"How to Stop Men from Cheating" - Thandi Domingo

[@LungaMoshime]

This is undoubtedly a topic that warrants a part two. Mrs. Domingo continues to impress with her eloquence, depth, and well-rounded expertise in both Christian-based discussions and broader subjects. I’m eager to hear Pen’s insightful questions when we revisit this topic in the upcoming part two. Mrs D you are incredible ❤

[@denisesoxujwa1786]

What a relevant voice for this generation!

[@emmanuelbande5107]

That was a dope conversation, I love how the lady is so well spoken, listening to her is therapeutic... great conversation 👏👏

[@wetive9533]

To be this comfortable with myself, my power and womanhood.

[@botlebybotle2253]

You Pen this is the best guest you've had on the show! May I suggest that you ask sis'Thandi if she would come back to the show with her husband. So many gems to learn from!!!

[@crystalsounds9542]

No loMama uyaphila. She's not fighting anyone, just making her sound points in a respectful manner. You could fight her just nje coz you want to, but she's so well spoken, exactly what we need.

[@ayandabaca7545]

Self control and selflessness is one thing that lacks in our society. We want to do as we please but we are not considerate of people we live with.

[@zandilemlilo9024]

Wow, love this Pen, please bring her back with Nosisi, I can just imagine how much we would learn

[@crystalsounds9542]

Also props to Pen for listening so much more in this episode. Wednesdays hit different now.

[@snethembahadebe2712]

The one hour went too quick, thank you Apostle Thandi. Thank you Pen for inviting and engaging so maturely. Loved this ❤

[@williamthage923]

Sis Thandi must come back Penuel it's very refreshing to hear a woman who is so open minded and doesn't conform to the norm✌🏾

[@Incognito-s3l]

Beautiful conversation ❤❤ we need part 2

[@calvyntecia]

Marriage is necessary, healthy family structure is the basic principle of functional relationships, individual and collective…….

[@boitumelomaswabi1561]

What a powerful woman, thanks Urs and Pen!

[@rewardnango9870]

Good day Penuel ....The lady on the show is so articulate she can address issues honestly , what is her name and what is her career

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

My name is Thandi Domingo. I am a Lifecoach Specialist in Single, Co-parenting and Blended Families. Thank you for watching. We appreciate it

[@tumibaloyi2915]

I saw her on TCC and was stuck on this familiar face but I can't place it nowhere. Now she mentioned here that she worked in the Premier's office in the NC and I think I made the connection. We went to high school together.

[@Penuelism]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@SiyaDube]

Thank you Penuel for bringing her onto Dope Conversations.

[@kgjaqe1169]

Powerful and thought provoking, thank you for this podcast Penuel!

[@khutjo_pce]

🔥🔥🔥 we definitely need a part 2

[@palesamamkhuba3008]

Your voice is so soothing ❤I love you Thandi

[@lisemelomazaiwana1682]

I can listen to her all day long....thank you

[@sindiswajacobs6974]

CWM is here pupupuuuuuu! If you know you ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉

[@palesamamkhuba3008]

We are here❤

[@neontseno340]

Si la!! ❤

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

You guys 😢😢😢

[@relebohilemasama8120]

❤

[@fortunatemavhiko9996]

We are here 🎉❤

[@kholofelomichellechiloane554]

💥Loved it .... Thanks Pen

[@BLewanika]

Damn!!!😊 someone who validates me in so many aspects

[@gcinamthembu1786]

Powerful, absolutely amazing episode.🙏🏾✊🏾💯

[@tumibaloyi2915]

What an impeccable woman, WOW.

[@sambesiwepere8223]

Oooh this woman is so mentally matured. I could listen to her speak all over again.❤😅

[@MissXsmiles]

I also said no to Lobola, however we have a hybrid type of a relationship where primarily we have gender roles, but because of the partnership nature of our relationship we also help each other based on our strengths.

[@Penuelism]

@@MissXsmiles very interesting. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽

[@gugulethu4155]

This was great to watch...such a fresh unique perspective from the guest...love that she base all conviction from Christ. Thank you Pen

[@Gevy_1]

Oh yes, Mrs Domingo you are representing the real woman, enkosi dear. This is a woman onesidima. I have learn a lot and now I understand why the rejection i receive

[@wetive9533]

Yup he is that hooked, you are so intelligent

[@swelihlekhakhuse2137]

That was really dope, please bring her back

[@sibongisenisakhele3114]

Divergent! Definitely relate. Love the conversation!

[@Africaisnextpodcastclips]

This looks interesting. Let me watch

[@Facts_Only_SA]

Penzo, her name is not in the headline. I think she’d appreciate seeing her name there.

[@Penuelism]

@@Facts_Only_SA Thank you for this suggestion. I've added her name.

[@loapijr]

Absolute jewel

[@FrankMokhine-j5d]

Marriage is not about personal choices, it's about building a responsible society. It's about community, it's a way of life we cannot discards. It's humanity's backbone.

[@njabulomathobela66]

Siyabonga Pen & Mrs Domingo

[@ntsukunyane7225]

...I think with the unfolding of a conversation, people should learn to qualify at any point of change in statements, change into whether they are being honest or idealistic. A lot of interviews suck because people think they can move in and out of the two spaces unchecked.

[@yolandamthethwa5372]

This was good. Thank you.

[@sibusisobhebhe7490]

25:39 whilst lobola has been perverted, it actually is a biblical principle. I respect the opinions and especially the sovereignty of free will and ultimately I hope we don’t further pervert or twist the principles of God in the name of free will.

[@Penuelism]

@@sibusisobhebhe7490 please elaborate.

[@sibusisobhebhe7490]

@ the conversation on lobola was a conversation between the man who intends to Marry and the father of the bride, the principle was to honor the family of the bride. It essentially gave the man who is marrying the woman rights to name his children after him. Granted some cultures and practices were or are abusive to women and children but I feel it is folly of us to then disregard all of these principles in the name of free will. Lobola brought two families together and officialized the union but in the process it created safeguards and safety nets for the couple as they work to stay married. It was never designed to be harmful to women and children and the abusive nature of individuals should be treated as just that without tearing apart our values and culture because it is detrimental to generations that come and society as a whole. Absorption of new cultures and practices should be handled carefully so that we can better our experience of life so that it doesn’t cost us more than we would have bargained for.

[@Penuelism]

@@sibusisobhebhe7490 Thank you for the response. iLobolo was about bringing families together and thanking the girl's family with what you had. I'm not aware that other Christians, besides black Africans, practice the idea of a man's family giving money to the woman's family. Please correct me.

[@sibusisobhebhe7490]

What Africans have struggled to do is to adopt Christian values and apply them to African values and this is because of colonialism, Christianity is a cultural practice in its own right and it was imported into our own culture and because of some of the conflicting values and modernization we are choosing to forgoe our culture and we have come up with very interesting and clever ways to justify this.

[@morethelamokoena1826]

​@@sibusisobhebhe7490true people must also acknowledge that christianity is african! Christ is the lion of judah! Judaism and christianity are one they are interconnected an interrelated! African spirituality without faith is irrelevant and evil

[@phumezaadam1]

I love how she thinks

[@boitumelomaswabi1561]

Elephants actually, not buffalo

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

Yes it was elephants. Thank you for correcting me 😊

[@Penuelism]

@boitumelomaswabi1561 thank you for this 🙏🏽

[@imushavhela]

Just in the intro. The caption of the video was already awesome and finally Penuel came to learn as much as us but in a more relaxed and relatable way. This is going to beee amazing.

[@imushavhela]

I don’t know this lady either

[@xolanibuthelezi193]

At the heart of it ...nobody wants to be told nowadays.....not just in relationships ....today you cant even reprimand a child that is not urs

[@teejaymdake1934]

❤❤

[@moromomathobela1187]

45:40 this is proof that every challenge that you overcome can either make you or break you.

[@tebogomaphefomodiba4232]

54:36 - 55:25 You cannot reconcile with someone who does not show remorse/is not remorseful for the hurt that they've caused you and has never apologized. Some situations are irreconcilable and sadly even the kids cannot reconcile with the father. 🤷🏾‍♂️ Maybe when they are older and can defend themselves emotionally, financially, physically, spiritually, etc etc. 🤔

[@tebogomaphefomodiba4232]

I love HGTV where couples have renovation businesses together and still continue after divorce. It speaks to remorse and healthy separation. That can exist I agree but not for everyone.

[@TkMk-x3z]

Wow this is a different rare breed of a lady,love the way she thinks and influenced by Christ.

[@AMUKATkatamu]

Africans, Hallo! (in English), please stop having important conversations without historical context. No one on this discussion has mentioned the History of Marriage. Marriage is an institution, it came from somewhere, it has an origin. Once you understand it's historical significance, you can inform its present incarnation.

[@Zini_M]

This woman reminds me of myself

[@mogopodiphiri6286]

🫴🏾🖤🕊️🌱🧬🌍🌄🙌🏾🙏🏿

[@serakemanabile3075]

She looks like she wears the pants in the house 😂 Mbokoto

[@DRMogwasi]

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't lobolo there in the Bible?, (dowry). Why is it that Christians say they don't believe in lobolo because it's not in the Bible, but I've seen verses that speak of lobolo but some is in a form of acts of service or gifts. I don't remember where it mentions money though. I need some education here.

[@thabaninjokwe3439]

This lady is respectful and polite. She speaks eloquently and clearly, but what she's saying about family, customs, bible understanding is lacking substance. When you reference the Bible, don't pick the rose and leave the steam and say God is for it. I will come back later and share a few key points as to why I disagree or say the above statement.

[@sibusisobhebhe7490]

@@thabaninjokwe3439 agreed, let’s not pick and choose scriptures that validate our traumas, selfish ambitions and we miss the mind and principle of God.

[@TheDesignedLifeWithShiloh]

@@thabaninjokwe3439 thank you for the compliments. I am open to conversation and correction. I'm eager to hear your views

[@tsokho_shumba]

People must have self control and stop look marriage as contract divorce and cheating should have declared as criminal offence!

[@bonexboney]

But how do you stop men from cheating that's the Topic not Marriage please address that.

[@lesedisothwane7741]

First comment

[@itumelengmadihlaba9294]

What's her name?

[@Penuelism]

@@itumelengmadihlaba9294 Thandi Domingo.

[@katzdomingo8778]

Thandi Shiloh Domingo

[@AMUKATkatamu]

Remember that time in history when all men were monogamous...!

[@kimkaans1072]

37:14 why was Jesus not married?🤔

[@Penuelism]

Yeeeeeey!

[@thabaninjokwe3439]

@kimkaans1072 Read 1 CORINTHIANS 7 v 1-9. Your answer is there or jump to v6-9

[@andilemafaesa409]

I know she means well but having your exs as friends no no noooo. People who have seen each other naked ? Noooooo ways she is misleading now

[@sambesiwepere8223]

I agree, there’s no such things as being friends with someone whom you’ve naked. One is in the friendship because they still have hope that that things will work again in the future.