How to overcome possessiveness ? || Sadhguru || Isha Foundation || Question & Answer

[@barbaradps828]

I have a friend that changed school and I often call her and see her but each time I call her she starts telling me how much fun she has with her new friends like: « Omg ________ is so funny! Oh yeah, I made ________ laugh so hard today, etc. » and her happiness got me a little sad (I hate myself for being sad at her happiness) and I started texting her extremely often more and more and she plays Roblox (a video game) sometimes with other friends and I started to notice that I felt anxious when I saw she was in Roblox with other friends… That’s when I realized I was being possessive and I started searching on KZbin « how to beat possessiveness » and found this video… Truly inspiring, thank you very much

[@akshayroy2248]

Hiii, the same thing happened and happens with me. I am guy with so much possession. I don't know this is good or bad for me. I lost few people from my life due to my nature of possessiveness. They are my school friends. But I don't regret I beleive Defenetly there will be someone who is made for me. The one who will understand. Those who went from life due to my nature of being possessive were actually not made for me. They went because they could never understand me. Let them to go. Beleive in god, he has very Great plans for everybody. I hope this would help you. I read your comment and I thought I should answer this. Well, I am also a school student. 🤭☺🙃🤭

[@barbaradps828]

@@akshayroy2248 Well thanks for your answer but I really consider possession of a person bad and as the person in the video said, « possessing a person is like being a devil » seriously, think about it… The devil literally posses persons (I mean in the legends/ religions, maybe you aren’t in a religion idk) But also, « finding a person who would understand you »… Does that mean finding a person that you can possess? Cause I feel like that’s really sad if the person just wants to be possessed with no freedom… So anyways, I’m still trying and already feeling better about stoping to possess people even if it’s just been two days. I think stuff like: « Anyways, even if the person doesn’t reply to my messages, why would that mean they hate me? » and stuff like that. It really makes me feel better! Anyways, good luck with « finding a person who can understand you »!

[@ObiWanGinobiliTopFan]

So many people have yet to learn that they can fully love something/someone without assuming ownership over it/her/him.

[@blwtheblue]

Its not about love its about problem solving because when u around someone and they have issues u want to protect them but its hard to take care of you and them so u eventually try to bring someone so close to u they are almost your joined twin at the hip so that now any problem they have can be more efficiently addressed and/or eradicated. Of course this is certainly a strategic move that is controlling but if we are incomplete at the man said we may draw codependent people to us and its all survival at that point because u are in a relationship and u can give one a million fish but there will be a point where u have to talk control and tell this person they need to learn to fish or let me teach them because u can not keep stopping your flow just to help a separate person who aint doing for themselves

[@notanonymous666]

Aadha video bhi nahi dekha tha ki puri problem damajh aagyi ki galti kaha ho rahi hai. Great man sadhguru🙏🏻

[@freitaslemos8042]

Some people really need to hear this!! Thanks for posting.

[@ObiWanGinobiliTopFan]

If there's one main reason for WHY it feels *so horrible* to attempt to totally possess something / someone, it seems to me the reason is that possessiveness is so controlling and separating instead of unifying. Separation eventually results in feelings of loneliness, and that definitely feels horrible. Possessiveness also signifies a false belief in LACK... and to think you lack something also feels horrible horrible McHorrible.

[@khalidahamid5438]

Very soon hurt If someone hurt by me before I become hurt Try to solve it become fight combination skill is weak I don't like to be alone but no one likes me

[@khalidahamid5438]

Comnucation skill is so weak I need love from very one If I don't love how I love them They don't let me to love them may be myself

[@cheshtamalwani3984]

Thanks a lot sadhguru for making us understand the simple truth which was difficult for us to understand by our own.

[@seeroflove]

Awe, I cried

[@khalidahamid5438]

I m full of problems but don't know never recognized the main problem I don't know any thing, but very hard life I always motivated my self with God love I believe Allah have better plans for me Only God is real love for me Any other thing are pain

[@UshaRani-km2sr]

Deep message thanks sadguru very hard to come out but i try

[@sassie2op]

Thanksalot sir , I hope my intelligence will lead me towards enlightenment from processiveness. Im not being me since past few months bcuz of this feeling called Possessiveness. Tonight Truly ill look deep into my problem and find the roots

[@deeptitewari7162]

"One can overcome possessiveness etc. only when one is alive to its core". This makes sense but how can one touch the core of its being? How to do that?

[@damini_damini]

Was possessive about my brother, /i wanted only good for him, he turned out to be very different from what I wanted him to be, realised that I couldn't do much. For fetters, though of gold, are not less strong to bind; Then off with them, Sannyâsin bold! This helped. Recently broke up with a guy I heavily invested in, cheated me with another girl twice, and is now with my friend, the feeling he is MINE wasn't going away, watched this video and it has helped. Thank you!

[@Noyan0404]

Today i lossed my girlfriend bcz of my possesiveness.. She has broken up with me.. I have went trought pain, I cannt even hold my pain. I loved her, i promised her but she said i have lost my feelings upon on me. I did a mistake.. Im still waiting for her. Hope she comes back for me 😭😭😭 . May God bless her, love you so much my girl 😭

[@gauravmalik1883]

Don't value her more than you

[@zeppar881]

I hope this doesn't happen to me I'm balling my eyes out

[@desimusikfactory4732]

@@gauravmalik1883 how do u say?..i mean what you think when saying..i wanna built this without negativity..

[@dud3stuff]

@@zeppar881 then this lesson is assuredly in your future. When it comes, deal with it. Face your demon and crush it.

[@Olivia-bs5wj]

This happened to me as well, but I’m possessed now when it’s over…. I wanted to take a break but now he wants to be alone. I’m so obsessed with him and all I want is him to love me. I think he’s better than me and I need him to love me and all I want is to have a life with him. We had so many wonderful plans and he’s so smart and kind, but I went jealous cause he seemed to like another girl (he says it’s not true but I don’t know). That’s why I wanted a break but I love him so much and wish of all my heart we will get back together again ❤️❤️ we still talks but it feels like he’s doing it to be kind but I will do what I can to get him back. How did it do for you? Are you back together again?

[@Pinu1]

Because of this possessiveness , she has warned me if I won't leave it, she'll leave me... Ik she is very kind and humble and always protect me and always stand with me, I'm also trying to overcome it but perhaps it's not working, I'll try hard till then we are friends now... I have to overcome it i don't wanna loose her not at any cost, please god give me strength to fix it, why i start taking her for granted... Why yaar???? I'm fucking idiot yaar hope everything will be fine ❤

[@हर्षित-व8ग]

i hope too :)

[@damini_damini]

let go! holding on is painful. For fetters, though of gold, are not less strong to bind; Then off with them, Sannyâsin bold!

[@akumbhar444]

I'm Scorpio moon and very possessive. 😕😣

[@Notanepobaby]

Same but realise that u r so full of love u don’t need to possess anything external for it x

[@candydoart]

My possessiveness isn't hurting anyone but its hurting me soo damn much.. Wt to do?

[@damini_damini]

let go!

[@candydoart]

@@damini_damini Where

[@damini_damini]

@@candydoart i meant let go, leave them, let them or the situation however it happens and learn to be an observer

[@candydoart]

@@damini_damini Aaaaaa tryna... But its hurting me

[@geet_sang_geet]

Then show your possessiveness to them they will get hurt and they leave you. You will get free from both the side. Because after this there will be no one to get hurt

[@Kiirtana]

Y am so possessive these days.. 🥲

[@khalidahamid5438]

Very hard to express thought and feeling with other , Don't know know what is going on After result able to know but still don't express Meeting with God feel me very hard to soft but still not express with other , many planning and talking with your on self if control it, unconsciously Ange these thing started, what kind of desies I have.....????? I feel no one understand me because my self son, t know why I m crying, know bat don't know Pain, hurt by my own behavior other as will what is heppning with me very painfull it become allright very soon as feel again alive

[@yogendra3980]

Sadhguru😍

[@AyeshaFatima-nd9lx]

When i make fri3nds i become possessive and people dont like it

[@manalibhedarkar8560]

When it doesn't work try to shift but shifting pain a lot

[@ih8762]

Made me sob like never before

[@manalibhedarkar8560]

Possessing something is not giving me any this but hell pain but still don't know what to do actually just .......

[@SN-gt4jr]

Its seriously a big problem

[@vaishnavichug448]

Nice

[@tamizhankarthick4514]

❤️

[@vitodinunno382]

❤️❤️❤️

[@AyeshaFatima-nd9lx]

In my life i only wanted a true real friend but 😭

[@theopeter36]

Superbbbb

[@anukadian6148]

I know its not working but still i am not coming out of this

[@shrutilokhande13]

Read Bhagwadgita! It will help you 👍🏻

[@aravindkumar791]

🙌

[@aleezabinteilyas4683]

Same 😥😥😥😥

[@sajisnair9354]

👉 ഉര കല്ല് is gold? 😉

[@jyothsnakandregula9896]

These kind of videos should be seen by those idiots who are over possesive and insecure towards their partners and try to kill their freedom and control them..

[@deadrexx_69]

my most toxic trait is possiveness :) I drifted my best friend away cuz of my possiveness ( she made new group of friends and spent most of her time with them I got jealous of those people and drifter her away from me without giving her reason I was soo mean to her☠☠ even tho she tried saving our friendship soo many times) Why do I get jealous on small things? Once my elder sister held hands of a small girl and kept showing me and I really got jealous and mad about it 😭🤣 I even tried revenging that small girl ☠I just ruin every good thing cuz of my jealousy and possiveness for a person I love For now being in a relationship it gets soo hard for me not to be jealous over small things and I almost fight on small things cuz of my possiveness ☠☠ going at this point idk how am I gonna control it How do I not ruin things out of my possiveness 🙏😭

[@dansh1819]

Suggestions chahiye

[@deadrexx_69]

@@dansh1819 🤔🤔?

[@vitodinunno382]

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