How To Stop Stressing, Obsessing & Worrying: 4 Ways that Work

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Worry is something that our brains like to do because on a subconscious level we believe the worry is helping us in some way. On a conscious level, being in a frequent state from worry not only feels terrible, it also takes us away from being more present, happy and at peace. In this talk I teach you 4 research backed ways to stop worry in it's tracks so you can feel more calm and grounded no matter whomever or what ever is going on around, or inside of you.
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[@CoachNatalia]

“ scheduled worry time” kind of like Scarlett O’Hara’s from “Gone with the Wind” film approach - “ I am not going to worry about it today. I will worry about it tomorrow. “

[@parkerrose3590]

I always write down my thoughts and worries. I tell myself I've been through worse and got through it. I can handle it.

[@mdnayeemalimashaallha3020]

I to do the same thing 😂

[@sunjanettagreen6966]

Love this ❤

[@chrisdigitalartist]

Hi Julia! Senior Shifter Chris here! Thanks for the follow up KZbin video on worrying. How To Stop Stressing, Obsessing & Worrying: 4 Ways that Work I like the idea of scheduling time for worrying. To me, that also seems like the right time to also take these other steps during this schedule time. I can sit down ask myself what I am worrying about and write those thoughts down, then move on to step 2 and ask myself those questions to make a plan about what I would do if “such and such” happened. Then give myself that compassion as I wrap up my schedule worrying time. I may need to try to implement this some time. Here are my notes: Recap: *Our brain makes up good reasons why we worry. It thinks it serves a purpose for survival. 4 Ways That Help Stop Worrying: 1. First take a step back, breath and ask yourself, "What am I really worried about and is this a likely threat or this my brain being overzealous? " Is it a real threat or just a habitual thought?" Is it a real threat or just a habitual thought?" Use mindfulness if is just a habitual thought. 2. To actually answer the question: "What if?" *"What will I do?" *"How will I handle it? " *"What are my options?" *"How will I get through it?" *As soon as we try to answer the question, worry loses its power. *Take a pen/pencil and paper and actually write down what is the thing I am worried about and what I will do if it happens. What are my options? What is my plan? 3. To schedule time to worry. Tell our brain not to worry about something in a moment we don't want to and give it time and space to do so later in a scheduled time. Giving that permission and space to worry at another time can help clear our heads and help us focus on the present. 15 min or so once a day. Set an alarm. 4. "Get Curious." *What is really going on here? *What is this really about? *What is the vulnerable spot or insecurities? *Offer yourself compassion while asking these questions. "I know this feels scary…" "I know this feels vulnerable.' or "It is understandable that I am worrying about this…etc.…" "I am here for you. I care about you. I support you. I will figure this out. We have been through hard things before." "We can take it one step at a time like we have before."

[@leahwalton7048]

This is great thank you!!

[@chrisdigitalartist]

@leahwalton7048 You're welcome! So glad my notes are helpful!

[@jenn5639]

I like the idea of scheduling time to worry too.

[@babygonda1226]

Un easy because of my aching tummy the result of stress

[@StrongBalloonChris]

It’s like you can read my mind and upload what I’m thinking about and need help with 😂 Grateful to have found this channel on my road to better myself ❤

[@shopi3585]

Omg you uploaded this video the moment I was feeling so bad ❤️❤️

[@meh_lady]

I have been this way my whole life, obsessed with safety and preparing myself for the worst. I didn’t walk until I was two, not because I couldn’t but because I was so cautious. My dad worked with me every day on it after he got home! 😭 It does affect you and those around you greatly. My kids are adults and I am always bracing for them to be in a car wreck. My heart races every time my kids call or text. BUT, today is my very first EMDR session to work toward getting this under control. Talk therapy helps but it was time to level up. Great timing, thanks for this!

[@alexsports7554]

I have been thinking about this topic everyday, only because I stress, obess, worry everyday. Great timing for a video like this.

[@barryd9333]

Julia, you are the best in this space. Thanks for all of your fabulous content and help 😀

[@lauriemtz8616]

thanks rezorse? sorry im so wound up and in pain from stressing out and worrying god help

[@SpotterSky]

All four pieces of advice are valuable! The two techniques I constantly use in combination are: Taking a step back and consciously asking yourself! Be curious! Thanks for this awesome video Julia

[@DespoinaGelastopoulou-iz1uo]

After watching your videos I feel happier stronger and more confident!!! You are amazing 🎉🎉 Thank you Julia!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@vincent33195]

This is wonderful. So happy to have found you and your channel. 🙏🏼

[@dtjs61]

I've been like this my whole life but in the Lasted 6 months it's be horrible.

[@stevecatanio8532]

I don't have your level of education. So I'm going to stop trying to act like I understand. But I do like you a lot and your content is amazing and so are you.

[@jamesmurphy3219]

This is the first time I've heard of a 'what if' exercise such as this. And this exercise would be best to engage in during a scheduled worry time! Not just randomly throughout the day. That might drive you nuts.

[@luciapompeiano3220]

I might suggest gratitude: find every evening 3-5 things you are grateful for (even if "only" the roof over your head, the grunning water in the tap, the washing machine, the car, bike, the electricity, the stars, the sun, the earth...) it will ground you better. You might add asome music right before the worrying time, preferebly use "I am so worried about it" from Monthy Python", it should help to take the drama away from the worry 🤞😅 Taking yourself up and stopping from worrying each and every time and obliged yourself to think about something positive untill worrying time is in... 🤗💖❣️

[@Its_pixie_Gabby]

This helped me soooo much!❤ Your amazing Julia!!❤

[@dl5054]

❤🥂good talk good talk. A delightful sight in front of me as usual , have a great weekend!

[@anonymousanonymous9797]

i really appreciate you! sending love and support to all! x

[@tyronethomad1639]

Julia is the best. 👍

[@Hansprivate]

Where was this when I needed it a year ago?

[@natashasidhu129]

This is truly amazing!!! Very practical and straightforward suggestions, thanks so much!n

[@ravenmuun2827]

I will definitely be scheduling worry time and writing the worries down.😂

[@Marekcatholic]

Thank you for the video Julia! it is helpful. You put a lot of thought and effort into it.

[@lesliengo8347]

I sometimes worry about my anxiety peaking. Going outside can sometimes feel daunting. However, I remind myself that I have been to different places and I am okay. I would like to try the first one, "is this a real threat or just an overactive brain? If it is just an overactive brain, how do I want to calm myself?"

[@marynirmala5497]

I am lucky to see your video

[@kathymorris4553]

Hi, I sure need your help and advice. Thanks

[@reaganannan5176]

Can you talk about how to get rid of anger that you have not let go and anxiety please I need to let go let of a lot of things

[@melyndafrazer1962]

Answering the what if

[@positive78263]

Thanks!

[@zainabbhatti7028]

I love this so much ❤

[@Pauliey365]

thank you

[@therealscot2491]

When I'm at work so much is put on me, constantly have horrible thoughts what should I do while I'm at work?

[@silvanacosta3482]

My name is Silvana I have health anxiety

[@makhosazaneeuginia4457]

Hi makhosazane here

[@samanthaferrara1003]

I am worrying about everything my past when I was getting bullied and picked on many years ago stressing out don’t want I’m getting gray hair need help

[@terriwhalen3618]

Amen

[@stanleymaestas5441]

This Wednesday youtube channel chosen 144 000. RJ Spina interview 👍

[@jesshughes776]

I HEARD TO STOP WORRYING I CAN DO A BODY SCAN. DOES THAT MEAN WHEN I GET ANXIOUS I SHOULD GO TO THE HOSPITAL AND HAVE AN MRI DONE? I'VE NEVER HEARD OF THAT TREATMENT....

[@bluesgreensandinbetweens4400]

No, it's not a medical treatment at all! A body scan is a meditation exercise. There's lots of them on Spotify and probably also KZbin. Good luck!

[@stevecatanio8532]

I love you. Lol.🎉

[@brittbritt9791]

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[@raymondmedina3244]

Hello julia i don't have WhatsApp sorry and not on social media i don't have friends like that

[@raymondmedina3244]

Amazing video

[@stevecatanio8532]

I think I'm just not paying attention

[@jacquelineglitter4328]

I've been around abusive people my whole life until I started limited and no contact. My son has MS and its getting severe. I think thats a reason to worry but I try not to.

[@marynirmala5497]

Can i have your mail pl.

[@lovelife07o7]

Didn’t help me

[@abdullahisskhan7628]

I worry about not being able to sleep, i'd be awake 24 hours, i just keep worrying that i will never feel sleepy enough to just dose off and sleep well, what if i never sleep and then go crazy ?? What if i get a heart attack or a stroke ??, I put my head down on the pillow and i just get this jolt of energy despite all the exhaustion.. im just really desperate it makes want to die, im always asking god to take my life, when ever i put my head down the movie starts and my brain just goes full throttle it scares me and im just constantly living on the edge and there is nothing for me to hide behind i feel helpless..then with all this sleeplessness i try to enjoy some music or video games im so sleepless i feel numb, my back just aches and i get this burning sensation..God please have mercy on my soul!!! Just please take my life or make it better!! Just cant enjoy anything, everything is dark and scary..

[@jenn5639]

I struggle with repeated obsessive thought patterns. This helps. "A real threat or just a habitual thought"?

[@stevecatanio8532]

It's generally harder for a man to listen to women talk. Maybe I'm "ADHD".

[@MIKELPN]

Michael. Chronic pain and health anxiety. Learning to be engaging in life.

[@raiderlove5923]

Are you sure you aren't a mind reader, Julia? 😁😅 But seriously, this is totally me. I obsess, worry and over worry. I feel it comes from my late mother. She was the type of parent who always taught me to think ahead, plan things out, be prepared. But for me personally, I have found doing that starts me worrying, obsessing and then end up not accomplishing anything.

[@maurodiaz5726]

Even English is not my first language, I can understand everything you say. Thanks for all these pieces of advice.

[@stevecatanio8532]

But I hate listening but your videos are addictive. Don't know if it's a good thing. I think it is.

[@irishstallworth800]

Hello Julia , you have been a great help to me…. I bought your audio book Drive your darn bus … I love it!!

[@DespoinaGelastopoulou-iz1uo]

❤ Love from Greece,thank you so much for your videos!! You are really brilliant!!!

[@stevecatanio8532]

I lost weight because I've been healthier because one of the things I do is watch and listen. Thank you Julia. You're a saint. Lol.

[@Beatsmith2005]

Thanks so much for the video. Not sure what to do when the problems are real and definitely going to happen, sooner or later.

[@thenebraskan6977]

Hi Julia, thanks for the awesome video. I like the idea of scheduling a worry period. We can worry as hard as we want. We can study and evaluate whatever we are worried about. Have a regular time to do our worring, just like study hall in high school. Keep up the great work work!

[@johnnylovessheki]

And...nothing ever happens but now!

[@johnfarago3363]

I like getting curious. That has worked the best for me.

[@Sonny0276]

Great Video. Thank you for posting.

[@BlairTighe]

This was wonderful, thank you

[@susanbowers7074]

New subscriber, Thank you

[@johnykryll]

No rumination without action, think it was you who said that.

[@joycewolfe1970]

Thank you Thank you 🎉❤

[@Pinkbutterfly45]

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[@terriwhalen3618]

All of them. 😊