Husband refused to forgive me because of a misunderstanding and divorced me. Nine years later, he...

[@oceanspace7671]

The fact that people in the reddit comments were saying OP was still into Nick is WILD. Like how many times/ways does OP need to prove that she is NOT into the creep?

[@sparkymarky211]

Redditor moment

[@angel-nv7jk]

It's reddit

[@Rorschachqp]

Does this Nick guy maybe have a few Reddit accounts? Lol

[@quintusgrobler9088]

Reddit is full of people who think they are very smart when they really aren't. Especially when it comes to social situations.

[@JaneLol-pc7wu]

The fact that she still felt she needed closure after nine years means that she didn't have it up until that moment so she probably thought about it often. If you don't care, then you don't need the closure or the shitty excuses they would give you. Not to mention she felt the need to do something very insulting and humiliating to him . Those are all signs that point to her still giving a fuck whether it be romantically or whatever. He is definitely a fucking shithead but all signs point to her caring more than she lets on

[@LoudAngryJerk]

"he doesn't seem psycho" He: -showed up at her house unannounced -ignored the fact that she's married -ignored her telling him she's not interested -ignored her telling him to leave -offered to adopt the daughter of her living husband -divorced her without looking for *any* details This👏man👏is👏NUTS HOMEGIRL needs to look into another place to live with her family *at the very least*

[@sariagrey1844]

It's men like these that think the world revolves around them.

[@barryallen3555]

Foreigners

[@viciousrape]

there's a difference between being nuts and being stupid. that man is stupid

[@ShiNijuuAKL]

believed that it was a bluff when she was calling the police literally in front of him

[@mshake7056]

And sadly women love nuts with a side order of drama and chaos so I see a affair or her eventually taking him back in the future

[@MrTStat]

it is quite possible that he was trying to bait her into cheating only to expose her later and vindicate himself

[@stevenle9960]

You'd think he'd give it up after getting escorted away by the cops if that was the case

[@barryallen3555]

The story is not true

[@MrTStat]

@@barryallen3555 you have as much of a proof that it is true and that it is not, there is zero evidence to support either, but what I don't understand is why do you care either way

[@Aeglos15]

While it is possible, I find that very unlikely. Even if that was his ultimate goal, those are pretty far lengths to go to justify something to just yourself (which is really the only person who'd know of the vindication; the OP said her ex had fallen out of touch with most of their mutual friends while working abroad). This wasn't the story of a stable & well-adjusted individual.

[@CourierFreakingSix]

​@@barryallen3555L Redditor response

[@l0rdapophis]

Something's not right here. So he just left...and had divorce papers drawn up without even trying to talk to her? Nah, he was looking for an out the entire time

[@vellathewench]

Oh yeah, he was definitely cheating on her

[@Zeromegas]

Still not contact with someone in the town except for the NEET of thr town😊

[@robertdouth8979]

That's the conclusion you come to? She didn't contest and says she got nothing in the divorce and your assumption is that she didn't cheat and he just overreacted and she did nothing to try to explain it? You know when you get nothing in a divorce as the woman? If you cheat in an at fault state. Otherwise, you'd get something. Of all the things that are unbelievable in the story, it's crazy that this is your takeaway.

[@l0rdapophis]

@@robertdouth8979 whatever you say, Bobby, I'm not reading all that 🤞🏼🤣

[@kathrinefer7301]

100% facts

[@chessieray1465]

How is healing for a whole year and waiting to text your future husband jumping from one relationship to the next? Those naysayers are stupid.

[@LylyNynx]

its the weirdo people online.

[@alext9320]

Judgemental weirdos on the internet think women should be with only one man romantically for their entire lives. Any amount of moving on is moving on too quickly.

[@TheVercci]

It's advice from people who wouldn't heal for the year and just exist, having relationships while distraught from the breakup and having regret. Fuck em.

[@oliverstray1040]

Everyone heals at different speeds and some people take a lot longer to heal from divorces. I think a lot of it comes down to guilt, responsibility, and the severity of the breakup. I would say OP got off a bit light emotionally compared to similar divorces since she went uncontested, did nothing wrong morally, and didn't experience the nasty part of ending a marriage (The confrontation, breakup, and meetings after a breakup.)

[@Soul.Resonant]

@@oliverstray1040She had no children with him, but he definitely left like a father

[@xSoLoDx]

I bet in his eyes he is not delusional but confident.

[@DraxXThanos]

In his eyes he clearly did nothing wrong.

[@bazyl3357]

Not confident enough to not try to return.

[@Barbarasanchez2008]

@@bazyl3357yeah a confident person would back down and not show up to someone house 9 years later unannounced

[@rubymeaddle]

He thinks it's a Hallmark movie

[@issnake1109]

@@rubymeaddle someone send it to Click for one of those main character videos

[@igotmyapplejuice7094]

Nick the type of guy who would call himself a nice and upstanding guy only to flip a switch the second someone says no he becomes an aggressive stalker

[@avthecool129]

fax

[@calico_queen8976]

Bruh, he didn't even reach out. He straight up went to her house...And even after finding out she's already married to someone else, he was like "Yeah, I don't care boo."

[@JenniferDawe]

I don't think he ever thought she was cheating with Joe. I think he saw a way out to go be a dirtbag and took it, and expected her to be so confused and emotionally devastated that would be an open door forever when he was done being with other people.

[@liamvt2]

Doubt it. She even said herself he was crazy jealous and she wasn't allowed to have male friends. He sounds like a dude so posessive that he might literally consider it borderline cheating to even talk to another man without him knowing.. the reason why seems obvious. He's projecting. Man would clearly cheat himself. Sees her as property.

[@JaneLol-pc7wu]

TBH he was doing her dirty probably and she made it easy for him to just leave since the scene was set badly. Gave him the ammo to leave. That's why he didn't care for an explanation. He knew, he just wanted a reason to split. Hence why he immediately ceased contact and didn't try to ask jack shit. He prob married who he was having the affair with

[@bgcno2]

Story 1. Nick is a comtrol freak. I also believe he was projecting by assuming she was cheating because thats what he was doing.

[@andrehaugvaldstad]

Oh he absolutely was cheating, or at least actively thinking about it. He was so nonchalant about getting her to cheat on her husband with him later so he obviously isn't morally opposed to it. Unless of course he's only opposed to women cheating. Whichever the case it sure tells you everything you need to know about his thought process and motivations.

[@VirginiaDowdy777821]

I'm barely into the story and yeah, I definitely think he had intentions of cheating or leaving her for another woman. Then, when he saw Joe at their house, he saw the opportunity to bolt and that's exactly what he did.

[@Enriquez2222]

Exactly, Nick didn’t trust himself and therefore he didn’t trust her. That relationship was doomed because of his mentality

[@virgilhawkins7368]

​@@andrehaugvaldstadhe's opposed to women cheating ON him, but not women cheating WITH him

[@andrehaugvaldstad]

@@virgilhawkins7368 In other words he's not morally opposed to cheating as long as his frail ego isn't hurt in the process. And since HER integrity doesn't matter, only his own, he would definitely be down to cheat on her given the chance. Who would date that kind of person knowing that about them?

[@DragonNyah]

It is so funny going from a post about a man who got cheated on to a post of a woman who got falsely accused of cheating bc it doesn't matter who's actually in the right, there will ALWAYS be people hating on the woman. Truly a Reddit experience

[@phenomenonnarutokun]

RIGHT?!

[@regisshiv3542]

Ok and the same thing happens all the time with men. No matter if innocent or not so many people are still blaming the guy and hating on him. So and now what? What did you try to archieve with your comment. Trying to make this about sexism? Oh the poor women they always get hated on. Put the victim card away its not just you or women in general. The truth is this kind of treatment is something men recieve regulary.

[@DragonNyah]

@@regisshiv3542 the delicious fucking irony of saying "put the victim card away" in a comment that's all about victimizing men when someone points out that maybe, JUST MAYBE, redditors are assholes to women Literally take 2 minutes to scroll through these reddit story videos and you'll see the overwhelming majority focus on a man being victimizes by an evil woman. Look at the comments and people are 100% supporting the dude without trying to the defend the woman's actions. Meanwhile you look at the comments of a video like this and you find SO MANY people defending the controlling, self absorbed asshole and WORSE, accusing OP of lying. But sure go ahead, keep drowning any discussion about misogyny with "bUt MeN gOt iT wOrSe"

[@1nsurr3ction]

It's always the incels that tend to agree/side with the creep because, " how dare she reject him?" Social media always shows us the true face of ppl.. its not so much a cesspit but a mirror held up to humanity.

[@weremutt8]

​@@regisshiv3542 Plenty of people will automatically assume sides. Theres one story on this channel somewhere that a sister was siding with an ex-gf for her brother to pay child support even after a paternity came back negative. But the comment you're responding to is about how Redditers are biased against women. "People have biases against men" and "Reddit has a bias against women" are both true statements

[@msepiphqny]

I've seen this one, the amount of replies defending Nick, saying OP was probably going to cheat, she still had feelings, blah blah blah were ridiculous. I don't know how anyone can see her in the wrong for being happy and moving on.

[@MusicMakesMeSoar91]

Would you be willing to share the link to the actual story?

[@msepiphqny]

@@MusicMakesMeSoar91 I think its one of the deleted ones but I'll look

[@VirginiaDowdy777821]

The fact that people were trying to victim-blame OP after everything Nick did was disgusting.

[@broughttoyoubyaguynamedste6144]

I bet it is a bunch of Nick’s burner accounts

[@Br0nto5aurus]

Ah, misogyny. He rears his ugly head when you least expect him. We thought we knew how everyone would obviously feel about a situation, but forgot about our old friend misogyny.

[@sparrowflyaway]

the nerve of the guy saying OP "made a mockery" of his apology, after he himself made a mockery of their marriage and OP. Also, that wasn't just a mere apology, that was him trying to get back together with OP like those nine years apart never happened, and OP simply showed him proof why that was impossible.

[@cameoshadowness7757]

THE FACT THAT THE SUPPOSED FRIEND GAVE OUT THE ADDRESS TO SOMEONE WHO STRAIGHT UP ABANDONED HER?! Like What the fuck? This isn't something you simply forget about!

[@Just1Nora]

She gave it to an acquaintance of his, not to her ex directly. But still, homegirl really dropped the ball.

[@anitaomoaghama4097]

It's funny how she easily gave out the address but conveniently forgot to add that OP is married with a kid.

[@mongviemong]

@@anitaomoaghama4097idk in US but its very common in my country idk how much ppl I berated for giving my number without consulting with me first its seems personal space its non existent in my country 😢

[@نيشا-د2م]

The fact that people are saying that she jumped into a relationship too fast is crazy. She actively worked herself for a whole year, & then decided to get into a relationship. I find it ironic that people find it normal to cry & mop over a person for more than a year. That’s not healthy. Working on yourself is the most healthiest thing you can do instead of putting another person on a pedestal. She let this guy have no power over her nor did she have him on a pedestal, which is why she was able to focus on herself & get over him within a year. That/This is exactly what other people need to do instead of moping over someone who left them.

[@monicasalyer8875]

Chris is the one who's in danger since Nick thinks he's "just an obstacle". OP needs to stop being such a PollyAnna and wake the f up. Her ex-husband is not just a narcissist. He's psychotic, and a dangerous one.

[@memez_r_life6692]

How in the heck did redditors think that OP still wanted to be with Nick?! She described an 'instant spark' with Chris and said she never felt happier?!

[@flameangel4610]

coz they are either all nicks or they are likeminded people

[@_juju_jojo_]

That pissed me off a lot. She rubbed it in his face that she was doing just fine without him and somehow that meant she still wanted Nick It's those incel mfs who just assume the worst out of any and all women

[@rubymeaddle]

And she clearly showed him HER HUSBAND

[@sariagrey1844]

So, they were all friends before. And this dude was still butthurt and jealous when she talked to him even when she left Joe for Nick. This man is a delusional. And that she managed to build a meaningful marriage and have a family and he's so desperate that he comes crawling back for his ex after 9 whole years says A LOT. I bet no other woman was willing to put up with him.

[@needs_more_dakka5774]

Ikr. Dude, it's been I years. Why u still got no bitches.

[@AECH_CH]

You're not inviting other men/women into the house if you're married - I'd enforce this as well, but the fact the dude literally just wanted to invite them to his wedding would have been provable quite easily, so I don't see how OPs ex husband reacted the way he did. Even with such a policy it seems overly emotional and non rational.

[@erejnion]

Nah, the dude is definitely a cheater.

[@Emi_TheWinged]

@@AECH_CH bruh possesive and controling much?

[@AECH_CH]

@@Emi_TheWinged No, I just have my moral standards that I demand my partner respecting... I'd never even think about letting a female friend into my house without telling my wife prior.

[@aprilb1273]

Some people need to realize that women don't have the luxury of waiting 5 to 10 years to date again. Some of them might want children.

[@andrehaugvaldstad]

Seen some of these comments? I'd be surprised if some of them has had any conversation with any woman their entire life extending beyond "go away creep" and that's probably for a reason.

[@melody_melon_73]

Also, a year IS a long time!! And she took 2 more years before she married Chris! That's 3 years before she married again!

[@prettyinpinky5937]

You can have kids at 50….many women do and now there’s medical advances and surrogacy. Stop perpetuating this expiry date thing like men do!

[@BusArch42]

Her ex was having an affair. Absolutely. Used the excuse to dump her and get with AP. Then when it didn’t work out tried to go back

[@parthcosic]

Personally I think she dodged a bullet, wouldn't want to live with someone that reacts like that

[@summerglace3294]

Even without the whole creepy stalking shit he did later on. Just the plain leaving, and giving her divorce papers cuz her ex was at the house, is a massive red flag.

[@summerglace3294]

Girl, you ought to move anyways. Canada isn’t very far from the US (assuming that’s where OP lives) you can easily drive or get a short flight. I’d be super worried for your hubby. What Nick wrote in that text about Chris just being “Another obstacle,” was practically a threat and kind of an unhinged thing to say. And, Nick doesn’t seem all that patient, or mentally sound. He might come to the conclusion that perhaps removing “The obstacle,” between you might speed up your returning to him. He has it in his head that OPs in love with him, and that they’re being kept apart by OPs hubby, that’s a very dangerous line of thought…

[@ununhexium]

Absolutely agree. It is naive to think he won't be back.

[@Just1Nora]

Agreed! I'd also go out of the way to get information broker sites, etc to remove your and your husband's names from any publicly searchable sites. Move for sure! Even if it makes your commute longer or lives inconvenient.

[@wafflestoast4546]

Glad op cut off that friend. What she did was outright dangerous. Shes never give out her own address like that, shes not forgetfull, she doesnt care about anybody but herself. And its not her first time too. If the ex was even a little but more daranged, this couldve ended very differently.

[@rhiarebecca2000]

Nick was looking for a reason to leave and was probably cheating himself, to leave so easily and not even bother to listen to you or confront you both etc is a sign he didn’t want to stay with you.. chances are he was up to no good and this gave him an excuse to leave and look like the victim.. he’s been with someone and it’s gone wrong and that’s why he returned and he’s mad you’re not there waiting and single still

[@macylouwho1187]

I had an ex show up on my doorstep two years after our breakup and soon after I had my husband’s baby. He wanted to talk. My mom sent him packing and told him not to bother me anymore because I was happily married now. Why did we break up? He started hitting on a girl at a party right in front of me. I moved away and quietly left, and came back an hour later on the arm of my now husband. Suddenly when I was of interest to another man-I mattered sooooo much more, funny how that works 😂. He tried to fight with my new guy and I stepped between them. I said loudly so everyone could hear “in case you didn’t get the message, me leaving here and coming back with him was me breaking up with you. There’s nothing left to fight FOR.” He’s gone on to cheat on and leave everyone he’s ever been with. To this day I am the only one who ever beat him at his own game and left him first. That’s the only reason he even cared-I hurt his pride and ego.

[@TheDevilEdo]

Sounds like both your ex and you never really cared 😆

[@macylouwho1187]

@@TheDevilEdo oh yes, I did care. He absolutely didn’t. I didn’t hurt his heart, just his pride. No one ever left him before and never since-just me. He’s been a player all of his life since then. He’s had three different women pregnant and left them all holding the baby and ran. A string of failed relationships one after another his whole adult life. He can’t commit to anything or anyone. He cheats and lines up his next partner. I outgrew him when I was 17 years old. He’s now close to his fifties and still pulling this bullsh-t. He’ll die like this. I dodged a nuke with that one. I cried myself to sleep for months afterwards but I made sure no one ever saw it. The love that I found after him has been lifelong and great. Our youngest child is about to leave home this spring for her college town.

[@CleverVideoes102]

Creeps like Nick don't deserve love until they wake up from their dreams. He should have realized that he burned that bridge the second he filed for divorce.

[@Luke_existent]

5 mins into the video and I don't get why people in the comments are shitting on OP so much, the husband saw something, made his own assumptions, jumped to his own conclusions, and acted on them, and he didn't even know what was really going on, these aren't the actions of a functional adult That guy is pathetic, and so are the excuses of people defending him

[@abdulkarim56239]

Ahh yes it's always guys fault because women are sweet angels who do no wrong. What a simp you are, get some help.

[@loneIyboy15]

OP is lying. You forget people on the internet paint themselves in the best possible light, and this story started out with her being alone, with her ex, in the man's home, unannounced, and uninvited, and it only gets worse from there. This is the BEST version of the story she could come up with.

[@gravity00x]

Very reasonable argument, I bet you spent hours crafting that with your thought through analysis! How very neurodivergent of you

[@KM8012]

The second ex overreacted for sure. But having the first ex of his wife at his home without letting him know is just weird. How would you feel if your partner did the same to you? I bet he told her his boundaries and this was one of them.

[@gravity00x]

she even montioned that he told her that it hurt him and asked her to stop, she agreed but then ended up betraying his trust, backstabbing him and lying to him. he was a complete baffoon for coming back and doing what he did after the fact though.@@KM8012

[@go3119]

Is anyone else so engrossed in the visual side of the video? I actually brace my knees, ready to jump. I love looking at the surroundings and the architecture of this world. I love being a character here. Oh and nick is a jerk face but whatever.

[@DezAmmySel]

I play mc a lot and it actually gets hard for me to process what is being said sometimes because the parkour course in the background is just so interesting and cool looking!!

[@LadyDecember]

It makes me motion sick...I always need to scroll down on these videos.

[@Garbagecant24]

Whenever I get high, I just stare off into the gameplay while I listen😂

[@DezAmmySel]

@@Garbagecant24 honestly i have to smoke to deal with my insomnia and hooo BOYYYY is it even MORE difficult for my adhd zooted ass to process what's being said lmao

[@JessyDupre]

She waited over a year and went to therapy for most of that time before she even considered dating anyone and she dated that man for 2-3 years *after* the divorce before they married. What the heck are people talking about she "jumped from one relationship to another". Waiting more than a year after a divorce is not jumping from one relationship to another. Waiting a few days to a week is jumping relationships. The heck is wrong with these people?

[@MariaArt.]

Wow her ex-husband is a disgusting creep. OP did the right thing. That he think you will take him back after 9 years of him walk out of her with out even asking her anything. And then say it no problem for him that she got a husband. WTF! Hope you never have to she the ex-husband again and he have gotten brain enough to stay away.

[@lodunost]

People that like to put arbitrary limitations on what kind of time frame is right for someone to stay single after a breakup are usually dummies. People get over things at their own rate. Don't be chained by the ideals of others. Either you're ready or you're not.

[@KoreForever]

He definitely came to destroy her life.

[@sophieamandaleitontoomey9343]

OP dodged the biggest bullet with this guy.

[@iwanttocomment8966]

W woman! Her reaction to the divorce is just amazing!

[@chudcel99]

L WOMAN. SHE WAS INCREDIBLY SELFISH THIS WHOLE TIME

[@seagoingberry8171]

@@chudcel99 Nick, is that you?

[@oliverstray1040]

​@@chudcel99 name one selfish act (if you say being in the same room as a soon-to-be-married man, you win a free stupidity badge)

[@andrehaugvaldstad]

@@chudcel99 Begone incel.

[@chudcel99]

@@oliverstray1040 staying in contact with a former lover at all. she is so lucky she didnt get a beatdown

[@MikeysLab]

Where in Canada? we dont want him, need to send him back lol

[@rm4692]

I suspected he was nuts after assuming the worst then going NC and filing for divorce in just 3 days but my suspicions were confirmed at 3:28 😂🤣

[@morganablackwater2017]

I feel sorry for OP And Im sorry that she was targeted by misogynists on internet - looks like if you are woman its a crime that you breathe

[@abdulkarim56239]

Typical femcel argument.

[@CaptainFaxer]

So if you get to your home and see your boyfriend with an ex of his in your house u would be ok? Bet not, ex are ex for a reason, only talk if u have child together, both ways

[@jgrAnimations23]

​@@CaptainFaxerex was outside the house Op was yelling at him to go home

[@gravity00x]

She leaves out a lot of things, as some of the things just dont add up, but also could explain why he reacted that way he did. Her line of 30 male friends waiting for her, is definitely one of the biggest red flags aswell as her EX BOYFRIEND sitting at THEIR HOME annanounced. Who invites their EX into their new partners home, so he can invite them to their wedding. Why didn't he call her and why did she let him in? AND WHO ON EARTH visits weddings of their exes? Wow. She's a walking talking red flag that no sane man should get into contact with. The only mistake the guy made was popping up years later and caving in. She literally managed to make the story about herself, while everything about this screams infidelity.

[@CaptainFaxer]

@@jgrAnimations23 its not the point, any contact with ex is no neeeded

[@Potatobowmaster9]

Is divorcing in first world countries as normalised as it seems in these stories? I am from a third world country and the odds of divorce here are like 1/100 , would like some insight.

[@takiherosquires1372]

divorce here is about 53% of marriages. the west is doomed.

[@SneakNationCEO]

I'm from a third world country as well, and it would seem so. Divorce rates are very high in western countries. I guess it's because we are quite religious, and divorce is basically stigmatized in our culture. You get shunned for divorcing unless you were cheated on, abused or your partner was doing something illegal.

[@Thalaranthey]

its both good and bad. I genuinely believe that too many people stay with cheaters and cheating is dealbreaker; absolute reason to divorce. That being said too many people divorce based on minor mood swings and disagreements

[@SneakNationCEO]

@@Thalaranthey 100% agreed. The thing is, marriage is not a union of two people, it's a union of two FAMILIES/BLOODLINES. People don't put enough respect on the concept of marriage. Cheating practically voids the marriage, as the lifelong vow to commit is broken. It's also unsafe to stay with a criminal of a partner who violates you in your own home. That definitely warrants a divorce as well.

[@SneakNationCEO]

@@Aj.6500 To be fair, some people do genuinely change after marriage in a negative way. There's nothing you can do except divorce as the other option would be to stay in an unfulfilling and lackluster marriage. But you're right too, some don't even fully know their partners before getting married, and then start complaining. Some even marry to use their partners, which is disgusting.

[@Poodle_Gun]

We need to educate society about how to look at divorced people. Marriage is being part of a family. Divorce is like someone dying. Of course she's not going to "forget about it and move on." She's going to remember it, even after she moves on. Nobody has any respect for the institution of marriage. They seem to think it's like Britney Spears annulment fling. No, you are walking away from a family and it's like your spouse died. It's a tragedy. You'll always remember it.

[@flameangel4610]

REMEMBER! thats all it is. its gonna be a part of you forever as a memory but that does not mean you cant move on after the fact. a memory can be remembered but as a human, we create more memory every single day. everyday pass by may create memories that holds more meaning to you than the past. thats what moving on is about. you move from less remembering past memory to more meaningful one.

[@NC-dw1ir]

Divorce is not a tragedy. It is a good thing. It protects both men and women from toxic people who will hurt them or use them for their money. Women in the US didn't used to have the right to get divorced. They were considered their husband's "Property" and had no choice but to stay with him no matter how bad things got or how dangerous the situation became. Divorce is taking a stand against poor treatment. If Divorce didn't exist, this woman would have been stuck for 9 years, unable to get remarried, and waiting for this guy to show back up.

[@reneesalazar1431]

Like she'd sit around pining over him for nine freaking years, lol. He's so full of himself.

[@reneesalazar1431]

Definitely get a restraining order .

[@merykhan97]

IF THIS STORY IS TRUE (probably not) OP and her family should absolutely move. The psycho ex knows where she lives and he knows what her daughter looks like. They are not safe

[@Poodle_Gun]

Yeah, there definitely were some plot holes.

[@nevermusic]

This is seen as romantic in movies. It’s insane how warped romance movies are from reality.

[@rikavoid]

i just cant fucking understand that did all the ppl accusing op skipped the part where she mentioned that joe was there to INVITE op and her husband to his wedding?????

[@alexcastillo4741]

It's mostly the fact that there are many ways to send out invitations but he just so happened to show "unannounced" when her ex hub was out. Story reeks of bs

[@rikavoid]

@@alexcastillo4741 honestly it depends on people its different for everyone but im just saying that its considered more polite to visit the person and give the invitation if you can reach and since they were friends.the behaviour is okay

[@rikavoid]

@@alexcastillo4741 and i believe since the ex hub came while he was at their house he probably came around that time so that he can meet both of them he could've also came before if he wanted to meet only op

[@XxBlueEyedxX]

@@alexcastillo4741 And Nick came home only minutes later. It's almost like OP knew when her then-husband came home anyway and invited their mutual friend in so that he could share the news with his buddy.

[@brookepeterson3492]

Did you ever think Joe might be good friend with both of them and personal want to invite a select few people to his wedding personal to show he really cared for them.

[@denizkenger52]

Nick clearly belongs to the streets.

[@Nrevat-cu7xj]

man, even if i called myself delusional brother (on discord), this guy is way more delusional than i can be,

[@arc9264]

No, moving on two months AFTER is a problem, a year is not quick 🙄🤣

[@weiergeist8959]

You can always tell the fake ones. Multiple, wordy updates full of irrelevant details.

[@Just1Nora]

Hallmark Channel makes too many movies with similar tropes. Too many of them and a susceptible person may believe that it's possible.

[@dwwednesday]

So many insecure people in relationships here who have no concept of nuance. I’d never police my partner over who they can speak to or invite unless they’re an actual safety risk because I trust my partner? Y’all need therapy lol

[@quantasium]

The thing about college is that it’s basically an adult nursery. It nurtured Nick’s narcissistic behavior and he thought he could dump her and move on. However, when he started working in the real world, the rose tinted glasses came off. He probably struggled to make friends and find dates due to his selfish behavior and came crawling back to his ex wife.

[@erinfield1943]

What? University doesn't nurture narcissistic tendencies. And no, the rose coloured glasses didn't come off when he entered the work force, that was the problem.

[@angeloliver7613]

It's been 9 years, that's barely jumping fast into a new relationship.

[@CoffeeBeanWitch]

OP was totally in the right and absolutely everything happens for a more positive reason, her current marriage and daughter. Nick is definitely tapped in the head and friends need to remind themselves NOT to hand out numbers to exs. Restraining order might need to be put in place just in case though but I wish OP and her hubby well.

[@leotavira7854]

I don't understand these short timeframe divorces. In my country you have to prove you've been separated for a year before you can get a divorce. The idea of "he saw something he didn't like and a few days later sent me divorce papers" is just mind boggling to me.

[@SheWhoWalksSilently]

Just because you hand someone divorce papers doesn’t make them divorced, it’s the first step that often takes many months to complete until you are officially divorced.

[@TheDevilEdo]

Americans. Such a broken society.

[@Donutlove4ever]

He sounds a little like a narcissist lol i had a bf who would get so jealous of my male coworkers! He had accused me multiple times of cheating with any guy i was friends/worked with. Those types of partners are miserable.

[@silverwinterwolf2064]

EX-Husband Accuses EX-Wife that she cheated, returns later and encourages her to cheat on her husband with him, WOW. Hypocrit.

[@diogogoncalves7994]

There is something missing in this story for sure. Him just leaving without a word is wild, him suggesting she cheat is wild, him suggesting he'd adopt a child that already has a father is wild, the list goes on and on. The hypocrisy, the self centered narrative, the lack of empathy... this man has serious issues. I'm inclined to believe he was already looking for a way out before because any other explanation seems ridiculous. In a way I would've liked if OP had met him for purely selfish reasons since maybe we would've gotten a hint on the real reason he just left, but I feel that this is the best ending OP could've asked for. He clearly has realized what he has lost, and she has everything she could've asked for.

[@WinterRose4444]

It's because it's badly written fiction.

[@Cyberwaddles]

Man, those reddit comments are nuts

[@HarmlessComment]

Nick was cheating, that's why he assumed OP was.

[@bryanthewendigo1877]

I’m calling shenanigans

[@segmu4376]

This story sounds fake. No way Nick thought after nine years he had a shot.

[@SingingMermaid4]

Honestly, I would have still moved. Safety is more important.

[@rebeccaconlon9743]

Nick seems like a stalker

[@0karmaticfrost010]

i wanna know who tf is saying op "jumped from one relationship to another" bro waited and entire year year and SHE wasn't even the one perusing her current husband, and even if she was ITS BEEN A FUCKN YEAR. What is she suppose to be misrable for longer cuz her ex was a pos???

[@artaizen1613]

Nick is such a sad existence after 9 years, that's so unbelievable.

[@erichooper2794]

who shows up to someones house to invite them to a wedding? thats fucking weird.

[@SilveryBlue1010]

So he didn't mind if the cheating involving him? Lol What a hypocrite.

[@needs_more_dakka5774]

Bruh. 9 whole ass years and the dude still had no bitches. I wouldn't get back with him on that fact alone. I would question why I even wanted him in the first place when no one wanted him in 9 years.

[@bazyl3357]

Lmao, you are either the poster child of female logic that all the redpill gurus are talking about OR a redpill troll trying to make women look bad.

[@barryallen3555]

Well you are a guy and i think he's straight

[@rdmname]

" umm hey guuuurl, i assumed you never found anyone else since i've set the bar so high so i just came to your house, expecting you to get into a relationship with me right away again! i swear i'm not delusional or have any other mental issues!" that's what i imagine going on in his head

[@AriesAshes]

Having a hard time believing this x.x

[@JaneLol-pc7wu]

TBH he was doing her dirty probably and she made it easy for him to just leave since the scene was set badly. Gave him the ammo to leave. That's why he didn't care for an explanation. He knew, he just wanted a reason to split. Hence why he immediately ceased contact and didn't try to ask jack shit. He prob married who he was having the affair with

[@donaldkue2364]

From my point of view, if the divorce didn't come, i felt like an affair would've happened. She didnt seem happy at all about the first marriage. And then moved on as soon as possible after happily signing the papers. And I'm not self-conscious or anything but i know i wouldn't like it if i walked into my house seeing my wife with her ex, i wouldve thought something too but i wouldn't have handled it like Mr. Nick. A conversation is needed at least.

[@tsuyufroppy3373]

Nick 100% realized that OP was the best damn wife for him, and the only person who could put up with his bullshit. He definitely has was too much ego to admit that, so he deluded himself into believing that she still loved him. I mean, who wouldn’t want a guy like that? 🙄

[@SeniorCharry]

Why did OP not tell her husband about the ex coming over, and if the ex came without saying anything why let him in the house? OP thinks everything was innocent but the husband saw his wife’s ex in his home alone. Sure, the husband could’ve handled the situation better, but we don’t know his past. What if he’s been cheated on before, or maybe OP had commitment issues before.

[@tothewonder6248]

The way people act like once you break up you act like your ex is dead is crazy. Mature people can stay friends with their exes.

[@natie3652]

Yes they can be friends from distance and maybe when the husband/wife around not alone together in a house

[@kuyt20]

"Mature people can stay friends with theit exes" Yeah. When your country has a divorce rate of 50% and cheating is not only considered normal but almost expected at times, its is indeed clear that a lot of "mature" people have stayed "friends" after divorce.😂

[@gravity00x]

These sentiments are usually always from people, who have been left and wish to rekindle their relationship by any means possible, or in some cases both parties with unresolved feelings after failing to make it work. Those people are marriage killers. Walking talking red flags. Studies show that opposite gender relationships in marriage are the number one factor for infidelity. I mean duh, no shit sherlock. But somehow there is an overwhelming number of people devoid of a moral compass or common sense.

[@JJ-br1nh]

​@@natie3652controlling, much?

[@natie3652]

@@JJ-br1nh it’s not about control rather respect to the man/woman ur in relationship with and considering their feelings

[@LylyNynx]

anyone saying she jumped from one relationship to another, didn't read carefully.

[@MeMeGoDdEsS]

Even though I am not old enough to date just yet but I completely understand and he thought that her EX for 6-7 months was just there to get her back but In reality he hand out invitations to his wedding and he thought that she was cheating on him with her EX boyfriend and left her and filled for divorce just a couple days later and then 9 years later he just came out of no where and asked her to take him back and she showed him her family and then she said that she had nothing to do with him and told him to leave and after that he said that she should cheat on her husband with him and he didn’t leave her alone for weeks I mean come on dude when a girl ain’t into ya leave her alone and if she lost her interest in you and you know about that and then she will break up with you and leave you to cry and bag for her to get back with you is like making a deal with the devil

[@CareerKnight]

They dated for just three months and he stayed friends with both of them, hence why he was inviting them to the wedding.

[@arcadius3257]

OP on story 1 is NOT blameless. You dont invite your ex over without telling your husband, da f*ck do you think thats going to look?

[@sripadmapriya]

@arcadius3257 : OP didn't invite anyone. Ex-boyfriend Joe came to invite OP and Nick to his wedding since all three of them studied together in college. Ex-husband Nick came to see OP after she re-married Chris; but that was his idea, not hers. She didn't even give him her address, he got it from another friend. So, what do you mean OP invited her ex over without telling her husband?

[@arcadius3257]

@@sripadmapriya Are you dense? The ex cant enter the house without being let in, the OP invited him in. The motivation of why the Ex was there is completely irrelevant...you dont invite your ex into your home while your boyfriend isnt there and without telling him Pay attention to the first minute of the story 🤦‍♂️

[@CareerKnight]

@@arcadius3257 They dated for just three months back in college and since then he had stayed friends with both her and her husband for years, he was far more their friend than her ex at this point. Being afraid to invite your friend in while waiting for the husband to get home in a few minutes is ridiculous. The ex husband assumed the worst and rather than bothering to ask any questions which would have immediately dispelled his paranoia chose to act like his assumption was fact and ended his marriage needlessly because of it.

[@arcadius3257]

@@CareerKnight It doesn't matter how long they dated, it could have been for a week for all I care. You don't let your ex into your home without your husband's knowledge...PERIOD. She messed up big time and his reaction was entirely understandable. This is a massive breach of trust and I can guarantee you that she would have a similar reaction if the roles were reversed with how quick women are to accuse their man of being unfaithful.

[@LadyWolvie82]

​@arcadius3257 - you missed the part in one of the updates where OP pointed out Nick's behaviors from when they were dating which OP was oblivious to until after they divorced. Nick got her to quit her job, forced her to stop talking to her male buddies without him being present. She probably would have had to stop talking to her male family members & relatives too if she was still with him. All signs of one who wants control of their partner in every way, a potential abuser/stalker. OP was fortunate to have gotten out of a bad marriage when she did. Also, I wouldn't be surprised if Nick's behavior gets outed onto social media if OP and others get provoked to do so in a future update.

[@neatgamer5999]

Op: im not into nick at all i love my husband and would never cheat Reddit people: i dont know. It sounds like you're still into him and want to cheat on your husband with him

[@susanrand512]

Nicky was probably cheating on OP.

[@chrisauntae6690]

… if it was that easy for him to go without trying to understand then he wanted to leave…

[@stevematthews5504]

Another fake story.

[@briann3970]

I feel like we're being gas lit someone just doesn't break it off without there being an affair or something

[@rohanchalke3378]

Ex found her address but can't find what she was upto.

[@MondliNgwenya.]

Man lives and works in Delululand

[@toyabucks]

Thinking she'll wait 9 years is crazy...

[@Michellee970]

That is a deeply disturbed man. That woman and her husband need to move. Her ex calling the husband "an obstacle" is a red flag.

[@w_kwok]

I would've threatened to out him to his friends and family (his cheating texts) if he continues to harass me, but hey, I'm petty.

[@prakyathkumar8618]

Why do i feel this is fake? Like so many plot holes

[@ShintogaDeathAngel]

I think most of these stories are, to be honest.

[@kimcham9949]

Story is waaayyy too contrived.

[@FeedEgg]

This is what happens when you think you know everything and everyone else is wrong regardless of any new information presented to you, senseless foolish behavior.

[@Diana734]

Coming back nine years later is gross and selfish. Guy thought the world revolves around him.

[@Kikrafis]

Op lied turns out. Check the post, people outed her

[@natie3652]

Do u have a link or the name of the post?

[@bazyl3357]

Can you summarize by any chance?

[@un-kyejohn2968]

Yo link?

[@zampettedainsetto]

I can't find the post, I think it must have been taken down. Does anyone know what actually happened?

[@LadyWolvie82]

We need a link to prove that.

[@penguinpingu3807]

I swear to god some people really try to only see the worst on people

[@fionajmvegeta]

She shouldn't be shocked that reddit is assuming the worst of her. Who does she think lurks around there??

[@_Dynamight_]

Yeah. I forgot about that.

[@quintusgrobler9088]

A year wait before moving on is plenty of time if you are the wronged party.

[@elizabeth-lmhxmx]

The person doing parkour is pissing me off

[@PoipoleEntertainment1987]

OP should have called the ex husband out about the second chance he didn’t give her and should have cut the friend who leaked OP’s number out of her life because of the danger that friend put on OP’s daughter. OP should have yelled at her ex instead of making herself look weak and be able to be talked into cheating

[@Peachori]

It's better she didn't do anything rash like yelling, she didn't know if that man had a weapon or not so it's better to be safe than sorry, what she did was extremely smart since he was showing signs of obsessive and/or narcissistic behavior also she practically already did cut that friend out, it seems like that person will have to wait a long time or at least prove they're worthy of being told private information again.

[@Pookie_has_money]

Am i the asshole more like Am i the chicken TELL EVERYBODY ABOUT THIS THEN ITS FAIR

[@kalekain3521]

So hang on hang on hang on. Dude walks in on his wife just sitting talking to another man, fully clothed and nothing going on between them; immediately convinces himself they are having an affair; then divorces and ghosts her for almost a decade. THEN comes back and stalks her thinking, “Yeah man, she’s still into me” after seeing her new husband and child? LOL wow. Look out ladies, there’s a real keeper there lmao. Story’s probably fake as 99% of all Reddit stories are, but still . . .

[@cheesecake4648]

that's what happens when you marry an adolescent. you can say at 21 you aren't but you are. DON'T MARRY/HAVE KIDS SO YOUNG!!!!

[@shadowcollins4589]

Now. It is understandable how Nick reacted when he first saw his wife's ex in the house Just FYI. It's NEVER a smart thing to do. Idgaf if y'all dog on me for it. Idgaf if y'all say that she should be able to hang out with whoever she wanted. She shouldn't have been alone in the same room as her ex. I understand that it was innocent but it's always good to avoid LOOKING like you could be cheating. Sure you can do what you want but there are consequences. Respect your partners, people. respect your marriage. It's not just you anymore. There are boundaries you need to stay in if you want a successful relationship That being said Nick's problem was that he didn't bother to try to talk He didn't bother to try to fight for his marriage He didn't bother to even TRY to communicate He just automatically blocked his wife with 0 conversation That's bs It doesn't matter if you're getting divorced or if your feelings were hurt. For him to out and out say DIVORCE with just this is really messed up. Like he couldn't bother having a friggin conversation?! You have to have open communication in a relationship for it to work. He was obviously looking for a way out with the way he handled it. That's the only reason he refused to talk to her at all. It's fine to be hurt and take time to process everything without talking to your partner at the moment But you HAVE to communicate with them to discuss things after that time period I don't think she should have had the ex in her with her alone but damn He's a douche for doing what he did

[@blueplague5911]

Nick is messed up. Sure he was a loser the entire story long but when he said "I dont mind that you have a husband and kid, I know you want to try and rekindle our relationship deep down anyway." Like dude. Trash. Disgusting. He left her by falsly assuming she cheated and then later on suggests she cheats? The mental gymnastics this guy is doing.