HOW TO STOP BEING “THE NICE GUY” (5 TIPS TO USE NOW!)

HOW TO STOP BEING “THE NICE GUY” (5 TIPS TO USE NOW!) // Have you heard that “nice guys finish last” and that you should “stop being a nice guy”? You aren’t alone. This advice is crazy popular right now BUT it’s not totally true. If you decide to take on the “no more Mr. nice guy” attitude because you are afraid that nice guys finish last then you will want to pay close attention to this video. You are about to go from “how to stop being such a nice guy” to a totally hot nice guy that ACTUALLY gets the girl. Sound interesting? Join me in How to Stop Being “The Nice Guy” (5 Tips to Use Now) to learn what you need to know to finally know how to get a girl to like you and how to get a girlfriend!
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[@CoachMelannie]

FREE MASTERCLASS - LEARN THE SAME 5 STEP FRAMEWORK I TEACH MY PAID CLIENTS TO GET THEIR IDEAL GIRLFRIEND 🙌 coachmelannie.com/5-steps-to-your-ideal-girlfriend-masterclass-sign-up/ P.S. Which tip are you going to apply first? Tell me in the comments! 👇

[@dubongros3108]

Melannie, tip # 5 ... What boundaries are you talking about ? Practical stuff you should not do for her , romantic boundaries ... I still can't stop thinking of this guy I saw while relaxing on a floating device in the middle of a lake. He went back to the shore to get a pack of cigarettes , swam back (clamping it with his teeth ) so a good looking girl could smoke one . A little too débonnaire if you ask me . Is that a boundary you were talking about ? ( that he crossed )

[@sammylane21]

Yeah, but Charlie Brown has confidence issues among many other issues, like trust issues. Any Psychologists will say that Mr. Brown is no way in any mental shape for a relationship... at all. Charlie Brown is one seriously depressed kid and in serious need of professional help and Lucy( a central problem figure of his, mind you) is not helping him at all.

[@JamesPg]

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[@charlieswank8820]

Hi Melannie good job 💯👍🏻 thank you keep making videos like that you are amazing.

[@williegoins1989]

I've been a nice guy all my life it's like a disease you can't get rid of and because I'm so a nice guy because I was born and raised right 2 respect people

[@Neveragain69]

Same

[@bananian]

Same! 😭

[@Chiller-pc1dv]

Nothing wrong with being nice. So long as it's genuine.

[@lecomtedeneuch9994]

​@@Chiller-pc1dv most people can never tell the difference. So it's a curse.

[@JonLakehawk]

Same here

[@paulcooper5748]

Good vid but you should teach women how to be the nice girl.

[@CoachMelannie]

I wish I had time to do both! Have you seen these videos? kzbin.info/aero/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA They will teach you how to spot and avoid gals that aren't worth your time! God bless 🙏

[@robertbuchanan4378]

I'm not going to stop being kind, honest and respectful for no one, it's a quality and characteristic of my character that will never change.

[@CoachMelannie]

Good!

[@prasannagupchup7887]

Great! Keep it up dude!

[@HT1212-j6s]

Who's here into Her voice and addicted to It.

[@michaelsmusic3532]

me me me !!!!!!!!

[@Frank-pe9pk]

I’m considered a nice and respectful guy. My mother taught me to treat people with kindness but not let people take advantage of you.

[@michigan_supercars6569]

Hey, Melannie! I've recently discovered this channel after searching for advice on relationships all over KZbin. I don't think it was by accident that I stumbled upon your page, as I'm 23 and still very single. My goal is to have a healthy, godly relationship someday leading to marriage. I've definitely had my fair share of struggles on this topic. For a while it had been a sore spot for me after dealing with lots of hurtful friendships with girls and being used a few times. I've never really had much confidence at all in this topic up until recently. As I continue to root myself in Jesus I have actually noticed myself becoming more and more confident. I've gotten the courage to ask two people out on a date recently (both said no), and I just feel like I'm starting to get better prepared for my future relationship. However, I know that there are still things I am unsure about. I do tent to sometimes mistake niceness of someone liking me, and so on. I was wondering, what advice would you give me as someone who has never ever dated before in his life? How do I be sure that I find the right person who is perfect?

[@CoachMelannie]

Hello and welcome! I'm so happy you found my channel! I'd love to help you with this, it's hard for me to reply to longer questions here (KZbin doesn't always notify me) so feel free to send me an email at [e-mail]. I look forward to hearing from you!

[@okfrostman]

The Nice guys are not only not approaching women they are walking away from the game completely .

[@crazyralph3585]

I agree with what you are saying, the good men are acting wisely. BUT THERE IS MORE TO THE STORY. This woman ( and many other so-called relationship experts) take advantage of the fact that most men feel unloved and unappreciated by women, and they place all of the burden on men. What she, and so many others like her preach is misandry disguised as relationship therapy. Ever notice that neither she, nor most female relationship experts, encourage women to take more initiatives; to be more secure in themselves; to be more affectionate, kind, loving, and caring; to be responsible for their own actions; to treat men the same way that they want to be treated in return; and not to place demands or expectations on men that they don't want to be placed on them. Hearing a female give advice on how to be more attractive to women, how to make female friends, and how to relate to women is like having a cat listen to a mouse on how to be a good mouse-catcher. And hearing females ask "Where are all the good men?" is like a fish asking "Where are ll the good fishermen?" Whether a man (after hearing the advice of a female) follows the "nice boy" pattern or the "bad boy" pattern, he is still being groomed, manipulated, and controlled by females; and he is not truly free to be himself. What this woman fails to mention is that females are attracted to men of status, wealth, and power, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER HE IS A GOOD BOY OR BAD BOY. If a poor man acts like a "bad boy", he gets labeled as a JERK. If a poor man acts kind, loving, and caring, he gets rejected for being TOO NICE. If a poor man blatantly rejects both the "nice boy" and the "bad boy" model; but instead chooses to be his own person (as I have done), he gets labeled as a REBEL or a RENEGADE, and people call him CRAZY (this is part of the reason why I got my nickname "Crazy Ralph"). When you hear a female say to men "Be yourself" and "Be confident in who you are", what she is not saying is "...but make sure to be the kind of person who fits my image of what a real man should be like"... "And be a person of status, wealth, and power". If women were truly honest, this is what they would say. After all, it is easy for a man of status wealth, and power to be himself, and be confident in whom he is. Hear me out! In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with you, or most other men, whether "nice boy" or "bad boy", THE PROBLEM IS WITH THE JUDGEMENTAL, CRITICAL ATTITUDE OF MANY FEMALES. Word to the wise.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I always thought if you pursue someone or something they’ll probably run away from you.

[@whitewalker608]

GOD THESE VIDEOS. You are always SPOT ON! SPOT ON. Every time you start even with point 1, my cursor immediately goes to the like button.

[@michaela9833]

Yes! Knowledge (competence) is power! Also application, (practice) makes perfect! Thanks Melannie

[@CoachMelannie]

You're so welcome! Thanks for watching! 🙏

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I’m looking for a crazy happy relationship.

[@mikelee2583]

Wow, I am always a nice guy and have the misconception that nice guy finish last. Learn a different things from u. Am 70, physically fit as about 10 hours of fitness classes per week for the last few years, dress sharply and confident. I am assertive and learning lots from u, thanks for all your info. Still learning new things daily.

[@davidhanna3453]

I know exactly how to get rejected im the best at getting rejected. A real professional at getting rejected.

[@CoachMelannie]

Check out these videos. kzbin.info/aero/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VOYPpi4UjSjCpKDxJAS6g3

[@TheEddietor1550]

i believe birds of same feathers fly together. i mean women are attracted based on the upbringing or the idea she perceived as attractive based on the environment she grew up with. if you came from nice family you are attracted to nice people and vice versa. if you are the opposite of what they want, no matter what technique you have, you are in the friendzone or totally rejected. or it depends on what the woman needs if she wants to be protected, she wants a strong man. so no matter how good you are on other areas, you are not the strong man she wants, you are friendzone or rejected. that's up to men to know what group the girl belongs.

[@harrisn3693]

Exactly, Espically depending where you are in the world, your ethnicity can be a hindrance in relationships! As you say, birds of the same feathers fly together!

[@luckgalaxy8548]

Wish I seen this sooner just got into a car accident broke a couple of bones wish life was more simple great work melannie. Help these guys out.

[@CoachMelannie]

I'm so glad you liked it! Thanks for watching! 🙏 Big prayers for a speedy recovery!! God bless

[@GooyTheLoser]

Watching this at 15 as a guy is stressful. I'm slowly trying to build up style, and now I gotta have several skills with flirting and all this other stuff, like assertiveness. I never even done anything where there is a girl involved. So I can forget about that

[@dubongros3108]

Nice guy alone means nothing. The reason guys such as I frown upon hearing "nice " is we feel it's nice as opposed to ... " Bad boy " . Yes, the guy who won't pay his share of the rent, he's selfish , rude etc.( what is sexy about that ? ) . I call for the Nice Guy forces of the world to unite

[@byronlewis9217]

I have been hurt numerous times. Im tired of going thru the whirlwind of emotions...Ive become jaded.🎉

[@oPHILOSORAPTORo]

Great line from Blast From The Past that describes this concept: "Adam, you're a nice boy, but what she needs is a nice man."

[@edwhite4992]

My new girlfriend can’t believe how nice of a guy I am! She seems to love it! She does not take advantage and she is a beauty way above my pay grade!

[@kunztuber]

YES!! Thank you, Melanie, you rock!

[@tidus-fc8rq]

Basically dont stop being nice or kind if you truly are genuine. Be kind to all, to men,women,kids and animals and dont ever expect anything back from it, just give love and kindness to make the world a better place rather then for your own gain. I strive to be a nice person, i hope i am and even if i dont earn much or get married, its fine with me,as long as i can help others in life. Dont be bitter, be better.

[@joegrande4848]

It's always good to have values and standards portrayed yes be pleasant honest kind helpful supportive fun and funny and loyal an trustworthy. Also display your standards and values and hold to them.

[@aeroman1964]

Yes. More please! I'm as nice of a guy as any girl will find, and A GREAT guy at that. But I'm single and have had one date in 10 years! My problem is not so much that I'm a nice guy. It's that I live in a world full of guys and no women. Can't help but to feel like I am living in Alaska. I understand that's what it's like up there. Anyhow, I'm enjoying everything about you and your videos. Keep up the good work Melannie.

[@CoachMelannie]

I'm so glad you liked it! Thanks for watching! 🙏 Have you seen my Masterclass? coachmelannie.com/5-steps-to-your-ideal-girlfriend-masterclass-sign-up/ It will help you come up with a plan to get back in the dating world! Let me know if you have any questions. [e-mail] instagram.com/coachmelannie/ facebook.com/coachmelannie/

[@danielmarquis5258]

My parents raised me to be a good individual and to be respectful of others, especially elders. That being said, they never taught me about being mentally strong and to not be a "pushover." I now understand why it is hard for me to get a girlfriend. I don't want to be Charlie Brown by any means. By watching your videos Melanie, I am slowly learning how to be the "nice guy" that women like (Superman) as opposed to the guy women don't want (Clark Kent). I am not giving up yet. I am on a Journey.

[@CoachMelannie]

I'm so happy to hear that! Good for you! Please let me know if I can answer any questions for you. [e-mail] God bless.

[@prasannagupchup7887]

Why worry dear? No harm being nice always. If girls don't like being nice, it's to their peril ! Don't bother.

[@jerrelc.thomas336]

Yes I would like more videos like this. I've always been a super nice guy always all my life and I've had confidence to a certain point but I feel I need more confidence. By watching your videos it's helping me to understand myself thank you so much.

[@CoachMelannie]

I'm so glad it was helpful! Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏

[@chrismcevoy2503]

Avoid toxic women like the plague guys.

[@klewis4377]

Once again, this is great info! Thanks!

[@CoachMelannie]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@samuski36]

I look at every conversation or interaction I have with a woman I'm crushing on as a date. As long as it's all positive and we are riveted by each other, it's a date because it's the same way I would interact with her if we were on an official "date". Not sure if this is the right approach or not, because I don't have opportunity to meet women outside my normal day to day activities or work. And before you tell me going after co workers is a bad idea, trust me, I'm well aware!

[@Chiller-pc1dv]

I'm no coach, but if you're unsure about this, talk to her. Sure it can be super scary, but it's the best option. Open communication is incredibly important.

[@aaronhong786]

There’s a difference between nice guy and a good guy

[@CoachMelannie]

They are pretty much the same thing. The most important thing to remember is that the right skills (like setting boundaries, portraying confidence, pursuing, etc.) are what get's a nice/good guy the girl. Here is another video on this that will help kzbin.info/www/bejne/joOTomltYsaoaK8 Thanks for watching!

[@adriangray8212]

Yes!!! Good job Melannie. Thanks for all your insight.

[@CoachMelannie]

My pleasure! Thanks for your comment!😀

[@georgew.5639]

When people find out that won’t let myself be used and abused they react with anger. And that’s part of what is so hurtful. And I’m to blame.

[@CoachMelannie]

Toxic people will do that and blame you because they don't want things to change.

[@alanmills-rw2pp]

Ok, today I caught her off guard. I happened to be shopping, and as soon as I turned the corner there she was but once she saw me she quickly quickly turned around and walked down the isle and put her head down but I saw her. And her friend got in the way. I couldn't catch her and I didn't want to be rude!

[@gt6408]

I'm a nice guy and you're right, over and over again I hear not to be one. Thanks for clarification. Being a nice guy is awesome but don't be a pushover. Check!

[@CoachMelannie]

I’m so happy it was helpful! Thanks for watching! 😀

[@michaelsmusic3532]

My dream woman that I'm going to marry (she just doesn't know it yet lol) As we were waking to the store she told me that I'm a "Good man" I took it as a compliment

[@scottdiedrichphotography525]

Thank you Sister Melannie, as a Christian it's extremely hard to meet a new wife. I really appreciate your tips and videos. Hopefully your videos will help my miracle happen. Lol. God bless you

[@sven_ampleforth]

Hi Coach Melannie!! YES!! It would be very nice of you if you would do another video about this topic. Thanks for give us the main points where we are failing time after time.

[@CoachMelannie]

Thanks so much for always leaving such kind comments!

[@sven_ampleforth]

@@CoachMelannie You deserve them!! Thanks for always reading the comments!!

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I enjoyed this video.

[@michaelhayward6825]

Another amazing video. I really love your incisive comments. I would love more videos like this. You are amazing!

[@CoachMelannie]

More to come! Thanks for your kind words and thanks for watching! 🙏

[@danielmarquis5258]

Thanks Melanie!! Your positivity speaks volumes!! I hear so many negative/toxic things coming from certain women (attitudes towards men), but that is in the Night Life Scene........which is toxic to begin with. Their personalities are cringey and repulsive.

[@CoachMelannie]

I'm so glad you liked it! Thanks for watching! 🙏

[@midjet156productions]

My father is a narcissistic sociopath so all my life I've done everything I could to be as respectful, compassionate, consider, helpful, NICE as possible but the result wasn't being used it was always people trying to literally murder me. I'm not a "push over" as you say, when I have options I share them, when I'm annoyed by something I'll say it but in a respectable way but literally everyone I've ever met, not just women but people in general, have actually tried to kill me in so many ways including throwing knives at my head. It's not even really something I do to cause it it's just as soon as I get five feet apart from anyone they're suddenly overwhelmed with the urge to end my life. I actually don't struggle with confidence at all, in fact I know I can basically do anything like an expert almost immediately after I try something new. I'm 24 years old and never been on a date or really had friends but it's only because people (including my own family) want to try to kill me as soon as I'm around another living being. It may not be possible for me to get a girlfriend or even friends but on the upside I'm an expert at being able to survive insane life threatening situations.

[@shawnpennell1627]

I have always been a nice guy and no woman say yes to me

[@CoachMelannie]

Have you seen any of these videos? kzbin.info/aero/PLsQq0KK7pJ-XV9YGvxOR5T79CbwLhJBKM I think you'll really like them. Have a great day 😀

[@prasannagupchup7887]

Why worry dear? Doesn't matter. It's their loss, not yours!

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I don’t want to the pushover nice guy.

[@nobodyknows3180]

It really kinda ticked me off when she said if you want to avoid toxic women, you have to be 'good at dating' but the contradiction is that most Mr. Nice Guys DON'T HAVE any dating experience. I mean, think about it, in order to get good at dating, you already have to be good at dating. If I was already good at dating, I wouldn't have come to this video in the first place.

[@joegrande4848]

If you have hobbies you love that are good or fun and wholesome that doesn't hurt yourself or especially others. Don't throw away your hobby because she don't like them introduce her to it she may love it too. I myself love fishing. 🙂

[@mimiloula4723]

Why would you ask them to stop being nice?

[@stephenmorgan5100]

I seem to flirt when I don't mean too but when I want to it doesn't come that easy? I adore your saying 'Super Crazy Love". That is so sweet, as are you. Stephen from UK .Thank you Melannie

[@CoachMelannie]

Flirting can be a little tricky! These videos will be a big help to you. kzbin.info/aero/PLsQq0KK7pJ-XsyVNxjH6S9-iRe-S5q4rO Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care! 😀

[@stephenmorgan5100]

@@CoachMelannie Thank you :-)

[@grahamcahill4505]

Melanie I've watched a few of your videos and I do like your advice. Unlike alot of dating coaches u don't give advice which is based on false behaviour. U advise on how to be attractive without completely changing your personality. I'll watch your masterclass when I get time. I'm sure itll help alot.

[@CoachMelannie]

Thank you for your kind words! Have a great day 😀

[@brianf9934]

My experience has been nice guys finish last .

[@williamsimmons4678]

Melannie this is a great vid on a good topic !! Ive been caught off guard a few times by some real users .🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I’m a nice guy.

[@joelaver5817]

Wow what an eye-opener I've been doing things but other things that you've opened my eyes up too thank you so much 😇🙏

[@CoachMelannie]

You are so welcome! Thanks for watching! 😀

[@Johnwickslittlebrother]

I had mixed feelings with this one CM. But I know you are not here to make us feel bad/negative. You are here to help us, to understand and have a positive outlook on finding the right lady in our lives.

[@CoachMelannie]

I'm sorry if this made you feel bad in any way! Feel free to contact me if you have questions! instagram.com/coachmelannie/ facebook.com/coachmelannie/ [e-mail] God bless 🙏

[@kabukiwookie]

These videos are fun. I don't know how the heck I ran into this channel. Your analogy about Charley Brown is spot on. You can be a Charley Brown, but if Lucy is holding the foot ball you should be able to say: "F-you I'm not going after that. HEY PIG-PEN, COME HERE!" Its about LEADERSHIP. That's it.

[@mr.goodwrench8273]

Yes, more videos on this subject if possible. This is a real good "meat and potatoes" video. Getting to the heart of the matter. Which tip am I going to apply first ? Have some standards and enforce them. Not in a harsh way, just me standing by my word. Example: She requesting that I cohabitate with her. I won't do it. I'm a Christian, old fashioned traditionalist, and I believe in courting a lady.

[@waudicas]

Same here, I’m following the moral standards of the Bible which includes no sex until married n no ‘impropriety’ either since often ‘one thing leads to an other’ n it’s easy to sin.

[@CoachMelannie]

Will do! Thanks for watching! 🙏

[@jessepena1199]

Thank you ",so much 4 al the good information you give us..you seem so nice with yu,r beautiful smile.

[@CoachMelannie]

You are very welcome! Thank you for your kind words 🙏

[@charlieswank8820]

Thank you keep making videos like that thank you Melannie.

[@charlieswank8820]

You look awesome.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I couldn’t sign my name with my non-dominant hand which is my right one.

[@waudicas]

EXACTLY!!! I cannot understand how men think that women will like them if they aren’t being nice n kind to them! I’ve always been good to women n that’s why they always get comfortable with me n open up in a way that many of them themselves have said was ‘not like I usually do’ or that they feel like I’m ‘so easy to talk to’. The girl I love is a girl that 2.5 years ago told me couldn’t stand the emotional rollercoaster she felt she was riding, but she’s still there after 3.5 years bc other women has been so damn jealous of her bc of Me n bc I’m being so kind to her n also has a good listening ear n really makes her feel valued bc remembering all those tiny details she’s telling me bout, in fact she was even attacked verbally online by six other women off which three of them themselves had interest in Me lol 😆, she got hurt a bit but realized that the real reason is that they envy her n that’s rocket fuel for a woman haha.😝😁

[@davemacpherson4752]

I’m a nice guy because it’s the way that God Created me. I’ve been told that I’m too nice, but it’s who I am and I’ll never change.

[@davemacpherson4752]

Women from high school have seen a bold change in me ( I used to be really shy ) I can tell that they like it. For some, it’s too late > I’m taken. Another fabulous video, Coach Melannie!

[@prasannagupchup7887]

Don't worry dear. Be what you are. All your life. Nice to know you are a nice guy. Keep it up. All the best.

[@andre1987eph]

0:28 “And that’s you!” CGA gang, can I get a 👍 😅

[@raphaelanyie5140]

Coach Melannie, there was this woman I like. When I got to know her at first, she was this kind, sweet and understanding lady but the longer I got to know her, I noticed that although she has all these qualities, she almost always never hesitate to poke at my insecurities and sometime I felt like she belittle me in many ways, from ambitions to work and my struggles. I use to laugh because I never mind a good laugh but it reached a point where I begin to question it. She's always excited when we made plans but she hesitated to take photos with me and blamed me for things that doesn't work according to plan. I lost interest because there's this gut feeling that tells me to walk away but tell me, is she toxic or am I too sensitive?

[@CoachMelannie]

Oh my goodness! I am so sorry. I can't say for sure because I don't know her. However, these are the very games toxic people play. And then, they make it look like it's all you and you are too sensitive. These videos will be a really big help to you!!! kzbin.info/aero/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA Let me know if you have any questions! God bless! 😀

[@raphaelanyie5140]

@@CoachMelannie thanks. I felt so relieve after I watched the video that you suggested. She met all the points. Walking away from her was one of my best decision in life then. Thanks a lot. God bless

[@bananian]

Omg that was like my ex. She's super selfish, doesn't want to take photos with me, doesn't return texts unless I've got some hockey game ticket. Absolutely a toxic woman.

[@fergusgraem3625]

I think the term 'nice guy' is wrong. Offcourse it is a good thing to be friendly and nice to the girl you like. It is not a good thing to be always available, or acting like you are a little obsessed. So I would say 'the guy who doesn't show he has his own life' 😁

[@prasannagupchup7887]

Completely agree friend!

[@cjs7553]

Set boundaries? You don't really explain what you mean by that. What boundaries are supposed to be set?

[@toyinuko]

Awesome stuff

[@dougpayne5682]

I understand what you are saying about Charlie Brown but I haft to admit I always had a special place in my heart for him

[@CoachMelannie]

Me too!! I LOVE Charlie Brown and I always wanted him to get the girl. Thank you so much! Have a great day 😀

[@marioroselchavez7549]

I heard voices that lead me to rejection

[@masonwarner1372]

And your right to gain competence can be overwhelming

[@vissenkooi3443]

Hee Melanie bedankt voor je tips en je prachtige glimlach!! Groetjes uit Holland!!

[@rogerbeaird3320]

Coach the real world will do as tge world does and we tge bride of christ will do as he did shalom 🕎🕎

[@stevekunkle4237]

What boundaries are you supposed to take ?

[@CoachMelannie]

If you'd like to email me I can help you with this. coachmelannie.com/contact-me/ Have a happy day! 😀

[@stevekunkle4237]

@@CoachMelannie what are the boundaries I am supposed to set ?

[@knownow486]

The first will be last and the last will be first

[@noelsingletary]

After a 20 year marriage, I'm pretty much lost when it comes to dating now. I just turned 64 years old and I have had 4 women I dated. None really worked out because they either lived too far away or they were self absorbed and only thought about themselves. I give up. I like listening to your videos but guys my age don't stand a chance. It's not self pity, it's just the facts. The last woman I dated saw a photo on my Facebook of a young lady (28) that I dated for a month and she thought I was a perv because of the age difference, but the woman asked me out and I went out with her and we had a great time but she moved to Miami. I can't convince her that it was nothing more than a couple of people having fun together and it's over now because of her move. She just wants to remain friends now and I told her that was not what I was looking for. Should I just cut her loose and not go out with her anymore? She's 49 years old (15 years younger than me).

[@CoachMelannie]

I understand! My program has helped many men in your situation. Let me know if you'd like my help.

[@prasannagupchup7887]

Age does not matter at all. Just listen to your heart. And don't lose heart!

[@stevemansfield2757]

Yes, the nice guy

[@jasonyoung4890]

Why should all us guys worry about doing all this work if they wouldnt do the same.

[@CoachMelannie]

What kind of woman are you trying to attract? If you are willing to be a great guy and you have the relationship skills you need then you WILL attract a woman who is already doing these things. If you aren't then you won't attract a good woman at all. Thanks for watching!

[@jasonyoung4890]

@@CoachMelannie hopefully the other person can keep up with me but all i find is women looking for the bigger better deal and ruin it

[@bobmorgan5636]

Thanks for your help 😃😊😊 There's nice men..and nice boys without masculinity

[@paulorlando5877]

Most people take advantage of nice people, period.

[@CoachMelannie]

Be sure to watch the videos I sent you. They will explain so much!

[@jaundekoker2141]

your really good at teaching gona tell my guy friends about this good videos of yours tnx so much everything yu say is always the truth

[@CoachMelannie]

I appreciate that! You’re very kind! Thanks for watching! 🙏

[@timbayliss4153]

@@CoachMelannie I meant to say to you, when I was apologising earlier to you, for wanting to ask if you were married, as I felt I was getting you to talk to me, revealing what church you go to, for wanting this as a compliment, you look like one of my old girlfriends Vanda, a long time ago, and I am re watching all your helpful videos. Thank you.

[@aiskhakbayev]

Hey. I would like to get lessons from you 1 on 1. Where can I go to reach out ?

[@user-tz2eq5of6z]

Yes.

[@allenrodandrade5277]

Better late than never 😊.Yes

[@shannonfahey3467]

YES!

[@llcooldrockindahouse4631]

Hi Mel, thank you so much for this. STill tryna figure out about the nice guys finish last and after watching two other vids and yours, now I believe I understand. Also, I think Charles Schulz (the creator of the Charlie Brown comics) would literally be laughing at your amazing charlie brown references. He's a nice guy but in a different sense! Great job and I believe I understand that Nice guys finish last = guys who are pushovers finish last. I hope I got that right? Thank you! Much love and god bless!

[@CoachMelannie]

I think that is a great explanation! I'm so glad it was helpful! Thank you so much for your kind words 🙏

[@alexgarciaalejandro7930]

Very valuable information!!😃😎👍

[@CoachMelannie]

Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching! 🙏

[@darylwaller1141]

Thank you for putting so much out there to help guys but im aguy who sufferers from so much low self esteem and shortness on top bipolar disorder. I try really hard to follow your direction but still get antagonized anytime i get close to making verbal let alone any kind d of physical contact with the girl im sure is out of my league

[@CoachMelannie]

I'm sorry to hear that! One of the benefits of learning solid relationship skills is that you don't have to feel awkward or nervous because you have a game plan instead of feeling vulnerable. The more you learn these things I'm sure the better you'll feel!

[@RJForest.]

Love your charisma

[@toygiants8748]

Women are attracted to men that are indifferent to them. When a man doesn't fall all over a woman but instead says "I enjoy your company but I can take you or leave you." and "I may want you but I don't need you." it confuses the woman that thinks all she has to do is show up. After that she will pursue said man.

[@CoachMelannie]

Toxic women do this.

[@toygiants8748]

They do. And no one can take advantage of toxic women without their permission.

[@jerrylemon7158]

Yes please.

[@patrickwoods2583]

except when you start standing up for yourself you come off as "not you" and a jerk.

[@nyasha0533]

Okay so it's all about you attracting good people Thanks ;-)

[@terencehennegan1439]

Another great video 👍

[@prasannagupchup7887]

Hey dude, be cautious. Gut feeling generally is right. Always listen to your inner voice.

[@dennisanderson7176]

Yes! Great information.

[@CoachMelannie]

Glad it was helpful! I’ll be sure to make more!👍

[@LdAmaro71]

Yes!

[@mikioni]

Excellent video 👏🙏🙋

[@CoachMelannie]

Thank you very much!!! 😀

[@sherroncurry6303]

Why would a woman feel on a man,set up moments to be physically close laugh and flirt just to reject you when you ask her for coffee 🥺

[@prasannagupchup7887]

Unpredictable as they are!

[@robertdevoy3119]

She's having fun and an ego boost at your expense. There was no way to know this until you asked her for a coffee date and were turned down. If she really liked you she would have accepted. Perhaps, she wanted you to ask her out to a far more expensive first date, which would boost her ego further, and then she would have the pleasure of turning down more dates with you.

[@ShadowCatGambit]

I have a question. My Mom just showed up an hour ago. She rang my doorbell, and blocked the peephole with her hand. I didn't know who it was, so I waited to open the door until she walked away and I could see who it was. I don't know why she did this, but she then proceeded to go clean up my bedroom, after she came in and talked with me for a little bit. I could tell I needed to say something, but she never listened to me before. How do I set up strong boundaries with people? It honestly feels terrible to put my foot down, like I'm some kind of monster if I assert authority. This is a weakness from being manipulated, neglected, and abused, and I would like to know if there is a better way to learn how to set boundaries without forcing it too hard. I did tell her, "well I think it would be better if I did that," but she continued. My younger sister who came with her, did also point out that I didn't ask for her to do anything, and I believe that seemed to get through to her. My mom also says things that tears down my confidence, she pointed out that if I try too hard at getting girls, it won't work out for me because they will notice. I replied something like "well, I think that's for me to decide. Trying hard with less results isn't attractive, but it's not up to you to decide what's going to work out or not." The thing is, dominance, assertiveness and confidence are extreme vulnerabilities for me, and I'm afraid of trying to exercise strength, because it reveals to everyone if you have what it takes, and I've failed to assert authority many times. Do you have something to help me with this?

[@CoachMelannie]

I'm so sorry that is happening to you. Good for you for figuring out that it's not right. I'm not a therapist but these videos might be very helpful. kzbin.info/aero/PLsQq0KK7pJ-VyeTDmwCE46a85Pme0uqRA They talk about toxic girlfriends but they will apply to your mother as well. I have a course that teaches in detail how to set boundaries. Let me know if you want information on that. Best of luck to you. You can do this!

[@ShadowCatGambit]

@@CoachMelannie What if the very process of setting boundaries still isn't respected? What if you aren't seen as a man, but as the villain, for simply setting boundaries? I told my mother I wanted the authority I have in my home to be respected, that I wanted her to respect me, but she thought I was backstabbing her, hurting her, and said that I wasn't thankful for her help. I can't tell if she's intentionally setting up a narrative or actually believes it, but I do know that if I subscribe to her version of events, that I'll never break free. I'll never be able to find confidence in myself, or have self-esteem. The stakes are freedom or her love, and it hurts inside. Do you have anything on how to set boundaries in a way that gets people to listen? She believes her victim mentality above all else. She believes everyone is the villain except herself. She even believes that she can carve out her own salvation. How do you fight back when someone feigns ignorance, or cannot believe anything else but their own narrative? (Especially since I have an INFP personality type, which means I struggle to have full confidence in anything, I even believe people to some degree even when I know they're lying, although this could be in part from the type of narcissistic abuse I've been through). What I'm going through is very similar to when Charlie Brown tries to kick the football, but Lucy pulls it away every time, except it's as if Lucy threatens to hurt Charlie Brown in a subtle way if he tells her "no," while Charlie Brown knows no one will take his side or believe Lucy did anything to him. He knows it would be more painful and lonely to defy her, than to just try kicking the ball.

[@prasannagupchup7887]

Dear, the culture I come from, mother is to be loved and treated with utmost respect all your life, no matter what!

[@rogerbeaird3320]

If u ask almost every girl they will say yes I love yeshua but their actions will show differently

[@andrewmckinley6571]

More bloopers please

[@misha4495]

Love your voice! ;)

[@bobburch2151]

Yes