I don't think you want to recover! Are you not understanding the negative effects of OCPD?

[@OCPD_support]

Hey everyone, a few quick notes about this episode: The location change halfway though wasn't planned. I was having lighting and sound issues outside, and so I was forced back inside. And my audio mixer runs on a battery and there's no notification of when it's getting low. So sorry about the drop in audio quality towards the end of the video. However, I'd advise you to keep watching until the end if you would like to know how to contact me directly. Thanks and I hope you enjoy the video.

[@autismenlightenment]

Ive been making effort to change on my own but now im about to enter a new relationship and im scared of being in someone elses enviroment and my ability to not need to clean/control/rearrange and otherwise disrupt and manipulate in areas i have no authority over or legit concern w. I hate that im so sensitive and effected by my enviroment that ill spend time absorbed in tasks to the exclusion of communicatting w humans. Sounds like a fun vacation, huh? Im a real prize catch! Please pray for me.

[@OCPD_support]

​@@autismenlightenment believe me, I'm sending positive to everyone all the time with this disorder. And having a personality disorder doesn't make us not a catch. Just means we have a bit more work to do than the average person.

[@autismenlightenment]

@@OCPD_support Thank you!

[@markwilson8078]

I like it, it feels like a stylistic choice and not an unplanned accident :)

[@larissaelf555]

Hello Darryl, so glad to see you are back with a new video! 🙂👌👍 You are so right about the use of the word ‘recover.’ I never realized this before! I work in healthcare and the word ‘recover’ is appropriate to explain certain physical illness situations (eg. recover from pneumonia, recover from surgery). The word is also used for those with substance abuse issues (eg. the recovering alcoholic), yet even here, as in your example with OCPD, the meaning falls apart. So so many of my patients began their substance abuse very young (teenagers or even younger), so even if they successfully quit their substance use/dependence, they both need to learn how to live in the world without that substance, and learn how to live as a healthy, functioning adult, a situation they never were in before. The word overcome is so much more appropriate! I love the use of the word for those working through their OCPD diagnosis as well. It is interesting, my dear friend with OCPD said something recently that reminded me of your discussion. He mentioned that he will become healthier - he works very very hard to understand his diagnosis and I think the truth is that he is working to overcome it. ‘Overcome’ is so hopeful, it is strong. I see what you mean about fearing ‘who will be on the other side.’ It is so scary to lose the comfortable and familiar behaviors and (often negative or damaging) coping mechanisms. I think your comments about not focusing on certain specific behaviors as a result of OCPD is quite wise. Working twice as many hours as everyone else may be thought of as a positive of OCPD...but it is certainly not healthy. (Yes, my opinion). I am very hopeful and even excited for my friend as he becomes healthier. It is a difficult journey to be sure, but I do believe he can overcome OCPD and have a better life. The word ‘overcome’ is one I will use more frequently! Thanks for the new video and congratulations on the other ventures happening in your life! 😊🌸🌺🌼🌻

[@OCPD_support]

Larissa Elf I told you I'd be back ;) I've been working on another video today as well, but not sure when that one will be finished. I liked the examples you were able to provide in regards those with substance abuse issues. I think that's a relevant comparison. It's always nice to read the comments on my videos as I think you all do a great job of filling in the cracks or expounding on the topic. To your other point, it's amazing how many of us let fear steer our lives or the choices we make. Or use negative coping mechanisms to fight the negative feelings we get from our negative coping mechanisms. A good example would be someone that wants to lose weight, but eats foods that are bad for them as a coping mechanism for the disappointment that comes from not making fast enough progress. I'm hopeful for your friend as well. I believe he can overcome. We all can.

[@meredithbates2291]

First of all I'm glad things are working out for you! Totally agree. We cling to the anchors that drown us. Unhappy and unhealthy are comfort zones even though they are shitty. Venturing into the unknown is especially hard for us with OCPD. One of the many ways in which your videos are helpful is seeing how stepping out of that comfort zone has made your life better. All the best dude!

[@OCPD_support]

Meredith Bates thanks so much! I just saw a video from Russell Brand talking about not being able to get out of bed because of the comfort it offers despite the fact that by avoiding all of our problems we are making them exponentially worse. I thought it was very timely seeing it on the same day I uploaded this. It's understandable that we would seek comfort by hiding, but that feeling in the pit of our stomach that leaves us feeling uneasy is never going away using the avoidance method. I hope you're well. Maybe we'll run into each other one of these days.

[@fitnessbarbie87]

Hey, newly diagnosed with OCPD I really don't feel I fit the DMS diagnosis, but somehow I do! I guess its because I don't feel perfect enough to be called a perfectionist. I'm really hoping your videos will help me as a tool on my road to recovery :) Im now subscribed and excited to learn more about myself in a way.

[@OCPD_support]

Aleshia Otieno thanks for checking out the channel. OCPD is much more about the black and white thinking that leads us to feel we must do things perfectly. Nobody is close to perfect obviously, and especially us with OCPD. I'm sorry you're not feeling like the diagnosis is matching up, but it's important to put much more focus on treatment than on getting hung up on details.

[@jmfs3497]

As someone who works with a manager that shows traits of OCPD and Narcissism, I am very thankful for this video. The perfection is an internal self-bias, not perfect at all in the eyes of others. The productivity only appears productive visually, when in reality it overcomplicates a one-hour project and stretches it into a 24/7 project. The organization might be ok for the OCPD, but for others it feels more like constant reorganization that moves things around and hides them in little boxes on a daily basis, so where I am allowed to put my car keys when I woke up this morning, is not the place I will find them tomorrow morning. People around those with OCPD almost have to live their life in secret and with extreme boundaries so that the OCPD suffer doesn't disorganize everything and make life harder.

[@OCPD_support]

JMFS I think that this is an accurate observation of many people with OCPD. It's a form of procrastination that allows someone to feel productive, but without the risk of failure...or at least perceived failure. Not all with OCPD work in this manner. Some are actually incredibly productive. But what you describe is common and can be endlessly frustrating for those that have to work with or for the person with OCPD.

[@capoeiristachik1]

Being puritanical and seeing how much OCPD has helped me recognize oppression, I have to admit it’s hard to go through that. I would love a video that focuses on how to know the point morality goes too far.

[@OCPD_support]

capoeiristachik1 that would definitely be a tricky one, haha. But I think I have enough knowledge on the subject to brave those waters.

[@capoeiristachik1]

@@OCPD_support hehe awesome

[@lisamarie3465]

I don't think there is a single soul better to help give insight on this disorder other than someone with the disorder. Hopefully you start a trend of other people recovering so they and follow in your footsteps to be able to more successfully help others as well.

[@OCPD_support]

Lisa Marie thank you for the encouraging comment. I was very trepidatious at first, as I don't have a background in mental health. But I've consulted with a lot of mental health professionals on my content and they have made me feel more comfortable about sharing my story and the information as well. As I grow I hope to have guests on the channel as well so that OCPD can be seen from more than just one person's view. Thanks for watching.

[@im19ice3]

i am personally not convinced by the term 'overcome', i was fixated on the term 'incurable' for a while which finally led me to a middle-point i am comfortable with: manageable. I want to persistently try my best to manage my ongoing condition so as to reduce harm whenever possible, because the magnitude of the discomfort i feel from the thought of parting with it is too significant however much i aim to refrain from negatively affecting others. Most people can accept they aren't perfect and won't be no matter how hard they try, i see my mental illness in a similar way, theres a place for anything but there's nothing that will belong everywhere. A tool at best, a fear at worst, like a knife my right to have it and use it is not meant to include its reckless application to whatever problem i encounter at the public park.

[@OCPD_support]

im19ice3 I think that it's important to allow for some fluidity in how you allow yourself to perceive the disorder. For myself, I don't like the idea of a lifelong battle with OCPD. I see OCPD as something that will always be with me, but I aim to get to a point at which I no longer have to consciously work at suppressing the parts of my disorder that are maladaptive. So for me, overcome works. But I can see why it wouldn't necessarily work for everyone.

[@camelkingofthemediteranean949]

Thanks for the video. It reall helped me to comprehend more. I often had this desire to overcome and change stuff but subconsciously i still wanted to stay like i am because i believe it is all fine but i guess i need to put much more time and effort into stuff

[@OCPD_support]

Yanchao Kai Aerospace Commander you're welcome. I'm glad there was some benefit to the information in this video.

[@modemorph982]

Very informative. Thanks for the update.

[@OCPD_support]

Modemorph you're welcome. Thanks for the comment.

[@timorantanen5030]

I have watched all your videos now. Living with a person with OCPD and having seen and experienced the highs and lows, I am seeing same pattern in your life that I’ve witnessed so many times. It starts with “I am invincible”-syndrome but then things start crumbling down fast. It seems to happen to OCPDs time and time again and it seems inevitable. Please, please: go and see your counselors now. I think things are going too fast for you now and you need to slow down significantly ASAP

[@OCPD_support]

T RAN thanks so much for your concern. It means a lot that my audience has my best interests at heart. I don't have access to counselors in my situation, but you may be happy to learn I have been searching for an online therapist that will be a good fit. Thank you for watching.

[@scottcameron2496]

Feeling like I'm stuck in a circle of OCPD material. Everything I read is all about the symptoms and I'm looking for resources about CBT, as it relates to OCPD. I'd also love to know if there is a forum, I'd love to connect with others to help myself and my partner.

[@OCPD_support]

Scott Cameron I completely understand. If you visit ocpdonline.com you will see that there is a resource for any and all information on OCPD and OCPD treatment. Having said that, I do get what you are saying and will admit freely that you're going to have a hard time finding a lot of info on CBT's effectiveness on OCPD, as the research just hasn't been done on a wide scale. It's really unfortunate and I wish there was more. I have tried CBT and I speak about it some on this channel, however I've not stuck with it long enough to feel that I can speak about it as any source of authority on its effectiveness. For a bit of good news, I can point you in a good direction for some support. If you search for OCPD Support Group on Facebook you will find a group you can join with approximately 1000 members and they are a great group of supportive people. They would be happy to have a new member to share with. You don't need to have OCPD to join either.

[@scottcameron2496]

@@OCPD_support thank you Darryl. I found the page and have started to gather all of the resources from that page that I can use. Thank you for compiling that. Not on facebook, but maybe I'll have to create a profile just to join this group. Thank you again.

[@OCPD_support]

@@scottcameron2496 you're welcome. There are other groups and forums that are not on Facebook, but they are not as active and not as friendly. I'd recommend setting up a profile just for the purposes of joining the group.

[@mnpipi3329]

I do not believe you have OCPD. I have never known a person with OCPD who is on time EVER (terrible time management) or that has any insight on how their behavior impacts their relationships. I think you have anxiety, and maybe an anxiety disorder, but you have way too much empathy and psychological insight for OCPD. Sorry.

[@OCPD_support]

MN Pipi thanks for sharing your thoughts on the video. No need to apologize. Your belief system must be based on a belief that someone cannot change who they are. I spent most of my time being late because of anxiety and perfectionist tendencies. And that still happens to this day, just with much less frequency. And I also have insight because I've spent 12 years studying OCPD and working on slowly making the changes needed in order to establish healthy relationships in my life. And I share more of the good than the bad in these videos, but I can assure you that I still have days in which it would be easy for me to damage my relationships in a way that might be permanent. I just try incredibly hard not to. And you are correct, I do have an anxiety disorder coupled with major depression. But I have been formally diagnosed and I'm not concerned with whether or not viewers believe me. I'm only concerned with whether or not any of the information in the videos is helpful to any degree. Thanks again for your comment.