How to raise girls who are adolescent & rude to parents? assim al hakeem JAL

[@YasminKhan-hl3rm]

Fantastic advice. But what he said in the beginning about the mother is 100% correct. Not even finding time for yourself when your kids are small, no time to sort your hair or appearance. Just task after task, it’s overwhelming and demanding, especially when the other parent is able to have a social life, go gym etc etc. naturally the woman would be frustrated. The other half needs to step in more to take the load off the woman

[@logicalconspiracist7741]

@@YasminKhan-hl3rm True ✅ & then some people will say look how so&so let go of themselves etc 🙈

[@aj__love5919]

@@logicalconspiracist7741the comparison is ufff !!! Seriously every woman is different and shouldn’t be compared like no man should be compared as well. It’s simple help each other out to raising the kids when one is feeling down the other steps in

[@shalusingh6749]

Right! But nobody gets it.Only the women who are going through or been through such a situation can understand.

[@appu1sundaram]

Subhan Allah!! May Allah reward our Sheikh abundantly for the pearls if wisdom.

[@Amatullah_786]

Ameen

[@olegnurmagomedov750]

Being married and having children to raise in a good way is like a dream to me.

[@AllahsServant12]

Same. Mashallah ❤

[@Inzy-k]

Very easy dream lol

[@olegnurmagomedov750]

@@Inzy-k Not easy for me. All my salary and earning gets spent on my parents and my siblings. Can't afford to marry right now. So it is a dream for me.

[@Inzy-k]

@@olegnurmagomedov750 mashallah may Allah swt reward you for providing for your parents! Inshallah may you find a great righteous spouse soon as possible!

[@someoneIikedyourcomment]

in sha Allah God willing

[@_itsnor_1603]

"And i am" 😂I love sheik's sassiness

[@ryantomcat]

@@_itsnor_1603 He is the best 😂👍🏻

[@anonymous-j3v]

Every word the Sheikh said was so on point!! Please Muslim parents don't beat your children, it spreads so much negativity in the world and it's a continuous cycle generation after generation of adults becoming heartless in muslim community. Listen to your kids with love and don't control, best advice ever.

[@HeyyyWhazzuuup]

Ma shaa Allah. I've thought in the past that this sheikh is too rigid and harsh at times. But listening to this now, he has become softer and wiser and I love that. No one is perfect, but what makes a great human and muslim is someone who doesn't let ego stand in the way of constant growth and change for the better. May Allah bless him and his family for this beautiful advice 🤲🏾❤️

[@nua.h2757]

@@HeyyyWhazzuuup Me to i was expecting from him a rudeness

[@Amatullah_786]

Ma shaa Allah!! Tabarik Allah. May Allah bless his children to be the coolness of his eyes and honor him in this dunya and the hereafter. Ameen

[@maryamUmar-h7x]

Ma shaa Allah sheikh you do justice to this question, Jazak-Allah bilkyar. In addition to what sheikh said we need to make lots of Du'a for our kids for Allah's guidance and mercy. We parents need to be extra patience when we rising up our kids we wisdom to handle them

[@hudycat]

Oh Allah make me a good parent and a good spouse Ameen

[@MuhibahAkorede]

Alhamdulillah I listened to this video. May Allah SWT Reward our Sheikh abundantly

[@EL-zm9uw]

Masha Allah . I will follow this advice inshaAllah. Jazak Allah hayran, Sheikh

[@afrinatanwi6907]

ما شاء الله very wise 💜💜.

[@Teenam338]

He right. Husband, don't help wife to raise children... if wife not relax and happy she can't give better bought up to your children, loaads of chores made her tired to focus on kids.

[@rookshanacassim6927]

Ya sheikh You truly must be the best father with so many daughters and no sons and all hufaath of Quran May we learn and perfect our parenting styles with Allah’s guidance ameen ما شأء الله تبارك الله

[@PleasetheCreator]

May Allah reward you sheikh ❤ jazakallahu khaira. ❤

[@ibrahimyussiflabaram743]

Ma Sha Allah allahu Akbar all praise is due to Allah may the almighty Allah grant goodness and understanding and make it easy for us ameen jazakallahu Khairan sheikh

[@hummingbird9584]

This is great mashaAllah.

[@tawaqulnazir1256]

JazakaAllah Khair !

[@RoselinaARahim]

Jazakallah khayr. Reflecting back on his words of wisdom AND, comparing my parenting to my children when they were young, I felt so ashamed of myself. May Allah Have Mercy Upon me and May Allah Have Mercy on my children and Bless them as well. All that is good come from Allah and all that is bad come from my own self doing.😢

[@mujahidalaustrali9068]

Go easy on yourself, parents are only human and we are going to make mistakes. Wisdom comes from experience and experience comes with time.

[@RoselinaARahim]

MasyaaAllaah Tabarakallah. Very kind indeed. May Allah Bless you. ​@@mujahidalaustrali9068

[@RoselinaARahim]

@@mujahidalaustrali9068 May Allah Bless you. You’re very kind.

[@Mujeeb-k9i]

Jazakallahu khair

[@casadelmaghreb]

Short yet Serious reminder. Jazak Allahu Khayr ya Sheikh إِنَّمَا الْأَعْمَالُ بِالنِّيَّاتِ عَنْ أَمِيرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ أَبِي حَفْصٍ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ: ” إنَّمَا الْأَعْمَالُ بِالنِّيَّاتِ، وَإِنَّمَا لِكُلِّ امْرِئٍ مَا نَوَى، فَمَنْ كَانَتْ هِجْرَتُهُ إلَى اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ فَهِجْرَتُهُ إلَى اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ، وَمَنْ كَانَتْ هِجْرَتُهُ لِدُنْيَا يُصِيبُهَا أَوْ امْرَأَةٍ يَنْكِحُهَا فَهِجْرَتُهُ إلَى مَا هَاجَرَ إلَيْهِ”. رَوَاهُ إِمَامَا الْمُحَدِّثِينَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللهِ مُحَمَّدُ بنُ إِسْمَاعِيل بن إِبْرَاهِيم بن الْمُغِيرَة بن بَرْدِزبَه الْبُخَارِيُّ، وَأَبُو الْحُسَيْنِ مُسْلِمٌ بنُ الْحَجَّاج بن مُسْلِم الْقُشَيْرِيُّ النَّيْسَابُورِيُّ فِي “صَحِيحَيْهِمَا” اللذَينِ هُمَا أَصَحُّ الْكُتُبِ الْمُصَنَّفَةِ Ameer al-Mu’mineen Abu Hafs ‘Umar ibnul Khattaab Radiallahu Anhu narrated : I heard Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam say: “Verily actions are only dependant on intentions, and everyone will get what he intended. Whosoever migrates with an intention for Allah and His Messenger, the migration will be for the sake of Allah and his Messenger. And whoever migrates for any worldly gain, then he will attain it, or to a woman then he will marry her, so his migration will be for the sake of whatever he migrated for.”

[@casadelmaghreb]

SubhanAllah. I don't know how I commented on this video. I 'intended' to comment on the video about 'intentions.'

[@hajira5013]

Love your answer s replies sis some or most parents are too strict and harsh and hurt kids feelings No friends ship

[@ImBored-fornow]

Subhanallah May Allah grant us knolage to raise good children Ameen Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakaatu 👋🏿

[@sahrakhatoon645]

Barak Allah fee Umrik, wa wa'Qatik, wa Ah'lik

[@AGEFG]

Ma sha Allah Allahumma barik

[@Mujeeb-k9i]

Allahumma Baarik

[@MathMasteryMinds]

Masha Allah ❤

[@explorefoodstravellinginus4942]

Very nice sheikh

[@MariaTariq-z8q]

True. 100% correct

[@carimaelfarrah7800]

The father is the shepard of the family. On judgement day, Allah will ask the man about his children, and he will not be able to excuse himself saying, that was my wife's job.

[@zololololo]

What Sheikh said parents should do totally made me laugh cause my asian parents could never 😂

[@IsratJahan-ge4li]

It can work in reverse too. You can start the environment of positive vibes and appreciation, and become a helping hand etc,,. And pray to Allah. Its easy if you intend, and the result is nothing alike before.

[@zololololo]

@@IsratJahan-ge4li it's impossible to keep a positive environment when they will convert it negative :). Ydk dude my joint family (along with uncles and all) is such a mess.

[@MushiSaad1]

Reminder that being very rude to your parents and yelling or hitting them is a major sin with no discussion

[@shimmer4771]

@@MushiSaad1 doing the same to your children is also a sin. I think people tend to forget that.

[@sairaimran3818]

MashaALLAH

[@MM-lr5hv]

I believe it is parents first job to teach children how to think, rLet children feel you love them trust them and you believe on them that they can do their best. I am a single mother with 13 years old girl and 9 years old boy. I give them and they also give me. They know my boundaries and I respect their privacy. I’m not saying I’m the best or my children are the best but they get best student trophy, people willingly help me to raise them, they get distinction in music, people ask how they are doing so I know they care and love us. One thing I did I didn’t give them any religion to follow but I show them these are the religion that people follow. I asked them to read, learn and think.

[@moahammad1mohammad]

Inshallah allah guides who he wills and leads astray who he wills. Whatever good befalls you is from Allah and whatever evil befalls you is from yourself. We have sent you ˹O Prophet˺ as a messenger to ˹all˺ people. And Allah is sufficient as a Witness.

[@AbcDef-jh7rw]

Sheikh always catches me offguard "and I am" xD

[@bilqisnjama1387]

Where was this "shillings" east Africa??

[@ishubaba4202]

But you fail to also address the opposite side where the parents are TOO lenient and the consequences of that on their character

[@tabassumfatimaahmad1251]

Sheikh is right alhamdulillah

[@bashasharawi3193]

Mashaa was

[@Happy-go-l]

Where was this lecture? Kenya I guess 😢😢😢

[@saniyashaikh1579]

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[@AmbassadorForIslam]

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[@YoghurtGoreng]

Seriously asking, based on the sheikh's sayings in the first. Is father don't have obligatory to raise his children? Is raising up a children is 100% obligatory of the mother?

[@ThatSMySelfie]

Assalamu Alaikum.. How to raise adolescent boys who are rude to parents? 😢

[@Justalayman]

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[@MahraMartina]

When sheikh said I beat them up was it a joke or true?

[@Inzy-k]

Very true

[@mysticmemer4887]

​@@Inzy-k Right after he says, "but seriously" meaning that what he said before was likely a joke.

[@someoneIikedyourcomment]

it's controversial wording to those who grown up as spoiled child, never get disciplined by their teacher let alone their own parent.

[@mariakhelil927]

@@MahraMartina check your IQ level

[@ZaidZakir]

its a joke . alot of sheiks viewers are not string in english so they might misinterpret.

[@Slaveman00799]

Wtf is an adolescent

[@MonstarAsher]

(of a young person) in the process of developing from a child into an adult.

[@Lynn.-_-.]

teenagers basically

[@Slaveman00799]

Yea but 18 is a teenager? Teenager is adult no?

[@Lynn.-_-.]

@@Slaveman00799 It's that age range

[@faizan_blue]

why swear

[@NewTroll-u1k]

If you believe positivity is so important, why do you always speak against jews???

[@Inzy-k]

Because Jews ain’t positivity

[@someoneIikedyourcomment]

yeah, there's many positivity in oppression. do list one..

[@flowerofash4439]

positivity in genocide?

[@Phantom-xp2co]

Professional victim in action 🤣

[@irpanfauzi1160]

There is Different between Orthodox jew and Zionist and i know A rabbi that Sympathise to Oppressed Muslim

[@daisybee5943]

I'm so sorry, but I don't agree. The past 30 years, parents have been doing this, and children think they have the upper hand. Young children need straight yes and no answers. Clear guidance and rules. If you're too soft and wish washy, they think they can play you with emotions. It's not better now, with all the new ways. It was better 50 years ago.

[@hassanahmad2290]

... at the core, it never changes regardless of what technology or trends come... ... there's yes/no answers, then there are yes/no with guided reasoning... not the "because I said so!" ... play with your emotions? you should be more developed than the children you are caring for... each rebelious phases or unmanaged emotion are a learning oppurtunity for them, and your decision on how you handle it will shape them for the rest of their life ... it's absolutely better now, we have the knowledge of how past generations did the wrong/right... along with the knowledge of what the new technology and threats are, and so much information online available to help for many situations ... and children thinking they have the upper hand... that is the young ignorance, who think they know everything... and later they will learn that the world is so much bigger, they know very little

[@derkaiser2235]

@@daisybee5943 I have only 1 question, is your way working? "The way it was done" 50 years ago is responsible for a generation of men known to beat their wives and kids, a generation of women who resented their husband and kids and created a movement called feminism. With all due respect you don't know what you're talking about

[@daisybee5943]

@hassanahmad2290 you sound like the western textbook that I studied. Your method works for non-Muslim families, and then again, we see how messed up non-Muslim families are. From my observation and experience, your method does not work for muslims. I'm afraid parents are emotional when it comes to their children. And no, it's not better now. Children are more out of control than before. And don't belittle the past generations. They were more tough and resilient to live this life they lived. And they cared and loved for the sake of Allah. These days, if a child plays up (because children do naturally), no one can say anything because the parents defend it. This gives the child the upper hand, knowing they have their parents to stop anyone from correcting them. It's better that a child is raised by many people. As the saying goes, it takes a village to raise a child, not online information or a textbook.

[@_itsnor_1603]

Young children 5-6 yes or no answers work but older children 12-15 onwards need to know the why of things. They start to question things and if you don't give them the answers they will go to other sources and might learn the wrong things.

[@razamughal4582]

@@_itsnor_1603 i went on a parenting course once, and one of the best things I ever heard anyone say is when you say no to a child give them the reason WHY.

[@Jammylune]

I don't like when the people of knowledge constantly indulge in joking!

[@juwairiyahummabdullah]

I agree but i feel like he was serious

[@natasjanaimah3801]

@@Jammylune i do like it...each their own

[@MUSICANDFUN-s8u]

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[@fathimanaseera1479]

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