How to open your relationship in a safe way

What is ethical non-monogamy? So many of you reach out to me asking how I'm able to have a healthy and happy open relationship. In this episode I share many real life experiences and situations where I learned what I needed in an open relationship in order to feel safe.
This episode shares about how to set agreements within your partnership where everyone's heart is protected. The world is shifting and we are realizing the way we relate and connect to each other is also opening up and becoming more fluid.
Let's do it all in a way that feel safe in our bodies.
In this episode I talk about two books: Polysecure and The ethical slut. Below are links to buy them and upgrade yourself with more information. Information is body, but always remember to follow first whatever feels good and safe in your body.
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[@leonhard_rosner]

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[@dezdays9633]

This video is an amazing resource. Please after a while do a part 2??

[@BrittneeBond]

Listen to my latest episode here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nGWWp5KcrqaDirssi=ZlKQL0X8_iOXyeKp

[@pm71241]

I think it's important to note that there is a huge difference between "polyamory", "open relationships" and "swinging". In all case, of course, communication and trust is hugely important. Let me try to define them (probably a bad attempt): * An "open" relationship is where one or both parties can go out and have relationships individually. There might be some kink involved in having your partner come home and tell about it, but in general it's something you are allowed to do as an individual. (like what you described in your relationship)> * Polyamory is (at least in theory) when there are move than 2 people in a love based relationship. So - not only sex. A "throuple" ... or more. It' something you not only do together, but there's no longer a defined "couple". It's more than 2 people in the love relationship. * Swinging (at least as a couple) is very much something you do as a couple and there's no love involved. Only sex and fun. You do this as a team. Often it's not just based on trust, but also the love of experiencing ones partner living out their sexuality. Some swinger couple might even regard it as they are being in a monogamous relationship - only they date other couples as a couple. But they always go home together having had common experiences. I'm not sure about polyamory or open relationships. Unless you have a kink to motivate you, I'm not sure how it can be stabilizing in the long term, but the way swinger couples work can strengthen your relationship a lot and enhance the trust. Don't try to introduce it to heal already broken trust or relationships, but if you're already in a good place it can help prolonging the initial phase of fascinating love life which most couples experience ends at some point.

[@annaolleta]

Thank you for sharing all of this. That is exactly what I needed to think and reflect about. At first I didn't understand my partner when he told me he would take care of my heart, but now I understand. I hurted his heart, and now with this experience and also with this podcast everything cleared up. I know and understand my mistakes and now I have the chance to act on it and learn, evolve and be better. So thank you so much for shairng all of this and everything you share from your own experience really. Even if you don't know me and (franckly) I don't know you either, I feel so good and part of a tribe only by listening to you Brittnee! Also, I think it is beautiful that you and Fredi connect wiht eachother after future play parties because.. I feel it is actually showing eachother that AT THE END OF THE DAY YOU CHOOSE EACHOTHER and you rpove it to eachother on a physical, emotional, somatic, energetical and evey level possible. THAN YOU GUYS for SHOWING AND SHARING

[@BrittneeBond]

Hi dear, so happy it's resonating and helpful for you. :) And yes, for me the main ingredient for feeling safe in all of this is knowing we are a team and protecting each other's hearts first before any other connection. And we really do prove this to each other over and over again in words and actions. Happy to have you part of the soul tribe. 💚

[@magzi234]

👏👏👏👏👏👏 wow

[@annaolleta]

Also, I have a question... maybe you could make an episode about it but... how do you find the limit between setting your boundaries and protecting your heart and taking care of yourself but also don't make your partner feel controlled or not free. I fins in any situations I stop myself form sharing or asking just because I don't want him to not feel free with me or that I want to control him or anything and viceversa. Which it is what happened to you at the first play party I guess about agreeing to Fredi to play with other people because you wanted him to feel free but also honoring and repecting yourself and your relationship agreements. I would love to hear more form you about this topic

[@BrittneeBond]

This is such a good question! I've worked through this a lot and wrestled with it myself because as a woman I feel we are programmed to be a lot more emotionally collaborative (and sometimes that can mean not speaking up our feelings) in relationships. So it's finding the balance and also having a safe partner to work through this who really has our best interests at heart. With Ferdi, he's always encouraging me to speak my truth, all of it. He says we need to put it all on the table and figure it out as a team. This is the real growth. Because even if you don't say it - it's there in the energy field and will eventually pop up and maybe not so much in a healthy way. So best to practice the art of of speaking our truth to each other in calm and grounded ways always. I say it like this because at the beginning my nervous system expected a negative response when i spoke things i thought weren't what he wanted to hear - it's like i projected his response he hadn't said yet and immediately got defensive before giving him a chance. So, now with practice i speak my truth a lot more gracefully and open-hearted. It's so vulnerable and also so beautiful when it's held well. Hope this helps. :)