How to Stop the Comparison Trap with Chrystal Evans Hurst

Struggling with comparison? What feelings stir up in your heart when you scroll through social media? Do you feel compelled to compare yourself to other people when you see them post about their beautiful homes, perfect relationships, and successful careers?
Let me free you for a second. It is normal to feel this way. If you dig a little deeper, comparison can be an indicator of something worth addressing in your life. I want to share with you how to work through comparison and all of the feelings that come along with it.
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[@elizabethr-steenberg3711]

As a "good" Christian I ignored the reasons WHY I was making comparisons...and took those thoughts captive ...never looking into my heart and asking God:" Lord, what is up with me?" Thank you, Chrystal I have to listen to this again.

[@sierrawilliams9008]

Thank you so much for the incredible wisdom you’ve provided Chrystal! I’ve revisited this video a few times already because it really resonates with where I’m at in life right now. I’m about a week out from my 27th birthday and I want to spend this next year (and beyond) focusing on the ventures God has placed on my heart. I’m pretty tired of the constant loop of procrastination that comes with the comparison trap and watching others do the things I wanna do when I can put that energy towards actually doing them! Something I have to constantly remind myself of is that everyone’s journey is different and the highlight reel is not the full story. Thank you again!

[@lynnettewalters2516]

I didn't think this was a problem for me, but God has revealed a log on my eye. Thanks for the truth. Be blessed🌻

[@Gloriousdevine1]

Ohhh weee this episode got me all the way together. I have let comparison kill me from starting a business. I felt comfortable by staying in the background of other people’s businesses. When I think about it I have helped many people in theirs but put mine dwindled. I thought I wasn’t good enough! That stops NOW! I can do all things through Christ. Thank you to the listeners question and for you responding.

[@AltheaMcIntyre]

I love this! I agree with you -- this episode is 🔥!

[@jmbarnes87]

I needed this as I just lost my job. And I’m like lord !!!I have access

[@roslynanderson7092]

Such a timely lesson. My takeaway is that I already have what I need. I just have to put in the work. What God has for me is for ne🙏❤️

[@AltheaMcIntyre]

I love this: "The reason why we compare is because we are focusing on their wins but that usually is an indicator that we have not identified our wins." 🙌

[@drbrianahampton]

I caught only the last few minutes of this premiere and it was enough for me to catch a major takeaway. Comparison is a tool; I can either use it to continue in a limited or victimized mindset, or I can leverage it as evidence of what is already available to me in abundance/what God desires for me to have. Thank you for this teaching!❤️🙌🏾👏🏾

[@AltheaMcIntyre]

@drbrianahampton I love this takeaway!

[@drbrianahampton]

@@AltheaMcIntyre me too! I’m glad I just came across the notification of your reply so that i could come and be reminded of this takeaway!🙌🏾

[@kimberlyjefferson]

Speak from a place of abundance and capacity! Whew🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@shoniamurphy7370]

This was a blessing to me. God has given me everything I need.

[@felitadexter4519]

Thank you Crystal some of the best word is when you roll out of bed so you're on it thank you

[@the.victorgeorge]

I remember a while back I was comparing my fitness journey with other people's online and I felt like God straight up asked me, "If I gave you that type of body, would you want it? I said No. Turns out I was comparing myself with something that I don't even want in the first place. Thanks for this video Chrystal. Comparison is the thief of joy.

[@martijustice3460]

OMG! This is SO helpful to my soul! Praising the Lord for you Chrystal bringin the heat that helps! Thank you for keeping it real and helping my soul find rest. ❤

[@michellebanks9807]

Comparison is a time to examine. Thank you so much Chrystal!🙌🏽❤️🙏🏽

[@ladyflowers0727]

This was excellent! That part about appreciating your body for what it has seen you through is Life-Changing. Thank you for your sacrifice Crystal...your ministry is needed and appreciated ❤

[@Tpartee3]

Honeyyyyyyy!!!! This word was awesome! I’m ridding myself of limiting beliefs

[@vickierandolph]

Gurley, you were dead on.😊

[@photopodimagesllc]

Thank you again Spiriitual Online Bestie, for discipling me again. Can't wait to meet you in person one day. I think that is so spot on about comparison and appreciate the part of maybe you are suppose to be separated, but spoke to those that could work on their marriage. :). Love you much. Elle.

[@dielbobo]

Great teaching!

[@myawilkerson9064]

This was so profound. I have often compare my finances , experiences, career and I realize it comes from insecurity. A feeling of lack when in reality God has given me everything I need. I have to operate in it and soon the very things I aspire to obtain will happen. .Often times I viewed it as wrong ,but this is a great perspective. Use it as a lesson to teach you how to adjust things in your life to ensure you are satisfying your needs. Also, count the cost of the blessing that you are asking for. Such a great lesson. Thank you!

[@siphiwemwenya3196]

You look beautiful always, braids or not ..❤Now let me listen to this message

[@yamilee1354]

Chrystal this was so timely for me thank you. What is comparison teaching me and is it God's will for my life was absolutely dynamic!

[@marvitasteward4814]

I'm going to print the transcript. Omg this was so good.

[@doloresanderson2476]

Thank you so much ! I too have decided to ditch the diet mentality and stop worshipping "skinny!" I see myself now as healthy and whole and I give glory to God in my body!😊

[@petronellafransman3599]

Good teaching Chrystal❤

[@user-dz3le3lo6m]

Thank you ,jesus for the message ,it was a blessing.

[@jerriwilliams5691]

Powerful word

[@asmith2669]

Wowwwwwwwww!!! Love this and see comparison in a whole different light. "THE ENEMY WANTED JESUS TO TRADE "ALL" FOR HIS SOME". I LOVE that analogy. Thank you Mrs. CHRYSTAL. Awesome!!

[@Dr.KishKim4ChristJesus]

This was an excellent Word. I love your authenticity, it's freeing! Thank you Crystal! 💙👏🏽

[@cyndi5510]

Beautiful Blessed SUPERSTAR Morning 🙏🏼💚🐝🦋👑✨ FAMILY

[@CDeeRogersWright]

Love it! You would make an excellent executive coach.

[@ChrystalHurst]

Wow, thank you! Contemplating…

[@Lady_Clare4]

In response to a previous video, I think the reason people think you are younger than your sister is because you have a beautiful,round baby face. She has a professional,no-nonsense look. Also, you look up to her with no jealousy or competition. You humbly learn from her even though you’re strong and knowledgeable in your own right. She is unspoiled and looks up to you. You two have a great relationship.❤( Great pod cast. I’m a senior citizen & can also benefit from this. Thanks again🌹.)

[@user-yg1tl3ps9j]

Thank you for keeping it 100, Chrystal. Real talk. No venom. All in love. I appreciate you.

[@cyscott]

Look, let me tell you something sis. YOU HAVE NATURAL BEAUTY ! Girl if I could roll out of bed and look like that…, 😍 I should have let you see a glimpse of my morning look at the retreat 😂. Great message! I never looked at comparison with the perspective of God trying to tell me something. Wow! 🟡

[@TenaciousB20]

This was soo good. I often compare myself and my life with others. You gave me food for thought that I am going to implement when comparison tries to get me off track. Thank you Mrs. CEH for this! Blessings

[@missmlb3842]

this was necessary to hear❤. Whoa!! Thank you so much!

[@deborahnewman-price9597]

Chrystal, thank you❣For your transparency, for your choice of words, for your matter-of-fact delivery, and for sharing from your enlightened perspective to challenge mine, I appreciate you. Thank you for highlighting the difference between coveting & comparing & the healthy ways comparing can bring insight & cause action. Also, your braids are🔥& I am here for it too.!

[@kesebonemaema1450]

I needed to hear this. After my divorce I chose to start a business. I didn't want to be the single mom in a big corporate job who never saw her kids. I'm on a tight budget but I am happier. 😊

[@HerGoodWorks]

This is punching me in the heart and stomach so hard that I almost wanted to cut it off but I couldn’t. So much fear wrapped around if I’m being greedy or taking what God’s given me and using it in “secular” ways…. Lord, and I only end up so disappointed in myself and knowing that I am not fully walking in the permission and faith of God

[@nikyahmorgan2603]

That was AMAZING!!!! 😊I compare myself to other stay at home moms who have perfectly clean homes and question my worth and value because my house is not as clean or perfectly decorated as theirs! Not knowing that they may have support or help around their house with their children, or they may not be as present as I am with my new baby girl, or they may not be as in tuned with their bodies and may not be as healthy as I am. I am not willing to trade in sleep (waking up at 4 am) to clean my house as I have a newborn. But that does not mean that I am less worthy to be a stay at home mom or wife. I can choose when I would like to clean my house 😉🥲keeping my health and being present with my baby and myself and my husband most important! Thank you so much for this video 🤗

[@shebez11]

This is so good! and right on time because I have been in spiritual warfare with comparison lately. It was trying to get the best of me but I had to keep reminding myself of what God said about me and what he promised me.

[@wandabooker1394]

This is so good. Thank you for clarity on what’s been limiting me. It’s ME!

[@made2meander]

This really helped me thank you. And thank you for your morning hair sacrifice lol it was worth it 😊

[@sharlaamysamuel]

Amen! Protect your energy by being grateful every day for your blessings. Everyone has successes and failures, no one’s life is perfect so comparison truly is a waste of time. God bless x

[@jccn1728]

Crystal, you are all up in my business this morning and I needed this push. Thank you.

[@sylboa]

God bless you so much for sharing this episode.

[@gracious2gf]

The gut/heart check that I didn't know that I needed. Thank you !

[@thelmapeoples1370]

Thank you Chrystal

[@godsword2794]

This is so great to hear and to get us thinking about our wants and needs, what we are willing to do to get there..but whatever we decide we CAN do and already ENOUGH! Your teachings are right on!

[@geraldineward7052]

This was great information for me. Stop living thru the lens of others, be honest with yourself in being content.

[@kristeneberry7988]

This was the second podcast on comparison. So good and needed. I spent most of my life struggling with comparison and now I am comfortable with me!!

[@deescott5376]

Good evening, everyone

[@lennicesmith4455]

This is an amazing word! I’ll keep my 13 year old car that works just fine/looks great and continue to enjoy traveling ❤

[@angelic-godsmiles2are182]

You are a blessing. That is all. 🥰♥️

[@candicemiller2647]

This was such a blessing and helpful! Thank you Chrystal!

[@alfredallgood7397]

That was so good. Helped me with my business and my life. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@marionwalters1405]

Love this Crystal. Good talk. A lot of us are hanging our baskets where we can't reach it and its keeping us in debt. Stop keeping up with the Jones' and live with contentment. God Bless mi girl luv your chats.

[@zeek1075]

Such a good word! Thank you for letting God use you!

[@delicatelydimpled5738]

This was exactly what I needed. Thank you Chrystal. ❤

[@millicentscarlett5753]

Thank you, Chrystal. You have made me think about a lot of things this morning. Especially " What God has given me and what am I invested in?"

[@stephaniebakker309]

Sooo good!

[@godsdaughter4ever]

This was a word that I needed! Thank you so much for sharing 🙏🏼 Can you please consider doing a video speaking to what wives should do if their husband struggles with addiction? My husband has been struggling with gambling addiction for over 4 years now (I’ve known about it for 2.5 years). It’s been emotionally and physiologically draining. I’ve consistently prayed for his deliverance and recovery and encouraged him to get in community to help him overcome his addiction. He refuses to get the help he desperately needs, and it’s hurting him, our marriage, and our family. I question how long should I wait for him to get free or should I leave if he continues down the addiction path. I love my husband and desire to honor God and our vows, through sickness and in health, but I’m struggling 😢 Any advice on this topic would be greatly appreciated.

[@jessym.9869]

SO GOOD!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@MarthaRestoreEvans-ts8dl]

Thank yiu Chrystal

[@patriciamcghee6368]

Thank you for the podcast. Made me rethink things in my life, and yes, will be listening on replay. I had to share with my sisters. Thank you.

[@sweetjoyfulsoul9125]

Sooooo good. Well said! Such wisdom. And a bit of a heart conviction. Thank you!❤

[@tarastone1544]

This was real good!

[@KoddiDunn]

This was sooooo good!!

[@oiwurisheencourages]

Thank you Lord!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤Goodbye Comparison!!

[@eugenedullen9376]

You are so funny, that's why I like watching You and I get biblical teaching!

[@themeekjourney]

This is sooooo good!!❤

[@conversationswithdaisyjone6128]

This is so on point!! 🎯 I’ve read Nona’s book and this podcast is right on…and perfect for our everyday. Thanks Sis!

[@brownettataylor1053]

It is Me and my procrastination limiting me.

[@gloribyflores5]

Wonderfull contrast ❤

[@learning5780]

You were SO ON THE MONEY here! I also like the remedy: “Ask what is comparison try to tell me? The take it to God [talk and pray about it].” Love this! Thanks so much!

[@NaturalJam22]

Yes

[@paulalawrence3811]

Chrystal, Thank you!!! Every session is so freeing. I am guilty of the comparison issue. But I have learned to ask do I want to go through what person they went through to get it? I thank you giving me tools to decipher the cause and effect of my comparing. Thank you! As as always ❤

[@denisejohnson1670]

This was so helpful! Thank you so much for this.

[@gloriaoluyadi7566]

Thank you, I needed this! God bless you!

[@paulagonzales9262]

A blessing Crystal ❣️

[@jo-alicia445]

Thank you Chrytal, great message.

[@cheryldian]

Thank you, this was good

[@paulagonzales9262]

Watching from Globe Arizona ❣️ I so enjoy and apply the wisdom I receive in ALL your talks/topics ❣️

[@pearlmoses7565]

Go off sis 😢this was want I needed to hear as we about to wrap up the year ❤❤

[@anniehall1919]

Thank God so much for you. Wow! This was eye opening in a clearer way. New subscriber

[@emeldahkondowe]

Thanks, this was good

[@NoemiFodorenau]

Thank you for sharing about comparison. It spoke to me deep down I have made every excuse not to do what I’ve dreamed of mainly because of finances and because I often compare myself to others. And thank you for giving me a good talking to about taking care of my body. My husband is a caretaker and often times chooses a relaxing date night so I can rest because I don’t.

[@ChrystalHurst]

I'm so glad you tuned you!

[@user-mh1pn2pj3s]

AMAZING WORD!!!!❤🎉

[@Sugges64]

Crystal, what an awesome episode, we all need to hit the reset button on comparing ourselves to others. I have created several journals and biblical workbooks that are on Amazon platform, with no sales, nevertheless, I haven't begun marketing, due to comparing myself to other prominent figures. So I definitely need to hear this episode, thanks

[@rejoicenyashamupazviripo5418]

Im comparing myself with my colleague i want everything she has but yeah this helped realise I have gold i cant trade off what i have for that

[@janellesampson2976]

This was amazingly helpful and revealing. Thank you for helping us to ask ourselves those questions.

[@dianawimberly4930]

WOW❤️

[@laurenmoreland1173]

I'm glad God led me here. What I needed to hear. I'm going back in to listen again so it can get good in my spirit.❤

[@rosewright-scott5469]

WooWe!! Gotta put the work in. Self disappointment is a beast. Yes we choose who we want to be!!!! Thank you❤

[@ChrystalHurst]

Amen!

[@betzaidafigueroa9046]

You talked about so many things, that my brain was inflated of too much information. But those last words in 33:48 of your video blew my mind, a reality. But what I did, and helped , was getting away from social media, and meditate in what I have, and be thankful. Was a time of deep reflection to be focus on things that really matter. Glad I did.

[@LadyDnicole28]

I just had this conversation with my husband! I truly enjoyed this episode and THANK YOU for your obedience concerning this teaching

[@affirmation_station]

Very well said, thank yoou x

[@marshamccuin8696]

This is good, thank you❤

[@jackiemorris7926]

This put me right in check. I needed this.

[@lyndaparker4213]

I've lived my life caring about what other people think - the other side of comparison

[@daynavictorious363]

This was so good. I will start going to God instead of shutting down