I Got Boomed On - Storytime ASMR (soft spoken)

[@mikecleveland7042]

I love that he has all of these opinions about what does and doesn't constitute "work" and meanwhile he's a LANDLORD!

[@violet_elo]

🤣🤣

[@LauraLemurexASMR]

This sounds a lot like a failure to communicate on the landlords part, and his pride prevented any sense of compassion, reason or humility on his part. Your feelings are certainly valid. I hope that your environment feels safe to you again. We all deserve that feeling

[@violet_elo]

😭 Thank you, Laura - that means a lot, and I appreciate you for listening and taking time to comment! 😊

[@audreybottomly8321]

I also work for myself and people dont realize that it's not just massaging people, it's answering phone and text stuff, scheduling, laundry/linens, making sure I have enough product on hand to work(oil/lotion, linens etc) ordering it, cleaning, s.o.a.p. note paperwork to file, new client paperwork to pull, follow up on new clients etc...

[@allie76835]

You should definitely do more storytimes

[@Curlycurlz]

You did nothing wrong. You acted like a business owner and tried to explain an issue and provide a solution. Keep your head up!! Hopefully with you discussing it and over time you’ll start to feel more comfy in your space again.

[@StygianEmperor]

i started involuntarily yelling arguments on your behalf into my pillow that i shan’t repeat

[@513Lindaddy]

You give off such calming and friendly vibes! Thank you for the wonderful channel

[@Coolguy-jo4er]

I totally had that happen to me at my first job out of college back in the late 90s....gen xer here 😊 This older woman who owned the business just absolutely had it out for me on day one because i was so young (she wasnt in charge of hiring). I only worked with her 1 day a week but I would dread it. I couldnt take getting verbally reamed on a regular basis for no good reason and had to quit. It really was almost like I got PTSD from it. I guess she thought us Gen Xers were lazy, good for nothings. It really was very ageist and she never gave me a chance which was sad. Its good that you dont have to actually work with this guy or interact with him on a regular basis. I completely understand how you feel about this...its just so demeaning and uncalled for. Hopefully time will help you feel a little better about the situation...and I hope he apologizes to you the next time you speak to him. Because he definitely needs to. All the best, Violet

[@jolietjake1970]

Im sorry he treated you like that, but I think you handled it very well, hopefully he cools off and comes to his senses soon. ❤

[@Johnson_Rice]

Damn, it took me 6 months to finally come back to this and watch it during the day when I wasn't gonna sleep through it... The difference in the conversation you were having, and the one he was having... is that his entire intention in the conversation was to get you to say things that could be used as defense in court if you were to try to bring a case against him because what he did was almost certainly illegal.... I know significant time has passed, but if I were you, for the future, I would definitely be researching tenant law and tenant's rights in my state. Also, my approach would have been to ask "Have I been a good tenant to you?" "OK, so at the end of my lease, do you want to have to find a new renter... and how much do you think it's gonna cost you when this place sits empty while you find one? I'm legally obligated to pay my rent... but I'm not legally obligated to stay here, especially if my landlord isn't going to fulfill their obligations."

[@cacaotocacao]

You handled it very well. We like to kick ourselves and think we should have said something different during an argument, but like I said, you handled it very well. He was being unreasonable and rude. He should be grateful for how respectful you were towards him after all the attitude he gave you. Hopefully he apologizes to you in the future.

[@Dagger_323]

Sounds to me like you should've had your landlord do your marketing for you the entire time. Just two minutes on the phone with that guy would make someone's need for a massage such an urgency that they'd have no choice but to schedule an appointment.

[@violet_elo]

🤣 You right. He could be a very effective tool... hahaha

[@lexburnetto6253]

how lucky are we, your (roughly) 23k subscribers, to be "in the know" as they say [or used to bc now i am out of the know on alpha slang but skibidi doo da all the same] about your channel, i mean it feels like in this one very specific part of my life i exist as part of the 1% and your channel vibes of speakeasiness in prohibition times and we are getting away with something by our privy. you seem to genuinely fucking care and i am genuinely fucking here for it. it kills me how many are unaware and are honestly being cheated by their ignorance; their miss = no bliss thanks, man, for being violet

[@violet_elo]

Thank you so very much 😊😊 that means a lot!

[@eloquentliar]

I'm sorry to hear this, there are ways to report toxic behavior from landlords in every state. You're a better person than I am, as a millennial myself when stuff like this comes up, I yell back. most of the time they back down because they aren't used to people arguing back. It's not the correct way to respond but I came up in a household where yelling and hitting were common for disciplinary actions. Sometimes the asshole comes out. I hope you find yourself having better days, maybe you could talk to him again under different circumstances and explain the situation differently. I wish you the best!

[@jessawyer77]

I'm very sorry that you experienced this. As you were telling your story, it popped into my mind that if this happens again, just politely exit the conversation instead of taking the abuse. Maybe it's something like simply indicating that he seems upset and that wasn't your intention but you're feeling a little uncomfortable and would like to continue the conversation at a later time. Having a captive audience due to the power dynamic you mentioned since he's your landlord is not okay and doesn't justify how he spoke to you. But I give massively insane kudos to you for not freaking out on him after his word vomit!

[@ocho326]

I finished the video this am and have a few more thoughts. First, check your lease. There may be provisions in there re giving you notice of repairs and right to enter your business without notice. Second, never feel like you have to justify anything to him about your practice. Your only obligations to him arise out of the lease. Those do not include his having a right to your schedule. Once you have reviewed your lease, you may consider writing to him, preferably by snail mail, to the effect that given the abusive and intrusive nature of your conversation with him, you want all communications in the future to be made in writing, not by phone. You could also say that the details of your schedule are none of his concern and you will not discuss them. I think you would feel better resetting the boundaries between you. I know how deeply upsetting it to have your politeness met by aggression and hostility. You cannot put yourself in that position with him. Tell him you will honor the terms of your lease, as you have and you expect him to honor his. That may help you feel better about this very nasty encounter. Good luck. I’m rooting for you. Also, I much prefer videos like this to your role playing ones. I have listened to your book review audio almost every night. Please make another one.

[@violet_elo]

I'm definitely going to have another read through of my lease after reading everyone's comments. Even if there's nothing that helps me, I think it might make me feel better to refresh myself on the exact terms and conditions. I'll be very interested in seeing if there is anything about making repairs - I hadn't thought about that, and probably wouldn't have, so thank you! I also really like the way you phrased the "your only obligations to him arise out of the lease"; again, I really hadn't thought about it that way, but you're totally right... Overall, you've just given me excellent advice 😂 I'm very grateful to you! I love your ideas and I'm mulling them over. I do want to reset those boundaries - I think I'm just currently still scared to do so because I'd be willingly poking a bear. I'll get to working on another book review! I hope it will return some of the thanks I have for your comment 😊

[@crowcoffee2364]

When events happen that bring out strong emotions, the emotions tend to triger a strong memory of flight or fight respons for survial. Thus you will keep rembering the event subconsciously in order to live. It sounds like the guy knows he is in the wrong but thinks he can get away with things like this and has in the past, also sounds like he just can't understand how other people lives are. Although the good thing is that you brought it up to him so he now knows that you will bring things up again if he pushes you to a point. But I would start making a paper trail to protect your self, because things like this may keep happing.

[@Saubande1981]

I can totally relate. I recently got yelled at by the manager of our work cafeteria for daring to take a fork without asking on a day I brought my own food. They serve different companies but apparently only allow some other companies to bring in their own food, which sounds already wrong. When I tried to explain that no cafeteria I’ve been to has ever had an issue with this he pointed towards the door and threatened to throw me out. I just wanted to eat in peace with a coworker, and return the cutlery on their plate. This has upset me a lot more than it should. Mainly because the loud and angry manager accused me repeatedly of having no decency and being inconsiderate.

[@violet_elo]

Wow, that is unreal!! What a jerk.

[@aidanc9396]

I may not agree with commies on a lot of things, but Mao's views on landlords are...fantastic

[@jtom779]

I regularly have to deal with the "older crowd" and there are a great deal of them who's default style quickly becomes hostile and petulant when their decisions are questioned. I can easily shrug most of it off, but when they take it to a personal level it really sticks with me. I hope you are able to put this behind you soon and remember, you did nothing wrong and that your landlord has no right to belittle you or your business practices. Hopefully you have some awesome customers that you can focus on and they are grateful for what you do. If something like this happens in the future try framing your conversations with the landlord as "you are affecting my customers" rather than how it affects you (not that this is not valid, he just doesn't seem to care). It's clear he turned this personal (because he sounds like a POS) which put you on the defensive. Focusing on the customers will help bring it back to the business.

[@hashimhorne7177]

"Why do you need to do marketing and advertising" as if McDonald's doesn't still have ads in every possible form. What? 😅

[@thebabyhulk009]

I live in Dallas and can use a good massage therapist. Any recommendations?

[@WojMoj]

I’ve been in business for over twenty five years and had my share of unpleasant interactions with landlords, vendors, etc for a multitude of reasons but.. If anyone ever had the gall to attempt to question when or how I should run MY business I would shut that person down immediately. I can actually feel my blood pressure rising even putting myself in your shoes. 🤬

[@violet_elo]

Well, reading this makes me glad I wasn't unfounded in my feelings about that specific part of the interaction. I still can't honestly believe what all he said. I also still have no idea how I would appropriately shut that sort of talk down, though, either.

[@FrostyAvo]

Some people are just really stubborn like that and no amount of explaining will make them change their viewpoint. They just refuse to understand. I guess you just have to hope they come to their senses on their own before they cause trouble for you. You absolutely didn't do anything wrong, you acted very professional even though he was insulting you for no reason.

[@violet_elo]

Thank you for this!! I felt so disoriented by the whole situation that it was really hard to trust my own feelings/beliefs by the end of it. It was almost like a blackout. I'm just glad I stayed calm - and I'm hoping that he'll not cause me anymore trouble, too!

[@TheBricksAndIvyArchive]

I would also say, knowing you have 2 years left on your lease. If your landlord uses this against you and starts deliberately sabotaging your business and harassing you, I would say you might have a case to file a lawsuit against him. I’m not a lawyer or attorney, but depending on how this situation escalates, you might have a case. I’d really hate to see it get to that point, tho. But if it did happen, you know we got your back, Elo! 👍

[@violet_elo]

Thank you so much for the support! 😁 I'm hoping there is nothing further to this situation, and I can quietly work out the rest of my lease and then make a planned exit without any more uproar. I'm keeping tabs on everything that has happened, though, in case he tries to make things worse.

[@Vath121]

Yay. It’s my birthday today so this is a great way to end it, I like your videos when you just talk about stuff 👍🤓

[@allie76835]

Happy birthday! 🥳

[@Vath121]

@@allie76835 thanks!

[@violet_elo]

Happy Birthday!!!! 🥳🥳🥳

[@allie76835]

You’re welcome!

[@jasonstrong8908]

First off you look very beautiful as always. Good for your for staying clam and doing this video in your asmr voice. I would of ripped him a new one. I can stay calm but only for so long lol. Lets hope this just blows over and he realizes that he was in the wrong. I have no filter so i would of told him that i have 2 words for him 'SUCK IT' 😂😂. Keep your head up. Btw these videos about your life or things that happen are awesome videos.

[@francesyeahyeah]

ACAB

[@PolymorphicPenguin]

Hi Violet, that is definitely a horrible situation. You handled it one hundred times better than I would have, though. Based on what you said near the end of the video, I would encourage you to seek professional help for the feelings you are experiencing. This incident definitely took a serious toll on your mental health and I hope that a therapist could help you deal with it. As for whether your your landlord should pay you for disrupting your business, it certainly would be nice if he did, though I don't know if that is common practice among landlords. Even if he didn't want to pay you, he definitely could have expressed his ideas in a nicer way. He could have said, "Well, Violet, I would really like to pay for it, but after paying the roofers, I'm kind of broke now." I hope somehow things work out for you and the landlord starts treating you better.

[@violet_elo]

Heya 😁❤ I have been patiently waiting for my therapy appt upcoming this Wednesday to discuss this whole situation. I really do well with my current therapist, and I'm confident she will be able to help me work on how this all has been affecting me. Thank you for caring enough to suggest as much! I agree wholly. I understand that he might have said no to my inquiry - I was fully prepared for that potential outcome. I just was not at all prepared for what actually happened instead 😬

[@PolymorphicPenguin]

@@violet_elo I'm so happy to hear that you have a therapist that you do well with. Therapists can be rather "hit or miss" so I'm glad you have a good one.

[@AsharporBflat]

When you revealed the first bomb your land lord dropped I thought to myself "Girl, you need to escape!" lol. People being so obtuse is just frustrating. I hope you feel better in your space again

[@rrrondleman]

oh my god, yes, at my old job my boss screamed at me because i asked her for clarification on a task. she was in her 60s and i was 20. she was yelling like WE ALL WORK AS A TEAM HERE etc etc like i just asked what stock i was meant to be putting out lmfao? retail sucks

[@jordanbond2177]

My recommendation (from experience unfortunately) is to listen to the song Karma by T swift on repeat until you feel better. Works wonders 😂

[@marypridham3823]

I can’t help you, other than really feel for you. However, I have an old Australian slang term for you that you could say (in your head) to your landlord. “May your chooks turn into emus and kick your dunny door down!” Chooks are chickens. Emus are huge birds like ostriches and a dunny is an outdoor toilet building/shed. It may help you feel a little better 🥰

[@violet_elo]

🤣🤣 Oh it definitely does make me feel better. Aussies have the absolute best language - there are many things that crack me up, and a bunch more things that I say somewhat jokingly here and then realize that they are the norm to say there! I think I'd fit in very well, verbally, but I'm too scared to ever visit due to the bugs 😅

[@marypridham3823]

@@violet_elo don’t let the bugs bother you 😊 It’s not like the country is overrun with them. I live in South Australia and there’s not too much here that bothers us, particularly in towns and cities

[@manda8088]

This is a clear case of nasty old JEALOUSY! He can't stand the fact that you are so successful at such a young age. PLAIN AND SIMPLE!!! You don't owe him any kind of explanation. You hold your head up and stay the strong successful woman that you are!!!

[@violet_elo]

😭😭 thank you ❤️❤️

[@manda8088]

@@violet_elo you are very welcome!! I mean every word I said from the bottom of my heart!!

[@Y.Strizheus]

I’m sorry this happened to you. That level of vitriol and disrespect is unacceptable. I am guessing you probably just want to steer clear of this guy as much as possible, but it is also okay to send him a message saying that his behavior was unprofessional and that moving forward you would like to communicate by email unless there is a time-sensitive issue that requires a phone call. (From a legal perspective it could help you to have things in writing in case you decide to break the lease. If you send him a message, you could also list the things he said during your phone call and indicate that they were not acceptable. Again-good for documentation after the fact.) And if, for your peace of mind, you decide to do nothing and just avoid him… that is totally okay too. Do what is best for you and take care, Violet. You got this. (Just realized I am watching this six months after you posted it. Maybe not so relevant now.)

[@halfsourlizard9319]

He who pays the piper calls the tune. (Or: Tenants are not powerless / needn't live in fear of their landlords.)

[@audreybottomly8321]

Didnt know you were an LMT till this video. I always wondered about it tho, because as one, I've noticed your videos always are accurate w/A&P & orthopedic assessment stuff which I appreciate. Sorry your property management is being so unprofessional!

[@Zaniel8]

Thank you

[@LostInSpaces]

Super off topic but you look so pretty ♥️

[@allie76835]

I agree

[@alexis-llemay8064]

Don't try to argue with toxic and irrational people. You either have to realize they are and move on by moving out in your case or not engaging with them. You will never win with these people. They are IRRATIONAL. I suggest you move out as soon as possible. You are logical. They are irrational. If you have to endure him two more years I suggest you be really assertive with him. Don't make yourself sick by being nice with him. Be firm and make your interactions short and sweet. His behavior is gaslighting.

[@tophat3755]

I'm sorry you went threw this. On another note tho congrats on getting married! Is it too your ex form a few years ago that you lived with? Did you by any chance get pregnant? I know you were trying to get Tubal ligation or something like that, Did that ever happen? The time line you were absent lines up with other asmr when they have a kid. I just hope you did not compromise your own telenets to be with somone.

[@edfurbee7118]

As the parent of a millennial woman, I understand your plight. Based on what you said and experience I would be willing to bet you were just a convenient target and not the actual issue. Unfortunately, he probably considered you an easy punching bag and whatever frustration he was experiencing as a result of this roofing job was taken out on you. This is 100% unfair. Poor planning on his part does not necessitate an emergency on yours. Since I do not know what part of the South you live/work in (as do I) I will assume this was not storm related damage from any of the recent hurricanes or tropical storms it sounds like it was planned work. Based on the fact pattern you laid out it sounds as if he waited till the last minute to inform a tenant who he knew would be affected by this work. It sounds as if he does not understand really what you do, which I find difficult to believe that he doesn’t understand a business like yours has actual clients that come in versus a tax service where the clients don’t actually have to come in due to technology but may. What’s your age is irrelevant as in many ways his age is Irrelevant however his age may come into play in his attitudes and how he conducted himself with you. Based your version of the facts here would be some recommendation on how to remedy the situation: 1. Point out the difference between your location in the building versus the tax service which he used as the example. Additionally point out the difference in the type of services you offer. Therefore, you are greatly more affected by this last-minute change than they were. 2. I would question him on how far in advance he had booked this job again short of storm damage and this being an emergency repair which you would have been aware of since you are on the 3rd floor it was basically just inconsiderate of your time and business. 3. I would explain to him once again that you truly did lose money on that day and put it in terms he may understand that is like him having an empty office not producing revenue that was a revenue producing day for you the nature of your business whether he understands it or not does not operate from a revenue standpoint 5 days a week. 4. An action I would take to truly drive home the idea that he cost you money is I would send him an invoice for all appointments that had to be rebooked because of his non communication because as you pointed out those time slots are now taken by people you couldn’t see because of his issues not yours. If he refuses to pay the invoice or give you a deep discount for the amount of the invoice on your rent, I would take him to small claims court after trying to collect it. 5. Power dynamics You are his client customer tenant and as such you have rights and you have power also. If you do not like bullet point number 4 or you feel that is too aggressive figure taste if you have a relationship with an attorney my suggestion would be check with the attorney on what you could do to withhold the rent but show that you are not just paying it. I originally grew up in the north and when tenants would strike they would create a trust account in which the rent would be placed so they could show it then good faith they were putting the rent payment in an account they just were not giving it to the landlord. 6. If you use an accounting service or tax advisor (such as the people on the first floor) find out if you can write Tuesday off to deduct it as a business expense due to the office being unavailable. If the situation becomes untenable for you to stay there every lease has a break clause it might be worth the cost for your mental health to pay the money. Not the same thing but I will use this example when my wife and I move to the city that we’re in now we had to rent when we finally found a house we could buy. We had to break the lease and I just considered the buyout of two months a cost of acquisition of the house. It was two months’ rent I had to shell out but framing it that way made me feel better.

[@violet_elo]

It was an elective roofing! I'm in Alabama, and we do get some weather here, but this was unrelated to any instance of weather. Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a detailed and thoughtful comment! It's really nice to hear from a parent of the kids of my generation, too - I like having multiple perspectives. I definitely did make it clear to him that my business and the tax persons' businesses are different for the reasons you suggested (he did not accept that -- he just stated that "it probably affected them, too" in terms of their working conditions; I reiterated that they didn't LOSE business, though, and he still would not acknowledge that I was correct, unfortunately). I do wish I would have asked how long in advance he booked the project, but I also feel 100% certain that he would have lied to me if I asked during this "conversation." He truly was saying whatever he felt like saying. I don't have an attorney, and I really can't afford one. I think taking him to small claims court would make a point, but it would cost me an arm and a leg, which would harm me more overall. That being said, I will definitely ask my CPA if I can deduct the Tuesday!! Thank you for that idea 😊

[@edfurbee7118]

@@violet_elo I'm glad I was able to be of some help to you in this trying and annoying situation. If you think it might help contact the roofers directly and ask when they were contracted for the job.

[@brock500rbh]

sounds like he needs to tumble off of his new roof

[@violet_elo]

😂😂😂

[@TheVyrePlays]

N.T.A.

[@JAMESGREGORYKULP1985]

Hey Violet. I am so sorry that happened to you. I wish i could give you a HUG in real life.

[@JamesRadnus]

For your dutch viewers (me), what is "boomed on"?

[@violet_elo]

It's not a real terminology - I just made it up as a way to say that a Boomer yelled at me (playing on the word "boom," since it can also mean loud noise). I hope that makes sense!

[@JamesRadnus]

@@violet_elo Sorta... think I get it. OOHhh could you do another chili cooking vid? Loved that one

[@MrNoah84]

@@violet_elowhy does him being a baby boomer matter? Do Millennials hate boomers simply because they prefer doing things their old ways? This doesn’t excuse his shitty behavior. I’m just wondering why the social constructs and labels we put on each other have anything to do with if a person is a POS or not. Some of the most amazing people I know are so called boomers.

[@ZackyASMR]

Hi hi 👋

[@ocho326]

I have to go to sleep and will finish this tomorrow, but I wanted to reassure you that your response to his boorishness is completely understandable. It’s scary to be confronted by someone who holds power over your economic well-being when you have tried your best to accommodate his past misdeeds. I think more than ageism, this is a classic older man versus younger woman dynamic. You can’t ever win on the merits in an argument where his overriding agenda is to put you down and assert his power over you. Im not sure how far into your lease you are, but I’d suggest looking for another place. This does not sound like a healthy place for you to work.

[@poisonivy1985]

Heeey love you and understand. 💖💖💖

[@violet_elo]

🤗 thanks queen, love yooou!

[@horncow4160]

Sounds like a form of narcissistic abuse.

[@WarDogMadness]

its kinda clear he doesn't respect you or your business best be very clear and have defined rules or thing you can doo is move office. (also sounds like hes taking out other problems on you)

[@dannky12]

Nah he owed you a discount on your next month's rent. There's no 2 ways about that. That man owed you. Also his logic about you having rescheduled those appointments so therefore you didnt lose money....brain cells are missing in this mans head. A 5 year old coulf figure out why thats a stupid thing to say. Yeah you rescheduled them but you rescheduled them for specific times. If theu had their appointment on Tuesday instead of for example Thursday at 3pm then some who couldnt make Thursday 2pm but could make 3pm could have had that spot. That landlord is smoking something and i dont think its cigarettes

[@mikecleveland7042]

Great job not joining BNI 😆

[@violet_elo]

Thanks 😅 It sounded a little soft cult-y and soul-sucking. I'm glad I passed.

[@mikecleveland7042]

@@violet_elo I was in a group for a while, it didn't do much for me because of the nature of my business. Definitely culty lol Plus I know so many people who do the same things as the other members but BETTER so like... why would I refer the people in the group? 😆 I know a lot of people who make a boat load of money out of it but it was decidedly not my cup of tea!!

[@SubtractiveMoves]

Hi. As soon as you said the word landlord I knew exactly how the rest of the 50 minute video was going to play out. Been there many many times my friend....... I wonder why he even rented the space out in his building to a lazy 4 day working millennial in the fucking first place? Wasn't he concerned about receiving his rent on time? I won't ramble on about laws but if a landlord makes you sign a contract stating you will do this and this along with you won't do this and this......shouldn't a renter also have a contract agreement stating their do's and don'ts for the landlord? That never made sense to me. So many abuse that privilege! Seems a tad bit one sided. I'm sorry this happened to you but you have to have thick skin with these people. I'm not saying all of them think they have God like qualities but a good chunk very well do. In my opinion I would end the verbal communication all together. If you end up feeling harassed...bullied and intimidated after a conversation it ain't worth it. Keep everything in specific detail through emails only. ( so you can document all the time that is lost) And if he pulls that shit again with you I would have your husband have a word with him Regardless of his age. Some people just love to see what buttons they can push...it tells them that this person accepts my lack of respect and sets up future interactions to be even worse. Put em in his place😊 Take care

[@haloslippin6894]

Dude straight up sounds like an asshole. The only thing I think you could have done better is be a bit more assertive from the get-go. Which I know is hard and maybe against your natural tendencies, but it may have prevented some of this. Like, maybe telling him from the beginning which days would have worked best for you. This is assuming he was being honest about the roofers being able to come on a different day. All of that being said, it was 100% his responsibility to clearly communicate everything and he absolutely failed at meeting that responsibility. And you did nothing wrong by standing up for yourself.

[@JohnnyNowhere]

I feel terribly sorry for you, sweetheart - but we all have crap going down in our life that sucks. I still listen because your whispers rock, but please - just put me to sleep with some fantasy bullshit. Don't make me sad, please?

[@Terminal.Rainbows]

Wow. You were a sad man before you got here.

[@andrespeten3844]

there are legal examplary cases like that one. look it up maybe. ask someone to help you with the bare legal aspects or even maybe visit you there once or twice a week. idealy would be a support dog, problematic with the rent situation probably. and give him the info of the legal situation and case examples regardless.. and if he gets riled up about the law, record just in case. will help with any potential solicitation, a detail might be he must know that for legal reasons you are recording. idk. something like that. but even if it costs you a bit money, you can know your rights and he his duties. all from the legal angle. all the best. and yes, a bodily reaction like your describes is pstd. textbook. shock to the senses. +on top of all that, you are probably legally right to ask for a compensation.