Fear of success came out for me as self-sabotage and I think it does for many others too. And it comes back to how lovingly you view yourself. It's easy to get stuck operating at a certain level in your life that you unconsciously see yourself worthy of. It's all those stories we conditioned into us from the experiecnes of our past. That makes us self-sabotage or not go for or do the things that would elevate our lives and the sad thing is that we are often not even aware of it cause we're so used to our way of being. You're worthy of it, but to realise that it's time to look at those beliefs you have and put them in the past where they belong.
@TrevorShredder Жыл бұрын
This is so unbelievably well written as to what this can manifest as…. The self-sabotage being an unconscious manifestation is so true… it’s easy to completely gloss over the pattern(s) because that is simply all that you know of & take it for your reality - inevitably leaning us towards seeking external answers to what is intrinsically internal.
@Hannah-ls7xb2 жыл бұрын
"Don't aim to be the best, aim to be amongst the best" LOVE this
@ms.wealthyy Жыл бұрын
This video made me accept that I am already successful. Just last week I was having such a deep spiritual uncomfortable feeling of feeling different from so many people & it is true I do have a fear of judgment. But I’m facing my fears everyday & I’m trusting God truly. Thank you for this video such a lovely being ✨ you’re 100% correct it doesn’t have to be lonely at the top & guess what in the future I see myself surrounded by more successful people as well!
@gavinspeaks3 жыл бұрын
“Kindness is a language that the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” - Mark Twain 💜 Heart-Based Manifestation KZbinr
@malinhessedahl3 жыл бұрын
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@menamgamg Жыл бұрын
Spent my whole life dedicated to becoming the best guitar player i can possibly be. I had the mindset that i had to work harder than anyone else and eventually things would fall into place, so that was all i did in my late teens, and still today at 30 years my whole existence is music but now i practice in a more healthy way. But i've still never played in a band in my life because of my social anxiety. I also i think i have fear of success because no matter what i do i can't seem to get myself to reocrd my music and i've never finished a piece of original music ever, the furthest any of my ideas ever go is a voice memo on my phone.
@TrevorShredder Жыл бұрын
I hope you find what you need & realize that music should be a gift of what you yourself love that is offered to others - oppose to it being a trial of competition. I understand where you’re coming from… I am a guitarist also & spent many years in this same way of thinking - only to finally realize that what I do has to come from a place of love (even if that love is a standard of incredible musicianship) & not from a place of how can I be better than others… because that just sucks the life entirely out of the joy of playing, the process of why you are doing what you do & especially of the end result - because when is it good enough? It never will be. Tbere will always be someone “better” than you… but why did that person make that music that is “better”? Most likely because that was the vision of something they loved & it organically had to come out of them… oppose to it being something that will rank them. An incredible book to check out if you haven’t already is Mastery by Robert Greene. He is a genius in the way that he describes the process of Mastery… also another is The War Of Art (really short book) by Steven Pressfield. Those two books (if you haven’t read them) will change your outlook forever. I hope to see music from you one day! Hope you check out of my channel also so you can see that I am not some idiot writing a comment with nothing to back it up with hahah.
@menamgamg Жыл бұрын
@@TrevorShredder I hit a wall like 6 years ago or so when i had reached certain technical goals that i always wanted to get to. At that point i think i started to realize that my fundamental motivation to practice was unhealthy because as the path i had been walking on for so long kind of ended and branched out i saw how far i was from being able to musically utilize any of the technique i had learned. It was devastating to realize i had to start over from scratch and feel like a beginner again. Around the same time was when i got really depressed and i lost my motivation to play - and for many years i didn't play much - but it's also what finally forced me to made start to taking care of my mental health. It has been a long journey to get to the point where i am now and recently was kind of a turning point when getting diagnosed with ADHD and going through some very painful and big changes in my life. Right now im playing almost as much as i did in my teens, but it's much more from a place of love for music and i'm having more fun with it than ever. Also finally learning theory is probably the best thing i've ever done for myself. I'm working towards putting my own stuff out there, but i do still have a lot of anxiety about all that so i've started with uploading solo covers (the channel is called Bimbimbim and i've uploaded covers of the solos in Paradigm and Buried Alive by Avenged Sevenfold). And thank you so much for replying with such a thoughtful answer! I've written down the book recommendations - I love that kind of stuff so i definitely wanna check it out. Btw I checked out your channel and your playing is totally sick :D
@JFK2903 жыл бұрын
I never looked at the fear of success from this perspective. Thank you Marisa.❣️
@ChristianaSenibo3 жыл бұрын
We learn something new daily 😁
@maryamrashidi23292 жыл бұрын
So, fear of success is not just fear of 'judgement' or of being 'different' or 'disliked'...but fear of 'loneliness'! Insightful.
@Sehara3 жыл бұрын
I just restarted my business. I had to quit to take care of my family but then I realized problems are part of life and never will go away. Now that I am starting again I am taking really small steps and growing with my business. I know that my products can help millions of people but I am still not ready for millions. I guess this is a part of growing up
@lauraleenoble74423 жыл бұрын
I’ve been praying for Marisa to do this talk for sooo long!!! So Grateful for this ♥️
@JohnM...3 жыл бұрын
This happened to me recently. It was LITERALLY like my brain completely stopped working, and refused to do what I told it.
@mwade393 жыл бұрын
You are so appreciated, thank you Marisa, Blessings Always.
@iiorigins2 жыл бұрын
This talk should have been titled "How to manage your success" or "How to be successfully successful" because it's targeted to people who already have success and not to those who sabotage their journey there.
@wfinn69 Жыл бұрын
This just felt like such solid advice, calm consistent delivery, amazing
@SavvyCoolCo3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing the wisdoms! I always felt “misfit” when I grew up in Japan! But now I embrace my uniqueness. I respect you very much, Marisa! By the way, you’re rocking the motorcycle jacket! Very cool 😎
@NeseretBemient3 жыл бұрын
Yes! I too LOVE the motorcycle jacket!!! Awesome!!!
@privateequityguy3 жыл бұрын
found this channel yesterday and ive become addicted
@MarisaPeer3 жыл бұрын
That is great to hear, what's been your favourite video so far? 💖 Marisa Peer Team
@privateequityguy3 жыл бұрын
@@MarisaPeer I've seen 2 already, liked both of them. The two recent uploads.
@MarisaPeer2 жыл бұрын
Amazing! 💖 Marisa Peer Team
@lisaherman38233 жыл бұрын
Soo brilliant! That is so true. Thanks BUNCHES for sharing your brilliant mind, Marisa xx
@MarisaPeer3 жыл бұрын
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@sanjaarsenijevic55653 жыл бұрын
Thankkkkkk youuuuuuu, love youuu...i was in a falier mode for the past week and now you opend my eyes....I am an achiver when I do it my way, I can have sucess on my term, I am good when I do it my way...thank you, thank youuuu💞💋💫
@suzannestrutt78272 ай бұрын
Thank you for this wonderful video ❤
@Jol050611 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Marisa!!
@dahlizz992 жыл бұрын
I guess I'm weird. I love being alone. I love peace and quiet. I can be with friends like once a week but more than that and all my energy is drained. And I really don't care much about what people think but I'm afraid of succeeding so maybe I do care deep down.
@Pouncyvee2023 Жыл бұрын
Thank you. I needed this reminder.
@maaidakausar9802 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely incredible MashaAllah
@sarahnamazzi88553 жыл бұрын
Very true, especially if u r a woman.
@emmabanks4422 жыл бұрын
My fear of ‘succeeding’ in performance acting etc has been if I get a good reaction then everyone’s expectations increase for the next time and I can never live up to it. How do I get over that please? This now goes into everything I do. My automatic response is ‘they’ll expect more than I can deliver’ the fear is overwhelming
@MarisaPeer2 жыл бұрын
Hello, Thanks for reaching out. If you wish to seek support and self development for this anxiety, I would advise booking an RTT session with one of our specialist therapists who can discuss your concerns further. You can book this using the link below: rtt.com/fast-order-page/ We also have our Rapid Transformation Coaching package. To find out more please see rtt.com/rtc-welcome/ All of our therapists and coaches have been trained to the highest standard and have proven experience and outstanding levels of client satisfaction. Kind Regards, Marisa Peer Team
@unveilingtruth526 Жыл бұрын
Yes!! Me too...fear of expectations going up and me then becoming a disappointment to them.
@jaylaw.76603 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this Marisa💞 thank you.. you’re beautiful💓
@jk.whatwecreated5 ай бұрын
Thank you for this!!!
@hanielmaria22383 жыл бұрын
I think you are send by god to heal us Marisa .
@MarisaPeer3 жыл бұрын
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@NeseretBemient3 жыл бұрын
I believe it was Jim Carrey who said he wishes everyone would be rich and famous so they can realize that's not always the answer. It's sad to hear the stories of these super successful individuals who were also tormented by loneliness. Ultimately as human beings, we want to feel connected - seen, heard, and loved. This is what gives our life meaning and purpose. And of course, we also pursue the path of success sometimes as a way to secure our connection. How sad when we realize that it doesn't always happen in that order. It's an interesting topic! Thank you for sharing. May we all find peace, love, and joy.
@shallyway8 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing this
@DemetriPanici3 жыл бұрын
*"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." - Jimmy Dean*
@yourquestionsanswered.54512 жыл бұрын
Thank you for such a honest view of success. ❤
@protectorofgaia70172 жыл бұрын
Marisa, I love you! 💕
@ayoolatoye76972 жыл бұрын
This was incredibly helpful, thank you 🙂
@jenniestilgoe54003 жыл бұрын
I love you Marisa. You have changed my life so much for the better. Thank you XXX 😘
@MarisaPeer3 жыл бұрын
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@Nazalac3 жыл бұрын
Everything said struck a chord so loud it’s deafening 🦋
@MarisaPeer2 жыл бұрын
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@Isamolle2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing!
@stormelightmusic2 жыл бұрын
This was so helpful thank you
@LadyofthelakeAvalon2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this amazing KZbin video it is soo insightful. “Do what works for us” 🌟 I love that you can say no and do things that what for you 🌟🤗 also I believe building a sense of community helps with isolation - being apart of something that helps others can be so rewarding ⭐️🌟💜
@MarisaPeer2 жыл бұрын
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@LadyofthelakeAvalon2 жыл бұрын
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@Yellow-Rose3 жыл бұрын
Very valid and wonderful points thank you, Marisa. I think my biggest fear of success is getting sued, haha. It's more the weight of the work and responsibility for me. I guess that's my insecurity. I assumed that celebrities have other celebrity friends bc they understand each other's work and lifestyle. Then again, I can see where celebs keeping each other as friends would be challenging as well.
@faryalkhalid432 жыл бұрын
I have it!
@newtuber4freedom43 Жыл бұрын
This is great for those who overachieve, but how can you help the underachievers who are already isolated and lonely with their fear of success?
@courtneyboudreau42842 жыл бұрын
I have this now I am ready for a college career but I am fearful I want to be successful and study so badly but when I think of applying I get anxiety
@tambakit7 ай бұрын
To me that was more about being famous than about being successful.
@jhyejw3 жыл бұрын
The fear is not just disabling but bother on paralysis..