I BOUGHT A HOUSE | buying a new construction home in my 20s

[@SelenaTrevino]

todays video has a bit of a plot twist, and lots of updates, to catch you all up on where I am in my first-time home buying journey 🏠 - makes sure to watch until the end before you leave a comment! I’m so excited to share this journey with all of you, I hope it’s not only exciting but also useful to hear my lessons learned as well as my experience 💗

[@valerie776]

I just finished and I have to say always go with your gut like you did. Better to realize earlier in the process that this isn’t the home you truly want. If you have doubts then you probably would have not be truly happy with this large purchase. This is one of the largest decisions financially you make in your life and you want it to feel right. Good luck and hoping you find your home soon!! 💕

[@SelenaTrevino]

@@valerie776 thank you so much Valerie! I couldn't agree more! it's a huge huge purchase, and the decision was hard. But in the long term, I definitely feel good about my decision ❤

[@cavianguardian]

Don't feel discouraged keep going!!!! We fall sometimes but we have to get back up. Sending you hugs 🤗

[@Molsballs]

Your experience makes me think of how people thought house buying during COVID was crazy. Like absolutely crazy.

[@saidahjamila]

Can you share if you purchased through the first time home buyer program? Your savings plan did you save 5% or 20%? And how long did it take you?

[@michelle-rose]

Congratulations to you girl that's amazing, I just bought mine last month in CA paid in cash feel so happy for myself and my achievements so far watching this random video. So glad I made good decisions about my finances that changed me forever, I guess it won't be a bad idea making a video of it lol😂💯❤️

[@andreblechynden4578]

Congratulations to you that's a great, you need loads of cash to buy a house in California wow congratulations once again 🎉🤗

[@monicapep2474]

Congratulations what an achievement, I'm currently inspired saving to buy a house too this means a lot to me at this time can you share tips on how you improved your income

[@michelle-rose]

@@andreblechynden4578 thank you ❤️

[@michelle-rose]

I can share some that helped me 1. Plan towards it 2. Be Frugal and minimal on spending ( don't buy why you don't need) 3. Save money towards retirement (Roth IRA/401k) 4. Build an emergency fund 5. Save to invest, this is most important because it's a proven way to get richer. Very important to financial success

[@louis-freddieceaser8811]

Jewels this is a very valuable info thanks for sharing awesome tips

[@rashad0802]

Never have I been so invested in someone's journey that I have never met! I am so happy that you decided to follow your heart with this home buying process. It is a huge committment and responsibility to own a home and if you don't like where you will be living or the home in general, it is always ok to say no! I cannot wait for the next video!

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you so much! ❤ yes, it's a huge commitment, and honestly I feel so much better about my decision now, too!

[@rashad0802]

@@SelenaTrevino That’s what’s most important! You are the one who’s signing all 50 to 60 of those contracts and papers 😂 so you better be happy! So excited for you! Home buying is not for the weak!

[@carlyhopkins4549]

Same!

[@seebeyondurself1st]

Yes!!

[@rachellenale]

I think it’s brave of you to admit to a mistake and thank you for sharing so that others don’t do the same! The fact that they were pressuring you to sign and make such a big decision in 24 hours🚩🚩it sucks to have taken such a loss but it’ll be worth it in the long run to live in a house that you truly love.

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you 💓 I'm definitely excited for what's to come!

[@aaliyahlunan876]

I feel like it’s so good that you allowed yourself to go through all these stages. A home is a big purchase. Gotta make sure it’s right! 18:54

[@SelenaTrevino]

yes, it's a huge purchase and long-term commitment ❤ I agree 1000%

[@talisaramos29]

Hey Selena, as a 27 year old Puerto Rican woman living in NYC (where I’m from), working a 9-5, who still lives with family (and finds so many benefits to it) but am also working really hard toward the next chapter of my life alongside my boyfriend, your channel means SO much to me and is such a source of motivation, inspiration, and comfort. Thank you so much for the content that you create and being transparent around your successes and the challenges along the way. Wishing the best for you on this house journey and so grateful to learn from it! ❤

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you so much 💓 also YES to you living with fam and living in NYC! as long as you're happy, and your mental health is good while living at home, I say more power to you!! enjoy your time living with your loved ones as long as you can!

[@sheylaalers4168]

Puerto Rican here! I'm 37 and can finally buy my house last year here in Puerto Rico. I put 30k on renovations from my saving (redo whole kitchen, a/c, painting outside and inside). I love my home ❤️

[@talisaramos29]

@@sheylaalers4168 amazing!! Thanks for sharing

[@joanneaspires]

My friends and I all experienced buyer's remorse when buying our homes. I experienced it after I signed the papers for my home and saw other places for sale and again after I moved in and saw all the imperfections that I was blind to when I did the initial walk-throughs. I say this just so you can keep it in mind since your now looking at preloved houses. I 100% agree with your mentor, focus on where you want to live because you can always make changes to a home. I know it will seem daunting at first but eventually once your settled you can make changes💞

[@SelenaTrevino]

I hear it's pretty common, the best I can do is choose a location I love and a home I'm willing to put some work into in the long term. Bc ultimately, all houses will take work regardless 💓

[@MyWastelessLife]

Honestly it’s a good decision to back out now. Natural light affects mood & mental health so much & the driveway you might feel it’s not going be an issue for you initially but it will be with neighbors when it comes to street parking & backing in and out of your street. Best of luck and you’ll find the right one!

[@roseliajenny13]

Girly pay no mind to negative comments. Everyone’s home buying journey is so different. You are allowed to change your mind you are human. Once you find THE house you will not have doubts. Give yourself the grace you deserve, you are doing AMAZING.

[@MeditationWithAmber]

Selena!! I actually feel so proud of you for listening to your intuition and being present with the little voice that started to pop up throughout this process. A lot of people would have fallen for the sunk cost fallacy and moved forward with the house knowing that it wasn’t the right choice. Can’t wait to see what you finally choose, and I have no doubt that it will be completely aligned with your dreams now and in the future 🥰✨💕

[@SelenaTrevino]

Wow, thank you so much for your supportive words, you have no idea how much this means 💓 I was honestly a bit nervous to share but decided to bc I knew it could be useful for others who might find themselves in a similar situation.

[@MeditationWithAmber]

@@SelenaTrevino I was just thinking about how it's incredibly brave to share so much of your journey so publicly. What's most inspiring to me is the grace and compassion with which you are navigating the challenges!! 💗💗

[@MikeeRogers]

I’m actually proud of you for backing out! This is a huge commitment and the last thing you want to feel, is being stuck with something you might regret. The right house will come! It might not be everything you want, but it will be enough to where you love it as long as you stick to your must-haves (like natural lighting lol) 🫶🏼

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you Mike, you're so right!! 💓 hahaha yes, definitely sticking to my top 5 non-nogotiables this time around. Now that I actually know what they are for sure hehe :p

[@coralpetals]

I admire your self-awareness and humility. The homebuying process has been extremely chaotic and stressful since the high demands and material and labor shortages resulting from the pandemic and no one should be rushed when making such a huge decision as buying a house, but that is exactly what has been happening. I’m glad you trusted your instincts and made the right decision for you and I wish you the best on the rest of your journey.

[@Leslie.G]

Lol I chuckle every time you say ‘used home’. I know technically it’s not an inaccurate description but I’ve never heard anyone say it before. They just say ‘old’ and you assume since it’s old it’s been ‘used’ 😂😂

[@marinagamby]

Fellow first-time home buyer here too! It’s nice to know we’re all out here struggling a bit LOL. I’m super picky with what I want but at the same time like you said it’s an important purchase and you want to feel 100% confident about it. Good luck! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

[@RachelVinn]

Everything works together for good!! You listened to your gut and did the right thing❤ so excited to see which house you end up choosing!

[@SelenaTrevino]

thanks friend, appreciate you sm 💓

[@Jess___tv]

You absolutely did the right thing to back out of that house. & don’t look at already built houses as ‘used’ think of them as ‘pre-loved’, the way you refer to the houses may help you have a better feeling about it 💝

[@nicolebalmier]

I am so glad you are sharing this with us. No backyard is insane, even nyc homes get a patch of grass lol. This is all a learning process, be gentle with yourself as you are in this process 🫶🏽❤

[@christinearceneaux4791]

I am so glad you are doing this. Most people feel pressured and end up with a house they are not excited about. This was very informative. We always have options - that is what is important.

[@SelenaTrevino]

Thank you so much! yes, I agree. We do have options.

[@cavianguardian]

I think asking questions and inspecting the build, being an active homeowner is the right way to go! People’s advice is good but it’s a different situation when everything is in your name and your money. I know it must’ve been hard to decide to let this new build go because money doesn’t grow on trees. You are stuck in that contract for 5 or 7 years feeling miserable. Owning a house is a privilege but if you have the money, time, & knowledge to get something better. Do it! Please don’t be disappointed in yourself, Selena! This will affect you more than anyone else. Follow your gut instinct. When making a big decision to buy a house is super important to you mental and physical health. I desperately want to buy a house but I can only rent now. I'm here for the ride. Taking some notes too. Thank you Selena!!!!! xxx

[@SelenaTrevino]

1000%!! thank you for your words of encouragement! i'm rooting for you, your day to own a home will come! and honestly, there's no rush 💓

[@trin303]

I'm so glad you listened to yourself in this process! Only you know what's gonna make you happy long-term. I absolutely love this series❤️🥰

[@SelenaTrevino]

Very true!! thank you, I'm glad you're loving it 💓

[@FeliciaWilliams1908]

Please don’t feel bad about your priorities changing. I bought a new build spec model 4 years ago which was my first home purchase. At the time I loved it but after living in it, not only did my priorities change but my taste changed. So I made a decision to sell the home and am having another built that will be semi custom. This market is not the best to sell or buy in but life is short. People tell me how cute my house is and why sell. I tell them that I love my house but was not in love with it. So long story short, go with your gut and do what is best for you. A home purchase is not something you want to regret. Good luck!

[@dabriga7]

Congrats🎉! I also purchased mine last months paid in cash. While watching this video I feel very proud of who I am and what I've accomplished. I'm glad I made a wise financial choice that changed me

[@primrosed2338]

I've never heard someone refer previously-owned houses as used- houses before. It cracked me up every time you said it 😂

[@BUItifulAdventures]

awwwww selena love - i'm sorry you have to go through all these stresses and headaches of buying your first house, BUT! i am so so glad that you trusted your gut and went to tour a few other homes to get a better sense (and confirmation) of what you really actually want! my hubby and i actually (after years of searching for our first home) put an offer in on a home which was overall great, but as we were going through the final stages of the buying process we kept asking each other every night "do you like the house? like, really really like it?" 😅 we both took it as a sign that there was something about it that wasn't settling right with us. we felt so embarrassed to end up backing out right before signing, but girl! a house is a HUGE investment and A LOT of money! thank you for sharing this journey with us - hang in there beautiful! ❤

[@regina107]

I personally think you made a great choice! Location is everything. Like you mentioned, you can always change the house, but not the area it’s in. I hope you find the house you love! 💕 sometimes with older houses, it’s not all too bad because for the most part, you’ll know immediately what you’re working with compared to a new build

[@alaina5943]

Found you recently and I just want to say congrats on your house! I am 25 and just bought a new construction house done in April, glad I found someone to watch and cheer on who is also going through the same stages in life! ❤

[@SelenaTrevino]

You’re building it from the ground up!? Congrats, that’s amazing!! 🫶🏽

[@alaina5943]

​@@SelenaTrevino It is the same type what you were doing, from "Pulte" who is a builder nationwide. It was already started when I bought it, but only a month in, just got windows this week (lol the things that excite me now). I am hoping it finishes earlier than April!

[@alaina5943]

back after I watched the video lol @@SelenaTrevino I totally get the buyers remorse!! I actually ended up switching my lot to a corner lot because my neighbors house got built and all the light got taken from my windows and it felt like I was buying a dungeon. I also totally understand how you feel ignored by those builders. It's so easy to feel that way in my case I'm just extremely lucky that my dad builds homes so he goes on the job site quite frequently to make sure everything is getting done correct which I don't know if that's allowed but he does it anyway. LMAO I hope your house hunting goes well I am so excited for you

[@elisag4664]

That house wasn’t the home for you and you felt that! So glad you backed out and are continuing your search. Your home is out there waiting 🧡🌻

[@JennAlmaguer]

At my now 29 years of age I’ve learned to always go with my gut! I’m glad you backed out of decision you knew you’d later regret! Once you find the perfect house you’ll just know! ❤ enjoying watching your process, I literally took my lunch break just to watch this video… lol

[@luzrodriguez7251]

This is something that happens more often than not. The whole process is a learning experience and pivoting when it’s gut felt is important! Proud of you! 👏🏼

[@DaniiVasco]

It’s a huge commitment and I am with you in your decision, your house will be the place for at least the next upcoming years and you should feel it right. I built with my bf our house last year and is an stressful period, a lot of huge decisions made but so much magic now that we are living in it. Good luck girl, don’t compromise your dreams for anything. Huge hug from Colombia ❤

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you so much!! ❤ also, congrats on building your home with your bf, that's a huge accomplishment too and something to be proud of!! sending love!

[@V3Music23]

I live in England and me and my sister brought a new build apartment, we had a very different experience compared to other people we know, everything went well other than a few hiccups. It sounds like tou definitely made the right decision for you and what you need out of your home. Not sure on the difference between the US and the UK but when we moved in we lived in the flat for 3 weeks before someone came over and we did a walk through with them pointing out the flaws from the build as they believe that people need time for the rose colored glasses to come off a little before looking for mistakes that aren't obvious. It took a year to get everything perfect but they were really helpful to us. It really is so dependent on the builder and asking people for their experiences and unfortunately, learning from mistakes 💖

[@sabrina.c.strickland]

we bought a new build last year and you are spot on about literally all of it! not knowing your natural light situation, the fall off in communication, etc! i will say for anyone reading comments that, at least with our builder, the cosmetic fixes are addressed during a blue tape walk through nearer to closing date and they do it that late intentionally bc construction crews break and damage all sorts of things while they are still building your house. i had them strip and re seal my counters the week before we closed bc they were not to my liking (the epoxy yellowed). but it's scary nonetheless. good for you, selena, for listening to your gut and backing out!

[@chrisaguilera1767]

I chuckled every time you referred to existing homes as "used". I've never heard that before. I'm glad you realized in the end that you're paying for more than just the "used" house. The land and location make up so much of the value you pay for.

[@organized4]

You need light in Oregon, especially when it’s winter. U did the right thing, that’s your biggest investment. Congrats for realizing these things in time! Best of luck on your ultimate choice!

[@Salv-a-13]

My husband and I bought our first house in late 2020…but this was not the first time we went through the home buying process. We had actually viewed homes the previous year, put in an offer, paid for inspections, went through closing negotiations, and ultimately backed out. I WISH more people were open about the ups and downs of the process. Until you go through it, it’s really hard to understand. We could afford to lose some of our money when backing out, which is a privilege, but I’d take losing a small sum of money now then buy a house I don’t love and be locked up in hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt. While buying a home is scary, if you have a gut feeling it’s not right, just listen! When we went through our second home buying process that lead to our first home purchase, we were substantially more excited and confident. We brought our last house offers inspection report with us to give us things to look out for that we wouldn’t have noticed the first time around. It was a much smoother process!

[@SelenaTrevino]

wow thank you so much for sharing, too 💓 I agree 100% about losing a small sum of money to bot be "locked up in $$$$$$ of debt with a house you don't love or atleast a house you don't see yourslef loving long term. I'm so glad you both also made this decision and felt at peace with it, AND ultimately found a house you do feel at peace with!!

[@roryroopa]

Glad you made the decision that was best for you. It’s a HUGE purchase and it’s okay if your priorities change! Excited for what’s next in your home buying journey

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you so much, Rory 💓

[@Gaga0fGaGa]

The previous house reminds me of the houses in the movie Vivarium. You did great by changing it !!

[@SelenaTrevino]

I've never seen that movie 🤪

[@christinacortez7548]

Thank you for sharing this!! I’m in the process of home buying as a first time homebuyer. I’m doing this completely alone and also want a new construction. It’s so good to hear the process from your perspective. Really proud of you for listening to your intuition 💛 This is inspiring me to really take my time like you did and go through the stages of finding your priorities. Thanks for this

[@familyjones4813]

Congratulations on ur journey and many blessings on your first home I remember buying my first home in my 20s and it was amazing 11 years later I'm in my 2nd home my forever home. ♥

[@KKaur1996]

Selena, thank you for sharing this with us all ❤ You have been through such an emotional toll - Remember that you are beautiful, you are strong, and you are such an overwhelming inspiration to us all ❤❤

[@dwfindingzen8870]

I went every week on Sunday up until the end of my new build (second home). Then I went about every other day because of excitement. You will be able to point out cosmetic things and other stuff you want fixed during your walk through. Be picky, turn on things and look at and in EVERYTHING! Take your time. Give yourself grace. You are suppose to be excited, uneasy, nervous, FOMO, etc. This is a major purchase. Know and write down your negotiables and non-negotiables.

[@nancymanta1986]

Can't wait! I' m so proud of you, congrats girl!😍

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you, it’s been a whole PROCESS 😭💗

[@daniellejosephine]

You're being smart! Happy to be along for the process and I'm ok with waiting for the process to play out for you. Money can buy a lot of things but it can't buy sunshine!

[@Nicole-el8hk]

My husband and I put earnest money down on a new build and then instantly regretted it. We ended up backing out and using that contractor to build our dream home instead! Always go with your gut!

[@SelenaTrevino]

wow that's amazing! thank you so much for sharing, I think it really helps to know that this actually does happen pretty often 💓 or atleast that I'm not alone in this experience

[@gorgeousfrazier5903]

Congrats 🎉🎉🎉 it’s so amazing to make the right decision for yourself, and allowing yourself to listen to what your needs are regardless on how they have changed!!

[@judithlandess2651]

So proud of you!! House hunting is so hard, especially when you’re looking for the best place because it’s a HOUSE. We experienced the same pushy, unwillingness to negotiate with a new build when we were house hunting 5 years ago. We walked away from that and found a “used” home that suited us MUCH better. Best of luck!!

[@carlosdeleon6472]

Always follow your gut ! Buying a home is an investment the last thing you want to feel is regret and unhappy living in a place that’s suppose to be your happy safe place . I’m with you on having as much natural light I don’t want to feel like I’m living in a cave. Thank you for sharing your journey with us and your knowledge along the way of buying a home it’s helpful for me and everyone else who in the future would like to venture into that journey ❤

[@jasmineramos5531]

Hi! I’m also a first time home buyer and I felt the same way as soon as I was “locked in”. Part of me thinks it’s just the fear of owning and taking on a huge responsibility. From my own experience my sleep was off the first month of living at my new place. I kept having negative thoughts. Now I feel so blessed and excited to have a home. Blessings to your new home

[@smrreb8000]

You definitely made the right decision. You’re very smart. Trust your intuition always. Sending love. ❤🎉

[@chaday7]

So glad KZbin recommended your channel to me. I’m already a homeowner but love watching these types of videos. Lol I just watched the home tour videos and loved all that was shared. But it was so good to watch this video and continue to hear all of your transparency. It made me laugh to know that there are others like me. 😂 I backed out of two homes when I was on my house hunt. The first one I didn’t lose money, but the next one I did lose money which really sucked, but it didn’t feel right in my gut. The home buying process can be very stressful, especially when you are not married and are really trying to make the best decision for yourself. Now on to watching the next video of yours. 😊 Prayers sent up to you in this home buying/homeownership journey. May you have peace and joy in your new space.

[@anjelicaroses_]

thank you for sharing your story and journey! i feel like i only hear the ‘good’ parts and not all the things that can actually go through. i’m also so proud that you went with your gut and backed out. I can’t wait for the next update!!

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you, that means so much! can't wait to share! 💓

[@cavianguardian]

Congratulations Selena! You made your dream into a reality. Such an inspiration ❤ I love your channel.

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you cavian, always grateful for your support ❤

[@Peppper530]

In Korea new builds are popular because they are considered to be cheapewr but there are soooo many horror stories these days of crappy constrcution and the companycutting costs. I think you def made the right decision. For me location is verry important so i totally understand. You need to listen to your instincts with these things. Cant wait for more!!

[@amyfaurote1488]

Congratulations on figuring out what you really want. Don't regret your decision. Your gut knows what's best.

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you amy 💓

[@Aunty87]

I'm so happy you keep investigating those feels about the house. SMRT ❤️❤️

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you

[@Jooaneee]

Selena, if you weren’t feeling it, it was the best decision - and probably not a easy one to make. You did good on following your gut, regardless the lost. You’ll find the perfect home, I know you will. 😊 Thank you for sharing your journey with us. 🤗💕

[@meeshmallowz]

oh no not everyone in the comments thinking you went through with the new construction 😅you deserve to find a house that's perfect for you though. don't settle! excited to see what house you do pick.

[@SelenaTrevino]

HAHAHAHA yesss, thank you 💓

[@carine9122]

Congrats on purchasing your home. I am glad you listened to your instinct on this decision. It's what makes you happy that counts. Thank you for sharing

[@kerricherelle]

So very excited for you, Selena! Many congratulations & blessings sent your way as you navigate this new journey❤

[@xo_calibri]

Thank you for sharing this and being vulnerable. The home buying process is scary (as someone who wants to start planning and looking soon) so this conversation is so valuable to people who haven’t traveled the journey yet ❤

[@ste6098]

I don’t have experience buying a house, not even renting one, but I’ll say that I agree with you on buying something that you truly like and see yourself living in. Hope you find what you want.

[@jazzminswinson2116]

I relate to this video soooo much! I recently decided to not buy after saving and praying for years! It comes down to you being the most comfortable and I feel sad sometimes then I remember I’m doing what is best for me.

[@SelenaTrevino]

yess, you gotta do what's best for you!! 💓

[@estherestelle7920]

Location is super important. A home is a fair amount of work both inside and outside even when they are new. Just the cleaning alone takes more time so for me, being able to order groceries and having a choice as to which store to order from is super important so that my partner and I aren't just doing chores or running errands. He does the yard work and exterior and I do a lot of the interior, so I wanted to be able to delegate things that either one of us wouldn't have to do. I wanted the gym and our doctors to be close, things like that. Good for you for following your heart and thinking things through.

[@SelenaTrevino]

I agree 100%!! that's a good point too about ordering groceries and delivery being a bit more difficult when living in a small town away from everything. thank you for sharing and for your support 💓

[@estherestelle7920]

@@SelenaTrevino I've lived in areas where ordering a simple pizza without paying an arm and a leg was not possible. Oftentimes it's the seemingly little things that can be overlooked because planning a big purchase is so overwhelming and there's much to consider. Something like being able to get medications delivered on a day where I am already feeling overwhelmed can be huge.

[@bethbebe27]

Thank you so much for sharing all these issues you had to go through! I’m sorry its so stressful with these big decisions, but it truly shows, you really can’t go out there and just “buy a house” . So I appreciate this a lot! I wish you the best of luck in the next stage of your house buying, I will be here waiting and watching!

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you so much!! I'm so glad that sharing my experience is helping you all see the honest truth behind home buying, it's definitely not an easy process. It's a huge commitment, similar to marriage, and very costly. Thank you for your support 💓

[@BollywoodMediaOnline]

OMG PLOT TWISTS!!! Did not expect to see this journey go so up and down...from buying the new build with earnest $ to reserve it and then the final result of backing out ... wow!

[@sprinkles345]

Wait, I’m soooo happy for you! I never thought I’d be so excited for someone I don’t personally know. 👏🏻 well deserved, Selena! 🎉

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you sm 💓

[@4fa2005]

I'm so glad you backed out of the house! As you were describing how things went down with the push to buy them the lack of communication after you were locked in I felt dread about what the finished product would be. Props to you for being willing to change directions. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is admit that you don't want something anymore ESPECIALLY when money is attached. Tips for the future: Think about getting a new realtor and/or broker and get a really good house inspector! If you find good people they'll protect you as much as possible in your home buying journey. Good luck!

[@dalleshaful]

Congratulations 🎊 you should be so proud of yourself 🎉

[@just_deejah6978]

Please remember: EVERYTHING IS NEGOTIABLE IN REAL ESTATE! I work for a home builder company. I am soooooo glad you ended the deal.

[@SelenaTrevino]

it definitely is, with used houses! and new builds maybe in some areas where there's a ton of supply. 💓 appreciate you!!

[@patriciagrullon7838]

¡Amé este video! Sentí como que hablaba contigo directamente. Vivo en República Dominicana, recién cumplí los 28 años, soy médico de profesión y a principios de este año pasé por todo eso, también compre en cosntrucción y ya casi ME MUDO EN MI APARTAMENTO. Es una mezcla de sentimientos compleja: por un lado feliz porque estas comprando TU PRIMER INMUEBLE a tus 20´s y por otro lado un miedo tremendo porque toooodo tus ahorros se van para ese proyecto y quieres tomar la mejor decision. Adoro como me siento a la par con el contenido que consumo. Estoy más que ansiosa de verte en esta nueva etapa!!! Abrazos y un cafecito desde aquí XOXO 🤩😁

[@createdbyriks]

everyone's journeys are different and honestly i'm glad that you decided to follow your gut! super brave of you girl, im so proud of you!

[@Youmedevin]

I really appreciate hearing about your experience. My partner and I have chosen to build and have acouple months left till closing and I have had similar thoughts about whether it was the right choice. Luckily for us I think we made a decision that really fits our needs. Your video has made me feel more secure in that because we have also had some goals change but got lucky that the home we are building aligns with those goals. Initially we didn't care about a yard, but the yard we a getting is actually more than we anticipated. We also did make alot of choices as we built from the ground up which helped us feel like the house fits us more. So far it's been a good experience but we are hoping it continues to go well

[@MomDateWithSashaJay]

I'm a Real Estate agent and I loved your video from a buyers perspective. The sellers agent shouldn't have pressured you like that whatsoever that was very unprofessional and definitely not needed, new homes come on the market everyday. And always have a great buyers agent because there is wiggle room with closing costs and finding a great lender that will work with you. And you never have to go with one lender! I always take my clients to multiple lenders cause every lender is different. Also if you are buying from a new build go everyday or every other day home buying is such a huge purchase in your life, its a big commitment never feel like your bugging. You have to be on top of the builders sometimes. With my clients I'm very communicative of every single step especially with first time home buyers. Talk to your agent about looking into getting an inspector to come by your home when it's completed to see if there are any things needed to be done. Read the fine print they have like 14-30 days to fix anything it should be in your home warranty. Good luck with everything!!

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you for sharing 💓 yeah, I'm grateful I had a very supportive agent. From the beginning, she told me not to let the other agent make me feel rushed or pressured. But I still felt it bc of the 24 hour limit and even when we asked for an extension, she wouldn't give it... all red flags, but you live and you learn I guess.

[@MomDateWithSashaJay]

@@SelenaTrevino yeah definitely as long as you got a good agent 💜

[@melissaivetterodriguez3464]

Dude there is nothing braver than recognizing you’re feeling that cognitive dissonance and actually doing something about it. We’re far more likely to justify things to ourselves or rationalize our decisions, so for you to really leverage your resources to follow your gut??? An actual queen 👑

[@bridgetb5423]

so happy for you Selina, this has been a trying year for you and you deserve all the good things coming your way♡.

[@mansoor3159]

Congratulations dear Selena on your new house and I am so so happy for you and I really really can't wait to watch your new house and I wish you have a wonderful day always💫💗🤗

[@SelenaTrevino]

Appreciate you always, Mansoor ❤

[@cuevasvalerie]

I appreciate you sharing your journey in such an authentic way. It’s a huge decision! If something doesn’t feel right, it’s always going to nag at you. Proud of you for recognizing that and taking a step back instead of just continuing the process when you feel unsure.

[@JustAGrl007]

I’m so mad that I’m subscribed to you but have not seen your videos. It looks like it almost a year. I just happen to do a search and then I see that you bought a car and then it’s at homebuyer diaries. Congratulations!

[@Tashas_Travels]

Congratulations Selena. So proud of you. Love all the way from africa (Zambia)🇿🇲🇿🇲🇿🇲🇿🇲 started watching you last year and all i can say is you have grown. Much love

[@cindyroque2319]

Congratulations!!!! So excited for this new chapter in your life🥰❤️

[@JulienizBaez]

CONGRATULATIONS!!! THIS IS SO EXCITING!! ❤

[@NLLavien]

thank you so much for sharing!!! this was so informative and vulnerable --- navigating this process must be challenging as a 20 something but you've handled it so well! rooting for you always!

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you so much, appreciate your kind words of support 💓

[@CourtneyDeBoise]

Hi! I love your content! I am from and live in the DMV area. I am so glad you pulled out of that new build. We have that same company here and also Ryan homes. They are both awful. A friend of mine after 1 years of owning a new build through them literally her foot went through the floor because of poor construction and her house was settling (which is common for homes) however it was slowly sloping on one side, due to poor foundation. I’m sorry you lost your earnest money but in the long run you possibly saved thousands. Don’t ever feel bad for being a helicopter home buyer. Buying a home is a huge investment. Ask all of the questions, take notes, get things in writing and if you are still not comfortable take a break. Thank you for your great content!!

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you courtney 💓 wow that's wild!!! I'm so sorry for your friend!! thank you for sharing!

[@CarlyneDTQTonPod]

hi Selena love~ awww i was so excited for you getting your first house - but it's so sad that the construction builder company was so unresponsive towards you during this process. it reminds me of when my Godsister and her then-boyfriend-now husband were buying their first newly built house in Atlanta, GA back in 2015. i am cheering for you 💕

[@SelenaTrevino]

I know me too, but we live and we learn! new builds aren't meant for everyone just like used houses aren't a good fit for everyone! thank you sm 💓

[@4misskay]

Congrats ❤🎉 You did that, chica!! 👏🏾 👏🏾

[@SelenaTrevino]

thanks so much!! ❤

[@4misskay]

@@SelenaTrevino you made a good choice in backing out. Homes are way too big a purchase (and we spend too much time there) not to love them. I’ve been looking for 2+ years 😮‍💨

[@SelenaTrevino]

@@4misskay EXACTLY! it's better to wait until we're 100% sure, or atleast feel at peace with our decision. I def think there won't be a "perfect first house" but there will be a house that brings me peace ❤ rooting for you to find yours sooner than later!!

[@Bozothebench]

The minor defects usually do get fixed after the close to closing walkthrough but the ghosting might foreshadow any post purchase customer service. I’m glad you really thought it through. I’m sure you felt relieved after deciding to pull out. Can’t wait for you to find your perfect place ❤ Idk if you’re working w a real estate agent but they might help strong arm a seller. It’s helpful to have someone who knows all the ins-and-outs of the business. We have ours do all the back and forth w our builders. Either way good on you for making the decision to keep looking for a perfect house!

[@angiekill]

Backyard is life 🌿Glad you feel that! Good luck on your journey 🙏🏻

[@margietoves6038]

Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I think it is great that you are being honest with yourself and what you want because it is so hard. I hope you find the house that meets all your needs.

[@breedizzleee]

This is SO relatable. I'm literally in the same boat, where "old" homes cost the same as the new builds. In addition, had to sacrifice a backyard but don't share walls with my neighbors.

[@SelenaTrevino]

Yesss 100%!! I totally get it! And honestly either way there are pros and there are cons 🫶🏽

[@itskristinacom]

So happy for you Selena ! Congrats ! ❤😍

[@nickisix2006]

Selena , I loveeed this video. I learned sooo much. Such an eye opener. Well done!! Please continue sharing these honest videos.

[@mataoputa6697]

i feel so proud of you, you should not be forced in anyway ...you inspire me love you

[@silviaflores4720]

At your age I would have been surprised if you didn’t change your mind! I’m in my 40’s and in no way able to buy on my own but the places that I’ve rented I always followed the golden rule that no matter where I lived whether it was a few miles or several it’s a home I want to drive home to after a long day at work. Your home is your sanctuary. Good luck to you and keep trusting that intuition you are blessed with!

[@Hiiipowerdanni]

Its been so nice seeing your journey!! So happy for you and I look forward to the future related content.

[@SelenaTrevino]

Thank you so much!! 💓

[@shelleydenison]

Girl the fact that you can afford to buy in the Portland metro is impressive!

[@Charee93]

I also backed out of a new build and lost my money. It was so stressful but the idea of keeping a house I was not in love with was even scarier ! You’ll find the perfect home!

[@SelenaTrevino]

THIS!!! 100% 🥹

[@uniquelyshellz]

I pray you get the house you love and know that it brings true joy in your heart and soul💞💞

[@halliesharpless9298]

I'm so happy you put yourself first and made the decision to keep looking. Love following along on your journey and always take so many nuggets of wisdom from your videos! Would you ever consider a podcast? Not that you have any extra time to a lot to that haha but I bet you'd have such amazing episodes relative to your content here!!

[@NovemberRain007]

Awww, Selena, I think you made the right decision🩵; I don’t think I could have been that brave. I’m sure you’ll know when you find THE HOUSE! Wish you the best🫶🏼

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you so much!! it was definitely hard 💓

[@brittneyducre4618]

You were pressed the frustration is spot on. Video spot on you go queen