Husband Kicks Wife's Friend Out Of Wedding As She Refused To Remove A Piercing r/AITA

[@PS1DemoDisk]

The way he describes the friend and the way he stopped her from talking to the wife set off huge red flags for me tbh, he knew his wife wouldn’t agree.

[@layronmccoy8708]

You should read his comments. It's clear this guy is a bully, loves to start shit, but then wants to play victim. u/Informal-Collection1, his post and comment history is gross.

[@TheNormExperience]

@@layronmccoy8708 Oof, I believe it. Poor wife. I doubt this will be the last friend of hers he drives off...

[@Acidfunkish]

"My mom's side has a lot of "country" types, the kind that like trucks and drugs, and piercings are more common on that side." 🤦‍♀️The way he talks about people is... Ugh.

[@IlkaWaffy]

He sounds like a complete ass. I just read some of his comments and his behaviour is disgusting. He has no regard for his wife's feelings and he sounds controlling. I really hope for the wife's sake that he won't keep isolating her from friends over small 'issues' like that

[@robertx8020]

yep he's a big AH!

[@champslim]

Ummm story one: Did you speck to your wife BEFORE you kicked her friend out?? Sounds like you don't like the friend.

[@robertx8020]

No he didn't because he didn't care! it was all me me me me ... I bet she already regrets marrying this guy

[@ComaLies225]

Story 2: coworker is using her disability as an excuse to pry into OPs business. NTA, she needed to be reported

[@nerdy_evy]

My introvert self gives bug eyed when someone says they have a "small ish wedding" has about 100 people. Like 100 people is small?!?! I barely know 24 people let alone 100!!!

[@mlapointej]

I know plenty. Mostly because huge family. Doesn't mean I want a gathering of that many people way too many at once thanks

[@dergluckliche4973]

100 people is easy. The couple's friends and friends' plus-ones; the couple's families; and the couple's parents' friends. Start getting into 200+ territory and that's a big wedding. Mine was two people: spouse and myself. Three if we count the officiant. We eloped and didn't tell anyone until a week later.

[@terramarini6880]

My wedding filled a 250 head capacity hall...small town, open invite, kids included, it was glorious chaos, nothing went to plan but it turned out perfect.

[@digit5465]

She literally took Op's phone and looked through private messages and had the gull to say that she had a 'right' to know. Honestly, go to HR and see what'll happen. She gets disciplined, she gets disciplined. She gets fired, she gets fired. It all came down to her own actions

[@HectoGames]

Stort 2: i am autistic, and change in plans/schedule is one of my biggest problems. That being said, asking "is there something wrong u wanna talk about" or just "will it interfere with my schedule?" Is way enough

[@Mariet31]

If it makes you feel better, a lot of us dislike change in our schedule. Especially during work days... you're not the only one.

[@PerfectInzanity82]

@@Mariet31 As someone on the spectrum, problems in this case means a risks a serious panic attacks that can in worst case cripple you for days then it's not quite the same so not the same as dislike. Just trying to give you a perspective on this. I know you did not mean it but what you did was kind of like telling someone with a broken leg that you know how hard it can be to walk because you sometimes get leg cramps. Again I know you did not mean it but to most others on the spectrum that I've talked to the kind of comment you made feels dismissive of our stuggles.

[@PerfectInzanity82]

@ʆίϯϯʆε ƒɾεδ ɓյσɾηα What I reacted to was the phrasing "a lot of us dislike change in our schedule". I am acutely aware that PTSD as well as other things can give you triggers, seeing as I have CPTSD myself. That, my Autism plus Clinical Depression in my case is literally crippling (I've recently started therapy so it's getting better). the phrasing I reacted to is similar to telling someone depressed that "a lot of us are sad from time to time", that is not the same thing and people believing that is a huge problem. So when I run into it and the person seems well intentioned and I have the energy over I try to politely explain why what they are doing is actually hurting not helping. As for story 2, well as I've said elsewhere in the comments I got very similar issues stemming from Autism and I've worked with those around me so that "Non of my business" fulfills my need for information and a promise to tell me if or how it will effect me as soon possible even without the information of what it is.

[@Davtwan]

BooBiBa Peen69 - I hope that she’s at least learning _healthy_ coping mechanisms. As an adult autistic myself, I can say that not learning how to handle your feelings can be a huge setback to handling workspace environments. Learn what’s appropriate to ask and back off sooner rather than later.

[@Leonardmoreland]

I have autism and I was taught not to snoop and respect boundaries

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

Story 3. NTA someone I knew was bullied in school he even got the wrong directions for birthday party and had to walk home crying, and these were his supposed friends. Now his friend apologized for what he did to him back then he was the bigger person and said he forgave him, this guy didn't even come up to you and apologize or anything so no NTA. I was also bullied in school, of course I don't see those people anymore cuz I moved states away no those scars never go away.

[@Ann_Wall-Chiasson]

Agreed. My high school bully was so malicious, he went so far as to try and get me arrested for something I clearly didn't do. Cops figured out I was innocent after talking to me for five minutes, but it still affected me.

[@AndreNDP]

Story 3: Um...I would expect my SO to loathe somebody that treated me that way. We're a team. If you're trying to be friendly with this shitty person that treated me like that, that's serious cause for concern, as it would be the other way round.

[@Mew_Mokuba_Akari]

Yep and she didn't have to be mean or yell or scream at him. A simple, "My boyfriend is OP. Remember the guy you used to bully? So I'm sorry but unless you are here to sincerely apologize to him for what you did I don't have anything to say to you. I will never be friends with you." Its straight to the point no bashing, yelling or anything.

[@iamconfusion1791]

The trauma and hurt from being bullied and having your self-esteem run into the ground never fully leaves you. I'm a 29 year old woman, and I still have long-lasting effects from that (I've made it a goal to get therapy this year, BTW). But it seems to me like the bullies always get away with their hurt - sure, maybe some of them may be remorseful, but most will just forget about the damage they did, or don't realize/care about how badly they traumatized their victims. The OPs girlfriend essentially saying "Just get over it" completely invalidates his feelings and makes it seem like she was feigning caring for him and his situation. It's like she thought it was no big deal. I personally could never be with someone who either condones bullying for is indifferent to it.

[@Mew_Mokuba_Akari]

I question the apology though. She dismissed his hurt and now suddenly I didn't think you'd still be mad. But now I suddenly understand your still affected by him. I'll block him on social media if you want.

[@scheneli000]

​@@Mew_Mokuba_Akari I also want to know why she had him on social media to begin with

[@dracawyn]

Story 2: as an autistic, I can say with fair certainty NTA. We often struggle with social cues and the like to varying degrees but it sounds like you were very straightforward, which is what she needed. The fact that she persisted after being told to stop very clearly and stating why you wanted her to stop should have been sufficient. I understand that she was hyper-fixating on the idea of your baby (it sounds like she may have miscarried before?) and was trying to be helpful and empathetic in her own way. It can be hard to talk or think about anything else once you hyper-fixate but when someone tells you to stop, especially when it's about something personal and sensitive, you need to stop. I can relate because I've struggled with similar social issues in the past but you're neurology isn't a good excuse here. I mean, I HATE masking and I don't advocate for it but if your lack of social ability and understanding is bad enough that you've gotten 2 formal write-ups in a workplace where everyone is aware of and accommodating for your disability, you should look for a career that requires less social interaction.

[@Ashenicky2009]

Well said. I don't have autism, my daughter was suspected to be on the spectrum but the evaluation came up that she isn't, but I've always noticed that people end up giving kids and other people excuses for everything when they have autism. I understand a lot about autism and wouldn't judge someone for having a melt down or not catching on to social ques but you can also tell when they understand what they are doing and know they shouldn't be doing it and they do it anyway. I've always hated mental illness being used as an excuse. My uncle used his bipolar disorder as an excuse to be an asshole to me when I was a kid and would always just be like "it was a bipolar moment" and not even offer up an apology. My mom is also bipolar but she will apologize when she starts hurting feelings and being mean.

[@ArmyOfFreaks]

Story 4. This has little to do with her mental health issues and more to do with him being spineless for refusing to tell his wife to get help and punish his kid. But she really needs to get help if her mental issues are so bad she called the cops on the previous tenants for this nonsense😳😢❤

[@Mew_Mokuba_Akari]

Obviously he's a doormat. If he hasn't gotten her help or left her and taken those rude disrespectful brats and taught them some manners clearly shows he's just the wife's whipping boy. If the wife says jump he doesn't stop to ask how high he just atarts jumping high and waits till she's says he can stop. If he tries to disaplain the kids she'd yell at him for daring to try to tell the kids what to do.

[@str4yk1dsw0rldd0minati0n]

Story 1. It’s easy to cover up a tattoo, there’s full coverage makeup, bandaids and probably other stuff, I had a nose piercing and once when I had to take it out I couldn’t put it back in. He just wanted her out

[@oldgreggsmadmemes4431]

If her mental health is that bad I would call CPS they are going to do something bad I can feel it

[@Digitalfairy]

That's what I was thinking!

[@amywilson9591]

People need to understand the long lasting damage bullying can have especially when it was severe. It was a trend in middle school for people to mimic a noose and tell me to kill myself. 12 years being told how worthless I was. Being constantly targeted until I was numb. Teachers didn’t care because I was nobody. They even told me I should try harder to fit in. I would be uncomfortable if someone I knew was chummy with a former bully but invalidating makes it worse.

[@mlapointej]

Teachers like that shouldn't be teaching

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@mlapointej especially if they see a child being bullied and basically say it’s their fault they bully them. Hell no

[@mlapointej]

@@TsukiKageTora my son was harassed by others kids in grade one cause his coat looked very different. The principal said just get him a new coat that is the same as the rest... so I got him a new school

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@mlapointej it’s like they were trying to say if you change you can be friends with those who bullied you. It’s toxic enabling behavior like that, that children grow to be bullies cause they don’t see the consequences of their actions

[@Pankachu102]

Story 3 - I still remember the full name of my school bully from 3rd grade (9)... I’m 26... you don’t just get over and forget your bullies...

[@Sascha-bf1kw]

S3: ''I tought you would get over it by now'' My heart broke when she said that and I'm not even Op, I can't imagine how he must have felt. NTA and bullys go straight to hell

[@bluepeppermint3790]

Mental health is NEVER an excuse to violate someone else's rights or privacy. That goes for both story 2 and 4. NTA

[@theconfusedvampire]

Story One: YTA. Even if you were right about it being trashy, it's not simple at all. Her nose piecing could close up. Then she would need to have it repierced and it would take a few months to heal. I would never go through that much pain and stress for a wedding. Wtf?

[@tiryaclearsong421]

Story 1: YTA That was such a ridiculous thing to worry about and OP didn't even speak to his wife before kicking her friend out of the wedding. Story 2: NTA While persistent thoughts and impulse control can be issues associated with ASD, this lady needs to know she crossed serious workplace boundaries. She has no right to look through anyone's phone without permission. Story 3: NTA I would be very upset if my partner befriended my bullies. Story 4: NTA I can't think of a single mental health issue that would cause her to "need" to trespass in OP's garden.

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

S3 what did he expect? I mean... she said explicitly that she hated them too. So... I'd expect that to be the truth. So. NTA. I would be pretty salty if a SO got fully friendly with my old bullies because they know their true nature.

[@wandaweasal6710]

If I saw that girl go through my phone I would of gone to jail for beating someone up

[@Digitalfairy]

Story 4 NTA I like kids but seriously, "the boy ain't right". Just because the mother is a crazy old loon on drugs does not give John or his firstborn the right to act like entitled, amoral turds. And what if OP were an ex convict or someone with a foul temper? That attitude would've gotten the neighbors in a boat load of trouble

[@ravenmagic5]

Oh yeah. After that I'd make it my personal vendetta to ruin their day every day if I was attacked like that. If someone was even mildly vindictive the wife could have some serious trouble coming her way

[@Digitalfairy]

@@ravenmagic5 My point exactly.

[@TsukiKageTora]

I had a “friend” who bullied me one day to the point of tears I was so upset, and my other friend, who was also there, asked me months later “why are you still mad at her? I don’t even remember what that was about” No you probably didn’t remember it because it didn’t happen to you. This is one of the many reasons why I’m reluctant to tell anyone about how I feel because I get this sort of shit back. Bullying behavior is horrible but it’s worse for others to try to invalidate the feelings of the person who has been or was being bullied.

[@iwantsifegold]

YTA, He brought a guest to tears. I feel bad for both her and the wife. His behavior is textbook isolationist one of the firt domestic violence

[@emmapolly4260]

I was bullied at secondary school by this group of 'popular' girls. A couple of years after we'd left I went to go and get my hair cut. One of them was working in there as the hair washer. I didn't want to have my hair touched by her but my mum told me not to be silly. She (the bully) acted like we were old friends. I couldn't believe it. Bullying leaves a scar on the person who is bullied and the bullies just forget about it. Horrible experience. I sympathise with the bullied OP.

[@wickedamoeba8719]

It sounds like OP was looking for a reason to kick the friend out of the wedding. She was dressed appropriately and it sounds like it was a small stud piercing. OP has no right to dictate another person’s piercings.

[@ginger5131]

If the last mom can't function well enough to not call the cops on the neighbors every 5 minutes her husband needs to get her help, not enable her. Just move somewhere without so many people or suck it up and handle the situation.

[@heatherduke5410]

I can already guess that OP in story one didn't want to tell us why he and his wife's friend fought because he knew it would make him look bad/even worse.

[@ineedhoez]

Bingo!!!

[@kittenswithbows]

That quiet "oh dear" after Mark read the first title is why i come to this channel

[@sarahhales1505]

Story 2: I have a friend who is autistic and sometimes has issues knowing boundaries. However, if I tell this person to back off and give me some space, they 100% back off. I’ll talk to them later and socialize, but they at least understand at that moment I need my space. They don’t use their autism as an excuse to stomp all over my boundaries. OP for this story is definitely not the AH. The co-worker is.

[@lilmissiamsodonehere_2399]

About the third story, I would personally loathe someone who made my SO's life hell. I would probably curse them out or ignore them. The ladder more likely because I am not that confrontational. Especially if I had to see my SO cry due to what happened to them. That girlfriend either needs to get some empathy or needs to be dropped like a hot tamale.

[@Mewse1203]

May the bounty of the Waffle maker feed you when you're hungry.

[@thomasquinn8886]

And may u always have whipped topping

[@Ann_Wall-Chiasson]

@@thomasquinn8886 and/or warm maple syrup.

[@zerobolt9506]

Hiiiiiii, you should watch Markee too, Dom

[@Mewse1203]

@@zerobolt9506 hey! I do sometimes. I love his intro lol.

[@zerobolt9506]

@@Mewse1203 oh cool there's also Redditor who does mostly entitled parents for the most part.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 1: OP is TA and his new wife needs to get an annulment.

[@stalkersty2224]

Love the pre warnings. Thank you for being kind and considerate :)

[@ShikiSenriismine]

1st: YTA. 2nd: NTA. snooping on a co-worker's phone is never ok, she needs to learn she can't do that, at all! EVER!!! 3rd: not touching it. 4th: NTA. FIX THAT FANCE! just do NOT destroy the ball or cover it in some boldly execration.

[@kristinecollier8113]

I was bullied in school from 2nd grade to the end of high school. It never truly leaves you, it is very emotionally damaging.

[@britnicox3929]

Honestly hell yeah on healthy communication and boundary setting, I’m glad OP is able to get his gf to understand how her being friends with his bully hurt him and they set plans for the future. Sometimes it’s hard to realize how deep the roots of trauma go, especially with someone who may seem like he has moved on, and now she realizes.

[@froggy8195]

I am well. Thank you for the concern. Have a great day Mark!

[@Sybil_Detard]

I just started bawling at this part if the response to story number 3 from Marmaladeanddryice "Bullies get to walk away from their behavior much of the time, victims have to carry it with them." So poignant, so stinging, so heavy. The damage is so fucking heavy.

[@Jiynxparadox]

I’m autistic and I have to say, if she thinks she has a right to know everyone’s business, she’s wrong. It can be anxiety inducing not knowing what’s going on, especially if it relates to a hyperfixation, but when that urges you to disrespect people’s boundaries the solution is to work on it in therapy, not to expect people just let you pry and enable you to continue with this dysfunctional and disrespectful behavior

[@TheMimiSard]

Story 1 - I feel like OP's bias is rather severe. Would he also be against earrings? This is the closest thing related to it I can speak directly on, as I have only one earring. Because I jumped from nerves when I had my ears pierced at 16, they were uneven enough that I let my left heal with intent to get it redone, but just never got around to it until I decided that one earring is My Thing. I will note, I am female and it is not the normal side men have a single piercing (that is usually the left ear, I have mine on my right).

[@jinxgiz3104]

Story 4: NTA. When I was younger, we used to climb the wall into next door's garden to retrieve our ball if it went over, but we only did that because we'd known our neighbours for years and they gave us permission to do so if they weren't in. If your neighbour says don't trespass, don't trespass, it really isn't that hard to understand.

[@cheskydivision]

I've been out of highschool for over 30 years and still get the shakes if I happen to see one of the ppl that picked on me in school. I see gf being polite to someone that greets them that is ok. Her down playing his feelings suck.

[@KCCAT5]

4. No those kids aren't allowed on the property. Mental health is no excuse. Nta.

[@LaineyBug2020]

I wish there was an update on the last one!

[@LaineyBug2020]

Bully Story: I feel you Mark. I too remember each time someone tried to bully me. I also remember exactly how I injured them all, sometimes right in front of the teachers, and how they would always get in trouble. I had a psychotic abusive sister at home and a consequentially close relationship with my school counselors, teachers and coaches. And parents who simultaneously turned a blind eye to my sister and enrolled me in Tae Kwon Do from the age of 5. I had no tolerance for taking other people's 💩! Just a few kids tripping over their chairs for trying to get in my face, a couple knees getting kicked in for attempting to trip me, and lots of teachers repeating the repeating phrase "Leave Lainey alone!". They got the idea by the end of freshman year.

[@christianvacchelli1953]

story 1:YTA , and the nose ring was probably just a pretext that OP clinged onto because he wanted the friend gone.

[@pelgervampireduck]

the bully one: the girlfriend must be one of the "hot" or "popular" girls, she can say "yeah, I understand", but she'll never understand what it's like to be the bullied "nerd" in high school. to her it's something you get over and forget, like not a big deal, but for the guy it's a scar that's going to be there his whole life. I totally understand OP, it must have felt like betrayal seeing her talking so happy with the bully, like "you were the chosen one!!", and even some bit of fear of "she's going to leave me for the bully".

[@gorkemaykut5230]

Story 1: if my significant other were to kick one of my friends without my knowledge especially for something like that reason, I would take that person and force them to apologise on their knees if I'm gonna keep that relationship

[@reptiles3244]

Probably why you're still single

[@gorkemaykut5230]

@@reptiles3244 so you are ok with your significant other disrespecting people around you due to their ego?

[@reptiles3244]

@@gorkemaykut5230 no absolutely not but when a wedding has a specifically formal attire setting that was stated before the wedding and someone shows up wearing something informal I'd say idrc what they did screaming match whatever if that person was refusing a simple request of take out a piercing or come in formal clothing guess what they have no place in the wedding or my life what so ever now if they were screaming at someone for not using a coaster that's ridiculous

[@gorkemaykut5230]

@@reptiles3244 Request was ridiculous and he was kicking his wife's friend without telling her you're going behind your spouse to take your anger out of her with a flimsy excuse, if that piercing was a problem for real, you wouldn't need to hide your action piercing is considered formal attire anyway so that reason was invalid anyway but who am I to explain when you can make assumptions about my relationship instead of addressing the problem

[@reptiles3244]

@@gorkemaykut5230 earrings are formal attire not nose piercings he went behind his wife's back because the friend would have whined and cried her way back into the wedding otherwise the request was actually pretty reasonable

[@BigL_TheKing]

I hate bullies with a passion. They're nothing but cowards at heart. Check them day one and they won't try that shit with you again.

[@celticraven8523]

Story 1 - YTA made a scene and kicked out your wife’s friend for a piercing, how old was this piercing? Having it out if it’s new or not fully healed can cause it to close up or make it hard/painful to put the jewellery back in. And makes the healing time a lot longer. Also it’s a wedding, a time for people who care about you and your wife to come together to witness you tying your hands in marriage and celebrate your love for each other. Who gives a toss if she’s wearing jewellery you don’t like.

[@killedbydragons9151]

Especially nose/cartilage piercings they take forever to heal My third hole in my ear barely hit cartilage and a year later it's still not completely healed I would never take it out for more than a hour

[@celticraven8523]

@@killedbydragons9151 I’ve got 8 ear piercings 4 are on cartilage I also wouldn’t leave mine out that long.

[@itjustmemanning8441]

Who would even care about a nose piercing 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♀️. That's one of the dumbest things I've heard 🙄😮

[@reptiles3244]

Plenty of people who know you're trash if you wear a nose piercing

[@itjustmemanning8441]

@@reptiles3244 OM I had no idea!

[@TheNormExperience]

“Because not knowing what’s going on is one of her triggers.” I’m legitimately confused by that statement...I mean, that can’t be a thing, can it? Wouldn’t she be triggered all the time??? I would be. I mean...I don’t know what’s happening next door. I don’t know what’s happening this second in Tokyo. When I drive I don’t know what the person in the car next to me is saying into their phone...but that doesn’t mean I can get out of my car and into theirs to find out. It’s just such a very, very specific wording which is what’s throwing me off so badly. I can’t think of ANY Doctor framing that as a legitimate trigger when it encapsulates the entirety of...well, everything! You can’t NEED to know everything about everyone all the time simply because well...everything *isn’t* knowable. Has anyone ever heard, or dealt with something like this, and can maybe help me understand? Or are others as confused as I am?

[@moakristenssom936]

I agree completely with this!! I get that triggers can be anything and something that triggers one person can seem completely unreasonable for others. But there are limits. You can't expect to be entitled to information about others. If I don't want to tell you something, just because I don't feel like it, then that's reason enough. As long as OP's problems didn't interfere with her work or cause problems for her co workers, which it sounds like it wasn't, they had no right to demand to know what was going on. If you have a trigger like that, it is no ones problem but your own and you have to work to get over it.

[@madcatlady]

40 years later I still have no wish to meet my former school bullies or set foot on that school campus

[@HackiePuffs]

Story 1: YTA. I could get into the fact that they’re having a wedding with 100 people during a pandemic but that’s not really what this story is about. Either way it’s just a nose ring. People have earrings what makes those okay but not nose rings. You had no right to kick out your wife’s friend without her consent and you had no right to try and control her. Honestly I hope this marriage fails.

[@sebastianpizxa1553]

He just wanted a reason to throw her out, he's a piece of shite.. I can understand not clicking well but to deny that woman a chance to be a part of her best friends marriage is just cruel

[@zerotodona1495]

Covid isn’t dangerous. Death numbers are inflated.

[@Lauria2875]

@@zerotodona1495 your comment is insensitive and a punch to the face for those of us who have lost loved ones to this crap. it is REAL. And it is DEADLY.

[@Davtwan]

Showing this sort of behavior after OP just got married. Yikes. OP is asking for an annulment.

[@vickilouise3307]

I hope the women from story 1 divorces him. Who the fuck gets so pissy over a nose ring that he forces her to remove it and when she says no he kicks her out and prevents her from speaking to her friend. Wow. MASSIVE RED FLAGS!

[@reptiles3244]

No red flags at all she couldn't follow a simple request started a screaming match then tried making a bigger scene by pushing her way to the wife in another room interrupting the wedding further. O.p is nta and if he keeps that trash away from his wife forever he did a good job

[@lirastolons4951]

I’m 36 and I was bullied from elementary school through high school and as much as people who went through this want to get over it, it’s not a light switch. I’ve been in therapy since high school from the bullying and the lasting trauma from it, it affects so much of your life even after it’s ended. I’m glad the girlfriend realized how wrong she was.

[@justjenny5437]

Hey hey! I just woke up and I’m still a little...groggy? Is that the word? Ugh, night shift, you’re killing me!

[@daniellasalawu7349]

The groom was looking for a way to kick the wife's friend out. He should have focus on his family and wife.

[@AngelaVEdwards]

I don't have a nose piercing (but I think a lot of nose jewelry is very pretty), but that really was an AH move on the husband's part. So he thinks "piercings are trashy"? What about tattoos? Who is he to judge that sort of thing on a wedding guest? I think he was simply looking for something to use against the friend because he does not like her.

[@yourneighborhooddeadpool488]

1st story is such a Groomzilla

[@NeoLotex]

Story 2: You get some accomodation to your problems and disabilities, but her triggers are her problems that she has to deal with, not OP. You can't expect that everyone works around your needs because of .

[@heatherdickau5335]

Story 4 fix the fence so they can't come in. Also why does the father not care his kids are so rude and disrespectful?

[@Falconcress]

Story 1: YTA

[@karendaniel620]

Listening in line for little getting out of school on a few minutes.

[@renkiki4906]

Story 2- She's not the asshole. Mental problems aren't an excuse. The woman shouldn't have been going through her phone. I have bi-polar disorder and OCD and I work quite hard to control both. I have to work in patterns. I had to train myself not to react when someone does the work differently. My step-dad has Aspersers and works to understand and try to empathize with people. I hate when people use things as a crutch or get out of jail free card.

[@thomasquinn8886]

In that last story!!!! Those cheeky little bastards! I would not let those kids get away with those terrible attitudes. Sorry for the husband, but his wife is terrible and his kids were poorly raised.

[@njml4178]

Ok I thought the friend was a bridesmaid. Holy cow!

[@GrandCorsair]

Was it about piercing or was it just a way to remove the friend from the wedding while having a reasonable soundings excuse. It seems sus he won't say what the argument was in the post or really explain his issues with them. I don't know it just makes OP look like there is something they're leaving out that might make them look less sympathetic.

[@Ospyro3em]

That's what I was thinking. Seems to me he was just looking for an excuse to justify kicking her out.

[@GrandCorsair]

@@Ospyro3em I wonder if he knew about the piercing already or just saw a easy out.

[@fishsticks3729]

First story, earrings are also piercings and they’re formal

[@reptiles3244]

Only earrings are formal no other piercing it's amazing how many of you idiots are out there that go oh well earrings are piercings herrrrr ka derrrrr

[@fishsticks3729]

@@reptiles3244 uh, I don’t find nose rings formal, but it’s becoming more so 🤷‍♀️ especially since some cultures use it formally Yk. Also, I’m not an idiot, objectively speaking....

[@macylouwho1187]

Other channels covered these stories before you did, (I listen while I work from home to various channels), but you go more in depth on comments and your own replies that make it ok to listen to again.

[@saltytoshiro3685]

Day 62, video 2 of reminding Mark that he's amazing and that his work is appreciated ❤️

[@MarkNarrations]

Thanks Salty!

[@jamestown8398]

Story #3 NTA! Anyone who was bullied in pre-adulthood would vote NTA because that shit hurts, and anyone who is in a serious romantic relationship will vote NTA too because when you're a couple you're a team. When I get married my wife's enemies will become my enemies; if she mentioned that someone bullied her in childhood I wouldn't show them kindness until/unless my wife told me she forgave him, and even then I'd probably make it clear to him that I don't fully trust him yet. While the SO shouldn't be expected to curse Luis out in public, she should have at least been cold and standoffish towards him. Her being kind and exchanging socials was a slap in the face to OP, and telling him to "get over it" doubly so. Were I in OP's place I'd consider that a serious strain on our relationship, and if SO offered to block him on social media I'd probably say "I think that's the right thing to do". It's good that SO realized her error, felt remorse, and apologized; if she didn't than it would have been grounds for OP to end the relationship.

[@TNTMAN360]

Always remember the sun is always shining even behind the darkest clouds

[@thomasjoseph5876]

Or the largest nose piercing??? LOL.

[@TNTMAN360]

@@thomasjoseph5876 that cracked me up nice one

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@TNTMAN360 I do my best lol. After spending nearly 5 total years with 4 deployments to Iraq, I learned you either look at the worst in everything or the best. I spent a few years looking at the worst and that didn't do much for me. Since then, I decided to look for the best and simply have "fun" with life. Have a great day.

[@breathless792]

story 2: I'm autistic, but I think what the colleague did was ridiculous, quite often I find out about (such as over hearing, or reading something online) issues involving other people (e.g. seeing two people arguing) and I wonder if things will turn out OK for them, and often I won't get to find out, and although it upsets me (not knowing the conclusion), I know I have to accept the the fact that it's none of my business and move on. so NTA

[@HealingSpectrumIntuition]

I personally would be on guard if my so’s bully came up to me. I would make it very clear that I didn’t trust him and would try to make them apologize. You need to leave her op.

[@warriorcatskid003]

The coworker was out of line. I understand feeling anxious when people are being secretive, even if it’s an irrational anxiety, but that’s something I have to reign in and keep from bothering the people being secretive

[@heather.c]

Story 1: YTA. "I am a bit biased as I do think piercings are trashy in general". So when is the divorce? I have 3 piercings in each ear so does that make me trashy?

[@reptiles3244]

Yes actually it does make you trashy and probably never considering he's 100% in the right in story 1

[@heather.c]

@@reptiles3244 I hope this is sarcasm because the only one that's trashy is OP.

[@reptiles3244]

@@heather.c not sarcasm at all the friends a piece of trash

[@heather.c]

@@reptiles3244 How exactly? OP literally blocked the friend from even talking to the wife and the friend is a piece of trash? Lol. Having piercings doesn't make you trashy, having a personality like OP makes you trashy. Nothing wrong with having a nose piercing and OP calling the friend a bitch is laughable.

[@taylorwashington7682]

Reptiles been commenting the same thing to other people in this comment section. He seems to be trashy like the OP

[@katiesmith2031]

Hi Mark thanks for the video have a great evening 😊

[@MarkNarrations]

Cheers Katie :)

[@katiesmith2031]

@@MarkNarrations you are most welcome 😊

[@telinhajp]

Good morning, Mark! Hope you're doing great! ❤️

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey Telinha, I'm very well thank you. How about your good self?

[@telinhajp]

@@MarkNarrations I'm even better, after waking up to your video! Great surprise! ❤️

[@J_e_s_s]

Mark I hope the love you get on this channel helps to heal you from what you went through. You seem like a wonderful human and if I was in school with you I would've done my best to stop the bullying. Or we would've just been bullied together 🤷‍♀️😭😂 much love

[@clairebear-96]

Watching this on my lunch break and eating yakisoba with tofu 💛 outside in the sunshine! hope everyone’s having a great day!

[@nerdy_evy]

Weird how he won't mention the fight they had stating "not important" but clearly it is considering he got so pissed off at her over a nose piercing like what?

[@littleoak5]

I could understand if it was said beforehand that the event was formal and piercings and tattoos were to be hidden. But, he didnt. I take my piercings out for formal events if requested prior. He was just looking for an excuse to be a jerk.

[@reptiles3244]

It did say the event would be formal and that means tattoos and Piercings other than earrings are a no. When did people what formal attire is

[@tanekrune5873]

For the last story, the real red flag is that the issue have been issues with a neighbor prior. If everyone moves away from this person, there's probably a problem with that particular person, not all the people moving the hell away from their shenanigans.

[@ratsmacker390]

For story 3 totally NTA. If my SO was ever friendly with my abuser they would no longer be my SO.

[@Grace_x68]

I'm 54, had a girl verbally abuse me at primary school ( was 10). Still feel disgusted and nauseated by the thought of her till today

[@Mewse1203]

Story 4: NEVER GIVE IN! Call the police yourself. Tell them you asked they not trespass and would like a trespassing order to have consequences next time.

[@Digitalfairy]

Better yet CPS

[@barbaradeputy1423]

I am not even through listening to #1. He is a super manipulative AH.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@AnotherLittleArtist]

As always, thank you.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@AnotherLittleArtist 💜💜🤗🤗

[@AnotherLittleArtist]

But also, uno reverse card

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@AnotherLittleArtist uno reverse reverse reverse

[@AnotherLittleArtist]

*HAPPINESS HAPPENS*

[@brendacastro9069]

Story 1: omg she had piecing not a gun. Im laughing so much

[@shecoda4402]

Story #1. Like an eel hiding in the rocks waiting to strike OP got the friend back. Op should learn for an optimal successful marriage you need two things. 1. A couple who love each other. 2. The same couple to like each other. Interestingly, people who just like each other as people become friends as well and can have a successful marriage without being desperately in love with each other. Op is making himself unlikeable and that is also a love killer. OP YTA in the biggest way. If I were your wife I would definitely be reconsidering the marriage. This is a big red flag. Story #2 NTA. It is not OP's job to suss out her coworker's triggers. OP should lock her phone.

[@craftyink70]

Story 1 did he check the guys for Prince Albert's? URTA

[@reptiles3244]

A prince albert isn't visible

[@reptiles3244]

Dumb joke/comparison

[@craftyink70]

@@reptiles3244 not a joke but glad you voiced your opinion.

[@reptiles3244]

@@craftyink70 not an opinion simple fact

[@englishclasschaug]

Story one - dammit I want to hear from the wife on this! I'm hoping divorce.

[@a.c.3775]

None of the top comments on the first story addresses this, but it sounds like the piercing must have been fairly new, given that OP didn't know about it. If that is the case, the friend may not have been able to take it out. Piercings, especially new ones, can take months to heal properly and they aren't something you can just remove.

[@crowdemon_archives]

Story 2: as someone with ASD, I will throw hands at a person who keep doing shite like that, ngl.

[@msredux]

If I saw my SO bully in the park, polite would be the last thing on my mind

[@TiffWaffles]

I got hit with the ban!hammer because I told OP in the first story that he was fucking disgusting. Which he is.