I can't stop thinking about the past

[@ocdandanxiety]

What things does your brain keep replaying over and over again? 🧠

[@janeenharrison1396]

What do you do if it’s a real contagious health issue and you’re not clear what regimen you’re supposed to do to clear it up for good?

[@pumpkin1982]

Can you use ERP for somatic reprocessing for trauma? Getting over a past event by working through present triggers?

[@shamahgirl7865]

PLEASE! Can you make vid to help me. I extremly worry about 'if' my grandmother had 'C' or not. She died about 42 years ago before i was born, my dad doesnt know what she died of coz she died abroad but says it wasnt cancer coz his dad never mentioned 'C'. I can't get over the many 'what ifs' as my dad doesn't know the cause of death. i have 4 kids and theyre sufferring with me coz of my anxiety, ocd, overthinking, obsessing, i cant function or go out house and live and do stuff coz of this on going thought that NEVER stops. I have started to question amd question my young kids for reassurance and i keep doing it as new questions appear and they are sick of it and im sick of it but i cant stop. I want to die and never wake up. Help me.

[@janeenharrison1396]

@@shamahgirl7865 please please please do not let your worry about that or anything else take the years away from you actually being there and present and the best you that you are for your children. I got ocd when my first child was born and he is now 43. All the joy and security I could have given to my kids if I didn’t give in to ocd. Please get Jonathan Graysons book it’s a guide to how to get free from ocd. Freedom from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder- a guide to living with uncertainty. Amazon has it. I am more than willing to talk to you also. I’m not a professional by any means, but I know what you’re going through. You can overcome this and give the kids their mom back.

[@jibrilabdillahi4967]

Please help I have real event ocd I can't stop ruminate about my ex 4years ago.Iam trying to resolve our problems we had but there is nothing to resolved it is over . But my brain doesn't want understand that I hope you understand me

[@Vicobop]

I've often felt (and been told by one psychotherapist) that trauma can exacerbate the black and white thinking that comes with OCD, and especially RE OCD. It makes sense if you had incidents in the past that shaped how you feel about being wrong, being embarassed, making social mistakes, hurting others, being punished, etc, then naturally your OCD would latch on to such things. But it's good to know the difference between both, I hadn't thought of that!

[@jibrilabdillahi4967]

What is Re ocd?

[@Vicobop]

@@jibrilabdillahi4967 real event, just wanted to abbreviate it hah

[@Rick40years]

Thanks for that, it describes me exactly. That is a difficult burden to carry every day. I was using alcohol for a very long time to shut my brain down. Which eventually made it worse. It's difficult to cope when the thoughts don't go away.

[@rekhaagrawal9771]

My brain is sometimes focusing on things like if I get something that i like and what will happen if I loose that thing that I like and then what if my happiness will go away... 😢

[@SammynAlgeria]

Same man you see these super strong cartoon or anime villians? they seem pretty tough at first but they often get weak as the time and episodes passes same thing with ocd i am following mr.nathan method and it's working and i know you can do it too ❤❤❤

[@rekhaagrawal9771]

@@SammynAlgeria hey! Thank you so much for the reply! Means a lot to me! ❤️ Which method at u following of Nathan which works for you?

[@SammynAlgeria]

@@rekhaagrawal9771 you're welcome my mate we all are of the same race so we should always look out for each other my heart cries in happiness when i manage to help others out oh about the method don't ever worry it's always the same it's exposure and response prevention Mr.Nate always explains it in most of his ocd videos but in different ways i will try to make it look simple ok if it's a complusional ocd then take a deep breath and ask yourself this "do i want to do this?" if you don't know it's okay you can instead risk it but it's a threat ocd that tells you you must do something don't do it it usually comes as a thought that later starts becoming threatening expose yourself to it without doing the complusion and have full confidence that nothing bad will happen ONLY respond to axienty when you see it and feel physical danger ok for the last one is pure ocd without any compulsionanl behavior simply same thing expose yourself to it and since you can't see and feel the danger it's most likely a false alarm threat take away the value from it by acting like you don't care and repeat i hope this helps sorry for making it look long i tried goodluck and wish you a happy safe life 🤗🫂

[@O.N.L.]

Yes. And the feeling of loss feels so real. Like it’s happening in real time 😣

[@rekhaagrawal9771]

@@O.N.L. so true! Feel you bro! We've gotta realise that it isn't real and not do the compulsions to make a difference in our OCD! We got this!!! ❤️

[@bluntm4n9]

"what's getting in the way of your life right now? 1. Physical symptoms? 2. Intrusive thoughts? 3. Compulsions?" Me: Yes.

[@Savitar.2020]

Yes²

[@keltro6921]

Whenever I feel anxious I feel like I’m going to go back to the really bad anxiety and feelings that I had during Covid. I think that this is the one, this time is the one that is never gonna go away and I’m going to have to live with all this anxiety. It’s usually in times that I have other really stressful things going on in my life that I’m actually trying to figure out, then I just get hit with these waves of panic attacks every other day or so and it brings me to ruminate on how I can fix this and not feel anxious like this anymore.

[@MelW669]

Yeah I’m stuck myself. First it was a divorce that was initiated before Covid, then dealing with that through Covid, then a very toxic relationship after that, finally found some peace. Then my dad’s cancer diagnosis and a hurricane destroyed my town. I’m like…seriously…I feel like I can’t keep up with the outside events giving me so much stress. I truly want to find ways to deal better because it would appear that I need to get used to really bad things happening to me repeatedly.

[@Mouse-bk5rd]

my god there's a word for it! i've been dealing with this for a really long time and while i know i have ocd (and have overcome other obsessions) this is one that i just couldn't get over, esp bc ruminating abt the past would make me avoid seeking out mental health resources (whenever i would seek out resources, i would just start ruminating on why i hadn't done so sooner, which has been a pretty awful cycle to escape). now that i've overcome that hurdle, things should get easier. tysm

[@inacuro9385]

😂😂😂😂 I was struggling with a real event ocd and laughed so hard with your humour so thank you very much!!! It was very nice.

[@MaryVirimayi-dl9pi]

I over think about my future, indecisive and my past mistake

[@elizabetta00]

idk if this is weird but i love ur demeanor & appreciate the way you speak so warmly. i have a therapist already but it's nice to have two haha

[@adammm608]

I’m a psychologist and find a lot of value from your videos. Fantastic content.

[@Mehakpreetbhullar]

I have a fear of getting conversion disorder which gives me more anxiety 😢

[@Mehakpreetbhullar]

Can u pls educate me on conversion disorder like I think if I will even feel little stress due to OCD i might get conversion disorder of blindness or paralysis

[@fayerichards6088]

Thank you! You and Emma from Therapy in a Nutshell doing great things on KZbin to help so many.

[@snehasishmukherjee8654]

Ever heard of mark de jesus..thank me later. btw.. Nathan is awesome.

[@makothetako]

Thank you so much for your channel! As someone with CPTSD and OCD - yup, you can have trauma AND obsessions over the past! It isn't fun. I was diagnosed with CPTSD first years ago, due to abuse that spanned the first 20 years of my life, and initially CBT and EMDR really helped. The flashbacks and unearthing the past was ROUGH, but it did help in figuring out my underlying issues and venting it out. But I hit a roadblock when I found out there were a lot of awful things I COULDN'T remember. I had friends and family recount traumatic events where I was there, but I had no memory of it at all. It made my OCD go haywire with the anxieties I already had: "How can you trust yourself, if you don't even remember these things?!" "What if there's something crucial we're missing?!" "WHAT IF WE DID SOMETHING REALLY BAD AND ACTUALLY DESERVED IT??!" I'd think of the past over and over and over again, but I'd just end up feeling so drained from the emotions it'd bring up. I lost so much time over it... Finally seeing an OCD therapist has really helped me step away from trying to find the answer in the past, and not fall into endless doubt. I'd say CBT/EMDR helped with the past, but ERP has helped me live in the present and move towards the future.

[@LurkingLinnet]

Thank you for sharing your story, it's really inspiring! Gives power to me being on the same page rn.

[@makothetako]

@@LurkingLinnet Of course! I'm glad it helps

[@isabelleisabelle4512]

Dr Nathan, I say this with all the love in my heart: God bless you. God bless you and your life and your family and your career. I really wish you all the best in the world. I've been struggling with RE OCD for the past month, not even knowing it had a name. Its just had been this endless nightmare where my mind would force me to replay a specific mistake I've made and it keept on playing and replaying again and again and again for weeks on end. It'd taken away my apetite, my will to face another day, I couldnt just stop obsessing over it and trying to fix the problem by thinking about every possible scenario and intentions. I also had physical symptoms like a burning sensation in my stomach and I would spend the day crying over those thoughts. I've never experienced guilt and shame to this level before. But after watching you talkig about it, I really got some relief from this torment, knowing I'm not alone. Thank you so much for your amazing work and for being there to help us ❤❤❤

[@stevigeorge3649]

I had taken my ocd medication and got serotonin syndrome it was terrifying, then after the traumatic event my ocd told me I was now neurological impaired and I’d never be the same. I was convinced my brain was no longer working after the event even with everything checked to say I was ok I didn’t even believe it was ocd because I hadn’t had this one before it was a nightmare

[@TerriLynn-j7e]

I like what you said about giving yourself some grace. ❤

[@Nova_Goblin]

Thank you your relaxing me, supporting me, speaking for me, describing what i suffer from, & saving my life rn.

[@NerdyScubaDiver]

You’re brilliant. You just saved my life. Thank you

[@jamlaw]

WOW! This is me. I never knew about this one and it really covers a lot of bases. I had to laugh at "looking at the weather app". For me it's like that, for sure, plus going on an archeological dig! "There has to be something down there!!! Let me check again!" Such a good distinction for that and being in trauma.

[@Amidne]

Even my therapist couldn't read my mind and what I'm going through.. And I see your video which exactly explains my whole mind! Wholesome

[@Mr.pizza0]

This video helped me so much, I’ve watched is so many times and will probably continue to watch it many more times

[@64manxman]

Man, unbelievable timing on this upload. Everything you said in this video - it's like you were in my brain with me! I didnt sleep last night (as i havent many nights before) because of all this. Its just wonderful to have some insight into what is actually going on with me. Thank you so much.

[@E-Tron-oh9yx]

This video is speaking to my soul! ⭐️

[@AvinashGupta-hx2ku]

Thanks man , i am a teenager i was continuously thinking about my past bad memory from 100-1000 times a day. Now i feel good

[@LivingLifeDK]

This has impacted my life is so many ways. The thing is memory and thoughts combined can be so painful and distressing, and it get’s real foggy even though you know that what pops up in your head never happened or details that never had any reality. But when you first have the thought, the 00.001% chance that you feel it’s real even though is not puts you in a loop of rumination and doubt to lower the anxiety of the thought to neutralize that what you think can’t be true. I have only had OCD for about 6 months time, and it’s gotten much better on Seratraline. But oh man, always having the internal judge and having to figure every thing about (what did i say, what did i see, what did i think, how was i sitting in the chair, how did my feet feel on the ground) always new ways for OCD to make me feel anxious if I dont perform my mental compulsion.

[@garnet9290]

I would live to know how ERP works for RE OCD. I get how exposure would work for people worried about the future, but how does it work if the thing you worry about already happened?

[@GarthVonMaraner]

When I take a step back to look at the issue at a wider perspective, I usually find that the perceived catastrophic effect was made only by myself and other people don't see it that way. But the primary fear at the moment is usually the toughest one to shake off. It's worse when the catastrophic end result is far off into the future. There was only one time that my obsession and compulsion was productive and saved me was when I actually prevented the very thing I was afraid of to happen (through my pro-activeness). I couldn't have graduated in College on time if I wasn't persistent with the school authorities. Every other fear I have ever obsessed on in my life didn't actually happen and there were lots of them.

[@ddemaine]

Thanks

[@ocdandanxiety]

I appreciate you supporting me. Thank you so so much! I hope you're doing well!

[@ddemaine]

@@ocdandanxietyYou're most welcome. Your videos are always so helpful and re-assuring.

[@fairygurl9269]

Gratitude Sir 🥷

[@kianalamarche9418]

I can't get my mind off the past and it makes my anxiety high and im feeling so depressed from the past and I just keeps feeling sad , angry and happy all at once

[@Damaged_Otaku]

Thank you so much for making this video. I wasted my 20s being an internet troll in order to defend my favorite video game character’s honor who is constantly hated on. This character saved my life from childhood abuse and neglect. I wasted so much of my time arguing with people on the internet and I’m so ashamed and disgusted with myself. I’m now on a spiritual journey to figure out who I am and what to do with the rest of my life.

[@loll1165]

Proud of you 💓

[@stellaancimer8505]

My replay traumatic Events...and without medication i couldnt stop it, because i also have lyme😊

[@jibrilabdillahi4967]

Which medicine did you take

[@stellaancimer8505]

@@jibrilabdillahi4967 i still take quetiapine, and fluoxetine ☺️

[@stefanmolnapor910]

When life hands you lyme's make lyme-in-aid!

[@stellaancimer8505]

@@stefanmolnapor910 how do you Mean? I have old lyme btw..

[@stefanmolnapor910]

@@stellaancimer8505 it was a play on words with an old adage: when life hands you Lemons, make lemonaid. A really corny, bad joke on my part!

[@JeanLewis-s2y]

You have no idea how thankful I am for finding out your channel Nate! Feels like Godsend! Thank you for all the great information!

[@janetaylor8921]

excellent point Nate! thank you for this.

[@marywidener1409]

Such a great video!! So needed 😊

[@sean.97]

Underrated video thank you ❤

[@francisjo3]

THANK YOU - this is my biggest problem

[@jensynfoltz]

Hey Nathan! Is there any way you could do a video on OCD that comes in episodes? I have OCD but it tends to get disabling for about a month once a year to where it’s difficult to function. I cannot find much about this anywhere.

[@Swamp_Thing_4487]

The help I need is, I always, daily, think about the past as in my childhood and how great it was, I have trouble focusing on the here and now, this is a daily thing

[@kathyh7639]

You're videos are the best, thank you!

[@DestinyVil]

Is it possible to struggle with "what if ive been abused? What if my bf is an abuser (even if I KNOW he's a good person)"? Am i the only one having hard time with these thoughts?

[@Spankki]

There really isn't a thought, memory or feeling that OCD can't latch onto. Many people tend to liken it to a Bully but "all" it really is, is a faulty processing mechanism in the brain.

[@mastanehvahidi4874]

I have this too sometimes. I think with ocd our brain amplify certain things, lets say something happened and your partner got upset, not that they did anything necessarily wrong. But you seeing them as upset makes you feel like that’s a negative reaction and amplifies this as him being abusive because he was upset about something even tho that’s not the case. But we want things to be perfect and them being upset removes us from that fantasy.

[@xxlilziggyxx9865]

I remember many face's from my childhood and realized that some people in your life are once in a life time

[@LurkingLinnet]

Thank you Nathan!

[@maggiemm1000]

Thank you so much

[@isabeldiaz9717]

Nate, I have sensorimotor ocd. Along with awareness of breathing, swallowing, and blinking, I've also started to really dislike the feeling of shirts (or anything) touching my neck and upper chest. This one is new to me. What do i do to treat this? I continue wearing shirt that touch my neck and upper chest on purpose, and say things to myself like, "this is an awesome feeling", "it's just a shirt", "this is not going to harm me", " I've worn things that touch my neck and chest my whole life, i can continue doing it" and while it helps, sometimes the feeling is really distressing, so much that I've bought shirts with wide necklines to avoid the anxiety of something touching that area. What do i do??? Thanks in advance 😊

[@StuSiney]

20 plus years. Constantly

[@Pyxis444]

This is really helpful

[@omggezus]

Do you happen to remember the instrumental in this video?

[@ideesmala7466]

Thank you , you helped me a lot👏

[@maxespinosa5052]

Mr.Peterson,is it possible I could make an appointment to see you?

[@lianamatchak9652]

Do you therapists ever provide the biological causes of OCD? Stress triggers Cortisol triggers histamine and histamine triggers a flood of so many immune factors that attack your own body. Simple allergies to foods cause OCD. Yes you still have to realize the OCD and not engage rituals for relief. I’ve found learning about biological triggers is a comfort along with meds and therapy strategies.

[@srisagan47]

Thanks man your amazingly

[@BlakeRaymondgr]

Thank you

[@michaelarojas]

I obsess about past events and choices I made it's difficult

[@1matim]

thanks, good video

[@ShaeLaughter]

Thank you.

[@soaringsteamed]

THAMK YOU

[@CDShighlights67]

Does the catchphrase ,,maybe, maybe not" work to self-harm ocd?

[@shamahgirl7865]

PLEASE! Can you make vid to help me. I extremly worry about 'if' my grandmother had 'C' or not. She died about 42 years ago before i was born, my dad doesnt know what she died of coz she died abroad but says it wasnt cancer coz his dad never mentioned 'C'. I can't get over the many 'what ifs' as my dad doesn't know the cause of death. i have 4 kids and theyre sufferring with me coz of my anxiety, ocd, overthinking, obsessing, i cant function or go out house and live and do stuff coz of this on going thought that NEVER stops. I have started to question amd question my young kids for reassurance and i keep doing it as new questions appear and they are sick of it and im sick of it but i cant stop. I want to die and never wake up. Help me.

[@amjaadsultan5338]

See a therapist, you need help

[@mrepicafro159]

the quickest way to recover is to accept it to ignore the urge to check your fears. Just accept them and say to yourself maybe it's true, maybe it's not, and distract yourself. resist checking

[@Quailbbu]

i have these but i dont think im a horrible person.. and i also have big physical responses to the memories... and i have them like at least 10 times a day ):

[@Tdyddyydrddyw5dvrftrj6s]

I never looked for if im good or not. I just started to believe I'm a terrible person.

[@holliecooper6707]

Can you pay for the online course in installments?

[@ocdandanxiety]

Hello! Yes, here is the quick link for it: 🥳 www.ocd-anxiety.com/offers/gPLKT6Ps/checkout

[@holliecooper6707]

Thanks so much 🙏

[@alihaider9896]

Please add english subtitles in your every video

[@anthonyj.michael5248]

So not caring works?

[@Mehakpreetbhullar]

I have a fear of getting conversion disorder which gives me more anxiety 😢

[@an4935]

Isn't real event ocd also combined with false event ocd?

[@Happy83103]

Yes, I had episodes like that. Both were combined.

[@garnet9290]

Not always. I have RE OCD without false memories. I don't ever worry that I might have done something. I only worry about things I objectively know happened. For example I don't freak out if I hit a pothole and worry I killed someone with my car.

[@agressiveabhiii540]

Like what if I don't funny anymore 😭 ocd comes again and again

[@ABARANOWSKISKI]

Bowser!