Husband Left Me & Our Baby to "Find Himself" & Said He'll Never Come Back, Vanishing With ALL...

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@user-bn4cs6zu6r 5 ай бұрын

She *IS* putting her daughter's comfort as a priority. Dave literally left his child's mother with no money at all, not worrying a tiny bit about what would happen to her. He is not gonna be a good father and op's daughter is better off without a father figure than having Dave as one.

@CreditR01 5 ай бұрын

This. She can't trust him. Better late to learn that than never.

@develyntwocentshenderson5739 5 ай бұрын

yeah. pity she didn't consider the well being of a child being fathered by a questionable male like this. people, mostly women, are so blind because they think people are so noble that they step into manure and clean themselves up.. and ignore people who see the cowpie and walk away from it. nothing noble about girls who step into cow pies, drag a child into it, and then whine or brag about how they are protecting their baaabbieeesss. never mind the destruction that can be wreaked on a child. everyone is patting the little girl on the back.

@BrightElk 5 ай бұрын

Comfort? More like her needs, health, wellness and safety. MIL talking like food and diapers are optional and not a requirement. She’s bonkers!

@aking3624 26 күн бұрын

Martha created her son... She is part of the problem!!! 🤬

@CreditR01 5 ай бұрын

Don't ever, EVER go into relationships thinking you can change someone. It never works. And for god's sake, don't marry someone who makes you feel like shit about yourself.

@bluecat5669 5 ай бұрын

😞

@_juju_jojo_ 5 ай бұрын

Somehow and for some reason that's easier said than done for a lot of people

@williamschmidt675 22 күн бұрын

Agree. People can grow… but change is very rare and difficult. Never marry a man-baby!

@phenyo1218 5 ай бұрын

All those red flags and you still married him. Love is dangerous.

@ice999999c 5 ай бұрын

Right

@mannydcbianco 5 ай бұрын

Yup, absolute insanity. Reading between the line it seems she willingly and consciously ignored all the red flags because he, superficially, was out of her league. She thought she struck gold simply because he was attractive. It happened to a friend of mine, though with the genders reversed, where my friend would ignore all the red flags and all nasty behavior just because she was way out of his league as far as looks go. She bled him dry. She freeloaded on him; she spent (and stole some of) his money, lived in his house rent-free, used (and crashed) his car. She of course cheated on him too, multiple times, before he finally stopped taking her back and forgiving her.

@jdavis7613 5 ай бұрын

Why stay with someone who talks negatively about you to a ex ?

@iwanttocomment8966 5 ай бұрын

And she's dumb.. Very dumb... Accounting for how dumb she's been, i don't even know what advice to give

@develyntwocentshenderson5739 5 ай бұрын

no, girls like this who are fertile are the biggest problems.

@DarkEinherjar 5 ай бұрын

The audacity of this man... even worse than just going away, he left his wife and kid to starve. He shouldn't even be able to look OP in the eye, let alone beg to mend things.

@333333joshua 5 ай бұрын

It seems like he wanted to keep her as a back up plan. Maybe hoovering

@polarbear2080 5 ай бұрын

@@333333joshua Too bad for him - he blow up his backup plan in the most messed up ways possible by abandoning his infant newborn daughter, who he thought he can use to babytrap and manipulated OP while stealing all the money from the joint account. It never occurred to him, no matter what excuse he uses, stealing money then abandoning your baby is always unforgiveable plus nukes whatever plans towards/against OP such as what happened at divorce and family court when he tried for 50/50 custody and prolong divorce proceedings.

@lovelyloner 5 ай бұрын

The Mom was only begging her because SHE didn’t want to deal with her own raggedy ass son. And her Dad is a BOSS and I love how he protected his daughter and granddaughter. This does to show how important community is.

@Kkell0x 5 ай бұрын

OPs dad is the MVP of this story

@vexxama 5 ай бұрын

“I know I robbed you but it’s not too late to forgive me!”

@shadowsnake5133 28 күн бұрын

You're right, it's not too late. I'll be sure to forgive you at your funeral. By the way, is that today or next week?

@BrightElk 5 ай бұрын

The commenters be like “The moral of this story is love and trust are bad.”. Me: No the moral of the story is undervaluing yourself and ignoring blatant red flags is dangerous.

@spoof2062 5 ай бұрын

During all that groveling to get her back, has he ever offered to return the money that he stole? I'm willing to bet that he was blewing through it and only came back bc his cash cow wouldn't be there anymore

@deusex4905 5 ай бұрын

Never put all your money into a joint account!

@BrightElk 5 ай бұрын

No never put your money into a joint account with an idiot.

@deusex4905 5 ай бұрын

@@BrightElk you unfortunately don't always know that you're with an idiot. I can get the interest of a joint account ig

@tommybell4850 5 ай бұрын

Should have had separate accounts plus a joint account for bills.

@Thaddius0 5 ай бұрын

imagine transferring everything out of a bank account and not thinking for a second about how it might impact your daughters ability to eat dinner

@jasminedavis3030 5 ай бұрын

He only came back because he knew that OOP would not only get child support, but likely alimony too, given he basically left OOP and their child destitute.

@Rj-ij6ko 5 ай бұрын

Stories like this are always so weird to me “Yeah my husband was insulting me to his Ex, does nothing with our daughter, isn’t physically intimate with me very often and barely pulls his weight with house chores…oh but he’s really great i swear”

@benrussell-gough1201 5 ай бұрын

Love is blind, especially when it is one-sided.

@ayceinquisitor190 5 ай бұрын

@@benrussell-gough1201 that's not love AT ALL. That's a big myth. Love is clarity and a commitment to growth. It can't blind and cannot be sustained one-sided. What problems like this are really is over attachment, fear of aloneness, codependency, anything else but its sure not love.

@benrussell-gough1201 5 ай бұрын

@@ayceinquisitor190 Agreed - It was only love from the perspective of the abused woman but it was a very real feeling for her.

@lizlemonline2951 5 ай бұрын

So he told her and his cheating ex she was fat and ugly and guaranteed not to cheat on him as a result and she decided to marry him anyway???? She caught him talking to other women throughout the entire relationship and she married him anyway???? He contributed nothing to her life emotionally, mentally, physically, or sexually and she married him anyway????

@jellypopeye7971 3 ай бұрын

He also barely contributed to the finances

@TheThyckVixen 5 ай бұрын

Where are her friends? She must have no one and hate herself cuz I wouldn’t let my girl get absolutely played by like this. He was trash from jump. A shame.

@jabrark5828 5 ай бұрын

I really don't understand how women this loyal, with literally no concern for their man's income and genuinely working to keep the family afloat, end up with guys who betray that loyalty like this. It's quite frankly heartbreaking to see.

@michellekk1941 4 ай бұрын

It's mostly low self esteem,no respect for themselves and an anxious attachment style.Also abusers know how to find broken people I always see the best men with the worst women and vice versa it's really sad honestly.😢

@isrln 5 ай бұрын

First thing you say to the mother of your kid and your wife after you abandoned them and took all the savings they had without even earning the money to support the family to begin with? *"hey, how are you doing?"*

@chetlajackson9060 5 ай бұрын

Ladies, you have proof your man is cheating...dont tell him. All it's going to do is os make him cheat better and find ways to not get caught. All while gaslighting and manipulating you. Keep it to yourself, keep quite and make a plan to move out asap. Then, when he is Wondering why you're leaving and he did wrong, slap him with that proof. Most importantly, do not take him back. Do not listen to his lies and excuses. Do not buy it. Move on.

@1naoll 5 ай бұрын

Your dad is amazing! Your parents love you unconditionally! Honestly your judgment with Dave is off, so many red flags. Glad work sees your value. Good luck!

@ilovesports5468 5 ай бұрын

What did he do with all of that money?!?!

@BubblegumGirl366 5 ай бұрын

Right like what happened to wall the money it was only a month

@benrussell-gough1201 5 ай бұрын

Gave it all to Mummy for safe-keeping no doubt.

@f687sNFM 5 ай бұрын

Probably just pleasures

@RMMilaRei 5 ай бұрын

I though about gambling dunno

@lawsonallen7741 5 ай бұрын

Soo he takes your savings & you don't send him to Jail. WHY??

@f687sNFM 5 ай бұрын

Its his savings too cuz marriage is like that

@lawsonallen7741 5 ай бұрын

@@f687sNFM So your ok with what he did.

@ayceinquisitor190 5 ай бұрын

@@lawsonallen7741 no it just means it's messier/more difficult from a legal standpoint cause it can be considered his money too

@jellypopeye7971 3 ай бұрын

Bc it was in a joint accnt

@peterjackson1430 2 ай бұрын

Simp that's why. He abandoned his wife and child and left them destitute. She paid 80% of everything, had a real job while his was low wage. He blew the money with his mistress. And she ditched him when the $ was gone. Bet.

@redbonehaitian 5 ай бұрын

She better than me cause my 1st question would have been " where is my money "

@revresbo101 5 ай бұрын

You could have made a quilt that could cover an entire 3rd world country with all those red flags 🚩

@clamiyep7008 5 ай бұрын

You don't make a child to fix your life, you fix your life before making a child

@fl-ri- 5 ай бұрын

Wow doormat women stories are rare on this channel. Still - warning - doormat story.

@highonmoss 5 ай бұрын

I appreciate the warning bc I'm over halfway and still waiting for her to do something about all the crap he pulled

@Gay_platipus 5 ай бұрын

So Dave left his wife and daughter with NO MONEY, blaming them for his life not going the way he hoped, talked shit about his wife with his ex BEFORE they married, does less than the bare minimum with household chores, is COMPLETELY hands off with child care, has been consistently talking to other women both pre and post marriage, spent ALL of their money and savings, and he expected to be welcomed back with open arms by his doormat of a woman? And only after divorce was put in the picture? Wow.

@a_randomuser4 5 ай бұрын

Ye, any “person” who thinks she is in the wrong for not forgiving him shouldn’t be allowed to have kids. Though she shouldn’t have ignored the clear signs he’s trash.

@benrussell-gough1201 5 ай бұрын

I wonder if he ran away to 'Mummy' right away. Certainly, it's interesting how quickly she was able to pass on the news and how quickly he was able to start to beg for a second chance. Was it entirely him or was it a toxic MIL case where she'd been pressuring him to walk out for years? We'll probably never know but I have a feeling that, if he appeals anything, it will be the child support because he never wanted a baby and she 'ignored' that (was able to persuade him to give it a shot).

@kidhoodmealz 5 ай бұрын

bro i binge watch all these vids on your page

@baduck0145 5 ай бұрын

I think my dog will be a better father because he is at least loyal and be the when you need a hug. Plus he can peotect the people he love. Unlike Dave

@Arcane_Route_66 5 ай бұрын

Given how Dave left with their money, and how emotionally unstable he is, I can't help but think he had something underhanded planned upon his return. He sounded desperate for a lick. OP should absolutely put her new income towards security cameras with audio.

@Maninawig 5 ай бұрын

Dear Martha, I have just two questions for you: Do you think your son thought about his family when he ran to live with you, having stolen every cent from his wife and left his daughter to suck air and carp on leaves? And if all it took was a whim to do such a horrible thing, and a whim to desire a reunion, then what is preventing him from repeating these whimsical retreats at every one of his child's milestones?

@SilveryBlue1010 5 ай бұрын

4:04 THAT. That's your frickin' problem. You were delulu enough to believe it.

@kdawg789 5 ай бұрын

I'm shocked this relationship went bad SHOCKED

@chasepowers7375 4 ай бұрын

A child doesn’t need a mom or a dad just a loving guardian/parent like figure

@charliebright9109 4 ай бұрын

The way all the money disappeared makes me think that he gambled it all away and expected to live big on his "winnings"

@sanddagger36 Ай бұрын

"I don't think we can afford a baby" "Which is why i am stealing all your money so you definitely cannot afford anything."

@mailin7047 4 ай бұрын

Would've told his mom "if you keep pushing me to do this you will NEVER see your grandchild again" and see what she says by then

@ArtsyShikigami 5 ай бұрын

A whole familfy doesnt always equate to a healthy family

@salmanalqahtani6943 4 ай бұрын

The sun would extinguish before i had enough trust in anyone to give unrestricted access to my bank account

@adrianflores7269 3 ай бұрын

Literally, that should be printed with BIG LETTERS in anyplace where people get married (venues, churches, i don't know more places, ... etc)

@tkabey 5 ай бұрын

Dave wiped out y'all savings, left you and this child he supposedly cares about starving and homeless, staring I knew your parents would take care of you, all while begging to be a family again? She would be ten ton stupid to take him back so he can do it again.

@Erebus04 5 ай бұрын

Sounds like the OP choose a man who always has a foot out the door and yet they called it love, what a fool

@joddo81 5 ай бұрын

He's using her as an emotional support animal.

@Bhy1345 3 ай бұрын

I don’t really feel bad for people who ignore all the red flags along the way then get surprised when they get treated like crap

@reneeharper84 4 ай бұрын

I am sad for op but also angry....she knowingly ignored red flags and hoped he would change, even after seeing proof of how shitty he was. She needs friends and self-esteem.

@ianconness11 5 ай бұрын

Just a few minutes in and I already don’t feel bad for her. She finds out he’s texting his ex early in their relationship and bashing her in the conversations. If you decide to stay after that, then you’re kinda asking for heartbreak down the road in some way.

@a_randomuser4 5 ай бұрын

Ye, but I do feel bad for the child.

@taylordaenzer4852 5 ай бұрын

You are right on this and this is not your fault it's Dave's fault talking about you like that and leaving you behind.

@michellekk1941 4 ай бұрын

No offence to you or her but it is kind of her fault.There was a laundry list of red flags about this man and not only did she marry him after he called her unattractive and shit talked her with his ex.How do you then stay in that relationship go on to get married and have a child then surprise Pikachu face when he's a shit partner??Yes Dave is terrible but she's worse for allowing that type of abuse.😢

@rahulas8653 4 ай бұрын

Don't be doormats and think cheaters or man-child's will change.

@thousandyardgavri2785 4 ай бұрын

I swear I've been a lurker of this channel. People's entitlement should not surprise me. But somehow, someone manages to do so.. I mean seriously!!??? He thinks forgiving him is a privilege? He doesn't even offer anything

@limalicious 4 ай бұрын

The sacrifices of a good mother are for her children, not for the manchild that knocked her up.

@beatrispains8814 4 ай бұрын

I was a child in situation like this. My biological father live me and my mom when I was 1 year old and believe me Cece would be better live with mom and without father like Dave. He didn't take any parental role in his daughter's life so what the point keeping him? Divorce and full custody, that's everything you need (maybe restraining order against Dave and his mom, I don't trust them)

@adrianflores7269 3 ай бұрын

Yes. Also, could OP sue ex-husband for the money? It was a joint account, but (if I'm correct) she was the one who put most money Edit: Also, sorry for hearing about your father. I hope that you had (and continue) a good live with your mom

@beatrispains8814 3 ай бұрын

@@adrianflores7269 thanks, my mom actually married now with my stepdad, they meet when I was 8, so I have a father figure in my life right now.

@f687sNFM 5 ай бұрын

Dude just wants to stay angry, he doesn't want happiness

@DariusKetchum2010 5 ай бұрын

OP: When I met his mom, Martha- Batman: Why did you say that name!?

@sanaakram2733 5 ай бұрын

Dave probably left for another woman and realised the grass isn’t greener on the other side and came back when he found out he’s getting divorced thinking he can just waltz back in.

@jennifercrama7082 5 ай бұрын

Did she press charges for theft?

@Olive_garden18 4 ай бұрын

“Daddy stuck around but he wasn’t present, cheated on your mom but she never left him” -the neighborhood

@arhael3594 5 ай бұрын

I really have hard time feeling any sympathy for OP. And she didn't even sue him for money he stole.

@dustysimpson7864 5 ай бұрын

NTA Don't get back with him. He's a goldigger.

@AlE-kc7yw 4 ай бұрын

It's one thing for him to leave and want to come back, BUT he took all their money and drained their account, most of which was hers. That's unforgivable. Secondly, she should have made him write down everywhere he lived at for the past 4 weeks before he contacted her and itemize where every dollar went to...because it seems likely he spent it on some hoe(s) from his past.

@CarrotBunniePie 5 ай бұрын

Gurl YOU LITERALLY CAUGHT HIM CHATTING OTHER WOMEN AND EYEING ON OTHER WOMAN HOW THE HELL DIDN'T YOU SEE THE RED FLAGS

@Boonz84 4 ай бұрын

I cannot raise my eyebrows any higher just listening to this ridiculous sad excuse of a man

@develyntwocentshenderson5739 5 ай бұрын

at least op admits some culpability about her stupid choices, but she was warned

@noinfo1018 5 ай бұрын

This is very fake. No person goes into this much detail

@AsherAstrophel 5 ай бұрын

yep prety fake

@Blackstone54321 28 күн бұрын

@@AsherAstrophelomg it’s fake!!???!??!! you must be amazing at finding fake stories good job you need a pat on the back

@Dee-V-Dee 3 ай бұрын

From the moment the op found the messages to his ex about how he didn't find op attractive, she should have immediately left him. He was clearly a trashman. You don't give that kind of person a second chance.

@oneuup2490 3 ай бұрын

1st story: I'm trying to figure out how this woman is conflicted about a decision that's not even a decision.

@Pari4796 5 ай бұрын

The fucking “I can fix him” 😭

@JamalUddin-tv1iz 5 ай бұрын

When girls say that he will change for me😍 my blood bowled 🙄😒

@blueturtle3623 5 ай бұрын

I have bipolar, and this really does sound like he had an episode. It's not an excuse, but it does give hope that while his marriage has no chance, he can put in the work and actually be a father.

@emmavrijburg6676 4 ай бұрын

after all those "hiccups" im not surprised

@Jivi_Galaxy 5 ай бұрын

I feel so bad gor her and I don't wanna be like her and similar women, I had experienced many trauma but don't wanna be doormat and so blindside and forgiving Saint. I hope she finf courage and strength within her.

@cheryljones8875 4 ай бұрын

You should have left him when you first saw the text messages.🙄

@vanzy01 5 ай бұрын

"A whirlwind of emotions" & "a mix of hesitation and determination" a change of how the op writing style in their stories update screams AI writing.

@RickAstIeyOfficiaI 3 күн бұрын

Asking as a not married male What exactly is the point of joint accounts in a marriage and how is It better than having a savings account each?

@cerbus6597 5 ай бұрын

so let me get this straight, he said he dosent want to be in your kids life, wiping out your savings leaving nothing for your daughter and you. and when you finally decided to divorce him he suddenly got post nut clarity and realized what he did was wrong? it might be harsh but cutting out mother in law is for your best interest since shes already trying to gaslight you to go back together with her son. and it will never stop. so draw a line in the sand for MIL and dont go back to your ex.

@gamerkat1492 5 ай бұрын

he ditched you CHANGE THE LOCKS MOVE DIVORCE

@nsb9999 5 ай бұрын

What a scumbag to do that

@susioeandno1else 4 ай бұрын

Honey, the entire man was a red flag...

@MzJoeyRantz 5 ай бұрын

I haven't even listened to all of it, but she stayed with him while he insulted her with his ex.... smh. Then went on to have a child with a bum like him!!! Wow... just wow 😞

@AzureShin4 5 ай бұрын

I wanna know what happened during those 4 weeks and what happened to all the money. Did he try to single life then realize no one would put up with his bs and ran put of money?

@vmrstl 20 күн бұрын

Op is such a pathetic joke…. She’s a clown for staying with someone like that after the first incident.

@olocutor6990 5 ай бұрын

This is AI generated

@rebeccaconlon9743 4 ай бұрын

12:53 he ran out of money...

@adrianflores7269 3 ай бұрын

I was actually hoping that someone say that

@charlottebarham7722 5 ай бұрын

Did OP ever get the money back? Did he spend it all?

@Heavy_weaponsguy1525 5 ай бұрын

He probably just ran out of money He either went on a holiday or tried making a bussiness and it failed.

@GameWithStuff 4 ай бұрын

I fell bad for Martha

@nataliereeves3594 5 ай бұрын

I wonder if he lost all the money and wants op to give him some more.

@shoot701 3 ай бұрын

this is why his father expired so fast

@sophiehrisook5267 5 ай бұрын

What a doormat

@TheGrumpyAngelPR 23 күн бұрын

This is the kind of dumb woman that we hear about on the news dead on a ditch after meeting her crazy ex without letting anyone know smh

@marenzelewski709 5 ай бұрын

This is AI, or at the very least all these stories are written by the same person. They use the same wording: it felt as tough the walls of our home was closing in on me, whatever had happend, whirlwind being used so frequently, mix of hesitation and determination. I noticed because these wordings sound kind of weird to me and then I noticed them in another story. I also think the descriptions are way to wordy and sort of novel like. Sucks cause i really liked these

@bruinlover09 4 ай бұрын

Dave came back because he couldn't find another woman who would support him

@lordsw6049 5 ай бұрын

Ok... So... What about the money he "stole" from her?

@jdjsksbsvsn Ай бұрын

if the story was real court would order him to pay back the money he stole from the savinga

@davidmendez174 4 ай бұрын

I’m sorry but the fact OP is asking if she’s the A-hole like bruh you just explained everything about everything your husband did and not only that but he abandoned you and your child and took all your entire savings from your bank account and yet you’re asking if you’re the asshole I sometimes hate hearing stories like these where they explain everything that happens but then when someone is trying to guilt trip or manipulate them they ask that stupid question like bro you just told us why your divorcing him and you were debating to go back with him ik OP said she wanted her daughter to have a father but him leaving and left you with no money and all the things he said to you like fr you think your the asshole like reread your own story

@youmadhuh6375 Ай бұрын

I have no sympathy for her🤷🏾‍♀️... the red flags were there flying high.. she was so desperate she ignored them.. she caught him messaging other women BEFORE marrying him, yet not only continued to date him but married him anyway.. did she think marriage would change him?. If your partner can't even stay faithful while you're dating, why would you expect any different once married?. Why would she even want a man that tells her he isn't attracted to her? Not sure how she couldn't see what her future would entail being married to dave.. it was quite obvious he wasn't shyt. She was so indecisive.. dave was a horrible father who didn't give a crap about you or your daughter.. yes a child needs their parent, but a useless parent is of no use to them.

@daratsvetkova1203 5 ай бұрын

Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me…

@BloodyMoon1 5 ай бұрын

Some women really will just obsess about the lowest tier of men, then be shocked when he does low tier shit. Honestly, I can't say I feel bad for her. He gave her plenty of warnings early on about how big of a piece of shit he was, and she stayed.