How to Sleep Train Your Baby or Toddler WITHOUT Using Cry It Out

[@EmilyWagner-z1g]

This is super helpful!

[@yourzenbabysleep]

Awesome! I'm so glad you found it helpful!

[@ST-lt4ls]

This is really helpful!! Thank you! I’m 47 with a 3 year old who stopped sleeping thru the night as soon as he turned three. We’ve tried everything and got into some bad habits…rocking, co sleeping, and here I am 2 1/2 months later. I am starting this tonight! And the paci is going in the trash.

[@yourzenbabysleep]

You've got this!!! So happy that it was helpful!

[@sammyydell886]

How has it been for you? Did this help at all?

[@ST-lt4ls]

@@sammyydell886 we are still dealing with it. But I believe the underlying issue is iron deficiency. He has been a lot better for a few weeks now since he is getting a good vitamin with iron. I’m about to try the chair method again now that he is doing better.

[@agatalise5708]

thank you so much, for being so honest and specific with these information, my baby is almost 7 months and i’ve tried putting him on his crib and expect him to sleep on his on, but i have had given up, because he cries so hard, but im gonna try the earbuds tip and give it another go. Since his sleep has gotten so much worse after learning how to crawl. I wonder how would I know when to breastfeed him, or whether he still needs those feeds. ( usually 2 - 3 feeds)

[@yourzenbabysleep]

You're so welcome! Baby sleep can be tricky, but finding useful resources can really take the mental load off of parents. As far as feedings, I would check with your pediatrician to see what they recommend in terms of night feeds. In general, at this age, some babies are feeing 1 time per night if they are breastfeeding, while others can make it through the night with no feeding. In order to honor the nursing relationship and maintain supply, I usually recommend selecting a "feeding window", usually some time between 12:00 and 2:00 a.m., and offering a feeding during that time period. Then treat all other wakings with the method!

[@agatalise5708]

last night was night 3 using the method, but the first night I took his pacifier, he actually slept well and so did I!! I breastfed him around 00:30 and again 5am which its been messing up the rest of the morning feeds, but it feels like progress. Just wanted to thank you again.

[@yourzenbabysleep]

@@agatalise5708 I'm so happy you're making progress and that you've found the video helpful! It makes my day

[@jamie541]

Great video, thank you for explaining the method so well. Our 2 year old has always relied on being rocked to sleep, but over the last week or so we have managed to progress to him falling asleep whilst we are in a chair by his bed. So tonight we will give it a go with the chair closer to the door! My only concern is, whilst the put downs have improved hugely, he seems to be waking a lot more at night (3-4 times), and will only accept mum coming in to soothe him. I think it’s clear he has separation anxiety, but do you have any suggestions or experience in how to deal with these night wakings?

[@yourzenbabysleep]

Happy that this is helpful! Check out my video on separation anxiety for more info on how to manage this during sleep training: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mYbOn6xja99_ac0

[@cadetdavis4458]

how should i start. I've been co sleeping since day one and breastfeeding to sleep and night feeds. she will be one oct 4th. where should i start. I'm a first time mom.

[@yourzenbabysleep]

Hi mama! The first thing to make sure you have is a PLAN. Once you feel good about your plan, start at bedtime and implement all of the elements of your plan/method. I don't recommend gradually introducing changes as this can cause confusion and more protest. Your child is brilliant and can learn new things- this is the way you will be teaching them a new skill! You've got this!

[@lydiabrown818]

I just tried the chair method for the first time with my 8 month old for his nap who had been co-sleeping and side-nursing 1-3 times a night. He cried and banged his head for 25 min but I didn’t give in and pick him up. I just rubbed him and reassured him and he fell asleep after 25 min and whimpered with short breaths for another 7 min and then was peacefully sleep until a loud noise awoke him about an hour later. Wasn’t sure what to do at this point.

[@yourzenbabysleep]

Hi! I'm proud of you for making the choice to sleep train in a way you feel comfortable with!! Once you decide to implement chair method, you do the same method for every single waking, whether it's a natural waking from the baby or unexpected waking due to environmental sound. This teaches consistency and helps the baby feel confident in the consistent response. I would highly recommend a sound machine with pure white noise set to 70 decibels to avoid wakings from loud noises!

[@lydiabrown818]

@@yourzenbabysleep got it! Thanks a lot. ☺️

[@Theandersonfam178]

What if my baby likes to eat a couple times at night? Would I feed him, etc and then sit in the chair? also, my baby will not go to sleep until 11:40pm, I am starting this chair method tonight

[@yourzenbabysleep]

I always refer to pediatrician guidance to determine the appropriate number of night feeds based on age and weight. Typically when a child reaches 4 months old, they may have 1 night feed. By the time a baby is 7 months and being offered solid foods, I recommend dropping night feeds with pediatrician approval. If this is a nutritionally necessary night feed and not a snack, then feed the baby and then begin the method again. You've got this!

[@andreeastroe8264]

Hello! Thank you for this video!! Starting what age can we start to implement this method?

[@yourzenbabysleep]

You're welcome! You can start when your baby is 16 weeks old

[@1pocinha]

How can I train for naps if my baby is at the nursery? he is 9.5m old and currently on 2 naps, he is EBF which ofc he is still waiking up at night. should I wean him before sleep train? He also doesn't take the bottle tho so this makes it more difficult.

[@yourzenbabysleep]

Great question! If you want to maintain the breastfeeding relationship, you are absolutely able to sleep train and nurse! First step is to talk to your pediatrician to make sure your baby does not need those night feedings and systematically wean down the length of time at the breast. Next step is to put him in the crib awake, so that he is not associating the breast with sleep. You can still breastfeed during the day, don't need to introduce bottles, and expect him to sleep through the night at this age! if you have a non-nursing partner, it is recommended to have them do the first few nights of chair method, in order to support the baby as he learns that nursing is no longer being offered overnight.

[@frenchteacheraika1819]

Hi there! I started to sleep training my 6-month-old baby, so far a bit over a week it only works for morning nap… baby cries hysterically for evening nap so i give him breast and we co-sleep at night. He wakes up many times at night (over 4) and i can only prolong his sleep with breast. How to teach him to be able to prolong his sleep on his own? It must be hard to put up with 20-min crying in the middle of the night…

[@yourzenbabysleep]

Hang in there, mama! Sleep training is definitely not easy, but once you make the choice to move forward, it's essential that you are completely consistent for all phases of sleep. He can likely fall asleep for his morning nap because he's exhausted from the night before but then continues his overtired cycle the remainder of the day. If you are sleep training, putting him in his own crib is definitely going to be easier on him and result in less crying. Feel free to check out my website for information on booking on-on-one support with me! www.yourzenbabysleep.com