How to Recognize One's Soulmate

This lecture is part of the series of lectures titled "The seventy most difficult questions in Judaism." In this lecture Rabbi Kin how one can recognize who is his Soulmate.
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[@shawnDeLARGE]

I'm not Jewish or even religious... But I must admit this was really uplifting. When you're able to put aside all the constrictions of society and religion... you actually listen and you learn.

[@elizabetharscott9906]

I am a non Jew...yet I'm kind, compassionate, modest and shy. I am loving your teachings !!!

[@slip-yp6hg]

I'm not Jewish, I'm Australian. LOL But I just wanted to say, that even though I'm not completely convinced by your / the Torah's beliefs, you seem like a decent person that means well and the world would be a better place if there were more people like yourself. Nice to listen to someone that has good standards and ethics.

[@7200beverly]

Thank you for your kind remarks. You are welcome to view many of the lectures of Rabbi Kin on this channel 7200beverly. You will be positively surprised.

[@7550375503]

freethinker: I think our Aussie friend was doing what we call....Joking!

[@shens2661]

Me too... I am an aussie Catholic but loves Judaism

[@mafhhz132]

I’m an Arab Muslim and I really loved this lecture! Also I love how close Hebrew and Arabic is, i knew much of the words!

[@shatterladies5090]

You are brothers!

[@metatron7906]

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[@barbararoca27]

Rabbi Kin is as always brilliant! I have high respect for him. Thank you 🙏 Rabbi Kin!

[@skepticalgenious]

@@shatterladies5090 we are all brother's and sister's. Regardless of religion... Some just don't know. And those that know, usually don't speak.

[@Moonie787]

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[@heather4089]

I was raised Catholic but there was something with me all the time that got my attention about Jewish people and the religion, I even enjoyed working for them years ago. Well, I found out years ago that I have Jewish ancestry through also my African roots. That clarified my fascination for everything that is Jewish.

[@esthersthilaire7412]

I am going to be a Reform convert. I still love you Rabbi Kin. I actually laughed at that comment because I am more dedicated to Judaism than some Jews I have met.😄

[@7200beverly]

+Esther St Hilaire What matters the most is if you are a genuine convert or not, not so much who converted you. Reform conversions do not insist on observance of all the Mitzvot. If what you mean by "dedicated do Judaism" - is accepting the yoke of the Mitzvot - then I congratulate you.

[@HuMaHuMHuM]

Soulmate or not - But I will always remember when I met one very special woman. The world around her went black and white when I first saw her. Literally - it's not a poetic exaggeration!! But it was like the sun only shined on her. In a spontaneous move; I told my friend to also notice this beautify woman. At the moment we was standing in a crowd, listening to a symphony orchestra playing on a City-festival. Luckily (it turned out) my friend knew this womans husband, so he immediately went away to greet her. I was stunned! But I also got to meat her (a very special event, we almost kissed, but moved back when it became to obvious that we didn't know each other). She and me became a couple later on (the day after). After some time She told me that she was about to end her life right up to the moment that we met. This was because of agony due to that her marriage was messed up.,They had separated before we met (of many good reasons, but nothing regarding physical violence) . We was at the time (more or less) involved with a Christian movement. it was a delicate situation ^^. All and all.. I don't regret that - Even after that she and me had broken up, she tells me that I saved her life. I was the factor that ended her marriage instead of her life.

[@BudgieFan101]

Absolutely Mind-Blowing. Surely Ha-Shem has enlightened you. Thanks Rabbi.

[@BaljitSingh-mh2te]

You are very learned; Sir. Your lecture content is elegant and modest

[@trancesoul3323]

I am not a jew bt Indian I luv to learn about different religion n learn abt different religious philosophy. I just luv his perspective. Thank u for ur work. Its Insightfull n intriguing.

[@BaljitSingh-mh2te]

Explained beautifully - the role of signs in the decision-making

[@SarahRachel59]

A convert was never a non-Jew, since all sincere converts were at Mt. Sinai and therefore was always a Jewish soul. That's why it returns to Judaism, in the first place. Yes, a convert can be the soulmate of a Jew, since a convert already has a Jewish soul. Again, that's WHY the soul returned to Judaism. Because it's a Jew.

[@7200beverly]

TruthIsAllThatMatters Your point is well taken, and there is some truth to what you say. However, what you missed, and which may not have been clarified enough in the lecture is that a soul emerging from its mother's womb already has a Soul-mate. If that soul is Jewish at birth - it has a corresponding other half that is "already" Jewish. On the other hand, a sincere Convert will be "designated" a Soul-mate (a best match partner) "after" conversion - if she/he is destined to marry a Jew [from birth]. There are converts who marry other Converts - who are their Soul-mates from birth. A "designated" Soul-mate, as opposed to a Soul-mate from birth can be just as good. The only reason it is "designated" at a later time - is due to circumstances that have arisen - such as Conversions, Divorces, Widowhood, etc. So certainly a sincere Convert can potentially have a "designated" Jewish Soul-mate, since G-d is the One that makes the match and He will "designate" the best possible match that is available when the time comes.

[@rhemaandrews1119]

7200beverly I'm still a little confused. If the soul of a true convert is actually already a Jewish soul, surely the soul of the convert is already Jewish at birth and thus has a Jewish soulmate. You seem to suggest that the convert's soul is "non-Jewish" before conversion and thus doesn't have a Jewish soulmate. Could you help clarify this for me? I am very interested to hear your opinion.

[@7200beverly]

Rhema A A Convert to Judaism did not have a Jewish Soul at birth. Upon conversion he/she receives what is called a "Nefesh Hager" (Soul of a Convert) which is an additional soul - that elevates the Convert to a higher level. There is always a Soul-mate designated at the time of birth. Since the Convert at one time was not Jewish, his/her Soul-mate "then" was not Jewish. Upon conversion, G-d Who is the true Matchmaker, "designates" the best possible Jewish match for the convert. This "best" possible match is also called a Soul-mate (best mate or partner) that will complement what he/she needs. However, this "mate" [if they are Jewish from birth] does not originate from the same soul or same source in the Upper World as the Convert. But, that does not matter so much. What is important is that one marry the best person that is available for them [at any given time] so that they can have the most successful union possible. Only G-d knows who that individual is.

[@rhemaandrews1119]

7200beverly Thank you very much for the clarification. It has been helpful. :)

[@BetzelemElokim]

7200beverly So you think Hashem is unable to designate a soulmate for this convert for a technicality? Despite the fact that Gd chose this person to be born into a non-Jewish family with the powerful call to become Jewish, He will leave that person out in the cold to be the "sloppy seconds" for people who are otherwise unfit to marry born Jews? You say both non-Jews and Jews have soulmates, yet a convert doesn't suffer enough that he or she (you seem to forget approximately 30% of orthodox converts are men) must also suffer knowing they don't have a soulmate and need to be happy with the leftovers they're given? This is downright racist, treating Judaism as a race.

[@7200beverly]

A couple can be happy with each other regardless of the age difference, and regardless of who is older. Nevertheless there have always been certain "guidelines" and certain more "common" and "typical" arrangements that are part of our tradition. Nowadays many things are different than in the past. It does not, however, mean that it is ideal. And "exceptions" abound as well.

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[@heather4089]

7200beverly my date is 12 years older than me, before him I lived with one 16 years younger than me, didn’t work . But is working with this one now, probably because we give es h other space

[@pawemajsterek3343]

Thank you very much for sharing wisdom.❤

[@BaljitSingh-mh2te]

Very nice - touches of humour - She pinches here; he pinches there; means fighting; punching, kicking, and so on.

[@OracleofDelphiTarot]

The convert part offended me as well. some converts are more faithful Jews than born Jews. In reference to discussing reincarnation in a previous lecture; I do not believe in what is said regarding converts. If a soul is a Jewish soul we will recognize that as truth and seek conversion. Just because we are born under a seperate circumstance doesn't make us less of a Jew. Moses was not born a Jew, he became one. I enjoyed other lectures but that perception isn't logical in discussing the belief of the soul, not the physical realm of circumstance

[@isaacburrows8405]

Never mistake zionism for judaism

[@Omega13channel]

M G converts to Judaism are higher in my eyes than someone who’s born into it. They are refreshing and keep us on our toes.

[@margarita8416]

never ever anyone said lesser. maybe listen again?

[@onemanmusic6572]

@@isaacburrows8405 There's nothing wrong with Zionism.

[@likeargamanflaming940]

@Claire Khaw Claire, the tribe (shevat) was /is through the father. The Jewish Neshama has been/is always through the mother (unless a ger/geores..)

[@pisceanrat]

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[@ronluberman5971]

Amazing Knowledgeable rabbi & is my rabbi ❤️

[@rivifried6381]

Oh ok. Thanks rabbi I'm enjoying the videos!

[@commonsenselucy5697]

Rabbi.....I really liked this message. I fell in love with a Jewish man last year who convinced me he was my "soul mate." He seemed to "fit" much of the criteria I had, and who I believed my soul mate would be. I am also a believer in Hashem and so is he. Shortly after we got involved, I learned he was still married. He said, "basically his marriage was over," and he was going to get a divorce....he wasn't living with wife at time. I know this is wrong, but because I was "in love" with him already, I agreed to wait for him to divorce and marry me. I later learned there were other problems, and I have since "broken it off." And, needless to say, "he is still married." He can't work now or drive because of a "seizure disorder" which doctors are trying to regulate, but is hoping these things will be restored soon. Anyway, I am out searching again for my "soul mate" because so many things wrong with this other man. But, Rabbi.......I still LOVE this man I broke it off with, and I can't explain it, but he still feels like "the one." What do you think? Is it possible the timing is just "off." Also, even though we are both in our 50's he still seems rather immature to me in ways. I keep hoping he will "clean up his mess," grow up and come back to me. Do you have any advice for me??? Spiritually we were on the "same page," and the chemistry and physical attraction was there, but as you say.....there were "major character flaws" that made me cut things off. I pray he will either change or I will meet someone better. I have been praying to Hashem for 5 years for new Jewish husband. I got divorced 5 years ago. Todah for your message, and any advice you can give. Shalom!!!

[@gratitude5740]

Age difference 18 years . He is younger . He is the most gentle Libra . I’m a strong Aquarius. We are different culture race and age . I don’t think he is desperate to be with me, he can have any woman he would want. He has a child and I have a child . We won’t have more children. I wang to help him raise his child . He is kind, he takes a good care of people and animals . It is not the appearance of both of us that brought us together . Wr are attractive people but the character and personality that we value. PS; Polish And Hungarian are very much united .

[@TheJoanml]

Different race?😂 Caucasian is the same

[@rabelad]

This is extremely interesting. I'm a convert, having gotten my conversion under orthodox auspices, and I find it a novel idea that the reason that my wife and I have come together had a happy marriage for some 38 years is because her originally designated soulmate went astray and married someone else other than her. It's also fascinating that my soul, insofar as marriage is concerned, was in a pool just to make up for shortfalls and stupid choices by other Jewish men. That I just happened to be the best runner-up as a designated mate to my wife, tho not as her true soul-mate. (How can I complain after 4 decades of marital happiness?) But If this is the case, that my wife had some other guy who was originally should have been her soulmate, couldn't it hypothetically happen that I could die and that with her being a widow, that her originally designated soulmate could walk into her life and the two of them could take up, get married and try to make up for lost time, so to speak? Or does it happen that if one rejects one's real soulmate that the designation for each other no longer holds? Could it be that the original designation is canceled?

[@7200beverly]

Dale, you have hit upon a complex topic, upon which even the Talmud and the Zohar quote G-d, so to say, that it is difficult for Him to match people like the splitting of the Red Sea. What this means, is that it is not always so simple to make matches due to "certain" circumstances that may have arisen after birth - when the original souls split. The Rabbi delivering this lecture tried to simplify this kabbalistic subject by giving two lectures on it. This one, and the one before this, titled: What is a Soulmate. Here is the link: kzbin.info/www/bejne/raibkoaNfsyMpac. Some converts have been offended erroneously thinking that they are just a "spare tire." A Soulmate is not necessarily only the other half of the original soul, but also the "best" or ideal match for a person, convert or not, at any given time. That man or woman is "designated" by G-d because for some reason they need to be together, and not always because they are part of the same soul. Although your hypothetical scenario of some change occurring later on in life is a possibility, it is not too common. The Zohar teaches that G-d does not like breaking up relationships. And once a family is established it is even more difficult. Also, nowadays, most souls are reincarnated and do not necessarily marry their original soulmate from a previous lifetime.

[@emilydavid1261]

love doesnt work like thay love cant be forced

[@charlottebroukhim9395]

What are the rabbinical sources against age difference in couples? Why is it that they warn against it?

[@kanthirajakaruna9962]

So sweet teaching how is Next.guide go to truely.going beautiful way..thank you sir..

[@Holly20249]

These are the following signs by which you can recognize your soul mate: You feel an overwhelming feeling You recognize yourself in your counterpart They understand each other almost without words on a telepathic level They feel a deep connection without knowing each other for long They see something very familiar in each other's eyes You lose all sense of space and time

[@slip-yp6hg]

I need some Jewish guidance. When someone is on your mind and their energy is all around, what is the purpose? There would definitely be a connection between myself and that person. Just wanted to know if this experience had any important meaning. Do I need to meet up with this person or should I just move on?

[@shinesgdesign]

ugh the sound on this one isn't too great.

[@stessassss2695]

Where it concerns a 'Soulmate' age has no place as we are intrinsically spirit, it is man and his conditioned limited thinking that confines us, restricts us, conditions us with their logic their mind their fears, but when you abide in spirit which is divine love = unconditional love = God you hence operate at a higher level, higher vibration closer to God losing the restrictions of man and his man made rules etc.. take away our physical body what are we left with? we are left with 'Spirit' that is what connects us to a soul mate Spirit & Soul ... for me we are spiritual beings residing in a human body... so it's learning to know the true you the true self and operating from that basis not from human beings fear based conditioned and programmed beliefs and limitations as said in the scriptures "...with God all things are possible" by the way i am not saying i dont have fear based programming i still do where it concerns age, but i have broken through many barriers and now personally for me i am simply me and free from all restrictions and limitation imposed on us through society and religious rules and regulations etc... is it easy in this society with the limiting fear based mindset that most people have 'No' it is not because I am a minority but i dont care because where i stand is like experiencing a piece of heaven i guess... and i love being there tuned into that frequency with God... was it a journey to get there YES! one hell of a journey but i was determined to seek the truth and for me i have found it, and to do that i detached myself from the material world and success etc.. which i had in my hands cause it did not bring me the happiness i thought it would etc... and hence allowed God to lead me, guide me and teach me and what i know is what i intend to teach... but now for me my foundation is God = Divine Love and Faith and now i am ready to build my material world on a foundation that is unmovable unshakable invincible as "With God All Things Are Possible" and for me God is my foundation my rock!!! amen p.s where it concerns age difference i admire people that have the courage to do that... i back them a 100 percent cause it is not what we see on the outside hence our judgement & condemnation steps in, it is what is going on on the inside... human beings can be a rather mean unkind cruel judgemental condemning species sadly making it hard sometimes for the 'Unconventional' why because human beings are afraid of what they do not know or understand... pk

[@davidbenshimon7236]

How do I go about sending an email and asking a question to Rabbi Kin? I would like to know the sources on how he said that a Ger Tzeddek is not able to be someone's soulmate. The Gemara had two arguments, one argument being that the convert gets a new soul, and the second argument was that the soul of the convert was already Jewish, so they would (in summary) never feel satisfied until they joined their people. In one argument, the new soul was at Sinai, the other opinion, the soul the person possessed all along was at Sinai. The Rambam reconciled the two arguments by stating that the Ruach and Nefesh was already Jewish and upon entering the mikva, they receive the Neshama. Once again, these three pieces were always meant to be together, the lesser Neshama was only placed with the Ruach and Nefesh as a temporary placeholder so the soul of the convert would be allowed to undergo the challenge. I understand that some converts who may get married may be soulmates, but this contradicts many other shiurim I heard. Therefore I am going to start asking everyone for their sources.

[@7200beverly]

+David Ben Shimon Rabbi Kin’s sources are mostly from the Kabbalah and may eventually be available when he publishes his writings. The reason you are confused is because you may have heard or read information drawn from the Midrash - which many times is allegorical, and from the Talmud which may not elaborate as much on mystical topics. To gain clarity in this subject it is important to stay with the Zohar and other Kabbalsitic writings. Many people misunderstand the term “Soulmate” and have very little understanding of the dynamics of how different souls interact. They take it very personal when told that that Jews and Non-Jews cannot be soulmates. They forget the most important aspect of marriage - that G-d is the Matchmaker, and He (for the most part) decides who marries who regardless of the terminology. This is what in Yiddish is called “Bashert” - the one designated by G-d. However, for reasons explained below, a Jew from birth does not usually have a Non-Jew “bashert” to him when he is born. This, however, may change with time - for a variety of reasons of which some are covered in the lecture. Nonetheless, what follows is a brief elucidation on souls and soulmates from the Zohar and other Kabbalistic sources: Ever since Sinai, when the Jewish People became a nation, a Jewish soul emerges from a different channel or source than non-Jewish souls. This is partially the reason why a Jew cannot marry a Non-Jew unless the Non-Jew converts. The Jewish tradition is clear that at the time of birth one’s soulmate is already known and is part of the same “root of the soul” (explained below) as his soul is. This, however, is not set in stone, and not everyone ends up marrying the soulmate that was designated from birth. A convert, for example, had one soulmate at birth, but upon conversion the convert receives a “Nefesh Hager” a more divine soul that elevates him/her to a level compatible with the root of the Jewish soul. He/ she is then designated someone compatible with their new status. The soul in itself is comprised of a male and female counterpart. The male usually comes down first into this world followed by the female. These two are soulmates and usually marry. However, since the male reincarnates more often than the female, in any given reincarnation his wife will not necessarily be the soulmate he had in a previous lifetime. However, she will usually be from the same “root of the soul.” In the “root of a soul” (which is too complex to explain here) there are more female souls than male souls. For this reason, a man in the past could technically have married more than one wife at a time and they all were from the same root of his soul, as it was with Jacob. A genuine convert has a very divine soul, which is possibly why he/she is attracted to Judaism. Although this soul did not join the Jewish People at Sinai the door has always been left open for him/her to do so at a later time. Then there are converts who in the past where Jews but whose ancestors intermarried. They too are shown the way back home - through conversion. This partially explains the Midrash that says all souls were at Sinai. Although this Midrash refers to Jewish souls, some commentaries suggest that other divine souls were present as well and eventually "catch up." In the end all this does not matter too much, since G-d “designates” the best possible match for every human being at any given time. This ”best possible match” is also called a soulmate, for they really “feel” as though they belong together.

[@davidbenshimon7236]

+7200beverly I definitely understand the whole process of the soul root, and if the sources my former rabbis were using was midrash, then I can understand my confusion. I guess what I find troubling as a male convert is that whichever Jewish girl I will marry (there is an abundance of them in comparison to men already, and I don't want to marry a convert unless she converted from Islam, as I find the female converts from the Western world to be overly westernized in their way of thinking and still haven't been able to shake off all the influences of their former idolatry), I'm taking someone's else's soulmate from them during this lifetime. This is very disheartening, as this is not something I would want to cause to anyone. I hope that makes sense.Anyways, I have years of study ahead to resolve my full understanding, and I'll be looking forward to Rabbi Kin publishing his writings. Thanks for your explanation, it was very enlightening.

[@7200beverly]

+David Ben Shimon You certainly have an interesting background. The Conversion process may be over for you, but the more you learn Torah the more at ease you will feel about everything, including marriage. What follows is from Rabbi Kin's notes: Please keep in mind that any topic that belongs to Mysticism or Kabbalah cannot be completely understood in all its facets since we do not have all the information and details that pertain to it. Therefore, anything that relates to Soulmates will ultimately not be known to us with the same clarity that we may acquire in Talmud or Bible studies. I continue, in other words, there is no one alive today that has all the answers to how G-d arranges marriages, whether with Jews or non-Jews. You only need to make a reasonable effort to get married and you will see how Divine Providence will, G-d willing, direct you to the "right" person. Your feelings of "belonging" to the Jewish People may have to do with the fact that maybe someone in your family was Jewish once upon a time. Perhaps you should do some genealogical research on this. It could also be that your soul has a stronger spark of divinity - which makes you attracted to what which is divine. Regardless, the powerful feelings that you have are real.

[@davidbenshimon7236]

+7200beverly thanks for the answer. I understand. In the end, all that matters is that we do our best, learn what we can, and ask the right rabbis for advice when we need it... and that's all that we can do. And yes I have a lot of evidence that there are Jewish roots in my family (my father is probably halachically Jewish but has no idea), but I can't prove that on paper.

[@withmodesty]

What about Ruth? :)

[@7200beverly]

+Adi Rodriguez A very special convert indeed. See prior questions and answers about her. You may also want to hear the lecture "What is a Soulmate."

[@stessassss2695]

True about feelings not being the one and only guide to making decisions re soulmate connection etc and getting advice and asking questions... wisdom has to be applied.. we have been given a mind to use.. i have heard that we have soulmates that are good for us and that are bad for us so it's ultimately about learning lessons & with some soulmates the lesson is to not go there again i think.. for instance if he or she is overly controlling or selfish you tell yourself nope not for me.. because with time in a relationship those negative behaviours escalate and then you go what happened? where did it go wrong? i am not happy anymore, i want a divorce etc.. and the thing is you saw those signs right from the beginning and you ignored them because you thought '"but i love him" or" but i love her..." just stupid stuff that we human beings do because you dont want to be alone, because you are worried about what others think, because you dont want to fail etc.. so yes you have to weigh up the pros and cons of being with a person, for me i do 6 month review if there are still more pros than cons and the cons are not extreme then continue on if not... put the fish back in the river and go find one in the ocean lol.... if there are any grammar errors excuse me... i cannot be bothered proof reading sorry... ok got study and music and business tasks to do God bless!

[@TheRoseChunsa]

Rabbi Kin’s one of most important lesson to learn about Jewish culture and laws, he always emphasized on Open mindedness, and yet when it comes to conversion, it’s extra. I’m wondering how he closed his eyes and mind unless you’re born as Jewish are extra, another word, gentiles are like unclean or not koshered animal. Because Considering this lecture was given 11 years ago, he had to be rewritten his entire speech for to-date. since many Jewish people find their soulmate in non- Jewish or converted gentles and happily married. Even they do, there’re divorce rate rising in Jewish community.Why?🤷‍♀️

[@adinahaiim3197]

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[@BaljitSingh-mh2te]

Very positive conclusion; get married

[@BaljitSingh-mh2te]

Very nice; difficult woman and simple man - wrong combinations

[@littledove1292]

i love rabbi kin

[@rivkier7214]

its not imposible my husband made a list that i had to meat he said i met everything on his list and hes everything i wanted needed and prayed for in a husband were best friends too

[@gilamoshayev8326]

regarding the story that he said about a man who bought his wife things and thought of her; the Rabbi said that the kids said (and I'm paraphrasing don't remember all the exact words) "Daddy why do you by her things and think of her when we go on vacation or somewhere, you don't like her. Maybe that was the problem the wife felt that he didn't like her and even the kids were able to pick up on it.

[@7200beverly]

The Talmud teaches us to look at the good in every human being regardless of their other negative traits. This was an example of a cantakerous and difficult wife, whose husband, nevertheless, treated with dignity and respect.

[@Thelittleclipstore]

That story doesn’t make sense to me,or maybe how it came across seemed so wrong . if children pickup on that that parents don’t like each others it’s a bad place to be in , no man should live with someone they don’t fully love and adore

[@Gemma-s5h]

In the Torah it says that a man could have more than one wife up to 4 so how could a woman have just one real beshert soulmate ?

[@TheFungusPatrol]

What a horrible "shiur." A convert can't be a "real" Jew's soulmate (around 17:00)?? Guess someone didn't listen the 36 times the Torah told us not to oppress a convert...

[@7200beverly]

Please read the previous replies that have been given to similar questions. Many are apparently misunderstanding the concept of a Soul-mate. This lecture has nothing to do with what makes for a potential good marriage. Some Soul-mates end up getting divorced, while others who are not Soul-mates live happily ever after.

[@TheFungusPatrol]

7200beverly Pretty sure I understood what he was saying fine, and, amazingly enough, It's not surprising for me to hear that a convert can have a happy marriage with another Jewish person. However, what this Rabbi said is pretty offensive.

[@7200beverly]

Pnina Grossman The nature of this lecture is Kabbalistic. It, therefore, presents many facts unknown to Jews and Non-Jews alike. Some of these "new" facts may "appear" offensive to those who don't investigate further in the same way many commandments in the Torah appear puzzling to those who don't learn the Torah properly. Is it not "offensive" that a convert cannot marry a Cohen even if they love each other? So neither can they be soul-mates. Nor can a "Jewish" (not a convert) woman divorcee ever be the soul-mate of a Cohen. She is even prohibited from marrying him. Statements can appear to be offensive if taken the wrong way. A true Jewish convert can have a solid marriage with the [new] soul-mate that G-d has designated for him after his/her conversion.

[@fredharvey2720]

"Soulmate" is a New Age concept. What is this doing in Judaism?

[@rivifried6381]

So if I definitely would not want to marry my husb again. Is that a sign he's not my right soulmate.?

[@7200beverly]

Not necessarily. Most divorces these days involve couples who were most likely soulmates, but apparently made many mistakes. After many years of repeating the same mistakes even the best of friends lose feelings for each other. On the other hand, there are times that people marry the one who G-d designated for them (Bashert) who is not a true soulmate, but nonetheless - it was meant to be for some reason that they marry.

[@marniebable]

Great questions

[@hrhtreeoflife4815]

No. It means you truly now know him. The beginning is infatuation. If you had to date a new person, you would find yourself missing something....someone you're familiar with....your husband.

[@christiea772]

For how long should a couple date? I find it odd that some women accept dating for two years, three and up to eight years before marrying. Isn’t this too much?

[@emilydavid1261]

and if u force it becomes repelled

[@nthabisengolga3223]

Am not a jew so am wondering if everything that you teach is also applied to me?

[@BaljitSingh-mh2te]

Very nice - possible vs. norms; others may know about us better

[@stephanies3246]

22:49 Who was the man sitting next to him?

[@seritaable]

What about rebirth? Some religions believe we come back again (recarnation) if so that could make his view point about someone picking a partner that's much younger than him is because his soul mate was killed in Auschwitz, what if he loves this younger girl because she is his soul mate but it just took the him awhile to figure it out? Nothing wrong with that!!

[@Reporterreporter770]

Religion is an insult to human dignity. With or without it you would have good people doing good things and evil people doing evil things. But for good people to do evil things, that takes religion. Address at the Conference on Cosmic Design, American Association for the Advancement of Science, Washington, D.C. (April 1999)

[@Omega13channel]

Reporter that’s bs. People fought and killed each other before religion. If you took every religion away today people would still do evil things, kill over resources, women, etc.

[@MrSamuelSpanish]

❤

[@ralphrose7206]

BChavod, the way You spoke abt Gairim Tzedekim is a bit offensive,, "if shes 51years old thats fine",, as You mentioned the Mother of Your Moshiach was. GEYORET...I think an apology is in order..

[@7200beverly]

You don't seem to understand Rabbi Kin's lecture. Perhaps begin by listening first to the other lecture "What is a Soulmate." Also, make certain that you listen to the entire lecture. Here is the link: kzbin.info/www/bejne/raibkoaNfsyMpac.

[@AmGirl-lf5xh]

Sir. What if your divorced.. who is your soul mate.

[@stessassss2695]

So true about your kindness example people pretending to be kind compassionate etc...

[@gilamoshayev8326]

Obviously it's nice to buy his wife things despite the friction between them. I was just trying to see her side as well. It's possible that she was mentally unstable but if not maybe we could see what was bothering her.

[@jakebirkes]

As a non convert not wanting to convert, I totally understand what he is saying here. Before you get offended, it’s not prejudice. It’s spiritual. If you get upset and not investigate what he truly means by this, it’s you who is getting in the way of yourself. If you find yourself confused and angry, move on. Not worth the energy.

[@mikestachiw4481]

Question? I have a cousin who had many nightmares about being killed in the Holocaust. Many people today think she is Jewish, she is not. So once a Jewish Soul always a Jewish Soul? I believe in reincarnation but I thought we come back as different race, sex, or religious belief.

[@7200beverly]

In most (there are exceptions) reincarnations the soul comes back following familial lines. Those may be at times distant, still, there is some connection to the present individual in which the incarnation occurs. For a better understanding of the topic, listen to Rabbi Kin's lecture on Reincarnation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mGmXc3iNeriqfKs.

[@Holly20249]

I am horrified by the criteria a soul mate should have! It doesn't matter whether someone is sick or comes from an intact family. Everyone has received challenges from Hashem, but they do not define a person's soul! A good partner is defined by whether he is willing to live with the challenges of his soul mate given by Hashem! You feel who your other half is! You are mentally chained to the person.

[@NWYVR]

I have always been taught that converts are Jewish souls whose task in life is to return to Judasim.

[@BaljitSingh-mh2te]

Very nice - Don't remain unmarried for long.

[@rivifried6381]

No It was this way from beginning. Was arranged marriage.

[@7200beverly]

Sometimes the second marriage is the right one and the first was some sort of "Tikkun."

[@susanfine8722]

commenting publicly as Dina

[@Mariyaslava]

If converts cannot be soul mates with born Jews, does that disqualify them from having a Jewish soul? Wouldnt Hashem have guided their Neshama to Judaism with their Beshert predestined? Is there much difference between the soul of a Jew and the soul of a convert?

[@7200beverly]

There is much confusion as to what is a soulmate. Please also see the lecture "What is a Soulmate." Here is the link: kzbin.info/www/bejne/raibkoaNfsyMpac. Basically, a true convert receives a certain level of Jewish soul [called Nefesh Hager] that enables him/her to grow spiritually beyond the level they were able to reach before conversion. If they are still single upon conversion, G-d "designates" a "bashert" that is the best match for them according to their new status. Whereas, Jews from birth, usually have that "designation" of their spouse even before birth, because their soul's counterpart belongs to the same "root" of the soul, a Kabbalistic concept that not everyone is familiar with. The main thing to remember when looking for the "right" man or woman is to trust in G-d, that if we do everything right, and are not overly "picky," then G-d will match us up with the one that best fits our destiny. There are certain challenging matches due to Reincarnation of souls which complicates matters a bit. So the biggest challenge of all is not necessarily finding your "soulmate," but hopefully staying happily married to the one G-d designated for us.

[@xaroescrivaescriva1835]

Rabi what do you thing about people who were Jews and we forced to convert to catolicism?

[@7200beverly]

+Ramon Catala Escriva There are many such individuals. Many may still be Jewish and don't even know it. Others, somehow, feel something drawing them to convert to Judaism. You may be interested to hear the lecture on the Ten Last Tribes as well. We are all waiting for the day that the whole world will unite under one faith.

[@reikimasterdawnabella635]

My question exactly. My father Jewish, My mother Catholic. He was forced to agree to raise us Catholic. BUT, MY entire life I've been drawn to the Jewish community. I am so grateful for finding these videos. They speak to my heart so strongly; it makes so much sense to me spiritually. Thank you. I will continue to watch them all. ( yes, they divorced when I was a child and I didn't have any of my father's side around to guide me in my faith)

[@GoldenErae]

Last time I checked we were all "jewish".

[@lxlx3458]

👍

[@ginnylicious2]

Rabbi, this is all very enlightening but tone down the racism, honestly...

[@kateblackwell313]

I may convert for my true love 💕

[@BetzelemElokim]

As an orthodox convert, this is one of the most offensive and distasteful things I have ever heard about converts. And from a pulpit! SHAME ON YOU.

[@7200beverly]

What is distasteful is lambasting about something vague. Please clarify what bothers you. You most certainly misunderstood much of what was said.

[@selkie305]

"The special care one must have for gerim is repeated numerous times in the Torah. In fact, the Talmud (Bava Metzia 59b) points out that the Torah cautions us no less than thirty-six times regarding our behavior towards the ger." vbm-torah.org/archive/chavero2/08chavero.htm Can a person be considered Torah observant if he wilfully exempts himself and others from observing 36 mitzvot of the Torah?

[@7200beverly]

Miriam Rubinoff Apparently some of the Kabbalistic information in this lecture upsets certain individuals. Please specify what you would rather not know, or advise how you would present it differently. You can contact Rabbi Kin directly and he will be more than happy to explain the reasons this lecture was presented the way it was.

[@marcoantoniogonzalez7125]

If you get hurt so easily, you wont have a good time researching kabbalah. It speaks truths most of the people are not ready to hear

[@infopostal]

All that the Rabbi said is true. Whether you like it or not... or if you are able or not to deal with true... That's something else. But it's not a lie just because you didn't like it.

[@jennywoolleyrealestate]

Not a soulmate if they are not of the same “root of the soul”? Sounds really discriminatory to me. I like a lot of what he is saying, but that struck me the wrong way. It’s hard to change a belief if that’s what they believe. I think we are all God’s children. I think my religion growing up also made me prejudice. That’s why I don’t like religion.

[@icya6175]

True convert = Orthodox conversion in Observance to Hashem.

[@dan020350]

:)

[@wolfcub1483]

Keep h'Kol up , hardly hear your Rav !

[@jessebooth5830]

FIRST!

[@010789504]

So, basically the pool this rabbi talks about which contains the souls reserved for the converts is full with the left overs (souls) that now no one wants? And likewise that’s where converts are? Sort of a second hand, lower status pool? What a shameful comment! I don’t think anyone can really know or predict the will of HaShem, much less attempt to know what he intended when he created souls and if HaShem says that so and so will marry so and so because they are soulmates then regardless of what anyone thinks or says including this rabbi will be!!!! HaShem does as he deems and is not limited by human opinion. So, that was the will of HaShem from day one!, it is only for him to say who is someone’s soul mate as he created all souls only he can say if he meant that half would be convert or Jew by birth! B”H! ....

[@7200beverly]

Read some of the previous comments regarding who Hashem "designates" for one to marry. There is no such thing as a lower status pool or left overs. There is, however, always the "best possible match" for one at any given time, and that is what Jews call in Yiddish the "bashert one," that is, the one G-d deems "best" for one, even if at the level of the soul they are not part of the same soul. You may also gain by listening to the lecture "What is a Soulmate." Here is the link: kzbin.info/www/bejne/raibkoaNfsyMpac.

[@010789504]

7200beverly I meant that is what the rabbi implied, not my views.

[@ohrhachayim36]

It may come across like that, but the Rabbi did not intend it this way. That is why it is important to listen to the entire lecture and ask questions, if necessary. This topic touches on some Kabbalistic concepts and is not always well understood by listeners.

[@aviweizmann]

We know that all Jewish neshamot were present at Har Sinai and that a convert is "born again" and receives a Jewish neshama once they convert. The Rabbi mentions here that one's besherit is designated 40 days before one's conception. Two Jewish neshamot are being connected before either has been placed in a physical body. So why then, couldn't the Jewish neshama belonging to a future convert be designated to someone born Jewish the same way as another Jew by birth who hasn't been born yet?

[@AR-jl5cz]

​@@7200beverly "We know that all Jewish neshamot were present at Har Sinai and that a convert is "born again" and receives a Jewish neshama once they convert. The Rabbi mentions here that one's besherit is designated 40 days before one's conception. Two Jewish neshamot are being connected before either has been placed in a physical body. So why then, couldn't the Jewish neshama belonging to a future convert be designated to someone born Jewish the same way as another Jew by birth who hasn't been born yet?" Could You answer to this one pls?

[@tabitha1821]

I am not even Jewish but I was checking out the Scorpio sign now I am stuck here

[@anitataylor4287]

lol

[@erinnkemp]

Who is this Rabi. I'm not Jewish but I love his teachings.

[@dontanyathomas1478]

Me too!

[@Louise-gg4mf]

Only Rabbi Kin could broach this subject in such a sensitive and thoughtful manner. Thank G-d he had the wisdom to tape his lectures over the past many years. 💕

[@BaljitSingh-mh2te]

You are right; similar backgrounds means fewer problems

[@jasoneaton4520]

Oh come on!!! Theres either perfect sexual chemistry, or emotional, mental, security, you can't have it all!! You can't even have 2!!!

[@christiea772]

For how long should a couple date? I find it odd that some women accept dating for two years, three and up to eight years before marrying. Isn’t this too much?

[@susanfine8722]

Moses's (Moshe) wife was the beautiful Tziporah, a convert!

[@mdevorah6833]

I met my soulmate in high school.❤🥰. But We broke up and went our own ways. We are out of high school 40 years. I never stopped thinking of him. I have no idea what he actually felt about me. I figured we would eventually reconnect. It never happened and 3 years ago he died of a massive heart attack. On the way to his wake, i felt his presence in my car and smelled his cologne. I told his sister and she had something happen to her at the funeral home and she knew he was present. So my question is "where do i go from here?". I am divorced from someone else and that is 21 years now. I just cannot move forward. 😣😰

[@livitaitt3354]

Moving foward yes will be difficult but knowing that he will always be in your heart, will give you peace and grace to accept he is gone. I wish you find another like him or another show you love as strong.

[@kabbalahmashiahrecipesandn8474]

I can't remember in which video of Master Albert Gozlan(Zohar)he mentioned that a widow must be happy with her family because the new husband would be attacked by the spirit of the dead one and it is dangerous and serious...But I don't know if there is a special prayer to break that...I suppose but I ignore..I will try to get that video, it is in Spanish, but I've heard that...But it is important to continue learning, :)

[@RabbiMizrachiTimeStamps]

I suggest to watch Life After Death by Rabbi Yosef Mizrachi because it explains everything!! It's fascinating, l watched it multiple times. Good luck

[@rtwoods]

So basically this Rabbi is saying Hashem didnt know a convert would convert. Glad to know he thinks he knows better than Hashem. Is it not also said all the souls to be Jewish, including converts, were at Siani? You need to go study a bit more. Please dont respond this is midrash and not halachically binding, because Kabbalah isnt halachically binding either. Your move Rabbi

[@7200beverly]

Please see other comments prior to yours regarding this topic.

[@alineritazonta]

Can you talk about Ana Bekoah words? It made miracles in my life since I’ve started listing to that song. Thank you for your wisdom.

[@dr.hollynobil1572]

“Never give up middot”. Never compromise on character. Absolute BEST advice. There are many wolves in sheeps clothing, and these covert imposters will take you on a wild ride! I love this lecture. Many of the concepts are also from the teachings of the Zohar.

[@fatimahamidi7564]

Dear Rabbi Kin thank you so much for your lectures, I have been watching them for over three years. I love HaShem very much, I wish I was born in a Jewish family. I truly want to convert , I have spoken to a Rabbi about conversion but I was told there is no need for me to convert , I will have a share to the world to come. When I listen to Hebrew words or songs I cannot stop crying, I don't know why?

[@michaelgreene7403]

Dear Fatima, It is customary for rabbis to turn down requests for conversion. Every single potential convert is turned down quite a few times becxause they want to be absolutely certain that this is what you wish to do. Also, as you know, the history of Judaism is filled with millions of us killed not just in the Holocaust but through-out the centuries in Europe. No Jew let alone a rabbi would wish to put you in harm's way. But don't be discouraged because if you persist and keep insisting, your rabbi will relent. And if not, pursue a different rabbi. Also, if you convert do it throught the Orthodox as it seems you are quite spiritual and I believe you will find it more amongst the Orthodox. Also, being Moslem, you might have more in common with the Sephardi branch of Judaism. Too, Lubavich/Chabad Judaism are inviting of people, though you will encounter that same initial resistance. Best of luck to you, Michael

[@Juicing369]

Probably because you were Jewish in other lives. We go in and out of various religions, nationalities and sexes so we can learn tolerance and other lessons of the soul. Ive always felt like a Native American and believe I was in several other lives.

[@skepticalgenious]

@@michaelgreene7403 thank you for this information. As a philosopher it helps to know if anything I write won't be open debate. It will be ignored. Now I can save time from asking pertinent questions to attempt to find truth in this world. Thank you for saving me time

[@littledove1292]

i love jewish people there very smart

[@999foothill]

Well done!!! Thank you!

[@seritaable]

What about rebirth? Some religions believe we come back again (recarnation) if so that could make his view point about someone picking a partner that's younger than him not his soul mate because of her age and that he may choose a women who is young because his right partner could have been killed in Auschwitz? What if he truly loves this younger women however it took him time to find the right one? Nothing wrong with that. And what if this women was killed in the camps and was reincarnated in a younger females body and they just found each other again? So many possibilities to explore. Which makes life fun and interesting. Get all viewpoints it's healthy and apart of being human!!

[@GuardianesdelaTierra13]

🌹

[@misakarancevic8901]

What about complicated cases? I come from the Jewish family who converted into Christianity so I was born in a very Christian home. My experience with the opposite sex is everything but good. Jewish women avoid me, those Christian think I’m weird and too different. I’m right now in a status of Noahide after leaving Christianity and hope for the best yet it’s still going wrong. My life is a mess

[@shamkumar29]

Doesn't matter if other people avoid you. Your relationship with Soul mate is important. Nothing should separate or bother you cos you are married to each other. Forever. Shalom

[@avidmedia2880]

I really liked your answers,This only proves the veracity of this lecture.

[@marniebable]

I wish I would have seen this before I got married 20 years ago.

[@Dragonfly657]

My father is a Romanian Holocaust Survivor!

[@TravelWithMrSamuelSpanish7]

Thank you very much!!!!!

[@Tropicasher]

Amén.

[@labeate]

"physical attraction" is not finding someone or be physical attractive...! for me at least...

[@shylocounts1946]

I am not Jewish either....I am a Scorpio ♏ Woman ♀️ ...All people are interested in joining with a good mate.

[@infopostal]

Converts going crazy.... Your whining can't change what is true. What the rabbi said is the pure truth and pure judaism. If you don't like what the rabbi said, you are not in affinity with true judaism. Therefore, don't convert!!