How to Prioritize When You Have ADHD: The Matrix

[@Sinclairelim]

"All my life i've been crazy busy, but i've never gotten anything done." My god. This is my life.

[@omarsmusic4316]

Sinclairelim mine tooo!!!!

[@thewelldry3823]

think of six years of crazzy busy but never really moving from one place. damn.

[@ThisIsReMarkable]

That realization hit me like a bucket of ice water.

[@Jokaanan]

I laughed so hard I cried. 110% accurate

[@realmantisknight]

This is me NOW!

[@michellecaldwell9549]

Important but Not Urgent = Beneficial but Not Stimulating (at the moment)

[@TheAstroChild]

TRUE! =)

[@andrewb1986]

OH, that's what ibnu is...

[@Plethorality]

Aka boring and overwhelming.

[@MrJohanGuzman]

So, basically work.

[@codykrueger796]

@@Plethorality not true, what us important can be what you want to do, like if you want to write your book then you can enjoy. I don't agree that it is not stimulating. Just until one gets started it might take more effort

[@LillianRZP]

I'm actually laughing about the "waiting until the important stuff becomes urgent" because it's too true

[@TheAstroChild]

Yeah her videos have made me laugh, cry, and made my Heart Smile. =)

[@austinmckinley2931]

"Sir, it's an emergency!" "Come back when it's a catastrophe."

[@nicbentulan]

I think Dave Crenshaw would disagree with Jessica mccabe's priority matrix? (Dave Crenshaw has ADHD and is a time management/productivity expert, but he isn't an ADHD expert) > should I categorize it according to urgency and importance? This is a reference to the decision matrix of President Dwight D. Eisenhower that was made popular by Steven R. Covey. > This system doesn’t really work anymore because we have too many things coming at us. Everything is urgent and everything is important. Therefore, the only thing that we can do is prioritize according to time. kzbin.info/www/bejne/eniTepl9hq2KmrM&ab_channel=DaveCrenshaw davecrenshaw.com/task-management/

[@Alwayslearnimg]

So true!!!!

[@Alwayslearnimg]

@@austinmckinley2931 yup

[@TheDude1776]

Life is like a horse race and ADHD people are just another horse in the race. Except, the ADHD horse does not get to wear the blinders to focus on the race.

[@tia.b2318]

Chris L That’s actually a pretty awesome analogy

[@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335]

@@tia.b2318 like the episode of hey Arnold horse wins the race

[@TheAstroChild]

WORD! =)

[@tiredofit1968]

An astute observation

[@Plethorality]

What race? Where? Did I miss something,?

[@Miner1345]

me trying to prioritize but is instead watching a video about it

[@jimd1179]

Like me about 35 years ago reading a "how to study" book at 2am when I had an 8am final exam I hadn't started studying for :(

[@caseymo7416]

😂😂 same!!

[@courtneyhiscock1431]

@miner1345 so true😂

[@cilioakenshield7126]

YES

[@mspmonster2007]

Same

[@dolphin64575]

"When's the last time somebody gave you until Tuesday to eat a vegetable?" I love your scripts

[@TheAstroChild]

HAHAH I laughed out loud at some of the jokes in her videos. Hysterical laughing fits. We share the same sense of humor, her and I and *sigh* now I wanna marry her again! ;)

[@robinsaxton7875]

Kid you not I was both watching the video and reading the comments and at the exact moment this part came up in the video I was reading this comment at the same time as if it were subtitles 🤣

[@SusanHiggins]

This explains why I work in the ER

[@TheAstroChild]

I can totally see that. I have met many people in the medical community with ADHD. =)

[@nightmoose]

where everything is urgent and important...that makes total sense!

[@IndianaJonas96]

Omg. This is amazing. You are amazing. How does someone with ADHD understand and combat it so well???? I know how ADHD effects me, but i can barely explain it without sounding like im complaining about everything. Thanks so much. Ive started coming to your videos every time my symptoms are bad and it really helps. ♡

[@HowtoADHD]

LOTS of research

[@rodrigovelasquez2616]

watched almost all your videos in a few days, loved them! I've lived with aun untreated adhd, this just helped me a lot!!! I still have a few problems, but most of them got reduced thanks to you!!!! thanks a lot, you've helped me achieve a few goals, set new ones and to get productive!

[@twocandles1108]

VIBuddy I KNOW RIGHT?!??!!?? those Vyvanse must be the truth haha . for her at least

[@tonyromano6220]

VIBuddy be selective oh who you tell, avoid over explaining. People think they have to respond or do something.

[@TheAstroChild]

It takes practice. Daily. And ROUTINES. DAILY. Also, stop trying to "explain yourself" to the "sheeple" they will never fully understand us. =)

[@LovePikaMusic]

What if I procrastrinated too long and ended up in a pile of obligations that are urgent, important, and time-consuming? I usually end up procrastrinating even more because I can't decide which task to do first so I do something else (ie. something that doesn't require much effort), even if I try doing one of the necessary things just knowing that I also have OTHER necessary things to do (or that I'm not doing it fast enough) steals my attention

[@TheAstroChild]

PLAN AHEAD and learn to STRUCTURE YOUR TIME. Also, what Jessica teaches about developing a schedule, using ONE calendar for planning and organizing your time has helped me a lot, speaking from a personal perspective. I have five email accounts, two facebook accounts, I had to STOP using Twitter and Instagram entirely and I hang out on KZbin and Facebook in HyperFocus typing what my neighbor and dear friend calls "WALL-OF-TEXT!" all the time. It's called ADHD for a reason. =)

[@blackmakup]

SAMEEE

[@harpistforever3137]

Wait but this is completely me ^

[@faridaatia8342]

You just summed up my entire existence in one comment. This is literally me during the school year😂😂

[@no.one.a113]

This

[@eLLcartoons]

Ugh I feel like I will never be able to distinguish what is important and what isn't. My brain wants what it wants and doesn't let me truly figure out if it's needed :'( It must take a LOT of practice to have the strength to put something stimulating on the back burner and convince yourself it isn't important

[@nicbentulan]

I think Dave Crenshaw would disagree with Jessica mccabe's priority matrix? (Dave Crenshaw has ADHD and is a time management/productivity expert, but he isn't an ADHD expert) > should I categorize it according to urgency and importance? This is a reference to the decision matrix of President Dwight D. Eisenhower that was made popular by Steven R. Covey. > This system doesn’t really work anymore because we have too many things coming at us. Everything is urgent and everything is important. Therefore, the only thing that we can do is prioritize according to time. kzbin.info/www/bejne/eniTepl9hq2KmrM&ab_channel=DaveCrenshaw davecrenshaw.com/task-management/

[@eLLcartoons]

J Bruce Feynman Niccolo P. Bentulan thanks so much for sharing those links!!!

[@nicbentulan]

@@eLLcartoons oh why you're so very very welcome. i really still can't believe dave crenshaw isn't more known in the ADHD community. i've even e-mailed jessica mccabe about this, but she has yet to reply. i extremely recommend dave crenshaw's time management fundamentals. sure it's like 6 hours long or whatever, but dave crenshaw does have 3 minute video for you (see below), if you don't have time for the 6 hour one. kzbin.info/www/bejne/m2bNZWxjophliLM&ab_channel=DaveCrenshaw davecrenshaw.com/too-busy/

[@nicbentulan]

> It must take a LOT of practice to have the strength to put something stimulating on the back burner and convince yourself it isn't important Tru dat. Dave Crenshaw has a lot to say about this, I believe.

[@MarcCastellsBallesta]

My answer before reading what @J Bruce Feynman has posted: Fill the matrix on your own, and then show it to someone else. They will come with reasons you haven't stumbled upon on your own. And you will learn from them so next time you'll classify tasks better. Now, time to learn who's Dave Crenshaw. Thanks for sharing the resources, Bruce!

[@MrsKirk-pg3fe]

You literally JUST explained everything that drives me crazy about my husband! While also explaining why I am always crazy busy without ever actually getting things done. Neither of us were diagnosed with ADHD, but your videos describe our lives - AND give practical tips to do life better. I can't thank you enough for these videos! Oh, and then there's the reason I started watching your videos in the first place - professionally. I work with students who have ADHD. Again, you are the only resource I've found that speaks directly to people with ADHD, rather than about them. I can see the whole demeanor change in my students after they've watched your videos, more empowered, understood and not alone. Thank you.

[@minsja4670]

"We often wait for the important stuff to land in the URGENT box before we ever address it." This sentence just made so much sense I literally had chills.

[@katb1820]

"I've been crazy busy but I never get anything done" exactly! How am i always exhausted but never have anything to show for it? Before your vids I've described myself as not procrastinating but over-committing because I think I should do everything and I think I can do everything but somehow the hours of the day are not as magical as I perceive them to be. Thanks for the great info!

[@manny3095]

wow all these techniques are making me feel overwhelmed

[@HowtoADHD]

aw don't worry, you don't have to use them all!

[@TheAstroChild]

Pick out the ones that work for you and ignore the ones that don't, or that overwhelm you. You can always come back once you feel you've made progress, and watch the videos again and maybe find that you are less overwhelmed once you find ways to organize that Big Brain of yours! =)

[@TheAstroChild]

@@HowtoADHD that was a sweet response. And to the point. =)

[@JennhasADHD]

but important things are boring :( hahah :p if procrastination was an olympic sport, I would win gold in every country hahahah

[@javascriptsophie4958]

yeah all of us ADHDer's would have tons of gold medals for that

[@marcoulloa-hiltz5858]

liu sophie im not sure if I have adhd but I procrastinate all the time . I'm smart tho lol

[@javascriptsophie4958]

LOL same here I'm smarter and more creative than most people but I still have trouble handing in work on time.

[@necronyx7176]

Hahaha, fight me! I'm NZ

[@KaylaPearlCPNinja]

xJennova I agree 😂

[@nataliekong9216]

I set out to clean my room and end up reading the buried-but-now-found long lost story I wrote five years ago. And now I'm watching KZbin... And now my mom is asking why I'm taking so long.

[@jennabean9516]

NATALIE KONG Most relatable comment of my life.

[@TheAstroChild]

Tell your mom to "chill" and that you will get to it in your OWN time because you get easily distracted and just found something WAY more interesting/important that tidying your room! She'll understand. =)

[@iqi616]

Hopefully your mum didn't try escalating the pressure. People who pile it on never seem to understand that they are REDUCING their chances of getting what they want because they're pushing us to the point where we flip-out and stop altogether.

[@mcintyredeanna]

Have you had any interaction with Gretchen Rubin's "Four Tendencies"? I have been a using this concept the last year or so to help me further understand my brain and how I process things (including what's important or urgent). I'm interested in how you would see this in conjunction to the ADHD world. I'm a rebel and coupling that with ADHD can make my life an overwhelming, emotional mess sometimes. Thanks for all you do; this channel is wonderful and a great resource (I regularly cry when you bring to light points that made me feel completely alone my entire life...)

[@TheAstroChild]

I've laughed and cried at Jessica's videos and I must've binge-watched at least half of them by now and I just found this channel two days ago. Hahah. We're so alike her and I it's almost scary. =)

[@leahhakem7156]

two pices of homework that were due yesterday havent been done and my teacher wants them in tomorrow ADHD; FRICK THAT I DONT KNOW HOW TO DO THEM CAUSE WE ZONED OUT IN CLASS Me; AHHH SOS

[@TheAstroChild]

I used to zone out in class all the time whenever I got "bored" with something. I still managed to get pretty good grades though, but I had three subjects where I got a "C" that were just NOT MY BAG and I was SO upset with myself because they significantly lowered my average grades, which were mostly "A" and some "B". I feel ya. Just ask for more time! Explain that you got distracted in class and haven't been able to grasp the concept and would like to do a good job on your work, and feel that if you have a couple more days to hand it in, you can do a good enough job that you can feel a sense of accomplishment and pride, and that's very important to you because you love the subject you just got distracted because you have ADHD. If your teacher doesn't understand, go to the principal.

[@rcarrey4710]

Ooooo, I can have an #ibnu page in my #bujo!

[@BigbossEssential]

Just What I was thinking!

[@tylerpayne4568]

Good idea!

[@sweetpeabee4983]

🙀 i love this idea. Thank you!!

[@MSAKspain]

I LOVE POMADORO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ahhh that beautiful tomato has helped me sooo much!

[@TheAstroChild]

I need to get one but can't afford it right now. =/

[@abhayraj4189]

@@TheAstroChild the clock app on your phoneshould do the trick

[@emmaruelas9501]

Can we see a day in the life of someone with ADHD? Someone like you and your thoughts and emotions. THX:D love ur vids!

[@trishmcelderry4762]

This video was awesome. From the creativity of the video to the practical information on how to prioritize. You nailed it Jessica and you have made me feel less alone in this struggle while making me laugh. Much appreciated. Jessica, you were made to do this work.

[@Palitato]

I accidentally took my meds twice once, and ended up with heart palpitations and a near panic-attack. No matter how much I tried to breathe slowly and calmly and sit very still and try to settle my heart rate down it was just going totally wild. Checked the rate on one of those chair things they have in clinics and I was at about 140bpm. For about 2 straight hours. x.x NEVER AGAIN. ....I hope.

[@ShawnaHill83]

lmfao! I did the same thing!! I was like wait...I just took them 20 mins ago and omggg panic set in and my heart was POUNDING then I did a bunch of random chores and still didn't finish not one! LOL it was so scary!

[@Palitato]

Shawna Hill I was at work when it happened, I ended up having to have someone take over my cashier podium for over an hour while I sat in the pharmacy chairs and tried not to have my heart climb out of my throat. Coworker was being all bitchy about it, too. Like rolling her eyes and being all "What, ain't you calmed down yet?" I wanted to smack her so hard. x.x I AM SORRY I THINK I AM HAVING A HEART ATTACK OR SOMETHING. She's lucky I didn't go home because of it, but I didn't think I should drive.

[@ShawnaHill83]

Palitato​ I would of been pissed too, I've experienced it first hand and it feels like your heart is literally going to come out of your chest and you sweat and are shaky. I can't imagine how upset you must of been! I'm glad you were able to get through it tho with hitting her lol I think I would of ended up throwing something at her! LOL

[@KaterinakiTimberlake]

this happend to me when I fisrt started my medication for the firsr 5 days, the only difference was that it lasted for 8 hours straight, I almost quited.

[@drippinwet774]

Optimize med usage. Protein shakes, supplements, and carbs. Allow digestion for an hour. Take meds with a hydration solution before work out; you'll be a beast with weekly increased resistance after 3 months.

[@YOUNGTALENT3D]

Tfw I should've started studying five hours ago and now I've gone through motivational speeches, lectures on adhd and a couple dozen of your videos.

[@TheAstroChild]

hahah that's so me it's almost silly. =)

[@abhayraj4189]

I know, I have exams in a week I had a month i spend the entire month trying to make 30 page important project and didnt study for the exam

[@markstadix]

Yeah same

[@bccr13]

I love/hate how beautiful your eyes are.

[@halfblindchaos2506]

They're so very distracting.

[@TheAstroChild]

@@halfblindchaos2506 yeah! And intense! =)

[@TheAstroChild]

she's gorgeous haha. And I mean that in a totally platonic way, just to clarify. I've found that a lot of people with ADHD are really attractive, feature-wise, like, most people I know with either ADHD or Aspberger's (which I also have) are really... "symmetrical" in their features. Strange. Or maybe not. "Beautiful Mind = Beautiful Face". =)

[@Commissar0617]

is it weird that i keep scrollign through the comments whilst listening to video... at 1 in the morning

[@javascriptsophie4958]

nope I do that all the time

[@Viv8ldi]

No, its not called ADHD for nothing baby

[@KaylaPearlCPNinja]

Nope, can't say why it isn't.

[@erikkramer5931]

Commissar0617 nope it’s not weird it’s adhd

[@AlexHolland123]

I do this so much and then have to rewatch some of it 😂

[@qbanmafioso15]

3:05 seconds into your video I just realized I wasn't paying attention 😂😂😂. Now I have to replay it again lol. #ADDLIFE

[@TheAstroChild]

hehehheheheh that's so me sometimes! "whoops" *rewind*

[@MicheleGoodeye]

Same but good info so will skip to the big idea at about 3 min in.

[@Wilddornrose]

My ibnu is.. writing a novel. And Blog posts. :/

[@TheAstroChild]

My #IBNU is spending hours each day responding to posts in ADHD groups on FaceBook and trying to offer some insight and help to people that are still struggling and learning to "cope" and "handle it". =) ....and now, I've been stuck here for the better part of an hour, replying to comments on Jessica's videos. Hahaha! #IBNU !!! =)

[@notelizabeth7861]

YOUR GUILT TRIPPING ME!!! I wanna watch KZbin, can that be important and urgent? Please?

[@rocioveloso]

Not Elizabeth of course, if watching KZbin videos help you learn things to achieve your goals (I.e. quality life). Like this channel 😉👍🏼

[@TheAstroChild]

OF COURSE IT CAN! If it's helping you learn, and it's technically "research" and you're growing and evolving, it IS "Important AND Urgent" =)

[@peter_parkour]

i love this blog because its hilarious and yet manages to stay so damn relateable

[@TheAstroChild]

Jessica and I share the exact same sense of rather "refined" humor so I've been laughing out loud and crying in relief 'cause I thought I was alone for yeeeeeeears. =)

[@viziroth]

I've just found you videos and have been binging them, and they are great. I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD, but mostly I think because I've been diagnosed with BPD. I do have a lot of the issues you talk about, though, and I think your advice will help quite a bit, or at least make me not feel so bad about it... hmm... Anyway, can't wait for more!

[@TheAstroChild]

BPD is quite often misdiagnosed. At least that's been my experience. =/ Perhaps you could talk to your physician/psychologist about having some ADHD "tests" done? Even though the tests aren't entirely scientific, and every ADHD Mind is Unique, it may point you in the "right direction". IF you found your way here, you're here for a reason. If you find that these videos speak to you on a profound level, and you identify with the videos and people commenting, maybe you DO have ADHD? Just my thoughts.

[@maritje4225]

me right now; "MOM! Where's that old whiteboard? I need it?"

[@S4R1N]

Double dose of meds? "It was such a great day, I got so much done!! I felt fantastic and omg I got so much done!" "So.. what did you get done specifically?" "Well I started this, then I started that, then this, then this, then this" "Did you finish literally any of it?" "Uhmmmm.......maybe one of them?" "-_-" "okay, so I didn't get anything finished...."

[@maquez650]

priotitizement: after the matrix intro i watched the matrix first before watching the rest of the video....

[@TheAstroChild]

hahaha I must've seen "The Matrix" like 20 times. I know all the lines by heart, I could probably recite the whole movie verbatim if I put my mind to it. =) "You've been living in a Dream World, Neo". =)

[@martiembry852]

I just love your upbeat and informative videos. Thanks for ”dumbing it down” for an older ADHDer who is still struggling with priorities. I will be 59 this year and still working. So I really need this! Thank you for teaching me ”how to ADHD” and not freak out! 🥰

[@sadrequiem]

Thank you so much for these videos. They've helped me take all that information I've gathered in my mind and give it some order and usefulness. I'm not 100% sure I have ADHD but your videos help me so much!.

[@lillian2342]

I just wanted to ask: Is there a link between having adhd and... feeling happier and more energetic when I watch these videos?!

[@TheAstroChild]

AWWW YEEEEAH there is! It's called "finding your tribe". =)

[@JuliaK-ve2rw]

I feel the same way! Ahh, embrace it!

[@Samus419]

How do I get to "The One-Page Miracle?" The on-screen image isn't a link for me and there isn't a link in the description.

[@TheAstroChild]

should be a link in the description? Or am I mistaken? I didn't double-check. =)

[@moonxshakti]

www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newHTE_91.htm

[@moonxshakti]

marlacummins.com/adhd-and-using-the-urgent-important-matrix/

[@rivitraven]

Another evil nemesis to the prioritizing, when you live with adhd you know you have to do it or take notice now or else you will forget it and then it's gone pretty much forever.

[@digitalspecter]

"Make it part of your routine" Well, a lot of the problems stem from me having no routine and not being able to form them.

[@lynnduburstone]

I just finished setting this up in my office because i was totally drowning in work. It is actually helping.

[@nicbentulan]

how are you now? actually, I think Dave Crenshaw would disagree with Jessica mccabe's priority matrix? (Dave Crenshaw has ADHD and is a time management/productivity expert, but he isn't an ADHD expert) > should I categorize it according to urgency and importance? This is a reference to the decision matrix of President Dwight D. Eisenhower that was made popular by Steven R. Covey. > This system doesn’t really work anymore because we have too many things coming at us. Everything is urgent and everything is important. Therefore, the only thing that we can do is prioritize according to time. kzbin.info/www/bejne/eniTepl9hq2KmrM&ab_channel=DaveCrenshaw davecrenshaw.com/task-management/

[@ShakirahIbaad]

Could you do a video on ADHD medication please? What sort of things are available, his they work, which ones seem to work well for the majority of people, what the she effects could be and how you personally feel your life changed once you started taking them. I think many people are scared of the idea of taking medication for the rest of their lives, and outdoor are scared of the potential side effects and the possibly getting addicted of something. I know you're not a medical expert but would still like to to talk about what you do know from experience etc. Do you miraculously change from the meds? Or do they just help to cope a little better? How have they improved your life? I'm showing coming to the possible realisation that I may have ADHD and I'm just so afraid to get a diagnosed and just worried that the treatments available may not be worth bothering go find out for certain whether I have ADHD of not. Thanks for your videos!

[@TheAstroChild]

Many people with ADD/ADHD have been helped tremendously by getting properly diagnosed and finding the right medications that work for them. Personally, I have learned enough about myself that I can get by without any "stimulants" (besides huge cups of strong coffee and tea) and it's not scary anymore once you get it done. Find what works for YOU. =)

[@victorhugotorres1809]

This girl is making history. She is is just as important in terms of divulging ADHD info as Barkley has been! GO GO Jessica! And his BF too.

[@jennifermoon620]

Thank goodness you made these videos thank you!!! I almost played your Matrix video for the Important vs Urgent chart for my therapist, but decided a screen shot suffice. Haha That's how my project mgmt spreadsheets look in color code!! Great brains think alike! Luckily this new therapist is cool about me wanting to dive in and get the most. Ur vids r so helpful girl! You and ur Matrix goggles rock!!

[@coena9377]

I’m doing this with my homework right now. I’m trying to get out of the habit of only doing homework that’s about to be due and instead work on things that are really important assignments, even if they have far off deadlines, and stay on top of work that is important but doesn’t get graded, like reading my textbooks or reviewing the recorded lectures.

[@kathryncainmadsen5850]

This is why people think everyone has ADHD. But hey, can I just say this stuff is more URGENT for us. Lol. Can I also say your videos are SO WELL MADE! The graphics and animations are helpful and are so well designed! And you too! Total package! Wait, is watching KZbin urgent or important? Well these videos are both.

[@iratze8552]

Idk whether to laugh or cry.... Coz IMPORTANT BUT NOT URGENT is the biggest problem of my life. #ibnu

[@mnmlst1]

My problem is I've done it many times but everything I have to do is important AND urgent at the same time. I still don't know what to prioritize first. So everything is important and urgent (work, study, personal projects that are extremely important to get another job) because everything is connected to the same area of knowledge and I'm overwhelmed.

[@urphakeandgey6308]

"All my life I've been crazy busy, but I've never gotten anything done." Brings a whole new meaning to "crackhead energy."

[@JaredEntwistle]

You are my lifeblood. Thank you. Every video is extremely well made/edited and has amazing advice.

[@shemightberikki]

Seconded.

[@shemightberikki]

Seconded.

[@TheAstroChild]

Couldn't agree more! I find myself wondering what she's doing and how she is, these days, as most of these videos and also the comments are a few years old.... =)

[@AntonioDal.]

Not important, Urgent box is confusing. I would rather combine it with not important, non urgent box to make 1 box ''not important''. This leaves with 3 boxes which makes deciding where to put something much easier.

[@nathelm8693]

Focusing on the video for about 45 seconds, and then start mindlessly dancing the background music while sitting, instantly ignoring the video completely by accident.

[@susanzoeckler4926]

The whole video is great -- a new favorite! I needed the phrase "skeptical internal monologue" to add to my mindfulness toolbox. Thank you!

[@Sara-kh1nl]

but still, now my mind knows the trick of setting a deadline for what's not urgent but important. I'll still procrastinate it to calm the anxiety of passing my "fake" deadline. omg 😂

[@gavincrowley562]

I think my ADHD comes with a side of ESP I was just thinking about wanting an app for it then I saw it...

[@Sawaisrotting]

Film Now Edit Later yo i do the same thing lol that is awesome

[@TheAstroChild]

Maybe you're also an "HSP" (Highly Sensitive Person), I experience ESP all the time. =)

[@omarsmusic4316]

i need this Ive got a looooong list of things that Ive been wanting to complete but never do! like Ive got a character for one of my animation classes from college that I never finished I started it like 3 years ago. Ive got 3 stories that Ive been wanting to write its been a year havent finished them also got two songs thatI never finished writing started them a year ago gahh!!! Ill try this technique maybe itll help oh also not on my meds probably hasnt helped either do you have any stratagies in coping when you dont have your meds?

[@BrassicaRappa]

I'M TRYING TO LEAVE WORK STOP HAVING>>>BEING>>>>> DO GO BYEBYE KZbin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@twocandles1108]

SOOOOOOOOOOO TRUUUUUUUEEEEEEE. oh how elegantly hectic your piles must be

[@loverainthunder]

I've never heard of this and its the most amazing thing I've ever read. Thank you. I'm actually crying but happy tears. wow. This is really going to help me. Thank you!!

[@oyahfftlisawsome]

Hey! Jessica! Thanks to KZbin disabling annotations, the video you linked at 1:37 needs to be linked to in an info card (if it's not too much work, thanks and please)

[@justinward3218]

I've lately noticed that I often say "I haven't had a chance to" when what I actually mean is "I only ever think to do that when it's a bad time."

[@heyDian]

My husband's name is Ibnu. Now I know what it stands for, LOL.

[@ADHDTeenager]

I love this KZbin channel. It helps me a lot with my life with ADHD, I also make videos about ADHD so if u get the chance you could check them out. 😀

[@thatchersthatcher4449]

#ibnu. I have been trying to set aside time to work on registering my business with the state and federal government for about 1 month.

[@PiercingChild]

This is very helpful. I used the pomodoro (spelling? lol) technique before and it worked awesome but I haven't used it since :( I am so busy from the time I get up at 5am until I finally get both kids in bed (including my 6 year old daughter with adhd) that when they're in bed, all my motivation to clean up and pack things for the next day go out the window because all I want to do is sit down and relax whie browsing facebook, youtube etc. Like right now I need to be doing dishes, laundry, tidying up and cutting veggies then packing lunches for tomorrow but of course...here I am.

[@nicbentulan]

how are you now, 4 years later? I think Dave Crenshaw would disagree with Jessica mccabe's priority matrix? (Dave Crenshaw has ADHD and is a time management/productivity expert, but he isn't an ADHD expert) > should I categorize it according to urgency and importance? This is a reference to the decision matrix of President Dwight D. Eisenhower that was made popular by Steven R. Covey. > This system doesn’t really work anymore because we have too many things coming at us. Everything is urgent and everything is important. Therefore, the only thing that we can do is prioritize according to time. kzbin.info/www/bejne/eniTepl9hq2KmrM&ab_channel=DaveCrenshaw davecrenshaw.com/task-management/

[@darina5534]

Can you make à video about ADHD and self-confidence ?

[@theninjaofmusic]

Well that will be app number 4 that I will be getting per your advice

[@luntiangrace]

now I get it... it's always like that. urgent even not important.

[@s.wollberg2810]

"All my life i've been crazy busy, but i've never gotten anything done." Thiiiiiiis ... I've even be told that by my manager, ugh. "I see you whizzing about and you're always in a hurry but somehow you're not making progress with you tasks! >(" I know Lady, I know. That's *why* I was always in such a hurry. And everyone else was so chill and still way faster than I and for the life of me I could not figure out how they did it. Except super powers. Definitely super powers. They were just so much better. And then I hurt myself and was even slower. T__T

[@nicbentulan]

how are you now a year later? I think Dave Crenshaw would disagree with Jessica mccabe's priority matrix? (Dave Crenshaw has ADHD and is a time management/productivity expert, but he isn't an ADHD expert) > should I categorize it according to urgency and importance? This is a reference to the decision matrix of President Dwight D. Eisenhower that was made popular by Steven R. Covey. > This system doesn’t really work anymore because we have too many things coming at us. Everything is urgent and everything is important. Therefore, the only thing that we can do is prioritize according to time. kzbin.info/www/bejne/eniTepl9hq2KmrM&ab_channel=DaveCrenshaw davecrenshaw.com/task-management/

[@valentinatavarez269]

Amo este canal, es tan informativo y práctico. Ame la parte de encargarse de las cosas que son importantes pero que aún no son urgentes, es tu mejor seguro. Y vaya que necesitaba esa frase, pasan los meses y me siento miserable y frustrada por no haber hecho nada por mi, o algo que es importante. Me acabo de dar cuenta de que normalmente, cuando algo importante y urgente surge por alguien externo, me lleno de excusas para no hacerlo porque precisamente en ese momento surgió la urgencia de hacer todo lo que no había hecho por mi en meses XD Es impresionante descubrir cada día que muchas de las cosas con las que he batallado se pueden explicar con mi TDA

[@leannamartin4544]

You are so helpful and insightful on ADHD. I've been struggling with my symptoms for all of my life and my family doesn't really understand the stress I have to go through on a day to day basis. it's nice to have someone who understands what I go through and tries to give people helpful tips to better cope with this disorder. Thank you for your hard work to try and research different systems on how to cope with ADHD. I don't know about anyone else, but you have really helped me with you insightful tips. 😊

[@crymsannerose6109]

Thank you SOOO much for you videos! My son (12 yo) was diagnosed at age 7 which lead to my diagnosis about 6 months later. I had NO IDEA that this matrix thing even existed!!! I am always researching to learn more and find new coping techniques so I can help my son and myself!! Again, thank you!

[@LikeOnATree]

Really love your videos, thank you so much!!

[@mbw6785]

My car has taught me so much about this lately.

[@penflare5411]

Thanks again for another wonder video!!! I love how you break this stuff down so that I can understand how it applies to my life!!! One important but not urgent thing I need to take care of is car repairs. Everyday I drive my car it reminds me of how I need to take it in. I know that if I don't do it soon it will jump to the Urgent box which means I will need a tow truck and probably miss a day of work. So I need to set aside some time on my next day off to take it in. Now the next issue I deal with is how to prioritize all the important stuff I have in my life that is not urgent!! I only have so many hours to use so....... Anyway, thanks again Jessica!!!

[@HowtoADHD]

Oooo good idea for a follow up video! Let me know if you have any ideas!

[@nicbentulan]

how are you now? I think Dave Crenshaw would disagree with Jessica mccabe's priority matrix? (Dave Crenshaw has ADHD and is a time management/productivity expert, but he isn't an ADHD expert) > should I categorize it according to urgency and importance? This is a reference to the decision matrix of President Dwight D. Eisenhower that was made popular by Steven R. Covey. > This system doesn’t really work anymore because we have too many things coming at us. Everything is urgent and everything is important. Therefore, the only thing that we can do is prioritize according to time. kzbin.info/www/bejne/eniTepl9hq2KmrM&ab_channel=DaveCrenshaw davecrenshaw.com/task-management/

[@najtrows]

One of my issues is that as long as I decide a deadline for myself I don't take it seriously. But if something is urgent relating to others I take that responsibility. I am a bit too good at just letting stuff go, probably something I learn as a coping mechanism to feeling overwhelmed and confused.

[@sammyjacobomancebonolasco1783]

I love what you do, thanks a lot for helping us live our lives In a much easier way with your advises and tools (I love to have tools 😃) In such a funny and at the same time accurate way. You have a amazing skill. I think you deserve thousand of thump ups, and a lot more of subscribers. A big hug for you!

[@Emiliapocalypse]

I love your sense of humor. You’re very smart and relatable. Thanks for posting these videos and keeping yourself on task to do it! That impresses the heck out of this ADD girl. I hope I can get my life together, and I think your suggestions will help. Thank you!

[@selloanemagakwa8584]

Thank you so much. This has the perfect timing. Have you ever lived on your own? If so, how did you manage to keep the house/flat clean and neat?

[@TheAstroChild]

ROUTINES! I find that the "mundane" tasks of doing dishes, vaccuuming, general tidying up, work better if I do them on a semi-regular basis, IE i TRY to vaccuum at least once a week and I TRY to do dishes daily so they don't pile up. Now I just need to go take that shower I've been "procrastinating" about for five days now 'cause I kinda smell... ;)

[@tbilod]

I recall a poster from the past that read: "Failure to plan on your part does not necessarily constitute an emergency on my part."

[@grayfox4239]

Your content has become pretty much the only thing I actively make time for on KZbin anymore. So informative and your sense of humor is refreshing. I'm in my mid-40s, never been diagnosed ADHD, but I'm 1000% convinced I would test positive. No idea why my folks never investigated it growing up or why I hadn't thought to myself until now, but I just took the first step and started hunting for psychiatrists in my area. Gotta figure this out.

[@lisa50079]

Jess why do we(shiny/adhders) beat ourselves up till senseless? why can't I let go? any tips?

[@HowtoADHD]

Because we feel like failed versions of normal. Learn about your ADHD and how it makes you unique and awesome, and stop comparing yourself to people you're not. Are we ever going to be great at boring paperwork or remember everyone's birthday (on time)? Probably not. Can we excel in fields that are exciting to us and be the empathic friend that's there in a crisis? Absolutely.

[@timeleaper4815]

Have ADHD combo type. I want people to understand my behaviour, although i don't really want them to treat me completely differently. Any ideas,tips or advice?

[@HowtoADHD]

really good question, I'll look into it :)

[@timeleaper4815]

Please and thank you!

[@TheAstroChild]

Yeah, I have a tip (from experience) if you can handle a blunt and honest response: STOP trying to expect people to "understand" you. You are different than 95% of the populace. STOP trying to "explain" yourself to "sheeple" or the "neurotypicals", they simply will never fully understand you and explaining yourself constantly is not only a complete waste of precious time, it's very exhausting. I feel MUCH better since I just stopped trying to explain myself to people. I can be persistent, and very intense at times, but I've learned to love those parts of myself and my true friends accept me for who I am. =)

[@TheSaukkio]

i did manage to make ibnus happen bu just starting to do stuff as soon as i can. now i have all of thous things done and i have time to do stuff that i want because i dont have 100 other things waiting :D

[@TheZenytram]

What about those who dont do the "urgent and important" box till it became ultra extra urgent and than it pass the point of no return and we be like "if only i had i little more time". I hate my brain

[@hikikoyuki5419]

Yeah that's what I'm feeling right now, watch this video to find the solution for it but it is not explained here

[@thayishere]

I NEED THOSE GLASSES! That's important. And Urgent. I want them! Also, great tips!!!

[@TheAstroChild]

I lost my favorite "shades" last year and I miss them soooo muuuuuuch it's a little sad. =/

[@jayalexander6798]

Where have you been all my life?!?!? 😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️

[@TheAstroChild]

I was wondering precisely the same thing! =)

[@jherna9960]

"How to ADHD".. What Priority Matrix app do you use that has worked for you? Any PM templates you used that work? I have used Priority Matrix Pro but I end up putting way too much info on it and kind of defeats the purpose for organization with so much pool of information that it becomes overwhelming. Thanks.

[@HowtoADHD]

I tried it but like I say in the video, the only thing I really need to focus on is the #ibnus -- so I just started making time for doing them, and keeping a list of them too. However this week I'm going to be putting out a video on a new system I'm trying out that I really like so far!

[@luisgerardollamasgutierrez9726]

How to ADHD link please, which one is it? :) it’s super lucky I don’t have to wait a week for it... but you have so many! Thank you!

[@TheAstroChild]

@@HowtoADHD oh dangit I need to see that video, I need some tips on a good PM app.

[@An-Orange-Fox]

have you tried doing ted talks

[@claytonferguson3448]

Watching these videos is my #ibnu

[@TheAstroChild]

Me too! =) (Some of her tips became ""Urgent" as I was watching them though, so I'm making notes as I go along. )

[@valerieyoung8649]

Thank you once again! Prioritising is a night mare! When I have the needs of others that come first, I can be so on it, that I get a little taste of what normal behaviour is like and that motivates me. Other times, we're having cereal for supper. More often than I care to admit. Or my timing is way off at meal times...crunchy broccoli with fish that turns to dust when on the plate. Sigh...

[@dropexpectations12]

Newly subscribed and its crazy because you call out ALL of my issues.. When you said you were terrified of voicemails in another video I busted out laughing! Its so true. Thank you for all the great tips and advice!

[@RavenSelenite]

I have heard and seen this priority chart before, but this video is the first to make it make sense to me to use, love your videos, don't know if I'm ADHD, but suspect I am asd (waiting for adult assessment) and certainly relate to a lot of what you talk about in your videos. Thank you

[@TheAstroChild]

If you're here and learning, there's a reason. =)

[@SuperBRAIN]

Whoa! What's this? Wow this is amazing editing Except for me I'm gonna tell you right now This was rly cool! LOLZ ohhhh there's a difference? Huh.... This is confusing Yeah... Ohhhhhhh I see Ohhhhh who knew? I'm not sure if I'm supposed to put this under purple shirt, or make a new playlist Ohhhhh I see I didn't know that. Awww caveman/woman Brain ACT NOW ohhhhhh rly? Slept oval internal monologue Ohhhh EAT MORE VEGGIES!! How do you move it tho? Ohhh Ohhh cool! Ibnu Priority matrix LOLZ! Why am I doing it? Awwwwww Lolz!!!!! Ohhh I see Agghh that's hard Cool! Working WAIT WAIT WAIT WAIT QAIT WAIT WAIT WAIT OMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMG EDWARDDDDDD LETS MAKE IBNU HAPPEN!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG!!!! I don't remember that day...

[@KittyNippz]

whoa....whoa... WHOAAAA! my head is SPINNING! I had to watch this again because... I've never even thought this way. what even... This is galaxy braining me! whoa...like hyperspace of thought!

[@pallasade1807]

How do you know my lifeeee

[@twentynepilts2397]

omg I luv your channel

[@gracelaughlin447]

|-/

[@Firelightgirl-oi1rq]

Thank you for making these videos, I found out I had adhd this year and it was really hard on me, it was very unsettling to know that I was actually different than other people, and as selfish as this sounds I felt like I was the only one that struggled with this issue. One day I was on KZbin and ended up on your channel, when I watched your videos I started to become intrested, so I started researching, I am honestly addicted to learning about it. Researching about this really helped me tell my friends in a way so they can understand. Thank you sooo much! All of your videos have really changed my life. My other friends who don't have adhd still want to be able to help me and there is a group chat we have labeled "How to ADHD" where we are constantly talking about this channel. Without this channel I don't know how I could have done all of this. I am also able to concentrate on projects (obviously with my one of a kind kitchen timer.) Thanks for reading my extremely long essay! I hope this was motivation to you to keep going, because you really helped me get my adhd under control. Keep it up!! :D -Nikki

[@candyluna2929]

......wow. all my life sumarized on youtube.

[@TheAstroChild]

DITO! HAHA! =)

[@jojonoid]

"When was the last time someone gave you until Tuesday to eat a vegtable?" Monday.