How to Stop Feeling Inferior to Others: Overcome Inferiority Complex

[@CareBlair222]

I am 37. no career. dropped out of college. got married to a good guy with lots of issues.. got pregnant. 3 boys. raised them with severe mental health issues. thank God they are happy. healthy and polite. my parents are both addicts in denial and toxic in so many ways. I lost my only brother. i have anxious attachment issues. I have intense anger. i cut out all my unsupportive family and I am now back in school. I work 2 jobs and I am starting to praise myself everyday. my trauma has held me back and toxic shame is really hard to overcome. I never really compare myself. I'm very attractive. smart and funny. but I get sad when I feel as if other people have things that I want. not jealous. just sad for myself. but I just remain grateful and keep trying and enjoy the simple things in life.

[@MAJ167]

Want to know something interesting Blair? I've got two bachelor's degrees, a master's degree and an working toward a PhD in an engineering field but I feel inferior to you because I have one child and a failed marriage. The flip side is not all it's cracked up to be. I'm rooting for you, sister!

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

That is part of jealousy if you didn't know.

[@CareBlair222]

@@DiamondsRexpensive not really. I'm happy for people and continue to work on myself

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

@@CareBlair222 Good, that doesn't change the fact that it is still part of jealousy though.

[@robbpowell1330]

@@MAJ167 this comment, I've searched for my entire life.... Thank you

[@lakshyakshitijgautam]

I hate myself so much that whenever somebody gives me compliments it feels like they are saying it jokingly . Whenever I get something done or achieve something. I say to that myself I did it because it was easy and anybody could've done that . Achieving something is a rare occurrence in my life . And somehow whenever I get something done . I don't feel anything. It feels like it doesn't matter and I'm still worthless who hasn't ever accomplished anything.

[@nikitakumari4600]

Same goes for me I have such bad thoughts and feelings about myself that if any one even dares to compliment me I just say thank you so much and leave that place for good becoz I always end up crying after that because I think they are joking about my body and face I am suffering from body dismorphia

[@lakshyakshitijgautam]

​@@nikitakumari4600 I can understand. It has progressed so much now that antidepressants and therapy both of them can't keep me sane anymore.

[@nikitakumari4600]

@@lakshyakshitijgautam I feel very sorry for you from the bottom of my heart i wish that you can recover from this as soon as possible and I can assure you that you are so much more than you think you have you're own worth and if you are determined you can accomplish everything you want to my well wishes will always be with you lakshyak 😊

[@lakshyakshitijgautam]

​@@nikitakumari4600 Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope you get over from your body dysmorphia and become confident about yourself. :)

[@nikitakumari4600]

@@lakshyakshitijgautam you're most welcome

[@dkdawe1]

“Win or learn… use failure as information” = gold!

[@yasminogbu8929]

Yep 100% getting down about it is literally a waste of energy & unproactive

[@machinesofgod]

This is the video I needed right now. Lately, I've been tearing myself apart with inferiority complex. I hope this helps you all out there and never forget that you are worthy and more than good enough 🙂

[@lizzyben7507]

I'm recommending you if you want your ex back

[@lizzyben7507]

Contact Dr Jude

[@machinesofgod]

@@lizzyben7507 I don't want any of them back! 😅

[@AudreySeybold]

❤️❤️❤️

[@chrisdigitalartist]

Hi Julia!! Shifter here! Oh, this was so good! Something that I have been working on - I follow fellow artists on social media. Most of them, if not all, are pros and so I can stumble in that comparing my art skills thinking with them. I am inspired by them, and yet, I feel inferior as an artist. But I have been working on that and just focus on what I want to do as artist and what I want to create and that seems to be helping. Here are my notes: How to Stop Feeling Inferior to Others: Overcome Inferiority Complex How does it show up? • Social media - when we are scrolling and looking at highlight reels and filters. • End up giving up easily. Don't think you can't do it at all. (perfectionism) • Nothing that you do is good enough. (All-or-nothing thinking) • That you hold yourself back in social situations or avoid them altogether. • If you really find yourself magnifying your shortcomings and minimizing your strengths. • When you make "never" and "always" statements. How to Stop feeling inferior and feel better about yourself • You decide is what is important to you and take intentional steps to achieve that. • Practice gratitude. • Challenge that all-or-nothing, mental filters, never or always thinking. Work on distorted thoughts. • Don't always point out the exceptions (Shortcomings) • Take a success inventory: make a list of your successes (Maybe 10 successes you had in the past 10 weeks) • Let yourself fail without making it personal. We either win or we learn. Use failure as information. What can we learn from that experience? • Learn to unattached from your self-destructive thoughts through mindfulness. (" I noticed I am having the thoughts of…"or " My thoughts are telling me…etc..") Practice radical self-acceptance (To acknowledge ourselves as perfectly imperfect.) To those who are reading this, remember always what a worthy and valued person you are. ❤

[@jess4951]

What’s a “shifter”?

[@chrisdigitalartist]

@@jess4951 I am a member of Julia's Shift Society.

[@hanisiryani43]

You have always been helpful. Thank you Chris!

[@chrisdigitalartist]

@@hanisiryani43 Oh thank you for saying that! I am glad I can help! You are very welcome!

[@suprememaz]

Thank you speaking about this. I’m starting to realize that my journey is unique, because nobody has my experiences and background. My journey is not always the greatest, but no one else will be able to walk it: that’s what makes it beautiful.

[@joeswanson733]

If I could not be me ...I would choose to not be me.

[@iluvfigs4712]

It's a spiritual issue. All the so called mental health issues are spiritual warfare at their core. We don't need pep talks we need Jesus

[@yasminogbu8929]

You’ve done the best with the cards you were dealt with! It’s IMPOSSIBLE to compare to anyone else ! Your life decisions & parents decisions a d their parents lives made all the differences. You can only do your best

[@yasminogbu8929]

@joe, focus on who you want to be & what you want your life to look like & make it happen. What ever reasons you have to not want to be use, life is once so change it. That’s why I try do

[@abigaillledo5479]

Julia I'm new here. I'm glad I found you. I'm 40 years old but I don't feel my path is just like any other 40 year old. Even my younger friends caught up with me and they live their life successfully and the fullest . I understand everyone has struggles in their own journey however how come I take such a long time. I feel so behind . I am a devoted Catholic. I keep praying and I make sure I keep God closer to me. I studied more and involved in church. I even make other people smile. I feed and help the poor . I know I am truly blessed and I'm grateful but I still don't feel like 40 . I don't have a stable job that's why . I know everyone has their own time in the right time

[@yvasquez2449]

If I can say this…you talk about your life like is a transaction. “Look, I’m a good person, I pray everyday and even make other smile so why my life is not moving forward?”. It sounds like doing all those things automatically should bring you progress in your life. That’s an illusion…Life doesn’t work in that way…if you want something you need to go out there and make it happen. Being a good person is good but not what will make your life “happen”. Decide what you want and work towards it…work on it, praying is helpful but not required.

[@NFSMAN50]

This is something that I have struggled with my entire life, feeling lower than everyone else, because of my flaws and personality, thanks for this Julia, I appreciate you my friend ❤️.

[@gailflora1835]

You are certainly not alone!

[@unconversantcallowincandes1540]

Hey, I'm Rusty shifting gears; I struggle with the basis of comparison with who I was, what is expected, and what needs to be done; not necessarily in a sense of someone else. Feeling inferior is a very real sense of lacking in validation and feeling insecure. That's normal, feeling insecure, the most confident and healthy people I know are insecure, but their fears don't render them useless or a failure, it makes them wise and humble. Julia Kristina Counciling KZbin channel has been a Godsent and has allowed me the opportunity to grow and expand and better myself truly. I get to smile and breathe knowing her and her team make life better everyday.

[@nickmilton5580]

The timing of this video couldn't have been more perfect. As I've been trying to delve into my social anxiety, I've been trying to identify some of the core beliefs that have contributed to my anxiety and this videos topic is definitely one of them. I've always struggled with comparison so thank you so much for providing a direction!

[@lizzyben7507]

I'm recommending you if you want your ex back

[@leeclarke8993]

Busted! We grow too soon old and too late smart. Thanks for this. I need it.

[@GodsChild321]

Thank you so much. I am healing so much. I’m a big fan. God bless you and blessings to everyone watching.

[@chinmayjoshi977]

Thank you very much for this video. Took me anyway a long time to come to the conclusion that I have inferiority complex. This video is a perfect start

[@laib-et6qf]

Mam you are reading my life as an open book😳

[@CarisaRae]

❤️❤️❤️❤️ My name is Carisa! I'm a real estate agent and a health coach! My inferiority complex sometimes effects my ability to socialize ... thanks for the video!

[@yvonnethomas1537]

I’m in tears because that’s how I am

[@yasminogbu8929]

Sending you love ❤️

[@bengrant1201]

So long as things continue this way I'm never going to stop feeling inferior.

[@naryanclaudy2116]

Thank you for this.! I just stumbled on your channel yesterday. I work in the SUD and MH field as well. I still struggle with this topic every day

[@hilaklein4087]

All my life i felt that i wasn't good enough for being hsp and an empath and diffrenet from others .i felt ashamed of it .

[@MaureenWHamblin]

Use failure as information rather than self rejection!! Wow!!!

[@indridcold8433]

If one is inferior and knows it, there is no harm in feeling inferior. That happens to be my situation. By realizing my inferiority to others, I have saved a lt of mental anguish, stress, and time. I would not wish myself on any body.

[@shannonthejeepgirl]

Hi!! This is such a great topic! I lost both my parents as a teenager and I am stuck between thinking I am the greatest person in the world and feeling like I am a total useless piece of crap. I tend to stay alone A LOT because thats where I am great. People don’t make me feel good. And I totally stay off social media. 🤮😂

[@CareBlair222]

I feel you on this

[@nataliemeenakshithegreat7780]

Oh honey iam so sorry for your loss I hope that you are okay you seem and sound like a strong brave woman stay blessed honey

[@tessajetta8146]

I feel inferior because my father molested me . He obviously thought that I was inferior too. Im 58 and can’t get over it.

[@jaybube478]

I’m sorry to hear that. Sending you light and love

[@yasminogbu8929]

@tessa ❤️ it’s lies , he’s lies! Don’t believe them, that’s his narrative- don’t let it be yours

[@nasdq]

Its a projection of him dont internalize it.

[@DavidBrown-wb5su]

that is 100% my problem.. it doesn’t matter what i do i’m never proud of myself.. i expect myself to be a master at any task i engage in.. every thing u explained describes my thought process to a T

[@ron_r]

Hi Julia!! Your video is so relevant for me- I'm about to begin a new job and inferiority complex is always a problem for me. Trying to detach from my self-destructing thoughts through mindfulness is going to be a tool for me! Being great full for my achievements is also going to help me (finding and watching your video is probably one of my best achievements). I also love the idea of depersonalizing failures and use failure as information. As always I liked the video- thanks!❤❤

[@kurisuchiinu1206]

Thank you for this Julia! I have been doing this for a while now... with my ex and his group, with my friends. I always look at them with envy because of their status and money. Like they all have it easy when socializing with everyone else and all I do is fail without even trying. I try to be social but it always backfires! I am so tired of trying to be someone I'm not so I just wanted to be myself.

[@amparoramirez-x5b]

Thank You so much! I’m working through my insecurities and fear of change. It really has helped alot

[@willclarkneptune]

It's so good to know we're not alone. I really appreciate and get a lot from these videos! This seems like a fantastic, supportive community. It seems hard sometimes these days to have a place where people build each other up and not judge. I just want everyone here to know that you are an amazing person and hope your day/week/month/year/life is filled with grace and growth.

[@raiderlove5923]

Thank you for this video Julia. This is so me. It's something that my mom taught me and planted in my mind. Here in my adulthood I am learning that each person's life is different and individual. No two people can grow up having the same exact growing experiences in life.

[@dianacruz5985]

I was raised in a well to do German neighborhood in the 1960s. I never felt inferior yet others did as that is why they bullied abused and harassed me. I chose education, fitness and health. Others had poor choices and it showed back then and even now (in 2022). Folks are envious and jealous of others and their immaturity from their dysfunctional childhood is displayed in their behavior action and word

[@HD-mg9ru]

Phenomenal video Julia Kristina 🙏❤ It's not something that I like to talk about but I come from a very abusive family. A family that does not include me. I have accomplished a lot as a single mom. And this video has really helped me to see myself as a good person that has accomplished a lot. And because I've gone through hardships it doesn't define me. I woke up to this video. I really needed it in my life. And I have nothing but Love and appreciation for you. Thank you!

[@Chris-tj4eo]

What pops out for me. I am not alone in this feeling. When I have magnified my shortcomings and minimized my achievements, or at least don't think about my achievements. At time I have felt nothing is good enough, or I think nothing is good enough when it comes to families/friends etc. Sure loved this clip

[@jaylenvice4433]

I’m Joey , I recently discovered this is why I’ve been feeling so down all the time, so I’m excited to fix my problems

[@athab8256]

Another really informative and interesting video. Thanks! (edit) I think there are some people who use an inferiority complex to gain attention and even some degree of validation from friends and family. It's their way of not quite being invisible to others.

[@victorframpton1743]

Thank you for your videos. They are helping me. I am searching for a therapist because I’m very sad. My husband passed away a few months ago.

[@rdmkeytohwy]

I definitely struggle with this and have since I was a young child. We will always lose to someone in the comparison game. Someone is always smarter, better looking, a better athlete, cooler, more hip, maybe even more talented in an area where we have a little talent. I am going to think more about my strengths and how the good qualities I have impact others. Just being who I am made to be without apologies. Thanks so much for these videos. I am really glad I found you and this channel. It really does help.

[@jojogorecki7405]

Julia, thank you so much for the videos you post. I can't tell you how much this one meant to me. I appreciate your knowledge and experience, and that you share it with the rest of us. You rock. Truly, thank you.❤️

[@lylahboling6383]

You are such a blessing to me. Thank you so much for being so informational. It seems you just have the message I am in need of.

[@guitarbizzar5524]

Thank you for this video! You have been a huge help in my life.

[@gediminasmurauskas7817]

Thank you, Julia Christina! Today's topic resounds with me. I've long felt like a big under-achiever, especially given my educational attainment, my gifts of extensive and diverse knowledge, and my intellectual capabilities.

[@DaveBandfanMatthews]

Thank you for your content. All of your videos have resonated with me and the types of things I am going through in my life. I appreciate your helpful advice, it is helpful.

[@sarahdgreatday]

Thank you. 😊 You are delightful! The R.A. S. filter seems automaticly set to hinder our ability to notice our personal merit and abilities, even though we can set our R.A.S consciously.

[@jessicashaw7143]

I have fought this problem for all my life. Trying to learn I'm worth something because I exist versus having worth because others find me acceptable. But for 54 years I spent my life trying to prove myself worth something never succeeding. Thus have try end my life because I could not see myself having any worth and no one loved or liked me.

[@anonygent]

I DON'T HAVE ANYTHING! No home, no job, no income, no wife, no kids, NOTHING!

[@Transmogeny]

Gotta phone?

[@anonygent]

@@Transmogeny Belongs to my parents.

[@johnfarago3363]

Just this morning.. Again Julia, you bring these videos at exactly the right time. Yes I used to do the same thing after getting together. Social hang over. Pick me apart. As early as yesterday, I had created a list of 11 significant failures of my life which dealt me some crushing blows. I think I needed to see this list to understand why I feel so bad. But I also know I need to be grateful for the good things, so thanks for suggesting that.

[@lesliengo8347]

I struggle with comparing myself to people who "did a better job than me." Another way this shows up is if we are in school or at work our teacher or employer praise one person more than another or this idea of favoritism. I love the "it's either we win, or we learn."

[@juliebrooks818]

Just Julie here again ... This is me ,... I always think that Iam not good enough .... I Have got used to feeling like this . I think Iam doing good , but I look around and see others really getting along with life .

[@dkdawe1]

Have you been reading my journals???!! 🤣… so much resonates with me… thank you for sharing.

[@kin2him]

Learning a lot from this one, Julia! Thanks a lot! Enjoy your off-grid experience..,, praying for safety for you and your two kids! Golda

[@alienoverlordsnow1786]

Excellent presentation! You are an amazing teacher! I have this condition of comparison and self condemnation. Everything you suggested is going to be very helpful. Thank you very, very much for sharing your wisdom on this subject!!

[@Word-Smithy]

I learn here and this why I follow you. I will be more mindful of what else I consume online.

[@elainehiggins713]

I think she’s talking about envy and jealously, not a lack of self esteem.

[@jyotisandhu2690]

Thank you for this video. You explained this emotion or should i say thought process so well and i loved how u share tools to work on in order to get out if it. Thank you ❤

[@eattoliveveganstyle65]

I really like listening to you. You speak of everything I’ve ever struggled with and still do. Thank you

[@TheVegan6]

I'm really working on, as an adult, losing the mindset in social settings that I'm the child & they're the adult. I still feel like I'm being lectured by my parents even if they're only a few years older than myself

[@edithmindbody]

Thank you. Enlightening always ❤

[@Snoop80]

I'm 44 , I have always felt inferior . Long story put in a nut shell , my medical history took its toll .

[@CrAZychicke]

Yes and I wonder why I keep doing this!

[@yvasquez2449]

I feel like that often…like nothing I do is good enough. I always find “the problem”. Some say I’m a big achiever but honestly i don’t see it…my eyes focus on those things I have not achieved or done, truly exhausting. I am aware of the process and that helps but a life time of putting yourself down is difficult to challenge but I have been trying. I challenge my own process, focus on the good things and just stopping for a minute in the morning, before my day starts just to appreciate the good things I have.

[@roseadams8003]

Don’t let them do it to you. They ain’t perfect.

[@maceyr.6583]

So true!

[@fonsilvers]

Thank you! This talk on inferiority and the previous talk on shame are essential information. I’m so grateful you shared these.

[@adhila7636]

Hello Mam, Thanks for this wonderful video I can see exact replica of me throughout😢😢. I even lost my partner bcz of this. Hope one day I will overcome this

[@kathrynmacdonnell6224]

Excellent and really resonated with me - I went to a work related social event a couple of days ago and was a bit apprehensive about it but then I did speak out at a small table of strangers (seemingly really self assured and a lot younger than me) and they listened.

[@christopherrosado6053]

The individuals who "have " are usually miserable, ( not all..some ?), I am " enough", if I have the basics, family ok, health good, " it's enough" You can be in a full room...people...trying be "equal??", but, you feel empty and alone, like many who are there, and surround you. I am enough...period. Next question ?? Peace

[@dallasdandigitalproduction393]

Love this vid. I can relate I have Avoidant personality disorder. These are part of my deal

[@machineheaded3628]

Motivational videos are a great readymade quickstart to boost productivity...

[@nicova0981]

Always love your videos. I’ve watched so many! Thanks for another great one. ❤️

[@sarsoorGio]

blerg! I do this a lot - but it's been pretty bad lately bc I've been in a shame pit the last few years while dealing w/ some identity stuff. Interesting how it all goes hand in hand.

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you for a greatly supportive video.

[@gypsysoul279]

I have never felt good enough ever,even after 4 kids, now its I'm not a good mom...and its constant in my head

[@laurenharris8801]

Thank you for this video. I really needed to hear it right now.

[@rosettesionne9139]

Actually I don't feel inferior naturally but I am surrounded by people who have superiority complex and always berate me when I dare challenged their fake superiority and eventually after being humiliated by these people for several years I started developing an inferiority complex

[@williamkahlert3611]

I sensed that have this issue, ALL of them unfortunately :( Think responsibly I love that! I do many big achievements climbing El cap, and half dome each in a day, It feels good in the moment it might last a few days, but then I hang around people who all have more ___ ___ and ___ then me and they seem happy vs me I Have well that memory?? until I don't then I have nothing (that's the proof). So its a complicated. Now I'm Going to Practice all that you listed here, like my life depends on it! Thanks kindly for this lesson in positive thinking

[@petravrcko2090]

Jesus Christ that’s me💯 thank you

[@jonwhitney9559]

I am so grateful to have found you and your wonderfully helpful videos- I love your sense of humor and the fact that you break things down to easily digested orts of information- THANK YOU!

[@jessicashaw7143]

You totally explained how I have always felt about myself.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I feel like nothing I do is good enough Julia sometimes.

[@lordalepore]

Learnt a lot from it. Thank you so much

[@Fred_Free]

Do the experiment of introducing yourself with a high-status title and notice how differently you are treated. I had a coffee with a famous actress once, we got special service at the table. Another time with a well known artist and the same thing happened again. For them it was everyday life, nothing they noticed, they thought people were nice and helpful everywhere. 😎

[@shaimaaaldeeb2300]

Thank you very much Julia.. I wrote down several quotes of what you said and hanged it on my office desk.. I love what you said a lot and it helped me enormously.. and the approach you are using in life is very inspiring❤️

[@dorinnefacey6436]

Absolutely brilliant... I really benefited from listening to this. Thank you thank you thank you. I listen to your videos and always am encouraged, inspired and emotionally comforted, just what the doctor ordered... I always have to share your talks with friends... God bless you 🙏🏽

[@DrPatrickKingsep]

Hi Julia and others watching this video too :). This is a topic I think many people can relate to... feeling inferior to other people around us. Do you think social media has amplified this? I tend to think this is true as we are bombarded by people looking 'perfect' right and their life looks 'perfect' too. But we don't really know if this is true or accurate. What do you think?

[@anniela9289]

LinkedIn does this to me....everyone is a manager or got a new super job or some other great achievement.... no place for the average joe like me. I feel less than... it's slowly eating me alive.

[@sherryelebeauty]

Love your videos!

[@Rithwika14]

im 18 years old. i hate myself sm for some reason sm i never loved the way i look i never liked anything about myself i guess it all started from my childhood cuz my school is filled with popular kids i was never accepted by them i was bullied too maybe cuz of my looks or idk now im currently in university but im still waiting for there acceptance i still want someone from my school popular guy to accept me i feel like i had a glow up i feel like until and unless they accept me ill never be happy

[@sagittariansage_2271]

I definitely needed this video thank you🙏🏼🌹

[@metalciti]

Perfection... Thank you thank you

[@saraherrick4675]

I’m a shifter 👋

[@willydubon5871]

Hi, I’m new here and I wish I had all this information before … thank you so much.

[@WarriorWidower]

Needed this. Have you ever considered putting the audio tracks of this into podcast format?

[@RoadRunnergarage8570]

That's why I unsubscribed from all the model car channels I was subscribed to.... I was jealous of people that can do a hobby I cannot do...

[@hamedalthgafi7153]

Thank u so much

[@LadyK_TX]

The content here was so good but I feel like I've been scolded for the past half hour.

[@luisanaamarista4471]

😍😍😍👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 thank you for this video!

[@captaindan1000]

This would've been helpful years ago when I first got active on social media. But hey! You gotta learn somehow!

[@chrthdestr]

It might sound corny but I have to say, I wouldn't force my worst enemy to live life like this. Imagine actually believing everyone you encounter, speak to or view as better than you in every way you can imagine. You literally end up living life in spectator mode. You don't even feel real. Sadly for me, besides the brief periods of clarity and refusal to act as if I'm a condemned criminal, this is the way I've been living and still continue to, despite how illogical it is. Clicked on this video because it somehow made it to my recommended list.

[@Jaloneeelaughs]

Facts. I say this all the time I wouldn’t wish this feeling on anybody.

[@techtalentinsights]

Wonderful tone and content

[@ssmssmssm_]

powerful video

[@RoadRunnergarage8570]

I need to have an attitude of gratitude...

[@parikshamahabeer]

Thanks for theses talks