How To Overcome Homosexual OCD | Intrusive Thoughts

[@danielleavvv1]

For anyone struggling with this it’s okay we got this stay strong ❤️ don’t listen to your mind , it’s your worst enemy:)

[@atlasesz5970]

accept yourself and accept you are not staight my love, the lgbtq is here for you. If you need anyone to talk to I will. there is nothing wrong with you and you are valid

[@leokamanari396]

@@atlasesz5970 bro I can tell you clearly don’t understand or suffer from this type of OCD. It’s people like you who create more anxiety and more discomfort for people who are suffering. A person doesn’t just turn gay or lesbian from day to night or after randomly having an intrusive thought. A person whose gay or lesbian know very well from a young age. Trust me bro you if you don’t understand this OCD please don’t create more anxiety and distress for others.

[@titandovikan8392]

@@leokamanari396 well said my freind

[@simonederecht425]

really truth

[@potaragaming4159]

Fr man this happened going to a retreat and it’s very scary. Other than causes stress maybe encourage them to get better

[@SincereSayar]

Had an HOCD for 3+ years and occasional triggers till like 7 years. With groinal response. Anyways, now I have overcome it. I am and will always be straight.

[@thanatos1668]

How exactly did you do it, I know the video helps but I have the same things as you, plz tell me how you overcame it

[@raventho6870]

@@thanatos1668 same pls tell me SS Pandey

[@SincereSayar]

@@thanatos1668 know about hocd, get yourself a new obsession, keep yourself busy. I still get some occasional triggers but then I realize its HOCD so never think too much about it

[@danielleavvv1]

Thank you :)

[@clchawaii09]

@@SincereSayar if you are in a relationship does it help?

[@anoichi4840]

Ayo this guy already spitting facts and the fact that he said HOCD doesnt change ur sexuality makes me feel better. THis guy has my support

[@titandovikan8392]

Same bro i also have hocd NEVER EVER WANT TO BE GAY U AGREEE

[@kdtrey7738]

@@titandovikan8392 same bro are you okay now?

[@nijdarweysi7124]

@@kdtrey7738 aye bro how you feelin now? Did it get better

[@Dub_97]

Hocd doesn’t change your sexuality because it has nothing to do with it. It’s just a fear.. of what ifs. But one thing to recognize is dealing with hocd doesn’t mean it might always be hocd you can’t always rely on thinking it’s hocd because it can be hocd and it might not be.. never know. Always telling yourself “it’s just my ocd” is a compulsion.. just a tip that’s all.

[@lusine9886]

i hope this helps someone: if you are afraid of being gay, there's no way you can be gay. because, gay people feel joy in being who they are. so, if u are comfortable saying you are straight then you have nothing to worry about. if you are uncomfortable saying that you are gay then ur definitely straight, believe me! these thoughts are completely normal to have and they should go away with time, but do not lurk on them because it can make it worse. i know it can be very stressful and that it isn't as easy as it sounds but if you put your mind to it you can overcome it! if you are even watching this video, i can assure you that if ur having thoughts that ur gay then ur straight. and if ur having thoughts that u might be straight then u are gay. gay people don't question themselves because they already know who they are. if you have any questions please ask!

[@brucie646]

This really helped me a lot , because I know I’m straight but these thoughts has took over my life and I really needed to see this video

[@tayopotato4297]

thank u so much i had ty e thoughts for ages now i’ve always said i don’t want to be gay but no i k one that’s so much :)

[@pasaramkranthi9185]

tq bro this helped me a alot

[@endangeredmexican9644]

Thank you. I know very well I would talk and be around so many attractive people im talking about men before I developed hocd. But during this quarantine I developed hocd and now I feel so awkward around those people. Like I never felt so lost. All my life I known I liked women because they excite and I get a warm feeling sometimes I might even get hard if they are super hot but now I think I could be gay or bi and its hurting my head sometimes even making my face red like im being choked

[@clumsyme179]

Oh my god...my only problem is that I think about it so much that I have forgotten who I am anymore.I am unable to fantasise about boys like I used to.I hope it gets bck

[@kenziexox3950]

I’m scared of never recovering and making this affect my future relationships. I just wish this thought would have never popped up in my head Since the day this started, i don’t feel like myself. It’s like i don’t recognise myself or my thoughts. I have never ever been attracted to a woman NEVER. Sure, I did find women beautiful and appreciated their beauty but i never gave it a second thought, since i was a little girl my dream was to marry a guy and have kids, i have always had crushes on boys and fantasised about them and never ever have i fantasised about a woman. I even talked about sexuality with my friends and I always seemed so sure about it i would never question myself. We also talked about making out with a girl and i always thought i wouldn’t care if it happened because i knew that i was straight and it would just be an experience and i never felt the need to do it. but one day everything changed because i had a dream about being with a woman. I just don’t know why i was so sure about my sexuality before and now it’s making me crazy. Before i didn’t care if i made out with a girl if i wanted to, now just the thought of it makes me anxious. When I think about a boys i still feel butterflies, something i never feel when i think about girls but since this has started i’m always looking at girls and asking myself am i attracted to her? It feels like i’m attracted to EVERY girl! I don’t recognise myself, i have nothing against lgbt community, don’t get me wrong but i don’t want to be gay, in fact i’m horrified of being gay, and it’s not because i’m homophobic or because i’m scared of what people would think if i came out, it’s because i feel like i’m losing myself. I didn’t have these thoughts before, why now? Have I been lying to myself all these years?

[@badcpy5430]

Its ocd Don't worry u won't turn gay its just ocd u just have to expose urself to ur fear without doing compulsion i mean when u expose urself to fear it will gives u anxiety and urgency to solve the problem immediately it will feel like if u do not reassure that u r straight u will turn gay at that time just hang in there do not reassure let the anxiety grow then after sometime anxiety will drop without compulsion Do it for few weeks than u done it will go away trust me.

[@mel5282]

kenzie xox me too!

[@savannahhuddleston4028]

Hey, if you’re watching this & struggling with OCD / intrusive thoughts- I’m so sorry. I know things have been very hard & scary but you’re doing so well trying to just day to day. Your thoughts are not facts. Your feelings are not facts. Your dreams are not facts. Sexual intrusive thoughts are often accompanied by unwanted, physical sensations making them feel very real. Again-Feelings are not facts. OCD will try to bring up things from your past to try to prove a point. Don’t take the bait. OCD will try to convince you that your fear of attraction isn’t OCD. Get help. Seek a therapist who specializes in this. I have been researching nonstop for weeks- a close family member of mine is struggling with hocd & other things, it also got worse during COVID19. You’re not alone. Get help! This is a mental illness & you cannot do this on your own!

[@mel5282]

Savannah Huddleston thank you so so much. You just made my day. Hocd is complete hell and I struggle everyday. To the point where I thought about taking my life but I’m trying to not give up. Once again thank you, I hope you are doing well mentally ❤️

[@savannahhuddleston4028]

mel awe I’m so glad. Reading all of these comments filled me with such empathy for each of you. OCD is lying to you. For the sake of your mental health, search for an OCD therapist in your area! Follow instagram accounts that help like: obsessivelyeverafter mindonfire_ocd are two great ones to start!! You didn’t come this far to only come this far. Get help, you can overcome these thoughts & compulsions!

[@NoOne-og6he]

I've never been attracted to any man but I'm having these gay thoughts in my mind. I've always had crushes on girls my whole life and always will be.

[@savannahhuddleston4028]

Hey, if you’re watching this & struggling with OCD / intrusive thoughts- I’m so sorry. I know things have been very hard & scary but you’re doing so well trying to just day to day. Your thoughts are not facts. Your feelings are not facts. Your dreams are not facts. Sexual intrusive thoughts are often accompanied by unwanted, physical sensations making them feel very real. Again-Feelings are not facts. OCD will try to bring up things from your past to try to prove a point. Don’t take the bait. OCD will try to convince you that your fear of attraction isn’t OCD. Get help. Seek a therapist who specializes in this. I have been researching nonstop for weeks- a close family member of mine is struggling with hocd & other things, it also got worse during COVID19. You’re not alone. Get help! This is a mental illness & you cannot do this on your own!

[@leibniz4455]

@@savannahhuddleston4028that reply was all I needed, thanks for that Savanah, my story is I am a Christian, and my faith was trampled upon by LGBTQ "activists and their... Propaganda" The more I fought with them point by point, the more I feel "why am I fighting afterwards" so I promise God I'll be a Christian, and I always will be.

[@lilsupreme8927]

Yea same, these thoughts cause me distress and anxiety..at this point i would rather have suicidal thoughts than these thoughts.

[@lifelonglearner7771]

@@lilsupreme8927 me too!!

[@annija3170]

Bitch u gay

[@hshehdhgehe7152]

Did anyone’s hocd got so bad that they actually thought they were gay?

[@rari2xx]

Hsheh Dhgehe yes..quarantine is really fucking me up but ik im not gay

[@hshehdhgehe7152]

Denarie Rawlins same but hopefully we will get over this quickly know I’m here for you if you need someone to talk to but if you know some you can trust talk to them I swear it helps so much

[@francisco8299]

@@hshehdhgehe7152 Yo I just want this shit to go away, any tips?

[@jcfontana86]

That`s a syntomp of HOCD,

[@hshehdhgehe7152]

GHOST_0226 Yeah bro I’m still struggling with it but it differently got better over the weeks but if I was you I would try talking to someone who you trust or writing your thoughts down in a notebook and just keep writing you will feel all kind of emotions but don’t let it get to you just agree with the thought and know that if you were Gay you would’ve know that since you were like 5 years a old one thing that really helped me is respecting homosexuality and not being afraid of it just know that you won’t turn gay it’s your genes and hormones if you feel good about having sex or kissing the same sex don’t worry that’s normal but one thing that for sure means you’re gay or bi is if you want to have a romantic relationship that’s really it. sex and kissing doesn’t really mean anything.

[@Iyvanos]

I COMMAND ANY WICKED THOUGHTS AND UNCLEAN SPIRITS WHICH ARE PUTTING THOUGHTS IN OUR MIND TO GO AWAY IN JESUS NAME.

[@newrenaissance1775]

this guy couldnt have been more bang on with my symptoms

[@leibniz4455]

@ateb3 Oh no, it's just feelings, feelings are never factual either. If my symptoms suggest we are gay, then it's my job to avoid it then, focus on what's important like making money instead of not factual things

[@jayjay-su8rp]

Quarantine is making mine way worse. I’ve had it for almost 2 months now and at first I was scared I was lesbian. Now my thoughts have calmed down but my obsession now is “am I bisexual” I don’t want to be labeled or seen as that. I only want to be straight and I don’t want that to ever change. The thoughts have gotten so bad I feel like they’re true and I’m scared bc I don’t want them to be. I know I wouldn’t do anything with a girl and I know I want to marry a boy and have a family some day. I don’t fantasize about doing anything with a girl but I keep asking myself “would u kiss a girl if they were standing in front of u right now” or “would u date a girl” and because of these thoughts I feel like they’re making me believe I would. I just want this to be over.

[@hshehdhgehe7152]

The best way to overcome that is by accepting that you might be bisexual but you have to remember your not bisexual if your not attracted to the same sex and even if you are bisexual you don’t have to do anything with the same sex I see this as a win win for you

[@savannahhuddleston4028]

Hey, if you’re watching this & struggling with OCD / intrusive thoughts- I’m so sorry. I know things have been very hard & scary but you’re doing so well trying to just day to day. Your thoughts are not facts. Your feelings are not facts. Your dreams are not facts. Sexual intrusive thoughts are often accompanied by unwanted, physical sensations making them feel very real. Again-Feelings are not facts. OCD will try to bring up things from your past to try to prove a point. Don’t take the bait. OCD will try to convince you that your fear of attraction isn’t OCD. Get help. Seek a therapist who specializes in this. I have been researching nonstop for weeks- a close family member of mine is struggling with hocd & other things, it also got worse during COVID19. You’re not alone. Get help! This is a mental illness & you cannot do this on your own!

[@leibniz4455]

Dolan, it's not too late to be strong, I even think I'm gay sometimes then I realize "lol, it's something a 3 year old won't even mind" and that moment forward, I'm "the hell are these LGBTQ doing?" "Have they shut their brains off?"

[@nirmalraj542]

@@hshehdhgehe7152 bro what do you think abotu this guy talking atlas avlon in previous comments... He sounds like so dumb

[@clumsyme179]

@@nirmalraj542 oh...just neglect that guy.he is in every ocd comment section saying we are bi and gay.neglect him.

[@Grimstrrr]

I'm glad to know this is all in my head, I have thought about it so much for the past few years. I always felt a natural disgust when thinking about sex with a man. and I could never feel a sense of enjoyment through that thought or even romantical feeling. everytime I think of a woman romantically or sexually I feel a weight getting lifted off my shoulders, it feels nice and I'm comfortable. I feel like I'm slowly breaking free from this mental prison and I don't even avoid guys because there is just whatever your sexuality is, just be you. try your best to stay out of your own head like that, stay positive everyone :)

[@HyperFlash23]

You don’t know how happy I am to hear that. Thank you bro. I’ve been going through this since I was around 14 (20 now). I always felt disgusted having these thoughts. I’ve gotten way better with remedies and consistent self-therapy. Now, I get a thought and I simply brush it off and forget about it! It does come back bringing heavy anxiety, but it’s nothing to much for me to handle. I’m glad we’re able to share our OCD experiences. I also suffer from different type of thoughts like harming people or unwanted thoughts with children. But like I said, nothing to much for me to handle. Stay strong bro!!

[@abhirami4750]

Hey everyone, during quarantine our minds start exploring stuff out so I think most of u srsly thought u were gay during quarantine all we have to do is ignore these feelings and give urself reasons why ur not gay and why u are straight and being gay isn't bad but if u don't want to be then u won't be. u are your mind u have to stop letting urself have these unwanted thoughts.

[@lifelonglearner7771]

Thanks for this, iv been having these thoughts and feelings for a long time and it got very worse during lockdown , now its as if I'm gay... But I don't want to be chase I still very much like girls, its as if my mind is forcing me to be gay

[@lifelonglearner7771]

gay*

[@philosphergaming6954]

I'm straight but on day I got aroused of thinking of a gay men .does this means I'm gay . Because I'm fears of being gay.

[@heinrichottodergroedeathro8354]

@@philosphergaming6954 no it does not believe me it is only hocd basically “Fake Feelings”

[@ravindra5372]

Thanks macha 😀

[@amirsuhail7543]

I had this HOCD during this quarantine. Now my ocd has reached a level that I lost hope and whenever I see a man with his wife I'll be like 'thank god, now I wouldn't have to see him". And when a guy calls me bro I'll be like in my happiest mood. I don't know about you guys. Instead of worrying about what ur suffering let's share all our funny HOCD moments and laugh about it so that we can get distracted from it. Atleast we know that we're straight deep down, so what's the problem. Don't hesitate, start sharing and let's spread happiness in our own way........ ✌️✌️ PS: girls who are suffering from this and are worried that you might not be in a relationship don't worry, I'm always there for you😏😏😉

[@clumsyme179]

😂😂thanks for being there for us girls

[@krutivarnika3585]

omg you made my day🤣

[@amirsuhail7543]

@@clumsyme179 😇

[@amirsuhail7543]

@@krutivarnika3585 😇

[@paige15803]

I'M A STRAIGHT GIRL HOW ARE YOU 😏also I have this and I've always been straight my hole life but then my mind had just fucked me up

[@polo7245]

I’ve learned a lot within the past week and what I’ve figured out is somethings you will never truly know 100% on and that’s okay. I’ve learned that you should take things one step at a time and not worry about things you can’t control. I used to stress myself out with the future because I didn’t know what it could hold, but by doing that I was losing sense of the present and at the end of the day that’s all we really have. So we should enjoy it. I’ve learned that there is a difference between gaveling hocd and being homosexual, being homosexual is having the fear of coming out, having hocd is fear of becoming. The answer to getting rid of the fears is... there is none. You don’t have to deal with it. Just let it come and go. The only things that is holding on is you

[@polo7245]

Ps mindfulness is the answer

[@enlightened7354]

I can help with advices to the people who are suffering with same sex attraction and homosexuality. Don't trust to the people who say you cant be normal, you can if Im healed you can. It's about reprogramming your brain and changing your life style, your habits, changing your mind, cleaning from garbage

[@sharmila7654]

Hii , glad u are healed .. may i know how did u reprogram ur mind ? Because my fear is the one stopping me

[@enlightened7354]

@@sharmila7654 you may reprogram by quoting to yourself from Leviticus 18:22. And avoid people who makes you feel such way and don't watch porn

[@jbm421]

I've been suffering from this specifically for 10 years. It will die off a little then come back as a fear then die off. Every few years or so the fear become so damn debilitating and the thoughts become so vivid and feel like a clear and present danger of coming true. That's were I am now again 😥. I will try your website because I need help and this morning especially has me truly fearing the worst...

[@savannahhuddleston4028]

Find a therapist who specializes in OCD like this. You can even do telehealth. Make sure the therapist lines up with your views/ beliefs. You need someone to walk you through ERP.

[@cygnusvideo]

These videos have been extremely helpful to me beyond explanation. I was wondering if you would do one about fear of death? I obsess over death and dying so much, they happen very frequently. I have a regular meditation practice as reccomended in another video but it still happens and is debilitaing sometimes.

[@msunder0115]

If you want to overcome the fear of death you should do a little research about the paranormal. Look up steve huff on youtube. His work with the paranormal is pretty anazing.

[@ayyoaprods.]

And try talking to someone I was just dealing with this a couple weeks ago it helped and if your religious prayer too

[@GoldenStrike87]

Quarantine is really messing me up I’ve never had a gay thought up until quarantine started at first I thought I was gay now I believe in bi which I still can’t except given that I’ve been attracted to women all my life

[@savannahhuddleston4028]

Hey, if you’re watching this & struggling with OCD / intrusive thoughts- I’m so sorry. I know things have been very hard & scary but you’re doing so well trying to just day to day. Your thoughts are not facts. Your feelings are not facts. Your dreams are not facts. Sexual intrusive thoughts are often accompanied by unwanted, physical sensations making them feel very real. Again-Feelings are not facts. OCD will try to bring up things from your past to try to prove a point. Don’t take the bait. OCD will try to convince you that your fear of attraction isn’t OCD. Get help. Seek a therapist who specializes in this. I have been researching nonstop for weeks- a close family member of mine is struggling with hocd & other things, it also got worse during COVID19. You’re not alone. Get help! This is a mental illness & you cannot do this on your own!

[@GoldenStrike87]

Savannah Huddleston thank you for your uplifting response little things like this give me hope during this time

[@paige15803]

Same here like it started with gay then bi and all that but I know I'm not either because I only like boys (I'm a girl) and it's sucks but it's just the HOCD

[@eshaa6703]

I blame quarantine for this one my thoughts have been going crazy i feel like i can't control my mind its like somone is taunting me that i'm bi or les but i'm 100% straight and idk why i get a feeling...

[@Jack-xg3up]

although right now I am dealing with HOCD, I believe I used to have a different type of OCD that was very similar. I used to worry SO MUCH about whether or not I would forget the littlest things in the future. Like for example I had 15 reminders on my phone going off every day to remind me things like remember to take out my contacts or whatever. I can't really remember what other things it was but I remember setting a reminder on my phone to keep working out a year from that day, like how stupid is that. But I remember having this paralyzing fear that I would forget to do simple things, and this feels the exact same way as my fear of being gay. It feels like I am going to forget who I am and just transform into something else and that I have no control over it. But I got over that (not my HOCD yet) but my advice to people is to give it time and you will eventually find your own way to deal with it and your brain will sort it out itself.

[@thegamingwindow9788]

Why do you allow people like Johnny G to comment?

[@iamsomeone8266]

This HOCD has made me upset. Im strsight but it actually made me cry and i get rlly anxious around the same sex as me because i am scared i will develop attraction to someone who i think looks attractive Thanks. This has helped me massively. I hadnt reslised that maybe the people who i found attractive were just attractive fullstop. Tbh i am 16 and i have never had srxual attraction to anyone or prehaps maybe that i am just asexual or havent found the right guy yet. Its really helped Check this before you question if your gay: Do i get nervous? >Yes - bc u think (as in you have these thought) you are attracted to the same sex. Is the person who you think attractive actually attractive? >No - you are probably self concious and feel that bc they have a feature you wish you had, you like how they look or how this person is so nice, you almost want to be them. Do i have sexual attraction to this person? >yes - you think to much about it, maybe your single and are in no relation. Your mind wonders Also write aboit tjese thoughts if ypu dont want to talk about them. Its imporatnt to get your feelings and thpughts off your chest.

[@msunder0115]

This is crazy im just finding out about this now. I'm 36 it all started at the age of 17 when a friend of mine asked me if I was straight when i was super high on weed. Ive been totured by it since it has literally ruined my life I cant get a date and others assume im gay and homophobic because of the way i act. I need to overcome this. Im getting to old for this.

[@adamgale2189]

Who thinks ur gay

[@msunder0115]

@@adamgale2189 i dunno i guess it doesn't matter really.

[@leibniz4455]

Your actions don't matter, there are skinny esl players out there, theyre not even gays

[@cartier8526]

I need help man my thoughts are so bad that it’s making me think I’m actually gay but I can’t and I don’t wanna be gay cause they thought of me and a guy having sex is disgusting and kissing a guy like I try to think of me and a girl kissing and a then a guy comes in out of no where and then I don’t like it I want these ideas and thought gone if they don’t go away soon I really want to end it

[@PAPSKIDUN]

Try to not watch porn

[@cartier8526]

@Atlus Avalon my thoughts went away as i kno i am not gay i am very straight

[@wyattstevensonn9692]

@Atlus Avalon listen to the whole video

[@Kazari-h7k]

I hate this feeling. I crushed on girls all through school, and when I was 14-15 I couldn't stop looking at them, but ever since then I've only become less interested. Now I feel like I've lost attraction toward women. I just want to be able to say that I'm straight, period.

[@justincrackedatfort793]

What’s happened since?

[@Kazari-h7k]

@@justincrackedatfort793 After a lot of thinking, some exposure, and consciously not taking the ocd thought train, it's pretty much gone. Also, remembering and focusing on what kind of women I'm attracted to the most and why helped me feel naturally straight again

[@justincrackedatfort793]

@@Kazari-h7k thank you bro. I’m in the same boat but Ik I’m straight but ever since I got in trouble at school I’ve had bad anxiety and the other day these thoughts came in that I don’t like. Praying for us both

[@markjou9799]

I am a white straight male who gets all the girls but no one ever knows that I find Latino men attractive. Even at work I see a Latino and think "Dam he's Hot" I guess I'm attracted to that smooth brown skin.

[@NoisySheep7]

"Giving friend high five, did they want to hold hands" 😅🤣 sorry, i know this is serious, but I had to laugh.

[@Loveofasufi]

it feels worse when you look at it as a calamity and you’ve never really agreed with it and now your getting intrusive thoughts about it and false attraction false feelings. It’s the worst. Not agreeing with it doesn’t mean we want to harm those people or want them to go to hell- definitely not. It’s just something I naturally will never get or agree with .. that also includes religious reasons as well, and it’s okay if you don’t agree with my perspective ,we all are going to disagree on each other at some point , we all have our own person and religious beliefs but I believe those people have their rights and have a right to live in peace just please don’t force it on me and on religion My hocd worsened when I saw something gay on netflix- and it’s not their fault , Been seeing lesbian adverts etc but weeks after that it worsened even more when I came across this tiktok of a woman literally forcing it on people. and It really disturbed me. And it’s caused me to become more intolerant of it. I just can’t help feeling anxiety towards lesbian . There’s times I went through pedophile ocd , incest ocd , a bit of transgender ocd with the HOCD but this hocd has been the worst for me . The HOCD Makes you think maybe your bisexual or something but I know it isn’t true. I rather die than become any other sexuality. I’m naturally straight and I’m happy and thankful to GOD that I’m like that. The false attraction feels real but I know it isn’t because the attraction I feel towards a man feels like a real attraction - innocent , emotional, unique . The false attraction feels real in a different way- deadly . I really respect everyone but my fear just can’t be helped ? It’s like my mind chooses who I’m afraid of. I’m not afraid of gay men but only the women because of course I’m a woman myself. I will never agree with it but i wish I never feared it. My HOCD is so severe , I’m afraid of every woman. The false attraction looks so real... I have to seek reassurance every day.

[@jordenchiu211]

Donttt worry girllll u got it

[@jordenchiu211]

I would recommend u do ERP and cognitive behavioral therapy

[@swiftalani5291]

These past 3 months feel like I’ve just accidentally flipped a switch that changed the difficulty of my life to hardcore

[@je3225]

I think I've been having this problem and its been hard. I know I am not gay, and I accept people who are 100% and they are amazing people. But I know that I am not gay because I never get felling of sexual attraction to men only that what if thought that gives me anxiety and makes me feel compelled to make me switch how I feel. This video has helped me understand that being obsessed over a thought does not define your sexuality even though it might make you feel like t does so again I thank the people for commenting about these issues and this video, and I also might just want to see if people feel the same way you can either dm me or reply all forms of contact are appreciated deeply.

[@savannahhuddleston4028]

Hey, if you’re watching this & struggling with OCD / intrusive thoughts- I’m so sorry. I know things have been very hard & scary but you’re doing so well trying to just day to day. Your thoughts are not facts. Your feelings are not facts. Your dreams are not facts. Sexual intrusive thoughts are often accompanied by unwanted, physical sensations making them feel very real. Again-Feelings are not facts. OCD will try to bring up things from your past to try to prove a point. Don’t take the bait. OCD will try to convince you that your fear of attraction isn’t OCD. Get help. Seek a therapist who specializes in this. I have been researching nonstop for weeks- a close family member of mine is struggling with hocd & other things, it also got worse during COVID19. You’re not alone. Get help! This is a mental illness & you cannot do this on your own!

[@SportsHq0]

@@savannahhuddleston4028 can you help me

[@elliottgainey3129]

This helped me a lot, appreciate it homes

[@jonathans.219]

So so so helpful.

[@Peeepop1]

Amazing video. Thank you. Keep up the great work ❤️

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

Thanks for watching!

[@camillarodriguez8878]

In quarantine I have been stuck at home and I started having homosexual thoughts and I would say to my self what if I am lesbian I know I am not because I only liked guys and I would imagen what if I like one of my friends and when I think of that I get discosted and my stomach hurts and I know I am not I am curantly seeing a therapist and I am having a really hard time

[@skyleeeeer4068]

Im 14 and i had this for 3 years...

[@Justlookingg]

Same. In quarantine with my roommate and start having these thoughts.

[@sanim9666]

Me too. At least I’m not the only one that doesn’t have these thoughts.

[@yuvansankar9300]

OMG even i have started getting these thoughts only in quarantine.I don't know why this is happening to me and i'm an 18 year old male.I started getting these gay thoughts for the past 2 months and it is really scaring me.I cannot sleep during night time due to these thoughts.Can you please share whether you overcame the problem and i am damn sure i am straight but these thoughts are scaring me.This quarantine got me fucked up.

[@erismara9099]

YES!!! ME TOO. this lockdown made me think stuff like this.

[@pillarsoflight2607]

I'm a proud homosexual man, and I've obsessed over the thought(s) and fear of possibly being attracted to the opposite sex, or maybe being more fulfilled from being with a woman versus being involved with a man. I've strained myself over these assumptions for the past year.

[@yacineash5962]

Wtf xD I think OCD in this case is a blessing for you so you reconsider your sexual orientation

[@carnival_cutie]

Bro its a blessing take it

[@MrSivram28]

You're probably gay due to HOCD.

[@infoentertainment5743]

Homosexuality is biggest sin, full stop period

[@zodiee3219]

thank you so fucking much for making something like this. this helped a bunch, and because somewhere down the road I convinced myself that I am what my mind thinks, that even my brain started to get attracted to men. then I figured, its just the brain getting so scared that it started to think men as females lol. anyways, thanks again and good luck to other people with their OCDs. You are what you make of you, not what you or your mind thinks

[@cheriamber9818]

I think if I have HOCD, it stems from my childhood when I had no idea about the concept of sexuality or sexual orientation but saw was sexual images online thinking that it was supposed to be fun for me, regardless if there were men and women on there but as long as I remember, I’ve always had crushes and feelings for guys only. Now I feel like it’s gotten worse the past few years since I’ve started questioning everything and getting worried that I may be into other women when I don’t want to be. I can’t even look at certain photos or videos without worrying that I may be aroused somehow. Over the past month it’s gotten to the point where I can’t even think nor fantasize about men normally since I’m worried that I’ll end up thinking that way about women. I just want it to all go away 😔 I also can’t tell anyone how I feel since they’ll think I’m bi or lesbian when I’ve never felt this way for any woman.

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

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[@amandalovey7212]

I never had any feelings for girls but the thoughts are killing me it’s making my think I’m gay and it doesn’t feel right and I want to be straight it’s getting better but it started in early February I thought I was gay because I thought girls were pretty but I never had feelings but now I’m scared I might be and if I’m not I will be in the future does it mean I’m gay? I only had feelings for guys. (I’m a girl) Edit: When I was watching TikTok I got anxious like I was days ago because if I think a girl is pretty thoughts are going around in my mind that I’m attracted to her even though I’m not and it causes me to get real anxious. And now I’m questioning if I am.

[@msunder0115]

No your not gay just because you think someone of the same sex has beautiful features.

[@valentinakarabidyan2862]

Same as me. I dont know anymore

[@pmpm1841]

Valentina Karabidyan quit watch Porn if you do

[@MrSivram28]

@@valentinakarabidyan2862 The thought are not yours. The government is putting it in your head through social media. Don't fall for it

[@gm8553]

please help i can’t stop crying over this i’m going crazy

[@trynagetdonalds1016]

yeah im going through it too but just try to calm yourself and just remember that weather you where straight or gay ect is what you are,your sexuality hasnt changed ocd is just thoughts not reality and in reality your sexuality hasnt changed its just ocd is working against you.

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

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[@iversonganob29]

My only concern is why i lost my attraction to the opposite gender (I'm Male) and fuck this HOCD its almost 1 and half year since this shit happened to me, i want to get rid of this already!!

[@justincrackedatfort793]

What’s happened since?

[@annabellemoore4214]

God loves you and can heal you from this, He can heal you completely give your life to Him

[@inake360]

I have the exact same problem ,, I guess it’s because you’re so mentally and emotionally exhausted from those thoughts that it makes you give up on everything. I always analyze to see if I still like guys and I just end up giving up because I feel extremely tired. Idk if this might help you since it’s been 2 years alr,, I just wanted to share my experience

[@DCsWaG30]

I’ve been goin threw this on and off for about a year or so. I’m having a hard time lately that’s y I’m on here. But I’ve had it go away for awhile as well. I’m here to say get the fuck off of these videos, quit looking it up, and just leave it alone. You have to just sit with the anxiety and let it be. Don’t give it anymore energy that it already has. The more of a thing you make it the worse it’s gonna get. Just let the thoughts or feelings or urges be there and don’t do anything with them. Just continue to love your normal life. If ur gay or strait you kno it, you kno deep down in ur soul who you are. Just remember that. I kno shit gets tuff I kno how much hell this can be wouldn’t put in on my worse enemy. Much love to all

[@FirstnameLastname-or1rl]

So you don’t deal with hocd anymore?

[@ogreman-lll-957]

If I never downloaded twitter or instagram this would never happen. A lot of kooky people on there.

[@ookiett]

Idk if I'm the only lesbian/homosexual in this comments section, but it took me 4 years to realize that I'm only into girls and whenever I start to remember the times I thought I liked guys and the cringey stuff I've done to get their attention, that's when it gets triggered and I'm not sure if it's internalized homophobia, hocd, or both. Yet this is very very annoying like whenever I have one of those thoughts I just go on a 2 hour ride of questioning myself and doubting till I start to remember how I got here in the first place. This video was actually really helpful for me to realise the problem may be this since I experience all of those symptoms plus I have really bad anxiety and in this quarantine it wasn't really getting managed right '^^

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

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[@cgghjigyunkoo209]

Question how did u know u liked girls ??

[@tchkbty7489]

Very very helpfull. God bless u brother❤️

[@nlenle5526]

How you fell now bro?

[@ygproductions3590]

I’m a dude and I’ve always been attracted to girls I have a girlfriend rn I’ve been having really bad intrusive thoughts at this point I’ve have a intrusive thought about just about everything currently I’m stuck on a intrusive thought telling me I’m gay but I know I’m straight it’s like my mind is trying to find every possible reason why I might be gay but deep down I know I’m not I literally can’t even watch a tv show with out it triggering that thought I avoid dudes now because I’m scared it’ll make me gay feels like I’m losing my mind, I’ve only told my girlfriend and she’s been helping a lot but I’m just so scared I want these thoughts to go away😔😣 I keep worrying asking “if I’m worried then it’s just a intrusive thought, but when I calm down and I’m not worrying anymore my mind says” your not worrying anymore that means it isn’t a intrusive thought” 😣

[@nvoNito]

We will make it thru this trust me its been 2 weeks for me but realize you’re are not alone

[@taragurung8163]

@@nvoNito how is it now brother

[@Jason-co6yd]

Best video I've seen on this. No reassurance at all, awesome detailing on the recovery. Thanks

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

Glad you liked it! Thank you!

[@Jason-co6yd]

@@mattcodde.restoredminds I have a question... What's the quickest recovery from HOCD you've seen? I'm willing to do almost anything to sort this fast

[@settledwolfgaming4009]

I've personally been dealing with HOCD since October 2019, ever since then it wasn't to bad and I could easily ignore the thoughts, but recently this month (Febuary 2020) I want to talk about what's been going on, it's a little hard to discuss but I'm gonna try my best. Basically I'm being told that maybe I should just say screw it and try dating the same sex. But I keep telling myself that I'm not going to because if I like it then I'm gonna freak out. It's hard to explain but it's very very very annoying. It just started recently and man I just want it to go away. It gets to the point where I'm being told that maybe I'm just denying the thought that I am gay, and I hate those ones in specific. I try ERP and it doesn't seem to work for me so I'm not sure if I should get therapy or talk to school counselors? I'm desperate at this point and looking for help to stay straight

[@masonbrown9388]

You are straight pal.

[@msunder0115]

You are not alone. Its all bullshit ive never thought about a man sexually either and i get the same shit from ppl its not denial unless you have sexual fantasies about the same sex or are interested in having sexual relationships with the same sex.its nothing but fear. I would like nothing more than to get over it myself.

[@msunder0115]

@ⰎⰌⰖⰁⰖⰞⰍⰀ ⰍⰓⰀⰌⰋⰐⰀ that depends like i said if your fantasizing about gay sex you might be gay or bisexual.

[@settledwolfgaming4009]

@@jessejgs what I've been doing lately is ERP, as I can tell this is the only way to get rid of hocd, if you dont know what it is you have to purposely think about the thoughts. Try not to tell yourself your straight or anything while doing ERP as it will make you lose progress in getting rid of hocd, I'm seeing if this method works atm, apparently it takes 4 weeks while using this method to get rid of hocd

[@badcpy5430]

@@settledwolfgaming4009 how are you doing man ? i have hocd for 3 years i m also doing erp now the thoughts are not scary as it was but the problem is reassuring nowadays just a little things gives me reassurance like if i have gay thought occur in 3 seconds i got reassure by thinking of a girl . i do not know its a good thing or not

[@ED118Riseup]

Thank you so much you helped alot with the info Godbless you 😊 🙏 ❤💯👌

[@sarahmay7490]

This all started when my neighbour knocked my door who’s a lesbian so I thought in my head are u attracted to me or what if your attracted to me so I asked myself what does this mean why am I thinking like this does this make me a lesbian now so for weeks I couldn’t eat or sleep I’d cry all the time but now I don’t get anxiety anymore about it the thought is just stuck in my mind and it feels like denial when Iv never ever questioned my sexuality if I try to do erp imagin the worst things I just don’t get anxiety or butterflies I’m confused 🙄🙄😩

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

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[@syria5796]

@@mattcodde.restoredminds do I have to accept the uncertainty with OCD or GAD? Please answer

[@jameshanneder484]

my fears have gone with therapy almost away. but there is one issue than no one has ever known how to help, something that therapist don't talk more often. How to resume sex life after suffering with so-ocd? I'm avoiding sex with a partner because every time I try to have sex a get extremely nervous. Dysfunctions like loosing erection, loosing interest, feeling like i'm not being aroused pop up every time I want to have sex and everything ends in me being defeated. On the other hand, masturbation its much easier than sex. I used to like sex a lot. Now is very difficult to me to approach my partner because all these thoughts and feeling make me feel like I am failing.

[@aditi1507_]

Quarantine fucked me up

[@1nate2]

i had this like 2 weeks ago and i was questioning if i was gay or whatever but then through ERP i made it away and i’ve had many other themes in the past but this past weekend i had a gay thought and idk it feels intentional and not instrusive and i just think i’m gay and it’s caused a lot of stress. my instrusive thoughts in the past felt like it came from another part of the mind and now it feels like it’s me thinking this gay stuff and idk i think i’m just gay because it’s not like a couple weeks ago where i was questioning if i was and before all this i was always attracted to women and stuff

[@alevelzah117]

I don’t get any sexual thoughts. But it’s seeing other men in public regardless of age and questioning am I attracted to them ??? Does that make me Gay. It’s causing me so much distress, my head feels heavy everyday, it’s sucking the life out of me. I can’t concentrate on my studies properly.... Please Help me do you do therapy via video call?

[@masonbrown9388]

I can tell by reading your comment that you are not gay. What you are suffering from are ego-distonic, intrusive thoughts.

[@DASAMIRFR]

@Joe Mama I'm having this problem to. Around 3 weeks or 2 weeks ago i told my mom I wanted to join the LGBTQ+ cause i wanted to. She asked me why i wanna join that club but all i said was "idk..." She told me to join another club instead then when she said that I was saying to myself if i was gay? That's been repeating In my shit for 3 weeks. I was sleeping most of the days, I've been having stomach cramps, my anxiety was making me stress and I didn't know what to do. I told everyone I knew about this problem and all they said to me that if your then we'll support and love you no matter what. That made me happy but I told them that I'm not gay!! Idk wtf is going on with me but I all i wanted to do later in life is date a beautiful girl BUT NO i got these fucking intrusive thoughts happening in my head. Sorry if that didn't made any sense Joe mama. Please someone tell this is a phrase for teenagers

[@DASAMIRFR]

@Joe Mama thanks fam

[@masonbrown9388]

Joe Mama. You are just like me kid, you have HOCD, which gives you hell because you are 100% heterosexual. I hope you recover faster than I did. I promise you pal, you can beat this.

[@masonbrown9388]

Sirtastic, you are in the same boat as me and Joe Mama, all the best with your recovery pal.

[@mariobross230]

I need someone to help me by responding. So I did some I guess you can say "gay" things when I was little with another boy (ps: I didn't know what we were doing until I understood the body and got older and learned About sex and stuff) but then I was fine. But then tv started to change me making me act more feminine seeing how girls would act (also I lived with my brothers and dad and mom and sister) but it was me and my sister mainly my dad and me had a good relationship but not a real close one and my brother was always gone and I was a momma's boy so I wasn't as tight with the guys in my family than the girls. So I would act girlish and I remember dressing up as a girl cause idk I just seen somewhere or I just thought about it, I did it with my sister and one time my dad caught me and took a picture and stuff and I felt embarrassed. I was showing signs as a little boy as if I was "gay" I wasn't really attached to girls yet at the time and the stuff I was doing kinda messed me up. I did alot of questionable things as a kid. But I started getting older and liking girls and the "gayness" "girlish" stuff went away cause I knew I liked girls, I was kinda a playa but that's besides the point. But then I started acting alittle feminine once middle school hit (6th grade) I would hang around girls but not date them and then the girlishness started to come back but I didn't process how I was acting really l. I was acting like every other boy but just alittle girly. And people would ask me if I was gay and I didn't really understand it and when they did I was hate it because I felt I wasn't because I really only had eyes for girls at that time. Then the girlyness went away in 8th grade when I had a girlfriend and I was happy and wasn't thinking about all the feminine things I've done and how I acted. Like I was acting like every other boy and I felt better. Then she did some messed up stuff to me that kinda threw me off and I just been single. I would get a boner everyone the boys would talk about something sex related and I didn't really know why. And 9th grade I was like every other boy not really being feminine but had a little in me which I didn't really notice. Then all of a sudden these gay thoughts start coming in my head and idk where they came from but I was kinda suppressing it because idek what they were and why they were there. Then when the pandemic hit the thoughts kinda went away and I started to observe porn and see what my mind was saying and I was weird out by the guys doing stuff together and my private part would get hard and I didn't like that and I was like ew why is this happening to me. Then the thoughts faded away in my 10th grade year but was still there but not as much. Then I liked this girl and Everytime I would be around her I would be nervous and smile and the thoughts would all be gone and when I think about her the thoughts disappear. Now that the summer hit the thoughts came back and I needed to know why. I don't want to be gay I want to be straight. I want to only like girls. I don't want to be attracted to males. That's why I don't do team showers cause im scared for myself cause idk how my area would react. I want to be able to do things with my friends and not feel weird or take team showers and not worry about my area. I just wanna be ok and not have to worry about these thoughts that keep coming in my head. I hope someone can see this and please give me advice and help me.

[@sleep7270]

Mason Brown hey what’s up, I’m a 16 year old male that has had this dumb stuff for about 8 months. I always loved women and never thought about men sexually or romantically and I always have wanted a wife and kids. Now I feel like I’m turning bi and that puberty is showing something hidden or something. I don’t want to be bi but it’s making me think I am with all these feelings and stuff.

[@d53l08]

Do u still feel that way and if not, how did u stop it

[@mel5282]

PC Harris u need to go to a therapist who specializes in ocd. its the only way.

[@savannahhuddleston4028]

Hey, if you’re watching this & struggling with OCD / intrusive thoughts- I’m so sorry. I know things have been very hard & scary but you’re doing so well trying to just day to day. Your thoughts are not facts. Your feelings are not facts. Your dreams are not facts. Sexual intrusive thoughts are often accompanied by unwanted, physical sensations making them feel very real. Again-Feelings are not facts. OCD will try to bring up things from your past to try to prove a point. Don’t take the bait. OCD will try to convince you that your fear of attraction isn’t OCD. Get help. Seek a therapist who specializes in this. I have been researching nonstop for weeks- a close family member of mine is struggling with hocd & other things, it also got worse during COVID19. You’re not alone. Get help! This is a mental illness & you cannot do this on your own!

[@lusine9886]

people who end up bisexual never are scared of the fact, you going through this is proof that you are straight

[@sleep7270]

@@lusine9886 thank you so much🤧🤧

[@JupiterMan12.000]

Thanks Dude👍👍👍👍

[@benneal5109]

I need some help because this has been going since I was 14 years of age.

[@dbchoobie1924]

My hocd happened due to my loneliness, it happened yesterday. I thought "what if dating guys will work if dating women isn't working?" And the whole day it's been bothering me.

[@mysticizzm]

Try talking to an openly homosexual guy. Let them know you've gone through life being straight, but you wanna know more about their story. How did they know they were gay, how they decided to come out, and did they struggle with intrusive thoughts vs actually knowing. As you get to know this person, you'll know for sure that you may, or may not find the idea of a relationship with a man worth pursuing, or desirable. That's why it's important to also let someone know you're not trying to lead them on.

[@imathug9960]

Same bro But mine has occured 10 years ago

[@kaustubhsangale9027]

@@imathug9960 and now gone or not

[@AlexAlex-i2t]

I wanna ask something,i am suffering from false attraction and arousal to same sex,through all my life ive been sexually and romantically liked womens,not into any gay act,but i am so scared that i was bi or gay before or i turned gay or that i am bi due to ,i was sometimes admiring good looks of other dude non in sexual way,exmpl nik carter,pall walker,,also i was trying to be friend with some dude at 17 years old(now i am 20),and i was feel quite nervous around him even i was crushing on my girl that time,also i didn't want to have sex or romantic thing with him,my mind trying to convince me that i am bi sexual even when i watch gay or bi porn i don't get aroused,i i know sexually i am straight, i am scared that i am bi or gay,i always watch naked womens ,obsessed with boobs,have celebrity womens crush,not mans body,but childhood memorys and the dude memories makes me doubtful and scared,i just i don't want be something who is not me.

[@johncarvacho2861]

I been have this for a couple days i am not gay but my thought been putting weird sexual thought

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

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[@I_hate_apricots]

im 14 and i had this thought of “am i gay” during a serious relationship with a girl who i was in love with. and it came into my head because i was sitting my guy best friend and fast forward i convinced my self i wasnt and all of july 2019 up until now i was fine but during quarantine and being in my thoughts the worst thing for me ive been wondering am i gay what if i become gay and i have 2 gay sibling so they affect my anxiety of being homosexual even more. and i just want to clear these thoughts and ive been taking online tests and such and i always get straight and i jusy want clarification and its just been fucking with me thinking what if im gay?

[@amandalovey7212]

I’m dealing with the same thing except I’m a girl and worried I’m gay. I think Coronavirus is hurting our thoughts it’s going to be okay. Your straight most likely but I know I am but the thoughts are telling me differently.

[@mawjoo3a]

Usually these thoughts pop out when u you have so much free time and stuck at home so you have nothing else to do only to think out side the box . Ur cases guys are totally natural and i would advice u train ur mind to refuse and reject this idea and get ur self busy . Lgbt is a hot trend and apparently everyone is feeling that they belong to this community when he or she could be totally fine and had previous straight relationships. So its all about controlling desires n thoughts. Good luck 🍀

[@yuvansankar9300]

Bro even it is happening to me and guess what i started to get these only during this quarantine.

[@mawjoo3a]

yuvan sankar social media has a huge influence on how people think and react to things . Since now being gay is ok and people are hyping about it and claiming to find true happiness and joy . Seriously people in age of 14 to 20 and even older could be easily grabbed and deceived . Please guys your value and dignity is what matters in your life and what will shape you character n personality not your sexuality. This part should always remain private you should always remember god puts us into so many tests to challenge our desires not to give up on these thoughts and follow others . Best of luck guys 😍😍👌🏽wish u all the best

[@yuvansankar9300]

mawjoo3a Thank you and yes I did not have a social media account and I made an insta account only during quarantine.I have now stopped watching porn because I watched too much porn in quarantine everyday.I am confident and I am trying to overcome it.

[@user-vk3by7et5r]

This can be pure hell I know from personal experience. I am a male who was molested as a child more than once and raped. The thoughts started immediately after I was raped but it wasn't only about other guys it was also about girls the ones that I was around most like my brother and sister and even my mom and other people around me at school work church wherever people were. I didnt know what was going on I just thought that there was something horribly wrong with me. And I would litterally sit and dwell on it for hours. I had them so bad that at times I wasn't sure if I was actually enjoying having the thoughts or hating having them. I would do things and then have a real strong shameful feeling about it and I was young and not sure if I really understood at the time that what I was doing was wrong. As I got older though I still have the thoughts and the OCD and the thoughts but I have a much better understanding of what is right and what is wrong my conscience lets me know pretty quick. I have no desire to act on any of the thoughts. I now know that it is OCD that I was dealing with all that time and that the thoughts don't mean that I am that way or I wouldn't feel ashamed of myself for having them. I have dealt with suicidal thoughts and attempts, depression, anxiety, bullies, alcoholism, and drug abuse you name it. It has caused me much social anxiety and social awkwardness to the point of avoiding people, situations, dating it has effected pretty much every aspect of my life. At this point what I am feeling is that I am kind of regreting not knowing what was going on sooner and knowing that I could be better off now than what I am if I would've had more confidence in myself. So I decided that starting from today I will no longer let it hold me back from doing what I want and need to do. I have forgiven those who wronged me and myself and given myself the okay to let it all go and from this point to pick up my broken pieces and start over. I am looking for a church where I can volunteer and be social I am going to smile more and be more outgoing take more interest in my job and even join a few dating apps and go to bars and clubs and laugh and be happy but not drink alcohol. Its going to be great.

[@bellaeastwood4235]

i definitely need OCD for relationships because my relationship with my boyfriend has been so hard to maintain when i have these thoughts

[@warcrimes390]

Can I have tips? You say that allow the sensations that come with the thoughts but then I’m afraid that my brain will like these sensations. there’s this girl that i have a crush on but now I’m afraid hocd is going to rob the chance of me starting a family in the future with her and living a good life

[@cgghjigyunkoo209]

Idk if I’m late but join nofap it helps a lot

[@fuji4794]

Can someone help i was never attracted to men and it just that thought asking me if I’m gay but I was never gay for 14 years I need help

[@leibniz4455]

Just remember these statements.. I am a Christian, I am a fighter of my faith. "Temptation is just temptation, but wisdom is wisdom" "it's something a 3 year old won't even mind, the hell you going on to?" So whenever your feelings are trying to emerge, use it as a Test, those who are real "fighters" won't even mind them. Your feelings are NEVER FACTS when they are just TEMPTATION

[@henga5856]

it happend to me too

[@masonbrown9388]

Don't panic, stay strong, you'll get through this, you are not gay, it's important to keep remembering that, self harm, testing, homophobia, all coping mechanisms, but none of them help, CBT and ERP are well known for OCD, they are worth a try, but they didn't work for me, and like me, you will find an effective strategy on your own if not with a therapist.

[@leibniz4455]

I'll just leave this here for you guys.. I wrote this as I was bored, hope I can be of help, I'm Christian by the way. "You're not gay, you're just bored" Think nga logically, not emotionally, temptation is a sin. Be determined and disciplined. You're "a grown up" act like it. If you can't? Then you just feel like it, feelings are never facts. Move on, you've got a rational fighting spirit, think rationally. You're just bored. -Your brain is not invested in doing anything else for the fact your brain may not be motivated in anything at the moment. Therefore your brain will do anything so you will not be busy. It is not denying a gay identity, rather not minding it, since the chances of minding these is almost zero for Christians, and doing so is hilarious. There is a difference. -The solution for this is to divert your mind into anything progressive such as putting your attention on areas you are not good at; i.e: Math, Philosophy, Science, Religion, Workout, maybe rest it out. Feelings are never Facts -Feelings are never facts. You cannot think what you feel are real, because they don't exist in the physical realm. If you were to think of many imaginary things, but it wouldn't obey reality at all, it would feed your imaginary world only. Temptation is a sin, don't follow it. -Temptation has the ability to lead you to inhumane things such as rape, remember to follow; "logic rather than emotion." God has made man and woman for each other, you violate it if you follow temptation. If you feel God, then should gay feelings be real? Let's state the feeling of God first, God had planned man for woman, and woman for man, therefore the moment we ask "are gay feelings real?" it's a voided question for it would be different if you follow God, wisdom rather than temptation. The moment you follow the imaginary images given by temptation, then you are violating God, and you disregard your purpose.

[@Ej-iy6bl]

I know damn well I’m gay yet I have this problem... I think it’s because of the fact that I’ve been shamed by my family for my sexuality, I guess at my core, I wish I could be straight to please them.. I have the same thinking process for religion, I was raised religious so I have a crippling fear of death and Hell, it’s gotten to such a bad place.. I don’t really know what to do anymore

[@anshikakothari3469]

So were you interested in people with same sex all along? Because I love a guy for for years (I'm female) and have always been interested in male but one day I was watching a show and that's when I started having the thoughts.

[@lilsupreme8927]

My thoughts popped up out of nowhere, about 2 weeks ago and they cause distress, i never get sexually aroused by these thoughts and infact i want them to stop, its hard to sleep and these thoughts disgust me, im only 15 and apparently this is normal during puberty

[@andrewfrancis8800]

I'm 14 I'm going through the same thing

[@JupiterMan12.000]

Im struggeling with this Disorder too

[@etiboyz-gaming-gfx1839]

Im scared because I think everytime i act like a guay person move, talk, when I sleep etc.. it’s annoying for me and my girlfriend

[@tacobell9233]

Can intrusive thoughts be about people in itself let’s say you do something and Think of something inappropriate and think of an unwanted person afterwards is that an intrusive thought?

[@lusine9886]

yes

[@thetreasurer7531]

i had mine 6 years ago. even before i was a teenager, i hate it

[@leibniz4455]

The people I hate are those who brought me to it, I had a bi friend, as a Christian, I had to befriend her, she kind of abused it, and convinced me to be bi

[@thetreasurer7531]

@@leibniz4455 she's horrible. she is not entitled to someone's sexuality. i have bi/gay friends and they never disrespected me like that. i pray that God blesses you with great friends and may He bring us victory over this shitty OCD. God bless you, we got this!

[@martinrafael466]

What did u had 6 years ago

[@nontay1200]

Can you actually get over it permanently?

[@FirstnameLastname-or1rl]

Ofc

[@baignoorsama8650]

@@FirstnameLastname-or1rl please please help me 👍

[@FirstnameLastname-or1rl]

@@baignoorsama8650 the thoughts is fuel to the fire stop thinking about it, when it does comeback distract yourself it won’t leave overtime but eventually it will go away and not be as strong stop watching these videos stop watching porn and go outside and look at the sky and look at every detail the cloud has, and if your religious pray

[@ActionMoviesVideos]

Yes of course! No form of OCD is permanent. It goes away with time, mindfulness and practice. Refrain from watching any sort of sexual stuff and don't try to force check your attraction. Try this for a week and you'll see results in no time. It has worked for me, so I can GUARANTEE this isn't permanent. May God bless you!

[@Eezkiel]

Hocd is convincing that I watched gay pirn before I had symptoms. I obviously know I didn't yet I still feel like I did. Now I watched a few months ago but never again this was during hocd 😭

[@dxaamn4879]

So you don’t have it anymore?

[@breezy_god7895]

I go through this everyday and that’s the only reason I watch porn

[@sidgent8296]

Bruh I used to watch porn and master are almorr ST everyday but then I didn’t get hard from girls no more so prob stay of the porn because it means you have anxiety and if u want to cure it you better see other go do vids to help

[@warcrimes390]

Sid Gent yo this is my exact problem did you find anything that helps? I’ve found that not caring about it does help a bit is then I’m like “wait am I actually gay?” And then my anxiety starts up again

[@breezy_god7895]

Muda bro it helps I’ve been having the same thoughts but my mind playing tricks on me ik I’m straight and u r as well

[@warcrimes390]

I’ll keep this in mind. Hopefully I can return to my normal self once school starts since homework really helps take my mind off things

[@warcrimes390]

@@breezy_god7895 so basically if i lay off the porn for good and then after a while I'll start actually feeling sensitized again?

[@paddybradley4024]

Is there anyway I can work with you at all? I can pay for sessions etc please get back to me if possible

[@selfimprovement2664]

OKAY I SHOULD WAYCH ORANGE IS THE NEW BLACK

[@cheekclapper8330]

This intrusive gay thoughs is the worst thing ever happened to me

[@AleXia-wv5iw]

Same i dont know if this HOCD or dysphoria

[@gurraking]

It al started with one lite thought and then a few days later I was like deep into this ocd shit, but since Ive had female relationships before (I’m a guy) I know I not completely gay but what if I was BISEXUAL 😂😂😂( I’m not bisexual if you wonder)

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

Hey Gustaf, You may want to join our support community. Feel free to check it at bit.ly/3cDFOQ3

[@Dub_97]

Matthew have you thought another guy was attractive or “looked good”?

[@enlightened7354]

You can watch my story how I overcome

[@cje4733]

What if they are bi?

[@mel5282]

cj e if you identify as bi you can also get it. Any orientation can get it.

[@mnrplay]

A way to outwit your delusions is to ask it witty questions. I include the creator too.

[@erfqwake6489]

Mine has gotten terrible. I know I'm not gay, I literally don't even support it. My mind is torturing me, day after day after day after day, and I don't know how to make it stop. A while ago I was, doing, well, what a heterosexual teen guy does. And while I was looking at pictures, the thoughts came into my mind and it ruined it. Now it's making it even worse, I don't know what to do.

[@yeetnessthegreater1298]

A suppose friend of mine out of nowhere sent his nudes in a groupchat thinking it was funny, then announced he was suss. That retriggered my Hocd and it’s been hell sense. I rather have the flu, Covid than this shit

[@Jackforex22]

I have a girlfriend, I started thinking like this for 2 weeks and my sex drive went down then me and my girl starting getting very touchy and it went for a week or 2 now it’s back but I know it’s just a thought so I let it be but now I’m thinking what if I’m letting it be because I’m gay

[@Jackforex22]

I just want it to go so I can live my life happily, is there any medication I could take

[@abdullahwaleed6397]

Guys hundreads of people thinking i am gay in my muslim country realatives friends all avoiding me strangers talking about me it had me so bad because of my background i can't handle this anymore god help me can't take this anymore 😢 i wish i was in a better country so i would feel some comfort in the possibility of being gay weired right but i am not damn depression anxiety

[@rolandmiles8035]

Am I able to reach out to you?

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

Hi Roland, you may contact us at [e-mail]

[@lister11811]

Hi i am so scared and feel i know i am GAy now, can some with HOCD realise this is true. i have been diagnosed with hOCD and told people dont realise this is true but i feel i have realized i am

[@IK7.]

Im in the same boat man, I feel like I am, or Ive realized it but That shit dosent add up, It dosent feel authentic. Its ridiculously confusing

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

Hello, we offer a FREE MASTERCLASS - 5 NECESSARY SHIFTS FOR BREAKING FREE FROM ANXIETY & PSYCHOLOGICAL STRESS - just visit our website at www.restoredminds.com to register - hope to see you there and answer your question!

[@lister11811]

@@mattcodde.restoredminds i am really confused about OCD now as i have been told by numerous therapists these thoughts aren't true but i feel i am really liking my thoughts so can OCD at the end of therapy be true then for people, can some with ocd realise this is true

[@lister11811]

@@mattcodde.restoredminds i cant see anything free as the program is asking for money

[@clumsyme179]

No this can’t happen.HOCD can’t change changes your sexuality.it just suppresses it for a few time and you will get the old you back.

[@Dub_97]

It’s the images that I get that I hate so much !

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

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[@kimberly6200]

Reject Wrong Practices How can you keep from getting involved in homosexual practices? ▪ First Throw all your anxieties upon Jehovah in prayer, confident that “he cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7; Psalm 55:22) Jehovah can fortify you with a peace that “excels all thought.” This can ‘guard your heart and your mental powers’ and give you “power beyond what is normal” to keep from acting on wrong desires. (Philippians 4:7; 2 Corinthians 4:7) Sarah, who struggled with the fear that she might be bisexual, says: “Whenever my thoughts disturb me, I pray; and Jehovah sustains me. Without his help I couldn’t have dealt with this problem. Prayer is my lifeline!”​-Psalm 94:18, 19; Ephesians 3:20. ▪ Second Fill your mind with upbuilding spiritual thoughts. (Philippians 4:8) Read the Bible daily. Never underestimate its power to shape your mind and heart for good. (Hebrews 4:12) A young man named Jason says: “The Bible​-including scriptures such as 1 Corinthians 6:9, 10 and Ephesians 5:3-​has had a powerful effect on me. I read these scriptures whenever wrong desires occur.” ▪ Third Shun pornography and gay propaganda, which will only fuel wrong thoughts. * (Psalm 119:37; Colossians 3:5, 6) Some motion pictures and television programs also foster the belief that homosexuality is nothing more than a so-called alternative lifestyle. “The world’s warped thinking affected my mind and added to my sexual confusion,” says Anna. “Now I steer clear of anything or anyone that promotes homosexuality.”​-Proverbs 13:20. ▪ Fourth Seek out a confidant, and talk to him or her about your thoughts. (Proverbs 23:26; 31:26; 2 Timothy 1:1, 2; 3:10) Olef, who sought the help of a Christian elder, recalls: “His counsel was very effective. I wished I had spoken to him a lot earlier.” Do Not Give Up! Of course, some would say that there’s no point in doing all this, that you should simply embrace your sexuality and accept what you are. But the Bible says that you can do better than that! It tells us, for example, that some early Christians who had formerly practiced homosexuality changed. (1 Corinthians 6:9-11) You too can win the battle​-even if at this point it is only being waged in your heart. If your desires persist, do not give up or conclude that you are a lost cause. (Hebrews 12:12, 13) All of us battle wrong inclinations at times. (Romans 3:23; 7:21-23) If you refuse to act on wrong desires, in time they may subside. (Colossians 3:5-8) Above all, lean on Jehovah for help. He loves you and knows what will make you happy. (Isaiah 41:10) Yes, “trust in Jehovah and do good . . . , and he will give you the requests of your heart.”​-Psalm 37:3, 4.

[@sweetpotatopie9832]

No one is reading all of that.

[@lister11811]

Hi I feel that my anxiety is calming down with the thoughts but they don’t repulse me, I feel now that I am starting to realise I am Gay. With doing ERP and getting over the fear and anxiety could someone realise they are Gay. I feel that I want Gay these days and keep saying to my parents I think I am with the amount of time I picture and analysing kissing a man, and doing other acts. can Hocd people realise they are Gay.

[@lister11811]

Thanks mate but my therapist has said who works for Michael Greenberg’s office that she has helped with Hocd realise they are Gay www.invisiblewheelchair.com/ocd-interviews/iwc-interview-podcast-dr-jan-weiner-licensed-clinical-psychologist/ Listen to this i this podcast from a hive specialist 10mins until about 14 mins where she said she has helped two Hocd who were coming out as Gay.

[@lister11811]

This is what confuses me as the therapist above on the KZbin video says people with Hocd don’t turn gay but then this ocd therapist on the podcast says she has helped people out. Are you speaking with an ocd therapist

[@lister11811]

So if people can realise they are Gay then these thoughts were true

[@lister11811]

Anyone

[@cgghjigyunkoo209]

Kinda late but ig maybe deep down you knew u were gay as for me Ik deep down I’m straight

[@itachi-.]

Hey here I am dying because of hocd I am 18 years old since past year I have other type of OCD but now I am obsessed with that I can't find difference between male and female butt and i am obsessed with male butt rather i am not attracted sexually and romantically am i bi or gay or hocd can anyone plz tell me 😭am i. dying every day

[@cgghjigyunkoo209]

Okay hey guys so I’ve been dealing with same thing I even get suicidal thoughts sometimes but today o came in terms with the thoughts and I’ve had less anxiety I know deep down I’m straight

[@homosexualitywithgod8473]

Are you struggling with how to reconcile your homosexuality with God? I did for 20 years, and I will tell you how I finally did it. Go to homosexualitywithgod.com/

[@mike_cherry77]

I been getting better with my ocd i no longer feel really attractive to it I know I will never do anything with men the thought of it it’s just nasty but when I see guys shirtless I get very bad anxiety idk why I’m tired of it it’s annoying

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

Stay tuned for our upcoming event this month! It's going to be a BIG event!

[@usuudwuusha6015]

Does any of u think u like a boy when u see him but u dont

[@xillyvlogs5106]

I have this I looked at my teacher for a second I wasn’t attracted to him and all usudden a scene popped up in my head and I didn’t like it

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

Hey, we offer a FREE MASTERCLASS - 5 NECESSARY SHIFTS FOR BREAKING FREE FROM ANXIETY & PSYCHOLOGICAL STRESS - just visit our website at www.restoredminds.com to register - hope to see you there and answer your question!

[@user-wg2kd2si1n]

yes i think im gay but ive dated girls

[@SuperEROQ]

There is no treatment that can change a gay person to become straight...absolutely none. The flip side of this is if God decides to change you there will be nothing you can do to stop it. This can and does happen to the few that God decides to spiritually transform. It starts by hearing the Gospel but even you being receptive to hear the message and believe is a gift from God.....no one can force this on you nor can you make this wilful decision to change...All I can say is if you are gay and are unhappy being gay then I would approach God prayerfully and ask for this transformation....There is no other way!

[@gentrysligh7114]

I’ve lost all my attraction to women even sexual attraction can someone please help me

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

Hey Rosco, we offer a FREE MASTERCLASS - 5 NECESSARY SHIFTS FOR BREAKING FREE FROM ANXIETY & PSYCHOLOGICAL STRESS - just visit our website at www.restoredminds.com to register - hope to see you there and answer your question!

[@syedabbashusaintm1041]

Hey like is it necessary that it is ocd... I mean i have it too but can't it just be overthinking something ?

[@syedabbashusaintm1041]

@Arth Shukla why the hell this feels so real mannn.... Hate this

[@syedabbashusaintm1041]

@Arth Shukla yessss... I guess my past is the only thing that TROUBLES me... Have you recovered from this ?

[@syedabbashusaintm1041]

@Arth Shukla erp .it Would have been ?

[@syedabbashusaintm1041]

@Arth Shukla i mean ERP would have been the thing that would've worked

[@syedabbashusaintm1041]

@Arth Shukla do you have other types too

[@MRCUE.]

I had it since lockdown I would wake up n hear “ur gay” am I gay I am gay kept having it for months n 3 days ago it said I’m gay n I said I am gay n I accept I’m gay and that thought stopped it’s been 3 days n I anit heard it but there’s still other intrusive thoughts but u c the brains playing tricks on u n we say things we don’t mean by u saying it won’t make u gay wat ever ur thoughts may be just expose ur self 2 it inshallah 1 day we’ll all be free and we’ll be able to tell other people wat we went through n came out off I no it’s hell truss me try it n lemme no n if there’s things that have worked 4 u let me no

[@adhanoyia]

Are u gay tho or no

[@adhanoyia]

Crayon Munchers I have been having thoughts saying omg what if I was gay and it’s just stuck in my head and is ruining my days, and the thing is Ik I’m not becasue I am attracted to women any advice or help?

[@adhanoyia]

Crayon Munchers Ight I will try that out

[@adhanoyia]

Crayon Munchers it still hasn’t worked but I think it’s because I haven’t been sleeping good, insomnia causes more anixety, I will keep trying what I said but do u have any other tips?

[@adhanoyia]

Crayon Munchers yea I’m trying to do progressive muscle relaxtion photographic imagery my aunt is a doctor and she said this might be a slow process but it will get better, thx for your help too btw