I Demanded My Sister Pay Me Back After Her Kids Stole From Me r/Relationships

[@heatherweir8726]

When the oldest ran away he probably ran his mouth to the wrong person and got his @$$ handed to him.

[@treefittyforall]

Either that, or he just happened to get preyed upon for being a teenage boy out and about by himself and was an easy mark for someone. It sucks that instead of him learning his lesson that... he's burning bridges with his family, the people who could be there for him... He's acting the same way making him not wanted around them... HE JUST KEEPS DOUBLING DOWN. He needs to accept responsibility for his actions, or his situation will never change.

[@neshuneshuification2609]

At best, I'm sure he got a terrible time, and I mean anything could have happened, even though he is acting like a bitch, outside the walls of a home it's a very cold world out there, specially for someone with a bad attitude

[@SwapnilBBagul]

Absolutely

[@TheKnightofAwesomeness]

Yup, the world would be happy to whoop his @ss

[@elizabethescalante8114]

​@@treefittyforall Exactly! He's being WAY too prideful to admit to any of his wrongdoings! And it's thanks to his idiot parents for not doing their job, but surely he's old enough now to understand that he needs to stop being such a disrespectful and entitled little prick!

[@TheIronwil]

I'm bipolar. It isn't a free pass to do horrible things. Medication helps, but the most important factor is self-monitoring. Control.

[@khaleesireyna731]

Completely agree! I don't have bipolar, but I've dealt with chronic depression, anxiety, and ADHD (which didn't get diagnosed until I was in my mid-20s). Having any mental illness is a challenge. Handling it and taking care of yourself (like taking medication) is a big part of it, but it's also about, like you said, self-monitoring. Knowing yourself and what might trigger you into falling back into the mindsets and behaviors that were unhealthy is important. And so is knowing how to navigate and cope with those triggers, because at the end of the day, mental illness or no, the world won't cater to you and excuse it all, so we can't make those excuses for ourselves, we just learn how to monitor and cope to live a better and more emotionally healthy life.

[@TheIronwil]

@@khaleesireyna731 I can get very strange when in a manic episode. One time my friends and I were going out for Halloween and I walked down the stairs by walking on my hands down the banisters. I've had some gymnastics training, but that was extremely foolish. I could have died. I wasn't diagnosed until my early 40's, and had no medication before then. The meds really help, but there's no substitution for just having self control. When I started talking too fast or if my body broke out in an overall light sweat, I knew a manic episode was coming on, and I had to stay calm. Generally, the more extreme the manic episode, the worse the depressive episode would be after I crashed. So it was a really good plan to keep as calm as possible. It's not easy, especially without meds, but it's not impossible.

[@Gr33nP1x13]

Diagnosed in 2006 & went almost immediately on meds & haven't gone off them. HUGE difference for me, since mine is bipolarism w/ a dash of schizophrenia thrown in. Ever since, I started crafting more, painting, re-joined my martial arts sessions (great for focus!) & then, the meditation trials..... meaning, I tried, but my brain wouldn't calm itself. I found this thing called Meteor Hammer. It's actually meditation meets warfare (it's a form of meditation done by monks, but when you speed up, becomes vicious). Everyone has different, hopefully safe way, to cope :)

[@Guitarbarella]

He isn’t bipolar, he’s a narcissist…victim blaming, revenge, has to be a victim..if he is bipolar he has probs with energy and not a personality disorder, its neurological. If he was that raging he wouldn’t been sleeping etc and prob couldnt focus enough much ar all…too many narcissistics get misdiagnosed with bipolar and have zero issues with energy..its a myth bipolars have split personality because of the word bipolar…in the old days of manic depression describing the disorder there was no such thing as “manic depressive rage” ..

[@chrystiafreelandscankles548]

Agree. I imagine his parents feel better blaming his ‘bipolar’ for his behaviour rather than their crappy parenting. And now he’s on meds. I 100% blame the parents.

[@lorieharris2776]

"But he came back three days later without his bike or backpack looking beat up." You're not for the streets Priscilla!

[@Sugieb]

😭

[@shielahawkins3658]

This part of the story REALLY bothered me; especially taking into consideration his silence and self-isolating behaviors that followed. I know the kid is a little shit, but no one deserves to be assaulted. The parents are still failing him by not being more concerned about what is going on now after he has returned.

[@Badassoldwoman]

Riiight?!!! Growing up my brother and I were suburb tough. There's a big difference between that and the streets. I knew that even then and knew when to sit down and shut up. He learned the hard way. Oops.

[@khaleesireyna731]

@@Badassoldwoman suburb tough thinks you need to act tough and show that you're the big guns. People who are actually tough/from a rough background don't need to prove anything to you and "proving" it to you could be pretty rough for you witnessing it.

[@missmakeup1680]

He got his ass beat up. He thought he was tough and was proven wrong

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: I’m just glad that the entire family is supporting op. I just wished the kids had better parents.

[@low-keydrama1260]

Me too. I bet you the nephews pulled this crap with them. Not to mention those boys’ parents are awful. Very dismissive and don’t even bother to try to discipline them. I’m sure the family is tired of it.

[@kaykay8855]

@@low-keydrama1260 in one of the op’s comments he stated that in the honeymoon phase of his brother and SIL’s marriage she caught the baby fever bad stating that she wanted a big family but after the youngest was born, she stated that she didn’t want anymore kids.

[@itsjustme7487]

Those boys are juvenile delinquents. The parents need to start parenting.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

@@kaykay8855 Okay. But she really shouldn't have abandoned her duties as a mother. I understand that the honeymoon phase and the baby fever are things that come and go, but you still have an obligation to your children. To raise them well and make sure they're loved and cared for. And OP's brother in law and especially his sister failed miserably as parents.

[@kaykay8855]

@@PrincessQ-fj9ly I'm just pointing out one of the reasons why they're neglectful. Like once the rose colored glasses are off and saw her children as what they are, living beings that needs constant attention and not dolls that she can put on the shelf when she's done playing with them.

[@MasterBuilderDragon]

Every time “boys will be boys” is uttered I die a little.

[@neil999ish]

Yes, there is "Boys being boys", then there is "Boys acting like big shits".

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Probably because entitled parents have used it, everytime their golden children have done something wrong. I can't stand it.

[@tcrpgfan]

Every time 'Boys will beBoys' is uttered. Toxic masculinity is promoted... oh and someone kills a kitten.

[@Bleg94]

Boys will be boys is when they play fight with each other For example friends and I used to use sticks to "swordfight" and play jedi

[@tcrpgfan]

@@Bleg94 Put a pin on that thought. Because I'm going to ask a question... when does play fighting stop being play fighting and becomes the real deal? That's why the saying is being looked upon derisively nowadays, because the line between play fighting and just plain fighting gets real blurry really fast. Sometimes instantly.

[@SherriLyle80s]

The uncle is parenting more than the actual parents.

[@t123tina]

uncle's a drug addict

[@darklightning9829]

Actually he calmed down when he got his ass kicked by a stranger ... They should do it from the start and it will work like magic.

[@josephbrown9665]

I had a nephew like that. He stole from me and his cousins my two sons. Well he went to my moms house for a thanksgiving and he bought something that he had stolen from my boys. They took it back and he tried to start a fight with my youngest son and he hit him thinking that he would not fight back. My son had to get pulled off of him and he was crying like a baby. My sister just told him that he started it and he got what he had coming. So he called the police on my son. He was 19 and my youngest son was 14 and half his size. They took nephew to jail for hitting a child. My oldest son told him that he would beat him into a pulp if he saw him anywhere where he was not going to go to jail for it. He was a lot bigger than his brother and his cousin plus he was in the military. He was only 18 at the time. Nephew ran away when he got out of jail for over crowding in the jail and he was not allowed to leave the state. He was arrested in a different state because he never showed up for court. He was in jail for 9 months before he was brought back home to wait for his court date. He ended up taking a deal to get out of jail and he moved back to the state where he was arrested. My youngest son is 33 now and my sister has no contact with him anymore he lives with his dad in a different state. My other nephew is my youngest son best friend and they both run my business together.

[@colleens1107]

Exactly. And I’m sooo happy the family supported OP. So often family would go against the victims because FAmiLy. Guess the nephews were such little shits that they burned all bridges. Good on OP for finally giving them consequences for being shits

[@kaimikalaniYT]

Those parents are hurting their kids by not punishing and not teaching them that there are consequences for their actions. If those boys don’t learn, they are gonna end up in worse situations as adults Edit: I’m glad the younger 2 are changing their minds and changing as people and (even if forced) the parents are doing some change… But that oldest kid needs help

[@MsBELLE7]

It's more than that, that oldest boy is the kind of person who could easily become a murder or rapist. He does not understand the word No. He also cannot take any accountability, he needs serious therapy and something to make him more accountable. Otherwise I fear for any person in his future life.

[@shebakoby]

Boys will be boys = These boys will wind up incarcerated on a regular basis.

[@AkiraAlexisSoyra]

Those kids could end up being shot/attacked and killed if they don't fix their problems... Some people aren't as forgiving/kind as they will shot/attack first and ask questions later, if it comes up to a you vs them kind of situation, they might not live very long... I've seen stories where teens think it's all fun and games until someone ends up hurt badly or dead. That's when they get a harsh dose of reality and realize this isn't a game where you can hit the reset button, there is a reason why you teach your kids right vs wrong...

[@WhitneyDahlin]

@@AkiraAlexisSoyra ‼️oh yeah. If some man wearing a mask was trying to break down my door in the middle of the night. I'm shooting first asking questions later. I legit believe he would have hurt OP if he had gotten into the house. I truly believe that. Otherwise why was he trying to break down the door to get to OP?? He isn't going to change either and he hasn't learned a lesson. He's still blaming OP and his bipolar for all of HIS bad decisions. And if he didn't learn his lesson from that he won't ever learn. At least the younger kids seem to have learned and being better! I really think OP saved the younger kids from becoming career criminal failures like their older brother is going to be. The parents should be charged as well. It just makes me sick and so angry that parents who are clearly not being parents and not parenting their kids are turning their kids into entitled monsters. That SHOULD be a crime. It's child ab use. Very sad story and I hope OP continues to update the post.

[@alexisgrunden1556]

Hopefully the eldest kid will get some help, and be able to pull off a successful cranial-sphincter inversion. But if he doesn't? ...well, they tried; they've given him the tools, they're actually parenting him. The rest is up to him, really, and 2 out of 3 ain't half bad.

[@enmity9383]

Story 1: the only thing im thinking about is how much those parents must shit talk OP in their house, for those kids to think their uncle is a fair target for not only thievery, but harrassment. i feel like the parents probably feel resentment that he's financially stable, because the entitlement / attitude they all show towards him is insane. he did that whole family a favor, giving those three little shitheads a reality check before they have a chance to fuck up in the future and go to Big Boy jail

[@hagamapama]

Stepping in and being the consequences saved 2 out of the 3. That's a strong result considering just how bad the damage was

[@AndyyWithAY]

It is terrifying that teenagers can be this out of control. OP is actually the only one doing right by these kids. Very soon if not now that 16 yr old will be charged as an adult. This "harmless fun" can ruin his entire life depending on what he does next.

[@DoritoBot9000]

They are the result of their abhorrent parents.

[@SCP01986]

@@DoritoBot9000 The shitty acorns didn't fall far from the shitty trees.

[@Chuckf66]

Spare the rod, raise the brat.

[@cardwitch91]

Yeah… When people describe kids as “feral” this is what comes to mind. Their parents essentially destroyed these kids and the only thing that might wake them up is time in prison.

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

My brother had to get a job to pay back what he stole on addiction at 15. Plus free drug test.

[@maggpiprime954]

This story is so sad. I'm glad OP addressed how if the boy hadn't been neglected like a worn out fad, he wouldn't have suffered his condition so badly.

[@groofromtheup5719]

It really doesn't sound very bipolar driven atall.

[@jackchop1576]

@@groofromtheup5719 "bipolar" is tossed around like "narcissist" or "sociopath" to describe assholes from people with no clue about what those terms mean.

[@groofromtheup5719]

@@jackchop1576 I have a friend that became bipolar as an adult. (every submariner I know became somewhat crazy in the service.) He became hyper and delusional related to aliens, physics and that kind of stuff, when deeper in manic phases.

[@Draggonny]

@@jackchop1576 I was expecting the diagnosis to be oppositional defiant disorder given how aggressive and victim blaming he was.

[@PonderingStudent]

@@jackchop1576 I agree that the term "bipolar" is too often thrown around as an explanation/excuse for bad or irrational behaviour, either by perpetrators or commentators, but I don't think that's the case here. Given that eldest nephew is at the age where bipolar typically first presents and that his mental health would have been fully assessed by a qualified professional following his second arrest, the diagnosis is likely to be accurate. However, it isn't an excuse for doing what he did. People with bipolar often do incredibly irrational things during manic episodes, but they don't usually steal or try to deliberately damage others property. I suspect that eldest would have become bipolar regardless of his upbringing, but OP is almost certainly right that, had nephew been better parented, his bipolar would have presented differently and probably much less destructively. Sadly, if he had been pulled up on his bad behaviour sooner and his parents had been alert enough to realise this wasn't normal, he might well have been able to get help BEFORE he got in legal trouble and alienated his entire family, both close and extended.

[@stillvisibletoallusers]

Both of those last comments can be true, the bipolar isn't an excuse and the parents failed their child. OP did the family a solid by putting his foot down here. It might not seem like it but the sister and BIL got their heads out of their behinds and the younger 2 stopped moving down the same path as the elder brother. The family setting hard boundaries is also a positive to come out of this. Hope the nephew is able to come to terms with his diagnosis and not just see it as a scapegoat for his bad behaviour.

[@khaleesireyna731]

I don't have bipolar, but my mother does and honestly, it could go either way. I know there are people with bipolar who take care of themselves, manage their condition, and do not make it the scapegoat for their bad behavior. But I also know from personal experience a lot of people with bipolar act exactly like the oldest nephew: nothing is ever their fault, everyone is out to get them and the world is just unfair to them. Never mind the stealing, lying, aggressive behavior they repeatedly did toward you. You're the problem in their eyes, not themselves. It might sound kinda unempathetic, but ngl, I rolled my eyes hard when the nephew was like "since everyone's against me, I'm running away" (because it wouldn't be unchecked bipolar without the melodramatic "woe is me performance"... again speaking from experience). To put it simply, anyone who has bipolar and takes care of themselves, you have my full support and empathy, but the borderline narcissism you can see in the undiagnosed/untreated bipolar disorder folks... yeah, either pull your head out of your behind and get with the program or else people are gonna get really sick of your crap faster and faster.

[@WobblesandBean]

It's astounding how many armchair psychologists are swift to diagnose total strangers with things for the explicit purpose of excusing their behavior.

[@jackchop1576]

Exactly! Only white heterosexual women are allowed to use mental illness as an excuse to be abusive! WTF was OP thinking?!

[@yoyopron]

"Can't afford therapy," they say before their kid ends up in juvie with a criminal record and then running away. That kid didn't have to suffer through untreated bipolar disorder.

[@khaleesireyna731]

Especially when they had at least $500 in personal savings... and they both sound gainfully employed enough to get health insurance through said employers... might not have been the best fix but definitely better than the fuck all they were doing. The "can't afford therapy" was an excuse that when translated from shite parent to English really just means "that sounds like a lot of work I don't feel like doing". There are parents with fewer resources that manage to get their kids mental health help when they know it's needed, so yeah, those parents are just being lazy.

[@Draggonny]

This is why public healthcare is so important. Even if they do have the money, there are shitty parents who would rather spend the money on themselves. Kids of neglectful parents are the ones most likely to have mental health issues. Taking money out of the equation means people are more likely to get help sooner, whether their parents take them to a doctor as a child or they do so themselves as a young adult. I don't mind paying a little more in taxes to get people the mental health treatment they need to be healthy, productive members of society instead of out of control criminals like the eldest boy in this story. I'd rather give him meds to have a good life with maybe a family of his own in the future instead of paying for him to rot in prison. Poor mental health is the root cause of a lot of crime. Uncontrolled anger issues, psychosis and addiction. It might be only a small minority of mentally ill people who do the majority of crimes but if we have to treat everyone to stop the few trouble makers that's no bad thing.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

@@khaleesireyna731 Another perfect reason for why I think OP's sister and BIL have utterly failed their children as parents.

[@samvoss6697]

The Nephew’s bipolar is no excuse. I’m on the autism spectrum and have meltdowns from time to time. While it explains why I have then, it doesn’t excuse them. I hope the nephew eventually gets the help and support he clearly needs

[@lsmmoore1]

Also, meltdowns generally don't lead to acting on violent impulses in multiple areas of a neighborhood. Lashing out at nearby things, maybe, but not what that nephew was doing (and if you do lash out at someone mid-meltdown, that needs to be treated the same way as throwing up on someone, you help them clean up in whatever way you can, and if you know you tend to lash out during meltdowns, find something that's appropriate to lash out at, like a punching bag or something else like that).

[@DoritoBot9000]

It also shouldn’t matter, if he is a danger to others there needs to be an intervention, regardless or the cause.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Me too. Eldest nephew has clearly proven himself to be a danger, not just to himself but to others. But I fear he may be too far gone.

[@damien678]

@@DoritoBot9000 You cannot have a successful intervention without understanding why he's acting the way he does, and bipolar is a part of that

[@truthseeker9249]

Me too! Diagnosed with Autism at age 12 and very easily angry as well as a big crier. But I have never been in a fight and never physically harmed someone or something in anger in my life. Even in a terrible situation I'm currently in where my boyfriend's family is really treating me unfairly. His sister is the worst of all. With her cruelty she is really trying my patience. But I am not going to fight her. I am not going to hit my boyfriend's sister.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "We have three kids and a mortgage!" Three thieves* and a mortgage

[@khaleesireyna731]

Don't worry, I speak fluent lazy f**k, so I'm happy to translate. "We have 3 kids and a mortgage" really just means "my financial and emotional responsibilites that I willfully undertook should give me some kind of leeway from consequences". Interesting how often I see parents who act/talk like that.

[@sallygreimes6585]

My thought was "you and 80% of humanity." As Lily Tomlin used to say; one ringy dingy, 2 ringy dingy....

[@starbird3939]

At this point, I don’t think I would allow the eldest son to stay in the house for the safety of the younger boys. I think he was hoping the hammer would hit OP.

[@MazzaEliLi7406]

The eldest has already damaged one siblings bicycle & is is clearly smarting that his brothers are no longer following his lead. There have been many cases where a 'troubled' teen has burned down the family home - with the family in it. Hopefully the eldest is not beyond redemption but he has dug himself a very deep hole from which to climb out. Sigh.

[@dillongage]

Mad respect for OP. It takes a lot of maturity to say "I don't think excluding him from everything and everyone will help him get better" mad respect man ✊️

[@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse]

Anyone else more concerned about the MACHETE AND GAS CAN?!?!

[@Draggonny]

It might not be as bad as all that. Yes it's very concerning. Kids should not have either of those things. They are very dangerous. They could use it to murder someone and burn down the crime scene but it's much more likely they're just building a bonfire in the woods or a park. The local kids in my area love a bit of minor arson. I've never known it to get out of hand, it's just a slight annoyance. I'll forgive them a little antisocial behaviour if it's not hurting anybody.

[@PriestApostate]

I wasn't surprised that the police didn't take that more seriously - but yeah... it also stood out. I mean, that is how some true crime shows start out...

[@RiverWoods111]

@@Draggonny Yeah, all they have to do is have that little bit of fun at the wrong time and burn down 25000 acres and the entire town, murder 85 people, and boom their life is over when they get found out. If the police never find out who did it, if they survived it they have to live with the fact that their harmless little fire murdered 85 people. Do you know how many of the California fires are started by arson? Sure lightning starts some and the big one in 2018 that murdered 85 people was started by the utility company who didn't do maintenance for a decade or more and bonused out their top execs, but so many of the big fires are started by arson. One that burned down most of Redding however was started by a flat tire on a trailer sparking and the driver not realizing what it caused till afterwards.

[@MazzaEliLi7406]

@@Draggonny Much of the USA & Canada is burning as I type these words. A spark & a little wind is all it takes to start a fire. If the eldest is a budding arsonist who may think it 'fun' to start blaze in an abandoned building think what a can of even old 'gas' could do. Check out what has happened in Maui in Hawaii - overhead wires & high winds have destroyed an historic city & killed dozens of people. Think on the old saw: Fire is a good friend but terrible enemy.

[@zachf748]

I hate when parents / people say that instead of paying the stolen property / money money back, they should *_"make them work it off"._* That has absolutely no value to me. Why would I ever want that? I want the money / thing they stole from me. I don’t want to have to go spend more of my money to replace it, and pretend like them doing a few chores makes it all good and even. Because is absolutely doesn’t.

[@ailinfergan]

Exactly. I don't want in kind payment. I want actual money.

[@neil999ish]

Old school acqaintence stole some goods from a family friend, he spent the next 2 years repaying it with his pocket, birthday, and Christmas gift monies. He never stole again. (He was 12 at the time.)

[@shadamyandsonamylover]

I think it comes from the thought that if you are able to save time/money by having someone do it for free (restitution) then you are gaining that money/time/thing back in value. It only works if you value that thing equally though.

[@MsStrangeEmilie]

I agree.

[@zachf748]

@Shadamy And Sonamy Lover Oh yea, that’s absolutely the thought behind it. I just think it’s a truly ridiculous thought. Lol. Because it’s normally a punishment for kids that don’t have the money to pay you back. And exactly how much value is there in having an 8 year old do some of my chores? I can tell you, there’s almost no value at all. Lol. It’s like, would I rather (A) Get the $1,200 it would cost to replace my item, or would I rather (B) have to pay that $1,200 out of my own pocket and then have a kid half ass his way through some chores that (1) I don’t even care if they get done or not and (2) that they won’t even do correctly because they’re a kid. I’m going to go with option (1) every single time. And I think it’s absolutely ridiculous when parents suggest they want their kid to work off their debt to pay you back, rather than the parents paying the victim the money to replace their item.

[@mrmadness2699]

I find it funny that the oldest “can’t wait to be 18 when he can get away from all of them.” I think it’ll be a rude awakening when he realizes he’s going to REAL prison and not Juvie

[@amandaoh2025]

I am glad the younger too had their wake up call ngl. It's always good to see intervention working. Sad that it doesn't seem to be working for the eldest, but I suspect even WITH good parenting he may have turned out like this... I really hope for his sake he pulls himself out of this downward spiral and becomes a better man.

[@tom-qj6uw]

"but I suspect even WITH good parenting he may have turned out like this." Rather unlikely. I know some bipolars and you would not know if they don't tell you. Good parenting goes a long way to produce happy and functional adults even when the starting point is not optimal.

[@amandaoh2025]

@@tom-qj6uw it's not so much the bi polar (got that in my family, so I get ya) as sometimes? People can be inexplicably sh*tty? Like, even from the finest parenting and best circumstances, kids can be a gamble. They're not computers you can program to be Good People? Bad parents make it MORE LIKELY you grow up to be sh*tty, but that's also not the only factor sorta thing? Mental illnesses also don't help, but they ALSO aren't excuses. They are circumstances you got deal with. He had a choice is what I was saying, and he seems prone to the easier choice of "blame others" and anger. Good parenting might have done little to stop that. We see a lot of people from lovely supportive folks who end up doing just that, mental illnesses be d*mned. But I will 1000% agree with you that some parenting and support would have dropped his chances of ending up like this like a lead ballon. No kid is born that angry and self destructive.

[@kbf9644]

Oh, yeah, great lesson they’d learn “I can steal over $200 worth of stuff from someone, buy whatever I want, keep it and get off after I mow the yard a few times. Cool!” 😒

[@SilverMKI]

This is why large scale, ubiquitous and free mental health provision is really important; to catch these types of issues early and put help in place to enable people to be their best selves.

[@tom-qj6uw]

That would not have helped the least in this case. The parents simply refused to parent and - unless it's also mandatory - a mental evaluation would never have been made.

[@SilverMKI]

@@tom-qj6uw "ubiquitous" is the key word here. A united approach to education/work, social care, healthcare, etc does wonders for catching issues early and getting the best outcomes for those involved.

[@Russman67]

That nephew is a what happens when you let boys "be boys" without guidance or discipline. Good luck getting him under control without actual jail. Sister and BIL failed that kid

[@obtuse186]

I'd love to know where this idea of "boys will be boys" meaning boys will do criminally reckless stuff came from... When I was a kid "boys will be boys" was a saying about kids coming home with grass stains all over our clothes, muddy trainers and poor etiquette stuff like burping at the dinner table. It was never used to justify anything like this.

[@Russman67]

@@obtuse186 Back then, you probably caught hell for the grass stains, especially if the clothes were good clothes.

[@obtuse186]

@@Russman67 ah parents learn pretty quick that pretty much all clothes a young boy wears are sacrificial. It was mainly school uniforms getting dirty too, so if your school trousers were stained even after being washed, then you're going to school in stained trousers - ready for a whole new set of grass stains the next day.

[@carolroberts4614]

I'm the third of four sisters. The older two weren't destructive with their clothes, so I got all the hand-me-downs! I wasn't grateful, and I don't think my younger sister was either! This was in the sixties, and most of our dresses were made by mum, so we tried to keep them nice.

[@TheBaskinmays]

It going to be a lot easier to pay back the $200 then pay for a lawyer down the line when the kids get in bigger trouble.

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

That's how you do an update! Absolutely marvelous work Mark! Kudos for editing the parts of OP's later posts when he rehashed pre-established information and opinions for new sub-reddits.

[@flowerjpotter1629]

What a nightmare that guy's nephews are. Them and their parents. Gosh. Edit: He's really lucky the hammer that came through the window didn't hit him.

[@myroc1]

The first story reminds me of a saying "You don't want to go to war with your kids over behavior, but if you do, you need to always win." Their parents refuse to go to war with their kids, but they'll go to war for their kids bad behavior. Calling the cops on them is the best thing you could do for their futures imo. Community service over cans is better than 5 years over cars.

[@D123-f9k]

My brother and our cousin used to be buds. The cousin helped my brother with various mods on his car. They had a falling out then about every other night for about a week and a half, the cousin came and did stuff to the car, stealing easily removed cosmetic modifications and even puncturing his tire. He’s an adult so there wasn’t much our uncle could do, but he pulled this sort of stuff on our uncle when he was a teenager so much like the parents in the story, our uncle has been dealing with the fruits of his own parenting choices. He’s a serious enabler too.

[@kathyniebylski6735]

I feel so bad for the younger nephews. I know it sounds ridiculous, but they were deeply influenced by their brother until they snapped out of it. They never knew anything better because their parents were absent until they were forced to.

[@pixiechick05171971]

Just because you have bipolar doesn't excuse you from the consequences of your actions. You still know right from wrong and still make a conscious decision to do things. I have bipolar btw and so does my hubby so I know what goes on.

[@khaleesireyna731]

Thank you to both you and your husband for taking care of yourself (including taking ownership of what bipolar can do to a person's life/relationships). My mother has bipolar and she's not too far off from how the nephew in the story acts. It's hard because I know there are people with bipolar who take care of themselves and are honestly great people, but I've also been genuinely afraid for my safety due to my mother's actions and I know that if she's even forced to acknowledge she has bipolar, she uses at as a scapegoat. It's painful and I really feel for OPs whole family in that regard. Bipolar sounds like a very difficult thing to handle overall, so as I said, thank you for taking care of yourselves! It's not always easy, but I'm happy that you're doing it!

[@jimmyjohnjuan]

What crazy is "if they would have did there jobs from the beginning, there children would basically be self efficient at the ages they are".

[@ajb7530]

1st story, OP bravo for not letting your 3 thieving nephews get away with stealing from you. Your sister and BIL need to actually parent their kids and make them face consequences. Those nephews need to go into a scared straight program.

[@low-keydrama1260]

Story 1: This was a lesson that needed to be learned. The parents are creating monsters. It’s gonna get to the point where those nephews are gonna steal from or do something to the wrong person and they will NOT be given any mercy. Like Op said, they’ve had their chances. Now the parents and nephews are finally going to face the consequences to their actions. And from the sound of it, the rest of the family is tired of them too

[@Tammohawk1]

Those parents really didn't do their kids any favors. I don't know if that oldest kid is going to change. It might be too late for him. Which is really sad. The entire thing is sad because the parents didn't want to do their job.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

I know right? Another perfect example of a couple who should've thought twice about having children.

[@damien678]

Never too late for anyone, change is always possible it's just the person has gotta believe it and have others that believe it

[@damien678]

@Druid of Scosglen Oh, I definitely believe a lot of support - even if it's just emotional - needs to come from at least a few new people. I don't think people one's hurt over and over again can help with that change. It's typically not good for either party. But change can always happen. And the person needing to change needs to both accept themselves as they are, while also understanding they deserve to be different so they can have a better life and impact on others. DBT (dialectical behavioural therapy) has that in it.

[@pReCiOuStHePiMpCeSs]

This is crazy to think of all the siblings you see doing sketchy stuff together that there is probably just one mastermind and the rest probably are just following them.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

I remember hearing this story, but the last part only just now. Wow, that's just nuts. At least the younger nephews saw the light. The eldest one clearly needs something a bit more to wake up, or else he's not going to last very long

[@lsmmoore1]

The one kid I knew who ended up like that - arrest or even being beaten up aren't the only bad things that can happen to such folks. That kid sexually abused me even though I was older than him and threatened violence in order to do it, showed multiple instances of reckless behavior, and as an adult he ended up in a wheelchair, paralyzed, because he was jousting even though it isn't safe for someone as big as he is to joust (certainly not without actual training for years before while he was young, which he clearly didn't receive because that sort of program hasn't been available since the Middle Ages). I don't doubt that he was especially reckless while jousting on top of the fact that it was already particularly unsafe for him to joust as a large man. And while not every such criminally minded young men jousts, a lot of them do equally reckless things like motorcycle tricks, skateboard tricks they didn't have enough practice in, and all manner of other risks that can do permanent damage.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

I remember this story! I read this story with Reddit Brew. And let me tell you. I love this op. He has one shiny spine and he is absolutely right for standing his ground on the issue. And my opinion still stands, OP's eldest nephew has some serious issues and clearly is mentally ill! ಠ⁠︵⁠ಠ He's going to have a miserable life if he doesn't get help and change for the better soon. At first I wrote off the younger nephews too, but I now have respect for the younger nephews because unlike their older brother, they're genuinely remorseful and seemed to have learned a very valuable lesson. OP's sister and BIL have clearly failed as parents. And no excuses can be made. Even if they were too tired from their jobs or something like that, they're parents and if they're too tired to parent their children, then they shouldn't have had children. And after the extra info about OP's sister and her marriage with her husband, it's clear that she especially was LONG OVERDUE for a reality check about marriage and parenthood. Veteran parents warn us that parenthood is NOT for the faint of heart for a reason. And Veteran couples warn us that marriage is NOT for the faint of heart for a reason. This is why we need to discuss marriage and parenthood more, not just in school, but throughout society. It needs to be discussed more. We'd be doing families a lot of favors that way. ❤️

[@dmwspoons60]

And Redditbrew had more updates

[@PonderingStudent]

The younger you are, the easier it is to change your behaviour. This is why, with issues such as mental health and behavioural problems, there should be far more emphasis on intervention and treatment in children than there currently is. It's absolutely possible to change the way you think and behave as an adult, but its much harder and the older you get, the more set your thought and behaviour patterns become. As well as this, the 2 youngest were aping and taking direction from someone they saw as their main role model (since clearly their parents weren't around enough to be role models). Once they realised the consequences of following their model's lead, they were able to stop viewing him as an example to follow and were able (correctly) to put much of the blame on him as the instigator, which I suspect gave them a psychological "out." Eldest had no-one to blame but himself, hence his frantic attempts to blame OP rather than face that he alone was responsible for his actions and, consequently, how nasty his life is currently. You're absolutely right that the greatest responsibility is on the parents here. OP is almost certainly correct in saying that, had the eldest nephew been better parented, his bipolar would have presented differently and probably much less destructively. Sadly, if he had been pulled up on his bad behaviour sooner and his parents had been alert enough to realise said behaviour wasn't normal, he might well have been able to get help BEFORE he got in legal trouble and alienated his entire family, both close and extended. As it is, I fear he may be too far gone to be able to achieve a somewhat normal adult life now, but I hope I'm wrong.

[@kb1073]

It never ceases to amaze me that people are supposed to accept criminal behaviors from kids because they are related to you. I see one where a kid stole his stepmother car and people told her that it was a teens right of passage. I'm like what?!

[@lugenewhittenberger1983]

The holiday thing.... just have the sister and brother-in-law host both holidays this year. That should solve the problem. Everyone can contribute dishes and go early enough to help with the mains. It might go a long way towards healing things.

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

The eldest nephew made a piss poor Inquisitor other than his dual wielding of the hammers. Darth Vader would have culled him for being so weak and losing one of his his weapons. Vader does not accept failure!

[@DoritoBot9000]

“They’re too tired from work…” then why even have children then? Much less three??? I know the older brother’s behavior is horrible, but I can’t help to feel sorry for him. Not getting him a birthday cake on his birthday seems very counterproductive… how is removing signs of affection from his immediate family going to help him in any way in the the very hard process he needs to go through to change? They should remove those kids from that house, period.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

I agree. CPS should've been called on OP's sister and BIL after they abandoned their duties as parents and their children.

[@nikig2891]

I’m really nervous for OP if his nephew doesn’t get some help.

[@Mimikinn]

Part of me feels bad for the eldest nephew cuz his parents have completely failed him. I hope he gets some serious help and changes his ways for his own sake. If not, I fear he may do something drastic in the future.

[@knitwit9447]

Im having a really, really shitty time, but these past few months I've come to anticipate these videos and they always make me smile. I've been feeling sick since Monday, after moving from one temporary home to a new one. Everyone in the house I'm currently staying in is sick, one with the flu and everyone else with something unknown. Well, I went to get tested and not only do I have the flu, I also have covid, and strep. My house burned down about 3 months ago and a week after that, I got covid from my father and brother while staying at the house with a family friend. I must've gotten a different strain, and it's so much worse. My brother, mum, and I are going to go to a hotel tomorrow and hopefully our apartment will finally be ready within a few days. I'm gonna sit down and do some incredibly important paperwork I've been avoiding until the deadline (5 days from now) and listen to the video! Hope everyone is having a better day than I am lol

[@lisadgingersnaps9843]

I hope things get better soon. (((Hugs)))

[@enmity9383]

I hope things start looking up for you, friend! Thats rough, but im glad it sounds like youre powering through

[@1964Puddles]

Dang, sorry things are so rough for you right now. Praying for relief.

[@melindaflick631]

Holy shit, you poor thing! That's an awful lot to deal with. My youngest had a miserable week or two during her last semester of high school when she got both strep and mono. Both were circulating through school... I can't imagine your load! I hope you can feel better soon, and your housing gets resolved.

[@Dragonemperess]

Nice to see an older story get an update. Hopefully the nephew gets better and learns from all of this.

[@Frightmarelordofthenightmares]

I love how they cried like babies when their in a situation where a fake apology can't save them

[@OZARKMOON1960]

This whole saga is just so sad all the way around. The parents failed those children the minute they started 'going through the motions as parents' - this is not the way to have kids. No punishment, hell it sounds like half the time the parents didn't even know where their teens were, which never results in a good outcome. Hope the oldest finally gets straightened out somehow and the younger two keep up with what they are doing.

[@lalvarez5151]

Story 1- the only way to get the thieving kids to stop is to press charges. To stop them with consequences before they become adults and do worse

[@SailorMya]

Sad that those kids have been failed by their parents and that it took police involvement for any change... The oldest was never given the tools in life to take responsibility for his own actions so it will always be someone/something other then himself that is the problem. Bipolar and other mental illness in the like are not an excuse more of an "explanation". It can explain some behavioral issues but not excuse them, that part is on the person and how they choose to live and handle everything in their life.

[@khaleesireyna731]

Pretty much any mental illness is an explanation, never an excuse.

[@TriciaT2407]

Story 2: NTA OP is a bad ass uncle who did the necessary to save 3 kids from leading a horrible life of crime as well as force their parents to step up and be parents. I'm glad he isn't giving up on the eldest nephew. One day All three boys will thank him for what he did. Good job, OP!

[@geminidawn7315]

I have Bipolar II His behavior can't be blamed on his BiPolar issues. There are 7 types none of them prevent you from knowing right from wrong. He got away with a lot until he could no longer hide behind his parents. It sounds like running away getting robbed and getting his ass kicked got a message through to him nothing else could. Not doing anything at all on his birthday was over the top though they should have least done a meal and dessert and maybe a movie or something. I say that because something like that could permanently ruin his feelings on all his future birthdays even if he gets his act together.

[@MsStrangeEmilie]

A birthday party for a child who needs to learn consequences for their actions. He did not earn the privilege.

[@Cel3ere5]

I remember this story and what a neighborhood nuisance those kids are. The oldest one has no idea how to model good behavior. I feel really bad for him.

[@veraguindos]

This is the perfect example why not everyone is made to be parent. They had 3 kids, and didn't do any parenting because they were tired from work. People should take parenting decision a lot more serious... Having kids and letting them alone to be raised is f* up...

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

I know right? This is something my parents preached all the time. I remember a post my daddy made when I was little and getting bullied in school. It went something like this, "Parents, raise your kids. I'm working my ass off to raise mine." That wasn't all he said but that's all I could remember. And to this day, those words stuck with me. After several talks about parenthood, I then made my mission to be the best mother I can be for my future children. ❤️ And it's also why one of my biggest pet peeves is entitled people and/or garbage people popping out dozens of kids when they shouldn't have even had one. Treating their own children like they're toys or accessories for themselves or even abusing them. And on top of all that, milking the system for essentially free money or producing like rabbits to look good for society, because society loves children, all while creating traumatized children who will most likely grow up to be damaged in some way. It's disgusting. ಠ⁠︵⁠ಠ I hate how the world can be so cruel sometimes. That wonderful people who would certainly be wonderful parents often struggle to have children and people who are subpar at best and absolutely awful at worst are able to breed like rabbits. But that's life I suppose. And unfortunately, you get to choose how your body works or how your life starts.

[@Allenluvable]

Jeez what a crazy ride. It just kept getting worse and worse.

[@Lilian620.]

I remember the first story, each update it got more and more crazy

[@LunaMane]

I don't know how the mother expects OP to be civil with the parents. The oldest nephew is like this because they didn't do anything to stop or help him until now. And even then they don't seem willing. The parents are the ones who should be shunned, not the oldest nephew.

[@khaleesireyna731]

Honestly, I think the parents and the oldest nephew can all enjoy being banned/excluded. The parents messed around and found out. They wanted to be lazy and expected the slack to pick up itself somehow and that's how we get the nephew's bad behavior. No one likes dealing with enablers. Meanwhile, the oldest nephew has repeatedly lied and stolen from his family with few repercussions until recently... can't blame the rest of the family for saying "nah, don't really want to deal with that".

[@loesboss5519]

Having bipolar disorder as a teenager souds like the worst combination for getting in to trouble. This is a kid that needed strong but warm boundries, a LOT of guidance. Instead he was just left to roam about. I feel very sad for him. I think OP has actually been a good influence for him, the only one who continued to establish clear boundries and keeping involved

[@indiashante1560]

Story 1: Shitty parenting breeds shitty behaviors. SMH I'm glad the two youngest are doing better. The parents failed them and it's going to take some extreme therapy for that oldest and hopefully it's not too late. The oldest being bipolar should have been diagnosed way younger earlier but the parents were so emotionally neglectful to these kids that they didn't notice something was off.

[@myfavs3530]

In a few years, these boys will be in prison. When there are no consequences for wrongdoing, it ESCALATES.

[@guilded0n3]

I've been wanting updates to this video for forever thank you for finally posting it

[@AhamkaraMommy]

It's not about whether him being Bipolar caused it, it's about him finding a solution to that problem, or more specifically, wanting to.

[@paden1865able]

Three kids and a mortgage doesn't excuse bad parenting. They're negligent and enabling idiots. I really don't think the young ones belong in their custody anymore.

[@khaleesireyna731]

Sadly, yeah, and given how overloaded and backward CPS, it's not like anyone is actually going to get the younger kids into a better home environment. This whole story is a great example of how emotional abuse/neglect go pretty much unaddressed. The only reason it got addressed to this point is because OP had to go and get law enforcement involved and it doesn't sound like the parents really changed or learned anything (the fact that they're still butthurt about being excluded from family gatherings speaks volumes to me). These parents clearly neglected them emotionally (and yes, never disciplining your kids is a kind of emotional neglect) and the only kind of intervention they got was from cops, not social workers or parenting classes or some kind of family therapy. It's sad.

[@nicolen.4514]

Perfect timing, Mark! I was procrastinating because I didn't have anything good to listen to.

[@phyllis9750]

If they're acting like animals, treat them like animals. The whole "Not my kids", they can continue that silliness until they're saying it in PRISON!!

[@nentash8566]

the kid is nearly 18 and the world isn't going to treat him any better, i would have thought he realised rhat when after like 2 days on the streets he gets beaten and robbed

[@skyelindsey687]

I knew someone who blamed her mental issues and other people for everything that went wrong in her life. She made a false report to CPS that mom was abusing me and my siblings and sent us out to get her hard drugs (most she did was spank us and sent us to bum a cigarette off the neighbor when she was out & didn’t have the money for a whole pack). Obviously an investigation ensued. When I was pulled out of class to be questioned, I told them mother doesn’t do that and if anything she should be looking into my neighbor. That she was high most of the time and didn’t know where here son disappeared to and if anyone would send their child to get them drugs it would be her and not my mother. Well CPS found the accusations against my mom false and started looking into the neighbor. Well they found something because it gave her baby daddy enough to get full custody. Once neighbor got the news she got high on something, punched a window which cut up her forearm, and then blamed my family for her child being taken away. Out of the 4 years we lived next to her she was on her bipolar meds maybe a year in total and even then all her issues were because of someone else.

[@Queen_B235]

Screw community service. Send them to Boot Camp!

[@unavailableidname]

I hope OP has the best camera’s and some personal training because sometimes people like that fixate on someone til they hurt them unless other things happen. My mom is bipolar of this kind and it took a lot of work to get her head on straight and even then she still blames my dad as the villain.

[@markanthony1004]

I remember this story! It never gets old for me

[@becauselifts9913]

When I read this one, I replied in BORU asking how long until this kid ends up on r/truecrime for killing his aunt?

[@shmellomello]

What makes me nervous is what happens when the kid turns 18 and can legally purchase a firearm. I hope op is okay. That kid sounds like an absolute maniac.

[@seabreezeblank1513]

Even under 18 he can legally purchase a firearm it's called a muzzleloader it will do every bit as much damage as a semi-automatic

[@rebajoe]

Just glad op got the machete back before the nephew could do anything with it.

[@rubymeaddle]

I'm willing to bet my Christmas bonus that multiple staff members at the nephew's schools tried to get him evaluated but the parents refused to sign off on it. That many behavioral issues to the point your entire neighborhood hates you isn't something they overlook. The sister and BIL are the root cause of the boy's issues, it sucks it took a month in juvie and getting mugged to get him in line.

[@salomerodriguez5145]

I remember this story. Glad to finally hear the conclusion of it.

[@shadyKpopFan]

One thing I want to comment as someone who works with adults with complex needs Is that comments on reddit were pointing out why family turned their back con the nephew 1. It is obvious that he has not changed 2. Even if he wants to change meds are 50% of the treatment 3. He needs to be on mode when he attends therapy, try to express himself and release he needs help Even when clients want a change and make commitments they fail but keep trying He will fail and keep on failing with his current attitude and that will only results on family getting sick of him He doesn't realise he's the dogging his own grave Can't blame their families for wanting to distant themselves I literally have a client who will spend his birthday alone this week because that's what he did when he was younger and now family doesn't even give him a call, very similar behaviours as the teen in the story

[@rebajoe]

And he was mugged and got a whoop'n and even that didn't shake him up.

[@standinthegsp6858]

They needed to do a stint in juvie as well as court/police supervised community service. Cleaning port-a-potties on hot summer days, down on hands & knees cleaning gravestones in a cemetery, picking up trash on the highway in orange or black& white jumpsuits are a few that come to mind. It also sounds as if the oldest might have narcissistic tendencies. He & his parents need to know that someone may feel they have to use reasonable or deadly force to protect themselves. I hope the oldest continues to get help & that he accepts responsibility for his actions. I hope the youngest two continue on the right path. OP, be sure your family & you especially remain hyper aware. Have your neighbors, friends & workplace keep an eye out. That kid has it out for you (mainly) & may escalate. Stay safe.

[@TheFlowerchild712]

Unfortunately this has nothing to do with bipolar disorder. This is the complete lack of consequences and boundaries for the majority of his life. I feel bad for him, but his behavior is not okay and seems to be escalating.

[@Octoberdoomster1]

The parents have done a terrible job and should've been more around for the oldest kid. As a bipolar 2 patient, he should be supported. I remember being all alone and worst of all not getting treatment, with pills or therapy. You feel crazy and like push everyone away when you don't mean to. I still struggle a little with it, it does get easier with help.

[@stevec7272]

glad to see updates for this story

[@jennilynne1977]

I hope everyone is having a great day/afternoon/night! Peace, hugs and love to you all!

[@nai5949]

I think what's happening is: 1. The oldest has a mental disorder left untreated 2. The younger ones followed in their brothers footsteps. 2. The parents have no idea how to be parents. All of this combined can't be good. They need to get the oldest treatment NOW before it's too late and he is going down a bad path.

[@wmdkitty]

No, it's just bad parenting, no "mental disorders" here.

[@khaleesireyna731]

@@wmdkitty considering that the kid was forced to be evaluated by a psychological/psychiatric professional by the courts, there very much IS a mental illness involved here. The stigma around mental illness really DOES need to change, but that change in attitude shouldn't stop us from also acknowledging that mental illnesses can really make a person be the worst version of themselves. I've seen this a few times: the oldest child is simply labeled a troublemaker due to their behavior (behavioral traits like hyperactivity, emotional volatility, and impulsivity are things that can definitely be "problem child" traits, but they're also symptoms of numerous mental health/developmental issues). The "problem child" label often can be treated as the be-all-end-all by parents and educators so little goes into understanding why the child does that, just some level of trying to stop the behavior (or in the parents' case, enabling until it bites THEM in the a$$). The younger kids watch their older sibling behave that way and get away with it, so guess what they start doing? Acting exactly the same way... the parents failed when their children started stealing and instead of disciplining them and/or getting them help to correct that behavior, they just enabled it. This kind of story really makes me think about the way we are about mental health (hint: it's not a very good place) because how many kids just get slapped with the "problem child" label and their behavior is never given a closer look? How many kids with undiagnosed/untreated ASD, ADHD, OCD, depression, anxiety, bipolar, etc. are out there and they're nowhere near getting any kind of help or treatment because all the adults responsible for them have just written them off as a "problem child"? If I'd been diagnosed with ADHD as a child instead of being diagnosed as an adult like I was (with all the maladaptive behaviors, anxiety, depression, and issues surrounding my ADHD that were still very much there in childhood), how much more would I have been able to do and accomplish? I've accomplished a lot in my life, yes (I'm the youngest college grad in my family, I'm a returned Peace Corps volunteer, I work a full-time job. I'm doing very well, but I really only got a handle on every day adulting tasks like making a budget, keeping up on chores, handling money, and keeping on top of time management, after getting diagnosed). I may have done well, but I feel that 2/3rds of the race so far for me has been run with weights tied around my ankles. I struggled in places... what could I have been able to accomplish if I hadn't had to struggle like that? How many other children labeled as problem children or the products of bad parenting could've done so much better if their issues had been caught sooner? Food for thought.

[@OmniscientlyMe]

"Nearly broke after the holidays". The holidays are not an excuse to break the bank. Sounds like the oldest nephew is hopeless and has no capacity for self-reflection, might have saved the younger ones in the long run though.

[@MONKEYDZETS]

He got his butt robbed lol

[@MidnightCore7]

Story one: make the kids return the video games they bought with the stolen money and the money that they can’t get back from the snacks they can take out of kids Christmas gifts Or birthday gifts or something

[@michamocha]

Story 1: "Why should the parents suffer for their actions" Because it's their responsibility to teach their kids not to steal or to give proper punishment that they do something like this. They did neither so now it's only fair that they pay Op the $200 back. I'm glad the family is on his side, but disappointed that the police don't see the machete as something to be concerned over. Yeah, it's a tool but a pretty dangerous one, especially in the wrong hands.

[@morbiundich803]

Story1 there is a update from the oldest nephew..It was glorius!!!

[@thefallennero5265]

Lol where can I find the update

[@elisonholace4033]

Link?

[@lizzykayOT7]

OP basically saved these kids. Good job. Hopefully the eldest will be okay, grow up and understand. It's sad that he's being ostracized everywhere. His problems don't sound like bipolar.

[@shanebrown4146]

The nephew/hammer story was something straight out of a horror movie! The double claw hammer part had me ON EDGE,I actually paused & in new window re started (this could be counted at attempted murder)-this was just creepy! The ending was also slashing the bike tires, At least the ending was bittersweet but I would pay money to see this into a movie

[@alexandermccalla5098]

Make sure eldest nephew doesn’t get his hands on a gun

[@amberleeannalee1999]

He’s the next Kyle Rittenhouse

[@rebajoe]

Lucky op got the machete back before nephew could do anything with it.

[@dova_lily4484]

Up taking care of the furbabies before heading to the store. Hope your Saturday is going well.

[@kazzuo32]

Some People now days what to have children but don't want to be parents, and later complained when they turn into criminals.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Those are the type of people who should NEVER have children. Parenthood is a lifelong responsibility and you can't handle it, then just do us all a favor and don't have children and if you can't be bothered to protect yourself or terminate, then put your children in a loving home where they can get the love and support they deserve. Don't be the selfish parent who has children but won't raise them.

[@GIChiyo]

This story is why you don't try to be friends with your kids, and why you tell your kids "no"

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Yes. It's great to want a good relationship with your children. But you need to raise them well. That way you can keep that good relationship AND they're more likely to succeed in life. ❤️

[@brandyb2931]

From the start I knew one of the boys, probably the oldest, is leading the other 2 astray.

[@melissameeker1699]

I have been Bi-polar for over 30 years and never acted like this. And through my teenage years I wasn't on any medication as I had a egg donor who didn't care. I hate when people use that as an excuse. I guess that's the difference between the Gen X and the other generations.

[@luxuryballer8291]

This is the prologue to one of those stories where the guy hunts down and kills the whole family and everyone is suprised.

[@lenardjones4666]

good story. I'd seen it before and was glad to see the conclusion.

[@tayflowers13]

I have a feeling if things keep going the same something bad might happen, I hope this kid doesn't try to hurt himself or others.

[@RandomTrinidadian]

Story 1: Play Stupid Games.... Looks like someone is gonna have a long life prison

[@melindaflick631]

I seem to remember reading this on Reddit a while ago. A year? I would love a 1 year update. I wonder how that poor eldest boy is doing. He's a hot mess, but I have to feel that he'd be in MUCH less bad shape if his parents had been worth a hill of beans!

[@leannenuttall5655]

Sorry...I have seen this play out before. A tortured his parents for years....they did everything they could and they lost that 5 year battle when he was 19. Prayers for your living Nephew 🙏.

[@Davtwan]

If you can’t afford both the money and supervision of having gathered kids and a mortgage, then maybe don’t have three kids? And even if all of them were accidental, then maybe ask for help managing finances? Those teens are only going to get supervision from prison guards at this rate. How sad.