Hypersexual Narcissism and Betrayal Trauma

[@jackgoodings]

This is great. I was thinking .. in despair.. remembering .. trying to be effective at managing this with my children and my wife and last partner, dropping seeds here and there .. but to no avail because they enabled each other and I had no validity, and my 'place to go' became smaller and smaller and the tension started spilling out too much .. I ended up doing the one thing I never ever wanted to do .. I finally left. They of course felt betrayed by my leaving and all turned against me .. but never had any of them gave thought to why I left, they never owned any of it .. any suggestion that actually, I was the one who was betrayed (not sexually), time and time again, and it completely broke me .. and continued breaking me afterwards for years, the children disconnecting from me and holding no validity for me as their parent, abusive behaviour and utter disregard coming with that towards me,, until I had to emotionally disconnect from it, and finally let go of my children as their parent. That feels quite empty. I'm grateful for having had the opportunity to have been a parent, to have been part of a family (it was conditional), and to have provided as a caring and devoted husband, despite the flaws within me, manifesting at times through the difficult dynamics of these relationships that I tried my best to navigate within.

[@HisDearMissK]

Oh my gosh I'm so glad I found you all! I'm 5 yrs. with a NPD man.

[@shimonnay2487]

Very practical solutions approach. People should follow-up and comment in large numbers!

[@solomijavinogradova316]

thank you very much, Wendy! I'm a daughter of Narcissist.. still sometimes feel myself invisible, non-existent, exhaustible..with my partner.

[@NAJAlliance]

Great video. We need to hear more from you, Wendy, your perspective and expertise. Thank you!

[@amandacarter4846]

Thank you for this affirming Iand enlightening talk. I would very much like to hear Wendy's advice on second generation narcissist victims..in this case high functioning covert narcissism. It has taken me 30 years to begin understanding the impact on me of the toxic marriage I was in, thanks to Wendy and others who have given us the terminology for and put into words, what we experience(d) while under the imprisonment of narcissist partners. My grown children continue to be impacted by their father's charming but toxic influence and it plays out still as 'othering' and abusively blaming me. I have found little on this aspect of narcissism experience in the family other than the 'flying monkey' syndrome, so I would be interested in hearing from Wendy on this.

[@wendyb17]

Thank you, Amanda... very thoughtfully stated. Please feel free to email me. I made a short audio recorded reply for you but I cannot upload it here. You can find me on my website: disarmingthenarcissist.com/

[@eileensendrey5536]

So helpful, thank you

[@wendyb17]

So glad to know, thank you.

[@Truthbtold44]

Its a program demon program

[@Mom_Luvs_Tech]

Lol!! With dating apps, there’s no leverage. It’s easier to just move onto the next person.

[@willembeltman]

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