Ladies u should not be in rush to share your goodies with muzungu simply because he has come to visit u, stand on your feet and say no to goodies till your sure he is here to stay forever . Imagine sharing your giodies and after him going back he disappears. Am team no goodies till marriage. If he loves me, he will understand and respect my decision. I can't be sharing my body to every man i be with in a relationship.
@loicecyloiАй бұрын
I too💪
@acenkellisprisca2994Ай бұрын
You're very right 👍 @@loicecyloi
@AchichiSpaceАй бұрын
I agree
@maximr6576Ай бұрын
A decent man will respect you more for that. A undescent man will dump you on that notice.
@AchichiSpaceАй бұрын
@@maximr6576 you are so kind
@AddyMasyАй бұрын
When a guy says he's confused. Ladies please run. He maybe confused in your eyes. But he knows exactly what he's doing/planning. We have no business dealing with confused men.
@williamswetnam4070Ай бұрын
"Don't fall in love with a man's words. Fall in love with his actions." Well said! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@betricemainoya4176Ай бұрын
Safiiii
@carolnalujja4003Ай бұрын
True
@jocelynematovu1150Ай бұрын
Her mother was clever to secure that land!
@faithTarusАй бұрын
I have known Jennifer as an incredible woman. I will always pray for her and I know she'll find a God sent man who is going to love her genuinely. Also Louis loved her;this I know. Its just that the ex used the kids ro manipulate him to get back. However,for long is not for good. There's one that God kept for her!
@Favour3558Ай бұрын
This man knew what he was collecting it was not about love. Ladies especially christians let's be wise. Do you think a man will just spend all that time and money for nothing??? Spiritually there's a big exchange 😢😢😢 We must pray and mean it sharing goodies before marriage is a sin by the way
@M.Mupf.MАй бұрын
You're on point.... It seems in our quest for love we forget that life is first of all spiritual and that the devil, who is like a roaring lion, looking for who to devour, has perfected his craft of killing, stealing and destroying since time immemorial.
@stellanthenya7259Ай бұрын
When a guy says he is confused 🤔 ladies just move on and search for someone else.
@selmaelago6621Ай бұрын
@@M.Mupf.MYou are so right, in fact this sharing of goodies might take lots to eternal destruction, it's called fornication, sinning with own bodies, we can't serve two masters, talk of God and yet enjoy goodies before marriage. I know is individual dicision but is better to ask God to choose for us because sometimes this muzungu sees us like desperate that's why they come and enjoy goodies, create covenants by enjoying goodies outside marriage. I'm not judging anyone but let's the truth be spoken so that this people can respect us too.
@Favour3558Ай бұрын
@@M.Mupf.M Ooh yeah Most of ladies don't want let God be the center. Sleeping with a man before marriage is not Godly
@Favour3558Ай бұрын
@@selmaelago6621 No darling That's not judging it's facts. We ladies especially African we must know who we are , If it's meant to be it will be . Kuswahili inasema kisicho riziki hskuliki . U am also a single mum but hey I learned my lesson, I will not give goodies to anyone , I repented never going back no no
@jessybwalya2565Ай бұрын
I tell people a widow is better than a divorcee,even men have baggage
@Ireneatieno-cw5hcАй бұрын
exactly, 💯💯
@nakayizarose1766Ай бұрын
I have talked with many Germany men but few are very trust worthy
@beryltammybee9136Ай бұрын
May God give her the best man than that, thanks so much Bella for always bringing us different stories to help us shine our eyes, learn and even encourage us
@dictabae5300Ай бұрын
Ladies please let's be more prayerful, especially in ldr and don't introduce your ldr bf to all your family members,we might blame the man but there will be something happening in the spiritual world,i got married to my white man and after our marriage, someone took my ring in my dream and until now av not heard from my man since 2019,GOD BLESS US ALL 🙏
@AchichiSpaceАй бұрын
Jesus .😮
@Favour3558Ай бұрын
When we say pray we must mean it for sure bcz there's no way we can pray and be sharing goodies at the same time that's when the devil inters in the things
@M.Mupf.MАй бұрын
Go for deliverance beloved..
@carolinemugure2192Ай бұрын
Sorry gal...toa sacrifice on that issue,and tell God if he belongs to you ,he will come back if not ,let God bring your rib again.
@PraiseDaniel-m7mАй бұрын
The same happened to me
@mercy9645Ай бұрын
Here is what I’m thinking.. Louis was not happy in his marriage and thought he was ready to leave. He met Jenifer and felt in love again and they created a bubble. Lou’s did love Jenifer but he had not dealt with his marriage first .He later sacrificed the relationship he had with Jenifer to be with the wife ..somehow l feel like there was a lot of manipulation from the wife and the child or even threats which made Louis take a step back .
@margaretgabriel8123Ай бұрын
Bella our woman’s are desperate you see those men’s are not different from our Africans men’s for us that live in western countries we know them
@aaliyahalicia8383Ай бұрын
I agree with you and when you meet a bad one he's 10 time worse than the black one im telling you
@hopehope8201Ай бұрын
I don't know when women will ever know that dating a seperated man is very stressful and ends no where . Try to look for single unattached men. Stay away from divorcees and seperated men. I think also the fact that jenipher was just like yes yes when the guy was offering to pay fees for every needy kid in her family. I blame her because some men hate unnecessary financial family burdens that are literally thrown onto them and yet they don't want to say NO to you because he wants to save face and only show you his true face after he goes back to his home country. Jennifer, you will be fine but your man's responsibility is only you and your baby but not the whole clan. Stop draining men financially
@laetitiamathe5779Ай бұрын
After he told her that she shouldn't call him my love, jennifer could leave him immediately , as i see things became worst😢
@annmungai4753Ай бұрын
I love your advice dear, I remember I started watching ur videos after meeting my hubby online and they helped me to tick all the boxes that I needed to.. I remember you talking about the red flags.. I was very new on online dating and ur videos shone my eyes😊😊I didn't make a mistake.. I wish all the ladies would watch the dating advice that u give, and if possible pay that guiding fee.. It can save them heartbreaks..
@cklaus3326Ай бұрын
Bella is very wise...congratulations that you succeeded. Like the other other comments are reading, ladies should stop being desperate. Pray pray for God's guidance. A man who plans to divorce his wife, or in thr process of divorce, I would not encourage anyone...there are alot of things happening there, Emotion healing, just all mental issues are involved. For those online searching please keep praying for God's direction, do not make anyone a mini God...men do not like that, it becomes bring for them. As women we should have self worth than worshippong these online men. Never let a man down talk you. He had no respect and was simply having fun. Prayer prayer Prayer Prayer.
@changes1131Ай бұрын
What a heartbreak 💔 People can really pretend. Wow 😳 this is scary and we ladies need to really be careful oo. God protect us from such men🙏
@VeraEkwaАй бұрын
Louis was a player from day one was just manipulating Jennifer with all the good stuffs probably he was still married. The red flags were there but our sister was in love sadly it went down south. Ladies we must be careful with how we go about introducing men to our family. Don’t be in any rush to introduce him take your time just because he visited you doesn’t mean you should go introduce him to family members.
@mercie-kАй бұрын
I don't sleep waiting for this guys
@africanbellatherealtalkАй бұрын
❤️❤️
@caramel6062Ай бұрын
I learn new things everyday from each new story.
@Kandi-prettiАй бұрын
I will move on without even telling him
@themuse.6520Ай бұрын
Honestly the moment he talks about being confused, I'll move on and ghost him.
@divine5582Ай бұрын
Lot's of nuggets / lessons from this but my 1st would be , Do it With God! Don't put your trust in man so much, pray and ask God for spirit of discernment because most lie alot in their profiles too. 2. Personally I think we should also not succumb to pressure from our loved ones, Sis assuming the dude was to be your hubby, I think it was too much to have him support many people ( my opinion) Then again, I'm very cautious about "Dating in Secret" until God says Yes, to avoid disappoinment if all goes sour. Jennifer all is not lost, if you managed to study the language keep at it, maybe he was just a destiny helper, God is working behind the scenes, but this time around be wise. It shall be well dear.
@charlottequeen2079Ай бұрын
Sorry dear Jenifer, breakup is the most hurtful thing , I passed through that too but now I became stronger and still moving on,,, I decided to follow Bella's advice and now I'm here today healed and not willing to give up ,,,,,,, But please ladies open your eyes wide especially when dealing with these men who pretend to know God as if Jesus comes from their village, ,,,,,, of recent i almost felt in the same trap but guess what he found me stronger than before,,,, all thanks to Bella you have never left me alone no matter what I will keep loving you sis
@Salvation123..Ай бұрын
Speak louder, sis Bella, This journey needs to be walked in wisdom. Some are married to gay white men again or abusive men. By the way, these abusive men exist in all cultures and races. Let's walk in wisdom and God's guidance.
@zeeibrahim1095Ай бұрын
Ladies when a man wants to divorce his wife and marry you, don't agree because Jesus doesn't want divorce.
@AchichiSpaceАй бұрын
@@zeeibrahim1095 It means he can also divorce you f9r someone
@natashafortunate2931Ай бұрын
First to comment. I’ve been waiting for this part
@africanbellatherealtalkАй бұрын
Welcome ❤️
@IreneAsuko-t2qАй бұрын
Thank you African Bella and may God bless you for sharing the successful stories and failed stories
@NakalemaGertrudeАй бұрын
We should stop attaching ourselves emotionally to these guys, until we are sure about everything.
@luyigairene7037Ай бұрын
the African in me had already seen the red flags.. eh when you have been hurt multiple times you just can't be understanding to that level chi. dear Bella this story was epic I didn't even blink.. pray for me Bella I would really wish to be one of your babies. thank you for this story its an eye opener.
@Favour3558Ай бұрын
@@luyigairene7037 Truth. Many disappointment are a lesson. I am a single mum who feels expensive 🤣🤣 Can be white ,orange , or brown man , wm not falling for goodies at all. I want to be the difficult lady I don't want to be understanding seriously 🤣
@Justwisdom2024Ай бұрын
Me waited and was checking every single second 😂😂thank you mama Bella. You the best much love from Uganda ❤❤❤
@africanbellatherealtalkАй бұрын
Welcome hun 😘
@usertopista6633Ай бұрын
These stories teaches us alot thank you Bella. I wish Jenny had opened her eyes earlier enough , though experience is the best teacher. She won't make the mistakes again
@ethelsibandaАй бұрын
Hugs for you Jennifer, may God comfort you. Hope you learned where you made mistakes. You will get the right man of your destiny 🤗
@mourinedomeАй бұрын
To me that man is a sweet talker 😂😂😂 only mature women can handle him😂😂 also I don't believe the girl he came with was his daughter 😅😅 there's a lot of things to see in this relationship as red flags 😢😢😢 To me he was only coming for vacation nothing much
@ijeomaobieloАй бұрын
He wanted experience Africa with a woman in the picture. His biggest fantasy. So Jeni baby was equally settled
@benitheisingizweАй бұрын
U all saying this because it happened if it was you ,you couldn’t have spotted any red flag just like Jennifer ! May God help Jenn I pray for her finding herself in this journey of life
@nureenrahmaumat7151Ай бұрын
Am broken 💔 sorry Jenifer it will be well some day,God is still faithful to you give it all to him.🙏
@dayana5513storyАй бұрын
Jenny God knows the best for you God bless you girl don't give up one day yes
@TsepoL-r4jАй бұрын
Another tip is not to overwhelm new interest with bills and sharing about extended family needs. For example by the time they broke up he was supporting lots of children etc when they think long term of how much they will be spending to keep relationships they get overwhelmed. The guys might not be as financialy stable as you think. Bella thank you for all the tips and guidance. We are really learning. God bless you. To Jennifer, God will bring the right person to you.
@Favour3558Ай бұрын
@@TsepoL-r4j That too may be the reason , My cousin sister is married to a white man in the Netherlands, they came to get married in my country but none in the family knows about it except her father, mother and siblings.
@carolnalАй бұрын
This guy was really generous, he was God sent
@RuthOdunga-nn9itАй бұрын
@@carolnal for buying a land?
@RuthOdunga-nn9itАй бұрын
Hello Bella, I think the second time she visited with the daughter, maybe her mother told her to spy if the father is truly dating, I think that she started pushing to come back to the husband again 😢
@lizzybabie9470Ай бұрын
This is the reason of the guy change
@RuthOdunga-nn9itАй бұрын
@@lizzybabie9470 I think so,in this dating apps we will see pepee
@TsepoL-r4jАй бұрын
There's better ahead Jennifer. God has a way of revealing the truth and protecting us.God os good the best man will come along.
@VickyGist7477Ай бұрын
So sorry for what she went through i can understand her pain, thanks for sharing dear African Bella.😘
@AnnaMichael-bi6ztАй бұрын
What a heart break,online shopping is for lucky ones.
@africanbellatherealtalkАй бұрын
Sad
@carolnalujja4003Ай бұрын
True
@ruthapudo2247Ай бұрын
I waited for this like forever. . Just coming here everyday to check on the update. Thanks Bella
@africanbellatherealtalkАй бұрын
Welcome ❤️
@aminatah25Ай бұрын
Wow!thanks for this part of jennifer's story been waiting,
@africanbellatherealtalkАй бұрын
Welcome dear ❤️
@yesyoucanwithinevara6826Ай бұрын
Well that went south anyway I am sending Jennifer all the healing and love your way...
@getrudendlovu4509Ай бұрын
Thankyou sis Bella for this vedio we are really learning..May God bless and heal our sister Jennifer
@dianawafula546215 күн бұрын
Thanks Bella for opening our eyes 😅
@nakimerajoyce9234Ай бұрын
Sorry Jennifer for what happened to our sister but please to pray to God to guide and our African Bella too God is able and He is on your side
@nnennaaroh6268Ай бұрын
So sorry dear jenny. May God console u n bring ur own soon. Thanks dear sis for sharing with us
@sellysang7504Ай бұрын
But at list, she got land, but very sad she was taken for a ride 😢😢😢😢one day she will be blessed one day ❤️ 🙏
@lrene1918Ай бұрын
Thanks so much Bella have learned something ❤
@JosephineSluisАй бұрын
Jennifer the understanding girlfriend 😅, no marriage is really perfect. I just imagine her mood when he told her it's over 😔. What a long story and very thoughful. A liar is liar. Let me 🏃♂️ 🏃♀️ and watch today's upload. I have been so busy for days now, and not happy watching late. African Bella is the best.
@BarbraNyashegaАй бұрын
That's why I don't like introducing a guy to my mom,dad or son.sisters and brothers are better to show your boyfriend
@judithsconceptАй бұрын
You’re doing amazingly well sis. Hope we ladies will understand that it’s not too good sharing our goodis too quick
@violahchebet8076Ай бұрын
Lessons learned dont rush to introduce someone to your family, it's better to break up without anyone knowing 😂😂
@sharonchindemwa7215Ай бұрын
It's sad it ended that way😢. I wish her well.
@UcheTheresaАй бұрын
Thank you Bella .for sharing Jenifer story. There's a lot to learn ...❤
@Over50andMeАй бұрын
The moment our sisters are going to stop looking or treating a muzungu as a saint they will be wiser and SAFE.
@puritymukiri9786Ай бұрын
Hallo Bella,i couldn't wait for part 2
@africanbellatherealtalkАй бұрын
Enjoy!
@puritymukiri9786Ай бұрын
@@africanbellatherealtalkam on my way home from work and in a 'matatu' I have my headphones on😂.It couldn't wait till am home ..
@joycendanundanu9218Ай бұрын
here again watching part 2.
@shupiwekalililo1903Ай бұрын
Bella, you are changing lives!
@betsyakoko6810Ай бұрын
The guy was manupulative but this kind of guys will still keep on coming
@NabasaggiHanifahHannahАй бұрын
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 guys i will not judge this lady coz i am so much heartbroken 💔😢and disappointed 💔😢anyway gal be strong dear
@farie6795Ай бұрын
😢not only Jennifer but i got this Germany guy who lived with his wife under the same roof. We broke up. And boom a dutch guy who was confused after a breakup with his wife and they had kids. These guys will eventually get back together cause of kids attachment sometimes. We broke up😢
@fatimfcoker9593Ай бұрын
Thanks Bella Love you 🥰
@TheSuccessfulRuthАй бұрын
Watching from Johannesburg South Africa.
@ThemjsvlogАй бұрын
First to be here well done bella dear ❤❤❤❤❤
@africanbellatherealtalkАй бұрын
Thank you ❤️
@KADOLASUZAN-lg9sbАй бұрын
The way I have been waiting Bella😢😢
@africanbellatherealtalkАй бұрын
Awww❤️❤️
@TVK_ENTERTAINMENTАй бұрын
A man in separation is a total red flag, he will sell you dreams then later dumb you and go back to his wife. It will end in tears, don't do it
@cynthyblessing9986Ай бұрын
Thank you bella for this video 🫶
@inesaime4208Ай бұрын
I remember my muzungu told me that I became fat because I eat his money 😂😂😂😂😂 even if we still talking bout I opened my eyes. Si na micezo with these men😮
@VeraEkwaАй бұрын
😂😂lol omg
@inesaime4208Ай бұрын
We are struggling with these white men 🧐@@VeraEkwa
@caramel6062Ай бұрын
Damn😂😂😂😂
@aliciashiquoh230Ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@ijeomaobieloАй бұрын
Pele o Jennifer. We learn everyday
@KemigisaBrenda-qg8izАй бұрын
I really love your voice dear it's really nice
@aspital5706Ай бұрын
THIS!!😢i have learned alot ..almost getting to suchbut i thank God i played well and knew things i wouldnt know ..back to searching again😅😅
@Asia-ew9wxАй бұрын
Janepher was very very understanding and nothing to judge her almost every box was ticking which made her very confused.that second time he went back to Germany they made peace with his ex and not know how to tell it to janepher he hurt her😭😭😭
@africanbellatherealtalkАй бұрын
Yes dear ❤️❤️
@terryakiso4489Ай бұрын
Jennifer take heart. There's a reason why God removed that man from your life. Atleast he bought land for your mum. Huyo ni ng'ombe forget about him.
@tessowu22Ай бұрын
Imagine this Mr am praying and confused mumu guy ooo😮😮,may he never find peace in his marriage if he go back to his ex wife,it like he knew wat he was doing and also know that she is understandings so he has to take that as his advantage 😅hmmm point noted ✅men always taking advantage of women who are understanding and calm,lol with me,am very calm , understanding and considerate doesn't mean am gonna take shit from you 😂😂😂all the best in her search for the right quantity guy and I know that with Bella being with her ,all is gonna be good ❤❤
@Lovice-n9zАй бұрын
Hi Bella ❤ Hello family 😊 According to me this guy Louis was just a WOLF in sheep's clothing,He was so mean and at the same time a selfish Guy.
@laetitiamathe5779Ай бұрын
😂😂❤what a good time watching your vidéos again
@africanbellatherealtalkАй бұрын
❤️❤️
@edesouza9515Ай бұрын
OMG Bella, you are too much!!!!🥰
@Juliit-kp7gtАй бұрын
My blood is boiling... I cant handle that nosense
@LizdavidsАй бұрын
The problem with us Kenyans / Africans we are always respectful , fearful. We say yes to everything . Wazungus want someone who stands on the ground. Say no,
@betsyakoko6810Ай бұрын
God will vindicate Jennifer some days
@memorybanda9277Ай бұрын
Mmmm this Louis of a guy is good at manipulating 🙌🙌, he is also a hypocrite, thanks Bella for sharing with us this pathetic love story at least we have learned alot from it, am wishing my dear sister all the best in her search, love you always ❤❤, God bless you 🙏
@D.kufekisaMundiaАй бұрын
Hi Bella I am dating a white guy and he is showing me his family pictures and he told me that he is separated with his wife the mother of his two sons. please bella kindly help me if he's a real man or not. Am from Zambia 🇿🇲
@lizzybabie9470Ай бұрын
Hummmm. I don't even know what to say I swear. Am just watching this story and cry. it's really sad I feel sorry for her. The guy never really love her and his a big lied. his just playing games with her and he just pass time with her 😢 he have nothing serious to do with her. But God pass him 🙏 and I believe God will give her the right person that will make her forget all her pain 🙏
@manjasenkhoma466Ай бұрын
On the electricity issue, we have load shedding in zambia 🇿🇲. Some times 48hours of no power in other towns, it goes upto 5days
@sellysang7504Ай бұрын
Hi beautiful, I myself is married in Belgium 33 years ups n down like u , say 2 boys,,,, but I would love to give my cousin a good dating up, I did not meet my husband on dating , long story, please tell if u can, appreciate ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@Evangeline.OzigbeАй бұрын
My anger issue cannot allow me to be patient with someone like that, I would have blocked him since the moment I start noticing the red flags, and the moment I start noticing that the words does not match with the action
@sharonchindemwa7215Ай бұрын
I remember I blocked someone who was pretending to be in love with me but when I asked about his ex wife and kids he seemed not to like it but busy telling me that he's in love every minute. Mmmmm I just told him that you're after something and am not the right person for you 😅😅. To save myself I blocked him
@sharontopistachelangat685Ай бұрын
Hi Bella,my name is sharon from uganda,how should I join the app?
@ricca204Ай бұрын
Jennifer is way too kind. You need to learn to be selfish sometimes to protect your heart. And when smthing doesn't seem right the first time, then it's not and you need to speak out your feelings there and then because when you give it time you start creating excuses for people.
@FrancinahKadakwaАй бұрын
If it was me same day I can stop
@jessybwalya2565Ай бұрын
Ladies we are all adults,Bella has being telling us countless times let's stop day dreaming and know that even whitemen are also men don't think too highly of them mantain ur standards and intergrity.
@jeccym8715Ай бұрын
As am listening to your story,i think Jennifer was too clingy to the man an he wasn't ready to commit immediately, but let me hear what happened 😅
@CeeW-ro8ndАй бұрын
Girlies I know this is unrelated to the video. But I wanted to ask , when we match with the guys what do we say 😢? I feel like throwing up when the guys send me texts I am too scared[literally want to throw up ]to say the wrong thing. Help me please
@nureenrahmaumat7151Ай бұрын
But Bella to tell the truth i don't have tear's by now to cry coz my past went with all my tear's,am sorry to say this but it's the truth 😂😂😂
@ricca204Ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@nureenrahmaumat7151Ай бұрын
@@ricca204 it's the fact these Ugandan brother's of mine placed my heart in a freezer no more than when it come's to love may be in future but now hell no
@CatiejzanАй бұрын
Hello Bella. Hello everyone! How are you ba darling darling?
@africanbellatherealtalkАй бұрын
Iam good love❤️
@CatiejzanАй бұрын
I thank God
@nureenrahmaumat7151Ай бұрын
We are fine darlin darlin and enjoying mummy Bella .❤
@stellanthenya7259Ай бұрын
So sad to jeffner
@mssanddi4155Ай бұрын
Oh wow!! So he needed time to clear his head and ask God for directions, ohh!! Directions indeed ,through the goodies of another woman he went to meet in another African country 😂😂😂!!!!! Ahh!! Men and big Lies. Understanding Girlfriend no dey pay ooo my sister!!! 😅 we need to be sharp .