How to Overcome Fear of Public Speaking: 3 Tips

[@tptptptp8027]

Practise makes perfect reading aloud often in preparation. I view my audience as friends and family close people. I also ramp up my confidence by reaffirming that I am great and people need to hear me and will love me!!!

[@Presencetraininguk]

That's great. The principle of reaffirming that you're great ad people need to hear you and will love you is very similar to something I teach called "Assume Support". Even though audiences often listen with blank faces it doesn't mean that they are dis-interested - it's just the way that people listen. So we assume that people are really interested in what you have to say regardless of what their face is doing! See this video for more information - kzbin.info/www/bejne/rGiXgoSIqr5kea8

[@nadinecampbell3717]

Everyone in my year has to do a presentation individually in front of the school and this video really helped thx!!!

[@Presencetraininguk]

Hi Nadine. I'm really happy to hear that! The good news is the more you use these methods the better they get. Do share it with your friends and check out our other videos :)

[@Courtneyshole1965]

Presence Training I've had to do presentations and all kinds just for customer service horrible

[@beautifullywonderfullymade6204]

I’ve had anxiety recently again and missed 4months if gym cos of it, been ok recently so decided am going back to the gym felt all confident went to the gym today and my anxiety tried to play with me 🤦🏻‍♀️ I don’t even know why I feel bothered about who’s there and that, but I’m learning got to face these fears that anxiety tries to create and Keep going go back and do what you doing that’s the only way gonna overcome it🙏🏼

[@Presencetraininguk]

I'm touched to read your commend B&WM. It's actually really normal to be worried what other people think of us - in fact we are programmed to be this way. (It was part of our evolutionary survival), but now this mechanism is out of date. The solution is to come out of our heads and into our bodies (I start to show you how in this video). Do check out the other videos on our channel which give some more pointers in this direction. There are also quite a few blog pieces on our website that explain more about this - check out presencetraining.co.uk/blog-alternative-public-speaking-tips/ - The bottom line is that the only way to stop worrying about what others think is to love yourself more. But the secret is that this isn't done with your head it's done with your feelings and your body, and it a moment by moment practice. I wish you luck, grace and courage. Daniel

[@beautifullywonderfullymade6204]

Presence Training I am going to be bold has a LION 🦁

[@Killer-ku8nf]

Presence Training I hate the fact that when the anxiety hits I then sweat then the derealisation kicks in and sometimes depersonalisation. I don’t know what to do.

[@Killer-ku8nf]

Presence Training I used to be so confident and happy and I would want to talk to people. Now it’s all lost.

[@Presencetraininguk]

@@Killer-ku8nf All is not lost. Though I can completely hear that it feels that way. The way through is to learn how to comfort the parts of you that are feeling anxious and to simply feel the difficult sensations in your body without trying to change them. Remember "And it's OK". Do try the techniques in this video, especially the second two - with practice they become natural. You may also find this article useful. presencetraining.co.uk/secret-overcoming-public-speaking-anxiety/ With self compassion, a bit of technique and practice you can find a way through this.

[@girishsonawane1251]

That's really authentic session. No one else would tell this without paying. Thanks for such good things 👍

[@jonathanadeyemo2710]

Thank you! I’m going to be a motivational speaker when I’m old, and I need to overcome this fear.

[@Presencetraininguk]

My pleasure! If you simply do the 3 things in this video it will make a huge difference. Start off by speaking to small groups, or people you trust, using these techniques, and then *gradually* increase the difficulty level. We learn best when we give ourselves a series of small gentle stretches, rather than throwing ourselves in at the deep end! I wish you all success. (And do check out our other videos...we're posting more each month).

[@drumcdoo9050]

Great tips Daniel, thank you. Having always had an absolute fear of public speaking after been forced to aged 8 at school always had to feign illness for the day, so recently joined a local Toastmasters club. Haven't done my maiden speach yet however have won 3 out of 5 two minute instant speaches on random subjects. Using your tecniques, find they work brilliantly, both socially and within the club and confidence has been boosted tremendously. So much so that can't wait to make maiden 7 minute speech very soon.

[@Presencetraininguk]

That's absolutely great to hear Rik! Yes. These methods really work, and I'm really glad you're discovering that for yourself. There are lots more videos on our channel. Do subscribe check them out if you haven't already done so. You may also enjoy our "Principles of Authentic Public Speaking" series, which you can find under our playlists.

[@jessicaj8564]

What's a toastmasters club?

[@Presencetraininguk]

@@jessicaj8564 Toastmasters is an international network of public speaking clubs, where people come to learn, practice and compete in public speaking competitions. Their style is considerably less focussed on authenticity than the style that we teach (it's a much more old-fashioned performance-based style), but if you're looking for a place to practice public speaking at a fairly low cost, they represent a good option. If you google them you will probably find a branch in your area.

[@kidcombat9681]

i work as a Barman- this is what i have to deal with on a Daily basis

[@jonphillips5119]

Hi- just wanted to thank y for the great advice , In getting married soon and I already fell better about my speech just with these tips .

[@Presencetraininguk]

I'm delighted to hear it John. Glad to help. Do check our our other videos for some other pointers. And the groom's speech is a pretty easy one as they go - just tell everyone how much you love your partner, how lucky you feel, and how wonderful you think their family is and you can't go far wrong!

[@panyangel7239]

Thank you! I memories them and will try to use them in the future. 😊🙏🌷🌷🌷

[@Nicktuck333]

Nice video. My problem is impromptu speaking at groups of people. Not knowing what to say so I talk faster and with little depth. I enjoy speaking in public if I know what I am supposed /reheased. Any suggestions?

[@Presencetraininguk]

Hi Stewart. I'm glad you enjoyed the video. Being able to speak naturally impromptu comes with practice and naturally happens as your confidence grows. In fact all of the suggestions in the video will help with this. In addition the principle of Assuming Support from your audience may assist (see this video kzbin.info/www/bejne/rGiXgoSIqr5kea8) also those of letting go of trying and deliberately taking your time, (also explained in these videos - kzbin.info/www/bejne/b2O0d35qgqx2qsk and kzbin.info/www/bejne/hWOwhHRonNeBibc). Lastly a willingness to Get it Wrong can also help - check this video out kzbin.info/www/bejne/jHS8m6idds-qopY. And of course, if you can get to London you're welcome on one of our public courses any time :) I hope this helps!

[@Edwin-zt7je]

Excellent tips and strategies, thank you.

[@dazbags252]

Next Saturday I am the best man at my brothers wedding and I’m absolutely dreading it ,hopefully these tips will work

[@Presencetraininguk]

Hi Darren. They should really help! But the most important thing to remember about doing a best man speech is that the audience really want you to do well! They are the best audience you could possibly imagine - they are in a good mood and slightly drunk. They *want* to laugh, so if you give them any excuse they will! Provided you don't say anything too outrageous or offensive you can say anything you like. Do run your speech past a couple of close friends to check it's not over any lines and the jokes work well enough. Provided your "material" is OK you really can't go wrong. It's OK to be nervous - provided you use the tips I've given you the nerves almost certainly won't get out of hand. Focus instead on how much you care about your friend getting married. Make sure to speak about your love and friendship for them and your best wishes as well as (slightly) embarrassing them. The more you focus on wanting the best for them the less you'll worry about yourself. You could even start your speech by saying something like: "I'm really nervous right now as I don't like speaking in public, but I couldn't pass up the chance to be XX's best man, to tell you how happy I am for him and [his new wife] (and of course to embarrass him a little!)". Like I said a wedding audience is the best and easiest you'll ever stand in front of. I've coached lots of best men and it's always turned out OK in the end :) Let me know how you do. Daniel

[@dazbags252]

Thank you for the advice especially the way to start the speech off just need to work on the rest of it I’ve got all week thank you

[@Presencetraininguk]

@@dazbags252 My pleasure. Do let me know how it goes!

[@dazbags252]

@@Presencetraininguk hi Daniel finally got over my fear of public speaking after 52 years ,its true what you said about wedding audiences they are easily pleased and laughed at all the dittys, thank you again for your advice Daz

[@Presencetraininguk]

@@dazbags252 I'm really delighted to hear that Daz! Yes. These principles really work, and yes wedding audiences are super-friendly. I'm very happy you've had this experience and you are no longer consider that you are scared of public speaking. Now it's just a matter of practicing a little...

[@alimollaei2300]

Thanks.. great insights....❤

[@kennygrant5531]

Fantastic Daniel, thank you. The 3rd one I haven't heard and for me is the most powerful - I just need to find a safe environment to practice it

[@danielkingsley]

Thank you Kenny. I'm glad you enjoyed it and found it helpful. The 3rd one is a door into the field of embodiment and Embodied Leadership, which is an entire field in itself. A good place to practice is when talking to a group of friends, since all the principles still apply. You can then transition to increasingly challenging environments. These principles all work in front of any size group (though it can be hard to get eye contact when the audience is absolutely huge).

[@Nicktuck333]

Public speaking in front of 30 something people tomorrow. I have your advice in my head. Fingers crossed it will go well.

[@Presencetraininguk]

Good luck Stuart! I hope these pointers help. Do let me know how you get on.

[@Nicktuck333]

Thank you. It went well. I took your point of making eye contact with people around the room and recognising the adrenaline, I did have a dry throat. Apparently I did not rush which I am always concerned about. I did however look like a weatherman pointing to the presentation on the wall at times. I have Lots more to learn. I look forward to your next video. Thanks, Stuart.

[@Presencetraininguk]

@@Nicktuck333 I'm delighted to hear it. Do rewatch this video, because if you implement all the principles in it, it will take you a long way by itself. There are already another 10 videos on the channel which are well worth you watching. Check them out, and do subscribe if you haven't yet done so :) There's also plenty more in article form on our website www.presencetraining.co.uk - Plus a free guide that you can download too!

[@Courtneyshole1965]

Presence Training I've had to do presentations for my last old job as development for customer service it was really horrible in front of 20 plus people on every course

[@Drum_Beats_Guitar_Riffs]

Excellently delivered and useful

[@beautymore9386]

I will put all of your advices into practice

[@spbtch]

Thank you so much, this is great advice I look forward to trying it out.

[@Presencetraininguk]

Hi Kelly. We really glad you found the video helpful. Do subscribe to our channel and check out our other videos. There's lots more (hopefully) helpful advice there.

[@Brooker0013]

Some good advice but what if the thought of sounding confident makes you feel like people might see you as arrogant and that makes you feel uncomfortable or nervous? Also do you have tips for speaking infront of a camera, to a live audience or as video.👍🏼✌🏼

[@Presencetraininguk]

Hi Brooker. It's great that you don't want to sound arrogant, which is also important. The key is that audiences want their speakers to be both powerful and warm. If you hold an intention to *include* your audience in your talk and a sense of feeling warmly about them, in my experience you won't seem arrogant. If you watch my videos about stopping performing (kzbin.info/www/bejne/gGWkmpytnrqtasU) and seeing and being seen (kzbin.info/www/bejne/n6vZdHmmo8l8e6c) this will give you some more ideas about this. The video you have just watched deals with speaking to a live audience. When I'm speaking to a camera, I look straight into the camera and imagine that I'm speaking to one person who is listening attentively to what I have to say. This works well for me!

[@Brooker0013]

@@Presencetraininguk thank you. Take care👍🏼✌🏼

[@mia-li8sy]

Thanks! This really helped me im very grateful! 😊😊😊😊

[@Presencetraininguk]

Wonderful to hear Eman! Do subscribe to our channel and check out our other videos. Plus we'll be adding more next year.

[@ruthcohen-rose3895]

Lovely video... great tips, thank you.

[@Presencetraininguk]

Glad you liked it!

[@SonAyoD]

Great video. Thank you.

[@freeflowingthoughts_]

Thank You !

[@mysticshome2442]

Great advice ❤️😍I want to be coached by you. Please get back to me. I have a message to give out to the world and nothing should hold me back. I record 2 to 3 minutes of videos every day and send it to my friends to comment. And I need a coach to take me to the next level.

[@Presencetraininguk]

Our pleasure! We would be delighted to coach you, whether in a group or 1-2-1. We don't have your email address but if you email [e-mail] or call the telephone number on our website (www.presencetraining.co.uk) we will be happy to take it from there.

[@ielts4you.]

Great

[@williammoody9824]

I fear no man, but that thing... it scares me

[@tinhho3865]

It is easier said than done.

[@Presencetraininguk]

Yes. And yet...these 3 tips are surprisingly powerful if you simply give them a go! Do let us know how you get on if you do.

[@teriday954]

The trick is not to do public speaking

[@Presencetraininguk]

I hear you! It does seem easier to avoid it - but that's not going to work too well for those people who simply *have* to do it! And it's a pity to avoid it, as with the right technique and understanding, it can even be (believe it or not) enjoyable. Plus the world needs us to find our voice and speak what needs to be said.

[@teriday954]

Sadly most people do it because they have to especially if they're shy

[@Presencetraininguk]

@@teriday954 True. And yet introverts can make amazing speakers and leaders. Have you seen Sunsan Cain's TED talk on the power of introverts? www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts?language=en - And do try the techniques in our video above - they really do help people feel comfortable being the centre of attention.