How to stand out from other women

How to Stand Out from Other Women.
Settling For Success: askchazzellis....

[@MsAyoFashola]

women try to compete and stand out based on looks but women who win use their mind.

[@loveandlight_]

Chocolate Divine 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@Tumetouches]

Kudos

[@leofeza9325]

Yup

[@leesetthebar3780]

Yasssssss sis

[@nakiyacooke8840]

Big FACTS

[@cerinagyamfi3333]

I will never chase a man... That's not my place as a woman.

[@maryhudson3420]

cerima amen i dont chase a man

[@BeautyMarkBeautyMark]

Cerina Gyamfi 🙏🏾

[@MeganDanee]

💥

[@juanelawson9775]

@Elle Est Mentale how is this really working for you.Ms elle?

[@tava1987ify]

Cerina Gyamfi you missed the whole point sis

[@DB-ed6si]

To be set apart from other women is to be a woman after God's heart. You will shine brighter and more beautiful.

[@ladyshenna967]

That's what I'm saying.

[@taliyafaith]

That can also attract the wrong guys 😑😑😑😑

[@SherriDLLove]

@@taliyafaith So very true .

[@oreoslove4760]

A woman after God’s heart isn’t necessarily looking for the man most women want or the “lady’s” man bc he’s definitely not after God’s heart of bc he has options and is likely a womanizer.

[@aneshrathomas]

Def agree🌟

[@metrini]

I separated myself by walking away. He had way too many options and stringing me along. I had wasted enough time on that situation

[@Becomingawifepodcast]

I really just feel whatever is for you is for you. You attract what you are ready for

[@taliyafaith]

Good point

[@cesttmoii]

This gave me more life advice than relationship advice, thank you so much.

[@askchazzellis]

They are really one in the same.

[@wizlady7182]

Exactly I always preach this same sermon.

[@1Skorpia]

You right about these women bragging about their relationships. I look at their guys and would never want them. Also I found out women lie their asses off to friends and family about their happiness. I rarely see true happiness, respect,admiration and kindness that's mutual. It happens but it's rare.

[@eatmeatandliftweights5754]

You are correct

[@tamiller76]

skorpia g Facts!

[@realtalk675]

skorpia g i agree

[@LovelyAlice92]

Period

[@meljc2823]

Like diamonds 💎❤️🙏🏼😊

[@erikazella5225]

You’re right! I stepped up my fitness health and life game period after having a massive stroke. But my relationship got stronger bc he has a respect for me he didn’t have before bc i have a-respect for myself I didn’t-have before. A bad situation changed my life and love.

[@jennyg495]

Congrats to you girly! Keep doin you ☺

[@askchazzellis]

Wow, great story. You should be very proud of yourself because a lot of people just give up when faced with adversity and look for someone to blame but you stepped up and of course that made him respect you more.

[@galinaioffe2250]

Erika B. You can step up your fitness making your body more attractive but it won't make you more valuable to a man who think of you and women in general as a piece of meat

[@jamillecollins364]

Erika B. ..i am glad that you recovered from your stroke and that some relationships got better...God is with you and i believe that it's only going to get better for you in EVERY area of your life.

[@4everu984]

Thanks for your share! My exact same experience with cancer and my husband. Here’s to our health and happiness!

[@queenlele6193]

I give up when it comes to dating . I’ll just focus on my career .

[@quarentinedlove2903]

Queen LeLe smart move seriously

[@annc7739]

Queen LeLe, you made a wise life decision.

[@MissLexi333]

But where do you draw the line between doing too much vs giving someone space who has given up on you. Men can be persistent and eventually get the girl, but a woman chasing a man is a dangerous game to play. If she's high value she won't chase a man.

[@metrini]

Agreed. I assessed the situation and decided it was time to move on

[@ladymaiden2308]

kay c .... that's one way of looking at it. On the other hand, sometimes a strong woman can go after what she wants. unapologetically. I'm not sure I would use the word Chase, but perhaps... Intrigue him through skilled Pursuit? just long enough to draw him on? Checkmate?

[@tanitrarobinson7477]

You got that right! I wish I would chase....

[@beigeslifestyle726]

This is LIFE advice. Forget the man. Thanks

[@janilisaac7882]

Stand out by being yourself and the right persons will be attracted to you. As opposed to getting into a relationship with someone you thought you knew only for the relationship to fail because someone has changed. And if you're very serious about being in a relationship then the advice from this video is worth accepting.

[@innocentcoco]

I agree with what you are saying but would also add that a woman should know herself, what she is looking for, and create standards for herself from that...those standards remove the men who aren’t meant for her and attract the men who are.

[@ShantiLoveShantiOmMoore]

I appreciate this video. As the unofficial get ghost queen, this is something that I’ve actually felt convicted to change lately. Shutting down makes it difficult to connect with people. Not to mention, when you’re always burning bridges it limits the places that you can go. Getting chilly sometimes is still a default mechanism but at least I’m burning fewer bridges these days. 😊 Thank you for the insight.

[@monameesha3700]

Shanti Om 😂I'm the Ghost Queen of Hearts. IDK if I can shake that because I've kissed a lot of frogs and know how the story ends so when I get a hint that something ain't right, I'm out... I always want to beat men at their game. Fuck getting my feeling hurt or being disappointed. ✌

[@taliyafaith]

Wow that's true

[@fluttershy2816]

Wow! You definitely stand out from all the other relationship coaches out there on KZbin for me. You actually inspire me to be my best self and you take a very holistic approach in help shaping one's personality. Respect man! 🙏🏾

[@latinsensationgurl27]

You are so right, I never thought about it this way but it's so true. I am currently with that guy you mentioned at the end who I friend zoned and he stayed consistent, he definitely stood out from what I am use to and I am glad I gave him a chance. Thank you Chazz!!

[@askchazzellis]

Nice, it does work.

[@svemir6333]

Sladja

[@theresamischeski71]

I stand out way to much because I'm naturally friendly, It's a curse btw, I am not beautiful just average, but because I'm always smiling men flock even at 46....I think smiling is a key? .

[@centuryfiles9558]

Be kind kiwi true true

[@lawandajones7946]

And that’s my strongest asset is smiling along with my positive attitude and confidence. You are so true men from everywhere and all races flock to me all the time. And other women get jealous and be like how is she getting all the attention.🤗

[@blueblaze9862]

Yes for some reason men love smiling..even when I smile like a goofy idiot

[@Milli2025]

Men love when women smile. Almost as if they are getting a sign of approval. They are really drawn to it!

[@ImWORTHITINC]

You’re so right about everything chase! Success in life is all about mindset! Be different from everyone else make yourself more valuable and you’ll be valued more!!

[@wshelby83]

Ouu I like this!!

[@whyme3546]

Some can’t just admit they hurt him more than he does . He is a human too. Great advice❤️

[@hipnhappenin]

I like the Michael Jordan analogy. It’s about mindset. Regardless of the situation

[@steph8703]

everything in life is a business deal👌👌💯

[@Jyvonne]

Wow! Spot on for me! Especially starting at 6:52. Failing in all aspects of life, over here. Changes to be made. Thank you for the eye opener.

[@ambers5256]

Me too! I need someone to tell me how it really is sometimes. Hoping for positive changes for 2018

[@askchazzellis]

Mastering Attraction: 101 (Why We Are Attracted) The reason that most people find themselves struggling to attract the opposite sex or get the attention that they need to establish relationships is because they really don’t understand attraction. When you don’t understand why people are attracted to each other or what makes a one person pay attention to another then it is very difficult to do the right things to be considered attractive. This premium video will show you why people are attracted to certain people and not others, so that you can begin to understand what you need to do in order to get more attention so that you can have more options. Mastering Attraction: 102 (How to Find Your Niche) Most people think that attracting the opposite sex is about looking a certain way, having a certain amount of money and even having a specific set of personality traits. People are generally taught that you either have the looks of Brad Pitt, the financial security of Oprah and the comedic timing of Kevin Hart or you are left out in the cold. This isn’t true because every physical and personality trait has its positives and negatives. Some people won’t date a person that looks like Brad Pitt because they think that he would be conceited, and they won’t date someone with money like Oprah because they think that she would be selfish. Even comedic timing can work against you because some people would think that you wouldn't take anything seriously. The real keys to attracting the opposite sex are: knowing who you are and what you bring to the table, finding places that are best for your attributes and connecting with the people that will appreciate what you have the most. This premium video will show you how to discover yourself and then figure out how to use that discovery to be the most desirable person in the room not by changing who you are but by putting yourself into a room that is just right for you. Mastering Attraction: 103 (Targeting Who You Want) To really like you, someone has to know you and see that you are consistently showing them the person that caught their attention in the first place. The more they see you, the more comfortable they become with you but this can also work as a double edged sword because when someone becomes too comfortable, they tend to stop putting forth the effort. This phenomenon is the balancing act between having mystery and creating familiarity. One has to balance letting someone get to know them without being such an open book that the other person gets bored. This premium video will show you how to use familiarity to build value and attract the person that you want while also maintaining a degree of mystery that will keep them wanting to know more and more each day. Save 15% with coupon code: ATTRACTTHEM sellfy.com/p/bwsF/

[@elysianjameson9151]

I used to watch a lot of these dating videos and they never helped. They are almost always single men giving relationship advice & pretty much telling you to constantly do and not do things to keep a man or please him. The way you explained things made a lot of sense to me, I love the business perspective.

[@ShantiMaria]

At the beginning I didnt know which direction this was about to go but this is really helpful, Thanks! 💙

[@siasia483]

I used to be like that and he fell head over heels in love with me, even though at first glance he seemed completely out of ma league. But the minute I got too comfortable with him and stopped improving myself (believing that he will love me anyway) I lost the game and God, it was A BIG, BIG fall. Lessons learned...

[@beyourbest27]

And those people are often grown up in an toxic environment and/or a home where the parents are overly scared, overprotected, look at things a certain way. Take away obstacles of their children which they should learn from themselves. Everything in the name of 'love', and 'care'. They grow up as insecure adults without responsibility. Often they had a tough life because of that and now have a hard time finding their way in life and great relationships(which everyone wants deep inside)

[@claire-ui6pu]

Lydia Hirzallah yes I was way overly protected and had no clue how to navigate relationships. Or career or school or just walking down the street to take a bus lol. It’s all about working on yourself

[@jesuslovesyou7390]

Hey Chad Ellis!!! First one to comment lol Ive been watching you for years and you still keep it real and hilarious. Blessings to you and your family in 2018. God bless you

[@askchazzellis]

Thank you, blessing to you and yours also.

[@MagikMO]

I know I’m late responding to this thread but you have my abs hurting from laughing “look at their spouse...” “ H*ll No”! Hilarious Thanks for that. Sooo true

[@azra6706]

Your videos change my life on a consistent basis. I hope you never stop! Can't wait to purchase your book when I can afford it. Love from Connecticut 💜

[@aladyindeed2604]

This is one of the most valuable vids ever. God bless you.

[@erikazella5225]

Oh you listened to me, creating this video! What a man. (Smile) you listen.

[@suzannengotedga]

From when it was requested, the video came out quickly. Thank you Chazz!

[@cerinagyamfi3333]

I love you Chazz you are so smart and educated and REAL!!!! WOMEN need to hear this. Thank you.

[@alwaysgrateful7156]

Thanks for listening to us! You're fucking awesome 😁 the other video was a tease! Haha thanks for getting down to the niddy griddy thumbs up👍

[@madeaqueen2251]

Don’t be part of the “game” folk like to play.... that’s a definite way to stand out. And be about things that go against the grains of what society or the hype tries to normalize that isn’t right or normal. be about what pleases God. ✊🏽

[@lauradidntdoit117]

Omg so true....yes just be kind. I'm not checking someone unless we are exclusive about calls..you look at these guys like an interview. And a series of them. Quit getting caught up so fast. Ask questions and LISTEN!!!!

[@em-hv9ct]

"I'm not trying to be funny" LOL

[@dragonaries5251]

You make me laugh 😅🤣that sarcasm, why even care about someone who doesn't care about you? Know your worth, nothing to blame😏😅

[@laurelwright9705]

As always, an amazing word full of wisdom...THIS is why I keep coming back to watch your videos... You are amazing, Chaz!

[@laurelwright9705]

Katalabix - Thank you!! Same to you!! :-)

[@askchazzellis]

Thank you

[@dreamsofkiera7155]

I feel like this advice is gonna fly right over most of y'all heads. But everything that you said makes perfect sense to me! Thanks for the great advice :)

[@shiningstar7643]

That was explosive and mind provoking. You made so much sense. I have never heard anyone explain it the way that you have. Thank you. I think I'll check out a few more you videos and hear what you have to say. It made me look at myself in a different perspective not just the other person.

[@llanneg.v.c545]

1. Change your mindset (make yourself more valuable to stand out from the rest ).

[@keshakellogg5995]

I love this channel, Chazz! I love your comparison of dating to doing what you'd do in a career. Thanks for giving women such square advice!

[@katizzle92]

I can't tell you how much I needed this video!

[@noziphowabatagore3765]

MINDSET! This video is so empowering. From what l got from it... It really means stop taking things personally and it doesn't mean chase men.. Just means u also av to realize your agency and control over your life.

[@debonywesley]

All-over, one of the best and well-put videos I've seen. Thank you

[@Puddgal3411]

Sir, you are a wise man! You are kind, sharp, smart, and very handsome. I have taken the control back from people who want to control, knowingly or unknowingly, all parts of my life, And most definitely in my romantic//dating relationships. You are the trill!

[@bremarie3442]

This advice is for a certain type of situation. like if you trine be with a celebrity, man with money, or high social position. basically a man most women would openly agree to be with. or a guy who might not be those things but thats the kind of perception or pedestal you put them on. so if you happen to run in this situation where you feeling him, you want him but he has other options, then you gotta stick out. this is depending upon the type of men you date

[@charmecharme876]

You're My Favorite on KZbin!

[@askchazzellis]

Thank you

[@allurekushgoddess5103]

askchazzellis you are handsome fella

[@VirgosGroove3]

Glad I found this page. Good advice, Time to binge watch :)

[@justinejackson1409]

Can you please do a video on how women can recover after acting crazy with a guy they’re dating . How can she get him back if he’s ignoring her after she went crazy on him?

[@laylabrown6875]

Give it up. You lost him lol

[@claudilla]

Dani Le'jai Link?

[@askchazzellis]

I made a video about that topic, I'm sure that one of these folks have a link to it.

[@WithloveTrinize]

What did you do?

[@clarissaxplainsitalll]

I snapped on my man really mean and hard about month ago and I didn't want to but I let it go and assumed it was over till he called me a couple of days ago. Come to find out he's been waiting on me to call. He said that our connection was too strong to let that incident be the end of it. We just spent Valentine's together and are taking it day by day. So if it's meant to be it'll be. Don't give up on someone who could be the one

[@JamieFSpiritualServices]

I like that you applied it to business. Yes, personal experience. Yes, my value went up in most aspects and getting better in my life. Thank you for reminding me and confirming that! Nice! ✌️

[@rochelledickson2536]

Love how clearly you speak

[@galinaioffe2250]

Difference between a business and a relationship is in business YOU CAN get a further education and step up. Relationship on other hand is different because if your partner does not see your worth apparently you have no worth TO HIM so YOU DO go and find someone to value you for who you are and what you offer

[@kyanaguidry4208]

Your voice is like a mix between will smith and Eddie Murphy 🤔

[@missmargmillionaire6421]

OMG nothing in life has been more accurate!

[@casey5535]

😆 🤣

[@deborahdole9193]

Great advice. I needed it right about now. Changing my mindset and embracing my Feminine Mystery. Opening the door to all that is possible.

[@AlishaConn]

This is the best advice ever!

[@ashleyj4841]

So you’re saying do all of this for a man. Half the time when you get them and they’re but then cheat later so what’s the point. I have been a great women and during the dating stages I’ve been patient I didn’t care about anyone else and I didn’t act crazy.Now I’m in the relationship stage and he’s cheating now what. I left does that men I whined instead of fixing the situation no I left because I deserve fucking better. Do you have video for that? If not cool but doing all of that only to be cheated on ain’t worth it

[@ashleyj4841]

they never admit it deny deny

[@lccanimations]

Ashley J I totally agree. People always say work on your mindset, but that has nothing to do with the other person. As a man, I've dated so much and I'm tired of the women playing games. People want to say you picking the wrong people. My question is, "How do I know that without making contact with them first other than if they show me signs at initial contact? You don't know. So you are so correct. Sometimes it isn't you, it can definitely be the other person if you have done everything right

[@askchazzellis]

My videos are only for a certain kind of person.

[@icycici]

Check out Esther Perel. Shes excellent at dismantling the crisis of infidelity and its effects on a person's self-identity, The identity of the relationship, and having the courage to trust again. Good luck to your healing Queen!! ✊🏽

[@coppersense999]

askchazzellis whoa I'm surprised that's your response. She may come across as angry but no surprise, she was betrayed. But you have videos on cheating. I don't see you limiting yourself by saying you only have a certain kind of viewer. If I believed that I guess I wouldn't be here. Common sense and real talk is for everybody.

[@user-gu6vf3je1d]

One of your best videos and topics. It’s the secret juice women who have a man don’t tell. Exactly what they did to get him.

[@laurelwright9705]

Funny, this is actually helping me when it comes to my new job. Just today, I considered quitting, but you nailed it. I need to DIG IN so that I can improve my skills and stand out at work. I think the potential for a new relationship will fall into place naturally as a result. You ROCK, Chazz!! Thank you for your wisdom! ;-)

[@realtyIIreality]

I'm confused... so ur saying stay in the situation ??? Why wouldn't you leave a situation your not happy with . Or dont want. Wouldn't staying devalue you

[@nettas5437]

Great perspective! Never heard things explained this way before.

[@debbiethompson14]

You won me over man! I subscribed.

[@shawnadelnae2770]

Mad I just now found your channel! New subbie🤗. It's nice to see a guy's honest perspective. I have been guilty of just walking away from things just because I'm not the only one during the "talking stage". Now the last time this happened, me and the guy were getting close and I thought a relationship was close until he basically told me i wasn't the only one he was spending time with. I definitely sent that "have a nice f#@%%ng life" text!!! You're right. You have to know where to draw the line in order to not be played, but go for what you want... if that makes sense lol.

[@Narcissisticbehaviors]

Thank you. You are educating your followers. I appreciate you! Keep up the good work.

[@shaia76]

This is why men are not standing in their power. We gotta collectively do better ladies. Even if many refuse to lower standards, men can just move on to the others desperate enough to be willing to put him on a pedestal.

[@ParadoxxFoxx]

best thing i heard in a while ...thanks chaz

[@cerinagyamfi3333]

I also made a comment on a pic when you were little and you hit me back... I was shocked. You make time for your followers. Ty. You are Real.

[@CompleteBeautyTreat]

Lmao love you ... “have a nice life you are a LOSER” 😂😂😂🤗🤗🤗

[@priscamvondo9234]

Good good discovered the channel today n already liiiiikeee it!!!

[@beecosmo6887]

You've been suggested to me by youtube 😟 .. ok new subscriber. YOU HAVE GREAT TOPICS.. Handsome Denzel Morris mix😉.. I would luv to see you talk topics with collabs or company .Virgo BX Amor 😎💙👍 Binging on ur vids💞

[@audrey9640]

Straight to the point ! Thank you 😊

[@Jocelynavila999]

You are speaking FACTS THANK YOU

[@karengrace4309]

Always appreciate your insight . Merry Christmas to you and your loved ones .

[@ccd5942]

It’s good to hear stuff from a man’s perspective

[@lonewolfbusinessconcierge354]

Trying to be valuable to another person before you're valuable to yourself only makes you a FUCBOI magnet. You are who you attract. If you love yourself, those who can and will love you will be DRAWN to you.

[@kellyfinley4419]

Fucking love this. This is real as fuck, I love your real talk. #nottryingtobefunnyBut yes, relationships would be so much more enjoyable with a business mindset

[@pla4825]

5:45 You are so spot on 🤣

[@parisryan2012]

This is great advice 👏🏾thank you

[@pT123-q2k]

Stop assuming and actually articulate your self before you get in your emotions. Be open what he might be feeling about the relationship and other things Give him space don’t hound him or smother him 24/7

[@desireehaoses4135]

You teaching us to stand out look at it as a business but how?

[@ryt7878]

This video is excellent life advice thank you I just subscribed. I love your positive attitude and encouragement! You give us examples that resonate really well.

[@astra7015]

Enjoying pragmatisme more than ever in my mice lately. It makes you feel safe again

[@StaciSimpson]

Thank you so much. I really appreciate this.

[@stephencoleman4424]

She's a natural.

[@MegaLadylove2012]

The guy Im seeing and I had this conversation the other day. I was a lil frustrated bc he hasn’t been putting efforts into going out or planning dates. Truth be told, he asked me out few times and I didn’t feel like going out at tht time. His frustration was why would I cont to do something if the other person doesn’t even act as if she’s into this. You barely call or hit me up and when I do, it takes u forever to reply.’ I was annoyed at first and thought he was playin this blame game. Thought abt it some more, and said to myself, he’s right. Would I cont I continue to put in efforts with a guy who barely calls or me and take hrs and hrs to respond to my text?’ Probably not. Truth be told, this human isn’t perfect. Not even the slightest, however, he has been the most patient with me bc God knows how many times I’ve tried to breakup with him and he stills comes bk and say, let’s talk abt it. Deep down I know the things I do or say has absolutely NOTHIN to do with him rather everything to do with how ‘I feel abt myself’ at this current moment. Once again, this is real talk. You gotta change how your mentality in order to find success or happiness in any situation bc at the end of the day, everything comes down to how you feel abt you

[@sionnach8]

Awesome, Chazz! Thank you for the great advice.

[@Travelerofthesouth]

Why didn't I discover this 2 years ago! Thank you!

[@ashleymays3789]

I love this you really opend my eyes to somethings.. Hope its not tolate!!!

[@katerinachristodoulou9878]

Woah this is really good advice

[@LocdAnnLuvly]

This advice is tight but it's right! Thank you!

[@lilprz7719]

Great video with great advice!

[@bethanysims3320]

Great advice Chazz!

[@LadyCharity]

I think the main challenge is women process experiences and communicate completely different than men...we are not looking at a relationship like a business transaction--well most of the time we are not lol...so it creates a level of dissonance most of us will overlook. My discovery is women are socialized a certain way which is not beneficial to us when it comes to relationships so we have to work towards finding the harmony with our desires of a loving and fruitful relationship. Obviously it can apply to men too in some nuances but women are more greatly impacted because we are socialized to value getting and keeping or having a man even if the man is with someone else...it is unfortunate...researching ways to shift my energy so it is more feminine, receptive and inviting. This is what ladies need to do and not blame a new guy for an old guy's issues...Generalities will not serve us in any capacity. Becoming the love I desire and deserve has helped me too!

[@itsmiasaunders9678]

Good point... i should start looking at relationships like a business... like it's a job. Will keep you posted on how this goes

[@wshelby83]

How has it gone?

[@christinathembisile2496]

Makes perfect sense thank you 🙏🏽

[@jjacks57]

Love it!! Love your honesty.

[@visam28]

Thanks for the videos they are really good.

[@JennyAnneV127]

You provide great advice, thank you!