How to Meet AND Attract GOOD Men || Husband Material ?? Where Are They!? 💍💕🥰

[@MrsMidwest]

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[@Wide-Eyed-Audience]

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[@katieociardha2196]

I started telling guys on the first date I was looking to be married and have children within 3-5 years around 23 years old and that sex was off the table until marriage. To my amazement, they all responded very well to this, I had a couple of serious offers and finally decided on my husband, who is a darling. Men like clarity! I wasn't full on about it, just let them know what I was after and it was fine if they didnt want the same, no hard feelings.

[@planckismus]

Good for you! The men who would be turned off by this are just not the right men for us

[@jasminealexia]

Love!

[@SpecialBlanket]

Actually yeah. At the time I met my current partner I wasn't feeling like having sex with anyone. I do have sex in relationships but at this time I was going through a celibate reflective period. This guy was known for seeing a LOT of women, people assumed he was a bit of a player or seducer. I actually came on to HIM but I also told him at the same time that I wouldn't be having sex even if we started dating lol. And he didn't care!

[@Sarstan]

I assume you meant it, but that "within 3-5 years" you'll want to clarify. If I heard 3-5 years, I'd walk. Mainly because I've heard so many women saying they want to wait at least that long. I want kids as soon as I marry my future wife and I don't see any reason to date for more than a year.

[@anr8507]

@@Sarstan Same I see dating a bit as a waste of time. I don't see why a lot of people wait for years to know they want to spend their life with a person. I think we should beleve out intuition and don't lose time. A year seems perfectly fine to me , personnaly I lived with my husband after 1 month and we got married after 6 months. Just keep in mind that normality has a different meaning for everyone

[@LauraP1324]

Advice I give to young people now struggling with this is: Default to “Yes”. If you are asked to a BBQ on the weekend, the answer is “yes”. If a coworker asks if you could help with their softball team, the answer is “yes”. If a volunteer opportunity comes up thru work or church or your community, the answer is “yes”. I’m an old married mom of teens now, but I have observed this over the years. I give everyone 3 tries. I ask them to join, or for coffee or lunch, 3 times. After 3 no’s, I move on. Almost every time, the people who say “no”, complain they have no friends or suffer from being austricized. Default to “yes”.

[@popcorncentral8457]

But you don't always have to say yes if something feels off to you.

[@snoy98307]

I think we need more videos on how to be open to relationships, I am a working woman and I am 25 and I really want to meet good man but I can't find many man or people in general. I am quite introverted. I think woman like me struggle to get into relationships a lot.

[@MrsMidwest]

I absolutely would love to help on this topic. I’m so passionate about social networking and working on this area, especially after the pandemic and so much shifting in the social world… don’t feel bad! You’re not alone. I’ll make more content about this. ❤❤❤❤❤

[@dazzlemefine311]

Emily Wilson and Phylicia masonheimer are good resources for that! Emily has KZbin and Instagram and website. Phylicia has a website and an Instagram.

[@misss827]

I suggest "Getting to I Do" and Dr. Pat Allen

[@ninazagva54]

@@MrsMidwest Yes, I think this would be awesome!

[@ninazagva54]

I am happily married, and wanted to mention that sometimes a relationship has to have the right timing. My now husband and I dated and he broke things off before we started dating again and got engaged. We both had to do some internal work and came back with more clarity. Just wanted to say that in case it's encouraging for someone out there.

[@loganthompson5374]

I was very hesitant to date my now husband because of yes personal things I had to work on! And I just wanted to be sure. But obviously much of that part comes with dating. Once I finally gave him a chance- I knew he was it after a while. And of course I was interested in him from the beginning!!! Haha but it just took time and we became best friends in the mean time. I definitely could’ve handled it better and shouldn’t have been so back and forth with him, but now we have been married for 2 years, have a beautiful 10 m old baby boy and another baby boy on the way!! All thanks to Jesus. He had to help me through it haha

[@kccoj12345]

How long were you broken up before he came back? What was his reasoning for breaking up with you? How did you guys get reconnected?

[@ninazagva54]

@@kccoj12345 I don't remember exactly. Maybe 8 months or so. We just weren't a healthy couple (communication-wise, expectations-wise, and our ability to complement one another wasn't the best) and he could see that and made a decision. We reconnected because we lived in the same area and saw each other in the workplace.

[@daniellengarcia]

I stand by making friends and putting yourself out there in college. Those friends can and often will lead you to the right man. My guy is not on social media at all, lived on the literal opposite end of the state I grew up in, and there’s no way we would have met unless I had struck up conversation with a random girl, who became a roommate & friend, outside of our Calculus I final on the literal last day of that class. My guy is her now husband’s close friend and we just went engagement ring shopping! 💗

[@MrsMidwest]

I love this!! It’s very true. A vibrant social life will always be a net positive ❤

[@L13-s5f]

As a 19 year old woman who has never been in a relationship, this was such a wonderful and educational video!! Thank you so much :)

[@MrsMidwest]

Okay thank you for the feedback because I sometimes feel like I’m saying a whole lot of NOTHING 😂😂😂 gonna keep unpacking this topic though so we can spread the good advice ❤

[@L13-s5f]

​@@MrsMidwestActually I prefer it when your videos are longer :) It's like a podcast I can listen to while I'm doing chores around the house ❣️❣️

[@katrinagreinier5073]

I met my now husband when we were 20. He was one of my brothers friends. We dated for a few months right after meeting. I broke up with him because of problems on my side and his. A year later, we had both done a lot of work on ourselves and became really great friends. Once we started dating again everything felt so right. We are now 2 years into marriage with a baby on the way.

[@jasminealexia]

😍❤️❤️

[@mandybillings1019]

I’m 30 and have been watching you for years… beginning when I was in the wrong relationship and you actually helped me realize it through some of your old videos! After that relationship ended, I suddenly got promoted and relocated, and met my current fiancé at that new location! It’s hard not to see His hand in that but I’m so glad I “saw the light” so this could all be set in motion. Of course this is years after I’d hoped it would happen but the key is to never lose hope and not buy into popular culture. You’re such a role model Caitlin and I’m so happy to see you ✨ thriving! ✨

[@MrsMidwest]

AHHHHHHHHHH🎉🎉🎉 I’m so happy for you !!!! Yay!!! As much as I want y’all to be in relationships, I equally want those to be HEALTHY ones. You beauties deserve the best. I’m so happy you’re with your current fiancé. Bless you my dear. Happy wedding planning 😊

[@romysv]

Hoping to have your luck one day and thank you for this message. I turned 34 ten days ago and I'm losing hope

[@swelnel1669]

I’m married, but these videos are entertaining and make me so grateful for my husband when I hear her list traits of a good man and in my head it’s like ✅✅✅✅

[@bros4654]

I've watched this video three times already. It's so refreshing to hear from a woman who genuinely likes men and wants to help other women to find solid, meaningful relationships with us. We don't get that very often, it's pretty discouraging at times. Love what you're doing here on this channel. I'm not your target audience, but I'm always encouraged nonetheless. God bless and thanks for the videos!

[@rachelroussel8047]

already married, already a homemaker and girlll do I WISH I had this video 4 years ago!!! such good advice!! girlies. she knows her stuff.

[@alexuspeavy1440]

Caitlyn, I just want to say thank you! I started watching your videos on Femininity & Homemaking 3 years ago. It brought me so much peace about the desires I always had as a women & even kick started some structuring of my theology. A few months ago, after feeling like I’ve been in a season of preparation for years, I met my match! A wonderful, godly masculine man that is everything I’ve ever wanted & needed in a partner! So thank you! These types of videos were so helpful to me, and I’m so grateful for you.

[@JustcallmeJens]

Be open to dating your friends!! Don’t just stick men in the friend zone. I was friends with my now-husband for 5 years before we started dating and had always considered him “just a friend”, and so many married women I know have similar stories.

[@cha9165]

I have one guy friend who is perfect,marriage material but he ended up moving away to live and he travels for work. I'm gutted but I'm just being the supportive friend for now. I don't know how to tell him I like him, he's just say it's not a good time for him

[@p0ggles]

“…check yourself before you wreck yourself…” -Caitlyn 2023. My girl spittin facts today.

[@AllisonSabol]

I used to listen to your videos before I was married, a few years ago- and I recently rewatched all your videos and realized how much I grew over the years, and being married now for a year is such a blessing, I never thought I would be where I am today! thanks for all of your inspiration and guidance! We are the same age but thank you big sis 💖🥰

[@MrsMidwest]

Stop you’re gonna make me emotional !!! 😂❤😂 we are really all growing up together aren’t we 🎉😊

[@AllisonSabol]

@@MrsMidwest Aww you’re too sweet 🤗 💖 it’s the beautiful journey of life, & it’s so nice we get to help each other through it- you really have the best channel!

[@TracieSmithpomeranian]

For someone so young, you're very wise. Growing up, my house was chaos. I DON'T WANT THAT! I was the girl who didn't date much because I didn't sleep around. Yet, I was one of the most respected for that. I have lived with a man who wore a mask for twelve years. Dear God! When that mask came off, WOW! At 52, I am finally looking for a marriage partner. At this point, I have learned a lot. As you said, I know what kind of man I want.

[@fellowhuman7085]

This is exactly what I've been waiting for! It's been a struggle finding a godly man. I pray every day for a good husband because I long for my own home and family ❤

[@MrsMidwest]

Amen! A completely natural and wonderful desire 😊

[@fellowhuman7085]

@@MrsMidwest you're so sweet. So thankful for your advice 💗

[@ip3931]

I no longer envy you but rather am happy for you because from just watching and listening to under 5 videos I can see that you're genuine!

[@ip3931]

Having said that I still question God on why there is SO MUCH WRONG with me compared to winning women like yourself.

[@vickyvazz]

I met my fiancé in highschool - music theory class. I was very lucky. But I did many of these things and was watching these videos in high school. We dated long distance in college, and are now getting married in December! ❤ If you know what you want and are ready for a serious relationship, school is a great place to meet people.

[@thesacredtingz]

This was just what I needed to keep the faith and stay positive and not look at videos that say this lifestyle isn’t “possible “ ❤I will keep the faith and won’t give up this is is solid advice I feel happier and content with this so excited to keep going

[@eeveefrost7975]

I would love a podcast from you. such great advice. I've always been caught up in being the pursuer in relationships because I date men who do a lot in the beginning to "wow" me and then they slowly pull away. I have been driving myself nuts trying to figure out how to express interest without getting myself caught in more situations where I fall for the love bombers and become Mr. Man who has to plan everything, pursue, take action, over function lol. This was so helpful

[@MrsMidwest]

That sounds beyond frustrating !!! I’m happy you’re noticing a pattern there and aren’t settling for it. You deserve to be pursued. Proud of you ❤

[@katieociardha2196]

Caitlyn, I started watching you years ago and now I'm a married SAHM with a baby boy ❤ you are a blessing to so many young women and the Lord has used you for so much good 💕

[@citrusfirefly]

Your long hair is gorgeous! Oh my gosh! I love your necklace, by the way! God Bless you, Caitlin! Thanks for all of the advice.

[@jasminealexia]

Wow! Extremely great tips + insights. You’re so right about the quality of men in the real world versus online. Whilst in my 20s, I dated 3 guys just working at a bowling alley. These men had great jobs and their own nice places. Now that I’m in my 30’s I’ve been on dating apps where these men have either been broke or total narcissists! I’m an esthetician + makeup artist by profession so I can only meet women now but my job location is right next door to a very cute + cozy coffee shop. Whilst working at the snack bar of that bowling alley, I realize I was actually the one who made the first move with at least 2 out of the 3 of those guys 😲. Just watching your video here just made me remember how much more open and outgoing I was compared to how I’ve gotten now-just working and on dating apps and super single! This just reminded me to start being more intentional with my whereabouts! I think the least that I could do is be more present at the coffee shop next to my workplace and even visiting this car wash right next to where I reside! Again, totally love this video! It should help a lot of women!! ❤

[@madelainearevaloc]

So true. God bless you, dear! how is everything going?

[@juliacopeland6804]

My dad pushed me to meet a new neighbor for about 2 months, and their daughters went to the same college as me. Definitley ended up meeting my husband two months later through them when we went back to school that fall.

[@MrsMidwest]

This is a wonderful story!! Go dad!! 😂😂😂

[@user-ei8rb7sj6c]

As a “young at heart” senior Christian widow, I’m not your typical viewer. It’s been 8 years since my husband passed, and I’m tired of being alone. I want to meet a godly man, but have no idea how to go about it. I love my church and have seen a couple of men there I’d like to get to know better. Our church is large, and the only time I see them is at church services. I’ve asked a few of my friends if they know them, but they don’t. I don’t know how to go about letting them know I’m interested without seeming too forward. I’ve asked God about it in my prayers, but so far, no answer has come. Perhaps he will speak to me through some of you younger single Christian men and women who are viewers of this channel. Thank you and God bless you. 🙏

[@katieswan7385]

Why not just walk up to them and introduce yourself. ,"HI, I sit back over there, I've been coming here for a while, and I don't think I've met you yet. My name is____, and then let the conversation go from there. I'm sorry for your loss, I pray you were able to really lean into God during that time. His love is so healing and can reach where no one else can!♡ Praying for your dating journey, God's timing is perfect.

[@justmemyselfandi7760]

Hey... Your attitude towards life seems so cheerful and forward looking it's truly inspirational. Hope I can have the same outlook someday. I can see how it may be a little tricky to approach men directly, especially when you don't know what experiences they come from. I'd suggest you put the word out to friends and close relations you trust, at church for example, that you're looking to be in a relationship again. That way, they can set you up on a date with someone of a compatible background and you can see where it goes from there.

[@wolfsmaid6815]

Honestly, I am an extreme introvert, I sometimes went months without seeing another human being when I was in university (online classes, yeah). That being said, I still met around one man per year in my life that would have qualified as a possible husband. Sure, it´s not a huge pool of people, but if you decide to get to know this person, then between the age of 16 and 26 you have already had a pick of 10 possible suitors who would make a good husband. Good advice on making the first move though, I struck up the first conversation with all four men that I dated in my lifetime and I would probably never have had a proper conversation with them if I wasn´t the one to go up to them and say something like "Hey, you look like a young Axl Rose from Wish, what music do you like to listen to?" (that was the actual first full sentence I said to my husband)^^.

[@daniellarodriguez1801]

I also take online college classes. I was thinking on ways for me to meet that man. I'm into arts and sports. Putting yourself out there and finding your community is a good start

[@madelainearevaloc]

Ohhh so beautiful!

[@yunia_ooo]

Okay, I commented before watching the whole video and now I would like to add something. I am married and my advice for single ladies wishing to be married would be that most men don't have strict checklists! If I asked my husband why he was drawn to me, he cites empathy, humour, and kindness, so more vague quality than thigh gap, blonde hair and college degree. Be yourself, be your best self and everything will be okay. And accept that men are looking for different things than women, while I do look for a intelligent man, men have a different focus. I have a higher degree than my husband, but he couldn't care less (but is also not bothered by it).

[@Stardust.Creations]

Caitlin, your video could not have come at a more perfect time than this! Thank you for being the big sister energy I need in my life. 🙂 I'm 24 years old and have never yet been in a relationship, and sometimes it can feel really discouraging...But hearing your words helps me to feel encouraged to continue to do what I am doing with confidence and courage, and hopefulness of good things to come. 💜

[@Rebecca-gt7zd]

My husband and I met through a homeschool ballroom dance class when we were 15 and 16. From the get-go, we were upfront with each other on what we wanted and where we saw this relationship going. We had never dated anyone else prior to each other. We dated for 6 years, 5 of which were long distance (he and his family moved to the other side of the country for work). We got married last year, and we are so incredibly happy and grateful! :D

[@paulaofchrist]

I made a blog post about this exact topic, I love your line "making the first move isn't the same as making all the moves". Absolutely correct, love!

[@sbwilson1995]

Ummm I would be HERE for a Mrs Midwest podcast!

[@summersalix]

That color is lovely on you! ❤

[@MrsMidwest]

Thank you!! Coral… who knew !!

[@melissahunt5074]

Hi Caitlin, I’ve been a long time subscriber and reading your blog. And im sorta in a difficult situation . My dad recently passed away and I was very close to him. Im actually a homemaker because of him, he was so proud of me. When my dad got sick with Cancer I took care of him, but now that he’s gone I realized I put my entire life on hold. I don’t regret taking care of my dad, I’d do it again in a heartbeat. I guess what I’m trying to say is: I’m stumped. Im not able to do the things I love anymore like walking, fashion, makeup, painting, and even my chores. Which I used to absolutely love doing. If there’s any piece of advice you can give, I’d very much appreciate it. Especially because from other videos you’ve made you’ve expressed the loss of your parents. I know it’s a different situation and type of losing someone, but I’m craving any form of relatability. I feel really isolated. If you read this, I hope you have a good day, and thank you for all of your videos. Sometimes I rewatch your old videos when I need support to human again, so thank you.

[@MrsMidwest]

Oh sweets I’m so very sorry for your loss. I quite frankly cannot imagine the pain you must be experiencing. I’m also so sorry you’re having to shift your life so much! ❤❤ This kind of reminds me of how it felt to go from a solo homemaker to taking care of a baby and not being able to do my old stuff. It was so hard and I almost felt like I was having to let go of my old life. In time though, I’ve learned to incorporate Homemaking and beauty back into my life, just in way smaller doses. So I guess I would say, try to work through your grief and focus on getting your new life off the ground, but just remember that it won’t always feel like this. You’ll get back into your hobbies and Homemaking someday, even if it’s not full time. And in the meantime, try to do thirty minutes a day of what you used to do. It will really help!! Over time, you may be able to fit in more. ❤❤❤❤ sending you big hugs. Go easy on yourself please! 😊

[@justmemyselfandi7760]

I'm so sorry for your loss and pain. The only thing I'd say is that you have a heavenly Father watching over you with as much love and affection as your earthly one. He empowers you to love and live to the fullest... So be of good courage. Give yourself permission to enjoy the small things again. It'll all work out eventually. I'm praying for you❤.

[@daniela.nuness]

It is so refreshing to see your videos! Earlier today I was reading once again your blog post "Throwing out bad memories", I needed so much. Thank you for all the work and advice you gave for the past years, it definatelly helped (and it is still helping me). Wish you all the best, hugs from Brazil 🩷

[@MrsMidwest]

Oh I’m so happy that post resonated with you. ❤ I need to write more about that type of stuff. Sending you love!!!

[@sarahd1706]

I’m listening to a book called The Last Dance of the Debutant. It’s based on the last group of debutants presented to Queen Elizabeth 2 in the 1950’s. Your advice is spot on. The debutant season was to go & socialize & meet as many girls as possible to find your husband from their level of society. The book mentioned how girls have marriagable brothers & such, & all the socializing was exhausting. It was one big networking event to find a husband.

[@shanaeb4814]

Extreme yes to a part 2 video! 💖

[@MrsMidwest]

Okay amazing!! Thank you!! ❤

[@Vic2point0]

Well said, and it can't be overstated that traditional gender roles and norms have to apply to both the men and the women or not at all, but it's definitely possible. My wife and I have been living this way for 16 years (13 with a kid) and we're far from rich.

[@popcorncentral8457]

Yes, would love to see a part two. I love to hear you talk about this. I am a bit older than you but I am learning a lot from you. 😊

[@hafsahyasin]

Oh, my, goodness, this video was literally a God-send! Thank you so so much, I feel so much more hopeful and equipped to keep looking! I loved your energy and joy and advice. In general your channel has been invaluable to me during my transition into womanhood, truly. Sending lots of prayers and love, XOXO!

[@areenyousifsamad2060]

I’ve been watching you since 2019 and it had reflected on my personality my life and my relationships I’m very grateful for you ❤🙏

[@MrsMidwest]

That makes me so absolutely happy. This channel has really helped me grow too 😊😊😊

[@Hikari-Tachibana]

I'm from Japan and I am happy traditional values and people are still supported in the west.

[@sarahozonline]

Yes, please start a podcast. I like to listen to you whilst I am doing things like baking or cleaning and get distracted by watching you lol

[@emmelinaa]

I’m trying to learn patience when it comes to dating. Even meeting an amazing guy, I know fast and intense isn’t the best policy. It’s a balance between being happy and hopeful & putting trust in God - even if it doesn’t work out

[@MrsMidwest]

Yes mam!!! Fast and intense… sometimes they can hide their scary flaws if things go too quick. Wise mindset! 😊

[@12Sanguine]

Excellent and straight to the point! Happily married woman here, I wish all my single friends watched this video, very direct. 🙏

[@maylinrivera6482]

Never clicked so fast 💖

[@Mrs.Deanna_Ember]

Girl, same 🙂

[@MrsMidwest]

You’re so sweet. I had the title wrong for the first thirty minutes of upload and you still clicked 🥺🥲🥰 I was a little messy today 😅

[@maylinrivera6482]

@@MrsMidwest Always, I've been following since almost the beginning. I'm a mom and married now but you continue to help me bless my unmarried friends and my younger sister with advice to help them on their journeys

[@elenanoelle5745]

Aww Caitlin, thank you for this video! I particularly loved your point about how some women may be shamed by others or feel embarrassed for wanting an intimate connection with a man. That's definitely something I've struggled with due to cultural influences and prior relationship history. It's good to have a reminder that there are safe, good men in the world, and we are not limited due to past experiences. I would love to see a part two or a continuation of this topic!

[@fruitsarelife7073]

Could you make a video on when to know that he is not the one? That would help so many of us who stay in relationships, because we fear that we wont find anyone better or healthier for us. ❤️

[@MrsMidwest]

Absolutely !!!!!! My compatibilities video and red flags video would be a good place to start with this topic ❤❤❤

[@fruitsarelife7073]

@@MrsMidwest thank you so much, i will check them out❤️❤️❤️

[@Amanda-pr2gb]

5:35 This spoke to my soul. My mom is dropping hints, I’m 23 and she met my dad at this age. It’s like, mom I’m trying. 😭

[@TakaraoftheElves]

Don't panic! 😊 You've got lots of time. I was 29 when I met the love of my life, my husband, and now at 30 am expecting our first child. As long as marriage and family are on your radar in your 20s, you'll be ahead of most of your peers already.

[@thatexcalifornian6124]

Mom needs to chill out. This isn’t the 80s-90s anymore. It was much easier back then but it’s harder and they need to accept it. Like the other person above me said, you still have lots of time and it seems like you’re being intentional.

[@mironamirona983]

I recently read the book « Attached » And came across eye opening truths.. like, how much attachment theory matters, and how later in life, tho pool of « dating » and « available » men is composed mostly by avoidant style males, etc. This book I mentioned is really eye opening. I like the honest and accurate way you boil things down into your video. It is really something!

[@ponderingpuddlespensively]

Can I just say how much credibility this has because you acknowledge there are men who want a traditionally minded woman for bad reasons? I don't know what kind of life I'm suited for yet, I'm just trying to stay open to possibilities.

[@jsilverio13]

Yes part 2!!! You look so pretty in this video 💗

[@Kayprofessor]

You brought up so many great points and thank you for acknowledging all the aspects and experiences of these situations

[@Ann-bk3wf]

I would love to see more of your health journey. I have 2 under 2. I would like to see more meals you prepare and exercises.

[@shieldmaiden8789]

Oh my goodness this is EXACTLY what I have been struggling with and trying to figure out! Thank you thank you thank you!!!!! Can’t wait for part 2! 😁💕

[@sue.elizah]

Yes to a Mrs. Midwest podcast 🙌

[@ruzina_mlijecnica]

This is very important subject to talk to. Thank you for sharing 😊 I was looking for my husband for longer time because also like that, I was lost in finding it. It was a struggle buuut I made it :) This video will help a lot of like-minded women, for sure.

[@paulariggs9456]

Great advice! I've found dating to be easier when I meet the guy in real life instead of online. I totally can say that even with online guys, usually the ones that look good on paper have some issues. And please start a podcast! I would love to listen to your content while out and about.

[@sabrinahill6877]

This came at just the right time! Praise Jesus for you!!! 😂 I work full time and then church on Sundays ! I definitely need to put myself out there more whether it be more church functions etc.

[@sonoviva]

I did the "first move" with my husband after being friends for about a year, nothing wrong with that, he did every other move after so we're even 😄

[@biancasmith760]

happy to see that you are back.

[@MrsMidwest]

Thank you Bianca 💗💗💗

[@Lauren-se5bu]

I met my husband online but not on a dating site. I met him on Tumblr would you believe, and it was due to our shared interest in heavy metal and we actually had the same favourite band. I wasn't looking for love online but I was just always drawn to him from the beginning though he lived in England and I lived in Australia. I moved to England almost 2 years ago, got married and I'm due to give birth to our first child next month. I just always knew moving here to be with him was what I was meant to do.

[@missautumn764]

You are so right in beginning by working on yourself and healing yourself. But man, that can be so difficult when you're still so young. I look back at myself and realise I lost opportunities with great men because I couldn't be open to them yet due to trauma. Not eveyone gets a fair start at life and relationships. Thankfully nowadays, there are so mch more resources to learn and grow and teach you about yourself and your experiences.. Like this video by you. :) And to all ladies (like myself) and gents who have daughters... The example you set and relationship you build with her and as a family unit, can set her up for success. Take care of yourself, so you can take care of her.

[@thatexcalifornian6124]

I’m gonna be honest. I was not open when my parents had me meet my now fiancé through their friends. I took it as insulting that I couldn’t find one on my own but it ended up working out far better than I expected! I’m getting married this November! ❤❤❤

[@Wide-Eyed-Audience]

C, I save these videos for educating my young daughter in the too-near future! (Often more easily relayed from someone else in addition to Mom 😊) Pearls from Mrs.M, thank you ! 🌸🙏✨😘

[@Julissa-v1h]

I’ve been married for 15 years but I remember dating and how fun it was for me, not always but most of the time and I remember doing these things you talk about instinctively maybe is because like you I grow up with brothers 😂

[@HeatherLaurenCo]

Women have been making the first move for eons! I call it “dropping the handkerchief”. You know like back when women carried them around they could “accidentally” drop it in front of a man so he could pick it up and she could be so grateful for his help!

[@donnaellis9721]

Yes! A woman's first move is kind of subtle and indirect. Like holding eye contact with a man a little longer or like you said, dropping a handkerchief and letting him know how grateful you are. It lets the man of interest know it's ok to approach or ask you out :)

[@juls182]

Hiiii Caitlin I recently found your KZbin channel this month and I kid you not, watching you has become one of my favorite hobbies. I watch your videos as I'm doing my homework in the library or as I do my skincare in the morning because you're just so full of wisdom and elegance and you're so girly and fun!! I feel like you're the beauty queen older sister that I can look up to :) ps I'm about to watch your video on tips for uni because I start college next year🤍

[@Savage-bd3rk]

You are the smartest woman Ive encountered

[@Savage-bd3rk]

34:15 High quality man would only feel he’s winning if it is going well with a high likelihood of payoff with a high quality woman. Dates are an inherent loss for men so no payoff means a loss. “Winning at life” is very strong and errs on the side of desperation for the man. Why would he feel that way if he has other high quality options that are more available?

[@TheNinjaInConverse]

Such an interesting topic- as somebody who has never dated but is now curious for the first time, this should be an interesting video!

[@wolfsmaid6815]

I know that this is the wrong video, I just wanted you to know that due to one of your vlogs I tried MUTU and finally my postpartum back pain is getting better. So thanks a lot for the recommendation. :)

[@Abigail-ly7fr]

I never had luck dating in my circle I was living in, but I also was very stubborn and didn't want to do long distance or even try online dating for reasons Caitlyn mentioned: analysis paralysis / it's like shopping for a spouse! Funny enough, God had the last laugh because I found my current fiance (husband-to-be in 26 days!) online AND we dated long distance for a year! And I wouldn't change it for the world :) Long distance forced us to communicate and be friends first. Just remember that in the end, does it really matter HOW you meet your future spouse, so long as they are the right one for you? That's the question that was playing in the back of my mind as I was going through the trenches in the dating world... it just took time and patience! Timing is everything and God's timing is always perfect.

[@Lauren-se5bu]

Same I moved to the other side of the world to be with my now husband. We were long distance for about 4 years. Congratulations for your special day coming up!

[@genevaelaine2076]

officially my favorite video :) so good

[@genevaelaine2076]

plzzz part two

[@imnoemit]

For me its hard to meet a man because I barely go out and when I do, in my city the men that reach out to me are not the ones who want marriage😔. I need to move to another country😅. Love your videos!💜 thankful

[@itiz1]

that introooooo! it felt like my mom texted u before u filmed it and told u everything i'm doing that is incorrect lolll

[@winter23987]

Oh my word, this is such a good video! I could have used this during my twenties. Such an important message! Thank you for making this. 🧡💜❤

[@Coffeeismylifeblood]

What if you decide in twenty years you want to work Also I do believe being a home maker is a career choice. You have to learn about fabric quality and integrity, what products do the best work (thank you good housekeeping), how to mend/sew/alter, interior design, beauty maintenance, cooking, mea planning, cleaning shift scheduling… it’s not like you can just sit all day. A home maker uses systems to keep the home a home and not a box full of mess and resentment lol. Not to mention not keeping it clean is a health risk! Cleaning is hard work sometimes, cooking- making your own bread or muffins or cookies to save money is hard work. Making a budget that’s realistic but not too kei isn’t is hard work, a lot of trial and error and learning from experts. Dishes all day long, hard work. Vacuuming, a work out. Knowing all about your appliances and tools (like vacuum cleaner, air filters, garbage disposal, light fixtures, if the carbon monoxide detector is working/seasonal updates, what model your water filter is, the dates of replacement). It’s a lot of stuff. We are essential managers. As for beauty you also have to learn make up skills, color theory for your best foot forward, style, building a functioning wardrobe for your actual life.❤.. like have you tried shopping for dresses that you can put on in a Monday morning to sit at the kitchen table and make a to-do list? They’re all party or do me dresses. Unless you wanna wear jeans, which are too hot to work hard in. Cotton linen pieces that are flattering can run up to $150 from authentic seamstress retailers.

[@sejal02]

Oh yes pls a podcast about these types of videos would be much appreciated 😂❤

[@anber4129]

Hello! I really love your videos! I have definitely been w the wrong guys for too long but I learned a lot from them. About four years ago, I feel very much in love with the wrong guy. I really wanted it to work and I prayed to God so much. But I have experience with how God answers my prayers and there was just a feeling that He was pushing me in a different direction. I was stubborn and afraid; I really wanted this to work. This guy said he loved me so much but looking back, I realize he was infatuated and it was not real love. God put so many barriers in my way to be with him. I was so annoyed and hurt. Suddenly, so many men wanted to date me and I felt hurt. I told God the most hurtful thing that could happen is that I am meant to be with someone else. I (this is embarrassing to admit but I will!) felt like Id rather be alone than be with someone who wasn’t the man I thought I loved. God had different plans. I felt like things weren’t working between me and that guy. I decided to try what God was pushing me to do. I decided to end it with the guy (I mean, there was almost no other option, this guy was a mess sorry to say. He did not actually care. He was all words but no action) and four days later, I met my now partner. Been together for three years and I am really happy. The last thing I wanted was to be with someone other than the guy I wanted. But God had other plans. And His plans are always better. So pray for anything you want. God will put you were you belong. I like to believe all my prayers to be with my ex actually led me to my current partner. God did hear me

[@MademoiselleGisela]

I agree 100% Spiritual and mental work is as important as physique, you have to feel pretty inside as outside

[@thesacredtingz]

This gave me so much hope thanks new subbie ❤❤❤❤❤

[@samantha_budhu]

Great advice Cait! Such valuable information. 💜

[@adventuroussoulessentialoi8241]

The go where the men are point- yes. I never lacked for dates when I was one of the few single women at karate. 😅

[@Lulu-l]

As a 30 y/o woman who is single and also introverted is so difficult to find someone who wants a healthy relationship and not just hook ups. I think a lot about having children, I want to have a family and it scares me that we women have a time to have children, the older you get the harder it is and there is no way I would want to have children without a partner to raise them with 😢 honestly, dating in 2023 is...something

[@lacioftheland5627]

Men like to teach you things that they are into and they also like to learn (if only at surface level) what you are into. Like say the guy you like is into carpentry and is building a cabinet. Ask him why he picked that type of wood or joint?? Did he draw up the plans for it or find them online? And if he asks why you love houseplants so much DONT Say because they don't talk back. Actually tell him about your plant. Oh this plant was originally my grandmother's and grandpa gave it to her as a I'm sorry I ran over the roses with the lawnmower... be engaging. Be interesting. Because you are!!!

[@lacioftheland5627]

I met my husband at home depot. He helped my dad and I load our lumber. I had my dad go back inside and ask him I'd he wanted my number. I took a morning off work to go on our first date to breakfast because he didn't have a weekend off for nearly a month. So be brave and little flexible. Just a little 😉

[@cyberspace7208]

What a cute story

[@brittanymoudelle]

Yes, finally!!! I've been going through withdrawals!! 😂 4 weeks was too long ❤

[@ChristCrucifiedforyou]

My husband and I used to discuss Scripture at the gas station... that's one of the ways we got to know each other! 😂

[@nicolesanchez70]

This is so true! Thank you for making this video ❤

[@lyn8490]

Hello ! Missed you 💜 I'm currently experiencing falling in love with an amazing good faithful man but my fam and friends are critical of superficial things like how masculine his voice is or how tall he is or how much money he makes . I'm also feeling this pressure to prove to them that we really do love each other and I feel like I'm being interviewed about this topic which is uncomfortable cz I'm a private person . I don't want that to affect me in any way and i don't wanna put him through that ... any tips please ?

[@RoseGoldFemininity]

Hi Caitlyn!🌷💜🌸🌹✨ I love your vlogs and videos. I was wodnering if you know women who got married and became housewives in their 30s. It would be so great to hear some positive stories about them. It would really inspire women who didn't get married in their 20s because they bought into the narrative that they have to be strong independent women...or women who were forced to work and focus on their birth families because their parents were battling severe mental health issues. Thank you sooo much!🎉🎉

[@shey5323]

Not me taking notes lol Thank you for the tips!

[@savannahmitchum1187]

We want a part 2!! 😄

[@meowmep1366]

I think what you meant with "the first move" was "dropping the handkerchief" :)

[@juliam.8147]

OMG I would LOVE the podcast💓🤩

[@blancheb3533]

Another awesome video from The Queen!

[@Misarue]

My first time seeing her channel. Great advice. Had to subscribe 😊

[@katesolanas]

Hi Caitlin! Love the video. You look absolutely beautiful :)

[@ellacarter9863]

Thank you!! This is so helpful ❤

[@RedRubySlippers07]

Great Video!!! Thanks for the advice :)