‘I Don’t Think I’m Butting Into Their Marriage,’ Says Woman Refuting Daughter-In-Law’s Claim

Joyce’s daughter-in-law, Tammy, is accusing her of butting into her marriage to Joyce’s son, Troy, including interfering in how Tammy is raising her children and Troy’s son from a previous relationship.
"I don't think I'm butting into their marriage," says Joyce, who adamantly denies Tammy’s claims. "When I go there to visit, I don't want to watch Tammy bully the kids. That's all," she adds.
"I think what we're talking about is child-rearing values, and you're complaining about cleaning the plate, taking off their shoes, having rules in the home, and just frankly, I don't think that's your business," Dr. Phil says to Joyce in this clip from season 2.
When Dr. Phil tells Troy that he has some unique challenges with his blended family, and if he doesn't start “making adjustments,” he won't be married for long, what is Troy’s response?
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[@theresenydahl9531]

Her concern is not the kids, her concern is that she can't control her daughter-in-law the way she always controlled her son😕

[@cabayern9416]

Wrong. The children are being bullied.

[@crabbypatty973]

@@cabayern9416 Wrong. The children are being PARENTED by a great person.

[@perniesweemmer51]

Theresa Nydahl..👍👍👍I agree with you 100%..what a great comment...you summed it up in one without being emotional. This mother in law's intention is to seek ways to find problems rather than solutions. It's her intention towards their relationship that is the problem. She is petulant and immature and (surprise,surprise)so is her son. She's encouraged him to come to her with their problems because it makes her feel important...he's responding to her the way she has programmed him too...therefore unless a miracle occurs this wife doesn't stand a chance of being treated fairly. If she has any backbone she will grow tired of this scenario quickly...then all the running to mommy in the world is not going to help him and he will have the same problem with his next partner. This mother has done her son no favours I'm afraid 😤👿

[@vaughn7130]

This is true, speaking from experience

[@paulakarwowski]

Never marry a Mama's boy. The wife needs to get out now.

[@primordialmeow7249]

Mom seems spot on. Her boys will grow up with strong backbones. Tammy is a great Mom. Grandma needs to get off her high horse and get a life.

[@cabayern9416]

Mom is a mean spirited bully.

[@paradoxic7869]

@@cabayern9416 Let me guess, your kids don't talk to you.

[@cabayern9416]

@@paradoxic7869 lol! Seldom right and wrong again!!!

[@gabriellenichole3445]

You know if she let the kids acted in anyway they wanted, the grandma would be going nuts

[@natalie9884]

“Emotional abuse” hahaha my a$$. She grew up in 40s or 50s...do better

[@lindadouglass4692]

I can never understand why a mother-in-law believes she has the right to tell the daughter-in-law how to raise the kids. The husband is a weak person. I have lived in this type of marriage. Very unhealthily.

[@kashkahines5554]

@lindadouglass4692 I'm going through it now

[@flawless9657]

He’s mama’s boy

[@tranurse]

Making kids eat their supper and clean up after themselves,..... how horrible. Grandma needs to get a grip

[@tranurse]

@Justin Kneece it’s not, I was being sarcastic

[@tranurse]

@Justin Kneece NP. Sometimes I wish there was a sarcasm font

[@Rainen00]

That makes me a bad mom 2 kids need boundaries rules chores a foundation

[@jemmajames6719]

They don’t have to eat it but if it can be saved for tomorrows supper then that’s what they have reheated, unless they genuinely don’t like it. Also they don’t ever eat between meals and there’s nothing to eat until breakfast.

[@jemmajames6719]

My mother-in-law died before we had kids, but before then my husband gave her a key, so uninvited by me she would let herself in clean, and move everything around, I’d come to the move everything back and so it continued.

[@GradKat]

Warning!! Toxic mother in law!!

[@kashkahines5554]

I'm going through this now

[@stephy369]

There's that buzzword again.

[@kashkahines5554]

@@stephy369 what do you mean?

[@vintage1950]

My mum and nan used to say, you’ll eat what I put in front of you. And that was that, it’s none of her business 🙄

[@Toocoolforunclesam]

Now we know food sensitivities and allergies exist. If your weird about it you can give kids a complex forcing them to eat. They'll eat if they get hungry enough no cohesion is needed.

[@yourfriendlyneighborhoodla2091]

Damn lucky, my mom said "If you don't like what I make you then you don't have to eat."

[@Malz1029]

My mom always asked my brother an I opinions of dinner. We ate a lot, never picky or fussy because we were always part of the decision. Steak, fish, chicken, etc.. even ate our veggies!

[@Sw33tLilMonstr]

I mean when i was younger and refused to eat certain things it got to a point where i was super underweight. So no not all kids will just eat if theyre hungry enough. And alot of kids would rather live off snacks and sugar. I dont think its torturous to make a kid eat their veggies

[@melanatedqueen]

Sounds like every mother I know. Dinner will be made once and if you can't eat please allow yourself to go to bed hungry. Tht food will be eaten, whether its dinner, your breakfast or lunch the next day. The rubbish bin has no stomach.

[@KellyLouiseYeahx]

I hope she left him! Horrible family 🤢

[@lin8148]

If my husband put anyone before me, i would be gone.

[@allwhatilove914]

Immediately!

[@evitasdad]

Husband/ son is the biggest problem of the whole situation. And he sits to the side looking smug.

[@suebrurell206]

The mother-in-law seems to be a control freak and her son should put a stop to this. She is a bully

[@Dualityformality]

She clearly doesn’t understand what emotional abuse is. Typical Karen! Those kids are loved and cared for!

[@halle212]

She seems very dismissive and abusive herself. She can’t even apologize and thinks she did nothing wrong, classic narcissist

[@skittles3310]

This mother in law had her mind made up from the beginning she didn't wanna like whoever her son married. This man is a weak and pathetic man and husband.

[@dxunja]

I'm traumatized by his smug look of pleasure he receives from seeing his mother give him approval for siding with her. The wife didn't need to say more. Troy proved that his wife wasn't lying about him choosing his mother over her.

[@skittles3310]

@@dxunja I agree, that poor woman never stood a chance marrying into this family. I'd be willing to about bet that any female he brought home would've been treated just as bad. I actually think she's a great mom, she's absolutely beautiful, and any man should be proud to call her his wife.

[@dxunja]

@@skittles3310 Agreed on all points!

[@gailwebb9619]

Agree. He is such a weak excuse for a man....and that mother in law smirking when he takes his mother’s side.....what a horrible woman.

[@raquelhinds1732]

How can I watch this full episode

[@chy2807]

This woman is such a narcissistic person. I hope she left him.

[@lozzylols]

Wow the MIL must have raised her son in a cushioned home to protect him, and now he is so devoted to his parents he can't see past that... He was never taught to do things he didn't like, so when that happens with his wife he goes crying to Mummy! She has moulded him to have no independence!

[@marsharowaihy6725]

That’s so right when Dr. Phil said, your parents only know what you tell them. Been there and it’s so one sided and the partner can’t win.

[@cntstpme9]

Oh no!!! They have to EAT!! Called the authorities!!!

[@pokefan213]

"I can not live up to your expectations." Her expectations: for MIL to apologize to her and butt out of raising the kids, nothing more really. because anyone ELSE can live up to those expectations. easily.

[@pokefan213]

@Tiffany F. thanks for clarifying the part Dr.Phil said near the end to the Husbands parents "He comes to you in the anger and frustration, and you hear THAT- you don't hear the make-up afterwards"

[@cicichambers3887]

Mom doesn’t need to make changes to please grandma. Her house, her rules.

[@swimfast724]

This woman is amazing to put up with her in-laws like this ❤ this "man" needs to grow up omg I can't even describe how messed up this is. Honestly, the real problem is the husband. You don't go running to your mommy when you have an argument with your wife.

[@allthingsnyokabi9102]

That woman in the black leather jacket was clapping so hard at 1:50 Im sure she was imagining telling off her mother in law like that 😂

[@amydoran9987]

His mother are awful. He allows them to treat her badly.

[@mnmdisney]

I had a mother in law like her once, was waaay too stressful on the relationship, we didnt make it.

[@myfriendisaac]

That mother-in-law is a drag 🤨😒😂

[@bethsl2839]

My husband threatened me once with divorce. After we reconciled, I told him to never threaten me with that again. I told him if he ever said it again, he better be prepared to back it up. It would be over & he could file. He hasn't threatened me with it since.

[@Aluapay]

He's going to loose every wife he marrys.

[@LisaLisaCJ]

my former father in law was on his forth wife before he realized it was his mother causing the problems....

[@marmel4086]

I hope Tammy ran FAR,FAR away………

[@allienixon8959]

If you let kids eat whatever they want the would live on pizza, hot dogs etc.... I can’t believe this woman is saying making them finish their dinner is emotional abuse she’s nuts.

[@Liz_678]

Sounds like the real problem is with the in-laws

[@allwhatilove914]

And the husband. He is the biggest problem.

[@SuperCelliott]

Oh no I couldn’t with this man.

[@HeyhoBrando]

My mom was like the mother who said “it’s dinner time eat” my mother never made stuff I didn’t like, but it was ether eat what she made, or make it yourself

[@fainitesbarley2245]

Yep. I didn’t give him things I knew he didn’t like. Beyond that the choice was ‘eat it or starve’.

[@dxunja]

I'd make what ever that was nutritional and covered by income. And if my husband or son didn't want it. I didn't lose sleep over it. Starving people across the world would be grateful. Why should privileged picky eaters be any different or ungrateful? Beside I think people were missing the true issue. Mother in Law is in competition with her daughter in Law about everything...from meals to child rearing to knowing what satisfies a man, particularly her son. The mother in law is a sellout jealous insecure proud biotch.

[@swimfast724]

Yeah definitely

[@jasminehouston-burns1691]

So glad they're showing more than one of these flashback clips, because even if they're still on the Dr. Phil YT account somewhere (although I think plenty of the episodes pre-date YT days) they're really hard to find. I was particularly interested in this family.

[@dxunja]

Me too. I came here from a Yahoo article. Tammy seriously needs an out.

[@fire12731]

Grandma you are way out of line !!!’

[@imcopper]

Mr. Phil said it right,, the only thing his parents hear is what "HE" tells them,, in whatever mood he's in when he tells all. He liked playing both sides !!

[@jaxonjedi4519]

I hope whoever sees this has a nice day

[@mercmichigan]

Thank you for saying that

[@dt564]

You too

[@wikidprincess]

🖤💜

[@LizzieWhiz]

NEVER marry a mummy's boy! Where is his boys mother? I wonder what happened to her? Did his mother drive her to drink, drugs or did she take off and leave her son behind?

[@callyannbrewington1216]

Tammy leave your husband!! It's not worth the torment from your in-laws!

[@ashleyc.6189]

I really hope this poor woman left her loser husband and his steamroller mother. She deserves a partner who is actually committed to the marriage.

[@phyllis9750]

Has ANY mother-in-law that butts in going to admit it? She's a nightmare!

[@tiahardy31715]

He is a momma and daddies boy. The fact he laughed at them calling her out of her name says everything she needs to know

[@jamessparks5966]

That one lady in the audience was SUPER excited.

[@imcopper]

lol i saw that too

[@enyamariemurphy]

lmao when the grandma says she can't live up to the daughter in law's expectations trynna acts all humble when its her expectations for the daughter in law that are ridiculous, she's clearly a good mother to the children and the grandparents are deluded and think no-one is good enough for their man child of a son

[@heatheraucoin5832]

Granny crazy. Every time she’d smile, it seemed evil

[@oliviad3326]

That wife seems like a beautiful, smart and capable woman. Any man would be HAPPY to be with her, whether she was a single mom or not. She should drop that mommas boy!

[@katiaandrade5849]

1:51 this woman has gone through the same and is glad someone is being called out lol

[@Nina-rb1wh]

Bruh I'm early for once, so I'm gonna say hi to everyone who watch this after me

[@Sunset553]

Hi.

[@user-br5gs5bg1t]

Heyy

[@toosense]

Howdy.

[@Maebb.]

Poor mom. She has that entire family against her.

[@penneyhenry3523]

I wonder if they are still together?

[@morgansmith9533]

Highly doubt it

[@karenapollicina8925]

Me too

[@purgatoriprytania5382]

“It’s dinner time and this is not a short order kitchen.” 👏

[@marybowesobrien7185]

That is one smug turnip of a husband👎🤮

[@sinatraskitten]

That condescending smile from the FIL says it all

[@epickup08]

Mama needs to back off. Son is very handsome, too bad he's a wimp.

[@countrystix]

The wife needs to move on since her husband cant protect his wife from his mean ole mother and father OR cut the parents out completely

[@raquelhinds1732]

He’s a punk and sorry excuse of a man. His mother needs to mind her business. And really dislike her.

[@wikidprincess]

He's gonna be the next Chris Watts. 😶😑

[@dxunja]

*OMGoodness you too!! My hunch exactly!*

[@reremaiwhaipooti7166]

Thought so aswell

[@red2846]

Rearing children values! Preach Dr.Phil! It’s not her job! Once she lets go of the control and just ENJOYS her grandchildren as the blessings THEY are she will never ever change her mind!

[@godschild2326]

Butt out of their marriage. Troy, have the balls to stick up for your wife. Unbelievable. Oh, and QUIT talking negatively about your wife to them. Talk about something else. I have a feeling you are already divorced. :)

[@LKLG1990]

'Don't feed your children things that they don't like'. 'Don't force-feed your kids!' Seriously, every parent makes their child eat things they don't like. That's called PARENTING. It happened to us adults when we were kids and we turned out fine.. They might never eat certain food ever again when they are adults, but that doesn't mean they're traumatized or that it's child abuse.

[@dxunja]

That hag of a mother in law gave into her husband's toxic mascalinity long ago. And she was so proud of herself until the strong independent type married her son. She wants the poor girl gone because she's lost to a better women, mom and wife.

[@christinemoscovitz693]

This husband has not learnt that he needs to leave his father & mother & cling to his wife & become one flesh....His priorities are out of line...

[@kimvannote5024]

His mother is in competition with her for her son. This man is really married to his mother - the Truth.

[@paulakarwowski]

I was forced to eat certain things when I was a kid. I survived. Omg

[@sunnibunni9741]

Monster in law. I can't understand these types of in laws. Making kids eat is not mental/emotional abuse.

[@mehmonkey706]

Eat yer dinnerrrrrr! *I'm being emOti0nally abused*

[@geminismom4u]

Sorry, I heard the son's name as... Grady? That'll be the MOST damage done by these parents 😰

[@annakuusela520]

what is put on the plate is eaten. the education office is closed. complaints are not accepted

[@marioahu]

Forcing children to eat is cruel.

[@S3w3rSh4rk0]

This is just a simple case of "Karen took the kids"

[@Jinzobanu]

😭😭😭

[@Veronica-pv3qh]

I made food my kids didn’t like and now that they are adults they like all that stuff they didn’t like. And I never made separate meals for everyone in the family. My kitchen wasn’t a diner.

[@kaaaaitykaaaait]

Tell her Dr. Phil ‼️‼️

[@erika021]

That MIL is the reason there are stereotypes for MILs.

[@Shalyn-ln9tu]

My mom never make me eat things that I could not eat. Mixed vegetables was the only thing I refused to eat as a child, I still can't eat them. If a child isn't eating, my doctor recommended that I go play, then come back to eat. I used to be underweight, so this fixed it. So when I was getting older, I could sit down and have a meal without running off.

[@Shalyn-ln9tu]

@Punkin' Spice Actually, I wasn't. I was very much abused by my step parent. There is can't eat if you're allergic, I can't have lactose. I could not eat mixed vegetables because it was disgusting and made me physically ill. I still can't eat them because they are disgusting and made me physically ill. I have always been independent from childhood to adulthood. Take your comment elsewhere because you don't know what you are talking about.

[@Shalyn-ln9tu]

@Punkin' Spice That grandmother is absolutely terrible.

[@cazjohnson858]

I don’t understand the in-laws, why would they be so against the daughter in law?. I have a lovely son in law and 2 lovely daughter in laws. I help out, when needed, I give them good advice, if they ask for it. All my kids argue at some point with their partners but they know I don’t get involved. Tammy looks so sad. I hope she left that toxic family.

[@madelinehoyt7685]

Itd be awesome if you could put the original air date in the comments or something! Love the old it's awesome to know how old it is!

[@xLostInFirex]

Same! And the episodes' title too, at least we could search them then

[@martinamoroney7164]

The buttinskys ...... its in the middle of screen at the bottom mate ☺

[@ellemathews9840]

... season 2 says it in the corner

[@brandonanthony9488]

So what if she made them eat vegetables and salad. Wtf?

[@lb8141]

The mother in law is a See you next Tuesday.

[@leighb8485]

I guarantee you this MIL ran her home efficient AF and she prided herself on that. She can’t stand her DIL doing well.

[@scarasara]

If my husband put his mother before me I would be gone. The number 1 woman in a man's life should be his wife....period!

[@shannons8724]

This mother inlaw is way past PETTY 😳😳😳😳😳

[@cg9616]

Good for her getting her kids to eat properly 👍

[@kimberlymarrone1727]

The devil is literally at their door in the form of a mother / mother-in-law and they can't even see it. Until they do that marriage will definitely not make it.

[@patkerr8054]

No wonder the husband is so useless. I think he was an only child who was spoilt and allowed to do anything he wanted. He runs home to Mommy all the time but leaves his son behind with the alleged bully - what a guy.

[@genevievedickman5910]

That husband looks so pissed

[@skipperng5657]

That mother in law is a nightmare.

[@marymary20]

It's such a challenge having a narcissistic mother or mother in law.

[@annakuusela520]

mother-in-law wiped that grin off her face.

[@swimfast724]

Having rules is not "military style" parenting! That tells me all i need to know about why the husband is agreeing with his mom. He's never had a consequence to anything in his life

[@TheDrew4288]

Beta male husband. Sad...

[@vanessathompson7468]

Until they are no longer here, he won’t get it.

[@gracebarber4496]

There’s nothing like some old Dr. Phil episodes!

[@lmoengaroa]

If she was what I had to deal with, he would nit have to leave me 4 times - I would have left him myself once !

[@swimfast724]

The fact that the wife is so upset and so concerned for her kids and working so hard on her marriage but the mil knows that and it's literally laughing the whole time while her dil is crying because her life is falling apart is... honestly sadistic. She takes pleasure in her pain. That's literally the definition of sadistic

[@l0rdapophis]

She just needs to leave 😂 they don't want her in their family

[@Cabledeluz1977]

There are some excited audience members, lol!

[@martaarlt3152]

The three against the wife... Terrible. What a pressured life always under mother in laws scrutiny... She and her husband are bullies. Shame on you.

[@1libra1diva]

He's enmeshed to his family. Give him back to his parents and leave.

[@cherylsingh6985]

I wouldn't try then forget his Mom !

[@sandraevans6930]

I'm seeing this from the U.K. Can anyone give me an update on these evil people. Im hoping Tammy has moved away from them and is now living free from them. Poor cow.

[@cherylsingh6985]

She isn't bullying she's their mother ? Let her parent , her rules are her rules ? Then don't go there !

[@reececup84]

That man is weak just like his mother wanted him to be. She can't control her sons wife like she can control him and that's her problem with the whole thing.

[@kimberlyjeanpierre7540]

She should leave him with his beast friends and go and find a man who will be her best friend..

[@carolmarshall3027]

Mom in law needs to butt out BUT son needs to stop running home to mom when he can't work things out. Man up and sort out without parent's interference or finish it.