How to overcome HOCD - Homosexual OCD - Intrusive Thoughts

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[@cvhnkokb7521]

This is no joke man, it strips your peace of mind and slowly tortures you. You know its not you but the thoughts cant stop. I try to keep a positive mind but its hard. But i know there is light ahead. Stay focused brothers.

[@shreyasc.l677]

We can overcome this 😢

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[@joebrat6809]

Yeah it started for me when I was watching a lot of inappropriate porn and I had a video call with someone who said i wasnt straight. After that the first time I tried to have sex with someone i couldn't get it up and it has tortured me for 3 months now. I haven't acted on it or anything I have attempted to stop watching porn due to the negative effect it had on my finances and my mental health, but this HOCD is absolutely torturing me, especially as my circle of friends being gay is frowned upon.

[@bendeguzhorvath807]

@@joebrat6809I’m having a similar experience with this HOCD. Started in January and it crippled me for 2 weeks straight after I questioned myself. I never doubted my sexuality, never been insecure about my sexuality it just started out of the blue. Still suffering from it to this day, but I started therapy so it’s much better now. If you have the chance, go and see a OCD therapist. It will be a long journey and a very hard one. But those thoughts are just eating you alive. Trust I know the feeling, it’s terrible. I wish you a fast and successful revovery!

[@joebrat6809]

@@bendeguzhorvath807 I have been seeing a talking therpist and just started seeing a psychosexual therapist, mine was obviously triggered by watching very questionable porn which ive now stayed off for 7 weeks. My cravings are less and less, but im still a bit frightened to try to have sex with a girl if the opportunity comes up just in case i get ED which happened last time i was so embarassed its unreal.

[@Swagjoka]

It is nice to see others are dealing with the same stress. Heads up everyone we will be okay, i have dealt with this for a couple years and just now found out this is my issue. There is light at the end of the tunnel for all of us, we just want to return back to the lives we previously lived and that is normal to want to feel. Blessings to all.

[@C1D0RY]

how many years has it took you

[@dylanjm_2986]

@@C1D0RYiv had this for like 3 months it’s so hard the only way I feel like I can end this is end me

[@C1D0RY]

@@dylanjm_2986 yo bro its ok I got over it anytime I get thoughts I just say oh brains playin tricks again just live your life normally thru time it will get better I barley get thoughts like that now

[@apelle4679]

​@@dylanjm_2986Have you gotten better, my friend?

[@mathmanchris666]

@@dylanjm_2986same bro it feels like the only way to stop it is to kill myself

[@potaragaming4159]

Mental health is no joke…keep moving forward…

[@mrrahbieh]

The real ones, yeah.

[@scottcole1423]

Matt, I just wanted to say thank you. I recently found out that I'm struggling with this exact thing and you described my situation perfectly. I'm happily married to my wife and have a son and they mean the world to me. I love them both so much. My OCD has taken over every corner of my mind and honestly, tonight as I type this, I'm really struggling. Thank you for giving me hope. Because I honestly didn't think I could go on. All I want more than anything in the world is for this to go away. I'm seeing a therapist and I'm just barely starting the treatment process. The exposure response prevention thing terrifies me but I'm going to give it a try. Some days I feel like there's no way out of this. So please pray for me and everyone else on here.

[@theflokis2786]

I’m going through the same, you will get better. I’m not even attracted to men, I can watch 2 men do their thing and it doesn’t do a thing to me but I get the thoughts. I can’t even go to the gym now. I don’t get arouse but I just keep analyzing. It’s crazy but knowing I’m sick helps me relaxes

[@scottcole1423]

@@theflokis2786 yeah man same here! The thoughts are the worst because they’re just relentless. But I’m doing better today and yesterday compared to when I first watched this video.

[@theflokis2786]

@@scottcole1423 that’s good, keep fighting bro, I’m doing the same here. I stopped going to the gym to focus on myself. I also have social anxiety so it makes things hard for me.

[@cleangoblin2021]

Seriously. Im 30 when i got hit by it. Never it crossed my mind that i was attracted to guys. Sure there were handsome dudes id look up to and imitate. Never ever a romantic or sexual thought

[@theflokis2786]

@@cleangoblin2021 that’s ok, I feel better now. I went to therapy only ones, the therapist didn’t resolve the issue but I was able to calm myself down and now I’m 99% ok.

[@ciaranmcdonnellbyrne4203]

Had HOCD for about 10 years. From 15/25 years old. Now 38, it gets better men. Speak up, seek help. It gets easier

[@haydensmith-se3ii]

how did u over come it if u remember?

[@TheOneTrueGesta]

Going through all the chaos I have in life with my father, my constant medical and mental health appointments, losing my grandparents, and going through Cancer treatments, (last round of treatment is next month, and I'm expected to make a full recovery with no long-term effects) with all this happening within a twelve-month period has left me with a lot of psychological trauma, and I have been enduring a lot of intrusive thoughts regarding self-harm and homosexuality, so I appreciate you making this video. I know I'm straight, and I find women attractive, and I've never shown any interest in harming myself, or being interested in other men, or people who are bi or trans, even though I support their rights. These thoughts make me incredibly uncomfortable, both physically and mentally.

[@mrlonely7139]

Bro how are you now

[@TheOneTrueGesta]

@@mrlonely7139 I made a full recovery, I just have one more PET scan and then they're removing moving my chest port, and I'm still straight.

[@raschidmalik464]

Thanks, that proves that this heterosexual education must be fought in any case. We are all much more attracted to our own sex. Just look at primates. You're just telling yourself you're attracted to women. Stop lying to yourself.

[@MilitantMan_NL]

@@TheOneTrueGestaGod bless

[@Slerveyy]

Ik im straight, but my mind have been bothering me lately, I never was thinking like this this before and really want it to stop

[@GruzzyOG]

Exactly my problem too

[@rabbittko1421]

Same bro, the realest thing to do is nothing and to just know that your straight.

[@MrVala77]

This type of OCD is horrible. It makes you question everything even if you have lived most of your life as a herterosexual/homosexual man or woman and produces doubt that you were living a lie. However, this type does respond to CBT and ERP, there is hope for anyone suffering this type of Pure-O OCD.

[@aladin0095]

In HOCD you don't have erection when you are having unwanted thoughts. When you are really attracted to a girl, you have erection (at most of the time)

[@JakeWhat-zy4oy]

Fr man! I watch lesb p videos but I get a weak erection

[@aryanthegreat8855]

Hlo bro , I have a very very important question 😓 . I am 100000% sure I am straight and I don't want to be gay but few days back i read a comment in that it was written "A straight person fears to be a gay and a gay person fears to be straight" and then My ocd thoughts triggered me and said "what if you are feared to be straight , this means you are gay "😭😭 and now after that i am thinking that what if i have a fear to be a straight and become a gay 😭😭 please help me bro , From inside i know i am not gay and i never want to be

[@JCamplin]

@@aryanthegreat8855 hahaha bro I literallly read the same thing not that long ago and it tried doing that with me. I managed to shake that trick of fairly quick but just accept it and it will get bored and will hit you with another/thought trick a few days later. Head up man, this crap is horrible but better days are coming

[@assassinsbrotherhood4827]

Same bro fed up

[@JCamplin]

@@assassinsbrotherhood4827 keep going bro. This disorder is horrible, don’t know about u but it’s literally 24/7. Better days coming and think of the appreciation after all this is over

[@Dub_97]

What’s worries me and confuses me to the core is that this starts to feel like it’s something else rather then hocd/so-ocd Despite that these thoughts and images feelings are unwanted. it truly feels like I’m being “pulled” into living a lifestyle that is not designed for me and don’t want to live. I can’t tell if this is ocd or literally spiritual attack.. I’m lost and I just feel like who I am who I’ve known myself to be for 27 years is not there anymore.. I’m really loosing myself to this. It all feels to real.. and I know ocd suffers say that’s although I was diagnosed with this.. it truly feels to real constantly battling between if this is ocd or am I going through sexual identity crisis. I’m lost. I’m in an emotional rollercoaster everyday. I just downloaded the copy of your book, look forward to reading that.

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[@MaxxMilian24]

Hey man, how are yoi doing today? I have the same rn since a month

[@not_the_cool_daniel]

I never thought about it that we, it literally blew my mind. Great vid (Y). Cheers!

[@d_izzyy]

The thoughts i can ignore but the feelings that come with them feel so real and i just get sad as hell.

[@Kazari-h7k]

Sucks because I don't know what my true desires are so I can't say whether or not whatever thoughts I have are in line with my ego. I have a lot of experiences that just don't help (and some that do), evidence-wise but nothing is ever conclusive. I also wonder if I just burned out my attraction to women with porn.

[@funnydude0-0]

You're not alone in this homie, I wonder the same thing about myself too. At this point it's like the thoughts don't give me too much anxiety anymore, my mind isn't too far bothered w them but honestly even when it doesn't bother me, it just doesn't seem right, I want this to end but idk how, we both could use some help.

[@therageknight8546]

I promise you that it is 100% due to porn. You need to give your brain time to dewire. The standard time is 90 days, but I abstained from all sexual behavior for only a month and my attraction for women returned with a raging passion. Highly recommend total and complete abstinence.

[@PsychicDashtonTheVampireSlayer]

imbrace being urself LoVe is never wrong

[@therageknight8546]

@@PsychicDashtonTheVampireSlayer you’re not helping at all. Fuck off.

[@bellaeastwood4235]

@@funnydude0-0 that’s because you’re so comfort with them being there.

[@josezepeda2621]

My brother you hit the spot been dealing with hocd since middle school been through a lot of ups and downs but I recognized I have an issue . Would love to work with you

[@JoaoOliveira-hk8kn]

Timothy 1:7 - For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. This is all anxiety this is not you anxiety gives you fear to something you are not in real danger of you’re not alone God has you all the way through this believe that he will deliver you from this that he has the authority to make it all the way do not give up you’re not attracted to men you are simply looking at them thinking they pose danger to you thus why it seems you’re “checking them out” think about it you get anxiety over a good looking guy because you feel danger when you get the thought that he’s good looking you will be okay believe that Jesus can cure you from this situation the Holy Spirit is writhin us to bring us closer to God he is our comfort trust God and let go stop caring about the thoughts.

[@1002delta]

Thank you so much, damn you hit te right spot with your words I’ve been living with it for 4 years and it’s been exhausting and horrible, everyday is a nightmare and I can’t have a very good connection with my girls, I haven’t been in a relationship for a long time but when this horrible form of ocd hit me, it was more awful, I thought that what I felt for women was a lie, and no, I’m straight and I always loved women and will always do But damn, than you so much for your words, I have to work with the compulsions and conducts you described because it’s a loop, like a nightmare loop Thank you, I’m really grateful, I was having an anxiety attack about my thoughts and now I’m relaxed

[@Kris-o6b]

Man thank you so much dealing with this right now this helping me calm down

[@snas1686]

so wanna know how mine started? literally just lost labido. out of no where I woke up and did not even feel attraction anymore.... and so my brain was like "your gay now" but no matter how many times I convince myself I am 20 and have been hella straight and loved women all my life and cant turn gay.. my brain says otherwise... adn I hate it. I have always wanted a wife and kids as my life goal... this thing is just .. draining

[@enzofrancescoli1260]

You were under big amounts of stress professionaly when you lost your libido?

[@samiaabakor8659]

You are just an angel like i feel i am the weirdest human on earth thank you for calming me down

[@libitina4241]

I had finally forgotten about this fear, but it came back after my friend came out to me and now im a teenager and no longer a child and this hit harder than the first time this fear came because as a teenage girl, everybody and anything in improved woth hormones, and i sqw your vid ans i feel relieved better now even though i know tge fear will come bqck later

[@davidkuyoro6245]

Thank you so much, I was so scared,cause I don't wanna be homo, I love women, thank you so much

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[@MilitantMan_NL]

⁠don’t ignore it what helped me was analyzing my thoughts and realizing it’s just like any thought what happens is u attached emotion to the thought and now u fear it just remember they are your thoughts and their crazy but your thoughts don’t define u your actions do if I think about killing someone all the time that doesn’t make me a killer if I think ima nba player that doesn’t make me 1 now still keep in mind if your gay your gay but if you have these symptoms this is what I did and they go away slowly but surely everytime the thought pops in your head don’t shy away embrace it and realize it’s just a thought

[@mannyamaya7497]

I think I have this- if you spend time alone and your brain is empty shit happens- Go for long runs this helps

[@kingkiller9151]

I hate this it makes me feel awful feel tired depressed even suicidal I was fine a week ago I like girl I remember being heartbroken by them never once felt attraction to any of my guy friends but have these gay thought and it’s just been eating my entire life now my grades are slipping I can’t sleep and I don’t want to tell my parents because then probably will think I am gay but just in denial

[@whoasked3886]

@@benji1289 but your not gay ? Bro what’s your point , we are not gay we have these thoughts which scare us

[@PsychicDashtonTheVampireSlayer]

just imbrace being urself this is no one's buisness but the ones who want to be apart of it Love is never Wrong pleasure is just endorphins we came here for intamacy n the phyical whoopie

[@vivansharmam4028]

How are you nowww

[@Stoicsaiyan]

@@PsychicDashtonTheVampireSlayerstupid it’s not about “love” is that these thought are inclusive and aren’t of you to think this way. I’m straight never ever have I felt attracted to a man or wanted to be intimate but these thought come out of nowhere and confuse you. Even give certain people false attractions when deep down inside they’re not gay but straight. Stop forcing your BS on people and making peoples mental health worse, I was fined two days ago until yesterday. It’s a real issue and HOCD doesn’t turn a straight man gay. That’s impossible you can’t like women and then like anither gender overnight it doesn’t work like that bisexuality gayness and straight is genetic.

[@GoneViral_Channel]

I couldn't watch TV or Netflix movies i even limited my self going to the mall im always in my room these thoughts are very scary but we will overcome trust me

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

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[@sofiafantin5280]

Is it possible to have physical arousal watching naked girls (they turn me on), even if I ‘ ve always had crushes on men (and I have a boyfriend)?? It’s becoming an obsession.. but can this be HOCD ? Because it’s not a thought or doubt .. it’s physical!

[@kennygeee6750]

What if I know I'm gay but my ODC runs more like thoughts of "I'm going to hell", or "a demon will manifest today". I get this irrational fear I notice when my mental is weak. I start to think that I'm going to die that day. When i was younger i had little tics that my family used to call out. I'd control them but they would always turn into another tic. Ive controlled them all, now the only visible tic I have is excessive blinking. Back then it was this weird neck roll thing I did. I also used to count to 5 in a pattern. Like this-> :•: and the five goes in the middle. I still do this one from time to time and no one would know because it's in my head. I've done some really embarrassing things when I've had episodes. The last time it was induced by LSD and I ran out of my house paranoid in socks and hardly anything on in the middle of winter. I thought I was going to be taken by the devil for coming out the closet and that my boyfriend was possessed. When i was young i hated gays. I'm pretty sure I was taught to hate myself for this and it caused a mental break. I'm depressed and anxious all the time. Before the LSD I had an episode that came from separation anxiety when I moved out for the first time. No drugs to blame it on this time. I had an episode and with it came a feeling that God wouldn't forgive me unless I shaved my head bald and I did. I feel like I'm losing it. Help?!

[@dedopest3305]

i think.... u should seek professional help... not in the sense of OCD but you mayyy have smth worse

[@PsychicDashtonTheVampireSlayer]

have u encounter Real dem0ns cause their real but this guilt trip worshipping buil crap isn't fair just imbrace being ur self LoVe is never wrong pleasure is just endorphins

[@Stoicsaiyan]

@@Loveofasufi Exacly HOCD is when you know your straight but your inclusive thoughts trick you into questioning your identity. Being gay is when you know your gay and are ONLY attracted to men and been gay since you were born, a straight person can’t just switch sexualities like that it’s impossible

[@KirstyShawCBT]

This is really helpful, clear and concise information. Thank you Matt.

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

Very welcome!

[@veraluxmundi2032]

I'm gay and I have these troubling thoughts about vaginas. The image pops into my head intrusively at just the wrong moment. I realise this isn’t my real self, but it introduces doubt, confusion and anxiety into my life. What can I do about this HOCD, Heterosexual OCD? How do I break free of this unhealthy compulsion? It is ruining my life.

[@officialtapentime4250]

I have to stop thinking I understand

[@PsychicDashtonTheVampireSlayer]

just imbrace being urself all this gult worship is buil

[@gazzawima]

There are lucky people here in your comment section from what i read considering the fact that my case far worse than theirs. I reached a level where i actually find pleasure in looking at handsome men and even have fun getting attracted to nice guys, even tho i'm aware and don't like that feeling cuz of the trauma i experienced back in puberty and even my childhood. People used to look at me and i don't know why's that, until they started getting aggressive, to the point where i started speculating and saying that they're acting or some kind of sh*t. It was hard to believe and i was always crying at night due to the rejection by the society, i didn't know what was the problem back than which made it even worse for me. With the help of God i was able to find the answer this holy night and i thank god with all my heart and i will start praying inshaallah from now on till i die. Please reply to me, i still want some guidance. Edit : i discovered that i had very low testosterone levels, probably 45 to 75 ng/dl, and thus i began feeling wierd shit all the time, i always read what i wrote and it completely contradicts what having hocd means. I will visit a doctor soon so i can begin my treatment.

[@Stoicsaiyan]

Do you believe your gay ? I KNOW I’m not gay. I also went through things during puberty and childhood. But I KNOW im straight, why ? Because I’ve never been intimate with a man or sexually attracted by then at all always women, I will never see my self with a man only with a women and a family. It’s aways been my dream, also HOCD can cause false attractions. You may feel like your attracted or “aroused” but deep down inside your disgusted and feel guilty because it’s not something if you to do or think of. Yu can put a naked man in front of me and I won’t feel a thing, but if you put a naked curvy women in front of me I will go crazy and get brick hard. I just never see myself with a man I just can’t. It’s impossible and I KNOW I won’t be with a man. But I still get these bizzare homosexual thoughts in my head that aren’t of me, there 100% intrusive and out of my control. It’s so strange, but again I know I’m not gay I know I’m straight. HOCD is when your straight but get intrusive homo thoughts, but you know your not attracted to the same sex. Thank God there’s people who recovered from this hellish illness and found happiness again and so will I. But what I read from you is that you might have false attractions which is also one of the symptoms of HOCD. Your brain is pretty much tricking you to the point of delusion

[@gazzawima]

​@@Stoicsaiyanwhat u said is correct and yes I discovered that I have HOCD, and i’ve been wanting to get rid of these homo feelings for a long time but i just can’t seem to get the job done, it has always been hard for me to think about other stuff than to think about men eventho i try to stop those feelings from taking over me ,but it’s just hard considering that people always hold hatred towards me and i hated that, later this month i discovered a video where a guy talks about these stuff and he pointed out that if u want to get rid of unwanted homosexual thoughts u need to accept them cuz that’s the way to get rid of them, if u hold that grudge of homosexuality within u then u’ll be like that forever.

[@gazzawima]

@RayhaanNasser well i lately discovered that i had low T levels when i tested which explains a lot of the stuff i'm feeling, because i never had any abusive sexual interactions as a young kid, and i grew up feeling wierd stuff, and a part of me always says that it's alright, until i started seeing aggressive behavior from the people around and i get called with pretty bad words sometimes but not homophobic slurs, well i'm 18 now and will begin my treatment in about 1 or 2 weeks probably.

[@RealNFVlogs]

@@gazzawimahow are you now brother did you recover

[@banda2167]

can hotd change my sexuality? Because I had everything the man said about 2 weeks ago. Now I feel like I'm in love with only 2 people. I feel like butterflies. I've lost my false attraction to the others.

[@aysetetik730]

Hocd doesn't change your sexuality and it's normal to have lost attraction as that is part of the hocd. Constantly dealing with it tires you out and so you get sick of even your desired sex. So dont worry, i have felt the same ❤

[@blippy5976]

​@@aysetetik730so you mean I'd lose my attraction to my opposite sex? Would it also mean I'd be attracted to my own sex when this ocd triggers?

[@mrlonely7139]

​@@blippy5976 no bro

[@Stoicsaiyan]

@@blippy5976no it means your so worried that you start FEEL like you lost attraction to opposite sex then didn’t. Ik I’m not gay I never was attracted to a man and never will, but I always get these intrusive thoughts of it and my brain sexualizes everything. And I hate it and it makes me feel uncomfortable but I WILL conquer this and my brain will stop having these thoughts and my life will be normal again

[@blippy5976]

@@Stoicsaiyan it has been a few months I have finally recovered but I have a new problem I have a new ocd and it scares me because it's about me religion

[@bluedragon4]

I notice women when they are pretty and I am not attracted to every man I see. Do I have this but opposite? No, I am gay. I also have OCD. I can tell you when a vagina looks nice or boobs but that doesn't make me straight and set me down a path of questioning my sexuality. I am just so tired as a gay man always being thrown in some negative light and now there are a group of men who see a man with nice hair and go down a negative gay rabbit hole? That's how gay men get killed or bashed. You question something small, blow it up, and take it out on us when it's you that has the problem.

[@Awakenone05]

Thank you. You are angel to me. Because I first suffer from this Transgender people's and after 1 month I suffer from this HOCD and whenever I was suffering from HOCD, I'm also suffering from hemoroid and to many negative energy are in my head. In that time I even think about sucide if I turn into this and think there's only me in this world to think like this. After this video, It heals amd I know my problem. But I don't know how to overcome this but I will overcome this.🔥

[@Gibson-md9yi]

I have this for many years it has turned into tinnitus and visual snow for me with persistent headaches after anxiety attack I still want to treat it...

[@messpilo]

First time to hear this ocd type and I was wandering if I will ever date a woman or marry one if I think I'm gay.

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

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[@danbaltic9678]

This the one of the times I am happy of having my careless ADHD mindset that helps me not to fixate on things. I prefer women, but if someone called me gay, I am like "Whatever, bruh" ADHD is probably opposite of OCD?

[@Sunshine-p3p]

what about this When I do masterbation and I’m himself thinking and image of soocd hocd and I feel I want to do this shit And after image I feel I want to do hocd activity I feel I’m change ? I’m not checking but I’m habitual to think or image this I think I’m try to do some behaviours with image image think I’m try to do some behaviours with image image because most of the time in a day, I do this behaviour with thought, thoughts and image. I think I am habitual about my theme. I’m facing this last 1 year and now my axity is gone Can ocd person exprence this

[@yeeet1160]

Thanks this video really helped

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

Glad to hear it!

[@itachi-.]

Hey here I am dying because of hocd I am 18 years old since past year I have other type of OCD but now I am obsessed with that I can't find difference between male and female butt and i am obsessed with male butt rather i am not attracted sexually and romantically am i bi or gay or hocd can anyone plz tell me 😭am i. dying every day

[@haydensmith-se3ii]

how r u now

[@tayylightzone]

Trying to tell myself and thoughts this is not me. I used to be bisexual. Yes religion talks about it is not you, it is evil spirits and that it is not right. I know it isn't. So I know this is a fight I'm having to also trust the fact this is not going to be like this forever. I keep praying and also giving myself some forgiveness. I don't know how else to feel. I don't like and feel great with having a masculine side. I know this is not me.

[@raymarsh5455]

"Turn straight" - a paradox.

[@kylie6583]

The word is distinguishing not distincting. Good luck with everything.

[@W01theonlyonetowon]

I don't know what you call it but I have a different problem Whenever I look at a guy that workouts more than me i feel that he will replace me or if he is more attractive for example i feel that He will take the girl that I want and I won't get any girls maybe it's from porn because I don't get to have a physical connection with the women just a superficial one

[@mattws5784]

I feel like ive had hocd for years but now im starting to feel like i am, i wasnt like this years ago, ive lost attraction to women for so long now, feel like ive got aroused to male body in porn instead when i never focused on it, i look at youtube vids of good looking men to check if its actually attraction, idk im nearly 27 and struggle everyday with thoughts, i just think i have to give in, straight porn has got boring, the male gential has somehow become attractive looking when i never blinked an eye before, sorry for the explicit info, i dont know if i feel anxiety over it anymore, i wish i could go back to the past, maybe im just saying its hocd because im in denial, heck i dont even care anymore

[@samethsendsthanks]

if you were to go back what would have you done differently?

[@sokanglim5318]

I’ve experienced the same thing. Everything started to feel like gay and i always struggle with all these thoughts. Btw are u getttany better?

[@lIlIlIlIlI11-i7p]

Reject modernity, embrace masculinity You’ve been so desensitized to the point that pornography has perverted you and made you something you’re not. Brother, you have to fix yourself in all aspects. Remember who you are deep down inside. You are a male. Stop craving the flesh and get right with yourself.

[@JakeWhat-zy4oy]

U just got bored now ur mind want to experience sex. And if u want to go to past that doesn't make you gay, if you were gay you wouldn't want to go to past. Hope it helps (sorry for wrong English hope you'll understand)

[@W01theonlyonetowon]

It's from the porn you aren't gay you just aren't feeling pleasure from porn because you are not getting to actually touch the woman and you are literally jerking off watching others guy's genetelia obviously you watch porn because you want to see the girl getting smashed but you are also seeing the penis and subconsciously you are stimulation your self on it because you constantly see it heck two people having sex is what gets you hard probably so just stop watching porn

[@raymarsh5455]

There needs to be a scale upon which every homosexual can be positioned (according to minority stress). At the extremes you would have straight acting gays from liberal areas, and at the opposite end you would have obviously-gay males from backward places, or places where homosexuality is seriously criminalized. When you meet a gay person you could ask them: Where on the 100 point scale are you positioned? If they say 5 then you know that they are not obviously gay and from a liberal area. If they say 95 then you would know that they come from Iran. A lot of the misunderstandings between gay people comes from not understanding their levels of damage... The scale position would have to be modified according to the stresses that an individual has been subject to (like sexual abuse, poverty, disability etc.). When I was younger I went to parties and there were so many different people. You would get a couple who went to New York to buy a pair of socks, whose parents were professionals who helped them get along in the world, and then out somewhere you would meet a poor student from a backward country mill town worrying if they were going to be able to continue getting welfare so that they can continue their studies. Gay people would come out and go out into the world thinking that everybody would be just like them, but there were major differences.

[@anotherone5415]

Where are the links?

[@JackSmith-l3u]

Can this be caused due to childhood trauma to

[@gokutheebest7715]

Yo bro I think I relate to this comment 😭

[@abdullahwaleed6397]

I need someone to talk to it got so bad

[@Sunshine-p3p]

How much false attraction feel real? And when I get false attraction I’m not feeling axity distress sadness restless etc etc etc and when I create himself false attraction it feel real without any distress etc Hocd still with me But in starting days or months I’m feeling anxiety, distress etc

[@russhaight3225]

Do you offer therapy?

[@mattcodde.restoredminds]

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[@JackSmith-l3u]

I want to die this cost me my gf when I’ve never doubted myself before

[@markyinbelfastxx9088]

It's ocd mate nothing more

[@PsychicDashtonTheVampireSlayer]

LoVe is NeVer Wrong imbrace ur Natural Self Love is Not Selfish Pleasure is just endorphins

[@declankelly9829]

Matt - would you try giving the exact same talk on HOCD where the H stand for heterosexual? It would come across as very funny... even ridiculous. I have never heard of either a male or female having an OCD around having heterosexual thoughts! Why?... because nobody considers heterosexuality to be a negative thing. We are all here because our parents behaved in a heterosexual manner. So how could there be anything wrong with it? Nobody, since the beginning of time, has disparaged heterosexuality... so no OCD around it! Homosexuality, and bi-sexuality, are quite different. Religion has abused such people for millennia and the instinct to deny these orientations can be very strong in young people who do not want to feel rejected or judged by their peers or family. This fear can cause an OCD as the young person (even older person) tries desperately to kill the thoughts, which, if acted upon, would see them rejected by those whose support they need... or rather 'think' they need. Some of the people you are talking about could actually be bi-sexual, and if given support could live a full life with the ability to love either a male or a female, without being made to think that they must choose between the two... that one orientation must be an imposter.

[@cheesefries6453]

that’s not true, ik that if i were gay i would be accepted by all my friends and most of my family but just because ik i would be accepted doesn’t mean that’s what i want for my life and the fear is feeling like you’re having a piece of yourself stripped from you that you don’t want to lose i don’t want to like girls, i don’t want to be with girls romantically, and i don’t want to feel like because i’m having the ocd thoughts that i can’t love a man anymore, it feels like i have no control over my life anymore and that’s why i’m afraid. this is not something political, this is not saying it’s not okay to be gay, sexuality is something serious and just because you may be okay with just having any sexuality doesn’t mean everyone is. i’m so tired of people like you trying to invalidate peoples feelings and experiences just because it’s not something you understand. if someone doesn’t want to be gay there’s nothing wrong with that just like there’s nothing wrong with someone not wanting to be straight.

[@raschidmalik464]

I thank you for your answer. I think it's so bad that people still judge homosexuality negatively. That's why all this bullshit LGBT shit is so aggressive, because they know that we humans are more same-sex oriented, which makes sense in nature, since we are hunter-gatherers and rely on food in nature. These sick people who tries to suppress instincts make me so angry. i experience it very strongly that many homosexuals reject themselves.

[@bluedragon4]

I agree with you. I find this so ridiculous as a gay man. I never heard of this before I saw a few of these videos recently. I couldn't believe what I was seeing.

[@bluedragon4]

@@cheesefries6453 You sound like youre pro conversion therapy. This whole thing really is ridiculous. So you think a girl you see is not attractive but notice how nice a man's hair is and it takes you down a dark path? This world is such a mess.

[@raschidmalik464]

@@bluedragon4 are you gay ?

[@whoasked3886]

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[@thisisgarrett3819]

Can you still have HOCD even though you've had sex and enjoyed it?

[@NotRockinGOLD]

this is a question i want to really know

[@Κωστας-ε3υ]

Damn if you are indeed straight you went way off track. Did you do it to check if you are gay? If yes, you are playing dangerous games and you need to consult a specialist asap.

[@crnagora9696]

Bro gays shit bro dont do that better finde girl to see are you straight.

[@markyinbelfastxx9088]

Of course ! The fact that ur questioning that shows your suffering with this ocd

[@dantheman9919]

@nourreddinekardiss3049 I like how you reported my comment for hurting your feeling after you’re the went you went into the comments acting like a tool.

[@lukespector5550]

Leave San Francisco.

[@reds10001]

Why don't you guys just meet a guy you're attracted to, that you trust and give it a try? Then you'll know one way or the other. You don't like it, no harm done.

[@nathansmith1226]

This is wrong, this can make people's life worse, I don't advise you say these things especially when this video is about the fear of being gay. I am suffering from this right now and people do not do this, do not try to experiment, you know what you want, go with your gut, only you would know. No disrespect to this guy but he clearly has no idea how much anxiety this can trigger in people.

[@reds10001]

@@nathansmith1226 it's just sex. I think you need to edcucate yourself more on it's fluidity. Societal pressure is most likely what's freaking you out.

[@declankelly9829]

@@nathansmith1226 You say that to experiment with a guy "can make people's life worse". If u haven't experimented how do u know this? Why not try the medicine? Go to a gay sauna. If it fails then u can say it has made your life worse. But dont say this without first trying the medicine.

[@nathansmith1226]

@@declankelly9829 listen man, people are genuinely scared about this, so am I. If you want to do that it's cool, I was referring to those people who don't want it and this guy is blatantly saying try it it's not gonna hurt, this can seriously fuck you up if you are not into that, so try to consider my side instead of talking. There are other ways to do exposures, you do not need to actually engage in sexual activity.

[@dantheman9919]

@DevonUnfloppableLarratt4207