Escape the Comparison Trap

It is easy to compare ourselves to other parents and feel insecure that we are not doing a good enough job. When we do this, we often feel unworthy and our kids pick up on this. In this episode, Dr. Shefali dives deep into “the comparison trap” and helps two mothers find their way back to worth and empowerment.
Dr. Shefali is a NYT bestselling author of The Conscious Parent, and The Awakened Family. She is also a clinical psychologist, an international speaker and a wisdom teacher, integrating Eastern philosophy with Western psychology.
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[@cecilec7512]

Thank you soooo much for this episode!!! I am so guilty of that, saying to my daughter: you only love your dad, you prefer him. I left her dad due to emotional abuse from him to me. And it’s so hard indeed. But watching this helped me so much to understand why she’s rejecting me. It’s an eye opener. Thank you so so much Dr Shefali and to both of your guests who I resonated with both.

[@suzannemarambio1]

Love this topic as I am constantly checking into my own inner child to soothe her and release the trauma and become abundant and whole again

[@doctorshefali]

Thank you for sharing!

[@goldieshawel8683]

Comparing ourselves to others can be a way to either grow or stay in lack. Watching this episode helped me to see what ways I too am doing this in my life. As moms so much depends on us and the way we value or devalue ourselves. The more we respect ourselves, love and value ourselves the less we will fall into the comparison traps.

[@doctorshefali]

Thank you for your insight. It's true that self-respect and self-love can help us avoid comparison traps. Please follow and share the podcast! 🌟

[@JameliaPinnock]

Oh my I absolutely love this - I felt this so deeply “ The more you are, the more you be , that the more your children would have💜💜 It only takes one person to be conscious.

[@doctorshefali]

Yes! Thank you!

[@bakshi-littleoneslife]

Oh gosh!! I have so fallen into many of those comparisons traps! It is so easily done! Thank you for unlocking that cage for us 😊

[@doctorshefali]

Glad it was helpful!

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[@Mytown2024]

Thank you very much for this episode Dr Shefali. I really enjoyed it. I loved the lesson from the first case, I feel that it's so powerful to realize that by being present a situation/interaction/relationship can totally turned around. To be present is much more powerful than having all the money in the world❤. I'm just thinking about HOW someone really makes feel when they are present with me? I feel alive, I feel joy and in the case of people close to me, I feel that they have me in their heart ❤

[@doctorshefali]

Wonderful!

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