I am in love with a non muslim man | Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem

[@afsahshaikh9902]

That is a very difficult situation for her. May Allah give her strength to make the right decisions

[@irfanhabib-yx2qm]

This is not difficult situation. This is her fault. Any muslim female shouldn't see a non Muslim man in a way that it can create a negligible felling of attraction for that man, who is a kafir, and making Allah every second angry. And Allah is the one who feed him, and who gives infinite blessings to him, in spite he deny Allah.

[@afsahshaikh9902]

@ I quote Ustad Nauman Ali khan. Allah revealed the commandment for hijab after 6 years. Allah could have revealed it in the very first ayah. But did not and theres a reason. Because it is not easy. It is a struggle. I acknowledge my shortcomings but you dont know whats in my heart. When you bully a woman into wearing hijab all you do is driver her away from it. Internet is a place where you dont know a person fully well or their situation, you should not pass out comments on a whim without considering the consequences. Think well before you advise next time. A womans hijab is her own business not yours. Remember that. May Allah guide you

[@afsahshaikh9902]

@ I also quote Mufti Menk. Allah says never point out another’s shortcomings. Because Allah knows your shortcomings. What you did was point out my shortcoming in public with no regard to Islamic teaching.

[@afsahshaikh9902]

@ If you have no regard to Islamic teachings other than making a woman wear hijab. What does that say about you?

[@Zeeshankhan8888.]

@@afsahshaikh9902 If you recognise then it's fine, I just reminded you that it is incorrect if you accept it was your choice whatsoever just be careful !

[@zenastronomy]

don't worship love. be careful. we worship Allah not love. kafirs worship love, because they have removed Allah from their hearts and this leaves them empty and searching for a replacement. they will never find it in love or lust.

[@difencrosby]

So is so true. Before I converted to Islam I would love a woman but she would not love me, then I would not love a woman and she would love me. I could never find a match. After my conversion to Islam I came to understand relationships with the opposite is not about love. Love comes secondary after marriage. And I also learned it’s only through Allah that two people can fall in love.

[@fai3379]

​@@difencrosbyHow could you say love come after marriage.They are lots of marriage couples who had a relationship with each other before marriage.Later they got married and they also have sucess marriage life. But in todays world lust is scene in everywhere.I don,t think there is no problem start relationship with someone with hoping of marriage him/her. Anyway it is very good if they do it with blessing of both parents.They are girls boys who has love affair for many years sometimes it may be in school days,university days. Their parents also know it. So they don,t meet secretly which can led to different things in lust First of when people are tees they feel opposite attraction it is normal thing ,but teenage is not suitable age to start affair and marriage. Because they are lots of couple who marry early and unsucess full in marriage .in ancient no problem Although they marry early live together for long, But if you see today divorce and separations many marriage in their late teens and early 20s So people understand each other before marriage,it is must not against parents secretly, If it is few years it is good, Propose and engagement and marriage very soon What a noncence, Those good if you marry your cousin, So it is good for that time.

[@fai3379]

​@@difencrosbynoncence they are lots of people who love before marriage and they love and happily live after marriage too. If love start after marriage if that marriage happened out of love, If that marriage happened because of understanding and know each for a little time, After marriage those people will attract to 3rd person, So marriage spouce must behave to grew love of other person, If it is not they may start love, If it is not just fear to do sin Loving someone other than husband and wife, But if marriage fails If unhappy people star it although it is not good Because love is feeling it can happened any time, But couples must be in love for grew love for each other,specialy women because if wife is boring many men search love from outsiders . Women too but they not take such a step because of kids and fear of society.

[@utubebeena]

The fact that she sought advice is prove of her strong iman. Maa Shaa Allah. May Allah enjoin her with a good life partner, Aameen.

[@3fammy]

Brutal.. He gives me chill I'm grateful i got the chance to listen to him live.. Alhamdulillah

[@TheNishatjahan]

You will forget him as years pass by.....Its not a big issue.

[@thespacebar3928]

She should just remember their underwear carry shitstains. If she doesn't care about the fact that she becomes a kafir if she breaks the oath.

[@Saa42808]

Stop watching Hollywood 😂

[@Riz1akarizla]

Bollywood you mean she sounds Asian 😂

[@Ahdab-da]

If this was a man marrying a non muslim "kaffira" you wouldn't be saying that now wouldn't you

[@zabiabdulhady7408]

Salam alaikum to all. This is in the Quran in sort al Baqarh that Allah JWA says, do not get married to a non believing man even if he pleases you and the same for a non believing woman. And then Allah SWT continues. They will invite you to jahannm and Allah JWA in his all greatness and kindness, inviting you to Jannah... May Allah SWT guide us all on the straight path, ameen ya Rab

[@me78723]

Allah swt is the best protector. Please listen and trust.

[@Evilmaalikkkk]

Listen sis!I understand what you are going through.Maybe this is a test for you.If you want to stick to the religion just pray he also comes towards light and become a Muslim or else.If you can marry him and dont want to marry someone else it is ok not to marry.Maybe you will find someome better from your own religion with passage of time.Dont be hard on yourself.we all have feelings and their is nothing wrong with them

[@Fa-uk5fb]

She obviously didn’t get the answers she wanted to hear. You can see her tone go on a downer. Stop listening to the whispers of Iblees and stay within the fold of Islam. May you be blessed if you do

[@hafsa1106]

May Allah grant you better sister! May Allah grant you the best leader for yourself and family ❤aameen

[@mohduvesh3757]

Quran (2:221): "And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe. A believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even if she pleases you. And do not marry polytheistic men to your women until they believe. A believing slave man is better than a polytheist, even if he pleases you. They invite you to the Fire, while Allah invites to Paradise and forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes His signs clear to the people so they may take heed."

[@Tanjirokamado_19]

If he converted to islam good for u. . If not u av to forget him.

[@zenastronomy]

do you love him more than Allah? do you love him more than your future children's akhirah? will you always love him more than Allah 50 years from now? will you always love him more than your future children in 50 years time? know that if you marry him against Allah's wishes, you will have chosen him over Allah. and you will have chosen him over your children, who will become kafir like him. Allah is better and your children deserve better.

[@Shadow4209]

Just like the Sheikh said, this guy is a Kafeer. All you can do is ask him to accept Islam or find a good Muslim who will be much much better than a Kafeer. Sharia or your desires, you choose that dear sister.

[@durayusoff5328]

thanks sheikh , this happen to me before , im in loved with a kafir non - muslim man & he dont want to convert to islam & for that is Haram relationship for me to continuing loving him bcoz he dont wants to convert to islam ,

[@Play-ik5co]

Vice versa the genders and my case was same Alhamdulillah by the grace of almighty Allah i have overcome the situation All glory to the master! The most merciful the most beneficial and the most loving!

[@alishcolak]

The question was misunderstood here. The sister had no plans to marry the man but also had no plans to not marry anyone besides him.

[@rhniloy9590]

He understood the question alright, he just gave her a reality check and showed her where her true alliance lies.

[@abdulabdella5296]

There’s 2billons millions Muslims men and you choose to fall in love with a non Muslim I don’t feel sorry for her

[@Shinobu2506.]

That is not a choice,love just happens

[@abdulabdella5296]

@ it is a choice everyone has to a choice no one forced to to be with him

[@abdulabdella5296]

@ some way I choice to be with a Muslim women or non Muslim women blain and simple

[@lone_wolf2453]

May Allah help her.

[@weightlossrecipebymoon7755]

First you have to pray for him may allah give hime hedayat..

[@Damiab-t5b]

Muslims are not better than others believers. Try to respect other religions. This girl should follow her feelings because having a muslim husband doesnt mean he is gonna be better.

[@zenastronomy]

our religion is clear. yes islam is better. even if individuals Muslims aren't. and Allah is better than all of humanity. No Muslim in their right mind, would abandon Allah for dhunya or for all of humanity, let alone one.

[@SMD3586]

There's a 99.9% chance that kafir will end up making u kafir

[@enterdatprison4458]

then explain why all muslims will be in heaven eventually, and all non muslims will be in hell, being punished for an eternity?

[@Damiab-t5b]

@enterdatprison4458 thankfully only muslims believe in that other 5 bilions think differently

[@jenerella1609]

@@enterdatprison4458 so if someone is not Muslim they will go to hell? There are many Muslim people out there who are doing worse things than non Muslims. If you’re a Muslim, I feel very sorry for you and your mentality. Get off of KZbin and go read your Quran and pray for some common sense.

[@elayemedidris7282]

As salaw wa aleikoum Sheikh, as knowledgeable about the deen as you are, saying that he is a dweller of Hellfire is completely false. Only Allah knows where each soul will go. To say that is a very grave thing in Islam. Anyone saying that they know where anyone will go in the Hereafter is committing a grave sin. Please be the example you already are and avoid saying this

[@SandiegoRockstar]

"Allah has promised the hypocrites, both men and women, and the disbelievers an everlasting stay in the Fire of Hell-it is sufficient for them. Allah has condemned them, and they will suffer a never-ending punishment." - Quran 9:68

[@userfriendlyforever]

@SandiegoRockstar Agreed but god can give him hidayah as well.

[@ashramhalireen2483]

​@@userfriendlyforever Sheikh said "if he doesn't accept islam" right after saying he's dweller of hellfire

[@SandiegoRockstar]

@userfriendlyforever yes, and till then, he is a resident of hellfire.

[@User80066]

Sheikh has said he is a dweller of hell fire, if he doesn't accept islam, "if he doesn't accept islam". Now what is the problem there, sheikh has said the right thing.

[@HabibiDubaiKittyAbdulBenjoh]

its like saying a man want marry another man or a woman want marry another woman just saying just saying Accept the true lol ✨✨

[@Veronica-tn2xc]

Ignorance!

[@Joshtube309]

Marry him and then seek forgiveness. Then it is okay.

[@elfhide]

It's best if you don't speak your opinions. 😮

[@Thatsfine1998_]

There is no such thing. This isn’t Christianity.

[@safaabdus8364]

Lol the way she said whims and desires

[@AmanahAdam-f8e]

There is a way around this & he's not giving her that option . Many women in this position have had the man concert Infront of all their family & some of these men make better Muslims than the Muslims. This ladies needs to know many men Muslim ones have been & will be in her position & they do not let faith bother them. They go ahead not caring whether Islam allows it or not . That's why these men write then men can because they can't stop the men. You only have one life be good be happy . Look at pakestians & Bosnians where were there help.

[@_ftz_douc6132]

As salam aleykum Sheick, i don’t understand one thing though. Yes he is a disbeliever but that does that mean it is forbidden to have feelings for him ? I know she can’t marry him and she should be discouraged but does that mean because he is a non Muslim she can’t admire him based on any reason? Whether his character or so on. But Man are allowed to marry non Muslims and I would assume that they loved them. The prophet’s uncle was a non Muslim, did he not love him?

[@SandiegoRockstar]

It is forbidden to put your full trust and respect in someone who rejects the Creator and his Messenger. And a woman has to put alot of trust and respect in a man to consider allowing him to impregnate her and become her provider. In contrast a man requires far less trust in a woman before having children with her because the consequences are less risky. He does not risk his life in having children. It also does not risk his future chance of having children with a future spouse. And he does not require anything from his woman to survive. So far less trust is needed. And even then it is not recommended and it has to be a woman from the Abrahamic faith.

[@musfiqurrahmanarnab182]

How can The feelings for husband and uncle is the same??? And men also has restrictions in marriage with idol worshipper and atheist. Why you didn’t bring that up if you had brought male -female angle. Girls can't marry cristian and jew because in a marriage wife tends to follow the husband. And many time they starts to follow the religion of the husband. Also the children tends to follow the relegion of father. To restrict this probability marriage with cristian and jews are haram for girls.

[@userfriendlyforever]

Loud and wrong. Both needs to trust in each other. A dude isn't her master that she's the only one who should trust in him. He needs to trust in her as well. That's not how a marriage works. We can admire non mooslim, admiring doesn't means that we want to open our legs for them. Just know your boundaries bc we can't control who we like, as long as we are setting boundaries it's fine. Also, those Abrahamic religion followers other than us also doesn't believes in one god regardless of their gender. You are saying as if only dudes doesn't believe in one god lmao. This isn't the reason why women aren't allowed bruh. Bc i have seen kids of these people not knowing which religion to follow, bc a mother is more of a strong influence on kids than their fsther. Bc a mother spends more time with her kids. Our religion allows a dude more bc he's the leader of the house and it's his responsibility to make his kids follow him. But not every men can make his kids follow him that's why many of these couple kids says we are half believer of both religion lol. It's not that easy so it's better to just marry among each other than other Abrahamic religion followers. @SandiegoRockstar

[@userfriendlyforever]

@musfiqurrahmanarnab182 I agree with the last part of your cmnt but as you said love for husband and uncle isn't same. However, their point about having feelings for non muslim still stands. And my above cmnt is for you too about our men marrying non muslim women. But other than that i agree, god knows best there's a reason why women aren't allowed to marry non muslims. We shouldn't question our God's command. And men should be cautious while choosing a non Muslim woman as their spouse as well. Just bc it's allowed doesn't means they can marry even those Abrahamic religion followers who doesn't believe in one god. Otherwise, we will have those kids who doesn't know which religion to follow.

[@userfriendlyforever]

His answer was brutal but he's right. We can't control our feelings but we should control our nafs. May our god makes it easier for us muslim women, ameen

[@NayeemBeg-yv9du]

It's all bullshitt that hawwa E ameera cannot marry to non Muslim Hawwa E ameera is made for only bani Adam

[@AmmonRa-wm5kc]

I am a Kafir that married a Muslim woman a number of years ago. The relationship is absolutely great. We live in a free, non-sharia country and have quite a happy life. Freedom from religion is such an awesome thing!

[@zenastronomy]

we will see who made the correct decision on judgement day

[@luna740]

Good answer​@zenastronomy

[@lameezabrahams5447]

If you are a good person and respect Islam, even if you are not Muslim, believe me, God will guide you. I had an aunt and uncle who was married like you and your wife. She remained Muslim, and he remained Christian he only converted a long while after her death, and they were married for almost 40 years.

[@AmmonRa-wm5kc]

@lameezabrahams5447 - great story. My wife and I really love each other. I read the Quran 2 times and spent many hours talking to Imams. There's nothing that was convincing to me that Islam is real. And I found some of the morality in the Quran pretty bad. I would like to believe but I can't just fake it. I feel so fortunate to live in a free country where this is possible.

[@AmmonRa-wm5kc]

@zenastronomy - as far as I can tell, judgment Day is just a made-up story from the abrahamic religions. It's kind of like the stories of flying donkeys, the moon splitting in half, shooting stars being missiles hurled at jinn, and many other mythical stories. Keep in mind people have had mystical stories in many religions, not just Islam and Christianity. For example, the mythical stories of Alexander the Great, Homer. There's so many examples. Back in ancient days these stories were like what KZbin is today. Some truth mixed in with a lot of things that aren't true.

[@nsd861]

I don't love enemies of Allah, but I am being just among them

[@pradeepagnel2262]

Why this girl come to this religious preacher to get secular answer go to speak to his parents convince them to have civil wedding give respect to each others faith Who is this guy to say he isnt perfect men you gonna leave love of your life for some random religion 😂😂😂

[@Evilmaalikkkk]

She has a choice..to follow religion or to leave religion for a man.She chose religion over 2 mims of pleasure.It's kinda practical approach if you come out of bollywood movies

[@suhaybkhan4512]

Surah Kafiroon 109:6 "لَكُمْ دِينُكُمْ وَلِيَ دِينِ" "For you is your religion, and for me is mine." It might be a random religion to you, it's laws might be random to you, its idea might seem irrelevant to you, but for the believers its everything

[@AmmonRa-wm5kc]

I am a kafir and married a Muslim woman. It is awesome. We live in a free society.

[@razamughal4582]

​@@AmmonRa-wm5kcshe isnt a muslim any more. Oops...😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@elfhide]

​@@AmmonRa-wm5kcjust so you know, neither your money, wife, children, parents and the good you do. Will ever benefit you until you follow the religion of your wife, because she has brought that which is good for you in your home.

[@lorenzo.hoxhaa]

What kind of God so "perfect and powerful" could ever condemn such a beautiful thing as loving one another?

[@Nazir-t3x]

His Kingdom, His Creation, His rules! we are not in that position to question him, the most high.

[@lorenzo.hoxhaa]

@Nazir-t3x "we are not in that position" ?? Yes u are, ur a f human being capable of critical logical thinking and questioning, i don't just blindly follow something because i see others do so, God gave me a functioning brain to make my own decisions.

[@lorenzo.hoxhaa]

@Nazir-t3x that's how u brainwash people into thinking they have no right of critical logical thinking. Religions have never led to anything good throughout history, we all know that, that's a fact

[@fakhrulislam6869]

Who decides which is beautiful or not, He the Almighty, creator of everything or you a mere human being made from a sperm drop?

[@jhsemoxitha3821]

Nah Allah encourages love in a HALAL way. You can love your spouse. We people disobey , we don't lower our gaze, very don't control our desires, we let a relationship develop over time and then we get hurt. But if man and woman preserve that love for their husband and wife and showed that love after marriage then nobody would be stuck on an ex. Marriage is beautiful, it allows you to love in the right way. Divorce is harder than breakups, so the possibility of heartbreak is less. Everyone knows you are married, you don't have to question the relation. Many men in name of love will use a woman, sleep with her and then leave her, the disrespect and pain she goes through that, marriage prevents it, you have a respect in marriage, you have rights in marriage. It is the right way to love.

[@felixmartin9156]

I don't agree. All BS to me. People should marry who they love. F all thats other bs.

[@potnoogle5780]

You are a BS. Your whole life has been a BS. Your mother giving birth to you was a BS.

[@rhniloy9590]

@@felixmartin9156 Yes This is Islam. You are not muslim, so you don't have to follow. Follow your Bs.

[@SameerAlHazari]

No one cares what you think buddy

[@jenerella1609]

I completely agree with you Felix. The Islamic religion is so controlling. That’s why there are so many miserable Muslim people out there.

[@vSpade]

Get out of here with that nonsense. You probably live in a place that has a high divorce rate.

[@hispanosubversivo-y3y]

What a fake video off enemy proselitism 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@kimnayung]

Why need to call this a****** at all? Who is he to decide what you should or should not do?

[@Rawad39]

who are you to control her actions?

[@vSpade]

Nobody put a gun to her head. _She_ chose to call him because she knows he’s going to give it to her straight. There’s nothing wrong with avoiding eternal hellfire.

[@Minecrafter-rr3zr]

@@Rawad39and who are you to do the same?

[@Rawad39]

@ When did I say anything?

[@Thatsfine1998_]

That man teaches the rules of God, meanwhile you teach what ur own desires tells you. So who are you and why should we follow your worldview?

[@erektortvojimamy631]

you can follow your heart and have nice loving relationship or follow stupid fairy tail book and ruin your life :)

[@んムムÐタモモ]

Shut up 😂

[@rhniloy9590]

You can follow your heart and end up in hellfire. Or you can follow the creator and get to paradise. :)

[@erektortvojimamy631]

@@rhniloy9590 any proof of paradise or hell?

[@Imanu2009]

A Muslim will never be happy with a Kafir....

[@Front-EndDev-ch2ww]

@@erektortvojimamy631 just as your searched ended you here youll end someday at the proof of it too