How To Truly Love Yourself - Lisa Nichols

Hey hey hey! I appreciate you stopping by! For information on my live events, trainings and free resources, please visit my website: bit.ly/LisaNicholsMTM
--
The Lisa Nichols Show is a place where you can come at any given time to get the step by step tools you need to live the life that you want. In this episode, Lisa talks about how to truly love yourself.
Now... This is not just a monologue, it's a dialogue. Make sure to share your thoughts below in the comments and subscribe to this channel and look out for more amazing content every week!
--- ---
Subscribe NOW to The Lisa Nichols Show:
bit.ly/LisaNicholsShow
Follow Lisa Nichols here:
Like Lisa on Facebook: bit.ly/LisaNicholsFacebook
Website: bit.ly/MotivatingTheMasses
Follow Lisa on Instagram: bit.ly/LisaNicholsInstagram
Pin Lisa on Pinterest: bit.ly/LisaNicholsPinterest
Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn: bit.ly/LisaNicholsLinkedIn

[@angelnuritzur]

I learning to love myself. but sometimes it is so hard when the world gives you the feeling like no one loves you.

[@theplantasticjourney]

#BOL "Never expect someone to love you more than you love yourself." Preach.

[@Foodstalker555]

Amen!

[@application57]

My friend want ppl to love him more than he loves hisself but he doesn't show us nothing but his sexualized version of love I think his idea of love is only with sex/woman

[@callmeserene]

"I own my bright light and I own my shadow" how beautifully said ♥️

[@claraegbonwon]

No one can love me more than I love yourself. I learned this, eventually.

[@MrDanGroup]

I'm a young man, and when I tell I have been inspired and educated from this sister. I truly have changes to make. #bol #relationship

[@monicarachelle6627]

#BOL I'm not perfect , I'm just learning to perfectly manage my imperfections 🤷🏾‍♀️ #yesyes

[@melissacampbell1716]

The sentence that hit my soul, was when you said The way you love you is the 1st example of the way they get to love you. That speaks such volume!!!!

[@umashneenaidoo5677]

I am so grateful for the advice and guidance that you give. I only realized now, at 34! that I should not rely on others to validate me. It is a battle I fight everyday. I can wake up so happy and positive but one negative comment from someone else can change my state of mind completely and break me down. I still have a long way to go. You always seem to give me the right guidance exactly when I need it. Thank you 🙏🏼

[@belindajowhitmore952]

I don't want to win the argument, I want to not react to the situation but look at ways to communicate in a better way

[@marciasalinas4501]

BOL!!! I lost an amazing person because o hated my self!! And I translated that into my relationship. “I’m not good enough” “I’m not pretty enough” “I’m a burden!” And the more he tried to convince me I was wrong, the more I thought he was just saying what I wanted to hear and didn’t meant it! I put the entire responsibility of my happiness in his hands. He ended things, and I was angry, but then, I started to realise he did what he had to do for him! He was exhausted and lost. Fast forward 6 weeks and I realised that he did what he had to do for him and inadvertently did what he had to do for me! In 6 weeks I worked so hard on loving me that I realised had he not ended things, I would have never had the drive to better me and start loving me!

[@brigitakelly]

"Before you madly fall inlove with another person, fall madly inlove with you coz then you'll bring that love into the relationship" this touched me and I am thankful because it has taught me to love me first. Thank you Lisa. You just don't know how much I needed to hear these words at this particular time. Self love.

[@sophienavarro4317]

The other BOL for me is I am learning to truly fall in love with myself deeply. I am learning to not rely on others for any kind of validation. I need to trust my own deep validation for my own self. It isn't out there. It will never be out there! It is in me. So I have been learning how to embrace managing being single, in every sense of the word. I need to embrace being ALONE with SELF. I am still healing so much from past relationships. I am trusting to listen to myself more and just relax. Thank you for your words Lisa!

[@selfloveisthepower2608]

You can do that

[@graysonbaker6552]

You is doing good

[@itsmv111]

If you don't show up for yourself and love yourself first, others will not. It all starts within. Thanks for the reminder and great video Lisa!

[@florencemaina7020]

2years down the line, l love this video, falling madly in love with myself daily!! BOL!! Tx my dearest Lisa ❤️

[@myownstrut790]

Lisa I remember the first time I saw you in the SECRET...I knew you were special and that you would be a blessing to people all over the world and that you are indeed... Thank you and blessings be with you always🙏💓👏!

[@JayLHarris]

#PREACH #BOL Relationships are to compliment not complete

[@celinarican1976]

#BOL "NEVER expect someone To LOVE YOU MORE THAN YOU LOVE YOIRSELF"

[@MusaBangs-ue1bn]

I’m truly getting more unconditional love and support for myself, all in the name of miss Lisa

[@nickysjourney4272]

One of the best things I am learning is to love myself which is allowing me to love others more.

[@tiffanyd.caesar4162]

This message never gets old...When you stated, "Relationships mirror the love you give to yourself..." #BOL

[@NicoleGholson]

This is a reminder to continue improving at being my own best friend. And to continue to improve how I love myself.

[@adamantramona9175]

I had to watch this twice. It was so powerful for me because I was never loved by my mother so I never had that example of what it feels like to be loved unconditionally. But I can love myself that way. Unconditionally. And I cried. It was powerful. Thank you.

[@patriciabettencourt7479]

Dear Lisa, I was taking notes and had an a hah moment when you said, when there is anger- what does that person need or desire? I have never looked at anger that way. Thank you. Then I was still writing and you where at the end of you show saying, you might be the only person today telling me that you believe in me and love me... I STARTED CRYING. Thank you sister from another mister. xoxo

[@martines6302]

“I am not perfect... I learned how to perfectly manage my imperfections “! Wowwwwwwwww that hit apart of my soul I didn’t know I had. You read my spirit. I always knew I didn’t want to be perfect but I didn’t know how to articulate that I wanted to perfectly manage my imperfections! Wow, now I’m ready to conquer the day! Subscribed!

[@syworrill5855]

Lisa thank you! I am post-depression, post-suicidal and pro-maximizing my potential as a motivational speaker who has been overdone and overcome the enemies within and without and fully recognize after re-cognizing my being/worth and mission that I have much to offer those like the person I was a real life example of now is the time to Become all you were created to be.

[@anelanuar9629]

Wow! I searched "how to truly love yourself" and found you first and I will never regret for my decision. Your voice is so calm, nice and like ASMR to my ears. I liked your words "Don't ever expect someone else to love you better than you are loving yourself." By now, I have been doing so many things to love myself and sometimes things get worse and I start feeling that all of my attemts were useless. That I am not truly loving myself. So, I was waiting for someone to love me and to complete me. I always wanted to feel that 100% love from myself. I always wanted to feel everything that I learned from my psychological therapies, motivation videos, works with the mirror. I did all of them. But I couldn't fully and truly feel that love. Now your words also motivated me. They gave me a hope that I'll still and again and again continue my journey to self love. And I will always remember: I am complete. I don't need relationships or anything else to feel complete. I need them just to sharpen my love and my strength. Thank you!

[@leonardisaac8848]

Thank you!!! I loved the part about looking to meet the need under your partner’s emotional words of anger, hurt, or fear. Sometimes we get caught in the heat of the moment, and how right we are, forgetting the possibility for service, in that growth because of the current challenge.

[@donnajeffreys8252]

Something I've been doing since this past summer 🌞 2023 is think of times when I've been really proud of how I handled myself in different situations. Then I think about what I want to say . Then I get in a good light ( my favorite is outside) I make sure I'm looking my best while I'm looking into the camera 🤳🏽 of my cellphone. I start talking making a short video. Some are 13 minutes, some half hour or 3 minutes. I save the best one's to listen to later and remind me of how strong and courageous I have been, just getting BETTER with time. I am totally honest in my videos taking my time. This has really been a blessing for my soul. The woman I was years ago is NOT the woman I am TODAY. ❤️

[@abderrahimkaari2881]

I am a high school teacher of English, definitely not the type of your ex-writing and speech teachers :), from a culture totally different from yours in a different part of the globe. I am addicted to watching your videos and not afraid to say that I cried many times while doing so. The first time I saw you was with Tom Bilyeu and Steve Harvey. I downloaded your videos and listen to them while in my car and get emotional every time you talk about rock bottom for I can literally relate. Broke, broken, and depressed and then you came along to give me a gleam of hope that that's where to begin. I''ll work it out and get back one day to add another right comment here telling you that I did it. You are a true inspiration. I just wanna say I love you and hope to meet you one day.

[@Mrs.KikiRenea]

Lisa you are a true blessing! You have no idea how much your words of encouragement and love have spoken to my heart. I am just recently in self discovery mode. I have to really learn how to love myself again. I have been married to the same man for 14 yrs, dating for 3 years prior. I am now realizing I have to show him how I need to be loved by my own example of loving me. WOW!!! BOL! FOREAL FOREAL!

[@kanisham.9305]

Stepping into an empty space, thank you for believing in me and loving me more than me!

[@oOraFontayCreation]

I truly appreciate you and LOVE being within your tribe. Thank you for believing in me. It does my ❤️ wonders!!! BOL!!💪🏾👑 You’re such a phenomenal force 🌺

[@favorme3763]

“Turn up the Self-Love Thermostat” Powerful!! Love it!!!!

[@SongSoulJah]

WOOOOOW......YOWZAH! #BOL "I'm a better version of myself and my greatest self is emerging?!" WHOOOHOOO...I so needed to hear that. I've been looking for this, for you for quite some time now and I am so very thankful I'm here, present and open to receive. I had a moment of "compassionate clarity." I realized I was pouring so much into everything and everyone else, being mother, wife, daughter, etc...that I totally forgot about me. I was hardwired into thinking this was how it is to be done, period. Now, I'm focused and determined to fall in love with who I really and discover my true purpose. I'm committed to doing this sacred work of loving and respecting myself so that I can give my best to my children, my husband, etc... I'm excited about this revelation and from the bottom of my heart, I thank YOU!

[@prathibhas4874]

Lisa... when u said I am ur sister... OMG that hits me to the core. I got my NO MATTER WHAT book today and I could feel your presence in each n every word of it. I mean it... I thank God that he made me find you at the very right time of my life. Before someone fall in love with u.... fall in love with urself that nobody could love you more that yourself.... ahh blown my mind 😀

[@namesurname9959]

BOL! Greetings from South Africa. Lisa, KZbin introduced you to me Nov 20, 2016. My journey to recovery to life started that day. I saw one of your interviews. It changed my life. All of me is now a remake. Relationships, all of them, have changed. I love it most when you speak from your heart.

[@linnetmbotto7212]

OMG! 10:17 BOL! The best gift I can give yourself everyday is to wake up mindfully knowing I am choosing to be with this person in my life. I am not blindly in love

[@winifredokafor5813]

OmG..Lisa I will follow your teaching..I just got to know about you yesterday..I am 25years old from Nigeria... I just got a mentor...Thank you for being in this generation...God bless you real good.

[@lydiangaca2802]

knowing that someone cant love me more than I love myself and that love is an unending process

[@edithbutler763]

I am responsible for my wholeness and completeness... I fully accept that responsibility.

[@lawofattractionandhealthpo8606]

thank you thank you thank you... I took 2 thing from this today, I am my own rescue. I am 100% complete in this moment.

[@lisettekempenaar4115]

BOL!!!! Today for the first time I've bought something for myself without feeling guilty. Yes, yes!!!!

[@8thwonderSports]

One of the best statements I've ever heard is to be the first example of how to love me! Lisa that feels so good to just say sit in and love in. Thank you

[@ValentinaGarciax]

I have just been awakened. I am so shook by this speech. It has made me realize so many things that I need to work on and align. It makes so much sense and i don’t know how i hadn’t realized it before

[@emilyquinn4901]

#BOL I always say that I can’t be in a relationship with someone because I can’t imagine being intimate with someone. But I’ve just realised that it’s not them, it’s that I MYSELF cannot imagine someone looking at me and wanting to be intimate with ME. Love you Lisa

[@Rea1913]

❤️

[@finsup36]

BOL!! The BEST VERSION of ME IS FINALLY HERE.. 2018 IS MY YEAR! So glad to have found her.. YESSZZZZZ! CAN YOU FEEL IT

[@ahiretich8524]

Few days I`m making the Excersises with the mirror.........I feel myself..............absoluteley Yes....... We need more Excersises.............also to writing down the negative thoughts.........I couldn` t believe it.....I`m moving forward! Those physical Excersises are necessary.....

[@theleilahsshow6245]

Lisa I've been watching you for the last three months but you just a blessing in my life. Trust me you are my role model forever and I pray to God that some day I will meet you. #BOL#AHA#YANA. Am Leilah from Uganda

[@syliviekampire482]

Wowoooooo. Falling madly in love with myself before i fall madly in lover with another. You speak to me Lady Lisa. GBU.

[@designswhatnots]

I pull the expectation out of it and make loving myself more fiercely. Bringing the love that is needed in order to keep growing in self love. Thank you Lisa Nichols....

[@anyangthiep8802]

Praise God for the knowledge He have given you my sister Lisa, God bless

[@njeriknight209]

Wow! This video was TRUE confirmation about embracing one's Self and Love Journey. You are truly a gem Lisa for enlightening us on approaching, experiencing and appreciating our path in life through your videos, workshops etc.

[@misschris1740]

Girl you better speak to my soul and prune my life. Whew. Thank you for this guidance and the next steps in my Self Love journey.

[@MusaBangs-ue1bn]

As strong as I’m I will get through any pressure that comes my way

[@Chioma_Peters]

What had me, is the fact that I want love and want to be loved but I forget sometimes how to love me first. I'm scared of love, been hurt so much that I forget that in all this craziness I have to think of me first, love me then others can do same.

[@senaitgg614]

Lisa Nichols thankyou for your words. I am on the journey of loving my self fully and completely.

[@estifanosberta-samuel2570]

YES YES YES!!!! Do the work of understanding your wholeness and completion on your own, it's an individual process. I truly believe you come into a relationship to allow the other party to experience the overflow of your heart and love for yourself!

[@hitemusfelix2335]

BOL “don’t ever expect for someone to love you more than you love yourself “ Thank you Lisa I appreciate you

[@haddytaal1302]

Sophie Navarro you so much nailed it right on the head. Love can always be found in you. No one, I mean no one can ever love you more than yourself and it's detrimental to love another person more than yourself... disastrous!!! That's the biggest mistake I have ever made I think. Best of luck on your journey. Take Care.

[@vickiisana5548]

Lesson learnt today too. "Relationships are to compliment not complete."

[@alexisrios7825]

Thank you Lisa!!! I needed this after a horrible brake up and lots of mental and physical pain you helped me remember I need to love myself again. I’m ready to take the step to be a better and amazing me

[@adelaide_paivamiranda]

WOW! I own my bright light and I own my shadow!!!

[@pandorafumile3610]

I'm so emotional, I'm 21 & I've lost myself.. You make sense

[@tiffanyd.caesar4162]

"Turn up your self-love thermostat..." - Yes!

[@amandasanchez1062]

#BOL "never expect someone to love you more than you love yourself" 🔥🔥🔥

[@kyleingram2776]

#BOL to love myself maybe painful, but doing it will bring the eternal joy that only my soul can give to myself. This journey to self love is on! I ❤ Lisa!

[@yannickglover738]

I get teary eyed every time your express, belife, and love for us! "I love you too!"

[@fida6166]

I now truly love myself, Lisa. I realized self heal helped me a lotttt in truly accepting myself and lovinggg myself unconditionally. I love me bigger, greater bolder! What a fresh air i am breathing now and always!

[@lovagirl3851]

❤❤❤ thank you Lisa

[@LynnK159]

Good luck yall! ❤ have a great Sunday :D

[@francieschildhauer2936]

Lisa Nichols, thank you so much for this message. My BTOL was when you said"Self Care is not selfish"! The last 4 years my family & I have suffered a lot of loss, heartbreak, trials and transitions. All this time I take care of everyone else, because its who I am. This morning I was telling my husband I feel broken & empty and I need to take care of myself. Then God leads me to listen to this message. Thank you so much. I needed to hear this, firmly but lovingly, from Him and you today.

[@breneesorey9991]

Wow ! Thank you . I need to love myself consistently and whole heartedly.

[@jabarrisuperville]

"I own my bright light and I own my shadow" #BOL #BOOM. so eye-opening that I can own the good, the bad and the growing parts of me and use them to become a better version of myself. I'm 19 years old and I feel blessed to have all this useful information at my disposal as I become an adult. sending love from Trinidad & Tobago.

[@tracywright6437]

I want to be a Better Version of myself at a HIGHER LEVEL. A relationship is so suppose to compliment me (I said this for years) now I love the breakdown of it. Thanks!!How do I fall madly in love with me? EYE OPENER!!! In arguments from defense to harmony wow. Time for me to turn on my self love thermostat.

[@kenyajohnson6588]

I'm always feeling like I have to prove my love, we talk two different language. We love to be right in every conversation. With me have dyslexic I say things out of order he would say, so that Shut me down of getting my point across. I believe in everything you say, I am learning to love myself, and saying Kenya you will be ok. OMG HELP!!!

[@marilyndandggardens5547]

B O L !!! yea its my job to complete myself . All things are possible with GOD . Thank you For allowing me the Blessings that help me to get up and stand up knowing I am a part of a loving and caring Tribe.

[@boundsgarneff5157]

Lisa, thank u for ur teachings. This video is what i needed for today. God bles you for bringing joy, wisdom, love, harmony, growth.

[@catherinengigi1781]

YOU the best life counselor

[@lindajay7695]

Oh, phenomenal topics, conclusions, way of presenting your excellent ideas -- this is it! Exactly what I need to hear, Lisa! Thank you so much! Your own self-love is an example of how they are expected to love you. Wow! The fear of getting hurt -- can I ever relate to that! -- versus the possibility of NOT getting hurt, and finding love. That's what I'm growing toward right now. Thanks again. Linda Jay P.S. Just one thing: "Explanation points" are actually "exclamation points." (Writer/editor here...)

[@nansiekate5234]

Hallo lisa.,am Nancy from Kenya but am working as Nanny in Abu Dhabi,am a single mom I had to live my doughter with my mom for me to provide for her.I have been through alot and I want to put it down on paper...I want to write a book..since I started listening to you..you gave me hope and courage to face my fears..I want people to read my story and be encouraged...as am writing this am crying... because I feel that it's time for me to stop being afraid of this world and face it... thanks to you because I have the courage...I don't want to be a nanny anymore I want to be better than that...thank you and God bless you.

[@tshegofatsosekhasimbe3898]

This is amazing I’m learning to love myself and your messages are helping me a lot,thank you very much,I’m engaged and I’d love to be somewhere before I get married to the love of my life...I’m a work in progress

[@application57]

Be mindful of the you, you bring to any relationship

[@Toy02239]

So I had a BIS 'Breakthrough in Silence because I'm listening to this at work and i wanted to BOL.This was right on time! Thank you Lisa. #BOL all day long!

[@keshiafrasure1080]

Lisa, god keeps showing me he is with me. I’ve been on a self-love journey to move myself from unhealthy relationship this was a #BOL moment, do you hear me!!!! Your message is allowing me to further deepen the love to the core and realize it. I’m worthy whole & complete now with healthy boundaries and can trust myself. Thank you

[@miryamndemwiimba7485]

LaToya Fortson . I love your videos

[@KL-000]

I think the reason I can’t settle within myself because I’m aware that i am a reflection of insecurities others have placed within. You can sleep anywhere but not everywhere is going to be home

[@beam8250]

W💓W! Speechless here. I needed this talk. God bless you, Lisa!

[@sandyrenjith6940]

What I learnt is don't rely on other to complete you. You have to love yourself and share that love with others. Coz if you delegate the job of loving and completing you to someone else then that puts unnecessary expectations on the person and would ultimately ruin up your peace of mind

[@Mamaluchie100]

WOW WOW WOW!!!!! #BOL "Can't look for a relationship to help me be complete, that's a lot of pressure on that individual" I thought I was showing how much I loved and needed him and that he should appreciate being "the one to complete me" HA!!!! when all the while it was too much pressure. Now I finally understand why it ended and have a bit of closure. I have to love me first!

[@fayolaryoeldora]

#BOL "the way you love you is the first example of the way they get to love you." #YESYES

[@sharrennijjar9442]

Wow! BOL!! "to wake up and say, i, chose this person, let me speak like, engage like,live like I chose them again" really like a rock stuck in my throat. I am sticking this on my mirror! THANK YOU,LISA!

[@josephkaruri6586]

I love your videos because they contain teachings

[@queenqueen4886]

A relationship is not to complete you, it's to complement the completeness in you. And so many words you said that tauched my whole spirit, I was so zoomed in your talking that when you started to end I was like.. ooh...I was so mesmerize I am new but I will going to listen more often!!!

[@emg98767]

#BOL I own me.... I own my bright light and my shadow ... falling madly in love with me!! The way that I love ME, shows others how to love me

[@Foodstalker555]

I needed to hear this Lisa! BOL! It's like saying don't expect anyone to love you if you don't love you. #Work in progress😁

[@alexisgarcia1344]

MindBlown!! This is a fresh way to relate. That love doesn't complete you but sharpens and deepens your already beautiful SELF!!!

[@msintutive8694]

God bless you Ms. Lisa!!!🙏🏽🥰💕💕💕💕💕

[@FeelGoodWithin]

Thankx so much lisa!!! Yep you should be complete in urself!!!

[@symeebryant]

Hi Lisa, were you reading my mind? This is exactly what I need to work on. Thank you for all you do! I am so grateful for your positive light.

[@nikollouzi8694]

Thank you! You are so inspiring!!!

[@alberlynnewoods9843]

BOL - to own my bright light AND my shadow. Yaaaassss

[@amellouksara3213]

Thank you Lisa ..