Husband keeps nagging wife when she comes home at 11PM after work [Part 2] | K-DOC

They first met in New York. She followed him to Korea and has been working ever since, as her husband doesn't have a stable source of income. His nagging doesn't stop, though. Find out about their dynamic!
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이웃집 찰스 [My neighbor Charles]
[미국 데보라] Air Date: 2022.6.28

[@sammylee5474]

First, can I get a pin?

[@seekinghimdaily92]

📌

[@sammylee5474]

@@seekinghimdaily92 ty

[@t.l.5755]

Deborah, I hope you see this. You may need to take some B vitamins. Black Strap molasses has many good nutrients and slows graying. Please listen to your husband and get your sleep!

[@kdchhy2252]

@@t.l.5755 I think she dyed her hair white. I think it is style

[@seminpark4528]

since this is pinned. for those that actually believe they live like that and the actions and emotions they portray in the show is "real" then you need to get your eyes checked. Scripts exist.

[@gabiduncan18]

She's a real one because I promise you I am not about to financially support a grown ass man and then said man has the nerve to treat her like a child. I will not.

[@Cindy99765]

It's struggle love. I can't even call her a real one, because it's delusion and self-sabotage at this point. I really hope she is able to find someone who isn't a bum in the future.

[@gabiduncan18]

@@Cindy99765 I was trying to be nice/understanding by calling her a real one but you're right it's crazy

[@mirabanxx9218]

Exactly. If I'm busting my behind and coming home exhausted, it's for myself and myself only. No grown men included.

[@chinavirus841]

Well get used to it because you better be supporting a grown man

[@chinavirus841]

@@mirabanxx9218 it’s grown man included also , keep crying

[@joannas190]

Ok I really thought he was being supportive in the previous part but seeing him nagging her like that just throws me off. She overworks herself, wants to pursue her own dreams as well and on top of that she's helping him with his stuff. She is too good for him. If I came home at 11pm to a husband nagging me like that I would just start throwing stuff at him 😅

[@lily7001]

Frankly, I think most shows are artificial. Perhaps they set this man's character as "Nagging Man." cuz, It's not fun if you don't make characters and situations

[@haejeegwon9774]

It is a way to make a story on all show, including Korea. Narrative skills to give a man a villain, a ridiculous character, and create a situation. For example, the character of mother-in-law in Korean drama is similar. This technique is similar not only in dramas but also in all shows. Of course, viewers enjoy the technique The evidence is here. look! people are writing comments because they are angry! The way they hold the viewer hostage

[@am32074]

I mean what we saw was a fraction of their whole relationship we can't judge from just that. Also every relationship has downsides just like friendships, you don't leave your friends immediately but try to fix issues. if she still wanna stay it's her choice

[@shizukagozen777]

I agree with you but I also understand him: he might -stand- his whole day dwelling on the stuff he doesn't like at home, like the food and the medicines, he's not her dad and he's not her food and drugs manager, he doesn't have to bear with this kind of BS, she's an adult, she should be more responsible. Stay*

[@sharondsouza8054]

@@shizukagozen777 SHE HAS HERWORK INSTEAD OF NAGGING MAYBE SPEAK OUT

[@Brp720]

She looks exhausted. He needs to get a job, either a better part-time job or get a job that involves his major. He can pursue his dream on the side, your dreams don't pay the bills. She looks exhausted, and honestly, the last thing she needs is someone nagging her. I don't think his nagging comes from a malicious place, but he also needs to understand that she is literally busting her ass. Whenever I watch these videos I end up feeling bad for the woman. This type of (struggle) 'love' isn't admirable. If I saw my partner look that exhausted after working all damn day, I would get a job, even if it's part time to ease their burden and I wouldn't be nagging.

[@secrets.295]

That is what a lot of men have to deal with every time they come back from home to their stay at home wife. People don't see it as a problem when it is the man who is being nagged around by the wife. It is only an issue if it is the other way around

[@bloodbabe.2226]

@@secrets.295 So you can acknowledge it’s a problem, regardless of which gender it’s annoying period

[@fatmanasser8848]

Lmao. You are literally acting as if you know their entire story

[@boopboop9356]

Ty for saying that. Struggle love is so glorified

[@msunje9862]

@@secrets.295 the lies y’all males spread to make excuses for these type of dudes

[@carlieamado6153]

The more I watch this series the more sorry I feel for all these foreign women married to Korean men, if it not their families it’s the men who are problematic.

[@shizukagozen777]

Fr

[@gabiduncan18]

I swear

[@ladyborat1]

They always end up working for them…

[@cjo4210]

I noticed it too! The foreign women are not marrying high caliber educated men. Almost all the men are older and work low wage jobs if at all.

[@cjo4210]

@Hi H Not to be rude but Korea has a high domestic violence rate too.

[@dostagirl9551]

I don’t judge him for not working a regular job. If she wants to support his dream, then that’s her choice. However, that sort of support and sacrifice from a spouse deserves at least the decency to not add more burden to their plate. Stop with the nagging…if things need to be thrown out, just throw them out instead of trying to shame her with it. She bought more lettuce by accident then make a salad one day and ssam the next. It’s not rocket science.

[@kimleemoon]

@@ElwynnForest Well she should nag about his unfavorable behavior as well….not working and helping to support the household. That more unfavorable than buying too much lettuce!

[@udontevenwannaknowbruv]

@@kimleemoon But instead he does housework and cooking, that’s a full time job on its own. I would gladly support my husband if he took care of all chores and cooked meals 😂

[@jasonp3336]

Agreed 100%. Even Anderson Paak's wife supported his dreams in music, they were even homeless and she stuck by him with support. It's beautiful when your partner supports your dreams. Thats true love!

[@msunje9862]

@@ElwynnForest she is tried and human, she makes mistakes more then one time that means she deserves this treatment after long day of work ?

[@msunje9862]

@@ElwynnForest why does he not talk to her the next day. She is already tried, let her rest and then discuss ways to solve the issue. Why are you making excuses for his nagging ? His behavior is 100 percent wrong

[@strangerdaysss]

he should be scrubbing her feet and doing face spa and body massages for her as soon as she enters that door, NOT nag her. she's doing everything for her AND him. she is hardworking AND patient. poor girl. she deserves to be treated so much better.

[@allergictohumansnotanimals5671]

It’s more common for wives to nag their husbands yet they don’t scrub their feet and massage them 🙄 if she’s happy with him let her be.

[@lisa.222]

@@allergictohumansnotanimals5671 he does nag a lot tho

[@strangerdaysss]

@@allergictohumansnotanimals5671 that's true that wives nag too but the only wives i see nagging are those with kids and chores to do. what this husband has shown the world is that he is leeching off his wife and being ungrateful about it. at least have some decency. she is trying so hard for HIM, herself and the both of them. he can at least meet her a quarter of the way. he's not even at a fraction.

[@erowry22]

​@@allergictohumansnotanimals5671 yall just say anything to defend man's peen. He a puss and she deserves better.

[@lisa.222]

@@allergictohumansnotanimals5671 um a lot of women do that and all of rhe above so what do u mean.

[@ishiiflix]

Yo , bro you gotta take care of your girl. That doesn’t mean you need to earn money, but your ass better clean up around the house. You don’t gotta tell her what she is doing wrong… just ask, “do you still need this” and just throw that shit away if she don’t. Otherwise it just looks like you are projecting you insecurities all over her.

[@Nasuada15]

This right here, I could not agree more

[@Rae_Naeee]

Completely agree! He’s absolutely ridiculous

[@shizukagozen777]

But does she take care of him ? Everyone here is supportive of her but why no one tries to see the things from his point of view ? Like maybe he doesn't want to be left out and just be there to clean the house... If it was the other way around, you would say he's a terrible husband. Smh Edit: I want to clarify something in the hope that I would get less notifications: I believe that he should get a part time job because this part of their marriage is very unfair for her. Now you all can chill.

[@shizukagozen777]

@@ekg891 "In silence". Says all about you. (Even if I think it would be more fair if he had a part time job and she worked a little bit less at school, but still your comment disgusts me)

[@pagethreemodel]

I agree but he DOES need to earn money.

[@katdog3522]

Hey everyone this is Deborah! :) First off, thanks for taking an interest in this series and watching a snippet of our personal lives~ I'm in fact shocked and humbled to see that my husband and I have garnered so much attention haha I never would have expected this! I've read and felt every word of both concern and support; I appreciate them all and will reflect on them~ One very important detail I'd love for everyone to keep in mind as they watch this is that although this might be considered a reality show, it is still a crafted and heavily edited story! We were asked to portray certain emotions, actions, lines as well to fit said story. It doesn't fully represent the both of us and our personalities. We hope to shed more light and clarity on the filming process, who we are and what we do in due time! I know some of you have asked for some of our handles and links: I don't tend to upload or post very much (I'm working on it lol), but if you'd like to see and support us more, you can follow us on youtube at @Yongtothesun www.youtube.com/@yongtothesun instagram.com/yongsunhyun and my personal portfolio website is: deborahbello.carbonmade.com Thank you!!! Have a healthy and safe holiday season.

[@portia7854]

🙄

[@AmyStylinson]

Hope you’re well and happy

[@idiotmuffin]

ur sooooo pretty and talented and skilled !! wishing y'all the best !

[@beefcake4599]

Understood, thanks for the info.

[@nj3260]

Your eyes are sad though . Don’t look happy to me .

[@minkki5656]

There's no way in high hell I would be with a man that doesn't work, able bodied, but because he wants to play the damn guitar and do music, she's out there working like a slave, and have to come home and hear his mouth???? Girl!!! Nope..... Nope.... Nope.... Some women love to be in struggle relationships, with these tired men. She's crazy for living like that.

[@Shitsngigz]

Exactly!!!!! 💯

[@vivvelsene63]

Are you saying we should leave a stay at home spouses who Nags ?,

[@maguiedossantos2925]

I agree 💯🎯 Please say it louder for the ladies in the back 🔊🔊🔊🔊🔊🔊 Ladies, she is the right example of what not to do in a relationship. Almost all women I know like this lady, finantially supporting a grown ass husband like a substitute parent... Never ever gotten appreciated or valued by their partners in the end. She's practicing struggle love in order to maintain their relationship. Moral of the story is: it never works well for women who are too invested in struggle love relationships. The only thing you get out of this situation : Is burnout, stress, frustration, emotional distress, mental.breakdown, depression and the list goes on.

[@kdramaexpert3623]

@@vivvelsene63 He is a stay at home but doesn't seem to do the things that should be done at home. As a jobless man, the least he can do is fix the things in the house that he was complaining about. When a woman is stay at home, she is expected to do everything from planning, groceries, cooking, cleaning, inventory, be full of smiles and so on...

[@vivvelsene63]

@@kdramaexpert3623 but don't these stay at home wives nag their husband too ? The people in the comments section act like a nagging spouse is cause for divorce

[@sakshigupta767]

She is an inspiring person working all day and came home late and still working on her side project and also on her husband's album cover even though he was nagging her hours ago. She was excited to let him see her work but rather than appreciating he just said that it doesn't look good. As a designer, her skill was really good 👍

[@LaLaLand926]

Dude has a chemistry degree from one of the top 3 universities in Korea and still won’t help with supporting the income of their household. Deborah looks exhausted. Dreams don’t pay the bills and like Deborah, you have to carve out time to nurture your dream while working a job that supplements her hard earned money

[@Buren1123]

That’s what i don’t understand about him, what’s the point of having such degree if not going to utilize it. The amount of money that was wasted for his education and the exhaustion deborah has endured just for the sake of his narrow dream is just pointless.

[@factmeee]

what we see is what they wanted us to see

[@taylornoel8891]

Your telling me the husband can’t even attempt to get a part time job to help his wife? She loooks so tired and the little time she has to work on her drawings he guilt trips her and tells her to stop. He’s giving me bum behavior. Being a stay at home husband is fine if you can afford it. But obviously they can’t so he needs to get his butt up and get a job. And do his DREAMs after work like everybody else on a middle class income. And if this girl don’t go back to America to be with her family so they can slap some sense into her. Girl got dark circles around her eyes and he just sits there and does absolutely nothing but nags her!! Edit: I see people saying he has a part time job teaching the guitar but that isn’t a steady income, that’s more like freelance work. He needs a real job rather it’s a convenience store, warehouse etc. a steady income. He’s a 🤡 and she’s a victim. This guy got his own personal slave and she don’t even realize it.

[@fatmanasser8848]

watch the previous video cuz he mentioned that he does have a job on the side.

[@kimleemoon]

@@fatmanasser8848 he tutors guitar lessons and said it doesn’t bring in much money.

[@fatmanasser8848]

@@kimleemoon Yeah I'm commenting on the part where you said "husband can’t even attempt to get a part time job to help his wife". most if not all part time jobs don't bring in much money

[@charlesberkeley6429]

He's a graduate of Yonsei University with a chemistry degree. He should be highly sought after in the job market. There is much more backstory that isn't being told here. I'm very curious about why he isn't employed with a degree from a top-3 university. Korean conglomerates would have been all over this guy when he graduated.

[@kimleemoon]

@@charlesberkeley6429 he obviously doesn’t want to work. What man would sit around and watch his wife work herself to death & still not get a job? This woman looks exhausted.

[@AliciaOlatujaVoice]

He's insecure and feels he doesn't deserve her, or anybody maybe, and is therefore subconsciously sabotaging the relationship through his nagging. She however could really benefit from some boundaries, in her personal and work life. She clearly has none, so he has none for her. I wish them both the best bc there's still alot of love there. ❣

[@joyartjoy2001]

Exactly, he’s nagging her cuz he low key feels bad that she’s doing everything to support them, so he tries to put her down so she doesn’t see her worth. She needs to wake up

[@disneytoysr4fun975]

Nah she needs to RUN! Sis is 10 yrs younger than him but already acting like a sugar momma! She should be dating her peers not a dusty middle aged man who is still fantasizing about a pipe dream.

[@Someones_account_haha]

I relate

[@erosivy]

Y’all are really delusional u judge of a few minutes of content ur not in their relationship outside the cameras

[@felixfors9340]

Fooled by decent acting.

[@Lee1Min-Ji]

Deborah, my father used to tell me “if you have to do it all you mine as well be it all.” Don’t stop going after your dreams, slow down your career or pushing yourself until you become everything you want to be on your own terms. Marriage does not end who you are, it only creates a parallel lane. I am rooting for your lifetime of self-love and marital bliss. 💪🏾fighting!

[@veramoraa5609]

Wow nice advice Staying up late and less rest shouldn't be praised even if chasing dreams

[@Lee1Min-Ji]

@@veramoraa5609 I praise those who have the ability to sacrifice comfort today for greater stability, self-actualization and generational wealth tomorrow. FYI, policing my perspective is futile it may be more productive to agree to disagree.✌️

[@beez5123]

@@Lee1Min-Ji This woman looks like is about to faint from on moment to another. Chasing dreams is good, but neglect to your health it turns into regret later on 👋

[@veramoraa5609]

@@Lee1Min-Ji I actually realized I read read your comment wrong, I thought you said she should slow down her career, but that's not what you meant, she has quitted her work now because it was so hard and took a toll on her You can always do what you love as long as you are healthy and Koreans insist on health alot so...

[@ItBeL1keDatFR]

My mom says the same thing‼She also told me, "A man will also try to put you down, to lower your self-esteem so that you don't leave him. Never put up with a man that puts you down, doesn't want to work, or disrespects you. You don't need that. You got me to back you up. Screw men like that."

[@srichey444]

To come after her like that as soon as she walks in over such trivial things.... when she has been working all those hours to keep a roof over his head is ridiculous. If its old, just throw it out and be quiet. He even complained about the Album cover (for an album he borrowed money to make) and she's doing it for FREE! Ungrateful and needs a real job. He could at least get a Part Time job, bc music lessons obviously aren't lucrative. Poor Deborah. Such a hard worker. Sacrifice isn't always Appreciated. God bless her 🙏🏽🤎💪🏾💫💕

[@Sanyu-Tumusiime]

nah but to be honest he's perfect for deborah. .like she works too hard and too much. she needs a nagger like him to calm her down.

[@illigirl768]

You can't be for real lol

[@sundawg911]

I get where she is coming from, I like that she is driven and hardworking. She does deserve to rest and relax though. but I think at the end of the day he nags cause he cares. She obviously loves him for a reason and remember this only shows a very tiny snippet of their relationship. They got married for a reason and at the end of the day they clearly love each other.

[@berryb5474]

Yes your right. He needs a part time job.

[@draco2xx]

deborah is a beautiful woman that deserves better, shame on him for treating her so bad

[@maisaklong]

Deborah seems to be an amazing human being. Wishing her the best of the lucks from Spain. Hope she can get her dream job in the animation industry. Take care of your health if you are reading this dear. ❤️

[@theargentinita]

She's too good for him... She overworks herself, the guy doesn't do anything, doesn't even work, he's just nagging her the whole time. That's horrible.

[@donwashington8764]

No she isn’t… She taught him how to treat her… She’s weak and spineless ..

[@pinqularity1040]

i feel uneasy trying to tell strangers on the internet about their relationships because we only get a surface view. we don’t know how deep their feelings are for each other or their unfiltered, raw daily lives

[@Reprodestruxion]

Es reality , es como cqc , escuchá la musiquita

[@Nyx_Nyx]

Deborah is a dime, hardworking and supportive of her man's dream. He has no idea how lucky he is, he needs to give her alittle more grace.

[@jaewavylofi4079]

He nags her because he doesn’t want her to realize that he’s flying under the radar and not living up to his potential so he makes her feel like she’s imperfect by the littlest things like pointing out her socks being in the wrong place and expired produce. He has too much energy- he needs a real job too 😂😂😂😂😂

[@beagruy2386]

This is my worst nightmare.

[@riteshparmar.]

Well, u shouldn’t be so quick to make a judgement. Most shows in east/south-east Asia are heavily scripted in order to provide “entertainment” and maintain the viewer retention. Also, we have barely seen 5 minutes of the 1440 minutes in their day, that’s less than 0.5% of their day so it’s not right to think of the guy as the devil as we barely know anything about their relationship, their past memories and future plans.

[@tianacurley4067]

He needs to get a career in chemistry since he graduated in it and provide for her.

[@veramoraa5609]

Does she need to be provided for? Did she say she minds?

[@dadao8564]

@@veramoraa5609 🙄🙄

[@Sasha-oh3qu]

@@veramoraa5609 .....um yeh I'm pretty sure the entire point of this video was that.... she minds.

[@ayuCc.]

@@veramoraa5609 eat exactly are u trying to say 😂

[@veramoraa5609]

@@Sasha-oh3qu she didn't say she does, she's okay with the husband doing what he loves,she says that more than once, it's not as if he doesn't contribute anything to the marriage plus it's not always about money or who brings more money, as long as long as they are comfortable

[@hanaeejja1382]

She's so beautiful and hardworking... she deserves better

[@masterpys2693]

She's so elegant, talented and beautiful wow. He's really such a nagger. Instead of helping her feeling more supported and being grateful that she's designing his album cover by shoveling his cover into her busy schedule, he's making the atmosphere she comes home to so suffocating and annoying. One night is okay but continuously is not good

[@violetrosegold]

Wow she’s very talented and a supportive wife! Wishing both of you all the best in your careers, goals and marriage!

[@alexss3661]

My father is a stay at home dad but instead of nagging my mother he helps her with the house chores and cooks for all of us. When my mom comes home he helps her carrying her stuff and serves her the dinner. He's the happiest husband and father and he really tries to make my mom's life easier and comfortable at home. It's not an easy job but if you truly love your partner you do what you can to help her/him. You can pursue your dreams without having a job, you can be financially dependent on someone.. but at least have the decency to help your wife and not make her feel more tired than what she's already is.

[@lecy1075]

i know right :(

[@rdu239]

Nothing wrong with stay at home parent, its a very hard dedication really

[@marteumar8429]

“He helps her with house chores” wtf so not only she’s the only one working she also do home chores? You father is a lazy bum then

[@SallieAndrea]

Deborah is so talented and hardworking

[@h.o.4746]

Kdramas have done a lot of polishing to the Korean men image. This show is the reality of what a Korean man is truly like, even Korean women attest to that

[@likhwezititus]

That's a beautiful generalization.

[@A52424gr_gr]

@@likhwezititus Please excuse them. They don't know better due to xenophobia/racism.

[@krameel9644]

Kdrama has nothing to do with the high expectations of Korean men-It’s the people that are so invested in it. they fail to reach the ugly reality and unfamiliar dating culture of korea. Kdrama didn’t push that narrative, they did.

[@CynikaI]

@@A52424gr_gr stop. Just stop. Nothing about that is racist. Tired of you people

[@Buren1123]

Your distorted view about this issue says alot about your perspective. The issue here is pretty complex, meaning there are alot of branches and roots. We can’t just blame everything on KDramas, i believe it’s foolish and illogical to think that way, it’s like your asian parent blaming your phone for the bad result of your report card.

[@kathytan2736]

they re both talented in their way. I hope things get better and wish them success in life !

[@linda22_]

She’s so beautiful! Naturally fr! So hard working too!

[@candikanme6157]

Run!!! No kids either….thank God!! Run Girl Run!!! He not the one!!!

[@dadao8564]

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[@draco2xx]

lmfao 😭 she should, she's too good for him

[@disneytoysr4fun975]

Right cause how you a sugar momma to a man whos a decade older than you and less attractive than you?😢

[@teresajorge5533]

Your wife is so unconditional!! You should cherish her ❤she sacrifices so much for this family

[@candidreamy9685]

My heart goes out to Deborah who is carrying so much of the burden on her shoulders. 🥺

[@padsterlove7918]

For him to not work, he is creating stress for her. And he nags her on top of it.

[@saraahanisazri221]

Deborah she's so beautiful 😍🥰

[@mystictraveler8642]

She's so great. Assuring no worry and guilt from her husband by saying he should do what makes him happy. This is support. Such a great wife.

[@Cindy99765]

This is such a sad and unbalanced relationship

[@RottedDollface]

She deserves someone who will respect her, because she maybe a great wife, but he is a selfish, horrid husband. Its fine he doesnt work, and she is supportive, but being loving and respectf towards her can go a long way.

[@whatreallymatters571]

Yeah if only she got the same in return. Divorce in two years tops if she has enough sense.

[@MichelleKL143]

SHE’S SOO PRETTY 🤩🤩

[@phoenixking377]

I've been listening to Korean music and following Korean culture for 15 years now. I will never get over how random and sudden it was that so many Americans started showing obsessive interest in the culture. After so many years of being called "weird" and not taken seriously when I tried to put my friends and family on it. Anyway, I'm glad these people are starting to see the reality of living in Korea. My Korean friends fled the country long ago for a reason...

[@leechrec]

Ikr. So many folks somehow got fooled into wearing rose colored glasses after getting into kdrama and/or kpop.

[@swiftie6839]

She deserves so much better I'm not generalising men in Korea but mostly its not colors and rainbows as people would think. This is the reality that people should see.

[@sharonali3809]

She is gorgeous and talented!

[@Juliajsmn]

His wife is soooo pretty!

[@draco2xx]

man this relationship will not work out if it continues like this nagging her after she came home from long day of work at 11pm at night instead of asking how her day was🤣, both look exhausted and barely seem to have time for each other, she's up all night working on his jazz album when she should be sleeping, he has no good income coming in puting more burden on her. he should use his chemistry major to get a full time job in that field while having jazz music literature as a side hustle

[@shizukagozen777]

Exactly. Finally someone who sees the real problem. The husband feels left out that's why he nags so much.

[@berryb5474]

He needs a part time job.

[@bloodbabe.2226]

@@shizukagozen777 He’s left out because he refuses a actual job, she can’t do much because of that. It’s literally a HIM problem, she gives and gives just to be nagged about something that’s as simple as just throwing it away.

[@kimleemoon]

I agree. I mean how popular is jazz in Korea anyway? It’s not even a high selling industry in the US & it originated here!

[@nataliacastro9550]

I hope she gets a divorce! The way he laughs abt it with no shame and making excuses simply shows he's not going to change at all! Adults know that even if you have a dream you'll have bills to pay! She's fighting for her dreams bur she's also working A LOT why can't he do the same? She's not Korean and works her ass off in that country (it's difficult for foreigner to get a job there) but he can't do nothing more than living his dreams stfu

[@brianaparchment]

If he behaves like that in front of a camera I wonder how he is without one present. Nagging her like that as soon as she got home. He's trying to exert power over her because he probably resents that she's the breadwinner. Maybe he needs to work 2 jobs so he can understand how she feels.

[@peyote.]

What an amazing woman! She's beautiful, talented, hardworking, loving, giving, and compassionate. He's a lucky man

[@sophitran]

He doesn’t work and is not supportive of her when she gets home and only nags , nags , nags. Why is he taking his inferiority on her , when he could be using that energy to actually help assist and care for her. She deserves a million times better.

[@unchainedgirl4447]

He's nagging her because he feels insecure about not being a provider so he has to constantly remind her of her flaws so that he can feel better. He's going to make things worse if he doesn't find a way to contribute.

[@maryannehui]

He's just like my husband, who's also Korean. Constantly nit picking everything that i do bc they are not up to his unreasonable standards from how i put dishes in the dishwasher to how i wash my hands. I stopped cooking and cleaning for him and just focus on our kids. Enough already. Been years now.

[@preciousalamu]

From the laughter of both parties and the looks on their faces, I think it's easy to tell that the nagging is a created character. For show purposes. I doubt that's what the 분위기/feel/dynamic at their home is like.

[@lugergold3163]

Sharing a space with a territorial lemur male in his own house is a challenge in itself. He married a beautiful girl who is willing to sacrifice everything for him yet his not willing to accept that or change his old ways. Have K-DOC revisit these couple in a few years later.

[@krissifaith6709]

My husband is just like this..and will be served divorce papers for Christmas. He is Korean too.

[@ruthtapiwa6311]

Foreign women on this show, if its not the family, its the guy. Honestly, don't be Korean Waved into a bad relationship Do not marry a Korean guy, expecting a Crash Landing On You experience.

[@SweeTeaNLemon]

I remember my ex ( RIP) when he got home early or worked a different shift than mine, he'd have dinner ready when I got home from work. If I didn't sit down immediately to eat, he would start nagging and yelling. It was hard for me to walk in directly from work to eat. I wanted to change clothes and wash up. I did appreciate his dishes, etc., there's always a price 😔

[@brownpaperbag9531]

Wow, she’s a great person but, it seems like her expectations in the relationship are low. I hate to judge because I don’t know them personally but, it seems like as a Woman of color,she is living out the same scenario as many WOC in America, being the bread winner and the workhorse in the relationship. I agree with her husband when he says that he’s not giving her what she deserves, which is better than what she is getting right now. 😢

[@seekinghimdaily92]

She got *the same non-BM.* 😅❤

[@shiro182]

@@seekinghimdaily92 That made me scream 🤣 so true. It's not enough to divest from the BC. One also has to divorce themselves and divest from the ideologies they picked up there. She went all the way to Korea and still got a Non-BM naker because of her mindset.

[@bobsmith5441]

@@seekinghimdaily92 what does non-BM mean

[@shizukagozen777]

@@bobsmith5441 From their comments, I believe it means "non Black man" and BC "Black community". 😅

[@seekinghimdaily92]

@@shizukagozen777 💯 😅

[@onlyme8498]

hope she reads the comments and change this situation,something has to change.sometimes we need to step back and see from the outside to get the perfect view.

[@memchakonthoujam3413]

this is a lesson to those who believe in k drama hero. in drama they are affectionate and kind but in reality it is opposite

[@BB-oh5vm]

That's why we say "Through thick and thin" both of them are going to be there for eachother no matter what. Life wasn't meant for everyone to be at the same level. Just support and love eachother. Love is stronger than money.

[@disneytoysr4fun975]

That’s also why the divorce rates are so high for blk women. Sis needs to be mingling with her peers not a middle aged man still chasing his childhood dreams.

[@kimleemoon]

This really made me mad! If this man has a degree in Chemistry, why can’t he work a regular job & do jazz guitarists work on the side? He could work a job & play guitar in jazz clubs or lounges on the weekend! She’s not doing her dream job either. She wants to work in animation, but she’s teaching English & earning money until she can find a job in her field. He is taking advantage of this woman! She is supporting the household, paying the rent, bills, buying groceries, etc. He borrowed money from her for his album. Then he has the audacity to nag about socks, lettuce & leftover coffee!🤬 He should be grateful she’s supporting his behind. That’s probably why the ex-gf dumped him in America? He’s a LEECH!!! She’s an attractive woman & she can do better. Otherwise she might as well have stayed in 🇺🇸 & dated one of the guys that’s forever pursuing his “rap career”. This man is the same kind of bum😤🤬🤮🤦🏿

[@dadao8564]

👏👏👏

[@chinavirus841]

Your a LEECH

[@divest8560]

My fear is when he finally make it, he'll divorce her for someone else. These types of lazy men are opportunists.

[@dogsalwaysbarkatbetamaleswoof]

Hell no. If she stayed in the States with one of those “rappers”, he would have probably put a baby in her giving her more responsibility. This one might be a bum now but he doesn’t seem completely dumb. At some point, she is going to collapse from all her burdens though. It’s only a matter of time before she gives him an ultimatum.

[@annim7907]

Some people simply don't want to live that way. As you can see how Deborah lives, it is extremely difficult to maintain a demanding job and your dreams. And most times all tou can do to survive is ignore what you want and pursue the dead end job That's not to say that there aren't lazy people.

[@nishantaadi]

As a foreigner never marry or settle in Korea

[@beez5123]

For me their relationship started bad from the beginning. I mean how can you go from crying to dating someone else in just 1 day? And also I've never understood those people who support their spouses and literally die working! This girl looks defeated and devastated. But of course that's my opinion as long as it works for them it's fine 😊

[@Cecilia-]

yes yes yes. I would feel like a backup plan. like hell no. That man better court me from the start

[@epifanny]

They didn't start dating right away...their friendship deepened at that point and they started hanging out together more often.

[@nataliacastro9550]

I bet this story is all fake, I don't believe him from my intuition. He seems like a guy that would fake all of this just to get her attention, all of the situation is a red flag. The 11 years gap, the "breakup" and tears in front of her, chasing his dreams from her money and job when he can't even pick up her socks out of pity. He's clearly a gigolo

[@beez5123]

@@nataliacastro9550 Korean men in general are a walking red flag 😂😂😂 not at all closer to the sugarcoating we seen in dramas. And also this girl is so dumb or emotionally manipulated , because she left her country America for someone like that 🤷

[@tommypop2139]

@@nataliacastro9550 No. I just feel hes good guy than what this show described him to be and i believe this show was scripted they have a history of doing fishy script and a lot of korean netizens found it. its like fake acting for show and there are woman writers in the show just to intrigue people. think about if hes just asshole she wouldnt stand it cuz shes so capable,young and attractive all the good qualities anyone would ask for

[@yjxoxo]

The husband should try applying to the networks to produce background music. Shouldn’t be hard.

[@jmesabeats5800]

She is like me....Working so much, but still doing side tasks to fulfill our dreams. It feels like we're moving inch by inch, but hopefully for both of us, our hard work will pay off. 😮‍💨

[@queenlii4334]

He’s old to be acting like a teenager

[@blackblinkzennie]

He’s jealous of his successful wife’s hard working nature, she deserves better than that. Plus, the host is very tone deaf. Making comments about her hair and the hair on the beautiful drawing was unnecessary.

[@sedameansstrong]

Been living in korea for nearly 9 years now, I'm a KZbinr and I get asked A LOT about why I'm single and not having a korean boyfriend/ husband like the other influencers here... THATS one of the countless reasons why 😂

[@worldpeace1822]

Clock is ticking but I’m sure you will find someone eventually :)

[@thekindredstoil]

@@worldpeace1822 such a strange thing to say

[@A7Xgale]

If I end up marrying this kind of man, I rather stay single and happy for life.

[@Rezzmari]

Right? He should get someone that is just like him and be on the receiving end and see how he likes it.

[@itsjustjess1600]

Her hair is gorgeous 😍🥰

[@PakToLogy]

She's the nicest person ever and she deserves more. I don't know why they kept saying it's because Korean like that, isn't being together is more than that just culture?

[@gillmsnfillman1691]

Crazy how many foreigner women are trying to get the “Oppa” in Korea. Most of you will learn the hard way.

[@Kim-zd4sq]

That was depressing, she needs to find her own happiness and I don’t think he can provide it for her or knows to do it.

[@momo-wr7zo]

She's aging faster due to much stress. The grey hair shows that. Her hubby really needs to step up

[@shathaak6362]

So childish and immature , she is out of his league , i think he needs to know that. And let’s talk about how beautiful she is 😊

[@younot6921]

5:42 the way she looked at him like: “bruh we literally just watched how i don’t even have time for my own art endeavours”

[@sonh788]

He's an insecure whiney possessive excuse of a man and she's way too good to be with him. She deserves better

[@Big__Sister]

This Queen deserves all that she loves as well. This feature really brings a lot to the intersectionality discussion.

[@qmz1004]

queen? who?? 😂😂😂

[@skyshooter4009]

She looks like a model. He is punching way above his weight and still act like a man child.

[@elifkarademir2014]

Why foreign woc who is married to a korean man just suffer in this show...

[@cherista]

She's so beautiful.

[@sundawg911]

I want to marry Deborah. lol. I really like this couple. But she should also remember to take care of herself. I do enjoy the host being supportive of her and teasing the husband for nagging too much.

[@Pasadena14]

Him: "Men are supposed to work more in Korean Society." Me: "Sir, every capable adult is expected to work in every society."

[@REChronic54]

I feel like his nagging has a point but it’s not done at the right time; he needs to be more considerate of the wife’s situation. Him asking her to rest was done under good intentions. It’s not good for your health in the long run to be sleep deprived but there’s also no time to do what she loves to do.

[@hightopv1352]

She's putting herself last, and he's taking advantage. She's burning herself out.

[@ChieftainHawke]

this is not the first black woman ive seen who married a korean man and is financially supporting him LOL, shes actually like the 5th

[@AltF4Styling]

you have such a beautiful heart deb! i hope to meet someone like u! hope u are doing well 힘내! 화이팅

[@Taooflu]

He needs to recognize his immaturity, and differentiate between what he wants, and what love is. If someone is working hard find ways to lift them up.

[@_kamona4236]

She's a literal teacher they always stay late

[@relaxingmindmusic33]

He doesn't love you, he loves that other woman, you are and were a rebound and that is why he treats you the way he does. You need to leave him because it will never get any better.

[@BriellaSornFonte]

Men like him usually have a side chick. It’s usually a woman that doesn’t want to provide for him and he can feel like a man with her and he probably uses Deborah’s money to do it too. There relationship is abnormal and not natural. Some couples do this and swear they are fine but then their situation begins to chip away at them. As a woman do you want to die working until your are 50 and 60 or do you want to be with a man that has his business together and has been preparing to retire while you are a house wife and raised kids if you want any or do you want to have someone else determine when you get up when to eat use the restroom, what you can wear for most of your life all because you married a man that wasn’t ready to start a family in the first place. This man got tonahead of himself on this one and she has no idea what she’s in for. But she has low standards and no boundaries.

[@tylerellise]

Oh wow 🤨 All that as soon as she walks in the door.. smh

[@ChuChild]

She looked do much happier and healthier before she married him oml..

[@disneytoysr4fun975]

Hes sucking the youth out of her😢

[@Ziphozonke]

Im suprised of how good she responds,having a husband like this is very exhausting,becomes even worse once you have kids because he blames you for everything

[@esmailsayid2976]

she is really gorgeous like an angel.

[@marylee243]

Beautiful talented woman! ❤❤❤

[@holliesworld4111]

I love her hair

[@treasurecave431]

She is very beautiful, hard working and very patient. Seriously at least the husband could be more supportive???!!!

[@heavenbound9157]

11 year age gap?!? He doesn't look that old so I'm wondering how old she was when they met?

[@joannas190]

In the previous part they said she was 24 when she came to Korea

[@Joseph-zd7kg]

She looks younger then him but that grey patch of hair throws everything off. Grey hair to that extent is usually prominent late 40s and 50s. Given how young she looks I think she just dyed it but it did throw me off at first

[@joannas190]

@@Joseph-zd7kg this is probably poliosis, it’s not regular graying, she must have had this since birth

[@unicornsrice1667]

@@Joseph-zd7kg some people gray in their 20s and 30s. My dad is almost 70 and isnt gray at all. It just depends.

[@realest_]

@@Joseph-zd7kg the grey section looks like a birth mark. Just a patch of hair/skin that has no pigmentation (perhaps from birth).

[@user-rd7qw8iy7r]

Shes a beautiful lady

[@softeuph3974]

11 year age gap?? No wonder why he talks to her like his daughter.

[@JohnT2088]

Divorce him!! Best advice ever!! Don’t do it when its too late , when you have a baby

[@windyatschool]

not a single korean husband in this series is decent enough ngl what a slap to all k-drama fans (including myself) 😭😭

[@srichey444]

As a American, I can say there are plenty of Korean couples and Blasian KZbin couples whose channel I watch & they are wonderful Men. It's true this show really picks some weird ones, while the Woman appear to be hardworking and sensible. But don't feel bad...we know that most Korean people are very hard working. 🙏🏽💕

[@shizukagozen777]

All the delulus in recovery position. 💀

[@shizukagozen777]

@@srichey444 That's what they want to believe but it doesn't mean that their life is like a dream behind the camera.

[@pagethreemodel]

@@srichey444 name them. And don't say Mazelee because they're trailer trash and the husband is a lazy, depressed self hater who doesn't even work. From what I'm seeing, the only azns that bw are pulling are the low tier ones that their women don't even want. Even ww get a better pedigree of azn men. It's insulting.

[@draco2xx]

shes needs a masculine civilized black man, these korean men no good🤣

[@Roonlovesfish3874]

Super hardworking people chasing after their dreams. Super awesome!!! ☺🥰 I wish them both the best 🥰🥰

[@raven1always]

Cherish your wife please. Before it’s too late.

[@erdftzgh]

She is married to a clown, not atrue king, thats use and abuse, women please dont fall for such guys. You better be single than be in a toxic situationship. Thats not ahusband, thats ungrown Kid 🤮🤢🤢😳😳🥺🥺