How to Manage Your Time With Eric Tivers (Part Three)

[@katherinehuff8441]

"Some days the ADHD wins. It's gonna happen. And when it does, get some sleep, make sure you eat something, and get back out there the next day. I'll be right there with you." I love this!

[@gubbben123]

80/20 just be good 80% of the time

[@tabithaakers8732]

"That's not lazy, that's executive dysfunction" so true yet it's the disinction that most people don't get -__-

[@TheAstroChild]

learning the term "executive dysfunction" has helped me understand why I tend to "procrastinate" about certain things. Besides, it even -sounds- cooler, haha! :)

[@zilesis1]

it's what makes living with undiagnosed ADHD really hard, i suppose. a lot of the things that ADHD people struggle with are things that are _choices_ for neurotypical people. while i still think everyone should educate themselves on ADHD, how it works and what the challenges are, university had taught me to be a lot more understanding towards people who don't know. I've had coursemates and housemates, who were 100% neurotypical, just disrespectful af, as well as ones with ADHD and without knowing who is who beforehand it can be quite frustrating e.g. and ADHD coursemate might be 40 min late to a group project planning meeting because they hyperfocussed on what they were doing beforehand, or their time-blindness meant they underestimated how long their other tasks would take, etc. a jerk coursemate will be 40 min late because they don't really care about the project and don't respect the time of the rest of the group and unless you know the people well-enough to tell which group they belong to you might just assume the worst

[@annikala]

I've said this before, but I cannot express how important this channel is to me. You're videos often literally make me cry because I'm so happy to actually feel understood. The point made about the word "lazy" was so impactful. Thank you thank you thank you

[@l.leighsteele8468]

me too!

[@elizabethbennet4791]

Agree 10000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000%

[@hanlore13]

THIS a thousand times this

[@_Gnomeblaster]

Same. :')

[@najrenchelf2751]

I'm going to assume that your profile picture shows the size of the hug that you would give Jessica, if you could! :)

[@catherinegasiorowski8216]

"Don't stay up late" *watches at midnight*

[@cobalius]

not through midnight?

[@t045tygh05t]

**thinks midnight is late** **cries in just stopped wfh job w/ flex hours at **9:50****

[@kiiks6849]

Me at 3am 👁👄👁

[@mrsdoctorsong]

On tik tok until my alarm goes off for work... yep know that one 🤣

[@firepatriot42]

Lol! Me watching at 10 pm! 😄

[@LegionOfWeirdos]

I like the "parking lot" idea... except my Evernote account is a massive parking garage the size of a shopping mall and the valets have tandem-parked the cars :)

[@SmallSpoonBrigade]

It really shouldn't be on the computer, it should be something like a small notepad which you can quickly jot down the thought no matter what activity you're doing. Having to have the computer on really reduces the utility of the strategy. Plus, having to transfer from the notepad serves as a chance to avoid having a billion things in the organizer as you're unlikely to transfer things unless they still seem important.

[@elizabethbennet4791]

oh honey. I'm 44 and my parking lot ran out of room somewhere about 2004 and I've been typing and pasting links into a secondary location on Mars for the past 15 years...

[@exerciserelax8719]

Exactlyyyyyyyy

[@NoiseDay]

I have parking lots in five different cities, so I don't even know how many cars I have or where they are.

[@karimayman2780]

1- you need to stick to the schedule, break out of hyper focus when a task's time ends. Write the last one or two things that you last did and what things do you need to do next Hyperfocus depletes fuel, plan for breaks if you need to use it, after ur done have a good break. 2- When you don't want to do what you need to, tell somebody. 3- Write down what you want to do if it springs into your mind in the middle of a task, don't leave the current task, but save your idea for later. 4- Spending time planning will save you time that you can spend later. 5- Set an intention before starting (borrow willpower from past you by acting in advance)

[@benediktebarnett7314]

Thanks. You have changed my life. I have never been assessed for ADHD, but when I listen to you I do not feel like a failure. You explaining so exact what I struggle with every single day.

[@SushilKumar-xy5pj]

I'm scared to even go for an assessment

[@creeksidehomeschoolers]

I'm still so amazed at how ADHD I am and how it took so long to find out! Ps what Eric's said about go to bed early, get plenty of sleep and workout in the morning is so so true for this brain! I perform so much better and get way more done and have more free time and less stress! Totally helpful videos! Keep up the great work brain, your awesome!

[@chelseapeterson349]

Alrightalrightalright, this video is exactly what I need right now. Because I haven't had a good night of sleep in I actually can't remember and I have a 15 page essay due at midnight tonight which I've only done parts of because of how tired I am. I'm gonna email my teacher and let her know it's not gonna get turned in today but tomorrow, get a schedule of what my day is gonna look like tomorrow, and then just go to sleep so I can actually do it tomorrow. It's gonna cost me ten points on this essay, but I've been stressing about it way too long and I just can't right now. Fresh start tomorrow. Thanks, I actually know what to do with my next 24 hours instead of freaking out!!

[@BeastMasterNeil]

I'm recently diagnosed, and becoming more conscious of how traits are sabotaging my life is sometimes distressing. The way you said "some days ADHD wins' made me tear up - in a good way! Somehow it was really liberating. Thank you!

[@bonsai03449]

"Some days the ADHD wins"... so true. Recognizing that periodic failures happen and learning to hold ourselves in grace, despite them, is so important...

[@JohnVDenley]

5m50s you got me again... 😭 Thank you for being here with me... I've stretched to $1 because you are super awesome and after watching your channel for the last 5 hours in 1.5 speed (hyper focussed) and crying almost the whole time, I feel like you have totally changed my life already...

[@michaelmarkoulides7068]

I’m 42 years old and I’m certain I have inattentive type of adhd . I’m struggling to get a diagnosis and I find this channel so helpful in helping me understand my brain and plan interventions that help me in my day to day . Thank you, I’m so grateful

[@suzys937]

Thanks Jess and thanks Eric! I really loved these time management videos, I hope you know how much they help me and so many others xx

[@HowtoADHD]

yay! I love hearing that, thanks!! This series has been a challenge to produce, but I felt it was important. I'm glad it's helping!

[@ebolick5101]

I have found your videos just... amazing. The realistic information, and your ability to not take yourself too seriously is what got me watching these, but the bajillion and twelve strategies to help with adulting, regardless of whether or not I have ADHD, is what kept me. I have used a couple of these techniques, to actual success in my life, and I just wanted to let you know how awesome you are, and that these videos are great.

[@anjunisingh6373]

Why do every single one of your videos bring tears to my eyes?? Thank you so much for them.

[@MrJtfree0518]

Jessica, I love your videos I'm sure you hear this a lot but seriously thank you from the bottom of my heart. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the ripe old age of 27 after being misdiagnosed for my whole childhood, even though I was typical moved to special classes or needed tutors. Anyways long story short I decided for my family to go back to school, work full time, and go to school for work. Oh and I forgot to mention my wife and I had a baby in August . At this point I still haven't taken meds or really knew anything about ADHD besides the typically assumptions. As this all happened and I stepped down from a leader ship role because I was completely overwhelm and not able to get anything done so I started to research ADHD and found you and I can't thank you enough. You have made me feel ok to be who I am. I grew up in the 90s in a conservative town I heard all the negative things you can think of and was even held back. I developed great ways to hide the difficulties not knowing why I was different. So I do have a few video ideas, that is if you see this and get through the book I wrote. Anyways Idea 1. A video on lost and disappoint and how ADHD deal with it. I know from experience that because we react differently doesn't mean we don't hurt or even know how to act ourselves. And maybe a video about being diagnosed later in life like me and where to start what info would help how to tell work or if you should. Thanks I hope you read this.

[@maxstuart6746]

I've been reading/watching ADHD materials for weeks (most of HowToADHD included) and this is by far the most useful interview. Thanks Jessica!

[@sabrinasaleh7707]

oooooh my god i am doing onemoreitis as i was watching this. it was loke a light bulb went off when watching this. i have every single habit you talked about and i scheudle as others do but now i am going to schedule accomdating with me adhd meeeeee. thank you soooo much you rockkk. and help me grow by helping me realize what is actually going on in my brain and give me solutoons.

[@RedHeadAvenger]

I could have use these videos when I was a kid. It would have made school less stressful and my adult life more manageable. Especially my love life, being single works too tho.

[@HowtoADHD]

SAME

[@colesmith493]

This series was great. I get so tired of people just telling me to keep a schedule and not understanding why it's one of the most stressful things imaginable for me. I watch a ton of different ADHD videos, but this might be the first one that I actually take time to write down things from. Thanks for posting!

[@javascriptsophie4958]

Jessica you deserve all the subsribers in the world. You teach people and imform oeope ablut ADHD very well. Not only that but your videos are also funny,professional and well edited. You were the one inspired me to sart my own youtube and other other adhd communitys and made me feel understood and accepted. Your videos have helped me a lt with my adhd and life. I would have never passes my exams if it weren't for you so countinue making these videos because they really change the lives of adhders in a really good way.

[@kathysoutheren73]

Hi Jessica. You have the same name as my daughter who I suspect is ADHD. My sister sent me one of your videos and I have been watching them ever since. I didn't know I was ADHD but always felt that I was abnormal and different. It feels so nice to have someone that can explain to me why I feel the way I do. I'm 49 years old and I am finally gaining an understanding of how my brain works. Sincerest thanks from Australia.

[@ninalucariello9309]

I've been watching your videos for a while, and every time I do, I relate SO much. I do and experience all of these things, but I'm not sure if I do have ADHD. My friends say I do, so do internet quizzes (multiple), and I'm not sure if I want to tell my parents about it or see a doctor. But watching your videos have helped me. Thank you ❤

[@MrsJilly]

Love your videos ❤ I have been diagnosed with ADHD TODAY at 39yrs old. Our daughter is 10yrs old and she also has Adhd, your videos are great :)

[@HowtoADHD]

Aww wowwww, welcome to the tribe!!! How are you feeling?

[@MrsJilly]

How to ADHD Thanks :) I feel relieved, and your videos help me, not just my daughter. I'm starting medication soon :) thank you so much for replying 😊

[@HowtoADHD]

That's amazing, thanks for sharing! It's neat that you two can learn about it together, I remember my aunt having it made me feel less weird/alone :D

[@OofWillis]

Welcome Gillian. I was diagnosed last year at age 45 ... it will be an amazing ride of self discovery as an adult. Hold on and enjoy it!l there will be good days and bad days. Stages of grief and acceptance. You've got this! Especially with all of this support!

[@MrsJilly]

Jo Meleca-Voigt Thank you so much! That is really lovely of you :) I don't know many adults with Adhd. Last year was a year of ups and downs, and I felt guilty :( with my daughter having Adhd too. It means a lot to me you supporting me. Thank you 😊

[@elizabethbennet4791]

YEah seeing the other heartfelt, complimentary comments here, I'm inspired to include my own( it's sooo odd being honest and sensitive on social media): honest to god, your channel is the most helpful and logistically relevant to my brain that I've ever found and I've been researching organization methods, tips, gadgets, and solutions since 1994.

[@itsnotalexduchenes]

Oh my god I'm almost crying. Your channel is literal gold

[@KeithTreason]

I just ran over a brief article about ADHD and rejection-sensitive dysphoria. Could you go more into that topic? :)

[@mackenziejohnstone4997]

Procrastination and time-management is the bane of my existence. I get distracted so easily, especially when I'm stressed!!! My meds are supposed to help me focus, but it isn't helping much I still get distracted and I don't know what to do!!!!!!! I just can't focus!

[@TheAstroChild]

Learn how to meditate and "quiet the mind". Learn to always maintain a "positive inner dialogue". I began doing that several times daily a while back now and it has helped SO MUCH.

[@Leafeon56]

I love video editing and I can hyperfocus into it super easily. One time I fell into a hyperfocus trance and I missed a school ball that i had BOUGHT A TICKET AND A DRESS FOR. The tip for how to break free from hyperfocus was so helpful I wanted to cry. But I ride the wave because its so hard to start sometimes. Accountability is easier said than done...

[@katjahill7770]

I love your videos. They are focused, helpful, and useful. Eric Tivers' thoughts on time and schedule management make a lot of sense. Thanks!

[@AA-ts2wi]

MY GOD how I could have used these tips all of my 18 years in school

[@mrsdoctorsong]

I have to ride the wave or it'll never get done 😂😂 I tidied my bedroom at 1am once because it was the first time in about 3 months that I'd felt like it hah

[@exerciserelax8719]

Yes, I struggle with this too. Doesn't matter how much I schedule, the only time I do it is when I get that feeling of "Ok do it NOW!!!"

[@jasonosmondfernandes8525]

I recently cleaned my apartment after a few years of not doing so. It was a horror show. Over the last few weekends, I've thrown away at least 20 full garbage bags full of stuff.

[@jasonosmondfernandes8525]

@@exerciserelax8719 exactly

[@javascriptsophie4958]

Yeah hyper foucusing is our adhd brains super power. With out it I wouldn't have been such a good gamer and complete my videos,drawing,pianting and my first every published story. Which were huge accomplishments for me.

[@TheAstroChild]

SAME. :)

[@kristenpatrick704]

Thank you! Thank you, for doing this video series. My biggest problem with my ADHD is time management. These are really good tips and I can't wait to apply them!...as I sit here...on youtube...when I should be doing homework...:)

[@TheAstroChild]

hahahahha.... "so let's begin by...... OH! LOOK AT THE KITTY!" ;)

[@natnoname8730]

Thank you SO much guys!

[@Sowinski]

When you end up hyperfocusing on this channel instead of folding laundry during your childs nap lol

[@sunshinesarah8523]

Yesss!!! I hate the word lazy because I've been called that my whole life, but its definitely because my brain is somewhere else and I'm not into the what must be done! Thank you for this so so much!!!!

[@jimmycaves5905]

Thank you so much for your videos they have been so helpful!

[@Z13an]

My mom sent me a link to one of your videos on organizing my schedule. The thing is though, that I kind of got distracted and ended up watching nearly ALL of your videos until 3 am last night haha. I really enjoy your videos, they are very informative and help me feel informed about myself. Keep up the work, I really appreciate what you do. You know, maybe I should get back to paying attention to my class.... :')

[@TheAstroChild]

hahahha I've been "stuck" watching Jessica's videos for two days now. :) - I stayed up 'til 2am last night watching her videos and only slept for four and a half hours and this was the first page I came to when I sat at the computer this morning. :)

[@juke3682]

Thank you so much for creating such a helpful playlist

[@TheAstroChild]

DITO!

[@supergabee]

Ok, I've been watching your videos for a few months now and I always want to write something but end up forgetting/postponing and end up never saying anything. However, I had to write something on this one bc I am totally working on this scheduling my life thing. I'm even attending time management workshops for ADHD at my University. No joke, out of all three videos you did on time management this one was THE ONE for me. I totally couldn't pay attention to the others 😂😜sorryyyy. Anyway, this one was perfect for me. I have all the issues mentioned and am trying sooooo hard to work on it. but it's definitely hard to break the cycle and I am so hard on myself that it just feels good to know I am not the only one who has to work on things that might seem small for some people but it is definitely ginormous for me. Anyway, i just want to say thanks for doing these videos. It's been really helpful. Big hug! 🤗

[@twocandles1108]

oh and Eric rivers!!! thanks for coming.

[@raph009]

Your videos are super useful!! :)

[@bradychandler8774]

I haven't been tested but I'm pretty sure I have ADHD. This helps me so much, your whole channel does!

[@benbotanel1582]

Thank you for this channel! You are my favorite youtuber!

[@RyouzakiBR]

Thank you for doing this kind of video, it really helps us!

[@jodiburke]

Thank you so much for these videos!! You're really helping an old dog learn new tricks! I've gotten so good at hiding my ADHD from others, I've avoided caring for myself and your channel has really helped me shift my focus. Thank you!

[@flowersafeheart]

Love that part about how some days the ADHD wins and if so it's ok, get some sleep, eat something, then get back out there. I could say similar about other things people go through such as trauma recovery, anxiety management, illness or chronic illness, physical pain, etc. I'm a big fan of "reset button" days as needed a k.a. wellness days that don't need to only wait til the body has gotten sick but can be preventive too. Those have been a huge deal for me rebalancing many times. As a HSP I also process so much each day enough rest and breaks and fuel is so crucial for overwhelm or overload to not build up. Also, that line about starting to trust calendar more. I believe that's learning to trust self more. Self-trust deepening!

[@Lucy-ki8vc]

Great video -- time management is always difficult especially during 'crisis' moments...I noticed my use of schedules/the bullet journal go downhill during stressful times like midterms/finals...or the winter break when suddenly I had 100 huge things on my to-do list that I wanted to do... (read: paint the walls in the living room/bedrooms, re-decorate my room, hangout with friends more, research, graduate school application, reply to emails, organize paper clutter from the previous semester etc)....I got none of those done because realistically, I only had 1 week and 4 days before university was back in full swing. BUT, I probably could have prioritized and scheduled 2-3 of those tasks like spending time with friends, organize paper clutter and look into grad school applications. Also, I wanted to say -- thanks for creating this channel.

[@preciousk08]

Thank you!!!

[@phylr3983]

You guys give me HOPE!

[@macromika]

I forwarded a link to some of your videos to my husband...his response?!"OMG! She speaks Jessiquese!!" (I apparently have my own language...who knew?) I asked him if he noticed your name....

[@TheAstroChild]

hahahah that's so sweet, it made me smile inside! :)

[@twocandles1108]

thanks Jessica and Edward!

[@CommodoreCate]

This is BRILLIANT. Thank you.

[@annamoore3129]

I have dyspraxia and this has been soo helpful.

[@GaijinBangya]

hi! I'm a new sub! just wanted to say you seriously changed my life in a course of minutes xD I am 23 years old and I struggle really bad with all sorts of issues and I always knew I had ADHD but was ignorant and thought that- like everybody else- it was only relative to me getting distracted a lot and my fidgeting, until recently when I heard in Dr. Phil that anger management (one of my worst issues) was a symptom of ADHD and started looking for answers on what exactly is ADHD. I found some pages that validate that these things I struggle with are caused by ADHD and that it's more serious than what I was taught by teachers and my parents. Hell, I even learned it's at the very bottom of the Autism spectrum so ADHD even pick up autistic things like OCD and sensitivity with loud sounds or certain textures, and struggle with speaking. anyway, I found all these sites but they all either don't teach you how to work with ADHD or say "take a pill" and I'm firmly against medication after what it did to me when I was younger. It may help the struggle but I believe that if you struggle with something you should learn to work with it instead of fight it with meds. So I was just ranting to my mom about how schools and doctors shouldn't be teaching us we have a problem, but teaching us how to deal with it and work with it and also, we should be better informed of what it is because it's not just "oh look, a butterfly" and so she youtubed it and you popped up and just 5 of your videos gave me so much clarity! and really, made me feel better about myself and gave me hope for my future because I was terrified that I was going to have to struggle forever with no tools. so thank you so much for your videos. the relationships video, friendships video, meltdown video and anger video specifically, so far, really saved me from giving up. from feeling like a broken person that's just forced to hobble through life because I'm not normal.

[@HowtoADHD]

seventh :D

[@lukewjskywalker6312]

How to ADHD am i ok to be here i have autism

[@deactivated3584]

Of course. Watch whatever videos and channels you want? :)

[@snoopygonewilder]

If the video helps you, you should definitely watch them. I guess even if they don't and just enjoy them, why not?

[@RoastedMarshmelon]

nineteen-thousand-three-hundred-eighty-fifth =D

[@TheAstroChild]

@@lukewjskywalker6312 I have "Highly Functional Autism" or what used to be called "Aspberger's Syndrome" and adult-onset ADHD, and this channel is helping me learn how to manage my skills and personality traits to the best possible way.

[@TheLukeskywalker2]

I am amazed how helpful this stuff is to me as someone with Aspergers, not ADHD.

[@TheAstroChild]

I have -both- Aspberger's (Highly Functional Autism) and ADHD and I've found these videos priceless and a God Send. :)

[@MrLaggyBoy]

this is one of the best freaking vid ive ever seen

[@lauralynnmartin1130]

Thanks you for this video Jessica. Thank you thank you thank you.

[@hondal22]

I've grown to love you. I m kind of glad you have adha. haha because you're able to help so many people out there. Its a blessing in disguise

[@claudio2one]

thank you so much for doing this kind of videos! keep up the good work!

[@HowtoADHD]

thanks for watching! I'll keep making them as long as people keep watching them :D

[@deborahlindsay3670]

Your channel is fantastic!! Thank you so much!❤

[@HunterZim68]

Thanks Eric!

[@ADHDreWired]

Shaun Hunter you're welcome 😊

[@RedHeadAvenger]

Now I know why I hate making plans and sticking to them and always feel rushed to do the next thing. grrrrrrrrr

[@MomBehindTheComputer]

FYI in case your moderator is ever on vacation. I just found that you can set up auto add to playlists via certain tags or keywords. So awesome for someone like me who never remembers to go back and place videos in playlists. Thanks for all you do!

[@SuperBRAIN]

Aforementioned Thoughts haha... "Vacation"

[@HowtoADHD]

whoaa thanks for the tip!

[@rev.rachel]

On "riding the wave": When I'm healthy enough, riding the wave actually works really well for me. It doesn't exhaust me as much as forcing myself to play neurotypical to follow my schedule, and I don't hyperfocus unnecessarily nearly as much when my mental health is good. The less healthy I am, though, the more my wave-riding instincts suffer. So, as a back-up in case my instincts start to fail, I make a schedule for the day anyway. Just a list of tasks on a piece of paper, with a length of time or a start time next to them, in the order that feels right when I start working (like changing up the type of work from task to task to keep my interest). After each task is done, I go back to the list and check it off. If I feel like the 7th thing on the list is what I really want to do next, I'll spend the time I allotted for that task 2nd and just keep shifting stuff around. But having it all on a list a) ensures I still get everything done in some order and b) helps me instinct well by reminding me all the tasks I intended to do. It's basically the schedule version of taking multiple-choice tests in whatever order the questions look interesting.

[@richie543ify]

Hello! this is not related to time management, but I thought I'd let you know since it has to do with ADHD. I'm the person who asked about Ambidexterity during your last live stream, which something I wanted to talk about. So for the past few months I have been training my left hand by doing various hand exercises (such as playing with Play-Doh) and practicing my handwriting in hopes of becoming ambidextrous. throughout my training I felt like I was able to think more clearly and improved my memory (also changed my diet to a majority of fruits, veggies and water) I believe I have more control over the symptoms now. I also found out that I was born left handed, but I had spent 20+ years writing and button mashing a controller with my right hand. I also heard about a study that says Lefties are more likely to get ADHD, so I thought, what if there are way more Lefties in the world but they were forced to use their right hand and developed ADHD? because Leonardo Da Vinci was born left handed, became ambidextrous, and supposedly had ADHD symptoms.

[@HowtoADHD]

right, hi!! I haven't found anything in my research that supports ADHD having to do with which hand is dominant, do you have any you could send me? (btw my dad we're pretty sure had ADHD-PI, and he was left handed). I know my symptoms improve when I'm excited about something new and focused on learning how to do something. I wonder if you're experiencing more mindfulness and it's easier to focus because of that -- in school I used to play with my handwriting and it kept me from getting bored in class.

[@richie543ify]

How to ADHD www.adhd-app.com/2013/07/24/lefties-more-likely-to-have-adhd/

[@greatestsociety3045]

I can get so hyperfocused on something that I forget/ignore the fact that I really have to pee until I'm literally sprinting to the bathroom before I burst lol

[@TheAstroChild]

I used to be like that as a kid playing computer games. I would "hold it in" until I was literally bursting at the seams.

[@nasyawsp]

Thank you Eric

[@OofWillis]

I absolutely LOVE the cartoon Erics!!!!!!!

[@priscilacassou]

I’m not diagnosed... but I can relate to so much of what you talk about!! Thank you soooo much for this channel!!!!

[@samanthamyers4267]

Since most of what needs to be done are consistent, I simply put it into my routine. I also take advantage of the reminder feature on my calendar to give myself a warning that an appointment is coming up.

[@KaffekanAnna]

If I could only count the amount of nights I've stayed up late because too much to do and then be tired the next day. Yup even as a parent! This gave me a great idea though! I have trouble finding time of my own (due to toddler who REFUSES to go to bed. And has a hard time staying asleep) perhaps I should try and get some rńr with myself in the mornings instead? 💡

[@kedrynevans6240]

Awesome series! Just what I needed to try to figure out how to get a new strategy for organizing my to-do's! Thank you so much!!!

[@snoopygonewilder]

I was watching the first video today, wondering what I'm going to do to remember to put on a timer to time my tasks.

[@rosequill7925]

What he said about it being executive disfunction not laziness really got to me because for pretty much my entire life my parents would yell at me for being lazy when I wasn't doing exactly what they told me to do

[@danielledamico7649]

I found your page today, simply by what I thought was accident. Lol. I was looking up videos related to Dr. Hallowell, and POOF!!! I found your channel!!! I am so excited to have found your channel!

[@trelawnehiguera617]

Thank you for being. You are really healing a lot of people with this. I adore you.🥰( in the not creepy way).👍

[@xelawyn]

Hi Jessica, thank you again so much for these videos, they are very helpful. I was wondering if you could address strategies for tackling boring maintenance tasks? I have trouble making sure I'm showing and brushing my teeth, and showing particularly always feels like a huge task to me. And doing laundry, and then folding laundry/hanging it up, and doing the dishes... um, yeah, the list goes on. Your paper monster series was very helpful and I was hoping maybe you could address some other overwhelming or boring household tasks?

[@brittanymccreary]

I completely 100% related when you said "eye infections from not taking your contacts out". I'm so happy to hear I'm not alone! 😂

[@Lemonyellowcity]

This series was super helpful! I know these are over a year old and I'm sure the kinks have been worked out, but it was a bit distracting to have the differences in audio, I had to keep going back to replay certain parts because I was so focused on how quiet Eric's segments were versus yours! I eventually just gave up and put the subtitles on, but even still these were amazing!

[@Kate-vd3hl]

Ty

[@melanieforrester7689]

Wow - this is soooo what I'm going through! ❤️

[@xelawyn]

Hi Jessica, thank you again so much for these videos, they are very helpful. I was wondering if you could address strategies for tackling boring maintenance tasks? I have trouble making sure I'm showering and brushing my teeth, and showering particularly always feels like a huge task to me. And doing laundry, and then folding laundry/hanging it up, and doing the dishes... um, yeah, the list goes on. Your paper monster series was very helpful and I was hoping maybe you could address some other overwhelming or boring household tasks?

[@MrShark-no3bq]

Thank you so much. Your videos are so helpful for myself and my son who both have adhd. Maybe you could make a video for families like mine who struggle to help each other manage. I’ve forgotten important events, made my kids late, napped through the day because I stayed up late doing all the things that should have been done before, and generally not being the best mom.

[@Secularthoughts]

Please talk about your ADHD treatment recommendations. Would love to hear what your opinion is in that matter. Thanks!

[@kylahead1569]

Lol, I’m literally playing a game while watching your video and I’ve been telling myself one more game for the past two hours😂

[@syberyah]

"I would rather sit here on the floor than do that thing" is laziness "I should do the thing. I need to do the thing, I should be doing the thing *why am I not doing the thing*" is executive dysfunction

[@notgonnabetelling1469]

What happens when it's both?

[@starlitelemming6929]

"There is no such thing as 'lazy;' there's always a reason." Don Treacher (Clinical Psychologist)

[@logicawe]

These were great questions and answers. I wrote them all down. I had a question: Is it could be possible for ADHD to be caused by a head injury. Is their an age where it is most dangerous to receive a head injury? Have you ever met anyone who claims ADHD was caused by a head injury. Thank you for your time, and all the great work you put into the show.

[@becky2235]

Thank you

[@Andi-tu6gd]

Thank you for sharing. I signed up at patreon through facebook. Best wishes!

[@avideostarworldwillemijn8066]

Hey! I love your videos! I have learned more of you about my ADHD than in all the years I was getting help for it! You are one of my idols. I really look up to you! So I thought that you could maybe help me with the only thing I hate about my ADHD... I am taking medication but my problem is that I like myself so much more without my medication! My ADHD makes me such a more fun person. I laugh more, I talk more, I am just happier without my ADHD pills. But I can't live without them. The world around me is just to much. I will take in so much of the world at once that I will become so tired and stressed out and I get a headache. This is the thing I have the most of my ADHD, since I also have autism and my autism does this too... Now my medication actually has to go up, but I don't want to lose another piece of myself. I can live with less concentration, lower grades and annoying people when I am too noisy, so for all this I will not get more medication. I just need it to be able to handle with the world around me. Do you have tips for me? Is this normal? I don't expect you to know how to fix this (my doctors know nothing except for taking more medication either), but I thought that you might know some stuff to relax my mind a little? I will be forever thankful if you can help me.. Sorry for the way too long comment btw

[@HowtoADHD]

+AVideoStarWorld Willemijn meds might need to be adjusted, talk to your doctor if you don't feel like "yourself" on them -- but in the meantime, meditation might be really helpful for relaxing your mind! I'm finding I can handle lower doses of meds when I meditate regularly. Of course that's just my personal experience but research does show meditation can improve ADHD symptoms and increase gray matter in the brain :) Headspace is a great app to get started!

[@avideostarworldwillemijn8066]

How to ADHD thank you so much! I'm going to try it for sure :)

[@avideostarworldwillemijn8066]

How to ADHD hey, I have tried your tips. The meditation wasn't really my thing. I didn't have the patience for it. However I tried to mix it up with stretching now (something that I was already doing, I just meditate now, but then in different positions) and that works perfect for me! Because of that I focus less on the stretches I can stay longer in one position (which means I can get my goal of becoming flexible easier) and it gives me so much more peace! And because I feel more like I do something (because of the stretching) I don't get bored! Thank you so much for that tip! I also tried a little more medication (today is the first day, your new video about meds gave me the motivation for it, because it made clear to me that it was okay to have more medication, if I need it) and it works really well. I don't know how it will do in a few weeks, but for now it works good. My head is really clear. I don't understand why I was so scared for it. It isn't bad at all. I wish I would have found you earlier. Your videos help me so much. Thank you. Please keep doing what you do

[@user-sr1kc6jj2b-p1q]

I hate the word "lazy" too. I've hated it for 25 years because, as Eric says, it's a shaming word. As soon as I heard him say this I hit the like button.

[@MrRickster66]

Again, your videos rock! You guys should receive the Nobel prize for ADHDers! I really mean that!

[@mkprr]

This is so helpful

[@darav7071]

YES DISTRACTION VIDEO!! I'm actually supposed to do homework right now, so I think I might need a few new strategies to avoid distraction XD.

[@heathertoomey7068]

Avoid the vicious cycle by committing to do the stuff that prevents it. So DO go to bed before your homework is done, when it is time to go to sleep! Otherwise, more will not get done. I only started taking my contacts out at night because apparently they block oxygen from your eyes and your eyes grow blood vessels into that part to bring oxygen to it, and then it can permanently damage your eyesight. I had those blood vessels growing and stopped before it obstructed my sight.