how to start a self love journey, become your own "it girl" & make REAL friends.. solo date night 💗

[@ivbwatchwithme8501]

The fact that girls are skin lightening breaks my heart as a dark skin girlie. Thank you for your vulnerability as always, queen! It helps more than you know! Also I cannot wait until I have your book in my hands! I can already tell that’s going to help me on my self-love journey too.

[@eliciagoguen]

Aww thank you so much I can’t wait for you to get it!!! 🤍

[@simplylayxx]

The part about friends was so relatable. I'm 22, but I feel like I'm more of a conversational friend than a hang-out type of friend because I am ambivert (but introvert-leaning), I'm not a nightlife person cause I don't like drinking and I also do not like commuting by myself at night. I feel like Iike I would like hanging out more if people made earlier plans and wanted more out-of-the-ordinary experiences than just drinking or eating at restaurants.

[@coreyrobinson1900]

3 videos this weekend and a book coming out. Beautiful with an insane work ethic 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥❤️🙏🏾

[@Sandyficslick]

I think my mother thought she would protect me from getting hurt by telling me being brown was not attractive to people outside of my country. So when I traveled and lived abroad I had that mindset for the longest time and whatever rejection or lack of attention I experienced, I related it to the fact me being me and having my looks and skin color was the cause. And It was heartbreaking. I Wanted to be someone else. I wished I was prettier in a DIFFERENT SENSE. But that was cause of that early conditioning. But what if I changed my mindset and viewpoint about myself right? I love the way you expanded on the self love in this video Elicia. Thank you for the wonderful reminders.

[@mochikitten745]

so proud of your realization journey !! you're beautiful. wishing you the best of luck

[@Sandyficslick]

@@mochikitten745 thank you hun. Wishing you the very same

[@kaytlynngantner1111]

Women are wonderfully beautifully and uniquely made 💕

[@eliciagoguen]

Yes 🥹🤍

[@unlikebee]

Listening to your podcast and channel is really changing my inner dialogue! Thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge with us all

[@eliciagoguen]

Aww I’m so happy to hear this!! You’re very welcome ☺️

[@bandanarathore]

In my country there are vaginal whitening creams. Which are so so dangerous. My gynae told me to not even use soap down there everyday, just warm water. Think how much harm those creams will do. 😢😢. In education psychology we learn that the things that get ingrained in us due to primary socialization (home and immediate social circle) can be very difficult to overcome even with secondary socialization ( school, college, job, external society). It is very much necessary to create healthy home environment. Most of the time body /outer appearance shaming starts from home, either by parents or relatives (when our parents do not stop them or counter them)

[@eliciagoguen]

You’re so right!!! It’s so sad 😞 I’m glad you’re learning this in school! All we can do is use our voices and uplift not only ourselves but those around us that might need it. 🙏🏼🤍

[@marthag9471]

Love this video! Can really relate as a mixed race woman. I was out the other night and so many people gave me compliments about my natural curly hair😊 Social media trends have really messed with many womens' self esteem and before social media it was society 'norms'.

[@inprogress9757]

Girl a book???? It BETTER be international release, can't wait!!

[@eliciagoguen]

Yes babe!!!! Linked in my description but depending on where you live & but your books just type in my books name to find it 🥰🤍

[@Ritikasharma-o8c]

I totally relate to you!! Im regards to body I have a small chest amd a bloated stomach and lines...like a fatty person which is made fun of by even ny parents...And my bestie yoo she said well you don't have curvess...Like a female should have...And also she said that you dont have cleavage this dress wouldn't suit you....Idk gurll I started hating myself.. even the boy I used to love he said you look like a child and all...idk why people want me to look in a certain way...its like they will only like me if I have a perfect body..cuz of this I never found true friends...I have learnt to live alone now... honestly it is peaceful than surrounded by those people...idk If I will ever find my girlfriendss but first I wamt to be my girlfriend...I want to give and love everything my soul and body needs🥺🌕

[@eliciagoguen]

This is beautiful and exactly how you should be thinking 🤍 I’m so sorry that people were so insensitive to you ❤️

[@janessalopezzz]

you knew exactly what i needed to hear so thank you so much. you're the bigger sister i've always wanted and i'm so glad i found your channel months ago! i feel so much comfort when you post, ily girl 🤍

[@eliciagoguen]

Aww babe you’re so sweet 🥹 I always look forward to your comments!! Love you SO MUCH 🤍🥰

[@GabrielaAkasha]

This is the most positive video of yours in my opinion!!! Your energy feels so clear and so compassionate! You’re amazing thank you. This really helped me, I struggle with negative self talk so much and it really hit home with talking about rejecting yourself for survival.

[@eliciagoguen]

Wow thank you so much for saying this 🥹🤍🥰 and I’m so happy this video helped!!

[@genevapatterson6629]

I love love LOVE your channel! I think it's so important especially for young girls to follow you, to be honest. You mentioned that you'd been struggling with your natural hair for a long time, would it be too much to ask for a hair care routine video?

[@eliciagoguen]

Thank you so much 🥰🤍 I have a few on my channel already actually! One of them is in the video of “quite confidence tips”, shower routine & I think another video when I talk about self-love 🤍

[@genevapatterson6629]

Thank you so much! @@eliciagoguen

[@ikabby6482]

Took me a long time to realize I had internalized racism against myself. I had a similar situation to you, growing up surrounded by mostly white people as a mixed girl. Thanks for talking about it ❤

[@alyssam3834]

HAPPY BOOK RELEASE DAY!! mine will get here next week :,) can't wait to dive in!! xoxoxo

[@eliciagoguen]

AHHH THANK YOU!!!🥰 I’m so excited for you to get it and I can’t wait 🥹🤍

[@GetElevatedWithMe]

Sis when I tell you I missed you and this video is wonderful ❤❤❤ I’ve been digging deep on my inner work and I’m so excited to get your book to go further. Sending you lots of love gorgeous and I’m so happy to be listening this morning ❤❤❤

[@eliciagoguen]

Omg I missed you too!!!!! Love you so much, I hope you’ve been so well ❤️🥰

[@GetElevatedWithMe]

@@eliciagoguen tell Amazon to hurry the eff up and release that bad boy!!! I got the journal prompts that came with pre-ordering and I cannot wait to sit down and do them. I’ve been delaying. I’m so freaking proud of you honey!! Sending so much love! 💗

[@GetElevatedWithMe]

@@eliciagoguen look at all these amazing people in the comments!! You’re helping so many 🥹🥹

[@woahitzthea]

Thank you for all of your content, Elicia. Finding your channel has been a big help during this time in my life 💕

[@jaygorakht5135]

Love from nepal stay safe stay happy wherever you are1✌️🙏

[@MirleneFevrier]

Can't wait to see another vlog from you. ❤💛💚💙💜

[@Doe3Love8]

I'm late 😭❤ Thanks for ur discussions✨️✨️

[@eliciagoguen]

Love you!!!! 🥰🤍

[@peachesandpoets]

With bleaching, it is sometimes more than intrinsic self hate, it is also that most societies treat you better the lighter you are, and they want to pass. I just wanted to add that because there is so much nuance with colorism that is systemic, that it's important to point out that it's not just waking up and hating being black or brown, it is avoiding the real consequences of being black or brown in the world.

[@eliciagoguen]

No of course! As I mentioned, it’s connected to literal survival. If you’re taught that the lighter you are, you will pass then that essentially = survival in life! And again as I mentioned this topic is MUCH deeper than what meets the eye, as per your example of how it’s not just about “waking up deciding”.

[@ariannytorres1024]

We need it 💯

[@eliciagoguen]

🤍🤍🤍

[@valbonaisaku118]

Love you💙

[@BaileyConnell]

Out of curiosity, what do you think about women who go tanning? Do you think this is a different ball game than skin ligjtening? I go tanning because well...i prefer how I look when my skin is a bit darker 🤷‍♀️ Genuine question, I dont know much about skin lightening.

[@eliciagoguen]

I do think it’s definitely a different conversation to be made than what I was talking about!!

[@kendlefulton7429]

How are you doing today ❤

[@yowanehakuuu]

❤

[@minnitreez333]

great advice 🩷

[@eliciagoguen]

Thank you ☺️

[@Irieblu]

Even tho I’m young (15), I can tell you have so much knowledge & wisdom. Your videos really open my eyes & I love watching them while getting ready. 🩷🩷🩷

[@coreyrobinson1900]

3 videos this weekend and a book coming out. Beautiful with an insane work ethic 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥❤️🙏🏾

[@eliciagoguen]

Awww thank you 🥰❤️

[@coreyrobinson1900]

@@eliciagoguen your so very welcome miss elicia 🙏🏾