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Ah the holidays, that blessed time of year when we come together with our highly functional family systems to engage in some good, old-fashioned fun.
If that sounded like a joke, this episode is for you.
@RickHanson and I explore how to survive the holidays with the dishes (mostly) intact. We talk about the pull of dysfunctional family systems, our tendency to return to the way things were “back then,” and balancing the desire to flip the Thanksgiving table with the desire to just make it through another year. I thought this was one of the most interesting conversations we’ve had recently, and I hope you enjoy it.
Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
2:00 What makes the holidays tough?
5:30 The gap between who you are now and how your family system interacts with you
14:25 Parents yearning for the past, and craving gratitude
25:10 Finding agency amidst obligation
27:50 The weaponization of morality, and not needing to defend boundaries
32:40 Appreciating something about people amidst your struggles with them, and identifying the stakes
39:10 Getting through it when it’s hard
44:05 The tension of wanting to speak up
46:50 Resourcing yourself ahead of time, and recognizing what’s in your best interest
53:00 Two kinds of grief and loss
1:03:30 Recap
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Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth.
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