Hypersexuality in Bipolar Disorder - Why Does It Happen?

[@3devv4]

You had asked us to share experience w this... recognizing hypersexual feelings is a great way to be aware of impending mania. It sounds weird, but i used to not be able to tell until hit with the aftermath. I still can miss the symptoms sometimes. It sounds implausible, but it doesnt come on as concrete, conscious thought. i become hyper-social, have been told i am unusually charming and funny; act archly flirtatious.... social rules don't apply in this state, & I'm unconcerned with marital/relationships status, if they are a consenting adult and i fancy them i have zero shame. And zero preferences for female, male, or any other gender expression. When emotionally sober, i skew mostly straight. I also have minimal concern for self control/decency - which has been embarrassing after mania fades into drpression/shame. What i mean is i haven't been too discrete about the act or the location. What helps me immensely to minimize fallout: Correct medication Med compliance Cbt and dbt classes An understanding, nonjudgemental therapist who holds me accountable Another help is having a plan: When notice triggers/indicators of behavior, i - slow down (am usually tearing around) - shut up ( i have become glib, seductive) -get to safe space to regroup (my home, work rest- or breakroom, my car -somewhere w some privacy) - take an antianxiety med -short nap or soothing rest(have blanket, pillow in car), something calming to distract Or take walk, some physical chore If i can go home, i allow myself time to "take care of myself" as long as doesn't interfere w chores, job, relationships. I even schedule in time for this before/after work or other event, anytime i can do so discretely, in privacy of room. If have partner, i discuss w them, let them know what's going on. I let them tell me frequency they are comfortable with, and then let them reap the whirlwind! If not in relationship/seeing someone, i try to just self-please. I've found my judgement so poor during these times that, though consenting adults, it seems to always lead to trouble. If i can recognize the subtler behaviors before feelings hit, i can mitigate some of the damage. Writing frankly here embarasses me, but hope it helps someone.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

This is excellent GI! You have a lot of insight and self-awareness. That's great. thanks for being so open.

[@TheNaprika]

This all sounds so familiar. I'm the most socially engaged and charming when I am manic. I'm always looking for sex when I'm in a relationship but without being in a relationship, I please myself like crazy. I fantasize a lot until I feel a satisfying twinge or spark. I could be sat on the bus and I'm daydreaming erotica. I'm literally buzzing with sexuality. Then there comes the down swing and I cringe at how open and free I was but have learned over the years to take care of me during those times.

[@damiengonterman9616]

I can relate to all of that. One time I pleased myself 8 times, it hurt by around the 5th but I felt so uncontrollably aroused that it was a necessity. Another time I had sex with my girlfrient at the time, 6 times that day. The drastic increase in sexual drive constantly gnaws at your mind until you give in. Luckily since medication that isn't super frequent anymore. No more random unprotected sexual encounters but I do feel some days where I can go like the energizer bunny on my boyfriend still

[@jamescookjr.6374]

Ma'am I am hypersexuality when I take certain medicines or I'm in a manic phase my sex drive goes out the window it gets so high that my partner my wife cannot keep up and masterbation is the only release I can get it is true that one you are a hyper-sexual it is very hard to concentrate cuz your thoughts are always on the next ACT and who was going to be with or you could be sitting there and start thinking about your co-workers or your friends in a sexual manner and what you would not normally do

[@robynvercetti9476]

Perfectly explained.

[@Twisted_utopia]

I didn't even realize my hypersexuality was part of being bipolar. Learning all this is mind-blowing

[@disguy1801]

I thought it was from being mexican and a guy lmao

[@levrier88ify]

Same, I feel so 🤯.

[@ichangedmynameforyoutube]

Me neither! Kinda happy to hear this.

[@ichangedmynameforyoutube]

Fancy Romero , yes! Lol

[@dj2ndnature]

This was a relief to hear.

[@chillyj5042]

My gf has bp2 disorder, I’ll do whatever it takes to know she’s loved, and cared for. I’m learning something new about the disorder everyday.

[@EsotericHighway]

You're a good man.

[@chillyj5042]

@@EsotericHighway she’d do the same for me

[@EsotericHighway]

@@chillyj5042 that's good to hear. Glad to hear these type of relationships can work. I've been talking to this beautiful woman daily for 8 months and we were finally about to meet this week (she lives on the other side of the state), but she cancelled and just told me she is bipolar and afraid of deeply connecting with someone again. It stunned me honestly and is really disappointing. She has a lot of great qualities and I wouldn't judge her for it, would try to understand etc.

[@chillyj5042]

@@EsotericHighway I hear you brother, it’s a honorable thing that you’re learning about it, just be mindful man, it’s a lot to deal with. I mean that in the upmost respect to anyone who has a partner that goes through it

[@LizaLavolta]

@@chillyj5042 Does she take meds? I think I am dealing with someone who doesn't think they are bipolar, but is...

[@rensnowder7380]

I cried watching this. I have been taking depression medicine for years and it never helped. I was recently Diagnosed with BP2 mostly, I stopped lying to them. There is a freedom that comes, when you know what is happening to you. Thank you !

[@Namechange4u]

Effexor kinda works for me but im mixed out on it.

[@Namechange4u]

Maxed

[@deborahroper3694]

I will say, “been there, done that”. The guilt sent me reeling. I’ve now been celibate for 15 years. Thank you for your kindness in making this video. I replaced that issues with shopping. Now I’m trying to stop that. If I don’t shop, I binge eat during my episodes. I’m seeing someone but I don’t feel that connection with this Counselor. I actually feel a better connection with you because I have been watching your videos for a very long time. I find you very kind, truthful and very knowledgeable. Thank you for making these videos. I really do appreciate you.

[@JoyRoss]

This is so insightful for me, I too, have suffered from this so much and there’s so much shame involved. It’s so nice to know I’m not alone.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

I’m so glad this video is helpful for you. You are SO not alone with this. I hope knowing it’s an unfortunate part of the illness will help you extend yourself some grace 😊❤️

[@dixonbidenzmouth4115]

​@@DrTraceyMarksI've had the exact same symptoms of what you said in the video but only because I was on a high dose of Wellbutrin. Can you only get manic episodes from a high dose of a medication whereas otherwise you would never get manic? Thanks!

[@blinkth3dog]

9 years of bipolar hell and this is the best description yet.

[@tmayberry7559]

This comes close to describing the condition. I was classified as one the worst because my highs and low are from one extreme to the other. There's no middle ground. For me it's a seesaw. Not to mention the panic and anxiety attacks Hell😡 nobody cares anyway

[@ingridmu1]

Wow! Thank you so much for this. " You may be able to deal with that, but the people in your life won't" SO VERY TRUE!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome Ingrid!. Thanks for watching.

[@MBerry-zz7sd]

Agreed. My husband is in the process of being diagnosed with BP. Our children and I are struggling dealing with it.

[@shannonburke4963]

This was 100% accurate to how I feel during my Manic Episodes It really hit a nerve. It was good to hear someone explain it aloud

[@DrTraceyMarks]

I'm glad this was helpful Shan. Thanks for watching.

[@balozhende5727]

The majority of people with bipolar do not get this symptom. Instead, they may get really religious, really obsessive with a topic or something else. Bipolar affects different people very differently. Often lots of energy may produce a novel, etc. in those people with a writing nature. Hypomania just exaggerates one's present traits.. Many of the great writers have bipolar: William Faulkner, Ernest Hemingway, Edgar Allen Poe, Sting from the group the Police, and Robin Williams. and many others. If they do not get medical attention there is a very large chance of eventual suicide. It is best and kindest to get a bipolar to see an MD or better yet, go with that person. Only MDs can treat it, since meds are required

[@2Jersey]

I know EXACTLY how this feels !! Same religious background, raised to act like a lady and my marriage was ruined because I met someone from my teenage years who I wouldn’t even given him my time and before you knew it, I was having relations with him. I KNEW something was wrong with me but I didn’t know what exactly! I used to say I was in my madness because a VERY TRAGIC FAMILY SITUATION had occurred and I couldn’t take anymore. One day I just left. No goodbye, no nothing. I was with a person who I would never would have in my right mind give my self to let alone having a conversation. When I was coming back to myself, I tried to make it work with my husband. He told me that during those 6 months he had been with NINE different women and faulted me for it because I left! I had signed us up for couples therapy and after he told me that, I was done. Because of what was going on in my head/mind was madness, he had brought 9 different women to our beautiful house and our beautiful bed. Every time I did something, he would brow beat me with “well, you weren’t there so what was I supposed to do?” I live in a big city but because I had been hear my whole life, he was tearing me down to other people by saying I was whoring around. It was only a matter of time before my sister found out and told me what he was saying about me. I felt so hurt and betrayed because this wasn’t me! I took my marriage vows very seriously but I just could not stop the hyper sexuality and nobody knew that it was my way of causing self harm to myself. I had NEVER been, NEVER was and will NEVER whore my body out. I was in dangerous places and dangerous circumstances that I just stopped caring about anything and anyone. I was in deep and couldn’t get myself out, nor did I want to after a while. When I fully came back to myself,it was all JESUS!! I called my ex because we had already filed and was granted a divorce in 2015. When I cried out to my Lord and Savior, I knew what number to call. It was 2 am and he answered.Didn’t ask me anything but where was I at and I told him. He was there in less than 7 minutes. I was so very ashamed I got in the back seat of his car and laid down on the car floor. Once we got “home”, he still didn’t ask me anything except could he hold me. I bawled, screamed and just kept apologizing over and over and over. We were/are devout Christians and I was so very traumatized over my actions all I could do was beg for forgiveness. He said that it wasn’t important anymore and he helped me get the help that I so desperately needed. He kept repeating welcome home, welcome home, welcome home. I took a shower and just sat at the bottom letting the water just rush over me, crying and praying and wailing so much my voice went hoarse. After my diagnosis, he was shocked but said that it all made sense now. I was so happy to be diagnosed because I KNEW that something was very wrong. We remarried in 2016 and I’ve never looked back since. We’re still together now by the grace of God. I don’t take anything for granted. My story could have had a totally different outcome,ending. I never was a fan of pets let alone dogs. One day on tv I had seen that our local spca had these two little dogs that were so cute, I called my husband at work and he said we could go after he got off of work. It was there I that I found my support puppy. I’ve got a pack now with 3 and I couldn’t be happier. I still deal with my mania,depression, anxiety and being anti-social every single day. I’m a work in progress. Now that we’re both recognizing the signs, I just go to our room until it subsides. I also have a punching bag which you would not believe has helped so very much. Because of all the previous head traumas that I’ve suffered with my whole entire life, my short term memory sucks. I can remember when I was a child but cannot tell you what I did yesterday, let alone last week. I had had 4 nervous breakdowns in my life and a mini stroke with my last one. It frustrates a lot of people but I can’t focus on it because I won’t remember it tomorrow. If you’re reading this, thank you so very much! I feel so blessed that I found this channel! All of this information coming from a REAL DR.!! I feel like she’s describing me in every single video. I’d like to say: don’t ever lose hope or your faith! JESUS CHRIST IS REAL AND HE FORGIVES!! I’ve been so abundantly blessed since I got back on the right path! ALL GLORY TO THE ONE AND ONLY LIVING GOD!!

[@music0326]

Wow what a story, why did you husband have so many affairs, does he also have a mental illness? Sometimes people can get evil spirits from sexual sins, there is a prayer to cut soul ties.

[@2Jersey]

@@music0326 We weren’t together during that time, that’s about all I can say…I had hurt him deeply because I wasn’t acting like the real ME. He does not suffer from any kind of mental illness. He had needs and got them fulfilled. I don’t fault him for it. When you’re in your “madness” NOTHING ELSE MATTERS. That’s hitting ROCK BOTTOM. I couldn’t control what was going on, I just knew that something was going on that I didn’t understand. There was a very small part of me trying to understand why I was doing this & finding out YEARS LATER that it was hyper sexuality & that I had been misdiagnosed was a shock to my whole entire family. No one except my husband knew what I was battling with however we didn’t have a name for it. Being properly diagnosed has saved not only me but my entire family. Reiterating that this was TOTALLY not my nature or how I carry / carried myself. I pray for anyone who dealing and suffering from this illness. This is NOT something that you can fix by yourself, you need a team! I see my psychologist 2-3X a week & my psychiatrist every two weeks. I had to search and find what team what would great for me. Prayer, forgiveness and being on a consistent schedule with my team and medications has helped IMMENSELY!! I cannot stress how much!! Seek help! Life will not always be this way!

[@2Jersey]

@@music0326 You are absolutely correct! It was almost like I was controlled by a succubus. Deed would be done & I was still lust HUNGRY! I literally wore my partners out so I was constantly searching for a way to feel that void. I’ve never done any type of drugs, EVER! SEX was MY drug & it almost ruined my life. This is why I thank my Heavenly Father EVERY SINGLE DAY THAT HE REMOVED THAT LUST DEMON FROM ME! It CAN be DONE!

[@BOBGNARLY8]

My Ex dealing with the same thing but drinks to self medicate, does not want help, sometimes she’ll snap out of it but recently she completely went past the point of no return after something triggered it, is a completely different unrecognizable person I had to go no contact but reading your story helps me understand more.

[@Andros1990]

I'm overly sexual most of the time because the loneliness and isolation that I am in most of the time triggers my hypersexuality in my bipolar. Thank you for bringing this to light and helping to end the stigma.

[@balozhende5727]

The majority of people with bipolar do not get this symptom. Instead, they may get really religious, really obsessive with a topic or something else. Bipolar affects different people very differently. Often lots of energy may produce a novel, etc. in those people with a writing nature. Hypomania just exaggerates one's present traits.. Many of the great writers have bipolar: William Faulkner, Ernest Hemingway, Edgar Allen Poe, Sting from the group the Police, and Robin Williams. and many others. If they do not get medical attention there is a very large chance of eventual suicide. It is best and kindest to get a bipolar to see an MD or better yet, go with that person. Only MDs can treat it, since meds are required

[@issabeauty._6978]

You not alone , I’m exactly in this situation rn

[@visorrepublic]

Me too, I don't think I'm bipolar but what I do have seems to cross with bipolar like territory.

[@LiveLoveLife678]

Same

[@magicsinglez]

We should get together and talk about our shared experiences. Wait, we should share our experiences when we get together. Wait. I’ll never get laid.

[@JesstheCreative1]

This is so enlightening and would curb misjudgment if more people knew this information.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks ComedianAngel. That's exactly what this information is for - enlightenment. 🙂

[@Analysis_Paralysis]

@@DrTraceyMarks Can hypersexuality also be linked to OCD? Is there an indication that OCD can also cause hypersexuality?

[@lexc9879]

I just want to say, bless everyone that is commenting on this video with expression of their own personal situations/diagnosis. That is very brave and thank you. Sending all of you love and light thru your journey 🙏

[@patrickhorrocks4423]

Thanks so much for your compassionate comment.

[@wilkensbrito2879]

[@johannaljungqvist9359]

I just got diagnosed with both ADHD and Bipolar disorder. I was only really being "checked" for ADHD but went into a manic episode during this time which led to the Bipolar diagnosis. When they first started talking about me having Bipolar disorder I got really scared because I had heard such horrible things about it. Today I'm really glad I got the diagnosis cause it's helping me understand myself so much better, even though it's still a work-in-progress. I actually just got dumped because of the things I've done during my recent manic episode and it has left me feeling so much guilt and shame. Videos like these make me feel less alone and a little bit better about myself even though it doesn't erase the feelings completely. I really want to thank you Dr. Tracey, I appreciate your informative videos so much!

[@Fleniken]

Congrats on the diagnosis. What have you done during your manic episode?

[@nashiraayala1174]

This blew my mind because it's exactly how I'm currently feeling. Especially the lack of sleep and the mourning phase. I'm currently in that right now.

[@balozhende5727]

The majority of people with bipolar do not get this symptom. Instead, they may get really religious, really obsessive with a topic or something else. Bipolar affects different people very differently. Often lots of energy may produce a novel, etc. in those people with a writing nature. Hypomania just exaggerates one's present traits.. Many of the great writers have bipolar: William Faulkner, Ernest Hemingway, Edgar Allen Poe, Sting from the group the Police, and Robin Williams. and many others. If they do not get medical attention there is a very large chance of eventual suicide. It is best and kindest to get a bipolar to see an MD or better yet, go with that person. Only MDs can treat it, since meds are required

[@gonzogoes]

Me 2

[@donnajones8249]

I have spent years trying to understand what happened to me and why I have all of these elevated emotions and energy in my body. This information makes so much sense Thank you.

[@ThymeisoftheEssence8]

I come from a strict religious background, so the hypersexuality of my manic episodes always led to deep shaming. I've since learned that this is not something that is completely in my control, but when I see it coming I can take steps to make sure I don't hurt myself or those around me. And for me, hypersexual feelings are one of my red flags that I'm headed for a manic episode.

[@user-ij8rl4hk6k]

I can relate

[@NonPremiumID]

Mormon?

[@andreaturnquist4855]

I can relate all too well

[@girlinthesouth850]

Same!!

[@jesusmydwellingplace7282]

I can relate too

[@pacogerte14]

I've never cheated, nothing like that at all, but the guilt I feel about my libido after a manic episode is crushing.

[@berserkagain7976]

Same, I'm loyal but my masturbation levels increase to a insane level. What I've done to kind of "combat" a worse dive is not watch p0rn when it happens. The dive still happens but atleast i dont go down a weird p0rn0 rabbit hole that im going to regret badly after the episode. I do still feel shame about the constant feeling of h0rniness being constantly there though after the episode ends and my sex drive fades.

[@esha567]

Same. I never acted on those impulses but being religious the shame of what happened during the mania was intense. Spiraled straight into a depressive episode out of the mania. I am unmarried and wonder if my future partner would ever understand this. I am so afraid I might cheat when manic.

[@moneyfornothing3264]

Awe. Don’t feel bad. I’m here for you.

[@gritted]

Im glad I don’t ever feel guilt from it

[@Syndicate_Ltw]

@@esha567feeling the same way and currently going through it.. you’re not the only one. Stay strong 🔥

[@graceross16]

Thank you so much for this video! Personally, my hypersexuality took the form of compulsive masturbation. During manic periods, I would masturbate for hours--there have been times when I would masturbate for 10 hours straight. Not only would I neglect my responsibilities, but I would end up hurting my body and not realizing it until I stopped. I would also masturbate in all kinds of places and at strange times, i.e. excusing myself from classes in college to masturbate in the restroom. Once I would swing back into depression, my sex drive screeching to a halt, I would reflect on my behavior with disgust and bewilderment. "Who does that?" I would think to myself. In the beginning, I didn't know I was experiencing manic hypersexuality, as hypersexuality, in my mind, meant actual sex with actual people. Once I learned that I was bipolar and that what I was experiencing was a part of my disorder, I had much more compassion for myself.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Sorry for the late response. This comment documented somewhere KZbin filter where I couldn't see it for a while. Thanks for sharing your experience. I'm glad learning your diagnosis gave you more compassion for yourself.

[@kimmonks116]

Grace R my excessive masturbation has recently been around 6 hrs or 5 a few times..undiagnosed yet..but 8 of 10 mania and 9 of 10 depression symptoms so need to talk with doctor I think..medication etc.

[@balozhende5727]

The majority of people with bipolar do not get this symptom. Instead, they may get really religious, really obsessive with a topic or something else. Bipolar affects different people very differently. Often lots of energy may produce a novel, etc. in those people with a writing nature. Hypomania just exaggerates one's present traits.. Many of the great writers have bipolar: William Faulkner, Ernest Hemingway, Edgar Allen Poe, Sting from the group the Police, and Robin Williams. and many others. If they do not get medical attention there is a very large chance of eventual suicide. It is best and kindest to get a bipolar to see an MD or better yet, go with that person. Only MDs can treat it, since meds are required

[@Bobbijolove]

@@balozhende5727 thank you for this!

[@balozhende5727]

@@Bobbijolove You are more than welcome..

[@robertbarbosa5856]

Great Explanation at Hypersexuality among bipolar persons. If it only led to happiness and Comfort, but it is just like a momentary scape , it turns out to be a constant torment. Everyone should look for an Emotional Healing which is in fact a way to become a Happy Person. Bravo Dr. Tracey and Thanks.

[@VexedOcelot]

I suffer from Hypersexuality because of my BPD 1 and this helped me not feel so alone. Thank you

[@lonewulfmo9128]

take care your self brother. remember that its beautiful to have a beautiful character and to find peace and love for and within your self. This simple concepts have helped me in this long war within myself.

[@carltonmabrey5157]

I am currently coming out of a hypersexual manic episode. I’m now in the lethargic/shame phase. It wasn’t until I recently discovered your KZbin channel that I’ve realized what this pattern is.

[@LiveLifeLaughLoveKnow]

It is great to see you taking self-initiative to learn about your behavior and thought process. That in itself is a win. Keep learning and doing the work to improve your life and those that you love will get to enjoy a better you.

[@c.j.mackay4032]

Thank you. I’m in the shame and mourning stage. It was reassuring to hear that often after a hypersexual episode the sex drive drops to zero. That’s me right now and I often think about the recklessness of my prior behaviour and feel embarrassed. I’ve been in a depressive state for almost three years now and some days I miss the mania, I was so productive and full of love for everyone I met. Now I feel nothing. You mentioned anhedonia in another video and the description fits me perfectly. I didn’t know there was a name for it. Thank you for your videos

[@rosepemberton5262]

Bless you. The depressions are tough.

[@szililolabu]

Hope you're doing well.

[@Alicatnoscaredycat]

I have an unknown mood disorder but my mom is bipolar so I already know it’s that but this has saved my life. I am so embarrassed and fearful of sharing this information with a therapist that I never get help and I know for certain I’m repeating the same day everyday and can never keep any friends or relationships because of it. Thank you for this video because I feel better asking for help now that I know that this for certain isn’t normal and I need to address it before I keep losing more ppl

[@kmoney1007]

hope you were able to get the help you needed❤

[@isaacfrye8043]

Repeating the same day everyday is so frustrating especially when you honestly DON'T want to .....I'm trying so hard to switch it up and gain more useful fulfilling things to do with my time that a waste 😢but im on repeat

[@leikkkkkkkkkkkk5788]

Hi Dr Tracey Marks. Thank you for your informative video. I suffer from bipolar disorder after having manic episodes and being diagnoses by a clinical psychiatrist. What led me to your video at this point in time was my head feeling like it was being clamped down and the urge to engage in an addictive behaviour that just brings me shame when I'm back to baseline/able to let go of that behaviour. I feel it might be awkward putting this on a public forum but it's all honesty and I think getting out there, out of my head really helps, regardless of who reads this or not. I can always reflect on my own words at any point in the future. Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this.

[@leikkkkkkkkkkkk5788]

It's titled "Alan Watts - Overcoming Addiction".

[@justinmaxwell5685]

I am person who lives with bipolar I and also am a recovering alcoholic. This video was clarifying in many ways, and it was helpful to hear your distinction between sex addiction and manic hypersexuality. For many years now I've assumed that b/c I have an alcohol addiction, that must mean my hypersexuality is a symptom of sex addiction, but now I understand that it is linked to manic episodes. It was also good to hear you say that a depressive state does not mean nonsexual, as that was actually a question I had before you answered it. This was all so helpful, thank you! And P.S, I was cracking up at the business man's daydream, that was freaking hilarious.

[@andreaagold8719]

I’m in the middle of a manic episode. This makes so much sense. Thank you.

[@tradingequation1002]

Hi

[@tradingequation1002]

@Gg2 Hh what happened?

[@tradingequation1002]

@Gg2 Hh have a great day too

[@Jo-lp1px]

I’m amazed you can have a cohesive thought. Hope you’re ok

[@gurugyan4255]

enjoy

[@svondaimiles8919]

Thank you. You’re helping me learn more about my bipolar diagnosis every video.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You're welcome Svondai!

[@bobn5475]

The problem I have with my family member who is bipolar we plan that I will let them know when I see they are doing the top five things that let's me know they are going into a manic episode and when I tell them they are in such denial because they are feeling so good they reject that they are in a manic episode

[@aaymathebest4705]

@@DrTraceyMarks please Im waiting for your reply

[@portiavenetia9052]

Bob N, that’s not abnormal. Please try to hang in there & maybe after the mania has passed sit them down again (because their brain is more rational & we truly do not always notice our mania. I promise it’s not on purpose.) We need family & friend’s who care & prove that by sticking by our sides. As long as we are doing our part by fighting this fight & trying to get our med’s right & not quit taking them! I’ve never stopped fighting this fight & I never will. I have an amazing support team which I’m so grateful for. Good luck & God Bless

[@portiavenetia9052]

aayma the best, she can’t diagnose your daughter without seeing & assessing her. I know it’s scary, I have kid’s too & love & worry about them terribly, but you need to have her observed in a hospital with an excellent hospital rating! Sounds like she has a lot going on & is rapidly declining. She needs 24 hour observation. Good luck and God bless!

[@jadeverberne1728]

Thank you for this video! This is absolutely something I go through and it wasn’t ever anything I completely understood. My mouth actually dropped open when I saw hyper sexuality paired with bipolar disorder 😂 was so fitting for me. Sending love and support to everyone here, know you’re not alone ❤️

[@daguitarking]

What is sad is that most people going through this have been abused sexually as children. So their line of what is appropriate and what is genuine get seriously blurred. I pray for everyone's healing.

[@digidaemon]

The clearest illustration that I've encountered. Whew!!!!!! Fits to a tee. Have often felt extreme guilt over this issue but it now makes perfect sense. Thank you.

[@bernicefarrow6317]

You’re videos are finally giving me the answers to my questions. I have bipolar 1 and damn has it caused some serious damage. I’ve tried to explain that the things I’ve done didn’t make me feel good... people don’t believe and I’ve stopped trying to explain. I actually feel that in a way men used be, or took advantage of the hyper sexuality. I’m damn sure most people could definitely tell something was wrong with my behaviour even if they didn’t know the cause. Hearing you explain what’s been going on in my head as really helped me come to terms with what I’ve done. Thank you, you’ve made a big difference in my life.

[@miltonjunior2928]

I feel the same

[@lesliebenson3013]

One of the best descriptions of hypersexuality I've ever heard. Thank you for your perspective. I have been struggling with this since 2006. Many mistakes have been made. My family has been hurt and embarrassed by my behavior. I crave the company of other men eventhough I have been married for 25 years. I can never get enough. Somedays it's all I think about.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thank you Leslie. I do think this is one of the more destructive symptoms of mania that does the most damage to you and your relationships. I hope things get better for you.

[@joey1975ish]

Leslie Benson, I’m on the other side. My husband has bipolar 1 and was diagnosed after we were married. He has had several affairs while in mania and it is heartbreaking to me and dangerous to my health. What do you do to fight off these desires? Do you still feel in love with your partner at these times, fear them finding out, feel guilt, etc? I’m curious and scared because it is very hard to recover from this type of “betrayal” in my mind (even though it’s the disease). I know it’s an illness, my mind knows that, but the actions still break my heart. Any help would be appreciated.

[@joey1975ish]

Also, he is on medication, which helps, but still cycles. Do the meds help keep those desires down for you? Thanks again and I wish you well. This disease is so hard on everyone involved. 😔

[@Multisportamateur]

@@joey1975ish wow...my dad has not been diagnosed with bi-polar (but rather dementia, which I think is wrong). He has done all those things that you have mentioned to my mom...right now, he is taking lorazepam .5 mg per day. Is it helping? I dunno....

[@joey1975ish]

@@Multisportamateur I’m so sorry to hear that. It is a hard disease for the patient and the people in their life who have to deal with it. Prayers and well wishes sent your way ❤️

[@brittlee6544]

Wow… I never knew this was a thing. I always thought I was a sex addict. 😳 I seriously learned something. This was so helpful. Thank you ❤

[@hix9306]

How would you describe it ?

[@balozhende5727]

The majority of people with bipolar do not get this symptom. Instead, they may get really religious, really obsessive with a topic or something else. Bipolar affects different people very differently. Often lots of energy may produce a novel, etc. in those people with a writing nature. Hypomania just exaggerates one's present traits.. Many of the great writers have bipolar: William Faulkner, Ernest Hemingway, Edgar Allen Poe, Sting from the group the Police, and Robin Williams. and many others. If they do not get medical attention there is a very large chance of eventual suicide. It is best and kindest to get a bipolar to see an MD or better yet, go with that person. Only MDs can treat it, since meds are required

[@ServantoftheLord2007]

That’s what I thought too. I will probably never have sex again because of what these meds do to me and I started breaking what I thought was an addiction 3 years ago. No ex gfs. No new partners. I just would blow it off for religious purposes thinking I’m going to hell if I don’t get this under control. I have had a ridiculous amount of partners.

[@theguy6558]

How about we have a sit down and have an physical conversation about it

[@balozhende5727]

@@theguy6558 That is the aggravating part about the Internet. It is a poor substitute for talking with someone in person. Take care.

[@amysmith826]

I struggle with hypersexuality during hypomania. I feel it all over my body (not sure what “it” even is... desire, maybe). It becomes almost impossible to focus on anything else. I am a student, and during finals-time one semester, it took over. I spent so much time fantasizing about my professor in class that I had no idea what the lectures were on. It also makes me think about having an affair with absolute strangers. This is not anything I consider, normally.

[@berserkagain7976]

My whole lower body feels a weird buzing session and my whole body feels crazy hot it's really inconvenient becuase it litterally happens randomly.

[@doc.lightplayer8438]

Mh... So I must be bipolar 1 cause I actually did that- Fucking strangers ...

[@ItzUta_]

@@berserkagain7976 that happened to me and i end up feeling guilty to depressed

[@robertbarbosa5856]

Amy , just help yourself get out of this Emotional Instability with the help of a good Psychologist before you get into trouble with strangers, right ? Thanks and Wishing you the best .

[@aarcdlrv]

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[@mmasechabafrancescaseopa2121]

Dr. Tracy Marks, thank you for this video. Although my diagnosis is still under review because my psychiatrist is suspecting I might have bipolar. This video hit home and made sense for me. I do have a tendency of being hypersexual and later being severely depressed weeks later and feeling guilty for my hypersexuality.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You're welcome Francesca. Glad it was insightful for you.

[@thepoomug5449]

Did you get a diagnosis in the end?

[@monaie755]

I’m still learning about this and trying to put my puzzle together. In some of my manic episodes all I could think about was sex and when my partner didn’t desire me. Then all I could think about was why. I would come up with different stories in my head no matter how outlandish they where they become my truth. This is REAL!

[@KingGhostTatted]

This was an eye opener for me and I’m no longer ashamed. I’ve been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. 2 to be specific. I was diagnosed close to late last year. It was a lot to process because I had no idea how long I’ve had it. I’ve had a lot of trauma in my past and I think one severe traumatic event caused my disorder to become worse and that’s when the episodes or manias became more severe. Infidelity became an issue. Began making decisions and doing things that was out of character. And I know I’m not a cheater but during these manias I feel like it’s out of my control but me being the man that I am. I know that it’s absolutely no excuse because I can work on it so that it never happens again. That’s something I can control. I’m working on repenting because I’ve hurt so many people, mostly women, in my past. I’m on lamotrigine right now. That’s my current meditation. Pray for me and I will pray for those who have this condition as well as others who struggle with mental heath as well. God Bless

[@Inclusiverosee]

Sending infinite luv ❤ it isn’t easy out here. But just know there’s nothing wrong with you, it’s all about choices no matter how hard, we’re in control. I promise 🙏🏾

[@scottsNX]

As a recently diagnosed with Bipolar and currently in a Manic state and noticed a big change. Thank You.

[@sablewings2693]

Thank goodness for this channel, and thank heavens for you, Dr. Tracey.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Oh thank you so much Sable!

[@TheLoLzSickKidz]

I literally started flashing people when my mania got the most intense. Then after release... A depression that hits like a Speeding Semi. Knowing how creepy I acted, the shame, disgust in my actions, insecurities going nuts. Racing thoughts of all my mistakes and failures. Sometimes a boost of confidence. But that's rare. This is my experience.

[@toni5543]

I can sympathize with your friend.

[@kellyhughes5578]

I went through mania one time and I was driving down the road topless. I don't even know if anybody saw me and I didn't care. After that happened I went into guilt mode and depression and I didn't even know I had bipolar then. I felt awful, horrible.

[@freezeblizz]

Oh my, I know exactly how you feel. It’s very hard to forgive myself after the mania is gone.

[@girlinthesouth850]

I've also been into voyeurism some, too

[@HappinessTheBrand]

🤗

[@BeingBetter]

I've started to mourn the damage I'm doing while manic while I'm still manic. I'm still manic though. I wish I could control mania.

[@brucejensen3081]

You control mania before it comes mania, mostly cause you dont want the down period. Start of mania is good, but you do know where it's heading, so you need to reign things in a bit

[@dominickhernandez6914]

I have bipolar disorder, and I do not have hypersexuality. But you did an excellent job describing mania. Everything you said are my triggers, and my safety plan has them at the top of the list. Should anyone around me notice them. That safety plan had saved my life. Thank you for sharing❤😊

[@888kawehi]

Thank you so much for this, receiving this kind of information is so hard on your own. Especially when you cannot afford therapy for themselves! THANK YOUUU!!!

[@A_ree_ta]

Watching your videos and having so many “OH CRAP THAT WAS MOST OF 2018-2019” moments. Thank you for these. I’m 25 and have never gotten a straight diagnosis from any doctor, if we even get to see one. I have been on a referral waiting list for months for the Mental Health clinic here and haven’t heard from them yet. I’ve dealt with my cycling polars since I was about 15, been on so many medications and seen so many doctors, therapists, psychiatrists. But I was never ready to listen until I turned about 23. Lately, hearing professionals like you describe these things really helps me unravel so many episodes from my past. Especially since it’s near impossible to see someone rn because of the pandemic.🙏🏻💕👏🏻

[@viridianasilva4497]

Since we're sharing, I've been diagnosed for about 7 years now and it wasn't until this video I realized the different parts of hyper sexuality and the Groundhog Day example is too perfect. Ive learned so much more through your videos thank you!

[@karenkaren7529]

When you start talking about the company, about speaking with someone urgently...my first and only episode so far and hopefully the only one I have in my whole life. The shame after mania... You described exactly what happened to me.

[@authorronroberts]

The way she words things are so perfect.

[@MrZkoki]

Doctor, this way of portraying manic behavior was spot on. The examples were simple but very intuitive as well as easy to grasp for a layman, who luckily enough did not have to go through such a roller coaster of a ride due to a malfunctioning nervous system. Thank you for sharing your profound understanding, it helps more than you know.

[@sorekcazimi]

great to see this spelled out so clearly. during the year before my diagnosis i was acting out hypersexuality by having excessive sex with my partner or casual sex with tinder hookups. i also developed an addiction to posting nudes for validation, even though it made me feel bad emotionally. but the more lifelong version has always been the excessive masturbation/porn consuming/fantasizing periods. and yes, the shame afterward is so much to deal with. i have had to learn how to be more compassionate with myself about this quality of my bipolar 2. it’s also useful to remember that this is one of my earliest warning signs to oncoming hypomania. one of the ways i’m experimenting with coping is swearing off video/audio porn. erotic art only, which i find easier to manage. i also took intentional time off dating to work on old traumas and clarify what i want in relationships, so that i can’t fall into dating while hypersexual & regret the relationship when the hypomania ends.

[@AlmostReady504]

Very true explanation. In some cases a history of early sexual abuse seems to be a Common Thread. But that becomes another topic altogether. A very difficult thing to distinguish is when a person USES their diagnosis as "licence", almost a crutch to continue inappropriate behavior and poor decision-making. A living hell for their partner as well.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Yes indeed the license is not good. that's why I say once you realize what's going on, it's on you to keep your illness under control for the sake of the people in your life. if you ignore that then you're using your illness as an excuse.

[@BeingBetter]

@@DrTraceyMarks I've been trying so hard not to use my illness as an excuse, you've inspired me to want to improve. Your so gracious and intelligent and I know I can channel my manic energy into creating a good life for my husband and kids. I'm manic right now as you can probably tell. So pretty grandiose.

[@trackerbuckmann1627]

Been there. Many times. So common these days.

[@LiveLifeLaughLoveKnow]

@@BeingBetter Stay at it and keep doing the work!

[@BeingBetter]

@@LiveLifeLaughLoveKnow Yeah.

[@pamelaespinoza4396]

I love your videos! I have bipolar type 2, I feel that I usually share too much and it is hard for me to understand what I should and should not share, i just feel like im an open book.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hmmm...You kind of need to get feedback from other people on what's too much. Maybe get a good friend of a completely honest with you. Sometimes it's hard with friends because they're used to you and so they're not bothered by the things you say or they want to know the intimate details of your life. So on second thought, maybe it would be someone who's not as close to you but at least close enough to give you feedback.

[@maryjflanagan1922]

I'm same way. I have a young Goddaughter whom I trust with my life. She tells me all tbe time that I talk too damn much. Lol. She also told me to type my thoughts, then delte the text instead of o3ressing send. When with my guy friends, face to face, it's very hard for me to talk because I think about them and soaking up all of their physical attention. It's very hard to control the impulse to share because I figure that once I get stuff off my chest in writing, then, I won't have people wondering about my behavior.

[@girlinthesouth850]

Same! I also have ADHD which is a double whammy for me 🙄

[@iwantyourcookiesnow]

I’m just like you

[@remstage586]

Same

[@catmate8358]

Your explanations are so clear, concise and to the point, it's nuts. Definitely one of the best educational channels on tube. Thank you so much for taking your time to help people!

[@PioneerOcean十]

I've managed to control myself by bottling everything up and resisting temptations to indulge myself in the swamp of impulsive cravings. I'll never let myself unravel like that again. I would've became a womanizer and a drug addict if I listened to my cravings. Thankfully, I stopped doing drugs and stayed away from the hard stuff despite the kind of circle I hung with... I let myself go one time and hooked up at a party when I was younger. Now I stay away from romance and burn bridges with any potential partners who take interest in me. After everything I've been through and put others through, I'd rather suffer in silence than setting myself on fire and burning everyone around me. I know this is unhealthy and will take a toll on my life, but it is what it is. When you hit a breaking point after diving deep into yourself and assessing the madness within you, you come to a realization that life has so much potential and everyone is a manfestation of something much more beautiful. So while suffering sucks, you learn a lot and I'll do anything to not contribute to the devlish influences that plagues this world

[@douglasmathews4647]

Thank you for honestly stating your feelings; I definitely identified with your experiences.

[@apronsandmagnolias]

You deserve love and companionship no matter what your mental state is. I hope you find people that will love you exactly as you are. It isn’t a matter of what’s wrong with you, it’s a matter of what happened to you. You deserve to have people in your life your life that make you feel there’s nothing wrong with you, but instead have compassion for what happened to you. ❤

[@clintonnagy1662]

I can relate 💯. Recently broke up from a 2 year relationship with a narc-boderline female that created alot of turmoil in my life. I'm rebuilding my life but fear ruining the next relationship because I lost so much. I don't trust any women, and prefer to stay alone. I see myself as the problem that created the downfall, and stay away from family and friends to prevent drama. I've been in counseling, and reassured many times it's NOT me but I look in the mirror and reminded I can't sustain healthy relationships. I'm 51 and don't have much time to rebuild, nor do I want to.

[@PandemoniumVice]

Thank you. I've been in therapy for 7 years, but I think I've learned more about my conditions in the past couple months from your channel than I learned from my therapists or psychiatrists. They were very poor at explaining things, and the highly professional environment was too intimidating for me to ever ask for further clarification on many subjects. I'm in the beginning stages of a manic episode (Bipolar I) and from my baseline sexual habits, I've increased some 400-500% in the past two weeks. It gets overwhelming and causes further issues with completing my coursework on top of the college being shut down over the pandemic.

[@teetyme3543]

I feel so much shame because I know I exacerbated these symptoms because of my terrible insomnia, which lead to HEAVY addiction to sleeping pills. Sometimes up to a whole medication bottle in a 24 hour period, which has rewired my brain chemistry so completely that I let the shame stay and spread until I am one big ball of all of my failures. Today has been hard. So thanks for this, thanks for understanding me a little bit. Your content is important and impactful. 💝

[@eternalpoint]

I have had rapid cycling bipolar for past 6 years where I continuously cycle between short hypomania 1- 2 weeks and longer depressions 3 weeks - 3 months. Before my diagnosis I had longer episodes and experienced 3 manic episodes in a period of 10 years with each manic episode lasting months and dramatically changing my life. My first manic episode manifested as religious mania , my second and third manic episodes were both hypersexual mania. Bipolar has been like living several different lives in one lifetime. It is amazing how much we are slaves to our brain chemistry.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi Laura. Thanks for sharing your experience. Yes we have one brain to rule them all! 🙂And it is powerful - more than many people appreciate until like you, it takes you a place you don't want to go. I'm sorry things have gotten to the point of rapid cycling for you. I have an upcoming video on rapid cycling. I talk about some of the things that can trigger people to have frequent switches. I just read an article this morning about nitrites in prepared meats (like hot dogs) triggering manic episodes. Who knew! Go figure. That's not in the video though because I just read that today. Stay tuned.

[@eternalpoint]

@@DrTraceyMarks I am vegan so not the too much meats for me. Sleep deprivation is definitely a huge factor. The one best tool to avoid mania getting out of control is getting enough sleep. Mood stabilisers do not work at all for me but having a medication that forces me to sleep has helped me avoid full blown mania for many years. I use Quetiapine for sleep as I am very sensitive to quetiapine. In depressions usually just 25 mg is enough to knock me out but in hypo mania or mixed states I have taken up to 400mg to force sleep. I recently had a 5 month period of predominant depression and I had to increase to 100mg for a month when depression became more high energy agitated type. I then flipped back in to higher mood and am now again experiencing rage and hypersexuality. It feels like being drunk but I have not touched alcohol for over a month. It is not pleasant, as you say it is like an itch that can not be relieved. The energy is almost like a fizzing electricity running through veins. I can't get any help because my psychiatrist has removed bipolar diagnosis based on the fact she thinks all bipolar people end up psychotic in mental hospitals and that is the only kind of mania she counts as mania. It is staggering how much ignorance there is even among so called experts. She has over 20 years NHS experience and is still clueless. I am still making myself sleep though and that is how I plan on stopping hypo mania progressing into full mania.

[@namastesilence5230]

@@DrTraceyMarks Our second brain: gut. Please make a video on that topic, thank you immensely for your help! 🌸

[@Alice-sj9or]

@@eternalpoint You had separate religious and hypersexual episodes. Now imagine a combo of two lasting for 6 months straight 🤦🏼 I still can't recover from that nightmare.

[@portiavenetia9052]

You are NOT KIDDING when you say “Bipolar has been like living several different lives in one lifetime.” Should be a famous quote!!!! 😂 Never in a trillion years did I think in my 30’s I’d be dealing with this after a severe car accident that left me with a traumatic brain injury on my right temple lobe. I never know whether it was always laying there under the surface waiting to come out, or was strictly caused by the head injury. It’s the damn question “what came 1st, the chicken or the egg?” For me, lol. I wish you & everyone with this shitty disease the blessing of strength & gift of sound mind as much as possible 🙏🏼

[@mistytshilonda371]

This was so helpful. I’m rarely in. The mood, but the hyper-sexuality is usually the first symptom for me.

[@ItsMyArtSpace_0]

Holy Moly! This is the truth! I could never really explain it to my husband or anyone else. Thank you for this and all your videos.

[@darkchildstarship2972]

Wow. So I'm not alone, my ex had me thinking I was crazy. I loved her the whole time, I'm just bipolar af! So much til where I will throw it all away! Lord help us

[@nonameandplants6130]

I did the same over and over but thankfully I have a man that can take alot b for snapping him self

[@ThePulaskiPumper]

We are kind of crazy. It wasn't her job to put up with that thats a path you need to walk down yourself

[@briankimmell7960]

Thank you. Perfect non humiliating explanation of this condition. 🤗

[@ashleyb420]

Thank you for this. I’ve been watching your videos to help me understand my partner’s bipolar diagnosis better. I suffer with my own mental illness but it’s so different than his. This has been a concern in our relationship before and your descriptions fit him to a T. It’s nice to know that this a symptom of his diagnosis as opposed to a condition itself. Since my illness makes me hyposexual(?) it’s hard to understand when he has these episodes since I have been viewing them as “not normal”.

[@lannychow9732]

Thank you for all your videos. They really help me understand better about myself, my mood swing and depression and more importantly, better self-awareness and managing the up-down cycles.

[@ottergirl1913]

Thank you, thank you, thank you for addressing this. No one told me about this, so when it happened to me, I went crazy. I didn't know it was part of my mania, and I felt guilty. FINALLY, my therapist mentioned that it was part of my mania after months of therapy, and I exclaimed WHY DIDN'T YOU TALK TO ME ABOUT THIS BEFORE?!

[@paper-chasepublications9433]

Accurate description from my personal experience. The fact that you were on the computer was hilarious!😂

[@whatsnewwithnastassia7524]

My ex never told me that he was diagnosed with bipolar depression until we broke up. He cheated on me and moved in withy the lady he cheated on me with. He made a tinder and my sister found his profile and knew a girl he slept with. It really made me hate him until he told me what was going on. I still feel hurt but I wish him the best. I don’t think I could do that again with him. It hurt way too much

[@bitterapple]

I had a similar experience with my ex husband. He cheated on me with almost 20 people! Plus the porn, the drinking, irritability and dozens of other things. He was so obnoxious but I had no idea might be bipolar. It was only after the breakup that a psychiatrist I started talking to about my cPTSD educated me about atypical/type 2 bipolar disorder. He was convinced my ex was very likely to have it.

[@Hithere-dc2qx]

I personally don't think these people deserve a pass because they have a diagnosis. It is the best to love your enemies and wish them well though. And pray for them, like Jesus preached. But we don't deserve to be victims of their demonic nature's, and that is what they are.

[@kimmieann316]

Everything you described is me in bipolar disorder and I definitely feel the shame when I come down from mania and go back to my usual self. When I crash from mania I go into depression. I’m so wreckless during hyper sexuality 😩

[@JoshB_17]

Makes us good in bedroom tho 😅

[@Springfield530]

Bro . Wtf. Is wrong with me lolol

[@lonewulfmo9128]

I'm an African man living with bd. I hope u faring on well. I walk while looking at the ground and keep distance physically and emotionally from women even when my body is screaming, burning and my heart jumping out noticing attractive people. I especially avoid getting too close to ladies living with Bipolar Disorder coz 2 minds w poor judgement not good combo. I avoid talking to female friends late into the night. There times your body will feel out of control but it is possible gradually learn to moderate oneself though total control is hard. Im working on progressively denying myself physical encounters. All the best.

[@lylturningpoint3358]

​@@JoshB_17Bro my GF is bipolar and it's exhausting.... But her hypersexuality is worth it 😂🎉

[@jordanechols2425]

Wow! This video is EXTREMELY helpful!! I've always known I was hyper sexual and have been trying to supress my sexuality because I would always feel terrible towards sex after my episodes. What I NEVER realized until this video was the mania! I had to check in my ego during this video to realize that I have other problems to work through that isn't even related to sex! It just so happened that there was a culmination of factors going on and the unfulfillment of sex created a perfect storm of losing myself down a whole of misguided intentions and seeking something I would never reach no matter how deep down I went........but I have hope because this has allowed me to see myself more for who I am and truly learn what it is I'm missing in my life or spirit. Thank you for this!!

[@juliarose889]

This is by far the best way all around to describe bipolar, our mind, and hyper sexuality.

[@juanitagooden6052]

Thank you for this information. I am so ashamed of my actions when I become hypersexual and have no control. I would be the last one to have thought I would meet a man I didn't know at a hotel and etc., I could not stop and true tunnel vision. I told no one for a long while because of my shame. And it has caused me problems!

[@tybennion1]

Ex gf was sexually assaulted before we met. During our relationship she barely wanted to be intimate. When we broke up after telling me she wanted space to heal, she turned to sleeping w/ multiple people almost immediately. I feel crushed.

[@samthecloser]

They’re never yours. It’s just your turn.

[@frankieragnarok8437]

Look ahead. You might meet several more people you care about just as much. Be strong enough to realize the relationship doesn't define you as a person. And don't let your ego evaluate the situation. Sometimes it's a them thing... Not a you thing.

[@benfelps]

you can’t control other people

[@dr.pacohintonjr.8988]

Excellent topic and excellent work. Many won't touch on this topic, and often for good reason. Few understand how real and challenging it is to be in this predicament.

[@King-Maelstrom-the-Esoteric]

I am glad to have found your channel. You seem to really know what you're talking about, which in my experience, is very rare. You also seem to care, which again, is rare.

[@markg.3214]

Thank very much for this very insightful video Dr. Marks. I'm in my late 20s and was diagnosed with bipolar 1 disorder last year by a psychiatrist, although I've been living with this disorder for a long time but didn't know. It's created a lot of issues in my life, almost devastating and unrepairable. I tried a couple meds for a few months and they weren't helping, instead had very bad side effects shortly after starting them. So I decided to get off them completely and I haven't been on any meds since Sept 2020. Since then my life has been improving and I've been making major lifestyle changes including a keto diet, intermittent fasting, reading more on health and nutrition, and breathing exercises. I'm also trying to learn more about bipolar 1, especially so I can watch out for early signs of both manic and depression episodes and mitigate/avoid them as much as possible. Since I was a young boy I've been hypersexual, or at least highly aroused very often. As I've got older, I'm even more hypersexual. I've been masturbating and watching porn since I was 13, and I'm trying my best to quit both, especially porn as I believe it's destructive for my brain, mind and life. I have a very important question. I've never been diagnosed with a sex disorder, but I've also never spoken to a doctor about it. When I become manic, I get very hypersexual, to the point where it's almost impossible to control my urges, I lose impulse control and have poor judgment leading to poor decisions - at times it'll lead me to sexual encounters with strangers. I also find myself fantasizing a lot about sex. So my question is this - is it possible to have hypersexuality disorder separately and in addition to bipolar 1 disorder? Also I've been diagnosed with OCD and GAD, both of which I was fully aware of for a long time. Even when I'm not in a manic episode, I still feel highly aroused very often, but I have better impulse control and better judgement. So I'm just not sure if my hypersexuality is a symptom caused by manic phases in bipolar disorder or if I also have hypersexuality disorder.

[@michaelgrayson2731]

its hell. a impulse that rides you until done and then the guilt at 20 i could often handle it. but at 50..no way. kills relationships.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Very true. I think people are more likely to expect the behavior at 20, but see it as over the top at 50.

[@maryjflanagan1922]

I'm 50 and a widow for several years. Very hard to date. Very hard to be understood.

[@JSNurFRND]

@@DrTraceyMarks please I need your help can you be contacted directly

[@arjangoljahanpoor7121]

@@JSNurFRND remember there are lots of more professionals like her and u can get help for yourself, I know its hard but try to reach for help🙏🏼

[@dirkdiggler3741]

I thought something was wrong with me and her. Didn’t know this was an actual thing. I bought my wife different types of toys to get her where she needed to get the toys helped out a lot.

[@richettewalton5681]

thanks for helping me get an understanding. its scary how the symptoms you describing sounds like me. these bipolar episodes ruined my life and relations with people. im struggling trying to manage

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi Richette. Gaining insight and understanding is the beginning of getting a better handle on your illness. I have a bipolar playlist where I grew up all of my videos that are related to bipolar disorder. I’ll continue to add to it. Bipolar playlist goo.gl/1hKamL

[@gabriellaj.o.6180]

I really like what you say. Hypersexuality destroys women and their reputations and their relationships. It's an awful thing to happen. Feel deep sympathy for those that have it.

[@oftin_wong]

Other women destroy women and their relationships

[@johnnyschaffer1971]

You are right because some women out there that I know are having sex with many guys and they are making a HUGE MESS OF THEIR MARRIAGE ..

[@JustinStoneMusic]

You nailed this

[@tierralewis8506]

I have been diagnosed with bipolar one disorder, and when I am manic, this is how I feel. It is a good feeling to watch a video of you explaining hypersexuality and understanding the symptoms. I tell you, it's incredibly challenging to manage the illness sometimes, but I have had a lot of therapy to help me radically accept and cope with it. Thank you for your videos. ❤🫶

[@boebender]

Wow!! Mind blown!! If only we focused on this rather than judgement. Think of all the celebrities and wealthy people who may not be “bad people” as the gossip columns say but may just be people out of touch with their mental and emotional wellness. Thank you!!!!

[@ontariporatam666]

Thank you for humanizing this. Lot of respect to you ❤️👏🏽

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You're so welcome! Humanization is definitely something this illness and it's symptoms need.

[@jheneloves08]

Being diagnosed bipolar and your explanation of hyper-sexuality explains a lot in my manic times. I was diagnosed at 15 I’m 25 now and it got to the point where I thought I may have had a sex addiction. On medication now and In treatment but this video explained a lot to me

[@balozhende5727]

The majority of people with bipolar do not get this symptom. Instead, they may get really religious, really obsessive with a topic or something else. Bipolar affects different people very differently. Often lots of energy may produce a novel, etc. in those people with a writing nature. Hypomania just exaggerates one's present traits.. Many of the great writers have bipolar: William Faulkner, Ernest Hemingway, Edgar Allen Poe, Sting from the group the Police, and Robin Williams. and many others. If they do not get medical attention there is a very large chance of eventual suicide. It is best and kindest to get a bipolar to see an MD or better yet, go with that person. Only MDs can treat it, since meds are required

[@lonewulfmo9128]

Hi there. I hope you are ok. I always wondered if hyper sexuality comes out the same for women with bipolar as it does for men with bipolar. I always assumed it would be a bit less intense for women w bd. Im fighting a day at a time with bd and with hyper sexuality. It violates my core as to who i want to be but it is as it is. dont know what ill do when i grow old.

[@mimic9763]

I realized that I get hypersexual every spring and it follows by a deppression thru the summer. I'm 41 and have had two divorces due to this so I'm kind of wounded and afraid to be in a relationship. That was before my diagnosis and now I'm gonna talk to my doctor when I see the early signs. I find myself logging on to Tinder whenever i get Hyper sexual and thats a no no but i cant fight it it seemes. Thank you for this channel, it has given so many answers and tips that I've used and I'm so grateful to them.

[@analynricafort5976]

is it true that when in the manic episode of hypesexuality you can no longer think right? even if you hurt your husband? Letsay i caught you already, but the next day you will do again.

[@supremeboss1874]

Its almost spring time where are you we need to talk

[@nancyearley8311]

Thank you SOOO much Dr. Marks! I use your videos to practice talking in a more relaxed professional way to people like medical doctors who tend to tune me out if I say too much. You have such a wonderful bedside manner!

[@AriannCavazos]

❤ This is me! I was feeling shame and did cheat, now I know the signs to look for! Thank you so much❤

[@DrMohamedElSherif]

Very nice and fruitful video. Keep up the good work and best of luck

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much Dr. El-Sherif!

[@CheebsCheeby]

My disorders have literally cost me everything. REALLY tired of existing this way.

[@uniquemind7746]

I feel you bro smfh I was sexually abused so from a young age so that’s what caused it smh it was a older girl she was 11 or 12 and I was about 6 or 5 give or take probably younger I’m trying to get myself together now and it’s the hardest thing ever smh 🤦🏽

[@ThePulaskiPumper]

Trauma doesnt cause bp.​@uniquemind7746

[@Isidro-xw7vd]

Bro I feel like crying! 😭 Its difficult getting a job because of a bad record! I turned myself in when I was depressed and now it's affecting my life a lot! I turned myself in and I still feel bad! Outwardly it seems I'm a good, funny, and social person. If only they knew! I feel God can't even forgive me.

[@Isidro-xw7vd]

​@@uniquemind7746 I'm so sorry this happened to you. I know of someone with same story and it's like we both understood our "craziness"! We didn't even judge each other. Two broken people trying to act normal. It happen to me too at 6-7 years old. Mine was aggressive because the a-hole would crush my privates. He was also drunk and he did it in front of everyone. Nobody helped me. It hurt like hell and he would just laugh and I would run and hide. My dad whooped my ass whenever it was holiday parties and I wouldn't want to go.

[@joshuamaulden9084]

I was the same way I keep meditating got with a good teacher and I can’t believe the person I am today don’t lose hope

[@HOMER122767]

Thank you for this information. I never could understand this part of my bipolar episode . Thank you for helping me to see this part of me.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome Charles. I’m glad it was helpful for you.

[@SylviaKift]

Oh! Yes. It sure has happened to me! You have explained it so well! Thank you so much! Now I don’t feel so bad about myself!

[@CuriousSoulCanada]

Really good explanation; I see this as poor energy management due to the manic episodes when the survival mode kicks in. Dealt with one person who had childhood trauma and that led to some form of bipolar. But it is deeper than this. It is part of the narcissistic behavior due to lack of Love and not learning the emotional language of Love during the early years, all leading to automatic responses of seeking pleasure especially during the manic episodes when they can spare extra energy that is now used to chase dopamine generating activities. I am not a doctor, just a construction worker

[@theplaintruth4794]

You said it so well. I am binging on these videos because this is a time of year when I reflect, and think about how I ruined my marriage. I'm schizoaffective and have a lot of regrets. I wish I knew then what I now know. Feeling that my entire body was suddenly electrically charged, partnered with some powerful delusions, led to some activities that I wish I could erase from my past. My husband divorced me, after years of trying patiently to understand and work with me. He was easier on me than I was. In a manic state, I had zero judgment and only acted on my urges. If I was off my medications, look out! It always seemed to put me right back in the psych ward. Ground Hog Day is a good analogy. I "felt like" I was supposed to have sex with someone, and would just do it. Rarely would my target realize I wasn't "right" and refuse my advances. Later, I would tell my husband because I needed him to help me! Medications are getting much better, is there one that can erase memories about the things we've put our bodies and loved ones through? Thank you for this video. I've done so many unspeakable things, and they continue to weigh on me.

[@michaelmcmillan1425]

Did you catch any Stds?

[@theplaintruth4794]

@@michaelmcmillan1425 No, thankfully I did not.

[@YoNevNo]

​​@@theplaintruth4794I have some questions. How was sex with your husband like? Was sex the best when you had it with your husband? Or because sex with different people is better you sought after those experiences more? How often do you have sex with your husband or partner? I'm sorry for being rather blunt with my questions, but I seem to keep attracting hypersexual women and I want to know what to look out for if I end up being in a relationship with one of them or maybe I can avoid some things. Still, I'm willing to work through their possible illness with them if I do end up being with one. I thank you so much in advance.

[@sideburn260]

This is still hard to talk about. I met this girl in a support group. Her name was Anna. She was diagnosed as bipolar 2. When I first met her, she was immediately attracted to me, always being intimate with me, buying me gifts, just always showering me with love and affection. This has been going on for two years and she was always in and out of the hospital and on nine different types of medication to treat her illness. It finally came to ahead when she came off her mania and became like a different person. She didn't seem to remember being all lovey dovey with me and avoided me like the plague. When I tried to like rekindle what we had, she and her father made me out to be a stalker and had me thrown out of the support group. I've been hurt and angry with her for a long time because of it.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Gosh I'm sorry sideburn. Maybe this helps you understand a little more of what was going on, but it's still hard to deal with being on the receiving end of this. It's not like you would have known this was illness driven. Thanks for sharing your experience.

[@Charlabog]

I am 20 and just now being diagnosed with bipolar. This is very helpful information and shines so much light on issues I’ve had for a long time.

[@Radvapordeath]

Amazing video . Explained at an elementary level with grace

[@theopolisIII]

Omg you just explained exactly what I experience, I have been trying be more aware and figure what the root was. My manic depression is exactly this, thank you for sharing this. I can speak to my doctor about this

[@remcomon]

I want to thank you so much for your great content. This is really helpful. I am having a manic period right now and the hypersexuality kicks in. I will go to my therapist to tweak the medication. Thanks for your help and by the way, you are a beautiful person inside and out. 😘

[@kimstolzman2085]

Before my bipolar was stabilized I had a shopping problem while manic. I’d spend and spend but never feel satisfied. I started applying for credit cards online constantly, I’d get a high in the time waiting to see if I was approved. I’m stable now, but I’m still cleaning up all the debt I racked up.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi Kim. Thanks for sharing. I call this time the clean up after the storm. Glad you're stable now.

[@steveboone1498]

@@DrTraceyMarks wouldn't that be considered as shopper's remorse?

[@Chipster988]

How did you stabilize it?

[@smilesnluvd6526]

@@steveboone1498 It's not quite the same. It's the same type of impulsivity, that's discussed in the video. There is no thought of the consequences because the brain is in a different space. Spending all night online shopping or buying two houses in the same day (I have heard of a person that did this) and regretting a purchase are far from each other.

[@girlinthesouth850]

My thing is I'll buy and buy, and then return and return lol 🙄

[@veraanderson4342]

I got married 15 years ago to a wonderful man and soon after I was diagnos d with bipolar disorder..the next decade involved medication adjustments, hospital stays, doctor visits and alot of prayer. My faith in God was strengthened and my husband supported me through it all. The drawback was that the medication affects my sexual libido but we manage. I wouldn't dream of cheating on him and I don't even fantasize about others. I'm content with everything because of my faith. Thank you Doctor, for the video!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome! Thanks for sharing your experience. All the best to you.

[@healthyone100]

i hate to say this either god doesn't hear our prayers or he doesn't exist!

[@8v71buses]

Vera Anderson Thanks for sharing and I’m joyful for you. Keep up the great work and God bless

[@8v71buses]

Zachary Theriault Oh no worries the attention seeking trolls couldn’t wait to read her comment and then get completely off subject talking about how they don’t believe that there a God and they were looking for an unnecessary debate while they did it too. The point and the fact is that it’s her story and things are working out for her and that has absolutely nothing to do them or their opinionated atheistic beliefs lol

[@melodyrogers9473]

@@healthyone100 Hello Dominick. I know it hurts to even think that God doesn't care for us enough to hear our prayers. He most certainly does care for you. He gives us the privilege to talk with him in prayer whenever, wherever we want. If you think about it: How can we talk to someone and build a relationship with someone if we don't know their name? A friend you don't call by their name? God has a personal name, Jehovah. (Psalm 83:18). If you're familiar with the Lord's Prayer, Jesus was praying to his Heavenly Father, Jehovah. Asking for his (God's) name to be sanctified or honored above every other name that exists. (Matthew 6: 9-13).

[@Shortkonner]

Well. I'm bipolar ii and bpd and is very hypersexual. This video is older to many of you but new to me today. I'm glad you are covering this doctor, thank you.

[@cynthiaboyd1710]

Hi there Dr. Tracy Marks! Thank you for your content and all that you personally bring to the table *so to speak* with your upbeat personality and humor!