How to Text like a Gentleman

[@poolboyinla]

That is a sharp suit.

[@Gent.Z]

Thank you

[@asherbt924]

Was thinking the same thing, that's a Patrick Bateman suit!

[@Will-fc2iu]

@@asherbt924 Bateman meme gif

[@JosephMoore-gc8me]

Pinstripe suits for life.

[@scottg2946]

This video is excellent, and addresses such an urgent need, as so many people seem to be so completely baffled by these common sense concepts you lay out. Great work GentZ!!

[@Gent.Z]

Thank you very much. I have seen other videos on texting, but new features like voice notes, read receipts etc present a minefield that I thought was worth addressing .

[@srkovkan]

Hi! I'm glad I found your channel. Love from Brazil! 🇧🇷

[@Gent.Z]

Glad to have you here. Welcome

[@ClarkVisuals]

You look absolutely dapper in that splendid suit, my good fellow!

[@mariacollins4409]

"Always write words and sentences in full, with correct grammar, spelling, and punctuation." I would marry this man just for saying that. I can't believe someone is finally saying all these things. Wish he would shout it from the rooftops.

[@WrathOfGrapesN7]

How to text like a gentleman: Dear [name], [Text] Sincerely, Captain Raymond Holt.

[@awalton9024]

Noyce!

[@gabrvalete]

That made me laugh a lot

[@iaminsfiredbytrustfration8502]

I'd rather write a letter on that case. No one is going to take me seriously by texting in this way.

[@nicholaskim2964]

Rip 😢

[@WrathOfGrapesN7]

@@iaminsfiredbytrustfration8502 it's not meant to be taken seriously, it's a running joke from Brooklyn Nine-Nine. He texts like that to everyone including his husband.

[@ChristopherCompagnon1AndOnly]

I personally added new "words" in my phone text dictionary. Shortcut LOL becomes "It made me laugh!" automatically.

[@Gent.Z]

Nice move

[@sgazzz]

Good stuff, I like the addition of your outfit breakdown at the end too 👍🏼

[@Gent.Z]

@@sgazzz I’m glad to hear your feedback on that. It’s a new feature but I will continue doing it

[@hoozat007]

Good, useful video. Text messaging is a convenient way to communicate, but there are definitely some annoying aspects. One of the things that irritates me is when you get into a long back-and-forth exchange. Texts are great for a quick question and reply, or to set up a meeting, etc. Once you go back and forth 3 or 4 times, now it’s a conversation. Just call and talk to the person.

[@Gent.Z]

I agree

[@pensivepenguin3000]

This is so true of work interactions, too. Once you’ve exchanged a few messages on Slack or Teams, it’s time to just pick up the phone or put on the headset, whatever the case may be

[@morcio]

I love the new video ending, which is spot on. It's like explaining in a nutshell what you wear.

[@DerSingh0329]

Loved the video, thanks mate.

[@siegfriedo]

I a Xennial, but really enjoy your videos and vibe with most of the advice you share. Keep up the good work! 👍

[@mthomas8946]

Always proof-read your tests before sending.

[@tudorgoina9997]

100% Agree on the fact that a breakup should be done face to face. (Speaking from experience, my previous girlfriend left over text).

[@Gent.Z]

@@tudorgoina9997 ouch. Yes, always face to face.

[@01Sassoon]

Never take your eyes off the guy you just shot, to text your Bros. 😂

[@suzannecarter445]

Great job, James!

[@aryiascolbert8487]

I Couldn’t agree more James

[@Gent.Z]

Thank you, Arias. Good to see you here.

[@aapo616]

I adore the thumbnail.

[@Benjamin-ml7sv]

Thanks for your videos, I have autism and a lot of this helps me

[@btudor_06]

This video was highly needed, thank you ! P.S : I really like the new outfit outro !

[@Gent.Z]

Thank you, Tudor. Glad to hear your feedback regarding the outfit rundown. I'll make more of these.

[@basvleeskruyer]

I am allready a gentleman. However it is good to stay updated.

[@Gent.Z]

I think most of the men who watch these videos are gentlemen for sure

[@essayess3]

Where I live in Thailand, people text and scroll whilst driving motorcycles.

[@sc0ttmagoon]

Great advice overall. This is an area that is increasingly common as we communicate more and more via our phones and short messaging means, and an area where bad (ungentlemanly) behaviors can get ingrained early and quickly. I disagree though on "read receipts". I have mine on because sometimes the notice itself is my reply and nothing more is needed. For example if I give someone a piece of information and they reply (politely) that they received it or thank me for it, I do not need to reply again to confirm that I got their confirmation. They can see that I saw it and the chain should end politely there. Similarly with messages like "on my way". I want them to know that I received it without needing the clutter of an additional OK message.

[@OldcarsNmusic]

I've always used full words and punctuation in my texts. Many abbreviations sound like speech impediments in my head.

[@bilocta]

Oh! I like the ending like the Gentleman's Gazzette.

[@sputnikone6281]

A gentleman always wears leather gloves when texting except for when he is at the ballet or opera where white gloves are mandatory when texting.

[@A_Fellow_Man]

My girlfriend and I keep read receipts on exclusively for each other as we both have a tendency of thinking we sent a response when we didn’t. We use it as a reminder but also acknowledge that it is a reminder.

[@Gent.Z]

@@A_Fellow_Man as I said, each contact in your phone has its own texting etiquette. I think it’s great that you and your girlfriend have established this as a way of communicating. Very open and mature.

[@pensivepenguin3000]

I mostly agree with this, though I think it could be taken too far. Texting is an inherently casual and conversational form of communication, so I don’t think there’s any societal expectation that one uses the same level of formality he might in an email, written letter or other more formal mode of communication. I think as long as you aren’t sounding like a 14-year-old girl, you’re probably doing OK. I’ve tried to dial down the lol’s and emojis, but I still use them when they’re appropriate 😀

[@Gent.Z]

As you say, to avoid texting like a 14-year-old girl is the most important thing. My style of texting is perhaps more blunt and formal than most people's, but that also reflects my personality.

[@lordtherapeutics]

Read receipts are useful in that someone can see that you haven't responded for 6 hours because you haven't had chance to look at your phone for 6 hours, not because you are rude or trying to convey a brush-off. Some of us have busy jobs.

[@Gundal66]

I wish this video become popular in Hong Kong :) I have been to many places, it's the worst here when it comes to phone addiction.

[@tomokofj]

As a person of the country where emojis were born, I totally agree.

[@playwatchpictures2023]

Hi James! Have you uploaded a topic about the do's and don'ts of gentlemen when posting online? Online gentlemen's etiquette 🙂

[@qualitylife8195]

Valuable channel,valuable video. Appreciate this. But i think calling friends bro , especially for closer ones is not that much weird .

[@bruceshelton1498]

Brown in town, black at night

[@MAYANKSINGH-bd6ig]

I think you need an old looking background with molding on the wall to match your theme

[@WaylandGaming]

I’ve always had Read Receipts on. But from now on, I’ll keep it off. I’ve always felt pressured to keep it on. I was even asked why it was off by someone years ago, thus I turned it on back then. I’ll now do what I want, and not what others want of me. Always wanted to turn it off. Now I have a reason. I also have a question, what about typing indicators? I find them annoying when I see them. “Come on, get on with it!” But does a gentleman have typing indicators on for himself?

[@Gent.Z]

Personally, I leave typing indicators on. But if you want to turn them off, I don’t think that is in any way rude.

[@pensivepenguin3000]

Oh man. That is the first thing I do when I get a new work laptop or a new phone - turn off the stupid read receipts. I wonder who the individual is who ever thought that would be a good feature

[@pensivepenguin3000]

Just be careful, guys. It’s possible to come off as stuffy, eccentric and out of touch if you use an excessively structured and formal writing style in inherently casual forms of communication like texting. This would be a kin to wearing a three-piece suit to McDonald’s. But by all means, if you’re OK seeming like the strange eccentric guy, go for it :)

[@EcthelionOTF]

I disagree about responding within 2 hours to texts. I think you should have put a disclaimer on responding to text messages quickly. I’m currently writing a novel from home and need up to five hours at a time to focus on my novel, not withstanding when people are working. If you are at work, and the text message is not work related, there is no issue waiting until you are no longer working to respond to messages.

[@ganggang2454]

I'm surprised you don't use any slang as you were once goth😂

[@ScottSummerill]

Yup. I hate the abbreviated lingo. Just stupid. And agree, if your text is more than a couple lines or goes on for than a couple replies, freaking just call the person.

[@pkersoul]

Bro, sup homie rotflmao 🔥🔥🙏🙏🙏💀💀💀🤡🤡👄👄👄

[@BENZO_TV]

No emojis

[@danelisslow3269]

😏😏😏

[@BalladsofBahrain]

My hatred towards acronyms like "lmao" "lol" etc. beyond emphasis, especially when there's nothing to laugh about. Oh, and not to mention, terms like "bro" are so irritating and annoying both in regular speech and text...

[@boussolefire]

Keep it short and simple, use proper grammar and no emojis.

[@gericaruso3378]

Good information not really available anywhere else... I asked my son 60 and my grandson 20 to watch you... I may have missed it but could you give some information to very young people. The college age boys/men need to think about this kind of thing. The last person I saw with a handkerchief was President Obama!!

[@Cucumberflavoredmustard]

Here's something women use as a test: If they are into you, they will text you late (9-12pm). If you like her, text her back. If not, wait until tomorrow. The rules are different in the wee hours, however. Early a.m. is drunk time, and unless she is your lady (or you are just THAT thirsty)- ignore those.

[@BearlyNaked_]

What about 💩 emoji?

[@srkovkan]

Don't, please.

[@aapo616]

If you need to use that emoji, it means you are more like "Gent shit".

[@BENZO_TV]

why would you???😂😂😂😂

[@Arch_Dornan]

Algorithm comment

[@tuomas_knives]

Can you fix your tie? It's not the first time I see your tie peeking out the thing from the side. It doesn't look very good. You should either tighten or make a bigger knot. This is a minor thing, other than that you look great.

[@pensivepenguin3000]

I must have missed the part of the video where he solicited criticism of his appearance from random strangers in the comments

[@tuomas_knives]

Maybe he should disable comments then. What else am I supposed to do if not comment? I'm just trying to help him look his best. At least my comment has a subject. You're just being rude at me for no reason.