i care so much about what other people think

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@positive.juice.apartment 2 ай бұрын

i relate to this so much :( i feel like no matter what i do some part of me always stops me from interacting with people. i just graduated high school and ive realized how many of my friends were fake and now im alone struggling to talk to other people and caring too much about what ppl think. i appreciate this video

@deprimeplatypus490 2 ай бұрын

perhaps that change is smillar to growing pains as you you are coming of age and enter a completely new environment so many things change around you:/ the people change life might feel more like a tall mountain of unknown height compared to a vast ocean you thought you would sail into yet maybe it is also a chance we can use to enjoy this time we have today without comparing it to before as it lasts. I still feel similar at 21 but I like to believe time will eventually have to work in our favor what we make of life is up to us after all and as scary as I find it it also gives me strength some days. I hope you'll feel that way more soon

@SicilaFournier 2 ай бұрын

Being judgmental of others is how we view our selves subconsciously, we view ourselves already negative enough so when we see others who don’t fit up to the impossible standards we set up for ourselves who don’t and just dress how they want, don’t really care about being too showy or fit we are surprised or feel agitated? I relate so much because I feel like I’ll never be enough just being me

@SicilaFournier 2 ай бұрын

And it sucks cause I definitely know the solution is to just be myself but the emotions and feelings never really go away, I have to make room for it

@abbytheredwolf174 2 ай бұрын

It’s ok to want to be wanted. It’s human and looking for true human connection now a days is hard. I grew up at least being presentable either that be looks or how I spoke. I tone down a lot of myself depending on situation to situation which is normal. I’m almost 20 and still want to be liked or at least welcomed by the people I’m around, even for a few hours.

@dazrmorrison9558 2 ай бұрын

💯per cent

@Kios.Korner 2 ай бұрын

The level of vulnerability I am seeing within ur consciousness is beautiful truly, this is what we need. There is no difference between us, between you or them or me and you. We are not as different as we think, thank you for being open with us and sharing this side of you. Much love and appreciation man, and live is too short !!!! Anything can happen we never know so just live it to the fullest , do the things you love, be the person you want to be, do the things you want to do! You never know what could happen

@sahgahndeezbahls1536 2 ай бұрын

This looks like the videos I took on my virtual journal just a few months ago. It's interesting because now after a few months of life experience it feels like I can come back to a younger version of myself and help him out. The good news is that you're gonna end up a great person. The bad news is you're too smart for your own good. You need to DO. DO DO DO. You care what others think because you don't love yourself. The reason you judge others looks is because you feel like all you can offer someone is YOUR looks. Make yourself proud, and take action. Take 10 minutes, go on a WALK (preferably somewhere safe and beautiful if you can) and ask yourself what you can do to make yourself proud. Imagine that for a second. Can you even fathom being proud of yourself yet? DO you know what that has ever felt like before? I guarantee you Winston, the day that comes, you stop having conversations with yourself like this because now you're a good person, AND you've got some wins under your belt. Once you get there, new battles, and new opportunity come. You've evolved as a person, and now it's onto the next task in life. Good luck brother. Happiness of the pursuit, not pursuit of the happiness.

@sophspice32 2 ай бұрын

that´s so insightful and helpful! gonna go for a walk right now

@lordfarquaad3086 Ай бұрын

thank you for this. i feel very anxious whenever i see new people, whether it be in real life or online, because whenever i do, my mind will immediately analyze everything from their appearance to their mannerisms and wonder how they live their lives and what they have probably done so far. it always leaves me feeling drained and guilty. i don’t fully understand why i do it but i think it’s also a coping mechanism as i always feel threatened for some reason. it’s really true that it’s all self-projection and i’m always constantly comparing myself with strangers. it’s so bad that i have to cut myself off from the world just to recharge. i’m learning to love myself now and confronting a lot of deep-rooted issues within myself. it’s getting easier but at times, i find myself spiraling back into that victim mentality and romanticizing my depression. anyways, sorry for going off on a tangent. good day!!

@sirenixspook 2 ай бұрын

Ask for her name next time, and introduce yourself. It doesn’t come off as “oh you’re trying to get w her” unless that’s your actual intention. It’s a stranger, so you’re trying to ease the bridge between you two, so many genuine human connections are skipped over by fear

@heyimsasa 27 күн бұрын

your video got recommended in my algorithm and i am amazed at your awareness. i really hope you take care of yourself for yourself. i'm from a generation that was the guinea pig for social media but i remember my first 10 years living without it. in a time where everyone is trying to sell you something and tiktok, instagram, etc where it's really easy to have your self worth be tied to what you consume and how you present yourself physically and emotionally. it's awful and a lot to put on people. i hope you can find yourself without being bound to those expectations because at the end of the day, they're not real. you will attract who you were meant to.

@ArtienYT 2 ай бұрын

I relate on such a deep level to this.

@deprimeplatypus490 2 ай бұрын

at one point I convinced myself into believing what other people thought of me didn't matter and that as long as I liked myself yet my perception was warped by others simultaneously. I find myself being my worst critic and sometimes the approval of others feels as troubling as their disapproval. ik everyone is struggling and everyone feels alone and I've had the pleasure of making connections with a few people where I thought I was just fine as I am... I think I failed myself tho, again and again. I feel like I failed myself for changing to fit in, for not defending myself, and mostly for all the times I became a stranger. The ego is a strange thing I shouldn't really mop so much but I do want to say I appreciate this a lor, I relate to it, a lot of people do, I find that moment of vulnerability beautiful and courageous thank you for creating this space

@RealVedicAstrology 2 ай бұрын

It’s good to care about what people who care about you think but when it comes to people who don’t care about you it’s better to just avoid them. If you’re afraid it’s your natural instincts and subconscious trying to tell you something and you should listen to it even if other people aren’t aware of whatever it is that is making you anxious. If you feel afraid of talking to people it could be for a reason, people aren’t in their right mind anymore and they’re going crazy.

@beyondallreason-du4pq 2 ай бұрын

When you realize how crazy the world is you will stop caring...for example you have someone you absolutely love In your life...someone you grew up with...imagine someone saying that person is horrible....you know it's a lie because you guys go way back...therefore people can just be haters....

@stoopidbeach1704 2 ай бұрын

same. literally cant get away from my own judgement

@bobbyb6618 2 ай бұрын

i think wanting ppl to like you is extremely normal and okay, but i think its more important to like yourself during the process of that. Like its okay to want your family and your friends and new ppl to like you but showing yourself in a way that you would like to convey is more important. Being yourself is more important, and thats a big way to be a role model, just being yourself. Hope you feel better. Great video :)

@chantsyt 2 ай бұрын

i agree !

@originaleslie 2 ай бұрын

understood this on a whole other level

@SeanReeves-e1b Ай бұрын

i feel the same way dude its not even funny. i tried so hard to fit in any group i could because i didn't have friends growing up because i was home schooled. first time i went to a public school was when i was a sophomore, and i constantly thought of how people looked at me from their perspective. and i guess thats how i felt very judgmental too, like im a bad person for that. junior year i met some people, i didn't realize until after that year, they treated me like shit because for who i was. (uncultured, i didnt know literally anything) i treated people like shit so that they could like me, all because i wanted to fit in, and cared how they thought of me. after a long time of figuring out they didn't care about me at all, i stopped talking to them and just moved on to care for myself. after senior year i felt pretty good about myself, like i just dont care how i look, i made some great friends from school, because they took care of me and treated me for who i am, and i love them for that. i don't know how much you've been through about feeling this way but i hope you are doing alright man❤

@mikkisoyeah 2 ай бұрын

stop I love this.

@samnicole7918 23 күн бұрын

I get u

@philhoward4466 2 ай бұрын

considering the type of person you are, you really would not enjoy being with those people that are going to judge you for what you say or what you wear. you need to be who you already are. if someone rejects you, they simplified your day. then, you didn't have to spend time trying to make friends with someone like that (that would never be a good friend).