I Became A Mom At A Young Age | Ep. 15 w/ Tawinika Mckoy

[@imieshiadanielle]

I love seeing all the support for Tay 💕🥹 also, to all of you who are hurting or who’ve experienced this same or similar trauma I am GENUINELY praying for y’all!! My encouragement is joining our Facebook community! I’m excited about what’s getting ready to take place in it. 🫶🏼 facebook.com/share/NjBCZ458fYXMSUeG/?mibextid=K35XfP

[@deedeesollow51]

Thanks,!!!!

[@lrhaynesj]

This is the biggest lie ever no female can get pregnant at 7years old

[@brandeecakes216]

Invisible Shifts, Brandee Turner

[@nyarkona1]

Amen

[@christinabrown-pl9so]

Amen, Thank you!!

[@lovedbyvonni]

I went to school with her and the way she carried herself, the way she smiled, how nice she was, how good in school she was, I never would’ve thought that she was going through this. Really shows how strong she is. Prayers for yu!!❤❤❤

[@EnchantedRiversPhotography]

If you talk to her tell her that God loves her and he is behind her

[@WileChile51]

@@EnchantedRiversPhotography How? He let that happen to her but he is with her? BS.

[@KateinVA]

@@WileChile51He didn’t ‘let’ it happen. People have free will. Some people use that free will to do bad things.

[@AshleyFigueroa-uj9kb]

@@KateinVAwell said

[@rhondataylor4455]

​@@KateinVA Read Proverbs 16:9

[@cliquesnvues]

I WISH PEOPLE WOULD STOP PROTECTING ABUSERS

[@brownmallory6]

Amen!!!

[@aintthatcommon]

People???? It seems like more likely than not it’s the women that put their child in these type of situation around evil man and cover it up. Women are doing this. That’s an issue. They need to put these men in jail as soon as this happened until everybody. Why is it always black women who are healing and been thru some trauma is this an agenda to make it seem like BM are dangerous. Because they never mention it’s the mothers who put them in these situations before birth.

[@lexycondeelis]

Yep

[@user-lp2he1md6i]

We live in a society that upholds rape culture in SO many ways!

[@Virtuouswoman78]

It's a constant pain and problem in the back community !!! And nobody wants to have this conversation

[@raenicole3379]

I'm so happy this generation is adamant about healing. The suffering and trauma passed down from generation to generation is insane😢

[@UnordinaryTribe]

Thank you for that 💯✅ I’m going through similar…not the touching but the words of trauma has came into my adult years .

[@mljm_mljm]

All of this 💖💜

[@anniel9126]

@@raenicole3379 so true!

[@Mr.Oct___]

Yeah...No. There is no evidence of that. If anything, that term has become a buzzword....& a sophisticated way to lay blame on others and the past. Much like generations prior, only dressed differently. "Healing" is very much an individual and cases by case event. Not the broad spectrum that it gets made out to be on forums like this.. Much like physical Healing, results may vary & occurra in degrees. When speaking of emotional pains and trauma....the process is far more complicated than just "seeking therapy"...another generic term. I, for one, don't see any actual indication of well-adjusted and emotionally/psychologically healthy groups of individuals. If anything, people seem to have on the whole gotten worse. We just know the details of more stories.

[@TaliWho9]

@raenicole3379 been saying for years...healing is essential for all

[@nurleans27]

When she said “I’m called and chosen” I smiled for her, because that’s that Joy only God can give and I’m happy she knows that she is !!!

[@ShannonSoSweeet]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@naturalqueenm]

Amen 🙏🏽

[@whatkaisaid]

Amen!!

[@wandersajj6428]

Amen!❤

[@Yourownrisk-u8j]

I cannot understand why god allows children to go through such horror, and then tell them he had something special for them it’s mind boggling because children are the least protected, if many children were helped by god this world would be a better place if

[@aprilshorty4094]

She's a true definition of not being a victim but a survivor ❤❤

[@MandyIman]

She a victim too….y’all always want someone to “overcome” and smile….

[@dailylifeexperiences560]

Victorious!!! ❤

[@dailylifeexperiences560]

There's a difference between being a victim and being victimized.

[@dailylifeexperiences560]

Perm my perspective, this young woman was victimized. However she chose not to lay and wallow in the things she endured. She recognized she had choices... If she had laid around feeling sorry for herself and blaming everybody for her circumstances, then maybe she'd be a victim..., I'm inclined to believe that she would not classify herself as a victim.

[@emiilyjaane7]

She IS a victim & She IS a survivor !

[@LexusExodus]

I get so nervous when people who aren’t trained therapists or licensed mental health professionals have these sit downs with women who have suffered an immense amount of trauma, but was so incredibly impressed and moved at how gentle, kind, loving, patient and careful the interviewer was with this guest. She was incredibly empathetic, a great listener, and then also interjected and imparted grace, love and encouragement even when the woman struggled with giving grace to herself. When the interviewer advised it requires a certain amount of healing and growth to be the parent you never had, You could tell tay had some epiphanies and a light bulb moment that she likely never experienced before. I am sending happiness and healing to the guest and am also wishing prosperity and success to the young lady who started this channel. You’re doing the Lords work! Keep it up!

[@jennifergraceh]

I agree. It is treading in dangerous territory because it can easily open up old wounds that they are not trained to deal with. I’m a counselor trained in trauma, resilience, and recovery and I’ve gone through the seeking safety curriculum training for PTSD and working with clients with this level of trauma is a very long, slow process that is like an onion where you have to peel back layer after layer slowly, little by little, so you don’t overwhelm the client. I work with both clients who are survivors as well as perpetrators of domestic violence (who are almost always victims as well during childhood…of all the men I’ve worked with, I would estimate around 85% either experienced child abuse or witnessed domestic violence in their parent’s relationships as a child). Anyways, I’m with you on what you’ve said-these interviews always make me nervous. However, this lady did a great job and it’s clear she has a lot of empathy and understands trauma.

[@aintthatcommon]

So you think people only should talk about stuff they go through only with therapist that’s your problem. Y’all think therapist fix everything if therapist fix everything why are there so many broken people don’t say people don’t go to therapy because it seems like most of the people who go to therapy, ain’t none of them fix because they still traumatized.

[@aintthatcommon]

So you think people only should talk about stuff they go through only with therapist that’s your problem. Y’all think therapist fix everything if therapist fix everything why are there so many broken people don’t say people don’t go to therapy because it seems like most of the people who go to therapy, ain’t none of them fix because they still traumatized.

[@aintthatcommon]

It seems like more likely than not it’s the women that put their child in these type of situation around evil man and cover it up. Women are doing this. That’s an issue. They need to put these men in jail as soon as this happened until everybody. Why is it always black women who are healing and been thru some trauma is this an agenda to make it seem like BM are dangerous. Because they never mention it’s the mothers who put them in these situations before birth.

[@sherellb7623]

Yes, Blessed Perfectly said!

[@bellgomez5634]

My mom abandoned me and my 4 siblings. I was only 5 at the time and had no understanding, I had to take the role of a mom to my siblings youngest was only 1 year old . I would babysit, bath cook clean , laundry at age 9. My step mom had 4 children with my dad and I was obligated to bath them , feed them , get them ready for school, and babysit them along with my siblings. I would cook and clean and care for 7 kids . I hated being the oldest because I felt that all the burden was on me at a young age . I love my siblings and am very happy to see them all married with a beautiful family, but deep down I’m still hurt .

[@lauriepierce4068]

That’s toooo much for a child 💔

[@bellgomez5634]

@@lauriepierce4068 it was indeed.

[@queenmarytorishe]

Who are these people and what are they made of that they can sit back and make a child work like this! A child!! I pray for your healing and that God helps you recover all that you've lost xxxxx 💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝💝

[@ShayAllyson1]

Way too much for a child to deal with. That's adult stuff. I'm sure you did your very best. Your siblings must be so thankful to have had you when they needed you the very most!

[@rhondabeasley3870]

I pray 🙏 God gives you strength and heal you are awesome and amazing person 💪🙏 God don't make mistakes.

[@tiffanycarroll9439]

I felt her....been molested since 5 yrs - 14 yrs old..so glad I ran across this😢 am having a bad day..🙏🙏🙏🙏still healing

[@0uu_thats_her]

Sending love 🫶🏾

[@scottinamcqueen6895]

Prrayyying for your healing.❤❤❤❤

[@sassyfrass9102]

No one can truly understand unless they’ve been there 5-9 for me. But, God….grace and mercy carry me daily

[@dianedrawn3432]

🙏

[@rozitamccain8113]

I pray for your whole healing. Please never give up on you! I never met you, but you are so loved ❤!

[@Anthony-f2x4m]

As a man tears flew out my eyes and I screamed when she said her protection died with her father. I felt that sooo deep and it made me realize I need to keep my health in order for my little girls. I am their protector and us as black men are not being able to fulfill our fatherly duties...not sure how I ended up here but I am thankful for this eye opening testimony

[@tiana8372]

Yes and now you have me in tears 😢 I'm glad that she shared her story too❤

[@naomiv7133]

That's amazing that you took time to watch it A lot of men don't care about women's struggles

[@starrchild2222]

Real Tears. My daughter's both lost their Dad at 12 yo, the same month, similar illnesses. Black Men please put your health first 🙏🏿❤️

[@deedeedoodoo2518]

Oh this hit me so hard in my heart. I never had a daddy to protect me because my daddy was the monster. Sir, I hope you know the absolute BLESSING you are for those girls. Thank you for being the man you are for them. I pray for you all to have a beautiful life and God provides you with everything you so clearly deserve. 🖤

[@JUJU-._.-]

My heart sank when she said her mom said “that wasn’t that bad I went through worse “ that made me cry with a want to just hug her so bad

[@smileyysworld4408]

She’s so sweet ! Praying for her complete healing in all areas

[@imieshiadanielle]

@@smileyysworld4408 in Jesus’ name! 🫶🏼❤️

[@toddhayes3506]

​@@imieshiadanielleHalleluYah Amen

[@vancorinah]

Girl, I’ve known of her for a very long time through church and I just want to hug her. Tawinika, you are absolutely amazing, you’re beautiful, loved, appreciated, worthy, enough and I pray that God heals your heart, so that you will begin to walk in freedom bc sis that’s what you deserve. 😭🙏🏽

[@sharondeshay5734]

I wish I knew her, what a beautiful person to know ❤❤❤❤

[@lovejones92]

People steady focusing on how she’s sharing her story versus the story itself. Y’all some weirdos and regardless of how she shares her story it’s hers to tell it how she sees fit. Whether she’s smiling, laughing, or even showing all or her teeth at times, it doesn’t invalidate her story which is obviously what some of yall are trying to do. Seek help.

[@carolynreed5620]

I totally agree with you

[@Barbiedangerous1111]

I’m glad that she is able to smile today. Let her shine all her teeth. She’s beautiful! She is a survivor. I’m proud of this young lady. ❤❤❤❤

[@Mads270791]

After everything she’s been through I’m So happy to see her beautiful smile.

[@HappyCGM]

She is smiling because she is able to share her burden and trauma with the world which allows her to mentally process what she went to and know she’s educating other girls and women who may be in similar situations. She is smiling because she is sharing something important for herself and for other. Good for her

[@makiebahatton2628]

Exactly ✔️ 💯 people are so judgemental and have no clue they are judgemental. People watch too much TV and think victimology looks like television and movies.

[@JasmineWilliams-fc3dp]

This Lady is anointed! The way she speaks about God I know he’s been with her every step of the way. It’s already done!

[@glow22]

When you see a person reaping, you can’t do nothing about it.. so powerful..

[@dailylifeexperiences560]

This right here is real!

[@scottinamcqueen6895]

Baby you dont have to have degrees to be somebody. There's people you have these things but arent NOTHING... God qualified you .Baby you are somebody ❤❤❤❤❤

[@rebeccagreen6527]

THISSS!!!🎉💖 I’m glad someone mentioned this. No degree, no certificate, no amount of schooling can tell you what you’re Worth is for one! For 2 a piece of paper signed by some school & irrelevant people that don’t even get to know you does not qualify nor quantify Success! God has chosen your future & your destiny already & God trumps any silly little degree on any given day!

[@gutsandblackpowderfan-y5d]

Amen!! God gave her everything, no degree can match or dignify her experience.

[@lisafrausto4687]

Amen Amem🎉🎉I say this all the time!!!

[@lauriepierce4068]

I have several degrees but they are so overrated! It does not make me any better as a person. The education I do have does allow me to do the specific work that requires those pieces of paper but that’s all.

[@yvonnegarner]

Everyone is SOMETHING regardless of educational status

[@Matthew23and12KJV]

Beautiful lady...she reminds me of a mix between Tamela Mann & Niecey Nash ❤ God Bless you & your children 🥰

[@ShannonSoSweeet]

I can see it…

[@Vee8854]

@@ShannonSoSweeet Yes! She sounds just like Niecy Nash.

[@scottinamcqueen6895]

Yess😂❤❤❤❤

[@LocFitnessMama]

Yep!

[@misssosippi228]

🎯❤

[@brakahelsolomon2769]

TaWINiika, your name has win in it because you are a winner and the gateway to generational blessings for your bloodline. You have a beautiful loving spirit. Counseling can help expedite your healing so you can live life to the fullest. You are worthy of the best.

[@chrislynwilliams2371]

I really think that she needs to go to therapy to heal the little girl within her. It is helping me so much. She is in survival mode and it’s time to come out of that. I’m praying that God continues to guide her and heal her heart.

[@Loveable03-y8r]

Hola, hello beautiful world God Almighty bless all ❤️yesss I agree I was sexually abuse and more started at age 10 yrs young. , Yes!!! All abuse needs healing she has not touch that part of the little girl thank u for seeing that in her God Almighty bless all 🌈❤️🌈🌟

[@ayyyejesterdazed]

In my own personal journey I felt like therapy got to a point where I was picking at an old wound and not allowing it to heal. We can’t tell others how to handle their traumas. She seems to be at a good place in her life rn.

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

I agreed, trauma informed therapy is a God sent. Make sure they are trauma informed and have experience helping people heal through childhood sexual abuse and building appropriate coping skills in the present!

[@NegressOfSaturn]

@@ayyyejesterdazed I fully concur! I am over therapy… I’m now like how do I speak directly in the moment when fuck shit is happening and not ruminate for 3 months. 🤣

[@ayyyejesterdazed]

@@NegressOfSaturn I’m almost there🤞🏽Something I remind myself is to not make myself uncomfortable to make others comfortable. For example: I had an interaction with a man who proceeded to try and make out with me, even though I was clearly not into it. The next day(following days) I sent respectable but honest text stating “the groping and kissing made me uncomfortable. I think we’re looking for different things in a relationship”(then instantly blocked the number because I don’t need a narcissist to flip the script and make me feel bad). Now I have to figure out how to say it directly to them in the moment.

[@dandreawinters1429]

God was preparing the 7 year old Tawanikia for what 18/19 year old Tawanikia would have to walk into with her siblings. I pray that she heals from all of the trauma she had to endure as a child. It hurts to hear that what her step dad did still affects her marriage. I really hope that she seeks therapy to help cope with that situation. This whole testimony is a lot. But God always work everything together for our good. God Bless her soul.

[@tawinikamckoy9392]

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 this is very true and I'm healing sis I have to! ❤

[@ajwriter5699]

@@tawinikamckoy9392 We have a lot of similarities and what I can say is that trauma therapy has been a tremendous help. I’m so glad to see how you’ve grown and proved the world wrong. You’re a beautiful and awesome woman of God. He has truly given you beauty for ashes. Continue healing and breaking generational curses. The little girl inside of you is Already proud.😊

[@ravendugger-v2o]

I left my hometown after being pregnant with my first baby because of this. My baby's now 1 and she has never been around my family or been alone with anyone. My trauma won't allow it.

[@DDBAMBAM87]

God does not do things like this to prepare a child!!! This was pure evil and insidious!!! God gave her strength to survive but he did not use abuse as preparation💔

[@sos1474]

What god!? Kmt! Any god that allows a child to be abused is fake or a nightmare.

[@ksgnation]

I know she said she hasn’t healed yet, but I hope she realizes that this conversation was a gigantic step in that direction. Awareness is key because once you start to be aware, you can point out the issues and figure out how to solve them.

[@ebucme]

The tears I cried for her..the way my heart latched to hers ..My God😢😢😢

[@imieshiadanielle]

@@ebucme 🫶🏼💕

[@hazelred7113]

This part

[@Foxx1406]

I appreciate this young woman sharing her truth… To the comment section saying why she smiling … maybe she is nervous… Y not smile ??she is a warrior and if you listen to the whole story instead of judging, it explains she started parenting at age 7 while her mom worked !! SA at age 8 … stop judging!!! To the interviewer u did a good job and u let her talk without interrupting.. enjoyed this,and hope it continues to get talked about instead of sweeping it under the rug.. thank u so much

[@KashamiraDavis-kh5md]

Right smh they act like they don't know sometimes you have to laugh to keep from crying

[@Stardust414]

Smiling like this is often a subconscious, learned response to minimize trauma (especially when talking about your trauma to others) and cope with overwhelming negative emotions.

[@thechoandmoshow]

Woman of God! This world could NEVER license, degree, or certify the giant slaying warrior and conqueror you are. You were born to be your family salvation. Your smile says it all. It expels darkness. Take the time to really stare at it. It's a ministry within itself

[@brownavatar8]

Your comment is what I needed right now. I'm thankful it's here for me. 🤎🙏🏽

[@EpicRealistTV]

Best comment ever!

[@dakyrasworld6039]

My GOD🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 the wording and message in this really touched my heart.

[@PamSuper]

Omg me too. 😢 May God bless you

[@senceriacruse4943]

Sometimes we go through things that are horrible. But it makes us strong . She is a stronger person because of it . I'm 61 years old and I was molested as a child. I used to play the Sam cooke song a change is gonna come. And it did, but years later. In my early 20s I walked around a field in the back of my apt. And just forgave my grandfather and 3 brothers and uncle. I didn't want the weight of not forgiving on my shoulders weighing me down, plus that was easy access for the devil to come in. I was fornicating, but I never touched a child bc I knew that was wrong. I want to be loved and I think I nevered felt that until I completely surrendered to God. We are strong individuals when we find our strength in God. Keep pressing on in Jesus Christ !

[@couleuredgirl6314]

That’s a lot! A whole lot! ❤

[@MindlessVIRUS143]

🙌🏾

[@ms.crystal248]

I'm so sorry to hear that!! May GOD continues to BLESS you❤

[@imieshiadanielle]

@@senceriacruse4943 I’m so sorry that happened to you! Forgiving someone for doing something so heinous is extremely difficult to do! What was that experience of forgiving them like?

[@minahtheweirdo]

I cant forgive anything 😔😔😔

[@jasgogetit5755]

My mother put me out at 15 after her boyfriend tried to touch me.l after she made me stay to until 2am to let him in the house while she was 4 hours away 😢. Anyway, he came in my room drunk its pitch black saying he wanted to talk to me about their problems. I told him to get out and talk to her about them. Luckily, he left but I called my closest relative who lived around the corner and she called me mom. All hell broke loose. She accused me of wanting him… mind you this man looks like an ogre. When she finally came home she tried to fight me thankfully my grandmother who lived 30 mins away from us was there to protect me. I left and moved with my dad, which I’m forever thankful for. I’m not sure where this mindset came from. That’s just a little bit of what I went through, I could write a book. 🤦🏽‍♀️ YEARS and cycles of abuse but WE are breaking them. I’ve had a little girl for 16 years now and she’s my heart and my reason. I’d never turn my back on her not place her in a situation where anything like this could happen. Lord 😢 this made me cry because I can relate and I’m sure others can too. I too project my trauma here and there but I acknowledge, apologize and have deep conversations as well. I’ve learned to reinforce and respect her more but it’s challenging at times.

[@persephoneperry776]

I honestly believe that the only thing that protected me from going through a very similar fate was the fact that my dad always said that he wants to raise his baby had my daddy not been around I feel like I would've been through worst hell than I actually went through. I was touched so many times by so many people because my mom didn't care and dropped me anywhere my dad didn't know anything but when I finally told her she told me that it was my fault that it happened with multiple people over and over and it started before I was even 5yrs old on up to about 9 yrs old. It even happened in front of her and she didn't even notice it.

[@Clupz]

Whew chile i could definitely write a book there were a few

[@yvonnegarner]

This is disgusting, but this happened to a relative of mine after her mom's boyfriend tried sleeping with her

[@apryllanette916]

Sad mother blame their children when their perverted spouses abuse their children but sadly it happens, they both need to by exposed

[@apryllanette916]

Thank God for protecting me from perverts, I was not a friendly child and those who I knew personally was perverts didn’t try me cause they knew I wasn’t the one to try and the look a gave them said it all so they stayed away

[@shamina1908]

I was 7 and 13 when my grandfather SA'd me. I'm so sad to hear she has been through this. It's a terrible lifelong struggle to healing from this abuse. I'm praying for your healing. And her bringing up the ages! When my daughters (I have 3 daughters) at ages 7 and 13, it completely triggers me. I learned that in therapy.

[@TiffanyMoore1007]

Im So sorry you went through this 😢🙏

[@teeosotalented287]

🥹🙏🏽😩💜💜💜💜

[@roxanneroxanne3232]

♀️♀️♀️♀️🙏🏽❤️

[@monicamoore8550]

Grandfather? Wow

[@ikalesunflower]

This is so sad 😢

[@jamekanichols3732]

The attitude that she displays with the humbleness is a whole new level of amazing. She is strong, smart, and beautiful. I pray this young lady gets exactly what God has destined for her.

[@ThePopcorngirl123]

That’s the smile you smile when you realize you out of it and you trying to remind yourself that it’s just a story of the past and not happening presently. You’re thinking about what you used to go through nd because life is so much better, you realize how bad it truly was. It takes a powerful person to tell a story detached.

[@LocFitnessMama]

When she said “you can be around someone but they’re not an intricate part of your life”. I felt that! You can see someone all the time, but that doesn’t mean they support you day-to-day. It could be because they don’t have the capacity or just don’t care.

[@annkupke4263]

Yup. I was around a relative that spent money on a sibling cause she has kids. Ungrateful . My siblings hates her cause the kids seen how she was with them. She literally hates the person. While my brother got shafted by sibling and the relative. Me no matter age she never helped me financially and I asked to move in and nope cause she assumed I called sibling.

[@Unorthodox_bri]

That really hurt my heart see her whisper the details of the sexual abuse. I pray for her whole healing from all the wrong and trauma she has experienced.

[@jetblack9861]

The worst thing a parent (mother) can do is blame the child, say that it didn't happen, or act as if these things/ the stuff wasn't as bad! She went through it, I went through it, many others have gone through it, and will go through it. It's awful, and there's nothing that anyone can do to save you! Although we may struggle within ourselves, the best thing that Tawinika, myself, and others have done is find a relationship with God. Our fight will always be there.❤

[@VWHNeal1018]

My mom went through so much trauma. We have grown up with our mother. And we give her the love, hugs and kisses she never received.

[@HoneyPleaseBeSerious]

@@VWHNeal1018 Funny you bring that up. My sister and I tried that with my mother and she flat out refused us. We were always hurt behind it. I was sitting on my porch last night it just popped in my head how we weren't as close as I thought we were we never really talked unless something was going on until I was way older. I carried the burden of loosing the greatest thing which was her to question myself last night on did I actually loose anything? We went out our way to show our children affection. Yet over my mother's death bed my sister sat crying about how close we were and how she never had baby pictures and why this and why that. We hadn't spoken since. I'm the baby and I felt like she should've asked her all those questions while she could talk. The trauma is real.

[@VWHNeal1018]

@@HoneyPleaseBeSerious I am so sorry you had this experience as a child. The lack of attention, affection and emotional connection with parents can leave a lasting impact on your life, going forward. If you can start by knowing you are worthy of : 1. Love 2. Affection and 3. Emotional wellness. Pour into yourself. Build up your emotional wellbeing daily. God loves us all and wants the very best for you. He knows every single hair on your head. Never forget that.

[@VWHNeal1018]

My mother always gave us love and attention. She taught us many life lessons and skills. We had to teach her how to love and be happy.

[@traveilarmundsims1670]

Sounds like granny was jealous, FIGHTING and SCRATCHING up her granddaughter's face.

[@DiamondCurry-d6m]

I think the granny knew and wanted to make them less desirable to the guy. But if that’s the case she should’ve left the known predator

[@renetta963]

​@DiamondCurryTHAT B****SHOULD OF GOT KARMA ALONG TIME AGO-d6m

[@tbaby4224]

At exactly an hour I realized this message was for me, Have Mercy Jesus!!! Isolation is a lie was my confirmation and Beautiful Sister I pray God’s perfect will in your life and some more blessings for leading me ❤️ Ms Iesha thanks so much. I usually click off when someone on social media pray, but again this message was for me because I actually prayed with you two beautiful ladies. May you get the Blessings you deserve 🙏🏾

[@QuitaJones-c2c]

You are more than somebody. YOU ARE CHOSEN ❤❤❤

[@BossLady3]

- To have people that hear you when you don't speak. Now thats powerful 🙌🏾

[@keciaReed1122]

This young lady has such a beautiful soul! Her life story is such a journey!!! I’m not crying I’m Cutting onions😢😢😢

[@imieshiadanielle]

a lot of onions were being cut! Even during our breaks, she was sharing some other things and it was definitely difficult to keep eyes dry in that room!

[@keciaReed1122]

@@imieshiadanielle I can imagine! Love your podcast btw!!!

[@jamesnominishapitt300]

I understand her life. We have a lot of similarities. God is always working on my heart

[@ayakowilliams4571]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💜

[@KeriaLady]

One thing ppl need to learn is ur somebody regardless if u went to to school or not don’t let that hold you back from nothing some times u kno more then wat the education system teaches

[@toyahking3323]

Right, most millionaires didn’t even go to college

[@judybrennan7930]

I know tht right !!!

[@Allisbritt]

Tawinika Mckoy, baby you are truly a blessing to us all. Thanks for sharing your testimony. I pray God continue to bless you and your family. Sis I wish I could give you a hug, that little girl in me is saying "thank you". ❤

[@AshliCashli]

I'm 19 minutes into this video (finishing it when I get off work) and I swear I pray this young lady has the absolute best and most blessed days ahead of her. She is truly a blessing. You may not "qualify" to be where you are, but that doesn't stand a chance against God's will. You're where you need to be and will continue moving forward. Periodt.

[@iamsunflower-fu3lk]

I cannot imagine, I just can't omg at 7 years old. Please Lord I thank you for a praying grandmother. As a mother I would have been devastated that someone was able to get that close to my daughters that they could violate them. Praying for healing for this young lady

[@modestinemungo4661]

Who is Lort?. 😮. I know the Lord, but who is.. oh ok. I got it. Everyone serves different God's.. that one is yours. Smh

[@Teebee44]

@@modestinemungo4661right

[@iamsunflower-fu3lk]

​@@modestinemungo4661you knew what I meant 😅

[@avanoelle5333]

@@modestinemungo4661Jesus Christ is Lord.

[@andrea-desu3578]

@@modestinemungo4661 "Lort" is another way of saying "Lord." It's a slang term! I hope this clears it up. 🤣🤦🏾‍♀️

[@anniel9126]

Love her spirit,her resilience, her energy. You go girl! Keep on doing. You are blessed in the name of God!

[@imieshiadanielle]

love this! This is the support people need!!

[@alsmith9956]

The way she smiles is the way you smile when you made it out but it still hurts!♥♥♥♥♥

[@dabest444u]

Amen!❤

[@teresapatterson9521]

That young lady has wisdom beyond her years. I pray that God continues to grace her with the spirit she has to go forward.

[@mistyg2505]

this baby has my whole heart right now. her testimony is something amazing and has me in true tears of mama love for her. God keep on blessing her and speaking through her!!! My love to you Tawinika!! God must have known I needed this on my youtube home page today. big virtual mama hug to you!!!

[@chasidyhaire3662]

I have never seen this channel pop across my home page. God is so good. I have an amazing church. I mean it is awesome. I have barely made it at all this year. Besides the Sundays I work there’s really no reason for me to not go. Today is Wednesday and I told myself I am going to bible study. This video was definitely confirmation. Just out of the blue. Wow, thank you

[@ieshajames973]

That's exactly why I had my daughter, no lies! I needed true love because I also was abused physically, emotionally and sextually! She is my reason for living!

[@Amandahugginkizz]

Dayum she is beautiful! That "it wasn't as bad as I had" or "it wasn't that bad" man those words sting for a lifetime.

[@tiarapayton7088]

I pray that she gets the release that she needs from God. I hate that she had a hard childhood but I believe that God isn’t finished with her story 🙏🏾❤️

[@annapewitt309]

Yes please bring her back there was so much healing in her testimony and words.

[@dailylifeexperiences560]

Oh, as she grows more in the grace of God; this Sister is going reck some things. I declare and decree that you are a mighty woman of God; preaching and prophesying..., all to the glory of God. Healing is nigh you.

[@danarobins633]

She is an amazing Survivor! She just gave me so much courage to continue my healing and seeking GOD!!!! She said a lot of things I feel especially how she mother her children after all the trauma she has endured. Thank you Sis ❤❤

[@moniqueb387]

Ammmmaaazing interview💙 She was so transparent and vaunerable, I love how self aware she is. She has done the work and it shows. She deserves all of gods blessings. The interviewer was incredible also. There is an art to interviewing someone and letting them tell their story. Not cutting then off or overtalking...So many larger platforms have not gotten that mastered yet but you do. Bravo! Subscribed!

[@PaigeR-t8h]

Mrs. Mckoy just because you don’t have a degree it does not mean you aren’t somebody. It’s not about how you start, but how you finish. Your life, the path you are on is where God has you now and you are right where you need to be. Sometimes God sees further than us, but your businesses is flourishing and as you said the people love it! So there is always a purpose. You ARE SOMEBODY!! Degree or not. You are doing the best you can with what you have. Your gifts God has given you is exactly what you needed in your life. Most people go to school, but it’s the skills and experience you have. Don’t give up! You got this. Your story reminded me so much of mine that I had to say something. It was a rough beginning but God has allowed me to be in a much better place with just my two children. He is with you. “Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.” ‭‭Joshua‬ ‭1‬:‭9‬ ‭KJV‬‬ “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:” ‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭3‬:‭1‬ ‭KJV‬‬ Remember it’s not about where you start, but how you finish!! Blessings and Peace unto you.

[@jettaboggan5201]

That prayer at the end was very much needed! This touched me very deeply and I pray for her healing as well as my own and anyone else dealing with trauma 🤍

[@jetblk1441]

I had to learn forgiveness isn’t for the person who wronged u but for u. It appears she too learned this. This girl is wise beyond her years!!! U got this sis and trust God has his hands on u. Be blessed 🙏🏾 🙏🏾 🙏🏾

[@ItIzWatItIz722]

Definitely a trigger warning 😭😭😭 it’s like she’s telling my story all over again I’m so proud of her

[@alexciacleveland8825]

She’s overqualified!!!! Beyond!!!! 🙏🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

[@wandaclement4000]

I thank God for giving this young lady's strength to tell her testimony. We have to continue to protect the young people, the boys, and the girls. From perdators, when we know something, say something and do something. We can't be quiet because that allows the enemy/predator to continue or start the abuse. May God continue to bless and keep you and your siblings.

[@nicobrown3614]

Girl I can tell you that, GOD has you were he needs YOU❗You're a business WOMAN ❤ and YOU have this testimony to share with others❤. Now these church people, believe me they can be the worst of humanity. I know about holding on to secrets due to s a. I am blessed to have found this video, it helps A LOT of people understand ❤❤

[@prettybrowneyes8945]

You gotta STOP beating yourself up for everything that happened in your past mama! Pray over it all! And keep going strong 💪🏼 🙏🏼🙏🏼🚶

[@Supaster71]

Definition of perseverance and breaking generational curses. Well done 🙏🏽

[@AngelicaGonzalez-q1q]

It’s good that her mom told her what happened, it made her more comfortable to tell her mom what happened to her and to atleast acknowledge the problem

[@dabest444u]

Did u ignore the fact where her mom didn’t care… she legit said “ it wasn’t as bad as what I went thru “

[@jaegooden6848]

Even through all this trauma she still has a beautiful spirit. Prayers for you ❤

[@meverly7834]

Oh girl... I grew up way too soon too. I went to school, but I can't get on track even with a degree under my belt. I'm just thousands in student loan debt now. You're doing good! School means nothing.

[@beautifuldreamah2689]

You do have that knowledge your educated! Now we have to figure out how to utilize it, and try to find a way to get the loans down. I didn't get to go to college, I regret it because I'm working jobs that mean nothing to anyone, and I'm middle aged. No one can take what you've studied away from you💌

[@catherinewright1872]

Her story is such a blessing. Yes the confusion of not knowing if God was allowing things to happen even by way of Church. Like she said, God is with us and God wants to get the Glory even out of the pain. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@jjsartjourney]

You are very brave to speak out. I suffered alot of trauma from bad repeated beatings since I was a child to my teens. I was terrified and paralized when in those situations. It took me time once I was older to understand what happened to me and why... and the generational curse. I didn't want to do the same to my kids and God helped me to break it. Also, when my son grew taller than me and with very big hands, suddenly his hugs made me soooo uncomfortable because of having his hands near me. But, I knew it was all in my mind and it wasn't fair to him. I had to make a decision early on whether to stay angry at the man who had hurt me so much or to forgive and forget. Thank God I knew His teachings about love and forgiveness and I prayed wholeheartedly and asked God to help me to forgive. I felt immediate peace and I never looked back with hate or anger. And better still, God also transformed that man's life and he is now soooo different and a part of my life. I know God removed the demon that controlled his anger which became fury quickly. He is now the man God had meant him to be and I am grateful to Jesus for the transformation and he seeks God everyday to guide his every step. And about my son, I prayed because I wanted to love my son and hug him... God also took away the fear and I can now hug him, my son is a big hugger!!! And I am blessed to have so much love. My best recommendation is to bring your hurt, pain, anger, fear and traumas... bring them to Jesus and ask Him to take your burden and give you love, peace and a path to move forward. It was the best decision of my life and can be the same for you.

[@VWMrsMeika]

She is definitely The Chosen One! Many prayers of strength and perseverance! 💜🙏🏽

[@melissamoore5275]

The statement, "I felt so small" hit me hard. Your mama made you feel so small. This is the part of you that feels small despite how amazing you are, despite your accomplishments. I pray God heals this part of you. I can relate. Thank you for sharing your testimony.

[@Teensie24]

Lord, this is a beautiful testimony/interview. I felt like she was telling part of my life 😢 the trauma we all deal with, we didn't ask for. Thankfully I have gotten healing from most of my traumas, except 1. And I'm at the point, I don't hate that person, but IDC to see, hear about them. Healing is a lifelong thing for me, because you never completely stop thinking about it. So every time I see or hear something that REMINDS me of it, I just think of how far I've come! Didn't have therapy, or anyone to guide me to figure it out. Now healing trauma through my children is a different ballpark. I too, like her mother told my oldest(12) last year, what I had been through and explained things so she could understand. I also told her the person and she couldn't believe it because it's so close. But I explained that I have forgiven that person (VERY CLOSE), but there are boundaries

[@jessicasmart735]

You are definitely qualified for whatever God puts in your path. You have proven that many times over!!! Believe in yourself! You rock!!!❤❤❤😊

[@stylzgohardllc.1132]

She is beautiful from the inside out ✨🙏🏾 I PRAY DAT SHE GETS HER COMPLETE HEALING ✨🙏🏾 GOD BLESS AND HER FAMILY ✨🙏🏾

[@bettyrocket999]

She made a beautiful return. All gratitude to the divine🌻✨☺️

[@beegawgeous]

This was a very tough episode. I felt every pain she endured. God was preparing her for her now. My heart goes out to her band she deserves everything great that God is bringing forth to her. I send my love!!!❤

[@sidunay]

she has a soft, kind heart that’s why she’s not bitter or holding any grudges, God bless her

[@drtiffanyross]

Your story is so powerful and is going to impact so many people. I love you and am so proud of you for sharing. Thank you Ieshia for this platform ❤

[@imieshiadanielle]

thank you for watching with us! ❤️ means everything!!

[@tinahinton8228]

You are enough!!!!! Degrees are good to have. But your drive and success are tatamount to what a real survivor/woman is. I don't know any black female that has not been touched or affected by molestiatiion or abuse. You're gorgeous and your smile is contagious. ❤❤❤❤

[@HeartstwoHearts]

This really needs to go viral

[@imieshiadanielle]

we appreciate that! Share the link with a friend or Facebook group! 💕 hope to see you back for future episodes!

[@cynthiachatman6851]

Facts

[@kameronytg8891]

I wish I was able to hug her. So humble and transparent. God is Awesome and He promised Never To Leave Us Alone. God was with you through it All. I love the relationship that you have with our Father in heaven. He’s the reason why you can stand tall and continue to allow the Holy Spirit to lead you. Stay humble and He will continue to speak to you. I thank God for my sister’s powerful testimony that is presently strengthening each of us to persevere through all test, trials and tribulations. We are God’s chosen and He loves us ALL. Amen. 🙏 🌎❤

[@9etherchanneling6]

I started crying before you said you're not going to cry this early.... I'm so sorry... I want to be a foster mom!

[@ShannonSoSweeet]

Same, so do I.

[@Jahdialove1111]

I think becoming a foster mom is a beautiful thing but you must do with love so you have to love yourself. I've been in 18 foster homes ,it has many disadvantages and advantages . Most of my foster mothers were foster parents because of the money and a few foster moms did it because they wanted to give me the love and support. Having the love to give to one is a miracle from God. There are so many children who need the love and support. I love you guys energy because we need it more than you know it. The most important thing of our universe is Love, you love all living things as you would love yourself! Most individuals don't understand when you mistreat someone you are only mistreating yourself! Overall, I encourage you guys when you become a foster parent, always treat those babies as you would treat yourself at all times! I know for certain when you help someone God open doors for you but it must come from the heart! Also remember love knows no color!🤍🖤🖤🤎💜💙💙💚💚💛🧡🤍🖤🖤🤎💜💙💚💚💛💛🧡🤍🖤🤎💜💙💚💌God bless always!

[@OnceanOrphan]

I'm an adoptee. If you do this, be sure to try to keep the children in contact with their biological family. It'll help them and you.

[@Reagin.taylor]

She is sooo beautiful to me and I’m glad she’s sharing her story because I know a lot of people can relate to certain aspects. Praying for her and everyone else watching this video 🙏🏽

[@Fleekydivageek83]

This was a necessary conversation. Tay thank YOU for the vulnerability and the transparency. This will help you to heal and is the starting t point for others who are hurting to start their healing to. This is the season to breakthrough and break those generational curses. Tay sending you prayers of continued healing, Ieshia you have a new subscriber this was refreshing.

[@danachatman3175]

Allow yourself, Grace! You are absolutely wonderful. Parenting is very hard so stop beating yourself up and breathe!❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@1ChocolatePrincess1]

What a beautiful and strong woman you are ❤ All of the ugly things you had to live through didn't take that Beautiful and infectious smile away ❤ You're amazing.

[@leahmason824]

This woman has a tremendous testimony and I hope she keeps sharing it because there's lots of young ladies out there that need to here it! I didn't even realize her words would touch me the way they did. I can totally relate to having 'mom issues' because I also lost my mother at a young age (9 yrs old). It took me a very long time to deal with it. My dad didn't realize that me and my sisters needed help processing our grief. For almost the first year (after her death) I felt guilty for being happy and enjoying life. Then my father remarried and I don't think my stepmother was thrilled about having young kids at home. We were put in a very difficult situation. I was almost an adult when I realized what we were going through was verbal and emotional abuse. It took years to heal from that...but God! Anyways I just wanted to say thanks to both of you for sharing Tawinika's story. Please keep doing what you do and spreading God's love. Peace and blessings ❤🙏🏾

[@writersfengshui2835]

I'm already sending so much strength and I am only a few minutes in. ❤

[@imieshiadanielle]

yes!!!! ❤

[@robincooper3]

Wow... just wowed.. such strength and grace. So much grace. Thank you for sharing your story with us

[@aprilshorty4094]

I'm new to your channel and you did an amazing job interviewing this young lady she seems to be strong or at least she's trying her very best. This interview gave me so many emotions.

[@only_drivechevys]

I don’t know how I came across this but I needed this. Your energy, your wisdom, just everything about this I needed. You are so strong and now I have the faith and courage to start moving forward from my trauma. Lord I’m listening. I hear you!!! I can and will be better.

[@ayakowilliams4571]

💜🙏🏽

[@shawnapowell665]

The fact she didn't wallow in her trauma and grief... went back for her sister's. This is a true definition of turning Pain into Power!!!! I'm happy with this young lady and happy for her. I'm Proud of her!!! To God be the Glory 🙌🏾 This story could have never been told. She seems happy. I pray this teaches others you are not alone and you don't have to be victim. Take you Power Back! ❤👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾

[@latoshabanks6231]

This young lady has so much grace. I pray for internal healing over you. Your testimony help save so many.❤

[@marquishamagee9061]

I know someone just like that when she turned 18 and got out of foster care she already had a baby then got married her husband was in the military she got her 6 siblings and raised them and she still with her husband and have 5 kids and 2 grandkids so she did that

[@wendolynphillips]

Thank you Tawinika for sharing your story. You are not alone in this. There are a lot of mothers out there that want the best for their children and don't want to pass on their trauma to their daughters. You are awesome! Your testimony of healing will help deliver a lot of women. May God continue to bless you and keep you.

[@CurlyLocksRock]

You have yourself a new subscriber from me watching just this one video! I don’t know how you got in my algorithm, but I thank God you did! I guess it’s safe to say, I’ll be binge watching your videos today. God bless you! You are doing a good work! ❤

[@imieshiadanielle]

Heeey! Thank you so much for subscribing! Looking forward to seeing your name pop up more and more! Praying that the episodes help you in some way, shape, or form! ❤️❤️❤️

[@Munkeishia1nOnly]

Same ❤🎉 Pray without ceasing Sisters

[@dorisenga4701]

Same here. It pooped up and I listened a little bit and subscribed.

[@JackieWicks-e8j]

What a beautiful…..strong…….young Lady! When she cried early in the interview…saying she did not get the opportunity to get the schooling she wanted…. I cried right along with her…. Please know that you my friend are building your treasures in heaven! God is looking down on you …with very loving thoughts for you ! In his eyes you are exactly who He wants you to be ! God Bless You and Yours!

[@ThatsSoLea]

37:06 my mom passed when I was 21 years old, im now 30 and I still feel like its a dream that my mom passed. I never really knew others felt like that until hearing Taylor say that, wow!

[@thesecretshade]

I had literal dreams of my family telling me they pranked me and my mother isn't dead. I still have dreams with my mother and it feels so real.

[@unicornmilkshaker1871]

I've always felt mine was on holidays. Then I remember she passed away in a hospital 4 hours away ❤❤❤

[@kierstinchambers8346]

Awhh I'm so sorry. My aunt passed away tragically in a car wreck and my mom and I both felt like that for a good 12 years to follow...felt like a total dream. Like something that happened in a parallel universe. It still just doesn't feel real...like the story was never supposed to take that turn, just so surreal. I couldn't imagine losing a parent that young. God bless you 🙏

[@ThatsSoLea]

@@kierstinchambers8346 its so unreal! Im so sorry for your loss as well 🙏🏾🩷

[@rachellelebeouf3612]

1 minute and 16 seconds into the video, and all i see and hear is a humble, sweet person who has been traumatized. God will forever with you🙏🙌