I CALLED out my BF‘s family….

[@00videovideo]

Parents: “why don’t they visit us anymore? It’s can’t be our fault because we are amazing parents; just ask our favorite child. They are just being ungrateful.”

[@Lucean627]

And then you got extended family calling and saying “suck it up for the peace of the family” like, no. Screw a peaceful family that has dishonest and unfair treatment. I’m fine without family

[@papasmurf9146]

My parents pulled this. We stopped going. Originally the plan was Thanksgiving with my family, Christmas with hers. When my parents pulled this stunt, we just spent both with her parents.

[@peace8096]

Good thing you supported your partner

[@marki57686]

good choice

[@RoxyLuffer]

Good for you!

[@oz_jones]

Oh no! Anyways...

[@hellokittysolos19]

Jack and Jill went up the hill

[@khalynheadleygeorge2976]

I was searching the comment section looking for this comment ngl 😅 😂

[@freddywebbinator7816]

Thank u, this yes, thank u

[@skullytrooprockers6827]

And they died

[@sharanblox]

@@skullytrooprockers6827 They felllll down the wellllllll

[@minsana3023]

Now they can fall down and lay in the bed they made when they're in need

[@JaniceHodge-r7t]

Solution ....1. Don't go 2. Get a hotel 3. Get an RV Family can be PIA (pains in the a$$) Seems the parents need to step in and keep it rotating fairly .

[@mutteringcrone1210]

Except the parents support one particular couple.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Yea, I said get a hotel room!

[@nyxspiritsong5557]

The parents are the one changing the rules.

[@greenrangerx]

It would have been an immediate 9 hour drive home. Not worth the drama

[@Sasu123456789x1]

Either dont go next year, or stay in a hotel. I'll be damned to sleep in an air mattress on the holidays, depending on the circumstances.

[@mutteringcrone1210]

Yep, hotel. Then, you can leave when you want. Be comfortable. And sleep in!

[@bassman1590]

Solution: don't go.

[@patriciahopkins8432]

Get a hotel and have fun. Go to their house only for a specific reason. No helping them, your busy since you had to stay at a hotel, you are going to take advantage of the spa treatments. Maybe next year. Tell everyone how great the hotel is during dinner.

[@amyjames7760]

They don't like you get over it. Don't go stay at a hotel, but I would not sleep on a air mattress more than one year in a row. I would simply tell Nathan that if we're on the air mattress you're paying for a hotel. This is your family we're going to and they're treating us like crap

[@TheLowsee]

Exactly!!!!

[@sharonmclain4158]

Tell Mary that since she's such a 2 faced liar, you won't be coming.

[@megz527]

Ooooo I like this

[@genesisbella35]

Stay in a hotel to avoid the drama or stay away. There is no point in complaining if they have already shown you their true colors.

[@Lyna8689]

Yeah no, I’m not traveling 9 hours to sleep on an air mattress 3 years in a row. After the first year I would have suggested a hotel near the parents house.

[@Sasu123456789x1]

@@Lyna8689 exactly 💯

[@georgiegal6745]

Suggested? I'd have already booked the room a year in advance!

[@katemcbride8715]

Don't go ever again. Why put up with this?

[@Sasu123456789x1]

Exactly like wtf...

[@hilliardgirl6147]

Go to a hotel, preferably in a different place. Enjoy a vacation

[@alwaysvoteyes57]

Not married gurl, and she ain't saying the quiet part outloud. Period

[@jeanmartin6410]

It’s time to get a hotel. If you can’t afford one, you can’t afford to go. It’s really that simple.

[@Phephe00]

She wouldn't have had to worry about it.Because I would have left and I probably would not have came back for a very long time

[@GirlWthGlasses]

I actually really don't like staying with family and that's why I book hotels instead and I don't tell my family which on I'm taking my partner to. 😊

[@tinaharvey2342]

It's time to make other arrangements because obviously there's a problem in the family were favoritism is being shown

[@kathleenhallahan6238]

When I stay st ny son's I sleep on an air mattress. Its full bed height, queen size with a built-in headboard and pump. It inflates and deflates according to the firmness I set for comfort. I've been using it for several years. It cost about $125. I leave it at his house ( you may not want to do that). It deflates itself, flat. I fold it up, put it in its storage bag and it stays in a closet. It's so comfortable that he has used it for other guests who commented how comfortable it is. He asked my permission b4 using it for anyone else. Air mattresses are only a bad thing if they aren't tall enough and/or comfortable enough. My BIG concern is the fact that you've put in the MOST effort to be there and get the least considerstion. Buy and bring your own air mattress or stop going. This apparently isn’t going to change.

[@lilliansoto1197]

Stop going! It's real easy and if they don't like it they will learn to stop picking favorites! Show her this post too so she can see that favoritism in a family is an ugly look. She should probably take parenting classes so she understands this causes trauma! I would also not allow contact with any children you guys have she will obviously do the same to your kiddos

[@lindabrown2703]

Time to stop visiting for holidays. Pick a day outside the holiday season when the others WON'T be there. Problem solved.

[@introvertspeaks]

Either they don't like you, or it's because you're not married yet which does not justify any of this.

[@Danman00123]

Jack, married with Jill 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Violet_536]

Idc if it’s fake names but Jack and Jill is so cute. Like the song: _jack and Jill went up a hill_

[@michellealjunaidi8471]

My husband's family pulled this one year when we went for a family gathering. So we left. His folks thought we went to a hotel. We went to the hotel alright 2 hours away and spent the weekend at disney world. My husband was so petty he was posting our fun on his social media accounts.

[@Clashgrrl_64]

Jack and Jill XDD

[@kimmieb2u]

Arrange for a hotel with the money uou eould have spent on gifts.

[@lindsayhobbs6536]

Just stop going, and tell them why. My mother favors my brother and his wife because they go to their church and my husband and I do not. She lies about her motivations but the truth is blatabtly obvious, as it is in your case. If they're going to be unfair, then don't go. Tell them you didn't drive 9 hours to be put on an air mattress, and if she's going change the rules and make the stakes unfair, you'll save your gas money and the miles on your car. They're adults, they can handle it.

[@sandrawilliamson9849]

Stay at a hotel and enjoy the nice hot showers and privacy... did this a few times and loved it Felt like a mini vacation .. did see family all day and part of the evening... then had a king-size bed my own tv and nice long hot shower... yep heaven!!!

[@snowangel92100]

Why do you keep wasting your holiday, time, and money. It stopped being worth it after the second year. Either it's purely favoritism, or this is their weird way of not supporting your relationship. Since you're not a married couple, there's no reason for you to be comfortable/ have privacy in their house. The married brother gets the biggest guest room. Minus the first come first serve rule, they do need the bigger bed/ room, there's 3 people. And a cranky baby/ toddler will become an everyone issue. But the single brother gets the other room when either of them being on the air mattress makes the most sense. But every year it's OP. The only difference is relationship status and what they mean in cultural/ religious settings. A married coupled outranks, a single person and a single person outranks (in this context) the unmarried couple.

[@RoseZ-Gtee]

"Jack". "jill" Me: JACK AND JILL WENT UP THE HILL

[@RoyalLove-j6z]

Jack and Jill 😂

[@zanecraig]

JACK AND JILL HAHAHA

[@Confetti_cookieslol]

HOLD ON , JACK AND JILL???

[@neldablanco1663]

DON'T GOOR GET NICE HOTEL!!!

[@NighDarke]

Leave. I'd say "not ok" then immediately leave.

[@FreedomKid100]

Don’t go or leave and stay in a hotel.

[@judysuber4262]

We'll be staying at the Marriott... Call us after breakfast

[@Sleepymagnoliaz]

Ain’t no way Jack is married to Jill 😭🙏🏾

[@Real_Uniblade]

BHAHAHHAAAA💀🙏

[@nataliasclarandi8204]

Get a hotel & let them simmer in their choices

[@blue_jay6012]

What type of person has the gall to ask for twenty-five thousand dollars? Jesus, I had to ask my dad for $100 to cover gas one month and I felt guilty.

[@njsanders]

Simple solution... Leave and never come back.

[@kianna2530]

I’d have booked a hotel and they wouldn’t see me again. Who can be bothered with all that

[@alyssa-drawandstretch]

Anyone going to mention the Jack and Jill who are married?

[@DishedDelicious]

Did nobody notice that jack is married to jill?

[@Frolic_Cesar]

Excuse me? Jack and Jill?

[@karenshort3880]

Why stay there? Get a hotel room? Or rent you an RV or stay with friends or other relatives

[@JulieHall-q6b]

I think I would find elsewhere to spend my time.

[@Cavolfipriecapperi]

I'll be the paragraph guy today, OP posted a long update: I feel like I may have let y'all down on this one based on the advice, but here's how things went: Later Monday night, Nathan spoke to his mom, and we did get the bed for the one night before Jack and Jill arrived. Initially, it was only offered for us to move the air mattress into the queen bedroom for the night, but Nathan pointed out that we were being made to sleep on an air mattress when a bed was readily available. The next morning, Nathan had to run errands where we used to live before we moved. While he was gone, I washed the sheets and remade the bed, even though Luke and Millie told me I didn’t have to wash them-just remake the bed. (While everyone in the family is very clean, Mary always insists on washing the sheets between visitors, so I did it out of respect for her preferences.) Millie and Luke even offered for us to take their bed, but honestly, it wasn’t just about the bed. It was about the promises that were made and then retracted, despite these rules being in place for years. It was also about the gaslighting and the fact that Mary didn’t tell us ahead of time, even though there were so many chances to do so. As close friends to Luke and Millie, I didn’t want to put them in the position of being uncomfortable on the air mattress either. (While I’ve never had a child myself, I know your body isn’t the same afterward, especially your back.) We ultimately agreed to move the air mattress into Luke and Millie’s room since they had a heater, and it gave us a little bit of privacy. We tried to make the most of the holidays and enjoy our time there despite everything. Later, Mary mentioned plans to get two pull-out couches-one for the area between the rooms and one for the twin bedroom. While this was thoughtful, it still didn’t address the issue of changing the rules to suit others. Mary has already stated that we’ll have a bedroom for Christmas, but if this promise is broken again, we won’t stay at their house in the future. Nathan and I have decided that if we don’t get a bed for Christmas, we’ll stay in a hotel. (We’re still planning to go because it’s Luke and Millie’s son’s birthday.) For Thanksgiving next year, if there isn’t enough room, we’re staying home. However, Nathan and I are currently planning on getting a house, and Luke and Millie suggested that once we do, we could host Thanksgiving there. They said they’d love to attend, which is exciting because Millie and I are both avid bakers and love cooking.(whenever Millie and I bring dishes to these gatherings, they’re barely touched-except by us and our partners. ) We’re also planning to visit Luke and Millie more often. They are considering moving closer to the parents and when they host holidays in the future, we’ll always have a guaranteed space at their home. To address popular questions for info on the last post. • Alex: He doesn't come for Thanksgiving, he only saves his days off for Christmas. Also he has rarely gotten put on an air mattress ( only once that I remember and that was Luke and Millies Wedding). When all four bros used to come for holidays it was Alex in the twin, Luke ( pre marriage or girlfriend) on the air mattress in that room, Nathan and I in-between rooms, and Jack and Jill in the queen. • Hotel: This house is in the middle of nowhere. Closest decent hotel is around 45- 1 hr. The main draw of visiting is everyone ( except parents) stay up late all evening playing board games/ DnD and drinking. We used to do a drunk gingerbread making contest. As for the distance to a hotel, that would mean missing out on hanging out, and their are no Ubers here. Also before we moved this year, we didn't stay as many days and didn't mind staying on the air mattress 1-2-3 days due to what seemed fair to us. We also were the second closest cpl and just didn't get as much time off which always made us last. Also, we didn't get a hotel this time after the incident, due to saving up for a house/ wedding. We didn't have spare cash floating around. Honestly y'all know this economy and unexpected expenses. • Millie and Luke: The live within the state, barely. It's not feasible for them to stay home or us stay with them. Also staying with Millies parents isn't an option. They don't get along, and interact due to their child. As Millie believes her child deserves a relationship with his grandma even if she doesn't have a great relationship with her mom. Also there is no room. • Mary. This was completely out of character for Mary. Infact the only person everyone in the house has an issue with is John. Mary is the one who wants all of their sons home for the holidays and goes out of her way to make sure we'll all attend ( usually). Luke does believe the change was due to his Dad and their mom was made the messenger. Because the Mom is usually a big person on fairness, and mostly have had no issues ( other than ones John push her into) This was also backed up by Johns reaction to hearing we stayed in the room for one night. Before this interaction, Mary is one of four people that I've stated I'd take a bullet for, due to her normal kindness. • Jack and Jill. Most in the house has had an issue with them. Previous holidays they have thrown a fit due to us voting on where to eat and none of us wanted to go where they chose. So they refused to eat with us. Jill is the main issue of this and similar things happen everytime. This year Millie asked if we could play the board game in their room one night as she was on the phone with her sister playing an online game, and we didn't have much room due to the air mattress. Jill stated she wasn't willing to, and either it was in our room or they weren't playing. They are also the reason we have to board the dogs. Their dog is aggressive and with a small child it's not safe. However if they aren't attending we are allowed to bring our dogs. • Chronic illness/ pregnancy: For all the comments about pregnancy, Jill is not pregnant. About health reason, Millie has some chronic illness they are still trying to figure out. Jill used to be on the overweight side but has lost a significant amount in three years. I have insomnia. Both Millie and I have bipolar disorder and endometriosis. This is inconvenient due to my period usually hitting during the holidays

[@rM-xk9ob]

I hate to say it but this will continue with everything from holidays to how grand children are treated. You will always be third class citizen. I would bet that if you look at things like costs of gifts to who does most of the work when there., you will discover it is one sided. Who gets the better gifts, who does most of the clean up or have to help out the most. They spoil the favorite child so you are obviously the ones who pay. Leave, find a hotel for the night, go someplace nice and forget them. Write a letter explaining to the parents and the others. They should realize it is unfair. If the others don't see it the same thing, that it is unfair, they obviously feel the same. If worse case, go no contact for a short time. If they don't change, make it permanent.. Being treated like a POS can become a habit. Break the habit.

[@fuzziebunnie83]

When I visit my Dad I always get the bed and my brother or sister get the air mattress. I usually stay longer, pay for myself and I’m 15/17 years older.

[@johnlinton6118]

I would just leave.

[@raine1898]

Stop going.

[@p.twilliams6393]

Leave 🤷‍♀️

[@noyahjeekson]

I would just leave

[@StickmenuniverseYT]

Make me be able to skip fourward

[@melvidal]

Don't go back

[@rochelle-xz8gl]

Why not just get a hotel

[@StephanieGuthrie-xu7qd]

Stop going or stay in a hotel

[@annaeller5884]

Get a hotel

[@eileengernet8670]

Stay in a hotel

[@nothingspecial443]

Stop talking to them

[@abookishworld1]

Thid story is fake 💀

[@gingercollier2508]

You are guests in their home. Sleep where you"re told or get a hotel room. Acting worse than children!

[@TyneilMcNally]

But why are you guys not getting hotel in Kong a day like I’m not trying to be disrespectful or mean and I’m that that does seem like a far drive and I don’t know it’s the holidays. It might be more pricey to rent a Airbnb or hotel, but wouldn’t it make more sense to moving forward if they don’t if they have some biased towards you or what have wanted it for the peace of mine other two things don’t go or only go for one day or day and a half and then go back to your house that I’m driving there cause it seems like that’s a drive that they’re doing wanna fly in and fly out that’s number one or if you’re going to drive like I said stay for you know a day and a half maybe two days max budget that out and then you know I’ve gone every year maybe go every other year and you stay in the hotel and that way there’s no There’s no issues because I don’t understand if you’re not if you have in-laws or family members that are treating you uncomfortably why are you gonna keep going to the house? I wanna go to the house. Let alone I’m not gonna go and sleep over. I will just avoid and if I have to just to keep the peace in my household, I’m definitely not sleeping over. I’m definitely gonna go show my face be respectful and I wanna go back to the hotel but I’m not sleeping over. There’s just no way I would never do something like I’m not putting myself in the position and my boyfriend would never he will never stand for something my dad he wouldn’t and I wouldn’t. I wouldn’t on my dad either like on either side. This this one just never happened. This would never happen in my family and if if it ever did, I’m out.

[@crazycrystaljuggalo]

Then you leave

[@nickriolo5699]

toxic Stop. Wasting time and delete them and block them

[@nicolahuebscher4440]

Just go. Maybe next year.

[@I_love_ur_dad]

YTA, its an air mattress for a few days lol not a big deal. Dont likeit? Bring a better air mattress 😂 karen behaviors

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Found mom in the comments!

[@donaldcampbell3043]

Just go home, start your own tradition