Fantastic advice. But what he said in the beginning about the mother is 100% correct. Not even finding time for yourself when your kids are small, no time to sort your hair or appearance. Just task after task, it’s overwhelming and demanding, especially when the other parent is able to have a social life, go gym etc etc. naturally the woman would be frustrated. The other half needs to step in more to take the load off the woman
@logicalconspiracist77412 ай бұрын
@@YasminKhan-hl3rm True ✅ & then some people will say look how so&so let go of themselves etc 🙈
@aj__love59192 ай бұрын
@@logicalconspiracist7741the comparison is ufff !!! Seriously every woman is different and shouldn’t be compared like no man should be compared as well. It’s simple help each other out to raising the kids when one is feeling down the other steps in
@shalusingh67492 ай бұрын
Right! But nobody gets it.Only the women who are going through or been through such a situation can understand.
@appu1sundaram2 ай бұрын
Subhan Allah!! May Allah reward our Sheikh abundantly for the pearls if wisdom.
@Amatullah_7862 ай бұрын
Ameen
@olegnurmagomedov7502 ай бұрын
Being married and having children to raise in a good way is like a dream to me.
@AllahsServant122 ай бұрын
Same. Mashallah ❤
@Inzy-k2 ай бұрын
Very easy dream lol
@olegnurmagomedov7502 ай бұрын
@@Inzy-k Not easy for me. All my salary and earning gets spent on my parents and my siblings. Can't afford to marry right now. So it is a dream for me.
@Inzy-k2 ай бұрын
@@olegnurmagomedov750 mashallah may Allah swt reward you for providing for your parents! Inshallah may you find a great righteous spouse soon as possible!
@someoneIikedyourcomment2 ай бұрын
in sha Allah God willing
@_itsnor_16032 ай бұрын
"And i am" 😂I love sheik's sassiness
@ryantomcat2 ай бұрын
@@_itsnor_1603 He is the best 😂👍🏻
@anonymous-j3v2 ай бұрын
Every word the Sheikh said was so on point!! Please Muslim parents don't beat your children, it spreads so much negativity in the world and it's a continuous cycle generation after generation of adults becoming heartless in muslim community. Listen to your kids with love and don't control, best advice ever.
@HeyyyWhazzuuup2 ай бұрын
Ma shaa Allah. I've thought in the past that this sheikh is too rigid and harsh at times. But listening to this now, he has become softer and wiser and I love that. No one is perfect, but what makes a great human and muslim is someone who doesn't let ego stand in the way of constant growth and change for the better. May Allah bless him and his family for this beautiful advice 🤲🏾❤️
@nua.h27572 ай бұрын
@@HeyyyWhazzuuup Me to i was expecting from him a rudeness
@Amatullah_7862 ай бұрын
Ma shaa Allah!! Tabarik Allah. May Allah bless his children to be the coolness of his eyes and honor him in this dunya and the hereafter. Ameen
@maryamUmar-h7x2 ай бұрын
Ma shaa Allah sheikh you do justice to this question, Jazak-Allah bilkyar. In addition to what sheikh said we need to make lots of Du'a for our kids for Allah's guidance and mercy. We parents need to be extra patience when we rising up our kids we wisdom to handle them
@hudycat2 ай бұрын
Oh Allah make me a good parent and a good spouse Ameen
@MuhibahAkorede2 ай бұрын
Alhamdulillah I listened to this video. May Allah SWT Reward our Sheikh abundantly
@EL-zm9uw2 ай бұрын
Masha Allah . I will follow this advice inshaAllah. Jazak Allah hayran, Sheikh
@afrinatanwi6907Ай бұрын
ما شاء الله very wise 💜💜.
@Teenam3382 ай бұрын
He right. Husband, don't help wife to raise children... if wife not relax and happy she can't give better bought up to your children, loaads of chores made her tired to focus on kids.
@rookshanacassim69272 ай бұрын
Ya sheikh You truly must be the best father with so many daughters and no sons and all hufaath of Quran May we learn and perfect our parenting styles with Allah’s guidance ameen ما شأء الله تبارك الله
@PleasetheCreator2 ай бұрын
May Allah reward you sheikh ❤ jazakallahu khaira. ❤
@ibrahimyussiflabaram7432 ай бұрын
Ma Sha Allah allahu Akbar all praise is due to Allah may the almighty Allah grant goodness and understanding and make it easy for us ameen jazakallahu Khairan sheikh
@hummingbird95842 ай бұрын
This is great mashaAllah.
@tawaqulnazir12562 ай бұрын
JazakaAllah Khair !
@RoselinaARahim2 ай бұрын
Jazakallah khayr. Reflecting back on his words of wisdom AND, comparing my parenting to my children when they were young, I felt so ashamed of myself. May Allah Have Mercy Upon me and May Allah Have Mercy on my children and Bless them as well. All that is good come from Allah and all that is bad come from my own self doing.😢
@mujahidalaustrali90682 ай бұрын
Go easy on yourself, parents are only human and we are going to make mistakes. Wisdom comes from experience and experience comes with time.
@RoselinaARahim2 ай бұрын
MasyaaAllaah Tabarakallah. Very kind indeed. May Allah Bless you. @@mujahidalaustrali9068
@RoselinaARahimАй бұрын
@@mujahidalaustrali9068 May Allah Bless you. You’re very kind.
@Mujeeb-k9i2 ай бұрын
Jazakallahu khair
@casadelmaghreb2 ай бұрын
Short yet Serious reminder. Jazak Allahu Khayr ya Sheikh إِنَّمَا الْأَعْمَالُ بِالنِّيَّاتِ عَنْ أَمِيرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ أَبِي حَفْصٍ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ: ” إنَّمَا الْأَعْمَالُ بِالنِّيَّاتِ، وَإِنَّمَا لِكُلِّ امْرِئٍ مَا نَوَى، فَمَنْ كَانَتْ هِجْرَتُهُ إلَى اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ فَهِجْرَتُهُ إلَى اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ، وَمَنْ كَانَتْ هِجْرَتُهُ لِدُنْيَا يُصِيبُهَا أَوْ امْرَأَةٍ يَنْكِحُهَا فَهِجْرَتُهُ إلَى مَا هَاجَرَ إلَيْهِ”. رَوَاهُ إِمَامَا الْمُحَدِّثِينَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللهِ مُحَمَّدُ بنُ إِسْمَاعِيل بن إِبْرَاهِيم بن الْمُغِيرَة بن بَرْدِزبَه الْبُخَارِيُّ، وَأَبُو الْحُسَيْنِ مُسْلِمٌ بنُ الْحَجَّاج بن مُسْلِم الْقُشَيْرِيُّ النَّيْسَابُورِيُّ فِي “صَحِيحَيْهِمَا” اللذَينِ هُمَا أَصَحُّ الْكُتُبِ الْمُصَنَّفَةِ Ameer al-Mu’mineen Abu Hafs ‘Umar ibnul Khattaab Radiallahu Anhu narrated : I heard Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam say: “Verily actions are only dependant on intentions, and everyone will get what he intended. Whosoever migrates with an intention for Allah and His Messenger, the migration will be for the sake of Allah and his Messenger. And whoever migrates for any worldly gain, then he will attain it, or to a woman then he will marry her, so his migration will be for the sake of whatever he migrated for.”
@casadelmaghreb2 ай бұрын
SubhanAllah. I don't know how I commented on this video. I 'intended' to comment on the video about 'intentions.'
@hajira50132 ай бұрын
Love your answer s replies sis some or most parents are too strict and harsh and hurt kids feelings No friends ship
@ImBored-fornow2 ай бұрын
Subhanallah May Allah grant us knolage to raise good children Ameen Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakaatu 👋🏿
@sahrakhatoon6452 ай бұрын
Barak Allah fee Umrik, wa wa'Qatik, wa Ah'lik
@AGEFG2 ай бұрын
Ma sha Allah Allahumma barik
@Mujeeb-k9i2 ай бұрын
Allahumma Baarik
@MathMasteryMinds2 ай бұрын
Masha Allah ❤
@explorefoodstravellinginus49422 ай бұрын
Very nice sheikh
@MariaTariq-z8q2 ай бұрын
True. 100% correct
@carimaelfarrah78002 ай бұрын
The father is the shepard of the family. On judgement day, Allah will ask the man about his children, and he will not be able to excuse himself saying, that was my wife's job.
@zololololo2 ай бұрын
What Sheikh said parents should do totally made me laugh cause my asian parents could never 😂
@IsratJahan-ge4li2 ай бұрын
It can work in reverse too. You can start the environment of positive vibes and appreciation, and become a helping hand etc,,. And pray to Allah. Its easy if you intend, and the result is nothing alike before.
@zololololo2 ай бұрын
@@IsratJahan-ge4li it's impossible to keep a positive environment when they will convert it negative :). Ydk dude my joint family (along with uncles and all) is such a mess.
@MushiSaad12 ай бұрын
Reminder that being very rude to your parents and yelling or hitting them is a major sin with no discussion
@shimmer47712 ай бұрын
@@MushiSaad1 doing the same to your children is also a sin. I think people tend to forget that.
@sairaimran38182 ай бұрын
MashaALLAH
@MM-lr5hv2 ай бұрын
I believe it is parents first job to teach children how to think, rLet children feel you love them trust them and you believe on them that they can do their best. I am a single mother with 13 years old girl and 9 years old boy. I give them and they also give me. They know my boundaries and I respect their privacy. I’m not saying I’m the best or my children are the best but they get best student trophy, people willingly help me to raise them, they get distinction in music, people ask how they are doing so I know they care and love us. One thing I did I didn’t give them any religion to follow but I show them these are the religion that people follow. I asked them to read, learn and think.
@moahammad1mohammadАй бұрын
Inshallah allah guides who he wills and leads astray who he wills. Whatever good befalls you is from Allah and whatever evil befalls you is from yourself. We have sent you ˹O Prophet˺ as a messenger to ˹all˺ people. And Allah is sufficient as a Witness.
@AbcDef-jh7rw2 ай бұрын
Sheikh always catches me offguard "and I am" xD
@bilqisnjama13872 ай бұрын
Where was this "shillings" east Africa??
@ishubaba42022 ай бұрын
But you fail to also address the opposite side where the parents are TOO lenient and the consequences of that on their character
@tabassumfatimaahmad12512 ай бұрын
Sheikh is right alhamdulillah
@bashasharawi31932 ай бұрын
Mashaa was
@Happy-go-l2 ай бұрын
Where was this lecture? Kenya I guess 😢😢😢
@saniyashaikh15792 ай бұрын
❤❤❤
@AmbassadorForIslam2 ай бұрын
❤.
@YoghurtGorengАй бұрын
Seriously asking, based on the sheikh's sayings in the first. Is father don't have obligatory to raise his children? Is raising up a children is 100% obligatory of the mother?
@ThatSMySelfie2 ай бұрын
Assalamu Alaikum.. How to raise adolescent boys who are rude to parents? 😢
When sheikh said I beat them up was it a joke or true?
@Inzy-k2 ай бұрын
Very true
@mysticmemer48872 ай бұрын
@@Inzy-k Right after he says, "but seriously" meaning that what he said before was likely a joke.
@someoneIikedyourcomment2 ай бұрын
it's controversial wording to those who grown up as spoiled child, never get disciplined by their teacher let alone their own parent.
@mariakhelil9272 ай бұрын
@@MahraMartina check your IQ level
@ZaidZakir2 ай бұрын
its a joke . alot of sheiks viewers are not string in english so they might misinterpret.
@Slaveman007992 ай бұрын
Wtf is an adolescent
@MonstarAsher2 ай бұрын
(of a young person) in the process of developing from a child into an adult.
@Lynn.-_-.2 ай бұрын
teenagers basically
@Slaveman007992 ай бұрын
Yea but 18 is a teenager? Teenager is adult no?
@Lynn.-_-.2 ай бұрын
@@Slaveman00799 It's that age range
@faizan_blue2 ай бұрын
why swear
@NewTroll-u1k2 ай бұрын
If you believe positivity is so important, why do you always speak against jews???
@Inzy-k2 ай бұрын
Because Jews ain’t positivity
@someoneIikedyourcomment2 ай бұрын
yeah, there's many positivity in oppression. do list one..
@flowerofash44392 ай бұрын
positivity in genocide?
@Phantom-xp2co2 ай бұрын
Professional victim in action 🤣
@irpanfauzi11602 ай бұрын
There is Different between Orthodox jew and Zionist and i know A rabbi that Sympathise to Oppressed Muslim
@daisybee59432 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry, but I don't agree. The past 30 years, parents have been doing this, and children think they have the upper hand. Young children need straight yes and no answers. Clear guidance and rules. If you're too soft and wish washy, they think they can play you with emotions. It's not better now, with all the new ways. It was better 50 years ago.
@hassanahmad22902 ай бұрын
... at the core, it never changes regardless of what technology or trends come... ... there's yes/no answers, then there are yes/no with guided reasoning... not the "because I said so!" ... play with your emotions? you should be more developed than the children you are caring for... each rebelious phases or unmanaged emotion are a learning oppurtunity for them, and your decision on how you handle it will shape them for the rest of their life ... it's absolutely better now, we have the knowledge of how past generations did the wrong/right... along with the knowledge of what the new technology and threats are, and so much information online available to help for many situations ... and children thinking they have the upper hand... that is the young ignorance, who think they know everything... and later they will learn that the world is so much bigger, they know very little
@derkaiser22352 ай бұрын
@@daisybee5943 I have only 1 question, is your way working? "The way it was done" 50 years ago is responsible for a generation of men known to beat their wives and kids, a generation of women who resented their husband and kids and created a movement called feminism. With all due respect you don't know what you're talking about
@daisybee59432 ай бұрын
@hassanahmad2290 you sound like the western textbook that I studied. Your method works for non-Muslim families, and then again, we see how messed up non-Muslim families are. From my observation and experience, your method does not work for muslims. I'm afraid parents are emotional when it comes to their children. And no, it's not better now. Children are more out of control than before. And don't belittle the past generations. They were more tough and resilient to live this life they lived. And they cared and loved for the sake of Allah. These days, if a child plays up (because children do naturally), no one can say anything because the parents defend it. This gives the child the upper hand, knowing they have their parents to stop anyone from correcting them. It's better that a child is raised by many people. As the saying goes, it takes a village to raise a child, not online information or a textbook.
@_itsnor_16032 ай бұрын
Young children 5-6 yes or no answers work but older children 12-15 onwards need to know the why of things. They start to question things and if you don't give them the answers they will go to other sources and might learn the wrong things.
@razamughal45822 ай бұрын
@@_itsnor_1603 i went on a parenting course once, and one of the best things I ever heard anyone say is when you say no to a child give them the reason WHY.
@Jammylune2 ай бұрын
I don't like when the people of knowledge constantly indulge in joking!