20180926恩典365 - 說話的藝術 - 三思而言 : 停下來才是真正的贏

[@nashihwang7911]

阿們

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我们要快快的听，慢慢的说，慢慢的动怒。主，感谢你。让我人生有刹车器。让我在动怒的时候的时候会停下来，让我反省那些话都是血气的，都是火冒的。主啊，保守我们的心灵，不要被那些恶者魔鬼所利用。

[@haochang1369]

說的很棒

[@haochang1369]

說的很棒，感謝主

[@angelwong32]

AMEN

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Amen

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阿门

[@林瀚誠-u5n]

人與人之間的爭辯，最後一定會辯出輸贏。 書的人也滿容易惱羞成怒，見笑轉生氣。 氣氛感覺會超級差。 2:58 這也是我們最常做的事情。 我自己也常常這樣。 所以，每次遇到有人對基督教的觀點不滿、支持同性婚姻....等議題，我寧願閉嘴也不去爭。 更何況，我口才很差，邏輯也差，思辨能力更是不及格，一定講不過那些人。

[@francesweimingsoong5654]

Proverbs 16:32, “It is better to be a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city.” One day Alexander the Great struck his favorite general. In a fit of anger he killed his best friend. In response to his deed Alexander cried out, “I have conquered the world but I can't even conquer my own soul.” Have you ever felt like that ? Smart people will ignore an insult.” Have you noticed that with some people, everything is life or death? They can't ignore anything. The small pot boils quickly. The things that you get upset over says a lot about your character and the priorities of your life. It is a fact that the more you understand, the more understanding you will be. The key to anger control is to get the facts. And, as you get the facts, you will cool down. You need to take the time and ask yourself, “why is this making me angry?” I promise, if you will do this, you will discover the thing that is making you angry is not the problem. Anger is merely a warning light of a deeper problem. We can also lose it out of frustration. When something doesn't go as planned and frustration sets in, we sometimes lose our cool. Another time that we lose our temper happens when we are insecure or when we are threatened. When we are insecure with our self-worth, we sometimes lash out. The obvious answer to dealing with our anger is that we should go back to the source of our hurt, our frustration and our insecurity. If we will deal with the things that cause the anger, then we will discover it is easier to deal with the fits of anger. That is why the Bible says, “A man of knowledge uses words with restraint.” I must be honest with you. I have gotten myself in trouble more in life from a quick tongue than from anything else. In recent years, I have learned to control my tongue but that lesson has not come easy. Proverbs tells us that if we are smart, we will restrain our words. One of the things I like about the Bible is that it tells it all. It tells both the good and the bad about the Biblical heroes. When David, the writer of most of the Psalms, asks God to zap his enemies, God lets him vent his anger. When he is finished, God begins to work on him to fill him with His love, His joy, His peace, and His patience. God wants to fill us with His presence so we can express His character from our lives. The only way for that to happen is for our lives to be empty of all of that is not God in order that our lives can be filled with His Spirit. Did you know that temper and tension go together ? We are like a pot. Your life is filled to the brim with anger, stress and tension, and when anything puts the slightest bit of heat on, it all spills out. And when you spill out, the people around you are the ones who get burned. God wants to exchange that anger, stress and tension with His presence, His peace and His patience. It won't come from a self-help book. It will come when He is in control of your life.Whenever you are under a lot of tension, temper will come out. Having self-control will get other people to value you more. Lack of self-control usually happens when people are lashing out because of unmet emotional needs.Self control is an area that all of us have to deal with in one way or the other. True self-control is not about bringing our selves under our own control, but under the power of Christ. It includes our minds and our emotions - not just our outward actions, but our internal state. It's not just for those who blow up. It's also for those who clam up. Most people are one of two in life. They're either a skunk or a turtle. When a skunk gets in trouble, he stinks the place up. He lets it rip and everybody knows when the skunk's upset! On the other hand, the turtle folds himself into his shell. He hides, he cowers down. They don't blow up; they clam up. Both of those are inappropriate forms of anger. In our society it's very obvious we don't know how to handle anger. Violence is on the increase. Crime is on the increase. Profanity is on the increase. Half of all murders actually occur between family members. People are getting angry about little things. It seems like, as the frustration level rises, so does the anger. As the anger increases, so does the violence. As in every other area, God has given us His Word to instruct us in how to develop self control. Anger is not evil in itself. Anger is not a sin. God gets angry, so obviously it's not a sin. The Bible says that Jesus got angry. Anger is a God-given emotion, the problem is in how we express our anger. "I can't help it, that's just the way I am." We need to quit saying we can't control it and start realizing we can. Instead of making excuses we need to start accepting responsibility for our reactions. Proverbs 29:11 -Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. The Bible is very specific about the cost of uncontrolled anger . We would all agree that hot tempers cause arguments. Anger causes mistakes; people with hot tempers do foolish things. All of us have seen somebody really mad do something absolutely stupid and make a fool of themselves. There are all kinds of costs involved. On the job, a person who blows up will put their career in jeopardy. When we lose our temper, we always lose. We may lose our reputation, our children, the love of our spouse, or our job. When anger goes uncontrolled in our life we always lose. There's a price tag, and it's not worth it. The Bible says we can even lose our own family and finally have nothing worthwhile left. We've got to think before we speak because inevitably anger control is mouth control. If we will learn to keep our mind and heart calm we'll not be provoked easily .That's the ultimate form of emotional maturity -- the ability to control our mouth. If we are slow to listen and quick to speak we're going to be quick to anger. An impulsive person belongs to this group of people slow to listen but quick to yell ! we need to reflect before reacting ! Anger is always the symptom of the real problem.We get angry because something else is wrong: we are either hurt, frustrated, or afraid. The heart of the problem is the problem with the heart. It's not my mouth that gets me in trouble, it's my heart ! As difficult as it is, we must try not to act upon our impulses, feelings, and emotions. It is easy for us to make reactive decisions based upon how we feel, without weighing the good and the bad of a decision in a calm, rational way.Sound judgment begins with a knowledge of the scriptures. We must know what is right and what is wrong so we can have proper control of our bodies, our thoughts, and our emotions. Great training in the word of God can improve our self-control because we will have a conscience for strongly trained to warn us of wrong doing.Self-control has much to do with wanting to do what is pleasing to God. There is a war going on within us. Will we listen to what we want to do even though we know we should not do it ? Will we listen to what we know we ought to do even though we would rather do something else? Control is our choice. We exercise control when we want to. We simply need to exercise that control more frequently as we practice godliness. Jesus is saying that whatever's inside of us is what comes out. Like a tube of toothpaste…nothing comes out until we squeeze it. When the pressure is on, and we get squeezed what comes out ? Whatever is inside ! In our own power we are incapable of controlling our mouths…our tongues. Jesus Christ knows your strength and your weakness. He wants to help with both. He knows when you feel like saying: "I give up! I just can't change. I will always be disorganized and lack self-control." Does that sound like someone has been reading your mind if not your diary ? A truly converted Christian is not ready for God's Family until self-control is permanently internalized. That is, made part of our set character, and that requires giving up personal desires for the benefit of others. There are many things we would like to do, but if they are not going to be to the benefit of someone else, we should reconsider doing them.Self-control is required for entrance into the Kingdom of God. Having knowledge of God without the practical experience of self-responsibility is not enough for entrance into the Kingdom.Let us seek divine direction for exercising wisdom in what we say and what ought not to say ..

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你教人前先教你自己吧！

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