Husband Cheated on Me With a Stri**er and Threw a Bday Party for Me Where He Announced She Was...

[@madara_senju7988]

What he said about seeing her with a pregnant belly even made me uncomfortable and I'm a MAN.

[@kiberrose1229]

I can see why. He has an unhealthy fetish. It won't be comfortable to talk about it for most people

[@madara_senju7988]

@@kiberrose1229 We all have our fetishes and fantasies, I can understand that. But to try and forcefully make her pregnant for that is just insane, isn't it?

[@kiberrose1229]

@@madara_senju7988 fetishes can certainly be bad though. Especially when you try and force them upon someone. It's bad to force anyone to do anything in such cases, but forcing them because of your own sick fantasy? That's like ten times worse. Disgusting

[@madara_senju7988]

@@kiberrose1229 You're absolutely right

[@Iwillroastyourlifeson]

Happen to my friend. She gave up school and everything

[@Glitche0275]

Imagine telling everyone you cheated with a stripper and got her pregnant, while being 100% confident everyone is going to be on your side. That's an all-balls-no-brains move.

[@gwencatz2483]

OP didn't need to "expose" him at all. Still glad she got her ducks in order to throw the whole man away as fast as possible

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

what do you believe they think with? all their brains are in their pants

[@cototototorra7106]

@@gwencatz2483 i mean he even screwed himself more by saying the time he started seeing her and that he was expecting a baby ffrom her

[@WriterGirl90]

It the fact that he was surprised when HER mom kicked off at him for being a cheater that got me. Did he really expect his MiL to side with him over her daughter 😹

[@mr.dickbutttheog2064]

You have to be an extremely special level of stupid to think everyone would congratulate you for literally ruining your own life

[@smorphous8928]

that's extremely narcassistic that he still expects Op to apologize when he's the one ruining the marriage and cheating on Op

[@Cheeseform]

Fr how do you expect a apology when your in the wrong

[@patrikbengtsson3883]

​@@Cheeseform Ever heard of Furinkan?

[@Cheeseform]

@@patrikbengtsson3883 🍞

[@DarkEinherjar]

Dude has more red flags than a communist parade.

[@junior49300]

Lol good one

[@WildDancer101]

Dun-dun, tissss.

[@HazbinHotel_fan21]

*JAZZ HANDS*

[@DragonicGamer32]

The dude exposed himself lol. Imagine being so narcissistic that you believed that if you told your parents your affair partner was pregnant in front of everyone you could talk away your infidelity as a good thing. The way he arranged his speech told that he had been rehersing it for awhile and never even thought about the possibility that the parents may be in on it. Especially when HIS parents are the ones who insisted he throw the party! Lol he should have seen the signs. 100% he was projecting because he'd been cheating all that time and he was getting paranoid that OP might be doing it too.

[@Olimar92]

The guy didn't think his Sister would know anything, she's good friends with his wife, and basically said "I thought she was cheating". Bastard was just upset his Wife had a social life, and thought she would do what he would.

[@DragonicGamer32]

@@Olimar92 pretty much. He must have really believed OP wouldn't go to his family for support. His whole story fell apart completely when he said OP ran off to be with a fake affair partner. Because she was staying with the people who had her back/his family, that whole lie came apart.

[@stardustdeath2497]

Imagine this guy texting her “You ready to apologize to me?” After just finishing with the affair partner….this guy wild

[@DragonicGamer32]

Honestly if it were me I'd have screwed with his head. "Actually I just finished talking to an older man." Not even alluding to the fact that said older man is his father and let him spiral

[@AmberU]

He’s a narcissist just how he acted about her moving in and his stuff!

[@perfectillusion9427]

I'm glad that the in-laws actually supports her

[@JKGirl90s]

How could they not as decent human being?

[@Th3blackdog.13.ৎ]

​@JKGirl90s well from the ither reddit stories ive watched it couldve been a chance.

[@Tyleya]

Shoutout to Kylie. She is the real MVP

[@Ijya18]

yesss

[@vikaastrakh2828]

Wow how his actions screamed 'projection'

[@CelesteTiago]

It is absolutely terrifying how hard he was trying to isolate her! Deleting her messages to ruin her relationships and keep her from going to hang out with her friends… what an absolute piece of garbage

[@haydennorris8062]

He wants her all to himself…he wants her to be his property…

[@MielahHall1981]

As soon as he messed with my clothes I would’ve gotten a divorce…

[@greenvic90]

I will never understand marrying someone and not living together beforehand, sounds like a surefire recipe for disaster 😰

[@laevateinn4144]

About this and also unrelated, I once heard my dad say that living together before marriage opens the door to promiscuity and the devaluation of intimacy, and he is not even religious 😂 Aside from religious motives, I don't understand either. It is the wisest thing to see if two people are compatible in a daily aspect before committing to coexistence for life.

[@yamairad1]

Anybody in a similar situation read the book "Why does he do that?" It explains the aspects of abuse that are hard to explain and justify. Like when OPs mom said "He loves you so much." Abuse isn't always a punch in the face. Sometimes, it's deleting your texts, throwing away your clothes etc.

[@colinburston9683]

The main fact his attitude changed so suddenly is a BIG sign he was cheating, especially since he was accusing OP of cheating

[@Gam1ngPhase]

Most cheaters (if not all) try and mirror their cheating on their spouses, so yeah. You’re right.

[@Haterade420]

He’s a control freak.

[@haydennorris8062]

He wants her all to himself

[@FireflyStarryNight]

He’s been manipulating her from the beginning. He took advantage of her grief then lovebombed her with a surprise proposal. He’s controlling and toxic. Honestly she’s so much better without her ex. The stripper can have him, they deserve each other.

[@avencree]

The fact that parents were like “You want to divorce him one on one? Forget that, let’s set the stage! Party time bitches!” They are real ones and I hope OP gets them in the divorce lol

[@DuckIt13]

Proposing in front of family is a HUGE red flag. This outs pressure to your partner. And the fact that he is kot willing compromise and give the woman her space in their home? Oh boy.

[@MrSircharles05]

Man, props to the SIL for always having OP's back! She a real one!

[@thehiddensilentone1795]

The moment op mentioned the husband's demanding behavior, regarding her wardrobe and souvenir magnets, I knew immediately the marriage was doomed. The husband has no right to behave that way ( the clothes I would understand if she had a large amount and wasn't wearing them). The fact he doesn't want her to add her own personal touch to the house, indicates he doesn't really see her as a wife.

[@Allie_phelps]

I have a ton of clothes, I’m talking two dressers, and a huge walk in closet but, I wear all of them. My husband is very much the same way. We use one of our dressers for summer, one for winter and the same goes for my closet and his closet (they’re separate with winter and summer). My husband has never complained about the about of clothes I have because he knows I wear them and if I don’t, I’m the first one to packed them up for donation. This guy just wanted total control

[@davidheaven2961]

I’m glad the comments flamed OP honestly dude tried to embarrass her at her birthday party and u believe he can’t live without u

[@HannahBuckley-fe6xf]

Wait... A cheating story where, the In laws aren't defending the ex husband... YASSSSSSSSS!!!!!!! FINALLY.

[@gwencatz2483]

I just imagine Cole hunched on the couch with OP's phones like a hungry gargoyle. Gross.

[@taylordaenzer4852]

It's not your fault it's your husband's fault because he cheated on him with a young woman and he got the young woman pregnant and that's not right and he should pay for his actions and go to hell for what he has done to him and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and he doesn't deserve anything for cheating on him and met the young woman pregnant and he doesn't apologize.

[@jacobgomos2418]

I definitely have to disagree with what OP’s mother said about what her husband did. Because what he did wasn’t strange. It was toxic and manipulative. It wasn’t bad enough that he kept making OP change things about herself and demanding that she do things but he also got it in his head for some reason that OP was cheating on him, more than likely driven by insecurity, so he thought that he had the right to look through her phone and delete messages from her friends and family. And on top of all of that he decided to present his affair partner to his parents and then he had the nerve to justify his affair by claiming things that were not true. And I personally think that OP’s mother was wrong about what she said that her husband was the only man who would be willing to be in a relationship with her as well as being a loving husband because if OP’s husband was truly loving then he wouldn’t have cheated in the first place or tried to control everything about OP’s life. OP is definitely NTA and I honestly hope that she buries him in court.

[@sthrcnx]

"MY EYES WIDENED IN SHOCK!"

[@aking3624]

Sounds like my Ex. He became a born again Christian after 20 yr marriage & started going on about being baby crazy... Super creepy!! He ended up finding an 18 year old replacement...he was 61😖🤷!!

[@SpectralNapper]

Wow, talk about a control freak at the start of the story. How did OP not see that as a red flag?

[@p.twilliams6393]

Op ignored all of those very bright red flags

[@lyon4482]

W ex in-laws😂

[@tellingreallife]

Your bravery in a tough situation is inspiring Glad you found the strength to move on Wishing you the happiness and peace you deserve.

[@jerrythediarrheaseel3199]

The most hypocritical and anger inducing thing about dating is having a partner cheat on you while they themselves are having an affair and being controlling. My ex gf cheated on me for months, while being extremely paranoid I was talking to other women and wasn't allowed to have friends who are female, despite her being the type who only has male friends and was just "one of the guys". I called her out on her hypocrisy one day and she looked like a dear in the headlights, and never gave me a straight answer besides gaslighting the hell outta me afterwards. The only silver lining is that now I know which red flags to pay attention to, with the male friends thing being in the top 5 lol

[@jaydas8976]

OP’s husband is the definition for abusive and controlling. The fact that he hid her clothes and also tried to control who she hung out with by deleting/hiding messages from her friends and family is extremely disturbing. It’s very clear that Cole was trying to isolate Op from her loved ones. I’m just glad that her in laws supported her instead of Cole

[@GenGamesUniverse]

"I want y'all to stop being so mean to me!" Uh well YOU completely said you would have gone back to him if you had trusted your heart. Girl, you are fucking nuts if you ever did that!

[@bellalove3797]

I'm surprised she stayed after the 3rd year

[@ri.b.8700]

Wow. OP's better off without that narcissist obviously.

[@UrfavLuna1234]

This guy is absolutely insane he thinks cheating and admitting 100% confidence is crazy he just cheated and expects everyone to be on his side and he asked when is OP going to apologize he is insane

[@RedditFamilyTales]

Nice story, lovely voice, great style of presentation.

[@Rj-ij6ko]

*Op’s husband proudly admits to cheating and got another woman pregnant* Op: AITA for exposing him? …how tf did OP expose him…? HE did it himself… FFS ya Op is a bit of an idiot for even THINKING about returning to him…

[@DragonicGamer32]

Lol right? OP and his own family went in planning to expose his infidelity and he went and did it himself.

[@melindazamichieli708]

The minute he started bitching about fridge magnets and your wardrobe I wouldn't left

[@nbkangel]

theres two things that could be happening here one, OP is the only one without kids? and LandM felt comfortable leaving their son alone in front of OPs room without even asking if she'd be able to, OR WILLING to watch him? this is a vacation for HER too. how many of her friends keep her around as a babysitter simply because shes young and the only one without children. and/or two, OP did the right thing, but now all the other friends (parents) are wary of her because theyre all just as selfish and irresponsible and know that it could just as easily have been them being reported to the police.

[@michaelglynn7010]

W in-laws 💪 Cole does literally all the stereotypical chester things

[@triggerticker]

I hate cheating stories, but it's a surprise hearing a story of a man cheating after all these women cheating stories. They are like a needle in a haystack lol

[@Hereisfae]

Wow 🤯 The change in behaviour after the first 2 years of marriage is just so unfathomable and audacious

[@STAYATINYARMYSIN]

She had 2 reasons to leave him within 3 years yet she didn’t 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@kellysorensen1419]

Controlling behaviors! Domineering narcissist!

[@madambutterfly1997]

And I would’ve countered back with if you had truly loved me, you wouldn’t dare look at another woman, regardless of how unhappy you are in the marriage

[@thejollyskrub1972]

It’s ridiculous that I had to actually look for a cheating story with the guy cheating

[@ajzephyros7454]

stripper, the word is stripper, we don't have to censor everything FFS

[@Cthulhuwarlord]

Thank youtube

[@wildbeautyunderneath4735]

Claims it was something they wouldn't do, but only because they missed all the red flags in the move in.

[@davidcampos6038]

8 years that crazy, that's why you never marry old.

[@stephaniehoyland4901]

cole is not just a red flag he's terrifying, op needs to run, as fast as she can. He doesn't see her as a wife or partner he sees her as a possions

[@bradg8055]

dear god this guy has so many red flags, damn stop being a doormat

[@SilveryBlue1010]

Tbh, OP needs that reality check.

[@mongviemong]

naahh, all Op needs is to respond to the text with single clown emoji

[@notting2640]

AI cooked up a Lifetime script this time 😂

[@jayalakshmiviraraghavan419]

Yeah

[@LODintheshadows]

He's deleting the messages becasue he's an abuser and trying to isolate her from everyone. Simple as that.

[@kheph632]

I don’t get AITA posts like these. She knows she’s not in the wrong, everyone knows she’s not in the wrong, and yet she is confused why people are bashing her for posting asking if she is AITA.

[@ShadowLady247]

Gaslighting and or general self doubt can do that to a person. Validation from others is a powerful and reaffirming force from time to time.

[@matthew9326]

When my friend was going through his divorce he called me a couple times crying and asking if he was doing the right thing. He was steadfast most of the time but he did still love his ex. It wasn't until she went for full custody that he finally got mad

[@kheph632]

@@matthew9326 I didn’t think about it from a reassurance perspective. That makes a lot of sense.

[@lelinh8861]

holly shit that man was a walking red flag

[@deadsouljaguar7041]

What the hell? So many red flags been happening this story. Op should've divorced him when it comes to the wardrobe, clothes situation before it escalated to the point of him deleting the messages from her phone.

[@malcire]

Cole sounds like a picky picky princess.

[@imweirdfiteme593]

Her husband tryna get her pregnant when they decided to not want kids dosnt think that's to bad. But him hiding her favorite clothes so she couldn't wear them out? That's when she gets mad

[@Vinn_Tree]

Man doing a lot of getting and taking but giving back and putting in work.

[@chinaking918]

Op messed up from the very beginning. I’m all for compromise but Cole was giving demands and she was giving into them making him more comfortable making even more demands. It gave him a level of control he shouldn’t have had. He turned that inch into a mile. Picking her clothes? Deleting communications between her and family/friends? Forcibly trying to get her pregnant? Miss ma’am😩. She should’ve been gone waaaay before the party even happened but I get it when ppl are in love those rose glasses keep you from seeing what’s right in your face.

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

wants a kid when claimed none before? called baby trapping.

[@jondoty-cd3kr]

He's evil and controlling.

[@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami]

PROJECTION IS CRAZY🤡🤡🤡

[@Francina-g5o]

She told us she was 28when they started dating, and he was a much older man . How much older ? It does seem he was set in his ways, and her clothing in his closet and not changing his decor seems to reflect that , also was a red flag

[@NatsuoLanglois-dm1cm]

omg girl run away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@adjustableWench]

So did the cheating happen in the 8th year of their marriage? Because it sounds like it happened sooner than that

[@ComeliaO7]

He did that shit on her bday! What a pos!!!!

[@Kingdinoexe123]

Bro thats like my dad her hubsend and my dad are the same 😂😂😂😂😂

[@bernardkuiper1496]

I'm sorry your dad is a shit human, hope you're ok

[@rmsiq148isstruggling3]

Now this is marital abuse

[@IMACERTIFIEDBIGBACK]

I’m not lying but bro was a red flag from the start it’s not surprising he was cheating she should have gotten a divorce a long time ago op was clearly blind considering he was giving RED FLAG when he started being insecure about clothes.

[@Falney]

I have no idea how to feel about this story. He had to have things his way, she had to have them her way. No discussion and coming to a joint decision.

[@DragonicGamer32]

What discussion? The moment the cheating starts is when it is OVER. No ammount of talking and discussion was going to help because he was cheating the whole time

[@Falney]

@@DragonicGamer32 from the beginning, he wanted the house his way, she wanted it hers. He didn't want to lose more than half his wardrobe, she didn't want to down size. In a healthy relationship you discuss things and come to comprise, come to a result you both are happy with, not demanding things go your way. The relationship was bad from the start, it just got progressively worse.

[@ceded6543]

From her side it seems like she did compromise for what he wanted.

[@DragonicGamer32]

@@Falney From what I saw, she did discuss. She even decided she wouldn't take his place and moved her stuff into another room. That's called COMPROMISE. She could have argued they are married and their wardrobes should be mixed in the same room. He didn't want that, and she was tired of arguing with him so she moved her stuff into another room as a compromise. We must have obviously been reading two completely different stories if you didn't catch that.

[@Falney]

@@DragonicGamer32 and what about the part about decorating? She literally said she would change it to her tastes over time?

[@GrapeDaOne]

1:34 Gabriela(Roblox avatar): wait why didn't i see these 2 at my city?-

[@Irondrakeshield]

In the first few minutes i know hes controlling

[@NourAmsterdam]

Anger, sadness, confusion, doubt, sorrow, guilt, it’s all part of the process. So those people who send her mean messages, dont understand emotions in general.

[@shantibunny7711]

11:11 is the middle of the video🤗

[@CodyJonesXD]

*If There's Any New Updates, Please Upload A Video With The New Updates!*

[@TheDuckWhoWalkedUp]

WEE WOO WEE WOO NARCISSIST ALERT

[@KoalaMF]

Nice.

[@MalevolentForge]

Why did y'all get married?

[@Mysticriver4ever]

W sil

[@davidmendez174]

I’m sorry how are you the a-hole after everything you just said how he was treating you hiding your clothes, going through your phone deleting messages and cheating on you yeah your definitely the a-hole Ik most of these are fakes but again OP literally just explained everything and is still asking am I the a-hole for exposing her cheating husband

[@Alex_The_Barbearian]

Bro the AI needs to figure out new patterns "Betrayed, retaliated, feel guilty, no longer guilty bye bye bye."

[@sTas073-i1e]

That's the sub, why would you post on AITA if you aren't feeling guilty

[@Alex_The_Barbearian]

@@sTas073-i1e a lot of the stories on this channel aren't from Reddit, trust me I've tried to look for them, if they really are actual Reddit stories there's no links to original stories. I still believe the AI takes a few stories like this on the subreddit and runs with it.

[@shudhanshukumar708]

Op

[@StaresAtYouInContempt]

How many red flags can you ignore before you just enable his shitty behavior?

[@Armie-dn5qp]

Reddit people again HAHAHAHHA

[@oneuup2490]

So opie's using the excuse of death in the family to pick up a sugar daddy? I never understood why people like op is shocked what their sugar daddy do when they get into a serious relationship with them being that he did the same thing to get you. The A tale as Old as Time well off businessman older and a desperate broke assistant. And honestly he probably was in a relationship with someone else in the time that he meant okay and then she became the main thing for the time being until he found someone maybe younger..😂😂

[@elizabethafton2113]

Firstttt

[@iwtbrnk]

YTA

[@AnadaConceicaoS.S.Ribeiro]

Dude has more red flags than a communist parade.