How Your Consciousness Affects Your Relationships | Eckhart Tolle Teachings

Eckhart shares his teachings to cultivate enlightened relationships and says that each of our relationships-from the brief interaction with the barista to our bonds with lifelong partners or family members-reflect back to us our predominant state of consciousness.
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[@Anupam19781]

‘If you think you’re enlightened, spend a week with your family.’ - Ram Dass

[@svennygmusic3043]

😅😅😅

[@VishVibezREACTS]

"How wonderful to go beyond wanting and fearing in your relationships. Love does not want or fear anything." -ECKHART TOLLE 💜💫🧡🌟

[@carissecraton9974]

True 💓❤️🌺

[@alleycat5514]

One would think, I have only found my female friends as easy relationships, we don’t judge, we listen, lift up.. it’s the ones closest to me I feel silenced… and I no longer can do that, so my fears are tests in my eyes, but I’m done setting on the sold lines! But I know staying still is not working!

[@erinsuzy613]

I think expectations have something to do with it. I keep my expectations low. I have a 3 year old note on my fridge from one of Eckharts books, it says "Love has no expectations. Expectations = ego"

[@alexazriel]

I hope you keep standards high

[@LucidLivingLL]

If you think you are spiritually advanced, relationships will for sure test that idea. Relationships are a beautiful opportunity for us to test the spiritual concepts we have learned. You might think you have learned a way to love yourself, but that won’t mean anything until you learn how to love others.

[@karanfield4229]

Wow this is true! I work with mental health. I had a huge screaming fit at a dishonest lazy staff member the other day. It tests me constantly, awakening. I find it incredibly difficult.

[@tobiasdontmatter1868]

@@SacredEarthEssentials when both become one this will become easy

[@chadchad5927]

You couldn't have said it better bro

[@DrDeepaliMonga]

True

[@danmoord375]

Thinking that I'm spiritually advanced is the challenge. Loving is a natural state of being. It isn't learned, it's provided. The self, by surrendering,is provided love, not by doing, but by just being. By surrendering self, even learning has been surrendered. Everything that I am is provided by the source.

[@marywright4934]

The most important relationship you can have is with yourself

[@TheDhammaHub]

Ayya Khema used to say this often: We can only see in others what we found in ourselves. When we discovered and overcame all the small things in ourselves it is so much easier to be compassionate with others

[@dnabart]

Don't hang out with narcissists. Relationships can be hijacked and so can your mind.

[@tobiasdontmatter1868]

@@dnabart the purpose of OP’s post was that the “one” in YOU that judges another as a “narcissist” IS in fact the unconscious narcissist. If you haven’t first noticed the narcissistic-ness in yourself then you have no choice but to see it in another (it’s all to a degree/spectrum of course). But once you’ve seen it in yourself then it’s like, who am I to judge? Because when someone lives from the unconscious identity of the ego they HAVE NO CHOICE but to act from their conditioning. A conditioning that they never had a choice in to begin with.

[@sunshine-qk8qe]

@@tobiasdontmatter1868 So someone in a domestic violence relationship , example a battered wife , is the one who is unconsciously is the violent person , according to your theory . To even think that someone who has been damaged mentally by a narcissist , is unconciously a narcissist is the most disgusting comment ever . Thousands of therapist who are working with the traumatized people who have been scarred deeply by narcissists , would disagree with your warped idea.

[@mithilasimplelife8812]

হে

[@alexazriel]

@@tobiasdontmatter1868 hahahaha

[@SamA-nj7yr]

I always blamed one of my friends for being one of the causes of a deep depression I endured which lasted years. It took many years for me to finally get through this depressive state in which certain situations or even passing comments could trigger an amplification in a depressive mood. This depression took me on a path to awakening and to test my awakened state I moved in with the friend which triggered my depression. I no longer feel a sense of hatred, anger or blame toward him, I feel compassion for him as another suffering human being.

[@BeYourUniquePotential]

Relationships are always an opportunity to be taught something. I love, in particular what Eckhart is saying about inner space in relationships. Just sitting a moment with the essence of another, is such a gift. May we all find these wonderful moments with each other and treasure them.

[@sarahjmount9221]

OMGosh Eckhart’s so funny on top of being so filled with truth and purity. His wisdom is amazing. I don’t know what I’d do without his teachings. They sustain me.

[@VishVibezREACTS]

“Love is a state of Being. Your love is not outside; it is deep within you.” - *ECKHART TOLLE* 💜🙏🏽✋🏾🧡☀️

[@lunasonce8686]

Simple, hard to do and so true. Love from Slovenia. 🙏

[@bacon2727]

Love from Canada, God bless

[@liquidsunshineiam]

You see the beauty in others only to the extent to which you’re able to seebeauty yourself. You can only match the vibration you capable of resonating at!

[@muthonimurithi3735]

This is so timely, especially as most of the world comes together for the holidays. Thank you 🙏

[@yourcalmplace]

- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨

[@Salmasobhi1714]

These are the most cutest and most spiritual couple I ever saw ♥️🥰

[@katherineshargo6250]

I love Eckhart. I just find the disjointed advertisements so incongruent with Eckhart’s teachings.

[@michaelthompson6080]

I invite stillness into my life and anticipate the growth that comes from it.

[@MulanNeo]

I can feel a lot of Christ in Eckhart 👍

[@CharlesWakefield]

Every moment I turn on Eckhart, it feels like a, custom-made-for-me.

[@SoniasWay]

He’s helped me so much in life. I wish I can be like him someday. I also try to make positive videos 🙏

[@JuneDogx]

The moment you act as if Enlightenment is far away from you, as you don’t have it, that you must achieve it. You push it away. Because it’s already here, there’s no trying to “attain” enlightenment. You are enlightenment, and the mind thinks it’s a specific state of mind or a specific ongoing feeling. It is not. Those come and go. You are awareness of these things. It’s only the mind that tries to distract you from this realization, by saying “I wish I can be like him someday”. The fact you are aware of this thought is enlightenment. If you are aware of said thought/emotion, you are not it. You’re beyond it.

[@hammerbet7140]

@@JuneDogx well said, I myself thought about it recently. You can't have it, you only can be conscious of that. Our materialism is hard to get away.

[@now3210]

Your Consciousness is looking at different levels of Unconsciousness in others.

[@starseed71]

Eckhart Tolle, you are the funniest teacher of consciousness I've ever had.😂🙏 And it's even funnier to listen to you when we are already conscious of the subject you are talking about.🤣❤

[@Universestarla]

Smiling we have been working very hard everyday. We forgot to celebrate ourselves everyday. So Christmas is here ....xmas lights, candles , food, music we are so thrilled to celebrate once a year. We can celebrate every day we can continue put colorful lights on everyday. So much love to you Tina and Jesus...big Namaste! Ox

[@dragondreamjln]

Love this. I love that realization, that the very thing so many people seek for is also a huge factor of unhappiness. I am not rushing towards a romantic relationship and it's never felt better ever. Life has a new meaning. Nice to know my happiness is the pinnacle.

[@Omnipresence101]

" If there is dysfunction in you, egoic dysfunction, that will manifest in all relationships." Is hard to know that now, as romantic relationships for the most part have burned me up, but in relationship to family, friends that are few, it's good as long as there's space in me, it's like a balancing act, that's why as lovly as it is coming togeather with family it is also lovly being alone again.Don't know is it even possible to maintain any kind of relationship without being alone. Thanks Eckhart 🙏 Know this probably is not related to the subject matter above but just here now in this moment feel an amazing sence of gratitude to all the one's that so called let me down. Never in my wildest dreams did ever think that would be here thanking everyone of them.It's wonderful🙏

[@DrDeepaliMonga]

Nice.

[@Blahdontcare]

This has come to me at exactly the right time, thank you

[@lookingtouchingloving5742]

Thank you for the precious teaching, Eckhart.

[@elizabethneto5842]

The timing of this is not a coincidence thank you again for being a vessel of true knowledge and sharing it Eckhart Tolle blessings

[@judycassidy3786]

In my second marriage I realized that leaving was no real solution. We shared well, deeply. Our pain bodies, too, were a perfect match, tho I didn't know to call them that at the time. I also somewhat sensed that the only work I could effectively do or be to relieve my suffering, to awaken, was within. My partner has transitioned, yet the work continues. To aporeciate the great sharing. To not blame either one of us for the pain, but to open to mine.. I feel we still work together in this, and that he has moved beyond much; helps me see things differently, even while presence does, as well. Still in this together?

[@samymoulla5876]

Thank you , being simple whatever is happening . You inspired many people , you still do it . 👍

[@JeanJacquesLecoq]

How your videos keep being exactly on point with my life I don't know, but I find it beautifully funny. Thank you so much for being part of my life.

[@inglestherightway]

Eckhart you're so funny! Thank you for everything!

[@luzbueno7064]

A beautiful reflection of the great master, love your sense of humor

[@andreaschmerler8763]

Thank you Eckhart, excellent, as always❣️

[@christinestone3552]

Thank you so much Eckhart 🙏

[@carenkurdjinian5413]

Love it …….that gentle awareness with humor to bring -about what is called -the “habitual “?relationship with each other …..and more ……🌞

[@maryammosavi468]

Thanks Eckhart,you are the ultimate truth on earth 🌎; I know

[@susieseward8451]

Thank you Eckhart 😊 💓 ☺

[@baumstamp5989]

what i learnt in life is that you can't always focus on the positive or "pretend" all is well to get past a hard time in your life. it is important to know about dangers and bad things in the world so you can act and handle them when they try to get a piece of you. i envy everyone who lives on an island of harmony with no dangers in sight, just be careful that you are not surprised and paralyzed the moment evil may strike.

[@tslomt]

💯🙌🙏 I wish I could tell the whole world about Eckhart Tolle or at least everyone in my closer circle and they would recognize it as truth immediately.

[@elisa2223agathemathi]

Thank you so much for the good laugh as it is so often ! I am now returning to my challenging relationship and we will see what happens next ! We are quite the opposite in many terms and a concious conversation is very difficult to reach. Let's see if we can evolve !

[@bluewingedmonkey]

Thank you 🙌🏼

[@kendimuriuki8109]

I like how his videos come to and end, you will be longing to hear what next, then boom! waterfall sounds

[@jazzflyers]

It about knowing what is and having a believe about it also.

[@giselar.12]

🌈Thank you very much, for this Video 🙏

[@NatalieNichols_]

This was so timely thank you 🙏☺️ so true

[@cherieschaeffer6657]

more on family relationships please

[@danerose575]

I think it's important to understand that all environments influence us positively and negatively with varying degrees of intensity. I'm sure if we started nailing Eckhart to a cross there would be reactivity. He might recover presence after the endogenous pain killers kicked in. For another person the reactivity would kick in with a leaf blower. Presence has to overcome that influence to prevail, and each environment offers a head-wind of some sorts.

[@alirezafarahani8334]

Thank you ❤️🍨

[@gglendinningok]

it's certainly easier not to ave to deal/interact with others, i've always "leaned" this way, however, it's not how we intended to be in this reality, it's also trues to say, we don't HAVE to be any certain way

[@kalayne6713]

Having survived an abusive marriage, it is decades since I had a proper intimate relationship. The fear of repeating the pattern is so great. Yet, I know the challenge of relating would be good for me. I am not ready to go looking, and I am elderly, but...I am willing to open up a bit to the idea of companionship. Wonder what the universe will provide?

[@Livfree33]

Yup.

[@tomkahusi7914]

Love

[@danerose575]

A technical comment: fading into nature is a good ending. A babbling brook that fades out slowly at the end would bring about more presence than this sound which is hard to tell what it is without looking and then cuts off. Since this is a template it seems worth the extra few minutes to design it for all the videos.

[@robertkar339]

Anyone know where I can find the rest of this talk?

[@maggieo6672]

❤️

[@lighthousea4655]

Why no video picture of him on stage?🙁I want to SEE him.

[@chandnisingh8707]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@leila4560]

🙏❤✨

[@abhun1313]

✨

[@awoken101]

Now Eckhard only Audio? Why?

[@moonhunter9993]

inner space = detachment

[@adaoz6334]

💜🌿💜🌿💜🌿🙏🙏🙏

[@pallaviverma5541]

🙏🏻🌺😇

[@pilarhencar9586]

What does it mean exactly:inner space in relationships?🤔 Examples, please

[@Trailblazers323]

People having and giving each other space to be who they are

[@feliciad8561]

"Space" can be brought to a relationship when at least one person has practised going within themselves & found real stillness.. & once they're able to remain in that stillness more & more, the opportunity to have "space" within a relationship (intimate relationship especially) is possible, which assists one to NOT be robbotically triggered by a partner's emotions & become reactive, & also to BE more present in the act of love making, which provides the succour & panacea to a lot of our personal wounds. That said, it's important to remember that relationships are for enjoying each other as much as an invaluable opportunity for reflecting on and discovering our state of consciousness & egoistic foibles 🙏💚

[@lorrainew7529]

I appreciate these short videos. I find then extremely helpful. However I Don't appreciate the emails asking me for money to be taught lessons. I have all Eckhart's books even in Audible. I find this very uncomfortable. 💜🕉💜

[@anthonytbatiste]

I'll agree with you sonn .Just dedosit $10 .

[@nubianquirk]

Or just unsubscribe at the bottom of the email

[@scotthuey1981]

😊💚🙏✨

[@ZenSage-xy4cf]

Mint shampoo today anybody want to Intercept that Illl appreciate.. Really ill intent. Much love😊😇✌🏽

[@samymoulla5876]

😃👍🧑‍🤝‍🧑👭👬🏵️🌱

[@on-om-ah6347]

''Egoic dysfunction" word of the millennium

[@josephmurphy159]

i wonder wot Eckhart feels about the omicron virus and vaccinations.....has he had the vaccine?

[@karanfield4229]

Its hard to awaken when you are withdrawing from drug addiction to pain killers. That is a hellova test.

[@golderjames]

Other human beings lol

[@popsbubbles1242]

How many intelligent people took the clot shot ?

[@TheSoteriologist]

What's this constant relationship nonsense lately ? Has ET lost his male audience and is now appealing only to women anymore ? I can tell you what your "relationships" suffer from, and it has next to nothing to do with being present.

[@TheSoteriologist]

@@farhiyadirir8497 Look at women's motivations for choosing a partner. They are usually surprised that their choice has results and blame that on the men. ET is responsible for the content here, regardless of whether he personally does the work. There is a german version of this channel run by his german publisher. They are now using his name for disinformation. I have written to ET in German _(thus making sure he actually reads it because no one else around him can)_ but it seems he does nothing to reign his publisher in. Thus he is responsible for that too. I heard he got jabbed as well, but I am not sure that rumor is reliable.

[@TheSoteriologist]

@@farhiyadirir8497 I am not expecting anything from ET. Yet his decisions nevertheless allow inferences. Regarding the relationships: I have no interest in the topic. If you need counselling in the matter, offer me a reason to do that :-)

[@sisthebest4810]

Sexist 👀

[@sisthebest4810]

@@TheSoteriologist 👈sexist ultra max poop

[@TheSoteriologist]

@@sisthebest4810 Sorry to hear that about you. Maybe there's a counselor close by ?