Thank you so much ❤

Dude I’ve had a crush on you from the beginning. Your genuine tenderness and thoughtfulness seriously makes you my dream man. Just so rare.

This talk is very well articulated and brilliant, cutting edge. I wish all people would listen to this talk. Incredibly useful. Thank you!❤

Tiny little bone to pick with you Forest. At 46:55 you bring up aerobic exercise. You might not be aware that the research over the last ten, fifteen years is showing that resistance training (which can be largely equated to weight lifting) has benefits comparable to aerobic exercise. Historically, the medical profession has emphasized aerobic exercise because that is where the research was, and the research was in aerobic exercise because it is easier to do. Organizing an aerobic exercise study is easy. Organizing a resistance training study is a couple of orders of magnitude harder. So you can figure out what the researchers did. However, in recent years, researchers have started playing catch up, and investigating resistance training on the same level as aerobic exercise (which again requires a couple orders of magnitude more time and grant money). The short of it is that aerobic exercise and resistance training have different but overlapping benefits, and each is better than the other in different ways. I don't have the space here, or the expertise, to summarize ten years of research. The point is that the world has changed, and you might be a bit behind the times by neglecting to give resistance training an equal mention with aerobic exercise.

Many thanks for putting this video together with your dad. I learned more than I ever thought I would about this topic. I was asked to watch this video for credits for my work. 💟🕊️🌎🕊️💟

I always fell like I’m a child pretending to be an adult.

I tried to have a relationship with an emotionally immature partner. I couldn't stand it for more than six weeks. How do people put up with this?

Dx with brain lesions, swollen spinal cord, disautonomia/POTS (due to LC) since 2020. But have had autoimmune diseases, including fibromyalgia, interstitial cystitis, hemorrhagic colitis, starting with nephritis at age 11. And my hubby of 27 years is an alcoholic who, like me, suffers from CPTSD but refuses to take personal responsibility and flies off the handle out of the blue. It’s very disruptive to my ongoing health issues. I’m a non drinker, I eat clean organic, no gluten no dairy and very little meat. I have found that saying a mantra, “I am safe, in my body, at this moment, I am safe.” Helps relieve many of the unpleasant body tension and mind worries that are triggered by his outbursts. Anyone reading this, may you have peace in abundance.

brother, you are very smart and i do not say that lightly. few people understand the subtleties of it all, especially what you said about mindfulness. really appreciated video!

I have C-PTSD and experience total amnesia when feeling trapped. I can have a conversation or visit while being totally absent and experience complete memory loss for the duration

Please create a future episode on accepting the death of the other options!!

Forrest where do/did you play poker?

Yes, please do an episode on learning how to come to terms with the fact that choosing one option means the death of the other option(s) you had. I find this incredibly hard and haven't found a good way of doing it. Going forward, the other option tends to recede in my mind and emotions but that doesn't feel good either - it feels like I'm being disloyal!

It's only happened a couple times but sometimes I feel like I'm in a vr game or I just don't quite feel there. It's honestly only has happened when I'm super tired so I don't know if it's dissociation or sleep deprivation but it's such a weird feeling bur kind of enjoyable

What a fun episode this was. Thank you.

This podcast was so informative, uplifting, and inspiring. Thank you both very much!

If Forrest Hanson is reading this and is capable, please give Dr. Lindsay Gibbson love from Vish 18 year old from India. I just want Dr. Lindsay Gibbson to know that she just ressurected me, I want her to know how thankful i am to have read her words. Her books took me days to finish, each sentence is like hitting on the nail and i have to walk around taking deep breathes and accepting it, i feel like i am living again. when i look into the mirror even though i have done nothing to my appearence it feels like i am finally seeing myself.

Great to see you guys together. Great work.

I already knew about some of these psychological frameworks, but got so much more out of hearing you explain them with so much compassion and kindness. Really appreciate your content!

Loved the episode, and the famous yellow pad! And honestly, when Rick started talking directly to the listener (to me!) about how I CAN succeed if I only put some effort into it, I got a bit emotional. I think everyone needs to hear it from time to time. So thank you. And yes, I'd definitely like to hear about how to go through the process of grieving for the path we didn't chose, and how to make some space around our ability to make choices.

I disagree that there is rational in a rat playing dead to escape from an hawk. On of its ancestor might have appeared dead accidentally and its outcome was that it survived because the predator saw no movement, now its whole lineage will play dead to survive. We freeze not just because of how we were brought up but because of how generations that came before us survived and the way it’s encoded into us.

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I think I exhibit a lot of these traits. And I grew up in a household with a very self referential parent. I trained myself to “fit” in socially.

Thankyou for this discussion. New findings regarding placebo centre in the brain opens the door to activate mental health placebo in time of intense trauma. The link between anaphylaxis and anxiety crisis should be investigated because I unfortunately have a large dataset of experiencing both. An EpiPen for the mind...

Yes!! How do your let little bits out at a time without the whole gates opening!!

Thanks!

This info is gold and it really helped me at work! I am okay now thank you. It confirms I did everything right. Self Validation.. Check.

You got to let it go

The point at the end about the difficulty of letting go of other possibilities in the act of committing to a decision REALLY spoke to me. Thanks.

Emotional Immaturity when there is no self reflection to the degree that the behavior is not changed is a form of narcissism.

Here is how I avoided killing myself after being thrown in jail by a man who had just beaten me up and called the police when I was in a dissociative trance from the beating, sending me to jail and charging me with a felony I had not committed and ignoring any charges on him. This film journals what happened: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hoHRlohrp7R0bKssi=gxbFtPKD9ejytjll

This video is so wonderful ❤I am a more “feminine” guy, and in the gay world, it is so prized to be masculine. Even myself and very attracted to masculinity but only in looks, not in heart. Most very “masculine “ guys are just for show and tend to actually be a lot more feminine then they let themselves be. You put into question what it even means to be feminine or masc. you’re right…why is it that just because I’m warm hearted and empathetic, it must mean I’m more feminine? Anytime I’ve tired to be more masculine, I actually feel like to takes away from my soul. I can’t be cold like that, I can’t “preform” like that. Your girlfriend is beyond beautiful! I’m so happy you have found her. And you also have made me think how faulty it is to look at someone and think oh he’s not that masc and then deduce form that his value. I would hate that done to me. What sucks about the gay world, is that they do put masculinity at such high value. So those guys you were saying that to the gym and get jacked, are adored by gay men. They love that; hell I love a jacked man too I can’t help it. But I’ve also met men who want only more feminine guys so I know there is much desire for me as well. There’s this idea in the gay community that they want “a real man” which truthfully sounds so self hating. They want men who don’t look like they’re gay. Hate to break it to soooo many but lots of those guys tend to be bottoms and big queens in bed. Most guys who try to be SUPER masc, I just laugh bc I know they just aren’t. And I’m not gonna be Dora the Explorer to find out who you really are. I think sexuality as a whole is very complex in general. I feel a hypocrite that I don’t like men like myself but I just feel like my softness, heart, and warmth would pair wonderfully with a man who is more of a protector. I’ve also had scary things happen to me and have been assaulted so being with someone who could knock someone out if someone bothered me actually matters me to a lot. So often in my life I have not felt protected. Attraction is complicated!!! Who knew! Thanks for your video. It is so wonderful

Thank you both for sharing your wisdom and intelligence so skillfully. ❤

As someone who is suffering through grad school right now, it gave me such validation and hope to hear Rick share his struggles. Thank you both! As always this podcast is just what I needed.

Really amazing video. Well done Forrest. And a man that's emotionally available, a healthy communucator and a freak in the sheets is definitely attractive. Not the bad boys. Wouldn't touch their eggplant if I were poisoned and the antidote was in their swimmers.

Thank you Forrest. Have you done a video on building charisma? x

Thank you for this

"Rational" decision making isn't always fully reasoned. It can be very influenced by emotions (unwittingly to the person). Much more left brained and missing out on the benefit, well roundedness and the emotional processing and regulation of the R side. Too often when people talk about the rational thinking vs intuitive thinking...they think the rational is more "factual". Many people on the autism spectrum, work linearly, rationally, and data based...yet, they are often having powerful emotional influences that they are wholly cut off from. They do not factor this into their assessment of their decisions & falsely believe that their decision making was based on rational reasoning. People not on the spectrum (who are more left brained) tend to be this way too. We have to be carful to not confuse rational, with better judgement or reasoning. Intuition can be a deeper knowing, assessing, incorporating of the information gathered. Of course there is false intuition, those can be hunches based on fear or other distorting filters. I might've misheard too...but I thought forest said that those who are intuitive are less spontaneous. Can you please site the source? This has not been my personal experience, whatsoever. It is more often the ones who see themselves as "logical" (as their main identity) who overthink, analyze, and get stuck. They struggle with spontaneity, as if more thought processes can mitigate risk, and all the unknowns. It can't.

Yes to Toastmastters! For some of us, merely standing, without fainting, with something to hold onto and half hiding behind, is the most dangerous challenge we can master.

Reminds me of the Tonglen practice in Buddhism: where we take the dark and give the light and that is what he is doing in his practice - literally. In tonglen, one does not do it literally but as a practice so we may connect with humanity and open our hearts to all suffering and bring ease instead. "Tonglen is a Buddhist practice that involves breathing in the suffering of others and breathing out peace and healing. Its purpose is to cultivate compassion." Wikipedia

What a wonderful and human-being guest! Great interview. Still listening!! 🌺🙏

Can you discuss the emotional process of committing to a decision in a future podcast episode? Would love any research, insights, and literature discussing this. 1:27:35

A life changing conversation. Thank you both!

I am so grateful for you!

Love these conversations between Elizabeth and Forrest - major corrective experience vibes seeing how beautifully they attune to one another with such curiosity and care. Thank you for sharing with us!

This video opened my eyes, thank you for it.

I am adult diagnosed ADHD, chronically indecisive, CPSTD, unaccredited bible school degree as a queer atheist. Decisions are HARD. SO SO SO HARD.

The reverse engineering ideas were so useful, thank you! 🙂

Hi Forrest, I really really enjoy your podcasts with your dad and you guys talking about shame <3 I wanna say tho that your use of the words normal/normative and such were kind of off-putting or missing the point a bit for me, because you might feel shame towards doing/being something very against 'the norm', but the point is if there's nothing wrong/harmful about what you're doing/thinking then there's no need for shame. So it's more about whether you believe it's right/fair, rather than if it's normal or not. Because there are plenty of harmful normal things, and plenty of wonderful not normal things.

I wouldn't say you are "feminine." I think part of the issue is: connotational drift.