]

1:08 Couldn't be more accurate, nailed it! 3:38 Accurate again, I also love the Nietzsche reference 8:31 Accurate again

[@LoveYouPlant]

Wow this was hilarious. Also the first time I've really *seen* my sister in an MBTI sketch- thanks for doing more with the ISFP than portraying a walking aesthetic

[@jackies1729]

Feeling very seen, with my meaningful, emotive face. ❤️😊 Great job! -INFP

[@dearkristin]

Just one of the, I'm sure, many different faces in the INFP vocab!

[@jackies1729]

@@dearkristin my face always gives me away 😊😆❤️

[@tatyannafrancis9935]

I love how the music shuts off for the Ti doms 😂

[@alexanderstoyanov7464]

"Yeah, he/ she is with another one now, but he/ she will never love her/ him as much as I did....do" INFJ spot on

[@catohung1020]

An INFJ-ESTP-ISFJ love triangle, a murder mystery and confirmation that Batman exists. The lore is expanding, someone create a dear kristin wiki!

[@mfernanda_trindade]

A movie to confirm your theory: Gone Girl, when you can, search for their MBTI type (after you watched the movie so you can understand what I mean ;) )

[@phat32able]

You bring so much joy! Thank you for the time you put into these amazing videos!

[@-emir5484]

ISFJ IS DATING BRAD NOW??? THE KCU (Kerstin Cinematic Universe) IS EXPANDING GODDAMN

[@jsnldn]

this was a really fun video Kristin. i felt the energy you conveyed with your emotional range. you're so gifted! ❤

[@correoordinario2010]

This is the video I can relate most as an INFJ. Seriously, was like watching myself in the mirror

[@AF-tv6uf]

Same for me! I knew this video was going to be rough, but oof, right in the accuracy.

[@cssghostPL]

INTJ is so accurate for me it's almost frightening. Nice. Love in a long term is just a deal. I care for you, you care for me. (and we try to take over the world together) When i was in love it didn't dampen my judgment but it was just second "false" judgment which was so irritating. xD I know it was wrong but it was there trying to blind me from flaws of another person.

[@09kaustubh]

This is genius level work! And so fun to watch 😄😄. I am waiting for the MBTI types through ISFP eyes.

[@Spectacular-Spider-Dan]

I love and am invested in all the characters in both the regular storyline, and the bizarro one revealed in the UK captions.

[@HPcedarpoint13]

This was so fun! Actually laughed out loud multiple times, especially when your ad cut into the ESTJ’s answer, not sure why that was so funny to me

[@moobles2998]

THANK YOU! For iterating what I feel, there is such a thing as too mechanical. And dating-apps are the grinding millstone which destroys any organic love and mills it down to numbers and statistics about people. What about the chance meetings, the spontaneous connections, the joy from seeing someone you didn't expect walking around a corner? I also feel that I cannot properly convey emotion through text as I would through speaking to someone. I also heavily relate to having an absurd amount of thoughts and ideas for a perfect partner in my mind. But seeing you iterate the love I feel for all people I come across on the street, it just made my heart skip a beat and made me forget the rest of the world. *That*, that specific thing is exactly what I want from any partner. The ability to express their love for all things. You've made me honestly consider whether I should look for a fellow ENFJ to share our love. Holy smokes Kristin, you're out here sharing life-changing words with your audience.

[@gemmasaccount]

I love the waltz of the flowers playing in the background!

[@threehanded8853]

Really appreciate all the entertainment of all your content - very enjoyable!

[@wkpopchannel1128]

INTP here: Look for in a partner: Chill, funny, outgoing but respecting my me-time and organized (like he organizes and/or doesn't get too upset when I don't) (Hmm looks like an ENTP would be nice) Fell in love: Lol no Seeing someone: Lol no

[@linayulianaarjoinangun7852]

INTJ here. Your INTJ is so accurate. Love alone is not enough to build a family. I've chosen my husband in that way. I've been married for 10 years and I have no regrets.

[@joeyg.6138]

Kristin you are my favorite! Never been so seen as an ENFJ. Your videos, concepts, and execution are all fantastic, and you step into each of the 16 types flawlessly

[@tatyannafrancis9935]

Love the format of this video!!

[@tomasvetrak]

I am not an ISFJ, but " someone who chooses me... could be anyone " is just fantastic. Dunno if it was random but either way it perfectly describes the desperate Ne inferior in an ISFJ. They just need people to desire their Ne inferior with their Ni but people keep on rejecting them, almost just as often as they reject the immature INTP's Ne parent. Great interpretation there, wow

[@HelloThere-ki5mg]

2:26 I'm an ENFP but I have this reaction lol. I love people so much, but I've never been IN love with one. That concept completely flies over my head. I didn't realize people actually felt that way about others until like... 2 years ago 😅. I mean... what is marriage? Having a glorified, legally binding roommate? It took me a while to realize that I was one of those asexual/aromantic people because I didn't fit the stereotype of the touch-averse antisocial who has no emotion. Sure some people may relate to that description, but an absence of romantic/sexual attraction does not necessarily imply a complete lack/deficiency of love. In fact, I probably have TOO MUCH platonic love for my friends. I hug and squeeze them to death every chance I get, and I love to make memes out of them. You'd be surprised how many photoshop ideas and puns you can think of when you're determined to make a meme about someone. I love my friends so so so so so so much, but I do not want to be in a romantic relationship with them haha. Some of them have their own partners and I'm happy for them! They make each other better and it's wonderful to see your friends flourish. I can't wait to be everyone's bridesmaid lol

[@angelinap.3840]

Once again, very spot on INTJ. Also Kristin, I'm guessing the turning point that you speak of in the subtitles is either "What is love?BABY DON'T HURT ME" or the ESTJ preffering dominoes to Jenga blocks

[@doviljones2634]

I love the fact that you manage to make each one their own distinctive character. Hugely entertaining and a great acting reel.

[@CamzCritiques]

i'm an INFP who rarely ever falls in love, but my high ideals certainly do not help. when i fell in love with people in the past, did i just want to be their friend? i don't seem to fall in love much at all anymore, unless i'm already with the person... but i do get "friend crushes" all the time

[@kezzamachine]

That camera is awesome! The video looked so bloody good!

[@claytonpayne4346]

Your filming struggles are plane to see.

[@PeterJohnson-rh5hi]

This joke almost went 40,000 feet over my head. Your masterful use of the spelling change was engine-ious.

[@dearkristin]

I enjoy how you always start these pun threads, Clayton.

[@trinaq]

Yes, not exactly PLANE sailing, am I right?! ✈️😂

[@missions4hisglory]

Sometimes all a good pun enTAILs is WINGing it

[@coin3720]

What a pun, a comment like that is sure to take off!

[@elcoyote9410]

She puts so much work making these videos and working on this channel. Very talented, she should be famous

[@FateHuh]

I love your ENTJ acting in here 😍 I really wish I could see you act in the big screens one day! 😊

[@Mindbend88]

Lol nice i enjoy your wit and humor! Keep up the good things!

[@yourstrulyclee1341]

Laughed so hard with the “Can you love an ant?” on ENTP and as an ENFP-T I laughed so hard, it’s so true!! Allround a great funny video 👌🏻👌🏻

[@szabib8048]

I swear this channel is the only one where I watch the videos twice: first without subs to get the general feeling of the personalities, then the second time for the puns and/or explanatory subtext. This "alternative text" really is a clever gimmick to glue me to the videos, so good job, again! Can't comment on the actual topic, love life of any kind seems to elude me with all their force, so I gave up chasing it...

[@johnknight9150]

(INTJ) 1:07 Thank you, Kristin. It's an effective and immediate way to filter people.

[@anawerena5396]

This video is PERFECT, seriously!

[@ynzn8990]

Happy birthday Kristin! ✨🥳

[@catvalentine4317]

The "have you ever been in love" for the ENFP hit too close to home, I have literally had that conversation with so many of my friends 🥺😭 I just fall in love way too quickly and way too hard, I kinda wish it'd just stop, it's getting so exhausting. Also, that paired with my inability to see if someone is being geniuine with me sets me up for desaster, fuuuck...

[@ninaportoc]

I feel you. If you need anything I'm here for you!

[@catvalentine4317]

@@ninaportoc Thank you ❤❤

[@ayla9772]

I'm an ESTP. I feel so called out. I broke up with my last boyfriend because I realized I loved my car more than I loved him.

[@pcastrohp]

ENTP here, never felt so represented and called out at the same time before...

[@entj5315]

I feel like ranking my "favorite" attributes of the types I'm most romantically compatible with -INFP I tend to have quite a bit of chemistry with INFPs because they help me with my inferior Fi and being more understanding. I think BY FAR my favorite trait is when INFPs develop main character syndrome and continually mention how INFPs "aren't like other girls". What's amazing is when they say "no one feels my pain" when you've literally said something every INFP in existence has felt. Jokes aside, I do love them, and I would love to date more INFPs -ENFJ I love ENFJs because we seem to understand each other. We usually function as two parts of a whole that makes both of us better. They're usually very passionate about their ideas, and we can share different views. My ABSOLUTE FAVORITE THING tho is when they "don't cause drama". They just so happen to know all the gossip and involve themselves in many difficult situations. Not dramatic at all. Ofc I'm not being serious. ENFJs inspire me. I've had some very deep connections with them, and I could see myself marrying one -INTJ I love INTJs for their cute awkwardness. They're the stereotypical nerd that's top of the class. They have the kind of intellect to keep me interested for hours on end, and they're great at listening when I just want to voice my frustrations before I lose my temper. Their top tier trait has to be that they're out of the relationship if their Ni doesn't see a future. They don't need evidence or further inclination as long as it doesn't feel right. It doesn't matter how they feel or going with flow to see if things might work out, their psychic senses sad no. Again, I love INTJs. I just wanted to joke around a little

[@pearlsb45wine]

Love how the INTJ immediately defaults to what they DON'T want 🖤

[@kyurei4478]

INFJ is spot on and very depressing but how could I blame you, this type is all about tragedy. Even when we're funny we're usually tragically funny. INFJ doesn't need obstacles in love, they're their greatest obstacle.

[@claytonia1586]

Thats so true 🙈

[@PixieLady45]

💯

[@Everynameistakenwhy]

The ENTP one is perfect!

[@yuishizu2]

ISFP....accurate 🥲 Never elaborate, friends. Btw, the ENTJ shift in emotions at 9:30 was well-done. And the INFP Flynn Rider smoulder 7:00 was hilarious 😆

[@johnnymundo1006]

As an isfp i felt the first one :( that's exactly what i would say to that question

[@thewolf8660]

Love *can* be an emotion, like most people assume it is, however I've noticed that the people who view love as a verb tend to have longer lasting and more meaningful relationships. My grandfather once told me; Love is 10% finding the right one, and 90% being the right one for them. - An INFJ.

[@finnkuudere3516]

This is correct. I am actually scanning through the comments hunting for an ESFJ to thank. (ESFJ are often inaccurately stereotyped by the immature) I saw your comment and I had to agree. I am an INTP and I married an ESFJ. They are masters at love. "90% being the right one for them" Also 1st Corinthians 13 This woman is incredible and even teaches me how to love her back. Either way, love is a verb.

[@midnightfield]

I appreciate the soft blanket on INFP's shoulders & can relate to having an emotional attachment to certain trees hehe

[@drunkmanroofpennant1013]

Amazing camera angle and quality!

[@mouhiazeck]

In love with ENFP's hair and also, wow it's been a long time since I watched a dear kristin video I'm hit with the awesomeness again

[@Dj-ow4op]

0:41 As an ISFJ, I approve this message

[@justanerdyhobbitgirl]

The are you dating at the moment question was relatable 😅 My bf (who got back together with me some months ago) is very concerned with being financially ready for marriage, which I do appreciate to a point (though he's an ISTJ not ESTJ). He doesn't mind poetry and music, which I'm glad about. 😊 -INFJ

[@popqueen24x7]

kristin ur eng uk captions for enfj have sent me

[@Marina-zx7du]

hahaha the istj couldn´t be more accurate 😂😂😂 and that shuddering thing at the end... I am doing exactly same thing 🤣

[@FalconOfStorms]

Dudes named Luigi who don't know about Nintendo: 'hey wtf'

[@dearkristin]

HAHA