I had never seen seen HIGH FIDELITY (2000) | He is such a narcissist!

I went in completely blind to this one. Parts are hard to watch, but I think he started to redeem himself in the end? What do you think of this one?
Also, Jack Black was great here.
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[@vincentdawn9689]

Finally a grown up movie. Love it. My favorite John Cusack movie and it's become even more personal to me as I've gotten older. I was definitely the elitist in the record store giving shit to people I thought had poor taste. I didn't even work there, I just had friends who did.

[@dupersuper1938]

The movie in which many of us first learned that Jack Black could sing.

[@jmiyagi12345]

The deleted scene where he tries to buy the record collection is incredible.

[@rofyle]

If you think he's a narcissist here, then you should see him in Grosse Pointe Blank. He plays a hitman who returns to his high school reunion.

[@tristramcoffin926]

I like to think that Louis found the 'geek' and gave him that Captain Beefheart record.

[@itswrongtokillanimalsifyou2837]

My rules for making a compilation "tape": Group the songs into either low, mid or high intensity, and make sure you have an equal amount of each. Start with the least good song in every group, and go in order of increasing intensity (low > mid > high > low etc.) and increasing quality, starting the collection on either mid or high intensity kick things off right. This way, the quality gets better the longer you listen, which counteracts general listening fatigue. Also, I'm fully aware no one asked. Great reaction!

[@havok6280]

Probably my second favorite Cusack movie after Grosse Pointe Blank. Say Anything is #3.

[@eltravos99]

I'm so glad you got the point of the movie. He is a narcissist. He realized he broke up with her. "I broke up with HER!" And you got that. He learns a lesson. Awesome movie. He learns maybe he should be better.

[@beageler]

That's not narcissism. This is on a normal level, narcissism is this on a personality disorder level, a neurosis, a real psychological problem. Not a psychological and developmental hiccup.

[@Maaden84]

Loving the reaction from 12:40 and on, mouth open, so disappointed in Rob and the way he acted towards Laura. Pure gold :D

[@koelekahuna9370]

I wouldn't necessarily define Rob as a narcissist, I would say that he was selfish and immature, but think it is unfair to diagnose him as a full fledged narcissist.

[@causticgrip8329]

Nick Hornby, who wrote the original novel, is a huge fan of lists. So the protagonist is literally his own alter ego.

[@crush41gb]

Not finished yet so I don't know if you know it's Lisa Bonet, who was married to Lenny Kravitz, that was singing. Funny he said he was wearing a Cosby sweater and then Denise shoes up lol.

[@poolhall9632]

This was a bit of a cult classic for me and my freshman roommate in college.

[@grife3000]

Yes, it's a stacked cast, but this was the first movie that made me actually learn Jack Black's name. I checked, he's been in several movies I'd seen before that year, but this is the one that put him on the map for me. Also, there were teen shoplifters and a record store employee that dazzles in concert, so it was a smidge like Empire Records I guess.

[@leroylowe5921]

I saw him in an old episode of the X Files, along with Giovanni Ribisi.

[@lonnieeastin6401]

She's not "messing with him". She is really conflicted. Doesn't know what she's going to do. You can't put that on her. People are flawed. HE certainly is! I'm a dude and I know I am And so is she. That's why "it's complicated" is a relationship option on dating sites.

[@o.b.7217]

(10:52) Well, I dare to disagree: I think John and Joan look very much alike. I mean: put them side by side and you can totally see that they're siblings.

[@FreddyKurganNimmo]

Funny thing is, Lisa Bonet & Lenny Kravitz' daughter, Zoe, plays the lead role in the remake TV series of High Fidelity

[@KarstenHuehn]

Strangely enough, the people who like to tell others not to be too narcissistic turn out to be quite self-occupied themselves.

[@hd7704]

You probably shouldn’t use psychological diagnoses like ‘narcissism’ if you don’t really know what it means

[@aaarauz1]

so many do it and it really bugs me

[@AuspexAO]

People have been calling other people narcissists loooong before it was an official diagnosis, lol. If people say "you have NPD" they are making a diagnosis. If people call you a narcissist, it's because you're acting like a self-obsessed little prat, which you probably are if you bristle at hearing the word ;)

[@beageler]

To be fair, it's not really a diagnosis, she is not in a conversation with someone and earnestly tells her/him that they're a narcissist. But it is throwing around terms without knowing their significance. It is hard enough to be a narcissist, knowing what I am capable of. But lazy mainstream uses of the disorder feel like devaluing my problems, like in this case, or make me feel like more of a monster, in other cases.

[@custardflan]

I usee to make compiiation tapes. Now I have lists on KZbin, mainly revolving around my funeral.

[@mrtveye6682]

I don't read a lot, but a friend gave me the book by Nick Hornby, knowing that I was a lot into music. Was a great read. And though the movie don't really holds up against the book with all it's nerdy music details, I think they did a good job. Way better than I expected when the movie was announced.

[@cheapphish]

I think John Cusack worked in a record store. For awhile maybe?

[@beageler]

Damn, the choppy recording just made me go through all the obvious performance settings on my PC. There are some movies that just somehow speak to men on a basic level. This is one of them, Fight Club is another. I think Chef is also an example, but that might be more universal.

[@AuspexAO]

I like Rob a lot as a character (not saying that I approve of his actions as a fictional person). I think both Rob and Laura use sex as a way to feel better about themselves. They both sleep with someone when their relationship starts to collapse. I think it's one of those times when the love and passion works, but the adult side of the relationship is just...broken. Remember that Rob cheated on Laura first and caused her to abort their pregnancy. When she says, "why don't you go an experiment." She means it. She wants Rob to be a whole man so she can come back and have a stable relationship with him. I'm sure him sleeping with other women hurts her, but she just wants him to get it all out his system so she can have a happy, stable relationship. Long story shory, High Fidelity is about a messy relationship with two people who aren't really ready to be together yet. Rob does bad things, Laura may seem manipulative (she wants him to grow up, after all). That's life, though, sometimes love just fits and it's like setting off on a cruise. Other times it's tempestous, but so passionate and great that you enjoy even the storms. I think Dick's girlfriend is a good example of the first thrown in so the audience understands that Rob's relationship isn't normal.

[@custardflan]

Jack Black's breakthrough.Your qustion re: School of Rock. Chef's Kiss!!!

[@TTM9691]

Only saw this once when it came out; I remember Jack Black recommending "Blonde On Blonde" to someone, that's it! I'll definitely do a refresher viewing with you! I must admit I don't remember loving it.....but the couple who showed me it loved it. PS: The poster for the movie (which is in your thumbnail) is based on the (American version ) of The Beatles' "A Hard Day's Night" album.

[@howardmann8689]

I look at all those characters as part of my own personality like the movie so Split

[@dudermcdudeface3674]

One of the few man-friendly romcoms ever made. I'm so grateful I got dragged into watching it.

[@rabooey]

DID I STUTTER?!

[@RustyX2010]

"Stanley!"

[@howardmann8689]

A girl like charlie can destroy a young man

[@howardmann8689]

That guy was me from 1991 to 1995

[@djquiz6425]

Grosse Point Blank is my favorite movie of his.

[@introbe1]

This is the movie I tell women to watch if they want to try to understand men.

[@LuvLifeVlogZ]

10:51 Blasphemy, John and Joan do like similar, not completely, but still. 🤔🤣

[@rabooey]

I LOVE that you knew it was Joan Cusack. You rock. You didn't know it was Lisa Bonet, but.. I can forgive that. I'm sure it was the hair.

[@movieswithmom]

Hey, I was close! She *was* with Lenny.

[@RustyX2010]

@@movieswithmom And she was with Aqua-man.

[@fourcolorinvestments8378]

a COSBY SWEATUUHHHHHHHHHHH!

[@Ghoulstille]

That was Zoe Kravitz's mom Lisa Bonet.

[@TW-vl4wj]

John Cusack is amazing 😊

[@dwightlee4315]

I just love this movie, as bad as a lot of his motivations are, it is also a little bit how I was when I was younger. Not always, but it is a little window on the bad side of being a guy and how they think, and how they obsess.

[@jmhaces]

That's not Zoe Kravitz, it's her mom Lisa Bonet.

[@johnnybmean74]

All his acknowledgements are not just about others shortcomings. He owns up to his own fuck-ups along the way..numerous times. So your synopsis at the end is a LIE.

[@retropyro]

Highly recommend the book.

[@howardmann8689]

Train Wreck..great song by Toad The Wet Sprocket

[@wesmattimore2895]

THIS MOVIE WAS GOOD.. OUR ELIZABETH CHANGED AT THE 17MIN. MARK, AND GOT RID OF THE GLASSES.. ANYWAY GOOD REVIEW GIRL,AS ALWAYS.. IF I MAY ADD YOU LOOKED A LITTLE TIRED.. KEEP THE VIDEOS COMING.. PEACE

[@movieswithmom]

Yes, I have to watch movies after the kids go to bed, and I don't last long. It usually takes me multiple days to get through a movie. Thus the wardrobe changes!

[@howardmann8689]

They should rename this movie American Death Trap Matrix

[@colonialstraits1069]

The movie is good but the book is definitely better.

[@frugalseverin2282]

FYI Lili Taylor and Catherine Zeta-Jones are both in the remake of "The Haunting". It's a CGI-fest and terrible, watch the original from 1963.

[@RustyX2010]

Lili Taylor and Joan Cusack were both costars with John in "Say Anything" .

[@johnnybmean74]

Empire Records is a Silly Shallow Superficial Film. Comparing that vapid flick to a milestone movie like this is worse than comparing Tony Curtis to Marlon Brando.

[@charlescallen460]

Ridiculous comment

[@scipioafricanus5871]

@@charlescallen460 I know a lot of butt-hurt High Fidelity/John Cusack fanboys in the comments.

[@charlescallen460]

@@scipioafricanus5871 wow... an even more ridiculous comment... bravo

[@thorguff]

John Cusack is in his "Say Anything" mode here. It was cute in that movie at that age, but at 35, obsessing over a girlfriend and dating while being the slacker personality is just immature and silly.

[@RustyX2010]

People do it everyday well into their deathbed.

[@darthtortugas]

John would give Jack a run for his money on bands.... Jack is fairly overrated in my opinion.

[@jamescole250]

I really would love to see a reaction to the movie (1979) movie the Jerk starring Steve Martin and Bernadette Peters and please comment on how dirty Navin gets in the movie

[@mr.a8315]

♥

[@howardmann8689]

Pride

[@victorsixtythree]

Man, I don't think of this movie as being that old, but so many elements are so dated - looking someone up in a phone book, putting quarters in a pay phone, making mix tapes... This movie was the first time I can remember seeing Jack Black. I thought he was amazing in the movie...and I had no idea he could sing so that last scene where he sings like Marvin Gaye was a SHOCKER! LOL. By the way, you identified Lisa Bonet (Denise on The Cosby Show and A Different World) as "Kravitz". I'm not sure if you meant because she was married to Lenny Kravitz (that was her first marriage. She later married Aqua Man) or if you might have confused her with her daughter, Zoe Kravitz? They do look quite similar, I think.

[@thorguff]

That isn't what "dated" means. Just because a movie represents a certain time period when it was made, it doesn't make it "dated."

[@o.b.7217]

@@thorguff Read again: he wrote "elements _(as in: things that are shown in the movie)_ are dated". And then he gave examples of these elements. And they are dated - seen from today's perspective.

[@jon87583]

Glad I found your channel! You seem very thoughtful & insightful. This is one of my favorite romcoms - not really many out there written from the man's point of view. It's also funny as hell, IMO, especially if you are or know someone who is a bit of a music nerd like Rob, Barry and Dick. I respect your POV on the character's self-involvement and inability, at the outset, to understand the folly of his thinking about all those relationships up to & including Laura - I saw the glass half full, tho - he figures things out and becomes a better man pretty much on his own, even if it took him a while.

[@johnnybmean74]

Funny how you don't mention Laura's Manipulative Passive-Aggressive actions in the title, but you Focused On Rob's so-called narcissism.

[@AuspexAO]

I mean the movie is told entirely from Rob's perspective, so you don't really know anything about Laura, lol.

[@brianprice3937]

Have you saw Empire Records? It's awesome!

[@philmullineaux5405]

Deleted scenes! kzbin.info/www/bejne/rX6bXqGLqr6nhqMsi=uToLeTUiycXDG-3K. Top five movies about music and relationships. Say anything, this, Fast Times at Ridgemont High, almost famous, Singles!

[@nigelmcphearsonletsgobrand9247]

Elizabeth… You should really stop watching women on the internet calling men narcissists. Everyone demonstrates narcissistic characteristics to varying degrees. And WAY TOO MANY women, in their pathological effort to validate/justify their feelings, even if those feelings aren’t fair or rational, will twist their perception of reality, often being hypocritical in the process, to accuse men of all sorts of armchair psychiatric labels like “narcissist”. Labeling a man like that let’s you dismiss him without any consideration. You’re looking to call this character narcissistic like you need your next breath. That’s not a good look. Now Charlie… the ex-girlfriend… SHE is narcissistic. She doesn’t consider anyone else. And you gave her a pass without any criticism. And you implied that since you aren’t a man, you can’t know what would make him go out and sleep with that singer chick, like only men would do that? Rob has good and bad moments… and you seem to have a gynocentric view of relationships…. always validating the woman, looking to justify their actions and condemn his.

[@howardmann8689]

Lol let it go man. Breathe