How to Sing Quietly & Practice Singing When Others Can Hear You

[@TheSeeking2know]

This is less about technical singing and more of a method to overcome mental limitations and emotional stunting from the fear of criticism and judgment. I hope a lot more people find this video and discover their voices over time.

[@VirtualTeachingPro]

I completely agree with you here and thanks so much for voicing this thought.

[@jacksunbbx]

Facts, that's actually a huge step for most people

[@seufimeaqui9034]

Bruh i literally can’t do it, if i could i would but i just cant when my father works right there, in the other room, literally beside mine

[@amandataylor2487]

How do I overcome my mental critical listeners

[@TheSeeking2know]

@@seufimeaqui9034 Yeah that's a challenge indeed.

[@maddalenamissori8741]

I learnt to sing quietly because my parents always told me not to be loud, but because of this I don't know how to sing loudly🤣 when I try to sing loudly I completely lose control of my voice

[@chanelleg9189]

Omg! Same here , my parents always told me not be loud and I learned how to sing quietly

[@charleswaqa4997]

ME TOO!!!!

[@fitt5137]

so relatable 😭

[@meta5175]

Ahhh same!

[@JayyeMusic]

yep i hate it too

[@ralucamm]

I don't know why but I bursted out crying after singing along with you in my blanket. I think something inside my head unlocked, some mental blocker that I wasn't even aware of. I think this was the first time I've felt fully free singing, unafraid of being heard and judged. Thank you so much for sharing this idea with us. For formulating it so well, for taking it beyond a simple trick to muffle out your sound, but for also communicating it on an emotional and psychological level.

[@ElowenFaye]

this is beautiful, thank you for sharing your experience! :)

[@amynelson1682]

Same here. I literally have just busted out in release and crying. I had no idea how scared I am to be heard and Im normally sp loud. But this is clearly the mental block that has me forming bad habits. I want to be heard and I also my psychi must not want me to be heard because Im afraid. I had no idea thay evrty time I feel unheard that I actually stop singing poorly and stop with blocks on my false vocal fold being constricted and what seems like spme other constricted areas.

[@Catthepunk]

I feel like I need that. I just end up laughing and feeling like shit lol.

[@carolinastringband]

​@@Catthepunk I thought for the longest time I'd never be able to sing, and actually sound ok. Too many people told me over the years-Icouldn't, I don't have the voice, etc.. For too long, I believed them, they were wrong! With a little dedication, study, practice and tenacity-you can too! I promise you! Best of luck my friend!

[@Catthepunk]

@@carolinastringband thanks g

[@TheMorganeClub]

This is INCREDIBLE! I’m moving out into an apartment for the first time and I really needed this! SOMETIMES YOU JUST WANT TO SING FOR YOURSELF, not for everyone around can hear you ❤️❤️❤️

[@zubinmistry3656]

Thank you so much . My deepest gratitude for being you. Lots of love to All 😇💞🙏

[@VirtualTeachingPro]

yes 100%!! I feel you on this. I try to find time each week to just sing for me and living in NYC that can be... a little uncomfortable. this trick totally helped.

[@Concosis]

I always say that a good teacher (in any field) is someone who can think FROM the mindset of the student. This sort of intuitive lead allows the student to be cultivated from within, rather simply directed from without. So, thank you always providing such a well rounded experience! I truly grow through your videos!

[@atriyakoller136]

As a teacher I can say that I'm trying to do that but it is super hard. Because every student is so different, and as a student I often have a different goal from other students (I'm a foreign language teacher and my goal is actually to just learn about the language or how it works and functions versus being fluent in communication, I always put it into the secondary position in terms of goals) but it's very important to understand what students need and want and that actually allows me to kind of resonate with them in a way that can make them understand the material better

[@adamh4h4]

@@atriyakoller136 You're fine as long as you have some EMPATHY towards each human you teach / encounter. Problem is when you get some Sociopath + narcissist teacher who don't give a f*ck about your situation and say things like "You're stupid. JuSt Do iT." like a brain-dead, rude idiot. Ultimately, its less of a Teacher / teaching problem but a basic, fundamental Human one. You're fine.

[@kabinskakabunska1669]

What a coincidence 😁 I just "sang" into my blanket yesterday. Although it was more screaming to let go of anger, tension and frustration. I also let music play and sang along sometimes into the blanket 😄👏🏼 Great!

[@yeshuamusic5102]

Wow this was incredible. Not only great for singing but there is deep therapeutic value in this exercise for those affected by trauma in their childhood.

[@BashkirCurlyGirl]

Love this idea, wish I'd known this when I was an apartment-dweller! Two things I noticed when I tried it just now: I laughed myself silly at the thought of my husband walking in on me trying to smother myself, and when I attempted said pillow-singing the cats ran in to check on me with very concerned expressions and meows. 😂

[@lisspunch873]

MY dog did this too!!!! 😂😂😂

[@TheSeeking2know]

They'll get used to it soon.

[@moomoodymoo]

This is exactly what my heart and soul needed 🖤 I feel like I've lost my voice ever since I moved into the college dorms, and then every year after living with roommates or in small apartment. Thank you so much for this! I'm excited to start truly singing again.

[@Sisnomore]

Super helpful tips! Tysm ❤ As a songwriter I am always needing to play around with my voice to figure out the melodies. I feel really self concious about anyone hearing me and it can really put a damper on the creative process.

[@sugah_redd]

Thank you for this because I have pretty much said annoying the crap out of my neighbors is worth not losing my voice and how much progress I’ve made as a singer.

[@billdemaineiii6979]

Oh my gosh… I needed this tip desperately. We live Downstairs. We sold our home in town and build a beautiful place downstairs to help our grandmother out. She lived to be 97. I could sing my heart out down there, because she really didn’t hear me much annnnd… she wasn’t a singer. Then, in the last year and a half… in-laws moved in upstairs. He is an incredible singer and piano player. So I stopped singing fully. Not ‘loud’ as you’d mentioned… but, I sand before in a way that was my true voice, fully supported and flexible. Well, when they moved in… I kid you not, it was like he was in the other room, listening and critiquing. So, I got quieter. I noticed flaws and mistakes. I didn’t ‘express’ properly and healthily. That holding back… hurt my voice. Soon, I was clearing my throat, and just getting worse. Now, with the information your video… I will be able to reach my natural, comfortable level of pressure and easy of just letting it out as pretty as it can be, without the fear of undo and imagined criticism. Thanks so much. I know this is a perfect example of what you were trying to help us with. So I hope my story will encourage you in knowing you’ve really made a difference in not only my singing, but in my daily life. Thank you so much. God bless🙂🙏🏼🙌🏾🎶

[@TavinOriginal]

Literally one of the most BRILLIANT IDEAS EVER! I suddenly feel so free to sing whenever and however I want, thank you so, SO MUCH!

[@ColonelFredPuntridge]

RE: "Two types of singers: those who hesitate and those who overcompensate" Some of us are versatile, and do both!

[@jackcrescend]

Yesssss, I've been using a sing pillow for maybe a year now, it's nice to feel validated :)

[@dwheel39]

Thank for addressing this common problem for us who live in apartments

[@benbenbus]

I feel so mad, I really have never been alone my entire life and it sucks, thank you for helping me quite a bit more, I'm afraid of just everyone telling me to shut up

[@PlayMyDarling]

Can you do more videos that focus on singers' psychology? :D I feel like this is an aspect that is rarely talked about.

[@VirtualTeachingPro]

Yes, I would love more videos on this as well! You are so correct that the psychology of performing isn't talked about openly very often. The more we can have these conversations the more we can really help with the emotional and mental health challenges that come with being in this industry.

[@melavie7119]

Yes please! I also would be interested in that type of content!

[@kathrynclass2915]

I swear you are reading my mind and creating videos for the exact things I am struggling with (in this case) or needing to work on (in past cases). From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU 🥰✨

[@artjunkie19]

I’ve always had a fear of public speaking and a fear of being judged. As I get older it’s gotten worse. I can’t tell you how much I need this right now. Thank you for addressing this.❤

[@nghin4vacsf]

Wow! Why hadn't I thought of this? I can now do my exercises without hesitation. Thank you Ms. Harvey. ▲

[@luckycat2398]

This is all so helpful. I like that you talk about confidence and the fear of being judged. I tend to underestimate how much those things affect me.

[@lisaadams8004]

Finally. A singer that knows how to help quiet voices. Cant wait to try out the blanket method when practicing.

[@paulasposili7572]

I've always sang in the basement of my childhood home. The basement had great acoustics, and it was my safe place to do many other fun activities, play ping pong, roller skate, pool, dance, watch t.v. and sometimes just to have an extra quiet place to fall asleep. 😊

[@johnperry6874]

This is an astonishing breakdown. So glad I found this🎶 THANK YOU

[@viktoriab4293]

It's really about finding the space where you overcome fear of judgement/ an overly critical environment and ask yourself: am i expressing myself fully? 1. Do you hesitate or push more under pressure? Between those is freedom, freedom of expression 2. what do u need to feel safe? 3. Sing into a blanket and see what it feels like then ask: did I express myself fully? And try it out loud. This can help activate intuitive expression.

[@dottie_mayfield]

This video just changed my life ....wow thank you so much wow wow wow wow didn't realize I was walking into such honest introspection of myself and I couldn't be happier this moment came!!!! Omg thank you what!?!?! Ahhh I'm so grateful right now.

[@Almarsu79]

Honestly, that's a true talent and a gift to be able to teach the audience the way you do. THANK YOU SOOO MUCH for your guidance and advices ❣️

[@ca8547]

I learned how to sing quietly because of Morissette because she’s such a good speech level singer. It’s all about speech. Singing is just supported speaking.

[@MichaelAntus]

Wonderful advice Madeleine. Much respect...

[@mobinamohammadi3839]

This was the most helpful thing i’ve learned over anything! because im always that kind of person who hesitates for the exact same reasons you mentioned and never really thought about mentioning it to anyone cuz i thought it’s a me problem so cuz all of that i can only enjoy practicing when im home alone Thanks you sooo much for this💗💗💗

[@cygnelle1232]

Dude what!? This is the wisest, most somatic, most trauma-informed singing advice I've ever heard 👏👏👏

[@arlosethv]

Singing in the perspective of the environment you grew up in is top tier understanding. 🤯

[@zenetheajones2858]

LOVE IT! TRULY GOD SENT!! A BLESSING TO ME! ❤️

[@britony381]

This video has changed my life. Thank you so much ❤❤❤❤❤

[@Bytheewaay]

Wow! This is a great great idea for a video! I've just got the notification and can't wait to see it!

[@Hexspa]

I find that singing with ear buds / iems also helps. After doing this for awhile, I find that I think I’m a lot louder than I am.

[@labrabellart1380]

I have CPTSD, and one of my triggers is being too loud. I have this constant fear that I'm going to bother people by being too loud. I love to hum and sing and I'm desperate to learn to sing more, but this fear gets in my way so much. Here's hoping this video helps me achieve my goals! Edit - 2:22 I wrote my comment before getting to this part. Now I feel called out 😂

[@jacobespinola9335]

Living in an apartment, this is a solid tip and trick. Thank you for sharing.

[@straighttalker3459]

Ha! You have done it again darlin!” It seems you read my mind on a regular basis!!!!

[@phoebenevins9629]

This was so helpful, thank you so much!

[@spookybuk]

Thank YOU for including yourself into my musical journey :)

[@marciavox8105]

Your most recent videos about mindset for singers and inner self-talk have been incredibly helpful! The video about envisioning yourself using your voice in the highest level you wish, and then viscerally feeling those emotions that you will experience in that moment, was extremely powerful! It helped me past a mental block that I have had since I was young. Thank you, and keep it up!

[@zhiarempola]

Thank you for this!💕 Its too accurate for my situation lol it felt like this video was made for me. 🙈

[@chelseadaley9770]

Thx for this I really needed to hear this from someone else that’s actually knows the real truth

[@thewhatnow]

starts at 4:33

[@viniciussanctus]

Best advice i've heard in decades of singing! Thx for that, just improved my singing voice immensely!!!

[@anneaugustin1155]

The therapy session I didn’t know I needed

[@danjosephmusic]

The ‘belt box’ is good for this too, pillows are cheaper, freedom of expression can often be overblown, you articulated so well the balance I think of as no man’s land, the sensation of onset as well as freedom and flow is important, all need to be explored without inhibitions. Thank you 💫

[@ciaopete]

Thank you so much for posting this video. Part singing, part therapy all brilliant. Liked and subscribed :-)

[@VirtualTeachingPro]

These are my fav type of videos just like said with part singing and part therapy :)

[@tanayaberry]

Thank you so much! It was so much easier to sing. Now I know that I could never sing to my fullest potential, even after so much practice, because of my fear of judgement. The cover trick helped a lot! :)

[@ranasinghdeo2299]

Excellent Ma'am 👍👍

[@timotimorrison3448]

Amazing come back to youtube. Glorious intro.

[@madeupname3008]

This is so fun and useful!!

[@kimmynguyen2608]

Exactly what I am looking for love it.. thanks so much 💐

[@Asheuri]

The best vocal teacher on yt

[@pieahgee8180]

My favorite vocal teacher is back 😊😇

[@BetyKawaii]

lovely dress and beautiful voice.

[@VallinSFAS]

My favourite singers: Il Dottore Greg Lake and Annie Haslam My favourite vocals: Pirates and Song For All Seasons My present location: Rooming house in Atlanta Where I learned to sing: Top floor of two-story family home in Rocky Mount, NC that was empty most of the day. I think you see my problem.

[@VallinSFAS]

Unless it's raining I lug my bass and a headphone preamp outdoors all over Midtown Atlanta with all the loud supercharged cars.

[@djblackjackshellac]

I usually do my exercises into a pillow, or into my bare arm for even more deadening. Another tip, if you play guitar or piano: I have a linen mask from covid days. It has an adjustable strap for a tight fit. It also has a pocket for a filter, but instead I put a pair of socks in there. It mutes my full voice by probably 60%. So you can sing and play with no worries.

[@carolinastringband]

Thank you! A practical recommendation!

[@lon90x]

So cool of u, sis❤️

[@justinpiper8756]

Madeleine is Back💥 bigger & brighter than ever💃✨ Yes!!! Thankyou💐🍎

[@elisabethmurrell5179]

Super useful approach! Thank you.💖

[@COG.12]

You explained this very well!

[@VirtualTeachingPro]

THANK YOU! I'm living in NYC and couldn't find a way to practice in my apartment and feel safe while expressing myself fully.

[@victoriaskyful]

An incredible video. You’re amazing for even thinking of and sharing this.

[@Vinitafoto]

Exactly what I needed 😍🙏🏻

[@christianreyesmusica]

so usefull class, thanks so much, this is a really interesting topic and first time I see something about.

[@lekaniko]

This is so useful thank you so much

[@krodby5893]

THIS!! I’ve been searching for this!!! 🔑

[@crash936]

Good hand work

[@TheProtestantPope]

Hi Maddie Harvey, a few years have lapsed since you did my vocal evaluation......just popped in to show you where my voice is at in 2022......it has grown and evolved massively.....religiously been doing scale exercises now I am a vocal beast....a force to be reckoned with all around the neighbourhood and BEYOND. I also notice you no longer offer your vocal evaluation service so this is the best way to reach you with one of my latest video covers. I'll post it separately under this post just in case you block posts with KZbin links this specific post will still be visible. Hope all is well in your life in general and you musical life more specifically. Keep the dream alive for yourself and others.

[@Japtune1]

This is exactly what I need!!!

[@DotsSinging]

Great video Madeleine, I've seen so many students with the same issue. Singing into a wardrobe is another good idea.

[@koogan1965]

Fantastic video. Thank you

[@emokid2916]

Thank you!!!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@powers6253]

This is fantastic!

[@OtaConnor]

Didn't know this was exactly what I needed

[@billdemaineiii6979]

Dang, was that you playing the piano? I knew you were pretty and so smart about singing and human voice anatomy. But, that is one of the prettiest things I’ve ever seen.

[@michaelbernard2797]

This is deep stuff. Thanks!

[@antique5909]

My cat hated the 8:33 but I lOVED IT so relaxing and confidence giving

[@thefmmax]

Thank you oodles for this video. This will surely get my ya yas out without annoying my wife. I wish I’d learnt this years ago. You Rock!!!

[@michaelrobson1627]

This was excellent!! Just subscribed, never seen you before but I'm sitting in my car with my towel (lucky I had one) and that really really helped! Love it!

[@lottasprivevideos8195]

I usually don’t comment on video’s but I just wanted to say: thank you!

[@sugarfreedom]

Funny, I went outside and sang Balfe's I Dreamt I Dwelt In Marble Halls to the chickens last evening. :)

[@tkctrlofevltn]

Thank you so much

[@catch.2022]

This is super useful. Thank you!

[@roiitzkovich4545]

My parents said they'd toss me out of the house if I practice singing, because they don't want me to be a singer since it's very unlikely I'd make any profit of it. To be honest, I never wanted to be a famous singer since fame and popularity is too much for me to handle. I just want to be able to sing well enough I can qualify myself on the same level as those in The Voice or X Factor. I study being a CPA at the university as a means to get a job I can profit from. Singing is merely a hobby. How do I practice singing when it may cost me my living? And don't tell me to explain to them how I feel because I tried MANY TIMES.

[@Myriako]

Thank you so much for this video! 😀🌺

[@SomeOnlinePerson]

OHGODTHANKYOU. I think I'll still be pulling back a lot since it only muffles so much and the way sound travels in this house just makes no sense, but this should make it easier to at least do anything in the first place. The idea of ever being heard has made me nervous for a long time, and that cranked up a lot as my voice has deteriorated through the oh-so-fun mix of HRT during the pandemic (so structural changes, reduced time when I feel confident I won't be heard resulting in basically no practice ever over the past couple years or so, and less reason to even talk out loud). Current goal is just to get used to using my (new) voice again in general, and right now I can't even talk very long before my throat starts getting sore.

[@Rosannasfriend]

This is a good topic for me. Thank you.

[@rafaellavasconcelos3807]

😍 omg it was so helpfull!! Glad I found you 🌷

[@apg4068]

Love the new intro!!! Yes!!!

[@AnaBlackOrchid]

Hahahahahah I think "how not to bother everybody around you" would be also a great title for this video 😂😂😂

[@calabriafoti4508]

Thank you so much!!!

[@GeorgeBreadman]

Cool trick!

[@vickac]

That INTRO THOUGH 🙌😍

[@josueacunauwu]

Some days ago I was singing a love song with my door closed while my mom was downstairs. I thought she wasn't hearing me, but when I went down I realized how loud my voice was. She didn't say anything but I felt very ashamed although my singing voice is getting better. I know it's no use just to sing for myself and not let anyone listen to me, but I'd like to improve more before the day they do. The real problem is: when will that day be?

[@pamelaquesada9720]

I can’t believe that I found this video! That’s exactly how I feel when I want to rehearsal and I can’t sing or play my piano because there is people around me…Thank you so much! 🤍🎹🤍